Judson shares a significant life update with both pain and optimism while Brian goes on a perfect date. A listener submits a Hookup of the Week in which he experiences Judson’s definition of Daddyness. They are then joined by actor, writer, comedian and star of his own off-Broadway solo show, ‘Ta-Da!,’ Josh Sharp. Josh talks about how fun it can and should be to live outside the norm as queer people, recounts some of his formative sexual experiences, reminisces fondly about the days of finding sex on Craigslist, shares the secret to the longevity of his 11+-year relationship with his boyfriend, and challenges gay men of a certain age to find new ways to be queer. He discusses the origins and development of ‘Ta-Da!,’ working with the Tony Award-winning director of ‘Oh, Mary!,’ Sam Pinkleton, the significance of ‘Oh, Mary!’s’ breakout success, and the future of his work with longtime comedy partner Aaron Jackson, with whom he wrote and starred in the movie, ‘Dicks: The Musical.’ He also puts the rumors about Lea Michele’s reading ability to rest and reveals why he loves clip-on earrings. Josh then helps Brian and Judson respond to a question from a listener ten years his boyfriend’s senior who wants to avoid developing into a punishing parent in their relationship. Josh Sharp on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cluckcluckjoshsharp Josh Sharp’s Ta-Da on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joshsharptada/ Josh Sharp’s Ta-Da on the Web: https://www.joshsharptada.com/ Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson and Brian celebrate the return of their husband and daughter (respectively) after three weeks apart. Judson feels his age taking in the fashions at a Bushwick dance party, while Brian feels his age due to the constant medical upkeep his body suddenly requires. The two are touched by a Hookup of the Week, submitted by a listener who credits the podcast for its inspiration. They are then joined by José Rolón, known as @nycgaydad across social media, where he has garnered more than 750K followers of his adventures as a single gay father to three kids, and has become a leading voice in parenting and LGBTQ+ Latinx representation. José shares the unbelievable story of how he found himself a single dad of three, how and why the video clips of his family became a viral sensation, how he views fame for himself and his children, his experiences navigating dating and sex, his feelings on aging, and how his partner of more than two years has integrated into his family life. He also speaks for the first time about the upsetting ways a far-right conspiracist has manipulated his content, how José is fighting him in court, and how he is so far succeeding in what could prove to be a landmark case for the LGBTQ+ community. José then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is two months away from becoming a father and is worried about the judgement he will receive from friends, family and even his own husband, if he continues to be as outwardly sex positive as he’s always been. José on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nycgaydad José on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nycgaydad Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Brian gleefully becomes a Provincetown convert and extols the virtues of Family Week. Judson shares two recent learnings about language. Together they follow a listener's incredible adventures while traveling on the "Hookup of the Week." The two are then joined by Rabbi Jason Klein, senior rabbi at the largest LGBTQ synagogue in the world, Congregation Beit Simchat Torah in New York City (not to mention Brian’s first serious boyfriend over 25 years ago). Rabbi Klein talks about his path to becoming a rabbi, how queer people can reclaim their right to religion, how he experiences dating and the apps, sex as a spiritual practice, and his recent arrest for civil disobedience. He also calls on fellow Jews to be the best Jews they can be and stop what is happening in Gaza, and shares some thoughts on combating despair in the current state of world affairs. Rabbi Klein then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a question from a listener struggling with the adjustment to single life after separating from his husband of seven years. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson and Brian beat the heat by hunkering down in the basement to answer another set of Go Ask Your Dad questions from our listeners! But first, Brian and Judson each negotiate rules with their husbands for running “sexy errands” during their respective trips to Provincetown. One listener educates Brian and Judson on gay car enthusiast culture, while another educates them on the proper terminology for a sex act discussed on a previous episode. Judson suffers through a tense week at work. Brian suffers through withdrawal from his daughter while she is at sleepaway camp. The “Hookup of the Week” leaves both feeling envious and pondering the magical qualities of hot tubs. After the break, Judson and Brian respond to several listener questions ranging from how best to communicate the desire to see a hookup again, to how to think about integrating one’s gay self with their work self after a promotion to a management position, to how to keep years of shame from turning oneself into a prude, to handling STIs in an open relationship, to what Judson believes to be the toughest question they’ve addressed yet from a listener in an open, long-distance relationship whose demisexual partner has begun to hookup with his roommate. They end with a voice memo from a repeat submitter with a unique request that could help him find the love of his life. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson and Brian reunite after three weeks apart. Judson takes a page from our Gay Vacation Anxiety episode to put himself in the best mental and emotional place for two weeks in Provincetown. Brian is forced to admit that he may, in fact, be a Disney Gay. The listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” inspires a conversation about gay community and joy. After the break, Brian shares a series of new ways he and his husband have found to enjoy their open marriage over the previous few weeks. Judson proposes the ideal “house rules” for hookups when sharing a vacation rental with friends. They end by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener expressing concern that there isn’t an overlap in the kinks that interest him and his partner.
Judson is taken out by a stomach bug for a couple of days. Brian attends the sex party he expressed nerves about in last week’s episode. Together, they enjoy a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” with a twist. Brian and Judson are then joined by DJ James Anthony. Known as host of the weekly “Get Into The Groove” on SiriusXM’s Studio 54 channel, and for his monthly Saturday residency at the iconic Eagle in New York City, “James Anthony’s House,” James tours the world as a much sought-after DJ, producer, and remixer. In their chat, James takes Brian and Judson through his lifetime journey playing music for people, starting in his earliest days. They discuss the virtues of daytime dance parties, RuPaul and Michelle Visage’s exhaustive knowledge of dance music, the evolution of James’ 22-year marriage, how he and his husband navigate openness today, his relationship with the apps, and his thoughts on aging. James then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener struggling with the fact that some aspects of his body are attractive to others, but not to himself. DJ James Anthony on SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/thedjjamesanthony DJ James Anthony on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djjamesanthony DJ James Anthony on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@djjamesanthony DJ James Anthony on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/djjamesanthony.bsky.social Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
A gang of neighborhood kids accosts Judson. Brian struggles with parenting solo while his husband is away on business. Judson helps Brian through his anxious feelings about a sex party they both plan to attend. They get a huge laugh from a relatable listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” The two then enter into a deep discussion about spirituality. They talk about how they each define the term, what spiritual practice looks like in their day-to-day lives, their personal histories with religion, and how they balance spirituality with the state of the world today. They close by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener seeking advice on whether or not to ask out the sexy barista who hands him his coffee every morning, and how to do it appropriately. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson shares movie, book, and live music recommendations for the summer. Brian provides an update to his story about his clash with the principal at his children’s school. They both have much to say about a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” They then welcome out and proud bear Derek Frazier to the podcast. Known as “Big D,” runner-up on the historic 23rd season of “Big Brother,” Derek provides insights into the infamous Cookout Alliance he initiated, ultimately resulting in the show’s first Black winner. He shares intimate details about his weight loss journey, how he struggles to find acceptance in the bear community as a Black man, his plans for Bear Week in Provincetown, MA, his experiences meeting people out at gay bars and on the apps, and how he deals with the online hate that continues to come his way since his time on “Big Brother.” Derek then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who felt envious as a POC in an open relationship with a white man for the attention his ex-boyfriend would get, and wants advice about how to approach the possibility of opening up his next relationship. Derek Frazier on Instagram: https://instagram.com/thederekfrazier and on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thederekfrazier_ Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Brian comes to Judson with many questions after a recent threesome. Judson survives a frustrating hookup day. A Hookup of the Week makes it all the way from Germany. The two then enter into a discussion about love. They share how they each fell in love with their husbands, and what that love feels like now. They compare their love for the different members of their families. They talk about what love looks like within friendships. The love chat continues when this week’s Go Ask Your Dad comes from a listener starting the process of opening his relationship, who disagrees with his partner’s belief that love and sex are intrinsically intertwined. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson is self-reflective after a week of anniversaries, experiences the highs and lows of a company-wide work event, and may have met the ultimate hookup partner. Brian also experiences an incredible hookup and reaches his 5th review on TheBlowers. Judson learns a new Daddy trick from this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the Week. After the break, they resume their friendly fire, and Brian gets emotional, sharing how the principal at his children’s school reacted to a particular component of his Pride plans for all the students. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener looking for thoughts about preparing himself for what he believes to be the inevitable end of a 10-year hookup relationship. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson recuperates from an intense period at work and enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor. Brian bemoans that it has been a frustrating week on the apps. The two debate the virtues of white chocolate and whether or not liking it is at all specific to the queer community. A listener shares a Hookup of the Week story about their first Daddy experience. Judson and Brian then chat all about Pride! They share their favorite Pride memories, reflect on what Pride means to them, how they each celebrate Pride, what’s important to them about the Pride Festival and Parade, and how their experience of Pride has evolved over the years. They end by responding to a listener’s Go Ask Your Dad question, asking how he should tell a hookup he enjoyed that he likely won’t see him again after learning new information. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson visits a childhood friend’s new home in upstate New York and exchanges feedback about their lives with one another. Brian hosts an event at his home to get fellow parents in his community thinking about how to talk about sex with their kids. Together, they enjoy a particularly daring Hookup of the Week submitted by a listener. They are then joined by multiple Tony Award-winning Broadway producer of Rent, Hamilton and more--and now the author of the new memoir Theater Kid--Jeffrey Seller. The three discuss the relatability of Jeffrey’s book, the significance of Jeffrey in Brian’s life, Jeffrey’s influence on making theatre accessible to all, some of the heartbreak he left out of his book, the importance of Hamilton at this particular moment, and Jeffrey’s three most essential qualities of a relationship. Jeffrey also joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener concerned about his age becoming an issue as he starts a new chapter as a later-in-life undergrad. Read Theater Kid: A Broadway Memoir by Jeffrey Seller - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Theater-Kid/Jeffrey-Seller/9781668064184 Find Jeffrey on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/jseller Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson spends a glorious Memorial Day Weekend on his second annual trip to Naked Yoga Camp in Austin, this time with his husband. Brian is redeemed for the hookup gone wrong almost 18 months ago, which led to the birth of this podcast. He also explains the concept of semen to his nine-year-old daughter and receives a perfect review on TheBlowers. Judson and Brian then enjoy a listener-submitted Hookup of the Week before launching into a conversation about Playing in Public. Judson and Brian share their favorite open-air spots and experiences, some of the opportunities gay vacation destinations provide for public sex, and the pros and cons of sex outdoors versus sex at parties. They close the episode by responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who isn’t happy when his boyfriend implies he may have his own hookup with someone they’re both attracted to. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
It’s Dads and Daddies’ first anniversary! Judson and Brian reflect on the ups and downs of the past year, and reveal some of the ways they plan to evolve the podcast in what is now Season Two, including the introduction of the new “Hookup of the Week” episode premiering this episode! The two then enter into a conversation about code-switching as gay men, and how each balances the various personas they bring to their home lives, work lives, creative lives, sex lives, friendships, and time alone with their thoughts. They close with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how to get out of a hookup when the person doesn’t meet expectations without hurting that person’s feelings. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson reports back on the insanity taking place at work and on trying a new experience during a hookup. Brian reflects on the passing of his family’s pet. GayVN award-winning porn actor and adult model Joel Someone then joins them in Brian’s basement. Together, the three talk about Joel’s career and how it was born from his need to get out of his native New Mexico, his path from escort to porn star, losing his virginity to a woman on camera, his parents’ discovery of his line of work, and his relationships with his “porn son” (and former Dads and Daddies guest) Jonah Wheeler and his boyfriend King Dwarf. Joel sticks around to help Judson and Brian respond to a “Go Ask Your Dad” question from a listener in his early 30s who has never felt affection from a man and is on the verge of giving up on the gay community and finding love. Find Joel Someone on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/joel_someone/ Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Comparing their week on the apps, Judson laments an aborted mission, and Brian comes up against ageism. Brian shares a glowing review for the Broadway play, “John Proctor is the Villain.” The two then welcome to the podcast Nathan H. Lents, author of The Sexual Evolution: How 500 million years of sex, gender, and mating shape modern relationships. Together, they discuss the difference between sexual and social monogamy, the egalitarian and sex-positive lifestyle of the lesser studied bonobo chimpanzees, how humans look to the animal kingdom to claim justifications (that aren’t there) for their conservative beliefs, how the recent diversity in gender expression is a natural part of evolution, and so much more. Nathan then joins Judson and Brian in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to show more affection to his boyfriend, but doesn’t know how, having been raised in a household where very little affection was shown. Find Nathan online at linktr.ee/nathanlents Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
It’s Dads and Daddies’ 50th Episode! To celebrate, Judson and Brian dedicate this week’s episode to the listeners by responding to FIVE Go Ask Your Dad questions! Ranging from a listener struggling with a toxic friends-with-benefits situation to one who wants help being verbal in bed, to another who wants to ensure his partner’s first hookup outside of their relationship goes off without a hitch, to one who’s having trouble balancing the difference between his sense of adventure versus his husband’s, to a listener looking for guidance on making a hookup happen by cruising IRL, this episode’s questions open up all kinds of conversations about the lives and times of adult gay men in the here and now! But first, Judson tells Brian about his experience recording an episode of Sniffies’ podcast, Cruising Confessions, and Brian talks about his challenges understanding the expectations of a hookup where he is nothing more than the recipient of oral sex. Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson shares a moment of pride felt as a Daddy for a Son. Brian reflects on four weeks without sex outside of his marriage. The two discuss feedback from a listener who feels that they prescribe open relationships as being right for everyone and doesn’t agree. They then begin preparations for summer by going deep into the anxiety brought on by vacationing in gay destinations. They explore the reasons we choose to vacation in gay destinations and how those reasons can be at odds, why they feel the pros outweigh the cons, and how they each deal with issues of body image, self-esteem, drug and alcohol prevalence, FOMO and peer pressure. To close, Judson and Brian respond to a series of questions from a listener who is moving to New York and is curious about the dating scene for someone in his 40s, building community and navigating the city sober. Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson tells Brian about his first week back at work, which wasn’t without its shocking moments. The two then recount their double date at the new Broadway musical they both loved, Just In Time, starring Jonathan Groff as Bobby Darin and co-authored by previous Dads and Daddies guest Isaac Oliver. Judson and Brian then welcome Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner, and Sacred Intimate Court Vox to the podcast. Court shares how he helps people develop and grow their comfort around touch, eroticism and sexuality and provides his unique insights on body autonomy, the limitations of the apps, the similarities between parents and doms, and so much more. He then helps Judson and Brian respond to a question from a listener who wants to give his younger partner the freedom to explore sex with others but fears it could mean losing him. Find Court at TheBodyVox.com, on Instagram at @thebodyvox, or check out his Linktree for all other ways to connect at linktr.ee/CourtVox Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social
Judson comes to the end of his sabbatical and reflects on everything it has brought him, including a significant amount of sex over the past week. Brian recounts the night he took his family to Kylie Minogue’s first-ever concert at Madison Square Garden. The two are then joined by Carson McCalley and Jack Dodge, hosts of the YouTube series and podcast “Dweeb Wars,” and contestants on the currently-airing 37th Season of “The Amazing Race.” Carson and Jack go deep into their friendship that goes back over a decade, sharing its origins, how they nurture and protect it, how they view each other as ‘platonic soulmates,’ how they balance it with their long-term romantic relationships, and how they came to building an online community together through their show, “Dweeb Wars.” They also reveal secrets of competing in “The Amazing Race” - including their ingenious preparation tactic - and answer questions from two special guest interviewers, Brian’s 9 and 6-year-old daughters. Carson and Jack stick around to help Judson and Brian respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener struggling with how much he compares himself to his friends and what he sees on social media. Check out Carson and Jack on Season 37 of The Amazing Race on CBS and Paramount+, and on their own series, Dweeb Wars, at https://www.youtube.com/@DweebWars. Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social