Deeper Sex - The podcast about deeper connections and adventure

Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken? In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safety and - more importantly - turns them on, rather than scares them off. We also openly share some of own fantasies and struggles with taboos, as well as real-life stories from our clients, from threesomes and being dominated, to consensual non-consent, emphasising the significance of curiosity and trust in deepening sexual and emotional connections. If there’s something you’ve secretly desired but never dared to say out loud, today’s episode is your “how to” permission slip to get curious and start that super-hot conversation that you’ve always wanted to have. == TIME STAMPS 04:55 Your fantasies are actually normal 06:45 Why do we avoid talking about taboos? 13:58 Stay curious 17:03 Should I "request" or "propose" a kinky fantasy? 23:34 How to suggest a fantasy to your partner 24:39 Domination fantasy 27:16 Masculine and Feminine in all of us 30:03 Slutty and proud 31:36 Consensual non-consent fantasy 33:29 Rape play fantasy 36:26 Sex in public fantasy 36:58 Threesome fantasy 37:22 Dirty talking fantasy 38:34 10 prompts for deeper conversations == Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:   >> Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   >> Will & Chiara’s mini-course: “How to talk to your partner so they actually see you” - Join the waitlist   >> Will & Chiara’s 1:1 monthly mentorship - Apply   Listen to E16 on masculine/feminine polarity in relationships: on Apple or Spotify Listen to E19 on threesome fantasies: on Apple or Spotify Deeper Lovers on Instagram For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com

Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One". In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated in your relationship often has deeper roots that go far beyond your partner’s behaviour. Puja Lepp is an internationally sought after psychotherapist, retreat leader, and teacher. For over 30 years she has been supporting people through deep emotional healing and transformation. She is the founder of the Primal Childhood Deconditioning retreat, a seven-day immersive process designed to help participants access and release unprocessed emotions, break free from old survival patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves. In this episode she shares the powerful truth we’ve seen again and again in our own journey and with our clients: you can’t separate your relationship struggles from your personal healing. But when you start doing the work on yourself—when you drop the mask and learn to show up fully—that’s when everything begins to change. == TIME STAMPS 04:03 How Inner Work And Sexual Healing Are Deeply Connected 08:32 Is This Type Of Work For You? The Impact on Romantic Relationships 12:26 Is "working on yourself" really harder than "pretending" and wearing masks of perfection? 13:27 We All Fear Not Being Loved 16:13 We can't Force Our Partner To Do The Work 19:07 Why Feeling Safe Is Key For a Successful Relationship 19:42 How To Help Your Parter Feel Safe With You 22:38 "Doing The Work" Has a Domino Effect On Your Life as A Whole 23:46 Healing As a Lifestyle 24:12 Start By Changing 1% a Day == Resources and next steps for your relationship healing journey:   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   >> Join Puja’s retreat (co-hosted by Will and Chiara)   >> Mini-course “How to talk to your partner so they actually see you”: join the waitlist   Deeper Lovers on Instagram and on the web: www.deeperlovers.com

To celebrate our podcast 1st anniversary, we address our clients’ most common questions in a live Q&A - from jealousy to sexual dynamics and open relationships. Partner communication, establishing trust, and addressing underlying issues in a relationship are some of the things we are experts on, and our goal is to provide you with practical tips that will enhance your romantic connections. If you feel even a little curious but shy, this is the episode for you. == TIME STAMPS 01:38 Q1. My Partner Does Not Want To Have Sex: Should We Open The Relationship? 02:48 The Risks of Opening a Relationship 06:09 Work On Your Own Relationship First 07:49 Q2. How Do I Know If My Partner Is Into Kinks? 11:09 Q3. I am So Jealous! How Do I deal With Jealousy? 18:48 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe 19:51 Your Body Has All The Answers 21:53 Q4. Am I Bi-Curious? 25:46 Q5. How Can A Man Stay Confident During Sex When Another Man Is In The Room? 29:23 It's All About Boundaries 29:59 Sexual Conditioning: What Is (Not) Doing For You? == YOUR GOODIES: >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Book a free intro chat >> Send us your questions here == Deeper Lovers on Instagram and on the web: www.deeperlovers.com

Threesomes are one of the most common fantasies - yet only few people have the courage to act on them. Is it something you should try, or is it better left as a fantasy? In this episode, Will and Chiara explore the psychology behind group sex, the gap between fantasy and reality, and how to decide whether a threesome is right for you. They go over the key conversations couples need to have before inviting a third person in, including the emotional impact, managing expectations, and how to navigate jealousy - often the biggest deal breaker. They also explore how to test the waters with your partner - through dirty talk, fantasy role-play, or watching certain types of content together - to see if the idea is genuinely exciting or just intriguing in theory. For those considering taking the next step, they share practical guidance on finding the right third, whether through dating apps, social circles, or more curated experiences like sex-positive events. They also explain the difference between FMF (two women, one man) and MFM (two men, one woman) threesomes, how to avoid common pitfalls, and why communication is essential at every stage. Whether you're simply curious or seriously planning your adventure, this episode helps you explore your desires and possibility with clarity, awareness, compassion and respect for your relationship. == TIME STAMPS 00:00 Why is a threesome the most common fantasy? 03:29 Fantasy vs reality: why so many people regret it 04:09 Is your relationship ready for this? 07:21 Libido imbalances and why threesomes won’t fix them 09:19 How to start the conversation with your partner 11:25 Dirty talk as a way to explore the fantasy safely 17:24 What to expect emotionally before, during, and after 19:18 Finding a third: friends, strangers, or dating apps? 23:25 The risks of inviting someone from your social circle 26:00 Compersion: when watching your partner turns you on 30:42 FMF vs MFM: which is right for you? 33:00 Why many men find MFM threesomes easier 35:42 What women should know about MFM dynamics 37:45 Handling unexpected emotions in the moment 44:21 If you’re single, should you join a couple? 46:56 The biggest mistake couples make == YOUR GOODIES:   >> Want more content about sexual fantasies? Don’t miss our previous episode on Apple or Spotify: There’s No Shame In Dirty Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Relationship   >> Book a free introductory call with us   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you have deeper conversations with your partner” == Send any questions here == Follow us on Instagram About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com

Will and Chiara tackle another taboo topic that many men (and their partners) struggle with, but rarely discuss openly: erections. From performance anxiety to the pressure of always staying hard, they explore how much of the struggle is psychological rather than physical. They discuss how shame, unrealistic expectations, and overthinking can interfere with arousal, and share practical ways to overcome these challenges. From breaking free of the traditional sex script to exploring the benefits of unconventional practices like non-ejaculation, they offer unusual yet groundbreaking perspectives on male sexual confidence. You’ll also hear how women often feel responsible for their partner’s arousal, why they may misinterpret erection issues, and how couples can learn to have open, reassuring conversations that remove pressure. Whether you’ve felt anxiety around performance or simply want a more relaxed, fulfilling intimate life, we guarantee this episode will change the way you think about erections and intimate connections.   TIME STAMPS  00:00 When Did Your Dick Stop Working? 00:48 Let's Talk About Erections 02:11 The "Erectile Dysfunction" Label Does Not Serve You 03:07 Level 1 of "Mind-Fucking" 05:55 What About Cialis or Viagra? 08:40 More Pressure On The Man 09:44 You Naturally Have Things On Your Mind 11:28 The Mojo App for Erectile Dysfunction (20% off code: DEEPERSEX20) 12:44 Cock Rings Can Help With Performance 15:17 Do Women Like Cock Rings? 16:02 How To Talk About Cock Rings 18:43 Mind-Fucking Is The Problem 19:32 I'm Not Hard: How To Address The Elephant In The Room 20:26 10 Prompts To Start Difficult Conversations 21:02 Never Say "I'm Sorry If I'm Not Hard" 21:58 Have Some Fun With Sex Toys 22:46 Are You Saying I Shouldn't Ejaculate? Ever...? 23:25 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Increased Libido 24:35 Overcoming The Initial Resistance to Non-Ejaculation 24:58 Coming Is Not The Best Bit! 25:59 What Women Think Of Non-Ejaculation 26:25 The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure 26:52 Benefits of Non-Ejaculation: Higher Sensitivity 27:42 Soft Dicks Are Nice! 28:46 Have You Tried A Tantric Massage? 30:37 The Secret of "No Goals" During Intercourse 32:57 The Importance Of Feeling Safe 34:19 Become A Better Lover 36:42 For Women: Tell Your Man You Like His Dick! == Ask us about Tantric Massage == About Deeper Lovers: www.deeperlovers.com Follow us on Instagram == YOUR GOODIES: >> Get 20% off your Mojo membership – forever – using our discount code: DEEPERSEX20 | Sign up for the Mojo App   >> FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you have deeper conversations with your partner”   >> Book a free intro call with us

This is a must-listen for both men and women looking to feel more, longer and better orgasms. Today’s episode will completely transform your understanding of what “coming” is: Did you know that there are many types of orgasms for women? And did you know that men can orgasm without ejaculating… and vice versa? Love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara challenge common beliefs around clitoral stimulation and vibrators, sharing their personal experience and tantric journey towards full body orgasms that can last for over 10 minutes – for both men and women. Got your attention? Press play to learn a few tricks you can use in your next intimate encounter to give and experience a level of intimacy (and pleasure) that you didn’t think possible.   TIME STAMPS 01:00 Let's talk about orgasms 01:22 How many types of orgasms are there? 04:34 Female orgasms 07:12 The "spasm orgasm" is the enemy 08:17 Leave the clit alone! 09:55 Vibrators simply desensitize you 11:33 What are you doing to me? 13:52 How true presence gives a massively enhanced sexual experience 17:23 You DON'T NEED to give an orgasm to each other 18:50 The trick is to NOT THINK about what happens next 21:22 Best practices for men 21:36 The non-ejaculatory practice 22:45 How men can achieve longer, deeper orgasms 25:40 The secret to satisfy a woman in bed 26:18 Your sexual energy is the Life Force that drives your life 26:37 What is our primal need? 28:01 How you can support each other and both feel more pleasure 29:37 The secret club of pleasure 32:45 Remember to give yourself some slack 33:21 The 21 days challenge 34:16 Do this to cure premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction 35:46 What to do when he wants more sex than her 37:11 If you are her 37:28 If you are him 37:51 How you can better communicate your needs 40:14 I feel pain during intercourse 42:02 How to get a mind-blowing orgasm (recap) 42:24 1. Stop stimulating the clit 42:32 2. Stop ejaculating (or practice separating it from your orgasm) 42:56 3. Try the 21 days challenge 43:21 4. Drop the blaming == Get the book: 50 Misconceptions Of Sex by Alexa Vartman == The 21 days challenge by The New Tantra == Free guide download: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == Follow us on Instagram == Send us any questions here == Book a call here

Download our free guide: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”   Changing gears with Season 2, love and intimacy coaches Will and Chiara explain in very simple terms the concept of relationship Polarity, and the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that you input in a relationship - regardless of your gender. They show how a polarity imbalance often leads to conflict, blaming, and general relationship unhappiness and unease. In this episode, they offer insights and provide practical tips for how couples can bring harmony back to their relationships. By stepping back, showing vulnerability, and understanding each other's perspectives, couples can navigate their differences and bring back the “Lover’s Energy” that initially brought them together. == TIME STAMPS 00:34 What We Prepared For You In Season 2 01:38 Let's Talk About Polarity in Relationships 02:31 What Women Blame Men For 03:38 What Men Blame Women For 06:27 Often Men Feel Powerless 10:36 Do We Both Have Masculine and Feminine Traits? 13:41 Both Partners Need To Contribute To The Masculine/Feminine Balance In The Couple 15:25 How Do We (Re)establish Polarity? 17:55 Restore The "Lover's" Energy 24:20 Why It's So Important To Show Vulnerability To Your Partner 25:06 What Goes Wrong In Relationships When You Hide Your Vulnerable Side 28:31 What He Needs To Do To Make Her Feel Safe 32:38 What Is Real Masculinity Today? 36:40 It's Difficult To "Just Receive" 38:13 Connect With Your Feminine Side (regardless of your gender) 43:00 How Do We Connect Deeper? 43:17 1. It's A Dance For Two 43:37 2. Listen To This With Your Partner 44:47 4. Acknowledge That All Emotions Are Valid 45:17 5. Temporarily Suspend Your Belief 45:38 6. Ask Yourself: What Am I Really Yearning For? 46:00 7. Make Space To Receive From Your Partner 46:44 8. Don't Apologise For Your Emotions == Link to Alexa Vartman’s book that we recommend on the show - “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” == Follow us on Instagram == Send us any questions here == Book a free chemistry session with us here

Guess what! We’ve been live for 6 months already, and we have a big surprise coming up for you! We are closing out Season 1 of the Deeper Sex Podcast to come back with Season 2 and offer something even more exciting and useful to you and your lover, in and out of the bedroom. We believe that sex should not be the driver of arguments and unhappiness for a couple. Nor should it be taboo.  We have witnessed, tried and tested on our own skin how it can be used to heal from trauma, fears, and to grow.  What's coming: We are taking the intimacy and sacred sexuality practices that have completely revolutionised our way of loving, and are putting them into very simple practical terms for you so, that everyone can apply and practice them in their own bedroom. If this is calling you, sign up for our waitlist to join our upcoming workshops. == Meanwhile, don’t miss:   >> Our fav books “50 Misconceptions Of Sex” by Alexa Vartman “Wild Nights” by David Deida (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you)   >> Catch up on these episodes   13: How To Be Sexually “Open” Even If You’re Monogamous | Feeling Free Learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner. Listen on Apple or Spotify.   6: There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Can Transform Your Taboos into Passion Learn about how to share sexual fantasies with your lover, overcoming fear, shame and taboos. Listen on Apple or Spotify   5: From Failed-Marriage Misery to Cosmic Sex: How we did it (via ENM and sex positive spaces) Learn more about the hosts’ conservative backgrounds and how they “fell” into the amazing, sexually liberated world of Consensual Non Monogamy. Listen on Apple or Spotify == Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == TIME STAMPS 01:54 You Helped Us Grow 03:25 Deeper Sex Content In Season 2 04:16 Sex At the Intersection Between Sexuality, Curiosity, Healing And Personal Growth 05:25 A Surprise For You 07:52 10 Prompts To Start Deeper Conversations With Your Partner 08:15 Your Reading List to Get Ready For Season 2 == Questions? DM us

Will and Chiara are interviewed by Human Design coach Adriana to explore how they transformed their lives through sexual exploration and liberation.  They’ve made intimacy coaching their life’s purpose, because there’s so much fun and sex to be had in life, that everyone should be able to experience it!  They talk about their journey of following their hearts and intuition, instead of conforming to what others expected. They highlight how their union is always of the utmost priority, above and beyond anything and anyone else. On a spontaneous trip, they discovered the world of New Tantra and realized that that was “the code” - the language - for how they had been connecting all along. They found themselves into deeper and deeper sexual connections and an incredibly fulfilling sex life that massively influenced their business and their daily life… from miserable to super fun and exciting. The secret to all this? Curiosity and… well, tune into the episode to find out! Whether you’re a man or a woman wondering if there’s more to coupledom, or maybe bored in a sexless marriage, you too can go from an average relationship and a “middle-aged” sex life to an incredible connection with your partner, having mind-blowing, hours-long orgasmic marathons. == To learn more about what we mean by “Openness” at 360 degrees and how that can 10x the relationship with your partner, check out our episode on Apple or on Spotify. And… don’t miss this book on the topic! “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you) == To learn more about how you can work with and accept your body image, check out this episode on Apple or on Spotify == TIME STAMPS 01:18 Meet Adriana, our Human Design Coach 02:26 Download Our Free Guide 03:02 How Will and Chiara Help Clients Have Better Romantic Relationships 06:22 How The Power of Intuition Got Chiara The Amazing Husband She Has 09:55 Why Intimacy Coaching 14:32 Why We Decided To Explore Ethical Non-Monogamy 18:59 This Could Be Your Community Too 21:29 The Deeper Sex Podcast In The Making 22:42 We Explored The Swinging Community But It Was Not For Us 24:04 From Swinging to New Tantra 25:26 Fantasy vs. Reality 25:50 Are You One Of The People We Can Help? 26:13 Who We Want To Help: Meet Our Friends John And Jane 34:45 Accepting Yourself And Your Body Image 40:43 How To Use Curiosity To Overcome Fear == WHO IS WILL Will is a psychologist,  journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.   WHO IS CHIARA Chiara is an ICF certified professional Intimacy Coach with a masters in business communication. She was a director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Today Chiara guides men and women to discover the power of their sexuality, reconnect with their bodies and become truly "comfortable" rather than just "confident", so they can embark on more intimate and sensual adventures.   For more info about the hosts, and to book a call, CLICK HERE. === Follow us on Instagram ===  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

How open(-minded) are you, really? And how "free" do you feel? Our biggest fear is not being loved. And fears keep us stuck in the comfort zone. But what happens when we suspend fear? While reflecting on our peculiar summer, we explain how openness, curiosity, and feeling comfortable in your own body can bring you a deeper sense of connection and, ultimately, freedom. There's a different flavour when you meet people who are willing to share themselves and their stories - who are unapologetically themselves and in their body. If you're one of those people that feel stuck and just dream of being free (from whatever) but don't know how, you might want to listen to this. The whole conversation is a beautiful metaphor for how life can be lived. !! Don’t miss our book recommendation at the end !! == TIME STAMPS 1:32 Our Mission Is To Help People Open To Love 03:04 A Music Festival As An Open Love Experience 03:50 Openness + Nakedness = Freedom 07:11 What You Wouldn't Expect About Being Naked 08:51 Feeling Comfortable vs. Feeling Confident 09:46 It's Not About You, It's About Them 13:10 You Can Be Monogamously Open 15:23 When Your Husband Shows You Support Instead Of Anger 18:22 Yo Gotta Overcome The Fear To Love 19:16 Recommended Light Summer Reading: Wild Nights == YOUR GOODIES: >> FREE GUIDE FOR DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” >> Recommended book: “Wild Nights” by David Deida  (this podcast is entirely supported by our listeners, so if you buy through this link we may earn a commission, at no extra cost to you - thanks in advance for your support!) >> Book a free intro chat >> Send us your questions here == Deeper Lovers on Instagram and on the web: www.deeperlovers.com

Communication is THE KEY in enhancing relationships and sexual experiences. Drawing from our personal and professional experiences, we share practical tips on how you can initiate open dialogues about desires, needs, and fantasies with your partner. As always we emphasise on creating a safe space for vulnerability, avoiding blame, and using creative alternative methods like scheduled talks, writing sexy emails to each other and, why not, listening to content together. If you wonder how keep going at this seemingly utopian rate, this is it! Don't miss this episode. === Follow us on Instagram == TIME STAMPS 02:36 Experience in communicating 04:03 What stops us from sharing dark secrets 06:09 Communicating is hard! 08:18 How to practice "exposing" yourself 09:50 We all have the same fantasy (and the same fear) 12:58 1. Let it flow 14:29 2. Quit the blame 16:07 3. Create a safe space for an intentional conversation 20:19 4. Listen to content together 24:21 5. "Please can you help me to understand..." 26:16 6. Show that you're listening - aka be present with them 27:50 7. Have an "exploratory" vs. a "goal-oriented" conversation 29:05 8. Writing sexy emails to each other is less confrontational 33:01 9. When in doubt, say what's on your mind == For more info about the hosts and to book a free chemistry session with Will or Chiara, visit deeperlovers.com ==  >> FREE BONUS: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

Jealousy can serve as a useful tool in relationships when rooted in objective facts: it can be a sign of real issues, but also a reflection of deeper insecurities. How do you know? In this episode we cover the various sides of jealousy, how to understand when it is keeping you safe, vs. when it’s signalling that there’s something deeper to look into – your body generally knows best. We look at jealousy in the context of ENM couples, tho the same concepts can equally be applied to monogamous relationships. The importance of a strong relationship foundation, open communication, and setting flexible ground rules are what will make you feel safe, confident, and ultimately set you free. Embracing jealousy can be a tool to deepen intimacy – believe it or not. If you've ever struggled with jealousy or just want to understand it better - this episode is for you.   SHOWNOTES 01:47 I Am So Jealous! 04:55 How To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Partner 05:27 Keep The Dialogue Open And Ask With No Expectations 14:54 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe 16:00 Your Body Has All The Answers Inside == The sensual surprise Chiara arranged for Will’s birthday (E7): Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify == Book A Free Chat == Deeper Lovers on Instagram == FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 prompts to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”   For more info on how the hosts can help you deepen your own romantic relationship, visit deeperlovers.com

Have you ever dreamt of joining a threesome but never dared ask your partner? It’s a universal fantasy, and one that can become reality with trust and good communication. In this episode, we share a very intimate experience where we pushed our boundaries further than ever before: for the first and only time in our life, Chiara is "lent" for the night as a Unicorn to Allie and her husband, while Will is away on an expedition. He talks vulnerably about his internal struggle between a positively erotic idea and the negative social conditioning around masculinity and ownership that would mark this as incredibly wrong and dysfunctional.  He also explains the strong bond he created with Allie’s man, the complete trust and clear communication that they have, highlighting the significance of male, brotherly energy and trust. Our goal in sharing this story is to show you what’s possible when the bond in a couple is so strong, and complete trust has been achieved: we would have not been able to do this before our deep inner work and sexual deconditioning journey!  Our intention is to purely inspire you to embrace sexual liberation by learning how clear communication, vulnerability and boundaries work Even within the boundaries of your monogamous relationship, there's plenty of things you can try out! Want to learn how? Subscribe to our Show, and follow us on Instagram === 02:56 What is a Unicorn 05:11 Trust, Desire, Fantasies And Open Communication 07:27 Healthy Management of Emotions: Thrill or Jealousy? 12:51 A Strog Secure Bond Can Take You To Depths You Can't Imagine 13:40 The Potential Risk of Damaging a Relationship 14:24 What It Feels Like to Join Another Couple as a Unicorn 14:57 Only When You Feel Safe You Can Relax 15:47 Conditioning: Shall We Listen To It? 17:01 Protect What's Precious 19:13 Giving vs. Taking Attitude in Bed 22:35 Is There Such A Thing As "Too Much"? === Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey: Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   Will & Chiara’s mini-course: “How to talk to your partner so they actually see you” - Join the waitlist   Will & Chiara’s 1:1 monthly mentorship - Apply   For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com

Are you “vanilla” or “spicy”? Are you into ENM? Are you not? Are you curious? How much should you share about this with your friends? And should you drag them into this exploration with you? These are all themes we discuss in this episode, focusing on the importance of respecting the boundaries of people around you. While we could not wish for deeper connections and the personal growth that we've gained from exploring ourselves the Ethical Non-Monogamy world (ENM), we understand this might not be necessarily everyone's cup of tea. Our objective is, as always, to demystify society’s misconceptions, promoting open mindedness and sexual liberation, as this is THE SECRET recipe to a great sex life - whether you choose to have one or multiple partners. If you’re looking for practical advice on how to navigate challenging but genuine conversations about your curiosity and interest in adding more people to your romantic situation, this is it! == >> Link to our OG episode: how Will and Chiara got over conservative backgrounds and sailed for sexual liberation: Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify == Join The Waitlist for our Signature Sensuality Workshop == TIME STAMPS 01:12 Are Alternative Forms Of Relationships An Option?  05:51 Be Yourself But Respect Others' Boundaries 08:39 The Highest Form Of Sexual Liberation 18:16 Build Strong Relationship Foundations and Create Deep Emotional Bonds 19:25 Coming Out Can Be A Challenge 24:21 Superficiality or Depth? 25:41 What You Didn't Know About Playing With Others As A Couple 27:14 What We Love About The Openness Of Relationships 27:53 How To Manage Jealousy 33:42 Should We Try To Fuck Our Friends Then? == Deeper Lovers on Instagram For more info about the hosts and to book a call, visit deeperlovers.com ==  >> FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

Free resources + next steps for your sexual healing journey:   - Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   - Will & Chiara’s mini-course: “How to talk to your partner so they actually see you” - Join the waitlist   - Will & Chiara’s 1:1 monthly mentorship - Apply here   Deeper Lovers on Instagram For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com  

Have you ever experienced how sensuality and soft touch can 10x your sexual encounters?  Listen to the sensual birthday surprise that Chiara arranged for her husband Will: beyond the sexiness of it all, you’ll learn how embracing sensuality, soft touch, and vulnerability can positively impact your intimacy - and your relationship overall. Will describes his struggle to relax and surrender to receiving attention from his woman, and how releasing the pressure of a “goal” can unlock new depths of pleasure and connection. You will also learn how understanding and embracing your desires can be a powerful way to strengthen your bond and experience intimacy in a way you never have before. If you’ve felt blocked, ashamed of not knowing what to do, or unsatisfied in your sex life, you don’t want to miss this episode. == SHOWNOTES 01:23 Beyond Sex As The Goal 02:17 Our Signature Sensuality Workshop 03:17 A Sensual Surprise: What Chiara Planned For Will's Birthday 07:45 Learning to Receive As A Man 10:54 The Dom/Sub Relationship Parallel 13:02 Mindfulness Technique: How To Drop Into The Receiver Mode 15:21 How To Receive By Staying In Your Masculine 19:48 Exploring Sensuality Beyond the Bedroom 20:17 Inside Our Sensuality Signature Workshop: What to Expect 24:29 The Fantasy Game: Learn To Verbalise Fantasies and Tell S*xy Stories 28:13 Sensuality Workshop: Join The Waitlist == Listen to how you can talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner, how to share them with confidence and overcome taboos: Listen on Apple  Listen on Spotify  == Deeper Lovers on Instagram == FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 prompts to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”   For more info on how the hosts can help you deepen your own romantic relationship, visit deeperlovers.com

Almost everyone carries with them a sexual fantasy they don’t dare to share. We hesitate to reveal our desires, even to a loving partner, out of shame or fear of judgment. Some fantasies are scenes you might like to live out for real. Others will remain sexy movies that we play just for ourselves. Either way, fantasies are erotic fuel – and their power multiplies if you find courage to voice them. In this super-sexy episode, we made ourselves vulnerable by sharing with each other some fantasies that we had never revealed before. We explore what makes it hard to express desires that our conditioning labels weird or dirty. We reflect on how liberating it feels to take that leap of faith and be rewarded with love. We hope that listening to us might inspire you or trigger a spicy conversation or two with your partner. === Sign up for our next SENSUALITY SIGNATURE WORKSHOP: Join The Waitlist === 01:17 What Are The Collective The Unspoken Desires? 03:58 Fantasy 1: Being Taken 04:58 The Stigma Around Expressing Sexual Fantasies: It's Shameful! 05:37 Conditioning of Female S*xuality: Why Can't I Be A Slut 07:14 Fantasy 2: Group Play 08:14 70 Virgins or 7 Sluts? 10:49 We All Have A Masculine And Feminine Side 14:48 It's Important For A Woman To Feel Respected And In Control 15:06 Fantasy 3: Anonymous S*x In Public 19:17 Fantasy 4: Eye Contact with Stangers 19:43 Fantasy 5: Dirty Talk 21:01 Tip 1: use your voice 21:26 Tip 2: suspend the conditioning 22:10 Tip 3: set boundaries 22:39 Tip 4: eye contact game 23:10 Try our 10 prompts for free === For more info about the hosts, and to book a free chemistry call, visit deeperlovers.com === Instagram: @deeper.lovers === FREE BONUS CONTENT: Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

This is our Origin Stories episode. Hear about the journeys that brought Allie, Will and Chiara from conservative childhoods, breakdowns, divorces and body shame to happiness and the strongest relationships of their lives. We explain how we discovered ENM (ethical non-monogamy), survived novice mistakes and navigated the circus, but also how we learned to communicate to each other fearlessly, established trust and practiced standing up for ourselves, over and over again. Perhaps you can’t picture yourself in an Eyes-Wide-Shut party - just yet or ever - and that’s fine, every relationship is beautiful and unique as is. We just want to use our unconventional and “a little out there” stories to help you explore what’s possible, providing ideas that can empower everybody. Our recommendation is: take what resonates and works for you, and leave out the rest! == TIME STAMPS 02:10 You Should Listen If... 02:33 How Will Started Exploring Unconventional Relationships 05:37 Chiara's Journey From Her Catholic Roots 08:21 From Fantasy To Reality 09:53 Always Communicate Clearly 11:37 Sexperts Night 13:15 Visiting Fun4Two Swingers Club 14:14 The Dark Room 15:58 The Hot Tub Incident 18:50 Allie's Journey From Small Town Girl 21:47 If We Cheat We Cheat Together 23:09 An Eyes Wide Shut Party Gone Sideways 27:30 Connecting With Others - Together - Could Strengthen Your Relationship 32:12 Play Parties Can Enhance Your Body Confidence 33:49 Tips On How To Test The Waters In Sex Positive Spaces 34:42 Is It for Everyone? 36:49 The Thrill of Exploration: Keeping the Spark Alive 41:15 What We Learnt == >> Sensuality & Soft Touch Workshop: Join The Waitlist == FREE DOWNLOAD: “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == >> Follow us on Instagram == For more info about the hosts, and to book a free chemistry call, visit deeperlovers.com

Body image is a very common problem for both men and women. Today we discuss how negative perceptions can impact intimacy and relationships, and how healing and personal growth can transform your sex life and deepen your connection. Women in particular often feel negatively about their appearance due to societal standards, so Chiara vulnerably shares her journey back to loving her body. We also explore how the lens of positive self-perception can boost sexual confidence: deeper sexiness comes from feeling confident and comfortable in one's skin, rather than conforming to external beauty standards. For those that might be curious, you’ll also hear how non-monogamy and swinging can be platforms for receiving genuine feedback from others that don’t necessarily have a vested interest in just giving you a compliment - like a husband or friend would do. == Sensuality & Soft Touch Workshop: Join The Waitlist == Send us your questions here == Book a free chemistry call here == Follow us on Instagram == For more info on how the hosts can help you deepen your own relationship, visit deeperlovers.com == >> Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner”

Would you prefer transactional sex or deeper, more intimate and sensual connections? Today we share our personal journey of learning how to shift boundaries in the ENM and kinky world that we sometimes play in, and draw lessons for how intimacy and sensuality can supercharge connections - in all kinds of relationships. We talk about how rare it is to find partners who share a similar emphasis on slow, intimate play, and we will provide a few tips on how to communicate  intimacy in your own relationship – monogamous or not - so that you can experience and nurture the power of focusing on the present moment to have mind blowing encounters. == TIME STAMPS 02:31 Exploring Intimacy Beyond the Norm 05:16 Personal Boundaries and Evolving Relationships 07:44 The Power of Sensuality 17:55 The Impact of Trust and Respect in Sensual Encounters 22:48 The Essence of Sensuality: Being Present and Connected with Each Other 30:07 Navigating Safety and Comfort 36:56 Is He Worthy Of You? 38:11 Exploring the Paradox of Intimacy in ENM == For more info on how the hosts can help you deepen your own romantic relationship, visit deeperlovers.com == >> Download our free guide “10 phrases to help you start deeper conversations with your partner” == Send us your questions here == Follow us on Instagram == Book a free chemistry call here