Money isn’t just about rands and cents — it’s about what it represents in our lives: freedom, happiness, survival, control, or even shame. In this episode of Dear Mom, Dear Daughter, Athi and Mtha unpack the psychology of money, the emotional toll of debt, and how cultural and generational factors shape the way South African women think about finances.From the thrill of “buying power” in Athi’s generation to navigating credit, soft life culture, and financial pressure today, this honest conversation explores the lessons we’ve learnt — and the ones we’re still learning. We talk about scarcity vs abundance mindsets, the impact of debt on self-esteem, and how mothers and daughters can break cycles of financial struggle by having open, honest conversations.Whether you’re navigating black tax, trying to save, or just reflecting on your relationship with money, this episode will help you rethink what money really means in your life.🎧 Listen now on Spotify, YouTube, and all podcast platforms.
South Africa is rich in heritage, yet more and more young Black South Africans are growing up speaking less and less of their mother tongues. What does this mean for our cultural identity, our traditions, and the future of who we are?In this episode, Athi (a mom and psychologist) and Mtha (her daughter and broadcaster) share their personal reflections on growing up in a multicultural household (Nigerian & Xhosa), the decline of indigenous languages, and the tension between assimilation and preservation.We explore:Why African languages are fading in urban South AfricaThe paradox of freedom in a democratic SA but dominance of EnglishThe stigma and mystique around African traditions and spiritualityHow to balance modern life with preserving culture and heritagePractical ways to reconnect with language, identity, and practicesThis is a heartfelt, reflective conversation on identity, heritage, and what it means to be African today — and tomorrow.#CulturalIdentity #AfricanLanguages #DearMomDearDaughter #SouthAfricanPodcast #HeritageDay #MotherDaughterPodcast
For generations, many Black moms avoided “the talk” with their daughters — choosing silence, shame, or fear instead. In this raw and honest episode, Athi (a mom and psychologist) and Mtha (her daughter and broadcaster) unpack why conversations about boys, love, and sex are so difficult, and how we can start having them differently.We share our own experiences of how “the talk” (or lack of it) shaped us, and explore:Why sex is still taboo in many householdsThe double standards between girls and boysHow silence breeds shame and guilt in daughtersWhen and how to have age-appropriate, respectful conversations about relationshipsHow to normalise consent, safety, and even pleasure without fearPlus, we play a light-hearted Truth or Myth game, busting some of the most controversial sex myths parents and daughters still believe.This is not a lecture — it’s an invitation to open the door to awkward but essential conversations that could change the way families talk about love, sex, and relationships forever.#SexEducation #ParentingPodcast #DearMomDearDaughter #MotherDaughterPodcast #AfricanParenting
Friendship breakups can hurt even more than romantic ones. In this episode, we unpack why losing a best friend can shake your identity, how to know when it’s time to let go, and how to heal without guilt.We explore:Why friendship breakups are so painful and often overlookedRed flags to watch for in friendships — jealousy, competition, misalignmentWhen to walk away and when to fight for the friendshipHow to protect your peace while still honouring the love that was therePersonal stories of friendship breakups that changed our livesWe also tackle listener dilemmas on drifting friendships and letting go of toxic friends.This is a heartfelt conversation for anyone navigating the grief, growth, and healing that comes with friendship breakups.Listen to Dear Mom, Dear Daughter for raw, intimate conversations between a mother (psychologist) and daughter (broadcaster) about life, love, and everything in between.#FriendshipBreakups #ToxicFriendships #LettingGo #MotherDaughterPodcast #DearMomDearDaughter
This week, we’re keeping it real. From growing up watching our mothers wrestle with body image to facing our own struggles with weight, skin tone, hair politics and the pursuit of “perfection,” we share our personal stories of living under society’s beauty standards.We talk about the honesty (and sometimes bluntness) in our culture around bodies, the impact of colourism as Black women, and how trends like fillers, BBLs, and filters shape the way we see ourselves.No scripts, no preaching — just two generations sharing raw, unfiltered experiences about beauty, self-worth, and learning to love what we see in the mirror.#BeautyStandards #BodyImage #Colourism #SelfLove #DearMomDearDaughter
Mental health isn’t a trend — but on social media, it’s starting to feel like one. In this episode of Dear Mom, Dear Daughter, we explore how online platforms like TikTok and Instagram have popularised psychological terms like “narcissist,” “gaslighting,” “toxic,” and “trauma” — but with little understanding of what they actually mean.Is your ex really a narcissist? Or were you just hurt?Is your anxiety clinical — or the completely valid stress of being human in a difficult world?We break down the most overused mental health buzzwords with insight from a real psychologist (hi, Mom!) and unpack how self-diagnosis, “psych talk,” and mental health language have exploded in pop culture — often without the depth, care, or nuance that real healing requires.You’ll learn:The difference between pop culture psychology and actual clinical disordersHow to support loved ones with real mental health conditionsThe importance of empathy and education, not just labelsWhy real self-care is more than skincare and soft lightingHow to start looking inward, not just outwardWhether you're a daughter trying to understand your emotions or a mother learning to support your teen through theirs, this is an episode about mental health, emotional growth, and the language of healing — without the filters.🎧 Available on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all major platforms.#DearMomDearDaughter #MentalHealthPodcast #SouthAfricanPodcast #BlackMentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #PsychologyExplained #MotherDaughterHealing
What did discipline teach you growing up — and is that still the lesson you carry today?In this deeply reflective episode of Dear Mom, Dear Daughter, we unpack the difference between discipline and punishment, and explore how many South African homes confused fear for respect. We open up about our own childhood experiences with discipline, how it shaped us, and how we’re reimagining parenting and boundaries in today’s world.From the “go fetch the belt” culture to the quiet harm of emotional shutdowns, we ask:How can parents lead with firmness and love?How do you discipline without breaking connection?This episode is for every parent, daughter, and cycle-breaker trying to figure out a better way. One where children feel safe, respected, and still guided.Stream the full conversation now on YouTube and all podcast platforms.#DearMomDearDaughter #DisciplinePodcast #ParentingPodcast #SouthAfricanPodcast #BlackMothers #ConsciousParenting #MotherDaughterHealing #BoundariesNotFear #ModernParenting
Setting boundaries shouldn't feel like betrayal — but in many mother-daughter relationships, it does. In this episode of Dear Mom, Dear Daughter, we have an honest, emotional and nuanced conversation about the quiet guilt mothers carry when trying to do their best, and the pressure daughters feel to meet expectations, avoid disappointment, and still become their own person.From emotional labour and the myth of the "perfect mom," to people-pleasing daughters and the art of saying no with love — we unpack the real tension between love, identity and autonomy in families. We reflect on what it means to raise and be raised in a South African home, where generational expectations often collide with modern boundaries.We also discuss:Why setting boundaries is a gift, not a rejectionHow mom guilt shows up silently — and how to manage itThe pressure on daughters to be everything, all the timeThe healing power of open, awkward conversationsIf you're navigating your own mother-daughter relationship, trying to break cycles without breaking hearts, or just want to feel seen — this one’s for you.Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments. We’re building a space for real, raw and relatable conversations — and you belong here.#motherdaughterpodcast #momguilt #settingboundaries #southafricanpodcast #generationalhealing
South Africa is one of the most dangerous places in the world to be a woman, with gender-based violence (GBV) affecting women and girls at every stage of life. In this heartfelt episode, we unpack how it feels to raise daughters — and be daughters — in a country where safety is never guaranteed.We explore:The heartbreaking stories of Olorato Mongale and CwecweThe emotional toll of growing up in fearWhy we need to start focusing on the perpetrators, not just the victimsThe role of family conversations in shaping healthy boysHow mothers can raise sons who are emotionally aware, not emotionally shut downThe importance of positive male role modelsWhether the rise in women’s empowerment has left some men emotionally lost — and what healthy masculinity could look likeThis episode is honest, emotional, and necessary. Whether you’re a mother, a daughter, or someone trying to make sense of it all — this conversation is for you.
Welcome to the very first episode of Dear Mom, Dear Daughter — a South African podcast where a radio host and her psychologist mom open up the door to honest, messy, and meaningful conversations.In this special launch episode, we:Share how this podcast was born and why we believe these conversations matter.Reflect on how our relationship has evolved — from discipline and misunderstandings to trust, boundaries, and becoming best friends.Read emotional letters to one another in honour of Mother's Day.Play some lighthearted games to test how well we really know each other.Whether you're a mom, a daughter, or simply someone curious about navigating relationships across generations — this space is for you.New episodes drop every second Sunday!Subscribe, rate, and leave us a review — and don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and TikTok @dearmompod for behind-the-scenes moments and listener polls.