Ever found yourself standing in the kitchen, spatula in hand, feeling like you’re about to lose it because your child just pushed away the dinner you spent an hour making... again?What if I told you that the stress you’re feeling at mealtimes isn’t really about the rejected broccoli—and there’s a way to transform your dinner table from a battlefield into a place of connection without giving up on nutrition?I recently spoke with Katie Kimball, a former teacher, two-time TEDx speaker, and mom of four who’s helped thousands of families through her Kids Cook Real Food program (recommended by the Wall Street Journal as the best online cooking class for kids). Katie specializes in helping parents navigate the exhausting world of picky eating while keeping their sanity—and their relationship with their kids—intact.If you’ve ever felt your blood pressure rise when your child declares they “hate” everything on their plate, or wondered why mealtimes feel more like hostage negotiations than family bonding, this conversation offers a completely different approach that’s grounded in research and real family experience.Katie’s approach centers on understanding three fundamental truths about family meals: we eat for nourishment, yes, but also for pleasure and community—and no one aspect is more important than the others. When you understand this, everything about how you approach picky eating changes.In this eye-opening conversation, Katie shares specific strategies you can implement starting tonight.You’ll discover:* Why forcing the issue at dinner actually sabotages your child’s ability to develop a healthy relationship with food—and how research shows that kids who eat family dinners more than twice a week do better academically than those who spend more time on homework (yes, really)* The “Lead with Your Ace” strategy that uses your child’s natural hunger to your advantage—putting vegetables out first with zero competition and zero pressure while maintaining what Katie calls your “poker face” (no excited cheerleading, just casual placement)* How getting your kids in the kitchen transforms their relationship with food completely, because when they chop those carrots themselves, suddenly they’re invested—plus why teaching them to use sharp knives now prepares them for the bigger risks they’ll face as teens* The critical difference between praising the food (”This is so good!”) and praising the effort (”You worked so hard on this recipe—I can smell the cinnamon you added”), and why one builds confidence while the other creates performance anxiety* Why your stress at the dinner table literally affects your child’s digestion, making it harder for them to absorb nutrients even when they do eat—and how lowering the pressure paradoxically leads to better nutritionKatie vulnerably shares how she discovered that family dinners protect kids from risky behaviors more effectively than almost any other family practice. Strong bonds with adults—the kind built over shared meals without pressure—are what keep kids safe as they navigate adolescence.She also reveals a powerful reframe: you can’t actually force a child to eat respectfully (unlike putting their shoes on for them). Once you accept this limitation, you stop trying to control what you can’t control and start focusing on what you can—the atmosphere, the offerings, and your own emotional state.Most importantly, she reminds us that we’re not just feeding our kids today. We’re teaching them how to have a relationship with food for their entire lives. And that relationship is built not through force or pressure, but through modeling, patience, and removing the friction that makes everyone dread coming to the table.Ready to stop the mealtime battles and start using food as a bridge to connection rather than a source of conflict?This conversation will show you exactly how to lower the temperature at your dinner table while still nurturing your child’s body and spirit—because it turns out, the two aren’t separate at all.To learn more about Katie Kimball & Kitchen Stewardship:https://www.kitchenstewardship.com/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why your teenager meticulously plans their gaming strategy for hours but melts down when asked to pack their backpack the night before school?What if I told you the disconnect isn’t about defiance or laziness—but about a fundamental mismatch between your expectations and their actual neurological wiring, and there’s a powerful framework for bridging this gap without sacrificing your values?I recently spoke with Abigail Wald, a parenting mentor to thousands of families including therapists, pediatricians, and celebrities. With two teenage boys of her own and over 1.5 million podcast downloads, Abigail specializes in helping parents navigate what she calls “the schism”—that painful space between what we think parenting should look like and what it actually is.If you’ve ever found yourself raging at the gap between your Pinterest-worthy parenting aspirations and your actual Tuesday morning chaos, or wondered why one child feels like ease while another feels like sandpaper against your soul, this conversation offers a radical reframe grounded in acceptance without giving up on growth.Abigail’s approach centers on three interconnected principles: recognizing where your expectations actually come from (your past, your in-laws, or Instagram?), determining which expectations align with your genuine family values versus imposed “shoulds,” and understanding that children don’t act their age—they act their abilities.In this transformative conversation, Abigail shares specific strategies you can implement starting today.You’ll discover:* How to distinguish between consequences that teach and punishments that simply discharge your frustration, including why your ADHD child might need to metaphorically (or literally) skin their knee to understand why you’ve been warning them about going too fast around corners* The “magazine versus your people” principle and why choosing the magazine over your actual family creates a schism that moves you further from happiness—plus how loving your people accurately for who they are paradoxically brings you closer to the life you actually want* Why some parent-child combinations feel like fire meeting gasoline while others flow like water, and how the child who challenges you most might be your greatest teacher in expanding your capacity for genuine love (hint: pearls form from irritating grains of sand)* The critical difference between helicopter-enabling and supportive scaffolding, including when to let your child forget their lunch and experience hunger as their teacher rather than you constantly being their reminder system* How strong-willed, gifted, and highly sensitive children especially need experiential learning to develop internal boundaries—and why controlling them too tightly produces teenagers who’ve mastered flouting external rules but have zero internal compassAbigail vulnerably shares her own moments of “this isn’t what I signed up for” rage, comparing parenting to an arranged marriage where you pledge your life to someone you’ve never met, with no idea of their temperament, needs, or challenges.She reveals how grief and feelings of betrayal are normal responses to this vulnerability, but shows how to transform that grief into what she calls “capital L Love”—choosing leadership over behavior-chasing.Most importantly, she challenges us to examine whether we’re approaching self-improvement (and child-improvement) from a place of “I’m broken and need fixing” versus “I’m whole and excited to grow.” The distinction changes everything about how we approach those morning battles and evening meltdowns.Ready to stop fighting upstream against your family’s actual temperament and start leading from a place of genuine acceptance and strategic growth?This conversation will give you permission to love the people in your house instead of the ones in the magazine—and show you why that’s where the real magic happens.To learn more about Abigail Wald:https://abigailwald.com/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why your teenager seems completely capable of planning an elaborate gaming strategy but can’t seem to organize their homework for the week?What if I told you that the disconnect isn’t about laziness or defiance—but about how their developing brain handles different types of motivation and executive function, and there are specific ways you can support them without taking over?I recently spoke with Will Kirsop, an education leader and founder of Many Roads, where he coaches teenagers and young adults to discover their purpose and thrive. With degrees in both commerce and psychology from top Australian universities, Will works day-in and day-out with teens navigating the complex terrain of academics, identity, and the transition to adulthood.If you’ve ever felt that time-crunch anxiety as your teen gets closer to graduation, or wondered how to help them develop the skills they’ll need to succeed independently, this conversation will give you practical tools grounded in what actually works with teenagers.Will’s approach focuses on three interconnected areas: helping teens identify what genuinely engages them (flow states), building both metacognitive awareness (thinking about thinking) and executive function skills (the actual capacity to plan and execute), and cultivating self-compassion as the foundation that allows teens to take risks and learn from mistakes.In this practical conversation, Will shares specific strategies you can implement starting this week. You’ll discover:* How to help your teen identify flow states—those moments when they lose track of time in deep engagement—and why recognizing these patterns matters for both academic success and future direction, whether it’s surfing with friends, writing essays, or building Minecraft worlds* The weekly planning system using Google Calendar or physical planners that gives teens ownership while providing structure, including how to negotiate realistic schedules when they suggest two hours of gaming before homework and why educating them about dopamine spikes works better than controlling* The Pomodoro Method adapted for teens (25-minute focused study sessions with 5-minute breaks) and Professor Marty Lobdell’s “Study Less, Study Smart” technique—a five-phase approach to reading textbooks that primes the brain before diving into detailed content* The three components of self-compassion and why research shows teens with higher self-compassion set mastery learning goals, demonstrate greater resilience, and maintain curiosity—plus why modeling your own executive function struggles teaches more effectively than appearing perfect* What the World Economic Forum’s 2025 survey reveals about critical future skills, with motivation, self-awareness, and critical thinking ranking above technical knowledge—and why the biggest currency for the future is the ability to learn itself, especially as AI changes what skills we’ll needWill vulnerably shares examples from his coaching practice, including the student who discovered that “the hard part isn’t studying—it’s figuring out what to study,” and how having a clear plan created profound relief during a stressful exam period. He demonstrates how to have conversations about screen time and homework that empower teens to make informed decisions rather than simply complying with rules.Most importantly, he challenges us to move beyond the countdown mentality of “only X years left before they’re on their own” to recognizing that each teen’s journey is unique. The skills that matter most aren’t about memorizing content—they’re about learning how to learn, thinking critically about information, and developing the self-compassion that allows for risk-taking and growth.Ready to help your teen build genuine executive function skills while honoring their developing autonomy? This conversation will give you specific starting points for supporting them right where they are, not where you wish they were.To learn more about Will Kirsop:https://www.manyroads.co/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why back-to-school season feels emotionally overwhelming, even when you've checked all the boxes on your preparation list?What if I told you that your child's September meltdowns and resistance aren't about defiance or poor adjustment—but are actually their nervous system responding to a major life transition, and you might be unknowingly adding fuel to the fire?My guest, Elaine Taylor-Klaus, Master Certified Coach and co-founder of Impact Parents, has spent over 15 years supporting parents of what she calls "complex kids"—children with ADHD, anxiety, learning differences, and other challenges that make everyday parenting feel anything but everyday.If you've ever felt like you're walking into a battlefield during school pickup, or wondered why traditional discipline seems to backfire with your child, this conversation will completely shift how you understand what's really happening during transitions.Elaine's work focuses on helping parents move from director mode to collaborator mode with their children—particularly those who present as neuro-spicy, explosive, or shut down. Drawing from her coaching expertise and personal experience raising three complex kids, she provides practical tools to understand the hidden dynamics driving behavior.In this eye-opening interview, Elaine reveals how we can support our children's transition challenges while building stronger relationships in the process.You'll discover:* Why safety and trust are the foundation for all cooperation—and how your child's definition of "feeling safe" might be completely different from yours* The powerful shift from "ask, don't tell" that immediately communicates respect for your child's developing autonomy* How to recognize when your expectations don't match reality—and why that gap is where most triggers and explosions happen* The surprising truth about why pushing harder during resistance actually undermines your authority instead of building cooperation* How to decode your child's behaviors as communication rather than defiance—including why your child might need to complain for 10 minutes every day after school* The difference between prevention and management during emotional dysregulation—and when to let the meltdown run its course versus intervening* Why transitions are harder for everyone than we give ourselves credit for, and how to expect and prepare for heightened emotions weeks before they happen* The simple but profound perspective shift that changes everything: moving from "they're being difficult" to "they're having difficulty"* How to break the stimulus-react-react cycle that keeps families stuck in power struggles and disconnection* Why focusing on the parent's inner work is actually the most effective way to help your child succeedElaine vulnerably shares her own journey from an overwhelmed mom of three challenging kids to discovering the power of a coaching approach. She shows us how treating our children as whole human beings rather than problems to be fixed creates the foundation for genuine cooperation and lasting change.Most importantly, she challenges us to move beyond asking "How do I get my child to comply?" to asking "How can I support them where they are right now?" This shift changes everything about how we approach parenting challenges.Ready to move from back-to-school chaos to confident connection? This conversation will give you the coach-approach tools to support your child's emotional world while strengthening your relationship in the process.To learn more about Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Impact Parents:https://impactparents.com/https://impactparents.com/podcast Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why your child's explosive behavior keeps happening, even when you use all the "right" consequences and rewards?What if I told you that your child's meltdowns and resistance aren't about defiance or manipulation—but are actually their nervous system's way of saying "I don't feel safe right now"?My guest, Dr. Bethany Bilodeau, a behaviorist and sensory specialist who works at the intersection of trauma, neurodiversity, and nervous system regulation, has spent years discovering that traditional behavior management approaches often make things worse, not better.If you've ever felt lost trying to help a child who seems to explode over the smallest things, or wondering why school pickup feels like walking into a battlefield, this conversation will give you a completely new lens for understanding what's really happening.Dr. B's practice focuses on helping parents shift from managing compliance to co-creating safety and regulation with their children—particularly those who present as oppositional, anxious, or withdrawn. Drawing from neuroscience research and evidence-based interventions, she provides practical tools to understand the underlying needs driving behavior.In this eye-opening interview, Dr. B reveals how we can support our children's developing nervous systems while building stronger relationships in the process.You'll discover:* Why safety is the foundation for all healing—whether your child has experienced trauma, is neurodivergent, or is simply struggling with nervous system regulation* The powerful "stance of safety" that immediately communicates to your child's nervous system that you can keep them safe and help them co-regulate* How to recognize when your child is "stuck" in resistance and what's actually happening in their brain during these moments* Why pushing harder when they're stuck actually undermines your authority instead of encouraging cooperation* The science behind why proprioceptive input (like carrying heavy things or walking upstairs) can be your secret weapon for helping kids reset their nervous systems* How to use transitions strategically to help eliminate behaviors that drive you crazy—like Dr. B's genius approach to ending her son's endless burping* The early warning signs that your child's difficult behavior might actually be their nervous system protecting them from overwhelm* Why hydration, sleep, and movement aren't just "nice to have" but are actually fundamental to your child's ability to regulate and cooperate* How to read your child's body language to know when they're approaching their limit—including the meaning behind "whites above or below the eyes"* Practical strategies for back-to-school season that help prevent the inevitable overwhelm and meltdownsDr. B vulnerably shares her own journey from having a child who was asked to leave three different daycares to discovering the power of understanding sensory needs and nervous system regulation. She shows us how early intervention made all the difference—and how her son eventually exited special education services by sixth grade because he had developed the skills he needed to thrive.Most importantly, she challenges us to move beyond asking "How do I get my child to comply?" to asking "How do I help my child feel safe enough to cooperate?" This shift changes everything about how we approach parenting challenges.Ready to move from constant battles to genuine partnership with your child? This conversation will give you the neuroscience-backed tools to support their developing nervous system while strengthening your connection.Parenting overwhelmed kids is exhausting, and you’re normal if you feel drained, burnt out, and overwhelmed yourself when dealing with them. Join us on the FREE upcoming Self-Compassion for Peaceful Parenting summit to learn strategies to calm your triggers, soothe yourself mid-storm, and repair when things blow up. Click here to register for your free ticket. To learn more about Dr. B:https://www.thebehaviorbootcamp.com/ Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why you keep losing it with your kids, even though you know all the "right" things to do?What if I told you that the missing piece isn't another parenting technique—but how you treat yourself after those inevitable moments when you completely lose your cool?In this vulnerable solo episode, I share the story of one of my clients who had a complete meltdown with her elementary schooler. Here's what hit me: this wasn't just any parent—she was a kindergarten teacher who helped 25 kids regulate their emotions every single day. Yet when it came to her own child, all that knowledge seemed to vanish the moment she got triggered.Sound familiar?If you've ever felt like you're failing at this peaceful parenting thing, if you've wondered why you keep repeating the same reactive patterns even though you know better, this episode will change everything for you.I dive deep into what's really happening in your brain when your child pushes your buttons—and why your amygdala doesn't care that you've read 17 parenting books. But more importantly, I reveal the cruel irony that keeps us stuck: it's not the losing it that's the problem, it's what we do to ourselves afterward.In this episode, you'll discover:* Why the "shame spiral of doom" actually makes it MORE likely you'll lose it again with your kids* The neuroscience behind why all your parenting knowledge disappears the moment you get triggered* The three components of self-compassion that can break the cycle of reactive parenting in just 60 seconds* How one simple shift helped my client stop beating herself up for three days after every parenting mistake* Why 80% of parents never give themselves this one thing—and how it's sabotaging everything else they're trying to do* The specific phrases and techniques that can regulate your nervous system faster than any breathing exercise* How self-compassion isn't "soft" parenting—it's actually what makes authentic repair and connection possibleI share the exact framework my client used to transform her relationship with her parenting mistakes, moving from shame to learning in a matter of minutes instead of days.Most importantly, I explain why this isn't about becoming a perfect parent—it's about becoming a real one. One who can mess up, take responsibility, repair, and try again with love.Ready to stop being your own worst critic and start being your own best friend?I've brought together 35 world-leading experts for the Self-Compassion for Peaceful Parents Summit—completely free for 5 days. You'll hear from incredible voices like:* Dr. Laura Markham explaining why self-regulation must come before you can help regulate your child* Jamie Lynn Tatera revealing how to break generational cycles of shame and reactivity* Emily Delworth sharing somatic techniques that can stop a reactive episode in under 30 seconds* Dr. Marcy Axness teaching you how to "reparent yourself" while parenting your childrenThis isn't about collecting more techniques to forget when you're triggered. This is about developing the inner capacity that makes you actually able to use those techniques when you need them most.Because here's the truth: when you stop fighting with yourself, you naturally stop fighting with your children.The summit is completely free, with 7 expert interviews available each day for 24 hours. Don't worry about listening to every single one—pick the experts who resonate most with you and dive deep into those conversations.Register for free at: delightinparenting.com/self-compassionYour children don't need a perfect parent. They need a real one. And that parent? That's exactly who you already are. You just need to start treating yourself like you believe it.I'll see you at the summit. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why you keep exploding at your kids despite reading every parenting book and knowing exactly what you "should" do?What if I told you that if you're neurodivergent or raising neurodivergent kids, traditional parenting advice isn't just ineffective—it can actually make you feel more ashamed and overwhelmed because it ignores how differently your nervous system works?My guest, Lauren O'Carroll, completely shifted my understanding of what neurodivergent parents actually need during our raw and honest conversation. As a certified peaceful parenting coach who has ADHD herself and is raising two neurodivergent children, Lauren knows firsthand the impossible position many parents find themselves in—desperately wanting to co-regulate with their kids but lacking the nervous system capacity to do so.In this vulnerable interview, Lauren reveals why the "just regulate yourself first" advice feels so impossible for ADHD parents and what actually works instead.You'll discover:* The "double negative" that neurodivergent families face: kids who need more co-regulation paired with parents who have less capacity to provide it* Why consuming more parenting information can actually make your regulation worse when you're already overwhelmed* How anger needs to move through your body—and Lauren's go-to strategy* The crucial difference between accepting where you are versus condoning harmful behavior* Why community with other neurodivergent parents isn't just nice to have—it's essential for your nervous system health* Specific somatic techniques that work when traditional "take deep breaths" advice failsLauren vulnerably shares how she went from being "a walking encyclopedia" of parenting knowledge to finally finding tools that actually worked for her reactive nervous system. She reminds us that if you're listening to parenting podcasts, "that is proof that you're a good parent"—even when you're struggling.Most importantly, she challenges the myth that neurodivergent parents are somehow broken, showing us instead how to work with our wiring rather than against it.Ready to stop fighting your nervous system and start supporting it? This conversation will give you permission to parent in a way that actually fits your brain—and find the community support you've been craving.To learn more about Lauren O'Carroll's work:https://www.instagram.com/positivelyparentingtogether/https://www.facebook.com/LaurenParentCoach/https://www.facebook.com/groups/myparentvillage https://www.linkedin.com/in/positivelyparenting/ Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why your child's "difficult" behavior keeps happening over and over, no matter what consequences you try?What if I told you that your child's explosive meltdowns aren't actually about defiance or manipulation—but are their way of communicating that there's a problem they don't know how to solve?My guest, Kim Hopkins, completely shifted my understanding of children's challenging behavior during our powerful conversation. As a licensed clinical social worker and Director of Learning and Resources with Dr. Ross Green's organization—the author of the groundbreaking book "The Explosive Child"—Kim has spent over 25 years discovering that traditional behavior modification techniques often make things worse, not better.If you've ever felt lost trying to help a child who seems to explode over the smallest things, Dr. Green's book has been a lifeline for countless families. And Kim works directly with him to bring these life-changing strategies to parents and professionals around the world.In this eye-opening interview, Kim reveals how we can help our children develop the skills they need to handle life's challenges while building stronger relationships in the process.You'll discover:* Why the phrase "kids do well if they can" changes everything about how we approach discipline—and what to do when they can't* The crucial difference between focusing on behavior modification versus solving underlying problems* How to identify which of your child's struggles to work on first when you feel overwhelmed by everything that needs to change* Why collaborative problem-solving with your child is actually higher accountability than punishment* The three-step process for partnering with your child to solve problems together—even with young kids who don't communicate with words yet* How to use "Plan C" to temporarily reduce conflict while you work on higher priority issues* Why children who seem "well-behaved" at school might still benefit from this approach* The specific assessment tool that helps you understand exactly which skills your child is struggling to accessKim vulnerably shares her own story of working in residential care, where they were restraining children who couldn't live at home—until she discovered Dr. Green's approach and saw "nothing short of remarkable" results, even before they became skilled at the model.Most importantly, she challenges the belief that we need to be punitive to raise good citizens, showing us how collaborative problem-solving actually teaches children the skills they'll need as adults.Ready to move from constant power struggles to genuine partnership with your child? This conversation will give you the tools to help them develop the problem-solving skills they need while strengthening your connection.If you're tired of feeling like you're constantly managing one crisis after another and want to create the calm, collaborative home you've been dreaming of, I'm starting a small group where we'll work through Dr. Laura Markham's Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook together over 6 weeks. Just 8 spots available, and I'll be there to guide you through every step.You can find all the details at https://www.delightinparenting.com/workbook-group. Your child is waiting for you to show up differently—this is how you learn to do it. There are only a few spots left, and doors for registration close tonight. Click here to learn more. To learn more about Kim Hopkins: https://livesinthebalance.org/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why your son seems to shut down emotionally right when you're trying to help him process his feelings?What if I told you that the cultural messages about masculinity start affecting our boys as early as age four or five—and that most parents are completely unaware of how deeply these harmful expectations have already taken root?My guest, Dr. Daniel Ellenberg, completely shifted my understanding of raising emotionally healthy boys during our powerful conversation. As founder of Strength with Heart men's groups and former president of the American Psychological Association's division on men and masculinities, Daniel has spent over 40 years helping men and boys connect with their full emotional range.In this eye-opening interview, Daniel reveals how we can raise more compassionate and vulnerable boys while changing the culture of masculinity from within our own homes.You'll discover:* Why boys as young as five start getting shamed for showing vulnerability—and how one father beautifully responded when his son was called a girl at school* The crucial difference between "strength with no heart" and "strength with heart"—and why both extremes harm our boys* Why Daniel believes the term "toxic masculinity" is actually harmful messaging that makes boys feel attacked for their identity* How parents often unknowingly trigger their own unresolved emotions when their sons show vulnerability* The importance of genuine curiosity over criticism when connecting with your teen—specific scripts included* Why community building among parents is essential for counteracting harmful cultural influences* How to monitor content consumption without becoming the "screen police"* Practical ways to help boys understand and express anger without shaming them or encouraging aggressionDaniel vulnerably shares his own insights about how parents need to do their own emotional work first, because "the best thing you can do as a parent is to be healthy." He reminds us that modeling vulnerability takes courage, but it's actually a pathway to deeper connection—not weakness.Most importantly, he challenges the false choice between being "tough" or being "gentle," showing us how our boys can embody both strength and heart in an integrated way.Ready to help your son embrace his full emotional range while building genuine confidence? This conversation will give you the tools to support him in becoming the kind of man the world desperately needs.Before we wrap up, I want to share something with you. Just last week, a mom in my community told me, "Dajana, I used to dread bedtime because I knew it would end in a battle. Now my daughter actually asks for our connection time together." What changed? She stopped trying to manage her child's emotions and started learning to regulate her own first. If you're tired of feeling triggered by your child's big emotions and want to create the calm, connected home you've been dreaming of, I'm starting a small group where we'll work through Dr. Laura Markham's Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids Workbook together over 6 weeks. Just 8 spots available, and I'll be there to guide you through every step. You can find all the details at https://www.delightinparenting.com/workbook-group. Your child is waiting for you to show up differently—this is how you learn to do it.To learn more about Dr. Daniel Ellenberg's work: Global Compassion Coalition: https://globalcompassioncoalition.org Men and Boys Compassion Coalition Rewire Leadership: https://rewireleadership.comConnect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
What if the secret to becoming a better parent isn't doing more for your kids—but doing something entirely for yourself?When Tatiana Goded talks about rediscovering forgotten dreams, she's not just speaking as a coach—she's speaking from the heart of someone who lived it. After finishing her PhD, the very next day she enrolled in a creative writing course. It was as if she was finally giving herself permission to return to the passion she'd abandoned in high school.But here's what happened next: she finished the course and stopped writing. Then took another course, loved it, and stopped again. This cycle repeated three times until she finally had her breakthrough moment—when she decided "I'm not stopping writing anymore. This is important to me."During our conversation, Tatiana reveals the profound shift that changed everything: moving from "filling your cup" to "filling your cup and giving from the overflow." When she started prioritizing her writing—not as a luxury, but as essential fuel—she became a more present, joyful mother to her neurodivergent daughter.The science backs this up. When we engage in activities that bring us genuine joy, we're not just happier—we're literally rewiring our brains for more positivity, presence, and resilience. Those 15 minutes of morning writing or afternoon painting aren't selfish indulgences; they're investments in becoming the parent your children need.Tatiana shares the practical framework that works: starting with just 15 minutes a day, doing it first thing in the morning before life takes over, and focusing on three "MITs" (Most Important Things) that fill your cup—not more chores or obligations, but genuine sources of joy.If you're feeling like you've lost yourself in the endless cycle of caring for everyone else, or if you can barely remember what you used to love doing before kids consumed your world, this conversation will remind you that reclaiming your passions isn't selfish—it's essential. Listen now to discover how reconnecting with your forgotten dreams can make you the parent you've always wanted to be.To learn more about Tatiana Goded:“Your essential kit to recover your dreams”This kit includes:- A guide with essential steps to recover your dreams;- A 9-page workbook to do some journaling on your passions ;- 3 meditations to help you feel calm and grounded, with a total of 28minutes, and an accompanying guide;- The first two chapters of my book, “A trip towards the sunset”, a journey of self-discovery and recovery of long-forgotten dreams;- Three compelling stories of people who have recovered their past dreams after 40Get your free gifts here: https://funnel.puiakiprecious.com/essentialkitTo find out more about Tatiana, have a look at https://puiakiprecious.com/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
What if one simple shift could end the exhausting cycle of being your family's unpaid manager—while raising kids who actually want to help?I know you're tired. Not just physically tired from doing everything yourself, but emotionally exhausted from being the only one who notices the overflowing trash, the dirty dishes, the chaos that somehow becomes your responsibility to fix.You're tired of being the household CEO while everyone else gets to be employees who clock out. You manage the mental load, remember what needs doing, delegate tasks, and then still end up doing half of it yourself because it's easier than the battle.You're tired of feeling like a broken record—asking, reminding, nagging, negotiating. "Can you please put your dishes away?" becomes a daily drama. Getting anyone to pitch in feels like pulling teeth, and you start to wonder: "Am I raising future adults who will expect their partners to be their personal assistants?"The guilt hits hard too. You love your kids desperately, but you fantasize about having just five minutes to yourself without someone needing something. You want to connect with them, but you're too busy managing their lives to actually enjoy them.Sound familiar? You're not alone in this struggle, and more importantly—it doesn't have to be this way.Imagine if household tasks became natural collaboration time where you actually connect with your children, instead of resentful solo work that keeps you from them.Imagine if your partner and kids saw the work of caring for your home as shared responsibility, not "mom's job" they occasionally assist with.Imagine if you could raise children who become the kind of partners who notice what needs doing and do it—without being asked.This isn't fantasy. During my conversation with family systems expert Lori Sugarman-Li, she reveals exactly how families across the country are making this shift. Not through stricter rules or bigger consequences, but by changing something much simpler: the energy and language around how families care for each other.Her own teenagers voluntarily fold laundry and vacuum—not because they have to, but because they understand their role in creating the home they want to live in. No nagging required.The secret? It starts with one conversation that most families never have. And once you hear how to facilitate it, you'll wonder why no one taught you this years ago.Ready to stop being your family's unpaid manager and start building the cooperative household you've been dreaming of? Listen to this episode now to discover the exact framework that's transforming exhausted parents into connected families.To learn more about Lori Sugarman-Li’s work:https://ourhomeourpride.com/https://www.instagram.com/ourhomeourpride/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever wondered why your child seems to push your buttons at exactly the moments when you're least equipped to handle it?What if I told you that your child isn't actually "misbehaving" at all—they're showing you something much deeper?My guest, renowned child behavior expert Bryan Post, completely shifted my understanding of challenging child behavior during our conversation. As founder of the Post Institute and author of "From Fear to Love," Bryan has spent decades working with families in their homes, witnessing the most intimate family dynamics and discovering what really drives our children's actions.In this eye-opening interview, Bryan reveals his groundbreaking Stress Model Theory that will change how you see every tantrum, every defiant moment, and every challenging behavior.You'll discover:* Why "children act out because they are stressed out"—and how this simple truth transforms everything* The powerful story of a mom who ended five years of bath time battles in just four days using Bryan's approach* Bryan's Three R's framework (Reflect, Relate, Regulate) that can de-escalate any situation* The 13-second technique that shifts you from fear to love in the heat of the moment* Why your child's behavior triggers your own stress response—and how to break this cycle* The difference between surviving energy (fear) and thriving energy (love) in your family dynamicsBryan vulnerably shares his own childhood of "love balanced by violence" and how it shaped his understanding that stressed parents create stressed children—but regulated parents can heal generational patterns.Most importantly, he reminds us that parenting is 90% emotional, not cognitive. When we try to logic our way through emotional moments, we miss the real message our children are sending us.Ready to see your child's challenging behavior through a lens of understanding instead of frustration? This conversation will give you the tools to respond from love instead of fear, even in your most triggered moments.To learn more about Bryan Post's work: https://www.feartolove.com (Get his free ebook "From Fear to Love")Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever found yourself knowing exactly how you want to respond to your child's behavior, only to have all that wisdom fly out the window when emotions run high?You're not alone. Dr. Alissa Jerud, clinical psychologist and author of "Emotion Savvy Parenting," knows this struggle intimately—both professionally and personally.In this transformative conversation, Dr. Jerud reveals why even the most well-read parents still lose their cool (hint: it's not because you're failing). She vulnerably shares her own parenting moments that didn't go as planned, while offering practical, science-backed strategies to help you navigate emotional storms.You'll discover:* The ART framework that helps you Accept, Regulate, and Tolerate big emotions when they arise* The game-changing CARE technique that can reduce your heart rate by 50% in just 30 seconds (perfect for those "about to lose it" moments)* Why practicing these skills when you're calm dramatically increases your ability to use them when you're triggered* How to move past shame when you don't respond perfectly (because you won't—and that's actually good for your kids to see)Dr. Jerud compassionately reminds us that emotions are messengers, not emergencies. While we should welcome them, we don't have to let them drive our behavior with our children.Ready to transform how you handle those zero-to-sixty emotional moments with your kids? Listen to this episode now for practical skills you can start using today to parent more mindfully, even when big feelings threaten to take over.To learn more about Dr. Alissa Jerud’s Work:https://www.alissajerud.com/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
In our latest podcast episode, "Building Bridges: Raising Emotionally Connected Boys," I tackle one of the most pressing challenges parents face today – how to reach our sons when they seem increasingly distant and disconnected.As a mom of three (including two boys), I've experienced firsthand the struggle to maintain connection with sons who are bombarded with confusing messages about masculinity, emotions, and identity.This episode isn't just theory – it's practical wisdom born from both professional expertise and real parenting trenches.You'll discover:* Why so many boys are emotionally shutting down in today's world* The four key signs your son might be struggling (beyond typical "boy behavior")* Practical strategies to build connection instead of pushing for control* How to create safe spaces for authentic expression – even with resistant teens* Balanced approaches to screens and digital influencesMost importantly, you'll learn how to see past challenging behaviors to reach the boy behind the mask – the child who still deeply needs your love and guidance.This isn't about perfect parenting. It's about building bridges when the gap feels widest.Ready to transform your relationship with your son?Listen to the full episode now.Your son needs you – not perfect, just present and connected.Are you exhausted from constant sibling bickering? Do you feel like a referee instead of a parent? You're not the only one feeling this way.The FREE Sibling Summit brings together 20+ parenting experts to share practical strategies that create lasting peace between your children. Over five focused days, you'll discover:Day 1: Sibling Conflict & RivalryLearn the psychology behind sibling fights and practical intervention techniques from bestselling authors Joanna Faber & Julie King, along with