Dating Intentionally

Break ups suck. Luckily, we have experts like Amy Chan, who wrote Break Up Bootcamp, to help us through them. In this episode, Amy and I discuss where to start with healing after a break up, the importance of anger in the process of moving on, why it hurts more when a short relationship ends and how to know when a relationship is worth trying to save vs when to let go. We also talked about being friends with an ex and how to know when you're ready to start dating again. Connect with Amy: https://www.instagram.com/missamychan/ Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  About Amy: Amy Chan is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to heal the heart. The Observer calls her "A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw'' and her company has been featured across national media including Good Morning America, Vogue, Glamour, Nightline, The Times, CNN, Fortune and more. Her New York Times featured book, Breakup Bootcamp - The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, published by Harper Collins, was an instant best-seller. She is launching a new Dating Bootcamp this summer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Worried you're heading into situationship territory? This episode breaks down what a situationship is, what it isn't and why they're not ideal. I get into 10 different signs you're heading into a situationship and how to steer clear of them altogether. This episode is your guide for what to do and NOT do when you feel like the person you're dating is not on the same page but wants to keep dating anyway. Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? Find out in this episode. At the end, I share some personal updates and wedding updates! I also answer questions about situationships in this episode: How long is too long to be dating without commitment?  Should you keep a situationship while dating others for something serious? What if I’m comfortable with how it is not labeled? Can I roll with it until there’s a change? How do you transition from a situationship to a relationship? How to avoid situationships without being pushy How to stay strong when they come back Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I talk to dating coach and former psychologist Jackie Glaser about how our inner world and the stories we tell ourselves dictate so much of how our lives unfold - especially when it comes to dating. We get into how to feel our self-worth, how to date when you feel like no one has ever been interested in you, showing up authentically on dates and so much more. This was such a powerful conversation and I love Jackie's spiritual approach to dating! Connect with Jackie Glaser: https://www.instagram.com/jackieglaserofficial/?hl=en Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you know you're ready to date? How do you start dating if you've never done it before? This episode is the pep talk you need to get out there (or back out there) with a healthy mindset and knowing what to expect. I talk about how to know you're ready to date vs how to know you're ready for a relationship, my best advice for having the right mindset going into dating after a long break and practical tips for getting dates on the calendar and feeling more confident. You got this!! Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're looking to feel more comfortable and confident during sex, this episode is for you. I talk to Claire Perelman, a certified sex therapist and one of my favorite creators on social media, about navigating sex with a new partner, approaching sexual situations when you're newly out as queer, and creating safety while enjoying physical intimacy. We also talk about her coming out story, how to properly give feedback to a sexual partner, healing from sexual trauma, and so much more. At the end of this episode, we answer a listener's question about dating someone who's not a great texter. Use code PODCAST for a discount on my course/workshop on How To Identify Your Needs MAY 6 WORKSHOP: https://dateintentional.samcart.com/products/figure-out-needs  COURSE: https://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4/checkout More places to connect with me: Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Full show notes: https://intentionally.dating/claire-perelman/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  About Claire Perelman Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist living and working in the Bay Area. She is passionate about helping people rediscover play, pleasure, and abundance in their sexuality. Relationships have been the source of her greatest pleasure and heartbreak, which led her to specialize in working with couples, individuals, and polycules around sex and intimacy. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rejection will happen in your dating life, so you better be prepared! These ten reminders will help you stay grounded and positive when rejection happens, and I hope by listening to this, you'll be able to shake it off faster. Which reminder did you need to hear the most? DM me on IG and let me know! @dating.intentionally. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you curious about manifestation? Do you want to learn how to have more of an abundance mentality? In this episode, I talk to business coach Tiffany Cheung about how to tap into your own magnetism, embrace an abundance mentality, and how she approaches dating as a single parent to a 9 y/o. Tiffany shares her story about overcoming financial hardship, being on her own with a child as a teen mom, and healing from trauma. Her journey has had a lot of ups and downs, but it has led her to build a successful coaching business and dating life she loves. You'll learn tips for being more approachable in the wild, being unapologetic about what you want, and dating as a single parent. I know you'll love this convo! Connect with Tiffany: https://www.instagram.com/tiffanycheung.co/?hl=en Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Show notes: https://intentionally.dating/episode-64/ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  About Tiffany Cheung Tiffany Cheung is an Asian, queer, ADHD business coach from the SF Bay Area, a business coach manifestation expert, published author x2, and podcast host of the Social Reset Podcast. Tiffany is leading a revolution rooted in breaking women of color out of limiting boxes. She helps them develop their self-expression and teaches business through a mind-body-soul approach. She started her business in 2020 after years of struggling as a single mom living off of food stamps. Today, Tiffany runs a nearly 7-figure business, working closely with first-generation, heart-centered women to build businesses that create logic-defying results. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I've seen it repeatedly in my dating life and heard stories about people withdrawing after sex from the Dating Intentionally community. For some reason, after you have sex with someone you're newly dating, they tend to pull away. Why does this happen? This episode lays out the five most common reasons this happens and what you can do it about it in the future when/if this happens to you again. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you tried tracking your dates? This episode features Jillian Romero Chaves, the founder of Clara For Daters (Not A Dating App), which lets daters track their dates and stay accountable. Jillian talks about how taking notes on her dates using Clara helped her (and other users) gain clarity in the process and make more informed decisions. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  About Jillian Romero Chaves Jillian Romero Chaves is a dynamic visionary who has pioneered transformative changes in the dating and relationship health landscape. As the Founder and CEO of Clara for Daters, she leads a revolution that empowers individuals to make informed, purposeful choices in their dating lives. Check out Clara For Daters: https://www.clarafordaters.com/ Connect with Jillian: https://www.instagram.com/clarafordaters Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating outside your type seems to work for many people, but how do you do it? And what if it leads to dates where there's no attraction? This episode walks you through all my tips and tricks for dating outside your type and how to navigate a lack of attraction when it happens. I also share my experience, my type, and how my fiance doesn't fit into it at all. Thank you to everyone who shared what their type is on Instagram! You can slide into my DMs anytime: @dating.intentionally. My type: https://www.instagram.com/p/CexiXgIL33l/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"If he wanted to he would" is one of the worst dating rules and on this episode Ali Jackson, the host of Finding Mr. Height, shares why. We also get into what happened when I hired Ali as a dating coach 2 years ago, dating through grief, meeting dates IRL, how to stop minimizing parts of yourself in dating, Ali's personal dating "rules" and so much more. Ali is a wealth of knowledge and you're going to love her practical dating advice!  Follow Ali: https://www.instagram.com/findingmrheight/?hl=en Slide into my DMs: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Get all Dating Intentionally Episodes on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/DIPodcast About Ali Jackson: Ali Jackson is an NYC-based dating & relationship coach who’s been there, in the trenches, looking for her person. She’s learned to own her needs, embrace her feelings, and communicate both directly. And she’s helping you do the same! Because when you ask for what you want, you just might get it. You can find her on social media @findingmrheight and on her website findingmrheight.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

While we spend so much time looking out for red flags in early dating, we have to pay attention to green flags too! This episode features my top 10 green flags to look out for in dating, as well as more green flags submitted to the pod from the Dating Intentionally community on IG. As you listen to these green flags, I want you to reflect on whether or not YOU embody them as well. You know what they say: you need to have the qualities in a partner that you want. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When do you talk about income? How do you approach dating if you're in debt? Is it a red flag if they bring up crypto? These are just a few topics money coach Delyanna Barros and I discuss in this episode. You'll learn how and when to bring up essential topics around finances in early dating, what red and green flags to look for and how to talk about money in a playful way. Follow Delyanne: https://www.instagram.com/delyannethemoneycoach/ Get the 90-Day Money Slay Guide: https://delyannethemoneycoach.com/get-started/ Slide into my DMs: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Get all Dating Intentionally Episodes on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/DIPodcast About Delyanne Barros: Delyanne Barros is an investing coach and the founder of Delyanne The Money Coach LLC. Growing up poor and as a Brazilian-born immigrant, she believed that money was something extremely difficult to earn, manage, and grow. After paying off $150,000 in student loan debt and becoming a millionaire she now shares her knowledge with over 500,000 followers across all her social media platforms. Her signature program, Slay the Stock Market, teaches new investors how to become financially independent and retire early and has over 5,700 students enrolled. She has been named one of the most influential voices of money by Time and she was also the host of Diversifying, the first personal finance podcast produced by CNN. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode breaks down exactly how to approach hard conversations with someone you're romantically involved with so you never have to say the dreaded words "we need to talk." Listen to the full episodes for my scripts, tips, and mistakes to avoid when starting serious conversations, as well as my experiences doing this with an avoidant and securely attached partners. This episode will help you whether you're single, newly dating someone, or in a relationship. Episode 31 about love bombing: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6NAHgL1v8qivTCUQe6r604?si=15570c53bb90402a Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would you still want to date someone after going through their phone or talking to their mom before going out with them? In this episode, we hear from Alli Goldberg, the mastermind and host of the incredible live comedy show Love Isn't Blind. We discuss how she came up with the concept of a dating show where men can't speak, why she's over dating apps, and what she's learned about how men and women date from running Love Isn't Blind. We also learn how to make dating fun by following your interests instead of going out to try to meet someone. At the end, I talk about my experience at Love Isn't Blind here in Berekely, CA and I'm going again in SF on May 18th! Connect with Alli: https://www.instagram.com/alli_goldi Check out Love Isn't Blind: https://www.loveisntblind.co/ Slide into my DMs: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Join Dating Intentionally on Patreon for all solo episodes: https://www.patreon.com/DIPodcast About Alli Goldberg Allison Goldberg is a comedian and creator whose work has been covered by LA Magazine, Good Morning America, The Savage Lovecast, WIRED, NPR, The LA Times, and more. Most recently, she sold her live comedy show How To Break Up By Text to Audible. In that show and format, celebrities perform your break-up texts, and then an expert joins as we break down your break-up. Guests for season 1 included Bobby Moynihan, Margaret Cho, Iliza Shlesinger, and many others. For the past year, she's been hosting her newest creation, Love Isn't Blind, a comedy/dating show where the men can't speak.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever gotten the ick in dating? In this episode, you'll learn what the ick is, the three categories of icks, and how to tell if your icks are dealbreakers. I also talk about why you get the ick later on in a relationship sometimes and how I addressed mine in my current relationship. Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like your expectations are too high? Maybe they are, maybe they aren't. Listen in on this amazing conversation with Damona Hoffman, who's been a dating coach for over 15 years. We talk about her new book, "F The Fairy Tale" and the four dating myths, specifically the myth about dating rules. I love what Damona has to say about embracing the messiness in dating, how expectations set us up for constant disappointment and why being realistic isn't the same thing as settling. We also talk about dating apps, dating outside of your race and navigating familial and cultural expectations in dating. Connect with Damona: https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/ Get Damona's book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1541602250 Connect with me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Join the Patreon for new solo episodes: https://www.patreon.com/DIPodcast About Damona Hoffman Celebrity Dating Coach Damona Hoffman has been coaching singles on how to find love online and offline for over 15 years. Her articles appear regularly in The LA Times and The Washington Post. Plus, she’s a regular on-air contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and NBC’s Access Daily. Damona also starred in two A+E Networks’ TV shows: #BlackLove and A Question of Love. Her weekly podcast Dates & Mates has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Huff Post, Bustle and tops the charts in the Relationships category on the major podcast platforms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been ghosted? Afraid of getting ghosted in the future? This episode has you covered with exactly what to do (and not do) when you inevitably get ghosted, as well as my thoughts on why people do it in the first place. If you tend to ghost people, this episode will walk you through how to stop doing that and start sending anti-ghost texts instead. My anti-ghost texts: https://www.instagram.com/p/C2VJ8QOxRtv/?img_index=1 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating after a divorce or a big breakup can feel daunting, confusing, and overwhelming. In today's episode, life and dating coach Sade Curry discusses how to navigate dating after divorce, discover your needs in a partner, and enjoy the process of getting to know new people. Sade also discusses how she met her husband on Bumble after her divorce. Follow Sade Curry: https://www.instagram.com/sadecurry/ Connect with me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ About Sade Curry: Sade Curry is a Life Coach and host of the Dating after Divorce podcast. She coaches and teaches women real strategies for recovering from divorce, and finding love again. Her coaching philosophy is to help women succeed by practicing personal leadership and autonomy in their life, work and relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it mean to settle? Is accepting someone as they are the same thing as settling? This episode breaks down the difference between the two in dating and relationships, and why practicing acceptance is so important. I also get to a few questions about this topic in the episode that you asked me on Instagram! Connect with me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Get my dating troubleshooting guide: http://eepurl.com/ihTMYj Get instant access to my course on identifying your needs: https://dating-intentionally.mykajabi.com/offers/2NMTrWo4  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices