Dating Intentionally

In this episode, I'm answering YOUR dating dilemmas! Hear three real issues from daters just like you. The first question is about what to do after having sex on date two... and they've fallen off the face of the earth after being so charming (ugh). The second one is about moving on after an amazing experience with a great guy who just didn't have time for commitment. And the last one is from a woman going through a divorce while having a friends with benefits situation who also just can't commit. Should she keep it going or walk away? Listen to the full episode for my advice for these relatable dating situations! Submit a question: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're dating or have a partner, we can't overlook the most important relationship you'll ever have: the one with YOU. In this episode, you'll learn how to practice self-acceptance and compassion, why I don't believe in "just loving yourself," and how this affects your dating life. You'll also get tons of practical tips for beating negative self-talk, developing your relationship with yourself, and becoming your own secure base so you can date with more confidence. Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we feel so anxious when waiting for a text from someone we just started dating? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down exactly why texting in early dating causes so much anxiety and how to address it so it doesn't consume your body and mind. Sabrina and I get into the role texting plays in dating and the journey she had with her boyfriend who's absolutely NOT into texting at all. We also talk about what she's working on now as someone with anxiety in a relationship, how to navigate sleeping together on the first date and so much more. Submit a question: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  About Sabrina: Sabrina Zohar is a dynamic entrepreneur and dating coach best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. With a no-nonsense approach to relationship advice, the podcast has ranked in the top 0.05% globally, offering practical tips backed by licensed psychologists to help listeners improve their dating lives through self-worth and personal growth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you want to prioritize IRL connections, this episode is for you. I'm deep-diving into exactly where real people who listen to this podcast are meeting other single people to connect with and date! This episode will leave you feeling inspired to leave your house one way or another, whether that involves signing up for salsa classes or taking yourself out on a date once a week. I also get into how to start conversations and various ways to tell if the cutie you're chatting with is single or not. Get my free IRL dating starter kit with over 20 conversation starters! https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/irl-dating-kit How to get asked out ft. Blaine Anderson Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before you download a dating app for the first time or maybe 100th time, listen to this solo episode. I'm sharing three essential tips for making your profile work for you, keeping your mindset in check and messaging so you actually get off the apps and onto more dates! Want to skip all the trial and error on dating apps? Check out my NEW course on mastering dating apps called Swipe Match Date! Use code PODCAST at checkout for a discount. Dating App Episodes Genny Diehl - episode 33 Erika Ettin - episode 74 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get out your tarot cards, crystal balls, and astrology charts! We're making predictions for what dating in 2025 will be like - share yours in the comments if you're listening on Spotify. In this episode, you'll hear dating predictions from friends of the podcast - all their IG accounts are linked below. I loved this collection of predictions. Everyone thinks dating is moving away from the screen and toward real-life connections, among other things. I'm so excited to see how 2025 dating actually plays out. Get 15% off Jenni Kayne when you use code DATING15! https://www.jennikayne.com/ Claire Perelman @sexclarified Julia Mazur @pmdpod Erika Ettin @alittlenudge Ali Jackson @findingmrheight Amy Chan @missamychan Lauren Josephine @lookingforsomethingserious Damona Hoffman @damonahoffman Benjamin Camras @benjamincamras Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by guest Sam Whitney, author of How To Date Authentically, to discuss what it means to date to be happy vs just trying to be right. Sam shares practical tips on dating with authenticity, improving your listening skills and other tools you need to develop to make real connections in your dating journey. I love Sam's unique perspective on the dating process and I know you will too! Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15 https://www.jennikayne.com/ Get Sam's book! https://www.amazon.com/How-Date-Authentically-Dating-Lasting/dp/1940498392 Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"If he wanted to he would" and "It will happen when you least expect it" are just two examples of the dating advice we're so done with. In this episode, I'm sharing what dating advice floating around the internet is unhelpful and why, and what to focus on instead that will actually get you closer to your goals of getting into a secure, healthy long term relationship. The advice that works is based on what other listeners have found success with - not just my experience. I'd love to hear from you! What advice are you so done with hearing? Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wonder what it's like to use dating apps for the first time in your 40's when you're already a parent and going through a divorce? My mom, Daniella Landau, shares her dating intentionally story after getting separated and divorced. She describes her approach to dating apps, how she met her husband on OkCupid, and more. Daniella also shares her experience with breaking up and getting back together with her husband before they got married, and what it took to transform their relationship. She also shares details about how they approached introducing each other to their kids. It was an amazing conversation and I hope you enjoy it! Connect with Daniella on IG: https://www.instagram.com/happy_in_transit/ Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of every guest episode, I ask, what do you want to see more of in dating culture? Past guests have shared a variety of interesting answers, from more empathy to seeing more enthusiasm for butt stuff. Today, I'm answering the question myself! I want to see more women making the first move, more compassion for all daters (dating is hard for everyone!), and more self-compassion, among other things I discuss in this episode. In the comments, share what you want to see more of in dating culture! Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC  Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/  Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm breaking down the most common early dating mistakes and what you can do to avoid them. Whether you're new to dating or you've been at it for awhile, this episode will help ensure you're not accidentally holding yourself back, self-sabotaging or sending the wrong message to potential partners. Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15! https://www.jennikayne.com/ -- Episodes mentioned: Stay grounded in early dating Tips for slowing down in early dating Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Watch on YT: https://youtu.be/VugvsOJbLNs Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm answering three dating questions from listeners dealing with confusing behavior, imbalances in a relationship, and uncertainty about moving forward in a new situation. I love answering your questions! We had five dates. Then he left for a work trip. I haven't heard from him. What to do? I'm the only one who brings up deep conversations in my relationship. Can I ask him to start initiating them more? I'm starting to realize my date is a big drinker and I'm not. How to end it? As always I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments if you're listening on Spotify! ' Get 15% off Jenni Kayne this holiday season! Use code DATING15 at checkout. https://www.jennikayne.com/ Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/eozMHfkBgA0 Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  #datingadvice #datingtips #dating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you know if it's your gut telling you to do something or if it's just anxiety? In this episode, guest Amanda White and I get into a variety of topics like navigating dating advice on social media, getting out of the comparison trap, doing less in our love lives and more. Amanda shares so many practical tips for embracing ambiguity, sitting in the discomfort of indecision and how to lean into your intuition rather than listen to your anxiety. At the end, we talk about her new substack, Fence Sitter, and her tips for figuring out whether or not to have children (something I'm dealing with right now). I love Amanda's unique perspective and I know you're going to learn a ton from her! Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15! https://www.jennikayne.com/ Connect with Amanda: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen/?hl=en Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  About Amanda White: Amanda is an author, and the founder and director of Therapy for Women Center, a therapy practice based out of Philadelphia with therapists across the country. She teaches women how to set boundaries and engage in real self care and she quit drinking in 2014. Whether you are interested in sobriety, boundaries, self care, or something in between, Amanda has relatable and actionable mental health tips for you.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello from NYC! In this episode, I cover one of the trickiest parts of dating: identifying a good match. You'll get practical tips on what to look for in a partner, why finding a good match can be so challenging, and how to assess compatibility after the first few dates. You'll learn what defines a good match, three major obstacles to finding the right person and how to have an open mind when it comes to dating and meeting new people. I also get into key signs of compatibility. At the end I answer a listener’s question about casual dating after a breakup and setting boundaries around intimacy while navigating a new dating landscape. Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're in a relationship with someone who is avoidantly attached, or if you have this attachment style, this episode is for you. I got to talk to Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist, about the difference between manipulative and ethical avoidant attachment, signs someone is avoidant, and how to navigate a relationship with someone who is avoidant. You’ll hear about how Adam helps clients heal their avoidant attachment and so much more. At the end, Adam shares how to bring up the topic of attachment styles with a partner who is avoidantly attached. Let me know your thoughts in the comments! Follow Adam on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/  Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  About Adam: With an unwavering belief in the transformative power of secure attachment to help right many social ills facing the modern world, Adam has amassed a dedicated following of over 550,000 on social media. Together, they're rewriting the belief about how human connection is supposed to function. Adam teaches honesty, direct communication, clear boundaries, measurable levels of trust, and other means of building secure and healthy relationships. Drawing from his wealth of clinical experience and personal insight, Adam offers a unique perspective on the essential role of attachment in our lives. His engaging podcast episodes on the I Wish You Knew podcast and his online presentations during livestreams and recorded video media have inspired individuals, couples, and families around the world to embrace the journey of repairing their relationships and fostering secure attachments. Visit Adam’s website: https://adamlanesmith.com/  Connect with Adam on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I'm sharing tips on making the most of a holiday season when you're single (again), how to be sparkier and create chemistry on dates and what to do when someone is trying to bench you or save you for later. Listen and hear my answer to these questions: I'm single on the holidays for the 3rd year in a row. What should I do? How can I build more chemistry on first dates? I've been dating someone who's about to deploy. How to move forward? Episodes mentioned: #43 - How to build chemistry and stop chasing sparks Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally My Identify Your Needs course: http://bit.ly/4e2nwGC Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://intentionally.dating/gift/ Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP  #dating #datingadvice #datingadviceforwomen #datingadviceformen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you’ll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don’t feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You’ll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibility for your own pleasure. At the end, we get into what has become a huge topic in recent years: mental load and how it can negatively affect your sex life. Follow Vanessa and Xander on IG: https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/  Visit Vanessa and Xander’s website: https://vmtherapy.com/  Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP About Vanessa and Xander: Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and Xander is a regular dude who’s here to show you that you don’t need a graduate degree or license to have extraordinary intimacy. Together, they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which is an NYT best seller, and they host the podcast, Pillow Talks, available on all platforms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on: 1. “He texts too much, but I'm not sure if it has to do with his mental health.” 2. “We're long distance, but can't decide who should move." 3. “How do I heal from a confusing situationship?” Get 15% off Jenni Kayne with code DATING15 > https://www.jennikayne.com/ Episodes mentioned: #30. Texting 101: How to navigate texting in early dating #93. Why you need momentum in early dating (and how to create it) Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Knowing when to end a relationship is tricky, especially if there’s no glaring dealbreaker—sometimes, it’s just not the right fit. How do you know when it’s time to move on? In this episode, I’m breaking down how to decide whether to keep dating someone or walk away, whether you’re just a few dates in or have been in a relationship for years. I’ll share tips for recognizing signs that it’s over, how to decide with compassion and practical advice for breaking things off based on where you are in your dating journey. I also share my personal experience and exact scripts to start the break up conversation. Get 15% off at Jenni Kayne with promo code DATING15 - https://www.jennikayne.com/ Episodes mentioned: Ep 93: Why you need momentum in early dating (and how to create it) Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on these relatable dating scenarios and questions: 1. "If I'm so amazing (his words) why won't he date me?” 2. “I said we should just be friends, but now I’m interested in more.” 3. “How do I handle bad dating advice from family and friends?” We also have an update from last week's episode from the woman who found out about her date's divorce before he told her. Submit a dating dilemma: https://forms.gle/xCmAWvDPGJdr3rFz9  Slide into my DMs on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dating.intentionally/ Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dating.intentionally Get my free dating FAQ guide: https://datingintentionally.myflodesk.com/free-guides Read more on the blog: https://intentionally.dating/blog-posts/  Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dating.Intentionally Rate on Apple: https://t.ly/JJgpP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices