Dad Space Podcast - for Dads by Dads

Episode 209 - Marital Connections - Keys to Lasting Love as ParentsHey Dads, welcome back to Dad Space, the weekly spot where we gather to talk about the heart of fatherhood — growth, connection, and everything in between. This November, we’re proud to be part of the Movember Movement, focusing not just on men’s physical health, but also on relationships, mental wellness, and emotional resilience.Today, we’re diving into something that affects every dad at some stage — how to keep love alive once kids enter the picture. Our topic: Marital Connections – Keys to Lasting Love as Parents.Because let’s be real — parenting changes love. It tests you, refines you, and if you handle it with care, it can deepen your marriage in ways you never expected.Pillar 1: Prioritize Connection Over CorrectionWhen we become dads, it’s easy to slip into the mode of “fixer-in-chief.” We spend so much time correcting — the kids, the routines, the chaos — that connection can fade into the background.But connection is the love fuel that keeps marriages alive. Try this tonight: before bed, take five minutes with your partner — and talk about anything except schedules, homework, or the kids. Just reconnect as two people who chose each other.Another simple tip: use appreciation as a daily vitamin. Saying, “I noticed how patient you were with the kids today” goes miles further than “We need to talk about how you handled bedtime.”And when tensions flare — which they will — practice curiosity instead of criticism. Ask, “What’s really going on for you right now?” Connection thrives on empathy, not defensiveness.Pillar 2: The Team Mindset in ParentingThe healthiest marriages see parenting as a team sport, not a scoreboard. There’s no such thing as a perfect 50/50 split — some seasons you’ll give 70 while your partner gives 30, and that’s okay.Here’s a simple exercise: create a “code word” both of you can use when you’re overwhelmed. Maybe it’s “tap out” or “time-in.” This keeps the peace before frustration boils over.Celebrate the small wins together — like getting through a chaotic morning routine without anyone crying, including you! These moments remind both of you that you’re doing something extraordinary together.And remember, teamwork isn’t just for you — your kids are watching. They’re learning how love cooperates, how support looks in action, and what respect sounds like.Pillar 3: Communicate with Empathy and IntentionHere’s the truth — communication isn’t just about talking. It’s about tuning in.Dads, when we approach communication with empathy, we set the emotional temperature for the home.Try this: schedule a weekly “connection conversation.” Phones away, kids settled, just a calm 30 minutes where you both check in — emotionally, mentally, and relationally.And when disagreements happen, lead with “I feel” instead of “You always.”That one language shift turns battles into conversations.Also, acknowledge the unseen effort. Say things like, “I see how much you juggle every day.” Emotional recognition is one of the strongest antidotes to resentment.Pillar 4: Keep Romance and Friendship IntertwinedParenting can push romance to the backburner, but love doesn’t have to leave when diapers arrive — it just evolves.Plan intentional date nights, even if that’s a movie on the couch after bedtime.Keep the friendship alive — tease each other, laugh, and remember the spark that started it all.Physical affection, small hugs, morning kisses, or even a gentle hand squeeze — they’re reminders that love still lives here.And honor each other’s individuality. Let your partner have space for their passions — and keep your own. When both people grow, the marriage doesn’t stagnate — it...

Episode 208 - What Every Dad Needs to Know About Mental Wellness - Movember on Dads SpaceEpisode Summary:In this Movember edition of Dad Space, we dive deep into what every dad needs to know about mental wellness — from breaking stigmas to building habits that keep you grounded. Modern fatherhood brings its share of pressures, but it also offers an opportunity to redefine what real strength looks like. Join us as we discuss how vulnerability, balance, community, and self-awareness can transform the way we parent and live.What You’ll Hear in This Episode1. Redefining Strength — The Modern Dad’s MindsetExplore how traditional ideas of masculinity can hold dads back from seeking help.Learn why emotional honesty is an act of strength, not weakness.Hear personal stories of dads who became better partners and fathers by embracing vulnerability.Discover how emotional literacy strengthens relationships and helps your family thrive.Key Takeaway: Real strength means showing up as your full self — emotions, imperfections, and all.2. Managing the Mental LoadIdentify the “dad load” and how constant stress can drain your energy and patience.Learn simple, actionable techniques to manage daily pressure.Understand how small resets (like five quiet minutes before your phone turns on) can lower stress levels.Gain tools for recognizing and addressing burnout before it takes over.Key Takeaway: You can’t pour from an empty cup — caring for your mind helps you care better for your family.3. Connection is the Cure — Building Your Support NetworkDiscover why loneliness is one of the biggest threats to men’s mental health.Learn how friendships and check-ins can protect against burnout.Hear from Movember ambassadors and dads who found strength in community.Get ideas for forming “dad circles” or accountability partners.Key Takeaway: Brotherhood is a mental health strategy — connection keeps you balanced and grounded.4. Modeling Wellness for the Next GenerationExplore how your behaviors shape your kids’ emotional intelligence.See how dads can normalize conversations about feelings and resilience.Understand how breaking silence around men’s emotions builds healthier families.Learn small daily habits that show your kids what self-care really looks like.Key Takeaway: Every time you model wellness, you teach your kids that emotional health is part of real strength.Dad Space ChallengeYour 5-Minute Reset:Before grabbing your phone tomorrow morning, take five quiet minutes to just breathe. No screens, no distractions — just space. You’d be amazed at what the pause does for your mindset.https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 207 - Why Movember Matters - Dads and the Men’s Health MovementMovember matters deeply to fathers and families everywhere because it’s not just about moustaches—it’s about men showing up for their health, their families, and each other. The movement, founded through movember.com, focuses on tackling the biggest health issues facing men today: mental health and suicide prevention, prostate cancer, and testicular cancer.The Why Behind MovemberMen, especially dads, are often the rock of their families—but sometimes that means they avoid asking for help or checking in on their own health. Movember’s research shows that the quality of men’s social connections is one of the strongest predictors of mental and physical wellbeing. Dads who maintain real, supportive friendships are less likely to experience anxiety and depression, and they model healthy emotional openness for their kids.Movember also highlights that 1 in 10 new dads experience depression during the transition to fatherhood and can be up to 47 times more at risk of suicide during this period compared to other times in life. That’s why Movember funds programs like Family Man, a free, evidence-based online parenting program that helps fathers connect, build skills, and improve family relationships.The Movember Institute: Turning Research into ActionThrough the Movember Institute of Men’s Health, the organization brings together experts, partners, and communities to advance early detection, treatment, and support programs that transform men’s health outcomes. The goal is clear: Healthy men, healthy world.How Dads Can Take Action This MovemberHere’s how fathers can get involved and make this November meaningful—for themselves and for the next generation:Grow a MoStart November clean-shaven and grow your moustache proudly. Use it as a talking point to start important conversations about men’s health with friends, family, and coworkers. Create your Mo Space at movember.com and share your story.Move for MovemberRun or walk 60km through the month—that’s 60km for the 60 men lost to suicide every hour worldwide. Get moving solo, with your kids, or as a family. You can track your progress and raise funds while teaching your children the importance of mental health and community.Host a Dad Space EventBring your buddies together for a “Dad Space Mo Night.” Whether it’s watching a game, having a firepit chat, or doing a group workout, turn it into an opportunity to raise awareness and funds—and check in on each other.Share Your StoryRecord a short video or podcast segment about why Movember matters to you. Encourage vulnerability by sharing something you’ve learned about health, fatherhood, or mental resilience.Book That Check-UpUse Movember as a cue to schedule your annual physical, learn about testicular self-exams, or encourage a friend to do the same. Health conversations save lives.Stay ConnectedMake a list of three mates you haven’t talked to lately and check in. A simple “How are you, really?” could make a huge difference for someone struggling in silence.A Message for DadsMovember is about more than awareness—it’s about action and connection. It reminds dads everywhere that taking care of your health isn’t selfish; it’s one of the most powerful gifts you can give your family. When...

Episode 206 - Starting Strong - Building Better Morning Routines for FathersStarting strong in the morning sets the tone for a dad’s entire day. Whether you naturally wake up early or hit snooze three times, having a routine that works for you can boost energy, patience, and presence — especially when navigating family life.Morning routines improve focus, reduce stress, and help fathers respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively — especially when juggling breakfast, backpacks, and work deadlinesThis isn’t about rigid scheduling — it’s about rhythm. What separates a good morning routine from an unrealistic one is flexibility. Even a 10-minute “mini routine” can yield huge personal benefits. The point isn’t when you wake up — it’s being deliberate about how you start the day.Practical Tips for “Non-Morning” DadsMany fathers believe morning routines are reserved for early risers or gym fanatics — that’s not true. Non-morning dads can absolutely thrive by starting smaller:Skip the phone first. The first 10 minutes shape your mindset — avoid news, emails, or social media.​Prep the night before. Lay out clothes, prep coffee, or plan breakfast ahead to save mental load.​Start with water and light. Hydrate and get sunlight or bright light exposure — it wakes up your brain naturally.​Keep it simple. Choose one anchor habit (movement, gratitude note, or quiet coffee time) and do only that daily until it sticks.​Shift the “morning” if needed. Your reset might start after school drop-off or at lunch. It’s about intentional starts, not clock time.​The Ripple Effect on Family LifeWhen dads own their mornings, the whole household benefits. You show up more grounded, less rushed, and more emotionally present. Kids learn by watching how you transition from rest to responsibility — your calm becomes their classroom. Fathers who start their day with clarity often report better communication with partners and smoother mornings with their children.https://movember.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 205 - Navigating Divorce and Blended Families - Healing and Growth for DadsNavigating divorce and blended families as a dad involves embracing change, prioritizing healing, and fostering positive growth—for oneself and for children. Building trust, maintaining structure, and embracing empathy are essential as fathers transition into new roles and family dynamics. A variety of resources and practical strategies are available to support dads through this complex journey.Key Strategies for Healing and GrowthPrioritize Emotional Wellness: Divorce can be an emotional upheaval, often leading to feelings of isolation, sadness, or frustration. Seeking counseling or peer support helps dads process these emotions and model healthy coping for children.Show Up Every Day: Children, no matter their behavior, need consistent presence, reassurance, and affection from their dads. Maintaining daily routines and emotional support is critical for building stability.Positive Co-Parenting: Open communication, clear boundaries, and formal parenting plans promote a smoother transition and reduce conflict between parents, putting children’s needs front and center.Embrace the New Family Structure: Step-parenting and blending families require patience, humor, and flexibility. Focus on nurturing trust and genuine connections while respecting each child’s unique journey.Practice Self-Care: Physical, mental, and emotional self-care is vital for fathers. Strong personal well-being enables dads to parent effectively and face stresses with resilience.Build Support Networks: Joining support groups for divorced or blended family dads helps share experiences, find encouragement, and gain practical advice for unique challenges.Helpful ResourcesCounseling & Support Services:BetterHelp (affordable online therapy for dads and kids)Families in Transition (Family Service Toronto) offers support for emotional well-being after significant family changesDads Aiming for Direction and Support (community groups for dads post-divorce)Further Reading:The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce: A Guide to Co-Parenting for Divorced DadsA compassionate, practical guide for fathers navigating divorce—and building a thriving co-parenting relationship that puts kids first. Divorce doesn’t end your role as a dad—it redefines it. In The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce, author and parenting advocate Paul Mandelstein offers a clear, empowering roadmap for divorced fathers who want to stay deeply connected to their children and create a healthy, cooperative relationship with their co-parent. Mandelstein, the divorced father of four children and founder of the Father Resource Network (FRN), draws from real-life experiences. Grounded in principles of collaboration, communication, and emotional intelligence, this guide helps dads move beyond conflict and into a new chapter of fatherhood—one defined by presence, purpose, and peace. Packed with advice from family counseling experts, anecdotes from divorced parent groups, interviews with fathers, mothers, and children, and the author’s own first-hand experiences, The World's Best Dad During and After Divorce is a realistic yet compassionate approach to parenting during and after divorce. The user-friendly format combines bulleted lists with practical suggestions, exercises, and even sample dialogues that make even the most difficult conversations with children and former spouses more manageable. Most importantly, this guidebook empowers men to be the best fathers they can be: fathers who are present and accountable, loving and leading, competent and caring.

Episode 204 - Idols, Demons, and Humans - The Three Phases Between Fathers and SonsEvery father and son travel through three powerful emotional phases in their relationship — idolization, demonization, and humanization. This episode explores the evolution of how sons see their fathers as they age and grow in understanding.The conversation dives deep into how time and experience reshape perspective. When we’re young, our fathers are heroes who can do no wrong. As teenagers or young adults, we often swing to the opposite extreme — blaming them for flaws and mistakes. But with age and reflection, we begin to see them as people, shaped by their own stories, pain, and imperfections.Listeners will hear reflections on forgiveness, empathy, and how acknowledging our fathers’ humanity can free us from resentment. It’s a raw, honest look at what it means to move from judgment to understanding — and how that shift can bring healing and connection across generations.every father–son relationship evolves through three distinct emotional phases — idolization, demonization, and humanization.When sons are young, they look up to their dads as heroes who can fix anything and know everything. As they grow older, that pedestal starts to wobble. The “demonize” phase emerges when sons begin to see their father’s imperfections — authority starts to feel restricting, discipline can sting, and rebellion finds its voice. Yet with time, maturity, and perspective, something profound happens: sons begin to humanize their fathers. They see them not as flawless role models or as antagonists, but as real men with their own struggles, stories, and scars. This is the moment of reconciliation and empathy — where love and understanding can replace judgment and resentment.​Why This Matters for DadsResearch shows that how fathers model emotional openness and resilience deeply shapes their sons’ mental health, empathy, and sense of masculinity. Studies from National Center for Biotechnology Information (NIH) emphasize that father–son relationships framed around empathy and emotional availability help young men develop confidence, communication skills, and healthier relationships with others.​Dads who demonstrate both strength and vulnerability raise sons who are more adaptable and emotionally aware. This transformation — from authority figure to human connection — is a cornerstone of generational healing.Takeaways for ListenersReflect on which phase you’re currently living in with your own father or son. Are you idolizing, demonizing, or humanizing?Lead with curiosity — understanding the experiences that shaped your dad helps soften resentment.Model emotional honesty with your son; let him see you fail, repair, and grow. That transparency teaches love in motion.Remember: forgiveness isn’t weakness; it’s the bridge that connects generations.Every father and son will eventually confront the mirror of time and empathy. In seeing our dads as humans, we not only reclaim compassion — we redefine what it truly means to be a father ourselves.For more information:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9513388/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 203 - The Real Friend Test - When Your Success Becomes Their DiscomfortBusiness ownership reveals the true dynamics of friendship. When launching your venture, some people suddenly expect "bro deals"—special pricing or favors—while others support you without hesitation, recognizing your hard work and cheering for your success. It's ironic that many will tip generously at a café but hesitate to pay full price to someone they know. This mindset can undercut both your business and the confidence you need to pursue your dreams.Real friends not only pay fairly but go above and beyond to advocate and promote your business. Their investment helps you thrive and fosters meaningful community support. However, as your business grows, tensions may arise—old friends might struggle with your upward trajectory, experiencing discomfort with changes to status or the perceived shift in relationship. This can manifest as jealousy or criticism, as your progress reminds them of places where they may have settled or stopped pushing themselves.Let these moments guide you in setting healthy boundaries, surrounding yourself with those who genuinely root for your journey—not just when it's convenient for them. Entrepreneurship is an act of courage, and sometimes, true friendship is proven not by words, but by action and respect for your worth___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 202 - Showing Kids How to Argue with Respect and Empathy - Don't Hide Your DisagreementsTeaching kids to argue with respect and empathy - and not hiding parental disagreements—can foster emotional intelligence, healthy conflict resolution skills, and stronger family connectionsWhy Model Respectful Arguments?When kids see parents argue respectfully, they learn that disagreements are a natural part of relationships and can be resolved without hurtful behavior.​Hiding all disagreements can confuse children, who sense underlying tension but don’t see healthy ways to resolve it, potentially leading to anxiety or insecurityParents should never argue or disagree in front of their kids, and share research that suggests the opposite—it's actually beneficial when done constructivelyKey Skills to Model:Active Listening: Engage in conversation where everyone gets to express their point of view without interruption.​“I” Statements: Use language like “I feel concerned when…” instead of blaming or accusatory statements.​Acknowledging Perspectives: Validate the other person's feelings or viewpoint, teaching empathy and mutual respect.Tangible Takeaways:Kids benefit from seeing disagreements that end in compromise, understanding, or affectionate reconnection, rather than unresolved tension or aggression.​Having “repair moments” after conflict—showing how to apologize and reconnect—models essential social skills.​Enable kids to voice their own perspectives within the family, fostering their ability to disagree respectfully with peers and adults.Practical Tips for Dads:Stay calm, keep tone respectful, and focus on the issue, not personal attacks.​Use disagreements as teaching moments for problem-solving and compromise.After conflict, discuss what happened and model reflecting, apologizing, and reconnectingAs Dads, we need to embrace authentic, respectful conversations at home, allowing kids to see the full arc of disagreement to resolution. By doing so, they help shape emotionally resilient, empathetic adults equipped to handle conflict thoughtfully in every part of life.For more on this topic - check out - https://talkingworks.ca/uncategorized/healthy-arguments-how-parents-can-disagree-with-children-effectively/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 201 - Never Letting Go First - The Disney Hug Rule and Dad’s Role in Emotional SafetyThe Disney Hug Rule is an unofficial but widely recognized guideline observed by Disney characters at the parks: when a child initiates a hug, the character does not let go until the child decides to end the embrace. This rule is rooted in empathy and kindness, ensuring that children feel fully comforted and emotionally supported during their magical experience. It acknowledges that the child may need the hug for as long as they choose because "you never know how much that child may need that hug." Characters are trained to hold the hug patiently, making guests feel valued and loved, which creates lasting memories for families visiting the parks. While not a strict official policy, it is a purposeful practice reflecting Disney's commitment to connection and warmth.Applying this rule to parenting, especially for dads with their children and in loving relationships with wives or partners, it suggests a powerful lesson: in love and care, one should be patient and fully present, holding onto the emotional connection as long as the other person needs it. In parenting, this means giving children the safety and security of emotional availability, allowing them to lean in for comfort and support without rushing away. For dads, this embodies nurturing presence and unconditional love—being there physically and emotionally until the child naturally pulls away, building trust and a secure bond.Similarly, in relationships with wives and partners, adopting the spirit of the Disney Hug Rule advocates for sustained emotional presence and affection. It means holding on emotionally and physically, being patient and receptive to the partner’s needs for closeness and reassurance. This approach strengthens intimacy and fosters a deep sense of being loved and