Dear Clementine

This week in the Dear Clementine inbox: My relationship of 18 years has come to an end. I have no idea what to do with myself. I gave my partner everything and sacrificed so much - how do I find myself again after all this time? Tween / teen girls are nightmares - fact or fiction? What should I say to those suggesting later diagnosis of ADHD in women is a fad? If you have a question for Clementine, send her an email at dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au CREDITSExecutive Producer: Edwina StottAudio Production: Adrian WaltonManaging Producer: Elle Beattie For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.auSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's questioner has been in her relationship for the last 10 years, she still loves her partner but feels like she's losing her identity & is trapped in the relationship. She doesn't want to end it because they're the 'golden couple' within their friends & family. She needs a little advice. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question comes from a high school teacher who's concerned that the young women she teaches only have one aspiration - to get married. How can she work with them to help them aspire for more? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you move on when you can't stop thinking about them? Clem advises. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special episode, Clementine is joined by Dr Sarah White, CEO of Jean Hailes to answer a few of your questions around menopause & peri menopause. They talk stigma, mental health, libido & HRT. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode briefly mentions suicide. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  ADDITIONAL INFORMATIONAustralian Menopause SocietyJean Hailes on MenopauseCREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's question comes from a listener who's sick of her friendly demeanour being mistaken for flirting. Why do men constantly make this assumption & how should she respond to them?If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our questioner is ready to leave her partner of 8 years but is unsure how to. She no longer feels the sexual attraction & is doing most of the domestic work at home. The problem is she has no savings & is studying so she's unsure on how to the separation happen practically. Clem advises. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of eating disorders. This question comes from a concerned listener who believes her colleague may be suffering from an eating disorder. She's concerned the colleague needs help, but that others in the office are continually commenting on her appearance & adding to the problem. So what should she do? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! ADDITIONAL SUPPORTThe Butterfly FoundationFind out more about the helplines available CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's question is from a listener who seems to have left all her hobbies in her 20's. Now she's 40 with kids & isn't as motivated to jump into activities as she used to be. She's missing her old self & would like some advice. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The question today comes from a mother who's concerned her mothers group have outdated views when it comes to the parenting responsibilities of men. How can she correct them & draw their attention to the fact that this should be a 50/50 partnership without coming across as rude? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This one is from a person whose partner has been having an emotional affair with a 22yo colleague. They've stayed together for a little while after the affair, but now they feel like it's time to go. The only thing hold them back is their daughter. Will they blow their life up by leaving & how can they be sure that what's on the other side will be better? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today's question comes from a woman who's finding the automatic cordiality between men grating. Is the 'hey mate' language that's rarely directed at women a sign of our 'boy's club' culture? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our listener today depends on her mother for child care but is finding it difficult to maintain the relationship given her mother's troubling views. How can she stay true to herself & also the reality that she needs to keep her mother in her life given the practicalities?  If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The question today is from someone who no longer feels connected to their legal name. Their given name is a biblical one & they are no longer religious. Plus their name has never really felt like 'them' anyone. Should they change it or will they end up regretting it? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our questioner today is someone who's been discussing the premise of Clementine's latest book, 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' with her friends. While they all agree with the idea that marriage is an outdated, patriarchal construct, her friends do still get married & become wives. How can she support them while being firm in her beliefs? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains discussion of sexual assault.Today's question is from a listener who's been on a few nice dates with a man, but on their last date, when things went further & they were having sex, he didn't wear a condom even though she'd asked him to. He made his excuses, but she still feels uneasy. Does this incident make him a bad person? Is she over-reacting & how can she trust men in the bedroom again? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Get Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question is from a person who's ready to leave their partner, but is worried about the impact on their kids - will they suffer if their dad's not around? Will they be picked on from coming from a 'broken home'? Clem advises. If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our question comes from a woman who got married 10 years ago & changed her name without really thinking about it. A decade later, she regrets the decision & wants to change it back to her maiden name. Her husband says she's being ridiculous. Is she?  If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage' now! CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's marriage week on Dear Clementine to celebrate the release of Clementine's latest book 'I Don't: The Case Against Marriage'. All week Clementine will be answering your questions around marriage & sharing the phenomenal knowledge she's gathered in the process of writing the book. Today's question is from a woman who's 29 & entering the phase in her life where many of her friends & colleagues are getting married - whilst she's happy for them, she doesn't want to get married & is growing resentful of the fact that these couples are being celebrated for living a 'traditional life'. She fears fading into the background because she's chosen to opt out. How should she negotiate these feelings? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book here. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This question comes from a woman expecting a baby boy. While there are some wonderful role models in her life, her brothers are absolutely not. She doesn't want to cut them out of her life but she also doesn't want them around her son. What should she do? If you have a question for Clementine, send an email to dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au  Pre order Clementine's new book 'I Don't' here. CREDITS Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie  For more great Nova Podcasts head to novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.