Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

Feeling butterflies with a match may seem like a good sign for your romantic future, but many times it's a window to the past. Damona busts The Chemistry Myth so that you can stop missing the  true markers of relationship success and stop second guessing your dating choices. Plus, she answers this spicy Dear Damona question: How fast is too fast to have sex with a new person? Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:10) The Chemistry Myth  (00:00:55) Personal Experience with Chemistry Myth  (00:04:27) Physiological Aspect of Chemistry  (00:05:33) Dear Damona Question on Slow Love  (00:07:42) Tossing out Timelines  (00:08:41) Safe Sex and Boundaries  (00:11:13) Joining the Book Squad  (00:12:24) Conclusion and Invitation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Swipe apps have gamified dating but that doesn’t mean you have to play it their way! Damona dives deep into The Rules Myth with love and relationship experts Ariel Ford and Francesca Hoagie in one of her favorite panels from the F the The Fairy Tale Forum last year. Together they address how singles are hungry for shortcuts to finding love and reveal why this approach may be preventing them from making fulfilling connections. Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! Follow Arielle Ford on Instagram @ArielleFord_author and pick up a copy of her international bestseller, “THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction”. Follow Francesca Hogi on Instagram @DearFranny and check out the Dear Franny Podcast! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Dates & Mates Intro (00:01:06) The rules myth  (00:02:10) Introduction of Ariel Ford and Francesca Hogi  (00:04:34) Defining love  (00:06:30) Navigating dating without rules  (00:09:08) Evolution of relationships  (00:13:13) Existence of soulmates  (00:16:58) Meeting people outside of dating apps  (00:18:02) The potential of organic connections  (00:19:52) Manifesting love and the meet cute mindset  (00:21:36) The abundance mindset and love before first sight  (00:26:06) Dating in midlife and redefining compatibility  (00:29:44) Embracing the process of dating and love skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you date by a list? How’s that going for you? Damona tackles The List Myth in the second episode of the “F The Fairy Tale'' Summer Series. Plus, Damona shares some dating math to illustrate how The List Myth hurts you more than helps you…and what you should focus on instead. Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Intro to the "F the Fairy Tale" summer series. (00:01:09) The list myth  (00:02:21) Narrowing the list  (00:05:55) Importance of leaving reviews  (00:06:58) Announcement of the next episode  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are kicking off the “F The Fairy Tale” Summer Series this week with one of our most-asked questions: Online dating doesn’t work for me. How do I meet my match IRL? Plus, Damona shares dating tips for the summer and her own story of an epic summer romance with a man who went by the name of Mr. Pandemonium. Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Then join our Book Squad! If you review “F The Fairy Tale” and submit it at DamonaHoffman.com/booksquad before July 31st, you’ll be invited to an exclusive Q&A session with Damona! This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jillian Turecki, certified relationship coach and host of the Jillian On Love podcast, joins us for our Dates & Mates Season 11 finale! She and Damona explore why the fantasy of "The One" captivates us, and how this desire often masks a need for personal healing and growth. We are bringing back the Romance Rollback this week with: Surprising Facts About the Evolution of Dating  Then our Dear Damona question this week is: My dates keep ditching me… for my brother! What can I do? Follow Jillian at @JillianTurecki and you can become of member of Jillian’s relationship school by visiting JillianTurecki.com/membership To read the Mental Floss piece on the Evolution of dating visit: mentalfloss.com/article/79140/10-fascinating-facts-about-evolution-dating-and-courtship Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:03:40) The romance rollback  (00:11:28) Introduction of Jillian Turecki  (00:14:52) The myth of the one  (00:20:34) The concept of "the one"  (00:23:50) Reasons for being single  (00:30:04) Challenges in building trust  (00:35:02) The evolving dating landscape  (00:36:08) Missions in relationship coaching  (00:40:16) Making Dating Safer for Women  (00:42:07) The Responsibility of Men in Dating Safety (00:51:38) Impact of Attractiveness of Family Members on Dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Inessa Freya, international feng shui master and spiritual psychologist, reveals how simple changes in your home can attract new romantic possibilities, improve your current relationships, and bring a sense of harmony and balance that radiates from the inside out. Plus, Damona shares why she credits Inessa for being a part of bringing Mr. Hoffman into her life! But first we have a surprising dating dish to serve up for you: Move over healthcare! Could dating apps be the new benefit? Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Dating Burnout is real!!! How do I remain positive when I am struggling to find my match? Follow Inessa on Instagram @Inessa_Freya and learn more about her work by visiting www.fengshuifromtheheart.com Read the Forbes piece: forbes.com/sites/soulaimagourani/2024/06/04/dating-services-as-a-future-company-perk/?sh=5df2e008459a Read the Independent piece: https://sg.news.yahoo.com/tokyo-launch-first-government-run-091413507.html Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. TIMESTAMPS TIMESTAMPS (00:00:15) The introduction to Feng Shui (00:02:24) Dating apps as employee benefits  (00:06:20) Government-sponsored dating apps  (00:08:59) Introduction to Inessa Freya (00:10:36) Understanding Feng Shui  (00:12:39) Personal experiences with Feng Shui (00:18:01) Clearing up energy and finding love (00:19:52) Visualizing love and moving for love (00:24:32) Feng Shui principles and applying them (00:26:33) Decluttering and space clearing  (00:33:13) Space Clearing with Intention  (00:33:47) Impact of Objects on Energy  (00:35:14) Moving and Arranging Items  (00:35:55) Feng Shui Rules for Bed Placement  (00:39:38) Ancient Aspects of Feng Shui  (00:42:00) Maintaining a Positive Dating Mindset  (00:47:35) Challenging Societal Narratives  (00:48:42) Attracting Someone  (00:49:52) Mindset and Clarity  (00:50:50) The Five Dating Loops  (00:51:57) Setting Intentions  (00:53:03) Upcoming Season Finale  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox.  The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder: The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & Dating Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How fast is too fast when dating a new match? Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”. Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_all Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Intro (00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating  (00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating  (00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences  (00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps  (00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating  (00:18:36) Design of dating apps  (00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users  (00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps  (00:22:22) Main character energy in dating  (00:25:57) The practice of dating skills  (00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging  (00:29:11) Bragging on a date  (00:34:22) Brazen Bragging  (00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences  (00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why  (00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating  (00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation  (00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please"  (00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace  (00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love"  (00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life  (00:55:21) Cherishing New Love  (00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mat Boggs, YouTube dating coach, sets you up for your best first date yet as he covers everything from red flags and conversation topics to knowing how much time to invest in a match. The Dating Dish story this week comes from Mashable: Dating Culture Has Become Selfish. How Do We Fix It? Then our Dear Damona question this week is: An old flame invited me to their big birthday bash in Cabo. Should I go? Follow Mat on Youtube @MatBoggs and check out his MANifest Your Man Program by visiting: https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session Read the Mashable story at: mashable.com/article/selfish-dating-app-culture Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:12) First dates: The gateway to new possibilities  (00:01:57) Dating culture: A selfish era  (00:04:35) The capitalist mindset and dating (00:08:45) Rethinking the approach to dating (00:10:22) Do's and don'ts of first dates (00:17:47) Red Flags in Dating  (00:18:38) Internal Repetitive Energy  (00:19:35) Internal GPS System  (00:21:28) Manipulative Behaviors (00:23:04) Vibration for Long-Lasting Love  (00:24:35) Compatibility of Interests  (00:25:42) Mindset and Deal Breakers  (00:26:37) Mindset for Online Dating  (00:29:50) Intentional Action in Dating (00:30:51) Sharing on First Dates  (00:33:30) Whose hands are you going to put this baby into? (00:35:33)Shifting the conversation  (00:36:33) Mel's authentic approach (00:43:46) Dear Damona - Tracy's dilemma  (00:45:17) Damona's advice to Tracy  (00:49:06) Happy Birthday and Letting Go  (00:50:17) Lily Womble Up Next Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, couples therapist and author, lays a foundational framework to deepen connection and self-understanding in her new book “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.” In this episode, she will share specific exercises and prompts to get you thinking about love differently. The Dating Dish story this week comes to you from NBC News: Could an AI Dating Concierge fix your dating life? Then our Dear Damona question this week is: Is it a red flag if my match doesn’t ask me questions about myself? LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off on Tuesday, May 29th. Last chance to enroll in the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram @Dr.Alexandra.Solomon and grab a copy of her new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, Grow and Thrive” Read the NBC News story at: https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/internet/ai-personas-are-future-dating-bumble-founder-says-many-arent-buying-rcna151738 Get it off your chest, with BetterHelp.Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. Dates & Mates is sponsored by Betterhelp. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love. The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool: Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most  Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I get more messages from my matches? LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop Follow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.” Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sara Jane Ho, etiquette expert and host of Netflix’s Mind Your Manners, joins to share the definitive etiquette rules for dating, talking, and texting inspired by her new book. The Dating Dish story this week comes from CNN:  Bumble no longer requires women to make the first move!  Then our Dear Damona question this week is: My match and I are traveling farther than normal to meet. Does that mean our date should last longer? ANNOUNCEMENT: For the first time in a long time, Damona and her team are offering 1-on-1 coaching! Apply to become her next success story at DamonaHoffman.com/application Follow Sara Jane on Instagram @SaraJaneHo and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Mind Your Manners: How to Be Your Best Self in Any Situation”. Read the CNN article for yourself: cnn.com/2024/04/30/tech/bumble-relaunch-men-make-first-move/index.html Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Scott Lyons, host of The Gently Used Human podcast, talks about his new book, “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis & Chaos In Yourself & Others”. This week’s Dating Dish is: HuffPost shares the reasons why we try to “fix” our matches…and what you should probably do instead. Then our Dear Damona question this week is: How can I attract more culturally open matches? Follow Scott on Instagram @DrScottLyons and be sure to grab a copy of his book! Share the love: Get your copy of Damona’s book  F the Fairy Tale on Amazon too and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! HuffPost article https://www.huffpost.com/entry/taylor-swift-fix-him-relationships_l_662a5511e4b005d7bf0cbef0 TIMESTAMPS (00:01:36) Why do we try to fix people in our relationships? (00:08:09) Introduction of Dr. Scott Lyons (00:13:32) Causes of addiction to drama (00:17:24) Origin of addiction to drama (00:18:09) Ecosystem and Turbulence (00:19:27) Numbness and Seeking Sensation (00:24:02) Addiction to Drama and Dating Apps (00:27:00) Attentional Economy and Social Media (00:33:13) Interrupting Peace and News Consumption (00:35:26) Dating App Activation and Frameworks (00:37:21) Awareness and Reflexive Behavior (00:38:01) Avoidance Tactics (00:38:24) Escaping Chaos (00:39:30) Milestones of Healing (00:42:41) Processing Trauma (00:43:42) Belonging and Identity (00:47:02) Cultural Diversity in Dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this all-Dear Damona episode, Damona takes on dating burnout and swipe fatigue by answering your questions, like: Is it a bad sign if my Bumble match is taking more than 3 days to reply? How do I manage expectations with new partners? How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable?  And, is it more difficult to find love after 50? Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! TIMESTAMPS 00:00:07 Is it a bad sign if my bumble match is stuck on his move for days? 00:02:19 How do I manage expectations with new partners?  00:17:27 How do I attract partners that are more financially and emotionally stable? 00:18:30 Dealing with fixer-uppers  00:27:50 Is it more difficult to find love after 50? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Psychic Matchmaker Deborah Graham teaches singles to dial into their own psychic intuition. Plus, she shares her experiences as a psychic matchmaker, and her own story of being intuitively matched as well. Then, she gives a jaw-dropping live, on-air love reading. The Dating Dish this week is: Beware of Digital Body Language while you’re online dating. The Dear Damona questionis: What signs indicate that a person might be leaning towards commitment? Follow her on Instagram @PsychicDeborahGraham and learn more about her work by visiting psychicdeborahgraham.com F the Fairy Tale readers, the Dating Accelerator Program is open for on-going enrollment. Join today and get access to private livestreams with Damona just for VIP clients and Dating Accelerator students at DamonaHoffman.com/program TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 Intuition in Dating 00:02:32 Digital Body Language 00:13:15 Psychic Matchmaker's Introduction 00:14:39 Realization of Psychic Gifts 00:16:05 Limitations of Using Psychic Gifts 00:16:18 Arranged Marriage 00:17:49 Psychic Abilities 00:20:18 Beginning of Psychic Matchmaking 00:23:36 Mission and Intuition 00:25:48 Reading Energy and Intuition 00:27:49 Internal Compass and Muscle Testing 00:30:20 Silence and Energy Communication 00:30:48 Silence and Intuition 00:31:44 Psychic Reading for Producer Lindsey 00:33:27 Revelation about L's Past Relationship 00:38:33 Dating Rules and Intuition 00:41:16 Avoiding Ghosting and Dating Process 00:45:01 Early Phase Dating 00:46:06 Reframing Expectations 00:47:18 Enjoying the Process 00:48:13 Clarity and Guidance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fan favorite guest Mark Groves is back! This time he’s joined by his wife Kylie McBeath, to discuss their amazing new book Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this interview they get to the root of codependency and offer ways to heal trauma and date intentionally. The dating dish story is: The Downside of Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook groups. In Dear Damona a listener asks: Why are there so many fake profiles and how can you avoid getting frustrated with them? Follow Mark @createthelove and Kylie @beingisbeautiful and pick up your copy of Liberated Love (https://read.macmillan.com/lp/liberated-love/) today! Speaking of books - F the Fairy Tale is currently on sale at Amazon. Leave a review on Amazon to have a chance at getting thanked personally on the show! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Keishorne Scott, author and relationship & heartbreak coach, shares his strategies for healing after a breakup and setting boundaries. Plus, he’ll tell you which matches to avoid and which ones are safe to date. The Dating Dish this week is: Speed dating is making a comeback as Gen Z ditches dating apps. USA Today says, we shouldn't be surprised. The Dear Damona question is: What’s the etiquette for messaging a new match? Follow Keishorne on Instagram @KeishorneScott and learn more about his work and books at KeishorneScott.com! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and take advantage of the discounted rate. Then leave a review and Damona may thank you live on-air! TIMESTAMPS (00:01:04) Spring cleaning and new beginnings - Damona discusses the positive aspects of spring and new relationship beginnings. (00:02:37) Speed dating resurgence - Damona discusses the resurgence of speed dating and its comparison to dating apps. (00:08:07) Preparing for speed dating - Damona host provides advice on preparing for speed dating events and engaging in meaningful conversations. (00:12:55) Managing expectations in dating - Damona emphasizes the importance of managing expectations and having a positive mindset in dating. 00:16:15) Introduction to Keishorne Scott - Damona introduces Keishorne Scott, a relationship and heartbreak coach, and discusses his work. (00:16:57) Overcoming heartbreak - Keishorne shares his personal experience with heartbreak and the journey to self-love and healing. (00:18:01) Self Work and Understanding Love - Keishorne discusses the self-work needed before marriage and understanding love. (00:20:00) Masculine and Feminine Gender Roles - Keishorne and Damona debate traditional gender roles in relationships and personal expression. (00:21:18) Types of Men to Avoid - Keishorne explains the "mouse," "bird," "dog," and "lion" archetypes and why to avoid them. (00:23:29) Recognizing Relationship Red Flags - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of communication and addressing personal issues in relationships. (00:28:03) Knowing When to Move On - Keishorne shares insights on recognizing when a relationship has run its course and the importance of mental health. (00:31:20) Healing from Heartbreak - Keishorne discusses the individual nature of healing from heartbreak and the non-negotiable aspect of self-healing. (00:32:49) Dealing with heartbreak and self-love - Keishorne Scott advises taking time to focus on oneself after a breakup. 00:33:40 Overcoming heartbreak and reconnecting with oneself - Damona Hoffman discusses the process of healing and reestablishing one's identity. 00:35:03 The discomfort of healing - Keishorne and Damona explore the discomfort that comes with healing and the importance of seeking support. 00:36:42 Maintaining boundaries - Keishorne and Damona discuss the importance of setting and maintaining personal boundaries in relationships. 00:39:08 Parting words and gratitude - Keishorne expresses gratitude for the discussion and shares insight on the importance of boundaries for personal protection. 00:40:22 Advice for a listener's dating situation - Damona addresses a listener's concerns about texting frequency and dating intentions. 00:47:56 Upcoming episode preview and book promotion - Damona promotes an upcoming episode and a book deal for "F the Fairytale." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Damona’s anniversary episode, her daughter Addie shares what she’s learned about dating and relationships from her parents 17 years of marriage. Then, Addie takes over the Dear Damona segment with dating questions from the next generation of daters that are surprisingly relatable to people of all ages, like: Is it okay to tell a friend that you think the person they are dating isn't a good fit? What are the signs that someone is attracted to you? How do you break up with someone kindly? What’s more important, looks or compatibility? And the Dating Dish of the week is “Lessons Learned: They Married, Divorced and Then Married Their Ex-Spouses Again”. Read the complete article from The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/09/style/ex-spouse-divorced-remarried.html Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! TIMECODES 00:00:00 Introduction 00:01:09 F The Fairy Tale - Think of a Relationship Like a Table 00:03:18 Episode Preview - The Future of Dating, Insights on Dating & Relationships from Damona's Daughter, Addie. 00:04:26 Dating Dish - New York Times: Discussion on couples who married, divorced, and remarried each other. 00:05:40 Story of Leslie and Val navigating religious differences in their relationship. 00:08:11 Story of Jean and Ronnie marrying and divorcing multiple times, and their lessons learned about the importance of being a team in a relationship. 00:10:33 Final take away from the article emphasizes the importance of not overdoing intense emotional conversations in relationships. 00:11:33 Addie Introduction 00:12:35 Addie discusses the current state of dating from a teenager's perspective. 00:13:13 Addie's perspective on the challenges of finding and meeting potential partners outside of school. 00:14:42 Addie's insights on different stages of dating and where people in her class are meeting potential partners. 00:15:45 Addie shares her observations of Damona and Seth's relationship and the importance of humor in relationships. 00:17:45 Addie's thoughts on wanting marriage and kids in the future, and the freedom to design her own dating destiny. 00:20:34 Discussion on the appropriateness of commenting on a friend's relationship and the potential impact on the friendship. 00:23:50 Signs of attraction, including body language, changes in behavior, and the importance of face-to-face interaction. 00:28:50 The importance of honest communication and creating a safe space for sharing feelings during a breakup. 00:33:17 The value of connection, shared experiences, and shared values in deepening chemistry, and the impact of instant attraction in modern dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, the hosts of the Dateable podcast, discuss the true meaning of dating intentionally and how some daters may need to reframe their approach. Our Dating Dish this week is: From swiping to sexting, here is what's really driving Americans in dating today. The Dear Damona question is: What are the signs that it’s time to take a break from dating? Follow Yue and Julie on Instagram @DateablePodcast and be sure to check out Dateable wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan Savage, author and host of The Savage Lovecast, joins Damona in a very special 500th episode to talk about dating trends and predictions for 2024. Then he and Damona take on a spicy Dear Damona & Dan segment with questions like:  - My girlfriend wants to switch things up in the bedroom, but I’m feeling shy. Where do we start?  - And, I don’t want a relationship, but I don’t want a one-night stand. What are my options? Follow Dan on Instagram @DanSavage and check out The Savage Lovecast wherever you listen to Dates & Mates! Share the love: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! TIMESTAMPS The 500th episode (00:00:00) Damona Hoffman reflects on the history of the podcast and celebrates the 500th episode with special guest Dan Savage. Dating trends and predictions for 2024 (00:01:07) Dan Savage discusses 2024 dating trends and shares his newest dating term. The impact of societal developments on dating (00:02:25) Damona reads a portion of her book, "F the Fairy Tale," discussing the impact of societal developments on dating and relationships. The trend of ghosting and flaking (00:08:08) Damona and Dan discuss the increasing trend of ghosting and flaking in dating, and its potential reasons. The influence of politics on dating (00:14:45) Damona and Dan analyze the growing influence of politics on dating and relationships, particularly in the context of an election year. The growing political divide (00:16:07) Discussion on the increasing influence of politics on dating and relationships, particularly regarding women's rights and equality. Polyamory trends and definitions (00:20:32) Exploring the trends and definitions of polyamorous relationships, including statistics and Dan Savage's personal experience. Defining monogamy (00:29:39) Dan Savage's perspective on the definition of monogamy and how it can encompass a range of relationship dynamics, including acknowledging attraction to others. Challenging traditional monogamous norms (00:32:17) Discussion on the flexibility of monogamous relationships and the importance of maintaining intimacy, security, and openness within a partnership. Pegging and Tolley Amory (00:33:53) Dan Savage introduces the term "tolley amory" and discusses the concept of putting up with a partner's infidelity. Advice on Dominance in Sex (00:37:47) Dan Savage provides tips on becoming more dominant in sexual relationships and discusses the psychological aspects of dominance. Initiating Group Sex with Friends (00:47:29) A listener seeks advice on how to hint at the possibility of group sex with a couple they are friends with. The friend zone and hanging out (00:50:08) Discussion about navigating the friend zone and hanging out with someone of interest. Starting fresh after a long-term marriage (00:53:15) Advice for someone who wants to start dating after a 15-year marriage and is unsure about casual dating. Exploring casual relationships and dating apps (00:54:41) Encouragement for exploring casual relationships, using dating apps, and finding the right platform for dating. Getting out of the house and meeting new people (01:00:11) Encouragement to engage in activities outside the house to meet new people and potentially find romantic connections. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Madeleine Reeves, Deputy Editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine, shares key data from their AI & Dating survey, plus tips to navigate the intersection of technology and love. This week’s Dating Dish is: Debunking the Love Languages: A New Look at Romance and Science. And, our Dear Damona question this week is: I’d like to be set up by a friend, but mine say they don’t have matches for me. What should I do? Read the article by visiting: https://neurosciencenews.com/love-relationships-psychology-25556/ Find Madeleine on Instagram @madeleinefrankreeves, Cosmopolitan on Instagram @Cosmopolitan and check out Cosmo & Bumble’s AI & Dating Study for yourself by visiting: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a46574186/ai-dating/ REVIEWS WANTED: Get your copy of F the Fairy Tale on Amazon today and leave a review and Damona could shout you out on an upcoming episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices