Dads And Daddies

Brian welcomes Boyslut author Zachary Zane back to the podcast, this time as guest co-host! Zachary recaps his “proper gay summer” and the two compare thoughts about their favorite gay vacation destinations, and the insecurities that come along with visiting each. Brian recreates the steam room hookups of his younger days with his husband, and both Zachary and Brian’s husband help him reframe his thinking around finishing quickly. The Hookup of the Week comes from a visitor to New York whose supposed threesome also includes a mysterious fourth. Brian and Zachary then welcome GayVN and Grabby award-nominated Daddy Patrick who, at 63, is new to being an adult performer and model, and who, two years into his latest career, wrote and directed the new gay western porn series, Drifters, which features, among many others, previous Dads and Daddies guests Joel Someone and Jonah Wheeler. Patrick shares how he came to start a porn career at 61, and how it evolved from making collabs for OnlyFans and JustForFans to writing, directing and performing in a 14-episode series for Ducati Studios. He compares his pre-60 corporate life to his life now in adult entertainment, he talks about what kind of Daddy he aims to be, how he imbues the porn he creates with intimacy, and about his conviction that gay men need to unlearn the instinct to be judgemental and instead to treat each other with kindness. Patrick also helps Brian and Zachary respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is curious if aging means we have to give up our sexual pursuits. Find Daddy Patrick on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/patricgram Find Zachary Zane on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/zacharyzane_/  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to [email protected] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa  and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers For a 10% discount on your purchase on a Shakti Acupressure Mat or any other items at ShakitMat.com, use code DADSANDDADDIES or simply visit the URL https://shaktimat.com/DadsAndDaddies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Judson says goodbye for now to Dads and Daddies for an as-yet-undetermined amount of time to seek treatment for bipolar depression. Brian welcomes Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Rum Tum Tugger, Sydney James Harcourt, back to the podcast, this time as guest co-host. Sydney recaps the insanely busy five months since his last appearance on the show, from Tony Awards season through Pride Month to the recording of the Jellicle Ball cast album to Rosie O’Donnell becoming his biggest fan and inviting him onto “Jimmy Kimmel Live!” while she was guest hosting, to the release of his first single, “Deviant.” He shares the origins of his electronic music collective, FēRL, of the song itself and its message about celebrating all forms of sex without shame. He also addresses the question on everybody’s mind–whether or not he will launch an OnlyFans. Brian shares both his own Daddy Issue, and his own Hookup of the Week. The actual Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who meets a DL Side on Sniffies and finds their repeat hookup taking a surprising turn. Brian and Sydney are then joined by comedian Quin Lamar. Quin talks about his transition from Michigan to New York via a three-year detour to Berlin, he shares how his parents raised him to have a love of comedy, his thoughts on truth in stand-up, and how he is able to imbue sex positivity into his shows because of the pride he takes in being a slut. He also delves into his marriage, and how his and his husband’s individual evolutions over their ten years together eventually led to divorce. Quin shares his distaste for concerts, what it means to live life as a serial monogamist slut, and his insights into the sexual challenges his straight friends face. To close, Quin helps Brian and Sydney respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is struggling to love his bigger body. Find Quin Lamar on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thequinlamar  Find Sydney James Harcourt on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sydneyharcourt/  Watch Sydney’s video for his single “Deviant” at https://youtu.be/zj-5akPPvAk?si=NIrBginvf40CiT66  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to [email protected] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa  and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers For a 10% discount on your purchase on a Shakti Acupressure Mat or any other items at ShakitMat.com, use code DADSANDDADDIES or simply visit the URL https://shaktimat.com/DadsAndDaddies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Brian and Judson prepare for this week’s premiere of “The Traitors: New Blood” on NBC and Peacock featuring Dads and Daddies friend and former guest (Season 2, Episode 31), the brilliant immigration attorney and anti-ICE activist Michael Foote as a contestant. Judson returns from a destination wedding in Portugal with gay beach and bathhouse recommendations. Brian succeeds in making his first “hotwifing” experience happen, where he brought together his husband and a previous hookup and watched them hookup together. The Hookup of the Week finds a trans woman taking a leap of faith that results in a magical night. Brian and Judson are then joined by actor Barrett Foa, known for his 12 seasons on “NCIS: Los Angeles” and for his current stint on Broadway playing Mary’s Teacher opposite Bowen Yang in Oh, Mary! Barrett talks about how he has found himself on Broadway after an almost 20-year absence, what it was like to work opposite Meg Stalter and what a happy return it has been after a dozen years working on a crime procedural TV show teeming with alpha male energy. He shares the dilemma he faced as a gay actor on a hit show at the time that celebrities began to come out of the closet in force, and how he found the freedom to live fully out and proud through his discovery of Burning Man. He shares his NCIS co-star Chris O’Donnell’s reaction to learning how important he was to some gay men’s sexual awakenings; he recounts how Burning Man brought him together with his partner of three years who is deaf; and he delves deep into his Daddy Issue with a father who is incapable of giving compliments.Barrett also tells Brian and Judson about his friendship with Kylie Minogue, the incredible work of Every Day Action, the nonprofit of which he’s a founding member and board VP, and he helps respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener whose fiance has just passed away and its looking for guidance on grieving. Find Barrett Foa on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/barrettfoa  Volunteer with or donate to Every Day Action at https://www.youreverydayaction.org/  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to [email protected] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa  and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers For a 10% discount on your purchase on a Shakti Acupressure Mat or any other items at ShakitMat.com, use code DADSANDDADDIES or simply visit the URL https://shaktimat.com/DadsAndDaddies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Judson attends his 25-year high school reunion. Brian begins his attempts to schedule “hotwifing” sessions with two of his favorite hookup partners, one session where he would watch his husband with another man, and one where his husband would watch him. The hookup of the week finds a listener and his partner enjoying some of the best kept secrets one port has to offer while on a family cruise. Brian and Judson are then joined by Andrew Abel, founder and creative director of Gay Tired Hopeful, which "explores the patterns shaping modern queer life, from identity and intimacy to culture, work, and belonging, and the things we’re all quietly trying to figure out." Andrew describes how his professional and personal lives converged to drive him to create Gay Tired Hopeful, shares how his social media post questioning why gay men always act like there’s someone better drove its current popularity, and delves into why ‘Tired’ is an important part of the platform’s name. He also talks about cruising in forests, being raised without rules, and identifying as polyamorous while married to someone who may not be. In closing, Andrew joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is new to topping and has much he’s curious about, particularly when it comes to living up to bottoms’ standards at his regular batthouse. Find Gay Tired Hopeful on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/gaytiredhopeful/  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to [email protected] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa  and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers For a 10% discount on your purchase on a Shakti Acupressure Mat or any other items at ShakitMat.com, use code DADSANDDADDIES or simply visit the URL https://shaktimat.com/DadsAndDaddies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Judson returns from Provincetown with a number of recommendations, not the least of which is his new favorite category of sexual gathering–a bate party. Brian revels in a few kid-free weeks while both of his are off at sleepaway camp and he’s able to make hookups happen when he typically couldn’t. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener discovering to his surprise that twenty-minute hookups–as Brian and Judson have often described–can be fun, hot, fulfilling and not at all rude to the other person. The two are then joined by much-requested repeat hookup, Dr. Evan Goldstein! The leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt is back on Dads and Daddies to answer a number of questions submitted by listeners since his previous appearance nine months ago. Before that, he recounts his personal journey, from his Staten Island childhood in the 70s and 80s, to his surgery residency where he met, fell in love with and married a woman, to meeting his now husband in an online chat room, to his becoming a reluctant parent to twin baby boys, to his close friendship with Martha Stewart. He also talks about turning 50, where his head is about that, and enjoying his Daddy era. He then responds to a number of questions submitted by listeners since his last visit to the show, on topics ranging from douching to STIs to internal scarring as a result of assault to depth play. Find Dr. Evan Goldstein on Instagram at  https://www.instagram.com/drevangoldstein/  Find Bespoke Surgical on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/bespokesurgical/  Find Future Method on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thefuturemethod/  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to [email protected] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa  and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers For a 10% discount on your purchase on a Shakti Acupressure Mat or any other items at ShakitMat.com, use code DADSANDDADDIES or simply visit the URL https://shaktimat.com/DadsAndDaddies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.