experts Abigail Wald, Kiva Schuler, Clara Roulev, Tosha Schore, and Kyle & Sara Wester.Day 2: Parental Self-RegulationDiscover how your own emotional responses impact sibling dynamics, with guidance from Stephanie Pinto, Maryam Munir, Dajana Yoakley, JoAnn Crohn, and Emily Hamblin on staying calm when tensions rise.Day 3: Connection & BondingExplore powerful bonding activities with Dr. Lawrence Cohen, Katie Kimball, Marta Khader, Sonali Vongchusiri, and Jennifer Kolari that help siblings genuinely enjoy each other's company.Day 4: Neurodiversity & TemperamentsAddress the unique challenges when siblings have different temperaments or neurodivergent traits with expert guidance from Elaine Taylor Klause & Diane Dempster, Lauren O'Carroll, Dayna Abraham, Penny Williams, and Sarah Rosensweet.Day 5: Age by AgeGet age-specific strategies from Emily Murray, Shruti Kumar, Will Kirsop, Mihaela Anghel, and renowned authors Ned Johnson & William Stixrud for navigating sibling relationships from toddlers to teens.Every session provides practical, actionable advice you can implement immediately. Parents who've applied these approaches report not just fewer fights, but genuine friendship growing between their children.Register now for FREE access to all sessions! Space is limited for this life-changing event. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Parenting Strong-Willed Children: Insights from Kirk MartinKirk Martin, founder of CelebrateCalm.com and host of the Calm Parenting Podcast, offers transformative advice for parents of strong-willed children, drawing from 25 years of experience and working with over 1,500 challenging kids.Understanding Strong-Willed ChildrenMartin explains that strong-willed children primarily feel misunderstood. "These are kids who value their autonomy and independence more than they care about consequences. And that's why consequences don't work," he says.Rather than seeing these children as difficult, Martin encourages parents to appreciate their independence and determination as future strengths.Practical Approaches That WorkMartin recommends several effective strategies:* Change your posture: "It's almost impossible to yell when you're sitting down," Martin points out.* Use a neutral tone: Strong-willed children respond better to confidence than sweetness or authoritarianism.* Match their intensity: Validate their frustration instead of minimizing it.* Create movement: "Motion changes emotion," Martin explains, suggesting activities that redirect energy.* Identify triggers: Focus on understanding what sparks meltdowns rather than controlling behavior.Martin reassures parents: "If you're listening to a parenting podcast, you're a good parent. So relax. You guys are doing a good job."Your strong-willed child isn't being difficult—they're navigating the world their way. By understanding their nature, you can transform challenges into connection.Want to hear more practical scripts and strategies from Kirk Martin? Listen to the full podcast episode for additional insights on parenting strong-willed children effectively.To learn more about Kirk Martin:https://celebratecalm.com/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever watched your son stuff down his tears with a forced "I'm fine" when you know he's struggling inside?When Ashanti Branch was growing up in Oakland with his single mom, he quickly learned that showing emotions wasn't acceptable unless they were funny or angry. "In my community, you're barely allowed to show any emotion," he shares in this eye-opening conversation. This emotional suppression led to multiple school suspensions for fighting – not because he wanted to fight, but because community rules said he couldn't walk away.As a teacher years later, Ashanti noticed boys in his classroom failing despite being brilliant. The reason? They were hiding their intelligence because "smart wasn't cool." This observation led him to create the Ever Forward Club and eventually the Million Mask Movement, helping young men express the emotions they've been taught to conceal.In this powerful episode, you'll discover:* Why your son might be transforming sadness and vulnerability into anger (and what this costs him long-term)* Why parents must "go first" in vulnerability before expecting children to open up* How to respond when your son says "I'm fine" but his behavior screams otherwiseMost importantly, Ashanti shares his shaken soda can metaphor for unexpressed emotions: when opened unexpectedly, they explode - sometimes creating messes that take a lifetime to clean up.Whether your son struggles with angry outbursts, withdraws into screens, or seems perpetually "fine" despite concerning behavior, this conversation offers practical strategies to help him express his full emotional range safely.Ready to help your son take off his emotional mask? Listen to the episode now.As Ashanti wisely reminds us, "It's easier to raise healthy children than to fix broken men."To learn more about Ever Forward Club:https://everforwardclub.org/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever feel like you've completely lost yourself in the chaos of parenting? Like your entire identity has been reduced to meeting your children's needs while yours keep getting pushed to the back burner?I recently sat down with Kate House from Live by Design for a conversation that might just change how you approach self-care as a parent. Kate, a behavior change specialist and top podcaster, began her own journey during the pandemic when she found herself at home with a two-year-old and a 10-month-old, feeling increasingly isolated and disconnected from herself.What she discovered was transformative: the relationship you have with yourself directly impacts the one you have with your children. "You can only give your kids what you have inside," Kate shared. If you want to give your children delight, patience, and presence, you must first nurture those qualities within yourself.But how do we actually make this happen when we're already overwhelmed? Kate suggests two practical approaches:First, start incredibly small—so small it almost seems pointless. Don't commit to training for a half-marathon if you haven't run in years. Instead, put on comfortable shoes and take a 10-minute walk. These small actions compound over time, creating significant positive change without overwhelming your already full schedule.Second, examine your calendar with a critical eye. Kate recommends asking yourself a polarizing question about each commitment: "Is this an opportunity or an obligation?" If something drains your energy rather than nourishing you, consider setting boundaries—which Kate frames as a "yes, no, yes sandwich" to make saying no feel more comfortable.The good news? This approach aligns perfectly with peaceful parenting. Just as we validate our children's feelings before setting a limit, we can acknowledge ourselves while still protecting our boundaries. As Kate puts it, "You don't have to feel guilty to take care of yourself."Want to dig deeper into creating intentional routines that honor both your needs and your children's? I'm excited to share that Kate has generously offered my readers free access to her Goals with Soul Summit—a $97 value that includes live coaching and practical guidance for setting aligned goals. Click on https://mskatehouse.thinkific.com/courses/the-goals-with-soul-summit-2024-all-access-pass