valued, reinforcing a respectful and empathetic partnership.Dads can use the Disney Hug Rule—never letting go first when hugging their kids—as a powerful tool for teaching emotional safety and trust. This approach communicates to children that their feelings and needs are important and respected, allowing them to decide when they are ready to end a moment of closeness. By consistently hugging until the child lets go first, dads send the message that they are a safe, patient, and attentive presence, which promotes confidence and reassurance in the child’s relationship with their parentPractical Ways to Apply the RuleAlways let children end the hug, no matter their age—this transfers a sense of control, respect, and security to the child, showing that their comfort is the priority.Use hugs as moments of genuine connection, being fully present without distractions, which helps children feel seen and valued.Reinforce emotional safety by embracing feelings—whether a child is sad, excited, or anxious, the lingering hug lets them know their emotions are accepted and supported.Promote body autonomy and consent by allowing kids to choose when physical affection ends—this underpins future emotional intelligence and healthy boundaries.Integrate this practice into daily routines: before school, at bedtime, or during moments of distress, turning each hug into a brief but impactful lesson in trust and comfort.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 200 - How Labels Shape Our Kids - The Words We Choose MatterLabels applied to children—whether intended as praise or criticism—can profoundly shape a child's sense of identity, their behavior, and what opportunities they believe are open to them. This topic is the subject of several important articles and resources for parents, which underline why careful language, especially from dads, is essential for a child's long-term mental health and self-worth.Why Labels Stick to KidsLabels create a “self-fulfilling prophecy” when children internalize them, feeling pressure to live up (or down) to expectations set by significant adults.Both negative and positive labels can limit development: negative labels hurt self-esteem, while positive ones may create anxiety if a child feels they have to maintain the trait at all times.Repeated language from parents, especially dads, becomes “truth” for a child, impacting relationships with peers, teachers, and eventually shaping their opportunities.How to Break Through Negative LabelsPraise specific behaviors (“You showed kindness today”) rather than fixed identities (“You are always kind”).Make room for new interests and highlight effort, not just outcome or natural ability.Encourage repeated positive self-talk and let kids know change is always possible—identity isn’t set in stone.Model openness and vulnerability as a parent, showing that everyone can learn, grow, and change.Labels stick to kids and affect their behavior by influencing how they view themselves, what others expect of them, and the opportunities they pursue—making every word a Dad says deeply important for a child's sense of identity. Children absorb what they're told with surprising sensitivity, especially from parents and family members. Repeated labels—whether “troublemaker,” “shy,” or “smart”—become internalized as “truths.” These labels can shape a child's self-concept, and over time, they begin to see themselves mainly through the lens of those labels. Even labels meant in good fun or as praise can be limiting when they put kids in a box or create unrealistic expectations.Every supportive conversation helps to untangle the hurt of old labels and allows kids to build self-worth, resilience, and trust in their own potential. Each day truly offers a new chance to reinvent and grow.___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 199 - Wait Until Your Dad Gets Home - Why Kids Should Run Toward, Not From, DadA healthy and welcoming home tone starts with dads and partners being intentional about how everyone feels when Dad arrives and how discipline is communicated. Here are four main strategies, with supporting ideas, that can transform the “wait till your father gets home” sentiment into one of anticipation and warmth, plus podcast title suggestions for your episodeLead with Respect and KindnessRespect is foundational for positive relationships and a healthy home atmosphere. Dads have a unique impact—what is said and, especially, how it’s said matters; speaking gently, giving eye contact, and greeting others warmly model respect.Encourage respectful communication between partners and children. Avoid harshness and sarcasm; instead, use kind words to keep lines of listening open and build trustMake Discipline Team-Based, Not Threat-BasedThe classic phrase “wait till your father gets home” can create anxiety or fear if used as a threat. Instead, parents should address issues together and communicate with collaborative language: “Let’s talk with Dad about what happened so we can all learn and move forward”.Don’t set up Dad as the “bad cop” or the source of punishment, this can damage children’s perception of their relationship with him. Handle small issues immediately and use arrival times as moments for reconnection, not confrontationCreate Welcoming Homecoming RitualsHow Dad enters matters—a cheerful greeting (hugs, excited shouts, smiles) sets the mood for the evening and can become a cherished family ritual. Dads should reciprocate by demonstrating excitement and genuine joy when seeing their family after work.Use physical cues (open lighting, tidy spaces, favorite music, or simple routines like a shared snack) to make everyone’s return home feel special and safe, reinforcing positive anticipation when Dad comes home.Practice Humility and Empathy DailyDads and partners can build emotional safety by owning mistakes, apologizing sincerely, and listening empathetically. Show kids that nobody is perfect, and modeling humility helps relationships flourish.Empathy—validating emotions even in tough moments, helps to de-escalate conflict and encourages children to approach parents with their feelings and challenges, rather than hide or dread conversations___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 198 - How Dads Can Help Kids Cope With Disturbing Events OnlineTo address horrific events in the news as a Dad with children—especially with the flood of real-time, sometimes graphic information online—requires honest, age-appropriate conversation, parental guidance on media, and intentional emotional support. Here’s how to help kids process unfettered access to traumatic world events:Guiding Your Kids Through Traumatic News1. Start with Honest, Age-Appropriate ConversationsBe truthful about events, but only share details your child can process based on age and maturity2. Limit Direct Exposure to Disturbing ContentMonitor screen and social media time closely; turn off background news or screens when kids are around.Proactively block access to graphic images or videos and absorb news together, encouraging discussion afterwards3. Listen and Validate Their FeelingsAsk what your child has seen, heard, or feels. Let them talk and express worry, sadness, anger, or confusionNormalize their emotions; assure them it's okay to feel upset or ask questions.4. Provide Reassurance and SafetyEmphasize what is being done to keep everyone safe and how community helpers support those affected.Maintain familiar routines—meals, bedtime—to restore a sense of normalcy and security.5. Correct Misinformation and Offer ContextAsk what they’ve heard from peers or social media, clarifying rumors and correcting any false ideas.Put events in context, focusing on stories of resilience and positive community action.6. Promote Critical Thinking and EmpathyEncourage older children and teens to reflect on why certain stories go viral and discuss the purpose behind media coverage.Highlight opportunities for kindness, compassion, and community support—even small acts they can takeBy providing guidance and safe space for open discussion, Dads can help children navigate distressing world events, build resilience, and maintain emotional well-being in today’s connected world._____https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 197 - Happy Dad, Healthy Family, Joyful Fatherhood Without GuiltDads often neglect their own happiness in favor of family needs, but prioritizing personal joy and open communication is critical for the well-being of the entire family and the health of relationships. Making time for hobbies, self-care, and sharing these needs with a partner—as well as letting go of guilt—helps dads stay recharge, remain engaged, and model healthy emotional behaviors for their children.Making Time for YourselfBusy dads can reclaim "me time" through intentional strategies such as scheduling personal activities, setting boundaries, starting with small time commitments (as little as 15–30 minutes a day), integrating family and personal interests, and practicing mindfulness. Suggestions include engaging in hobbies, regular exercise, solo outings (like seeing a movie or getting a massage), and spending time with friends.Rekindling Joy Guilt-FreeMany fathers feel guilty for enjoying personal activities away from family, but embracing hobbies and interests helps recharge energy and enrich identity—making for better parenting. Communication and reciprocity with a partner are essential: encourage each other to pursue interests and recognize everyone’s unique needs for self-care. Letting go of guilt leads to happier, more balanced fatherhood.Talking With Your PartnerHaving an honest conversation with a partner is crucial. Express what you need in terms of self-care—time, activities, and support—and invite your partner to share their needs too. Approach it as a two-way, empathetic discussion focused on “refilling your cup” so you’re present, fulfilled, and better able to support your family. Implementing a clear and mutual plan ensures both partners understand and honor each other’s needs.Impact on Family Health and RelationshipsA dad’s well-being is strongly tied to family health, children’s development, and relationship satisfaction. When fathers model healthy self-care and emotional fulfillment, children benefit from improved attachment, confidence, academic achievement, and psychological health. Involved, happy dads create nurturing environments where the whole family thrivesHere is an action-oriented summary that dads can use and apply right away to find more joy, prioritize happiness, and support their families through intentional self-care:Action Steps for DadsCommit to Prioritizing Your Well-Being: Make a conscious decision to value your happiness and self-care as essential, not optional. Recognize that when you care for yourself, you model healthy behavior and improve the family's well-being.Schedule “Me Time” Regularly: Block out time in your calendar each week for hobbies, interests, exercise, or peaceful downtime. Treat this time as non-negotiable and just as important as other commitments.Acknowledge Your Emotions: Notice and accept your feelings—whether stress, joy, or anxiety—without judgment. Express your needs and feelings openly, so you're less likely to bottle them up.Talk to Your Partner: Share openly about your need for personal time and fulfillment. Frame the conversation around being your best self for your partner and family. Invite them to share their needs as well and work on a plan together.Reconnect with Your Passions: Restart a hobby or activity that once brought joy. Let go of guilt—making time for healthy interests helps recharge your mental, emotional, and physical health.Stay Connected: Maintain friendships and build community—especially with other dads. Social support makes it easier to process challenges and celebrate joys.Stay Active: Add movement to your daily routine, like walking, biking, or playing a sport. Physical activity is a proven stress reliever and energizer.Ask for Help When...

Episode 196 - Chris Kruger - Black Hawk Helicopters, Multiple Deployments, Anger and Fear, Lessons for DadsAbout the authorChris Kruger grew up just outside Spokane, Washington, and joined the Army before turning 21, driven by a sense of purpose and a thirst for challenge. Over the next 22 years, he forged a diverse and demanding military career—starting as an infantryman and eventually becoming a Blackhawk maintenance test pilot. His journey took him from Basic Training and Airborne School at Fort Benning to Fort Bragg, North Carolina, where he completed an impressive lineup of elite training programs, including Amphibious Reconnaissance School, Ranger School, HALO and HALO Jumpmaster, and Flight School, among others. Along the way, he earned the Expert and Combat Infantryman Badges, a Bronze Star, a Meritorious Service Medal, and several other honors. Chris deployed to Iraq, Afghanistan, and the Far East, spending more than five and a half years overseas—experiences that deeply shaped his outlook on leadership, resilience, and life. After retiring, he turned to writing as a way to unpack and give meaning to those intense years. What began as personal reflection quickly became a mission to reach others walking similar paths. Today, Chris lives in Huntsville, Alabama, with his wife Genevieve and their two daughters, Charlize and Isabelle—writing from a place of survival, strength, and connection. Together, Chris and Genevieve are active in their local church and committed to encouraging others to overcome life’s hardships, expanding their reach through writing and a forthcoming podcast aimed at inspiring healing, faith, and perseverance.Book: Walking Away from the Ledge: A Soldier's MemoirWalking Away from the Ledge is a hard-hitting, no-BS military memoir that goes beyond the battlefield to expose the raw truth of war, survival, and self-destruction. With an unapologetic voice and brutal honesty, Chris takes readers deep inside the challenging world of an Army Ranger, the brotherhood that holds soldiers together, and the personal demons that threaten to tear them apart.More than a war story, this book is about what happens when the fight doesn’t end—the toll of combat, the grip of addiction, and the struggle to hold onto love when everything else is falling apart. This memoir hits hard, digs deep, and refuses to look away.https://a.co/d/4nhPNiR___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 195 - Kelly Farley - Grieving Dads, He Lost His Baby Too, Survival Guide for the Grieving DadIf you have ever loved a child, then you understand what it’s like to love someone more than you love life itself. If you have ever lost a child, then you understand more about hell than anyone could possibly be expected to know. This isn’t something you get over. Only those who have lost a child can understand the depths to which this pain travels. Like most of the men who will read these books, I too am a grieving dad.The message I want bereaved fathers to understand is that I know it’s hard, I know it hurts, I know it’s scary — but you can get through this. You can survive. It will be the hardest thing you will ever experience; it will drain you physically, mentally, and emotionally. You can come out on the other side of this very long and lonely tunnel, but you will be a different person when you do. There is no going back to the old you.You also need to know that you are not alone in your grief. Other men have been through this and that the emotions they keep inside are the same emotions all of us experience, even if we don't talk about them. The best thing you can do is to reach out for help and to know it is not a sign of “weakness” to do so. Instead, it’s a sign of courage and strength — the kind that’s required to face this battle head on.Book: He Lost His Baby TooSurvival Guide for the Grieving DadThis book was written specifically for fathers grappling with the unbearable aftermath of losing a baby. It is all too easy for a bereaved father to succumb to a haunting sense of isolation after such a loss. However, within these pages lies a lifeline—a survival guide infused with wisdom, providing a roadmap through the complicated path of grief.In the wake of a tragic loss—whether it be a miscarriage, a stillbirth, or the untimely passing of an infant—this invaluable resource unravels the layers of anguish that overwhelm grieving fathers. Written by a grieving dad, this book offers unflinching honesty and poignant insight, it also delves into the raw pain that accompanies such a profound loss, assuring these men that their emotions, however overwhelming, are both valid and shared by others who have walked a similar path.Book: Grieving DadsTo the Brink and BackA collection of candid stories from grieving dads that were interviewed over a two-year period. The book offers insight from fellow members of, in the haunting words of one dad, “this terrible, terrible club,” which consists of men who have experienced the death of a child. This book is a collection of survival stories by men who have survived the worst possible loss and lived to tell the tale.They are real stories that pull no punches and are told with brutal honesty. Men that have shared their deepest and darkest moments. Moments that included thoughts of suicide, self-medication, and homelessness. Some of these men have found their way back from the brink, while others are still standing there, stuck in their pain. The core message of Grieving Dads is “you’re not alone.” It is a message that desperately needs to be delivered to grieving dads who often grieve in silence due to society’s expectations.https://www.grievingdads.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 194 - Shellee Howard - Get Your Kids College Ready with a Plan and a Question - Who Are YouShellee HowardCollege Ready Founder and CEOShellee has traveled around the world helping students plan for their “perfect match” college. She knows what it takes to compete in the Ivy schools as well as finding the best fit for all students. Shellee believes that no two students are the same, and each student must have their own strategy and plan to be successful. Each student has a gift/talent and a passion that will set him or her apart from their competition. College Ready has clients all over the world, and each one is important. Her focus is to find the best academic, financial, and social fit college for each student to thrive at!You deserve the College Ready “All hands on deck!” approach to your college application. We have the best college admissions consultants ready to help your student succeed!At College Ready, we are a team of certified college admissions consultants driven to help your student succeed both in college and in life. We plan individually with students and their families to build the perfect college match as well as financial fit.Our focus is your son or daughter and what he or she aspires to achieve. We are Certified College Counselors from UCSD, UCLA and come with years of experience helping students get into the perfect college or university. We enjoy working with students of all ages and stages. We have specialists who focus on the Ivy schools, and we have specialists who focus on getting B students into the best-fit college. Our goal is to help your student be the best they can be while graduating with little or no debt!https://collegereadyplan.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 193 - He Lost His Baby Too, Who Cares for the Father When Loss Hits Your HomeWho cares for Dads when the unthinkable happens - well it happened to me when we lost our child during pregnacy - I almost lost my wife as well. I recently had a guest author on my Living The Next Chapter Podcast. If you want to hear Elizabeth's interview follow this link for more:https://youtu.be/IGtexvEVVn8https://www.elizabeth-johnstone.com/Elizabeth Johnstone wrote a book about her journey of loss as a Mother when she lost her baby during pregnacy - this conversation with Elizabeth made me revisit my own giref as a Dad - the resources are not readily available for Dads - why is this? Why are we just a paragraph in a take home pamphlet on dealing with grief - who cares for a Dad when Dad is caring for Mom?When do we get to grieve as a Dad and is there anybody out there for us - if you have ever felt that there is nobody here for you in your grief, I tracked down a great author and fellow grieving Dad to help us all - check out Kelly's details herehttps://www.grievingdads.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 192 - When Parents Aren't Getting Along - When Relationships Impact Family4 Key Points for Dads: "When Parents Aren’t Getting Along – When Relationships Impact Family"Acknowledge What Kids See and FeelChildren are deeply sensitive to tension and arguments between parents—even when you think you’re hiding it. Recognize that your kids notice changes in tone, body language, and distance. It’s important to reassure them that both parents still love them and the issues are not their fault.Model Healthy Conflict and RespectDisagreements are a normal part of any relationship, but how you handle conflict teaches your children crucial lessons. Aim to demonstrate respect, self-control, and active listening. Avoid insulting, yelling, or putting each other down, especially in front of your children. Showing that you can disagree and resolve issues maturely sets a lifelong example.Prioritize Open CommunicationBe proactive in talking to your partner about challenges rather than letting resentment build. Also, talk with your kids in an age-appropriate way: let them know families sometimes have tough moments, but working together as a team is important. Open communication supports a sense of safety and stability for everyone in the household.Protect the Parent-Child RelationshipNever use your relationship struggles as a reason to involve children in adult concerns or to undermine your partner as a parent. Commit to supporting each other’s roles with your kids. Children benefit most when they see that, even in hard times, both parents remain invested in their wellbeing and daily lives.Encouragement to Dads:Being honest about difficulties, while working towards a respectful atmosphere, gives your children security and valuable coping skills. Family challenges are real, but with intentionality, dads can contribute to resilience and healing for everyone.tik tok video link from episodehttps://vt.tiktok.com/ZSkoydU1M/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 191 - Bret Davis - Author of Bretisms - Philosophies For a Life with Less Anxiety and More ConfidenceBret Davis is the author of a new book called "Bretisms" - A collection of thoughts over 30 chapters designed to be your new daily read! "You can't trip over things that are behind you" and more help you to hit the reset button and create space for yourself as a Dad. This is a shortened version of Bret's appearance on my author podcast, Living The Next Chapter. If you are dealing with a lack of confidence or an abundance of anxious thoughts and beliefs, this book might just be your next best read.Want to hear the entire interview? Check out out other podcast - Living The Next ChapterBret's episode:https://pod.link/1607392975/episode/365e21188c332d1c7ebc3c58b9a8012fBret's Website"https://bretisms.com/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270

Episode 190 - Alex Lloyd Hunter - The Dad Shift, parents campaigning for better paternity leave in the UKThe Dad Shift is a group of men, dads and other parents campaigning for better paternity leave in the UKThe UK’s pat leave problemThe UK’s statutory paternity leave is bad. Really bad. In fact, it’s the worst in Europe.Dads and non-birthing parents get only two weeks off, paid at less than half the minimum wage. Self employed people get nothing.There’s now loads of evidence that this is bad for everyone: mums, dads, kids, and society as a whole.We are calling for paternity leave that is:SubstantialGives dads enough time off to support their partner and bond with their kids, without taking leave away from mums.AffordableIs paid at a rate that means everyone can afford to take it, with self-employed people getting paid too.EqualGives both parents equal leave, so mums and dads are free to shape their own roles in the family, not have them dictated by gender.This is a fight for all parentsWe’re campaigning for substantial, affordable and equal leave for both parents in every relationship - same-sex, heterosexual, or adoptive - and for self-employed people. donate here!https://dadshift.org.uk/?form=websitehttps://dadshift.org.uk/___https://dadspace.camusic provided by Blue Dot SessionsSong: The Big Ten https://app.sessions.blue/browse/track/258270