Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch

I’m Lori Gottlieb, author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. And I’m Guy Winch, author of Emotional First Aid. We’re both advice columnists, TED speakers, and of course therapists in clinical practice who want to bring the lessons of the therapy room outside the therapy room… to all of you. Each week on DEAR THERAPISTS, we invite you to be a fly-on-the-wall in these personal, raw, transformative sessions with everyday people and then hear what happens when we give concrete, actionable advice and have them report back to let us know how things went after the session ended. We’re sharing these real sessions because we believe that everyone can benefit from hearing how people just like them get through their struggles and grow and change. So sit back and come into the therapy room with us… and prepare to learn a lot about yourself in the process.

Encore: S04 Ep10 - Stephanie’s Mother’s Judgment

This week, we’re in session with Stephanie and her mother, Rona, who hasn’t forgiven her daughter for something that happened twenty-five years ago. We help them acknowledge the hurt they caused each other and find a new path forward.    If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

04-16
01:21:32

Encore: S04 Ep 09 - Alexis’s Controlling Family

This week, we’re in session with Alexis, whose parents are pressuring her to get married and have children on their timeline instead of hers. We help her to set healthy boundaries with her family.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

04-09
01:22:26

Encore: S04 Ep 08 - Grace and Finn’s Escalating Arguments

This week, we’re in session with Grace and Finn, a young married couple who struggle to keep their disagreements from turning into full-blown arguments they later regret. We help them identify what goes wrong and give them practical tools for substituting faulty assumptions and accusations with openness and vulnerability.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

04-02
01:12:56

Encore: S04 Ep 07 - Vanessa’s Parental Betrayal

This week, we’re in session with Vanessa, whose father insisted she take out a huge loan she could not repay and give him all the money, then disowned her when she refused. We help her to process the loss of her entire family, and start to create a trusted, compassionate family of choice who treats her the way family should.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

03-26
01:22:53

Encore: S04 Ep 06 - Andrew’s Shared Ex-Boyfriend

This week, we’re in session with Andrew, who met his current partner because they shared the same ex, and worries that his new relationship is therefore built on a shaky foundation. We help him remove the ghost of the ex and trust the important lessons he learned from that relationship in this new one.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

03-19
01:06:21

Encore: S04 Ep 05 - Emily’s Shaky Marriage

This week, we’re in session with Emily, whose relationship with her long-distance fiance blew up the moment they got married. We help her to see how her impatience to not “waste time” prevents her from making sound choices, and why slowing down is the key to making healthy decisions.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

03-12
01:15:11

Encore: S04 Ep 04 - Elise’s Angry Sister

This week, we’re in session with Elise, who wants to have a better relationship with her angry older sister. We help Elise to see her sister’s perspective so she can approach her with empathy–and how to know when repair might not be possible.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

03-05
01:24:27

Encore: S04 Ep 03 - Richard’s Wife’s Death

This week, we’re in session with Richard, who has been trying to avoid feeling the pain of losing his wife of 40 years. We teach him how to sit with his sadness, even as he moves forward into a new relationship.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

02-27
01:20:09

Encore: S04 Ep 02 - Nora’s Unexpected Pregnancy

This week, we’re in session with Nora, whose whirlwind romance with her now-husband led to an unexpected pregnancy that was terminated when they were first dating, the fallout of which she is still dealing with. We help Nora to process her feelings of past resentment so that she can see her husband and their relationship more clearly in the present   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

02-20
01:22:41

Encore: S04 Ep 01 - Amanda’s Cheating Husband

This week, we’re in session with Amanda, who’s wondering if she should leave her husband after finding out he repeatedly cheated on her with other women. We help her to get past her fear and prioritize her own wellbeing.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

02-13
01:17:50

Season 4 of Dear Therapists Launches Next Week!

Here’s a sneak peek into Season 4 of Dear Therapists, which launches next week! We can’t wait to bring you another full season of inspiring and transformative sessions—and as always, you can hear how our guests did with the advice we gave them. New episodes begin airing on 6/13. Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes. If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Subscribe for free to Dear Therapists to stay up to date on all the latest episodes.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

06-06
02:46

Encore: S03 Ep 21 - We Discuss Becca & Jake

This week, In the last of two bonus episodes, we’re doing another case consultation with our intern Ben, a psychology graduate student who pre-interviews the guests and helps select who gets on the show. Today we’re having an honest conversation about the session “Becca and Jake’s Marital Impasse”– and what we wish we had done differently.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

02-06
37:07

Encore: S03 Ep 20 - We Discuss Adam

We hope you enjoyed Season 3 of Dear Therapists. As we get ready for Season 4, we have two special bonus episodes to share with you. Sometimes after a session, we like to think about what worked well, and also what we would do differently if we could do it again. In these two bonus episodes, we do a case consultation with our intern, Ben, a psychology graduate student who pre-interviews the guests and helps select who gets on the show.    This week/Next week we’ll unpack what worked with a session we loved, “Adam’s Cheating Boyfriend.” The next week, we’ll talk about a session that didn’t go as well–and share what we would have done differently.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

01-30
23:42

Encore: S03 Ep 19 - Kate’s People-Pleasing Trap

This week we’re in session with Kate, who wants to break free from her people-pleasing tendencies. We help her to see how this pattern developed in her family growing up, and how to start prioritizing her own feelings and needs with her parents and brother now that she’s an adult.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

01-23
01:23:11

Encore: S03 Ep 17 - Jordan’s Troubled Marriage

This week we’re in session with Jordan, who wants to understand how seeing his parents’ dysfunctional relationship as a child might have contributed to his own marriage ending after only two years.     If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

01-16
01:10:12

Encore: S03 Ep 14 - Anna and Chris’ Marital Betrayal

This week we’re in session with Anna and Chris, a young married couple who came to us after Anna, who is pregnant with their first child, discovered that Chris had been lying to her. We show them how to rebuild trust and avoid this kind of deception going forward.    If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

01-09
01:21:54

Encore: S03 Ep 13 - Melanie’s Difficult Mother

This week we’re in session with Melanie, who wonders if it’s possible to interact with her mother in adulthood in a way that won’t cause so much pain.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

01-02
01:20:39

Encore: S03 Ep10 - Kayla’s Toxic Relationship

This week we’re in session with Kayla, who’s engaged to a wonderful man but still carries scars from a disturbing relationship she had years ago that is affecting her ability to get close with her fiance.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12-26
01:11:14

Encore: S03 Ep 9 - Sandra and Kim’s Family Secret

This week we’re in session with sisters Sandra and Kim, who discover a family secret that their parents held for sixty years. We help them to process the news and communicate with their mother, who still feels shame and resistance around sharing the truth.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12-19
01:19:44

Encore: S03 Ep 6 - Becca and Jake’s Marital Impasse

This week we’re in session with Becca and Jake. Becca loves her husband Jake but worries about his angry outbursts toward their young children, and considers whether she should leave him to protect them. We help the couple talk about this impasse in ways they never have before.   If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.   Follow us both online:   LoriGottlieb.com and on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author   GuyWinch.com and on Twitter @GuyWinch and Instagram @Guy Winch   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12-12
01:13:51

Moana Nelio

LEAVE HIS ASSSSS!!!! This is going nowhere!!

02-23 Reply

Mantik K

Dear Lori and Guy, I‘ve been going through a heartbreak for a few weeks now and while being sad and cry and therapy and…to help myself going theough this sad time I‘ve been listening to your books,ted talk, and this podcast. Sometimes even more than once and gosh I‘ve been learning so much. From both of you. Thank you for sharing all your knowledge so kindly. Best regards Manaa

08-22 Reply

Lahela

Poor Vanessa. I hope she develops her own surrogate family soon. Throughout her recanting of what happened to her I couldn’t help but wonder if her experience would have been different if she were male. Her family just had complete disregard and lack of respect for her autonomy and were very aggressive with their demands. To the point it was as if they did not see her as an individual only as something to benefit themselves.

07-25 Reply

Fiona Mckillen

Wow

08-03 Reply

yoyo

kick her ass out

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