and use discount code: delight. Remember, taking time for yourself isn't selfish—it's essential to showing up as the parent you want to be.To Learn More About Kate House:https://mskatehouse.com/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Trapped in Power Struggles? This Surprising Approach Changed EverythingHave you ever told your child "it's time for bed" only to face an hour of tears, negotiations, and resistance? You're not alone. After 15 years of working with families, parenting expert Vivek Patel has discovered why traditional approaches often fail - and what actually works instead.In my recent conversation with Vivek, he shared a story that completely shifted my perspective on these daily battles. A mother came to him nearly in tears because tooth brushing had become a nightly screaming match with her toddler. She was jabbing the toothbrush into her child's mouth while worrying about cavities, and felt their relationship deteriorating with each battle.Vivek suggested a radically different approach. Instead of doubling down on control, he advised her to apologize to her child and say: "I really think tooth brushing is important, but I've been making a big mistake by forcing you. No one should force someone else to do something they don't want to do, and that's not how I want our relationship to be."He then recommended she simply ask her child to join her in the bathroom during her own tooth brushing time. Meanwhile, throughout the day, she should make teeth a "loving, happy thing" - buying dollar store toothbrushes to play with, making toothpaste paintings on the bathroom mirror, and talking positively about teeth.The results? The first few days, her child cried from sheer disbelief that the forced brushing routine had ended. By the fifth day, they were playing and laughing during bathroom time. Just two weeks in, her child asked, "Mommy, would you brush my teeth for me?"What Vivek calls "pattern interruption" had transformed their relationship and the child's relationship with tooth care itself. Rather than asking "How do I get my kids to brush their teeth?" Vivek encourages parents to ask "How do I help my kid love their teeth?"This strategy reflects Vivek's core philosophy: "Respect comes from caring about other people, not from being afraid of what will happen if you don't." When we shift from control to collaboration, we create families where everyone feels valued and heard.Want to learn more about this approach? Vivek offers a free course called "Guiding Without Controlling" at meaningfulideas.com, along with a more in-depth paid course on "Recovering from a Parenting Mistake with Maximum Change and Minimum Shame" for $37. You can also find over 200 videos on his YouTube channel "Meaningful Ideas," where he shares practical strategies for creating peaceful, respectful relationships with your children.As Vivek says, "The process is perfection." We don't need to parent perfectly - we just need to keep evolving in how we relate to our children.Looking for additional resources with challenging situations? My signature Raising a Resilient Child Online Course is open for registration now. Click here to learn more. Doors close on March 31st.To learn more about Vivek Patel’s Work at Meaningful Ideas:https://www.meaningfulideas.com/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Do you worry when you see your child sitting alone at recess or never getting invited to playdates? If you've ever felt that knot in your stomach watching your child struggle socially, you're not alone.I recently had a fascinating conversation with Debbie Steinberg-Kuntz, founder of Bright and Quirky, about supporting children who find it difficult to make and keep friends. What she shared brought me such relief, and I want to pass along these insights to you.Debbie made a powerful point that changed my perspective: your child doesn't need a soccer team full of friends. They just need "one friend and a spare." This simple concept takes so much pressure off both parents and children. Instead of worrying that your child isn't popular enough, you can focus on helping them cultivate just one or two meaningful connections.For children who struggle socially—whether due to neurodiversity, anxiety, or simply being more introverted—making friends often feels overwhelming. Many kids, especially those who are bright and quirky, have difficulty reading social cues or knowing how to respond appropriately in social situations.Debbie shared that for many children, the problem isn't a lack of desire for friendship but rather missing the tools to build connections successfully. She compared conversation to a tennis match—someone serves the ball, the other person returns it. This back-and-forth doesn't come naturally to all children, but it can be practiced and improved over time.Listen now to our insightful conversation. To learn more about Debbie Steinberg Kuntz: https://brightandquirky.com/Connect with Dajana Yoakley at Delight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe
Ever asked your child to do something simple that other kids seem to handle easily, only to be met with a meltdown?You're not alone.When Emily Hamblin's children couldn't manage basic requests that her friends' children handled effortlessly, she found herself wondering: "What's wrong with me? What's wrong with my kids?"In this powerful conversation with neurodiversity expert Emily Hamblin, we explore why traditional parenting advice often falls flat for children with unique brain wiring.Emily shares her journey from overwhelmed teacher-turned-mom to becoming a specialist in supporting parents of neurodivergent children.You'll discover:* Why your child's emotional meltdowns aren't willful defiance but their best attempt to handle overwhelming feelings with limited skills* How learning to regulate your own emotions first creates the foundation for helping your child* Practical ways to identify your child's unique sensory needs before dysregulation spirals* The power of "I hear you" and other connection techniques that work even when words failWhether your child has an official diagnosis like ADHD or autism, or you simply notice they struggle with emotional regulation more than peers, this conversation offers validation and practical strategies to break the cycle of family dysregulation.Want to learn more about supporting yourself and your children through challenging moments? Tired of the nightly meltdowns when you say "time for bed"? Join me for "Beyond Power Struggles" – a 3-day live coaching series where you'll learn exactly what to say and do when your child's emotions erupt.For just $7, I'll share the same strategies that helped me turn my child's 45-minute tantrums into 5-minute conversations.One hour each day: March 18-20. Simple techniques, immediate results Live Q&A for your specific situationsEnd the exhausting power struggles and rediscover the joy in parenting.To learn more about Enlightening Motherhood:https://emily-hamblin.com/Connect with Dajana YoakleyDelight in ParentingStep #1 — Get the 3 Steps to Reset Your Nervous System FREE Guide or book a FREE 20 minute consult.https://www.delightinparenting.comhttps://www.delightinparenting.com/book-onlineStep #2 — Learn More about my signature online course: “Raising a Resilient Child”. https://www.delightinparenting.com/courseStep #3 — Connect With The Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/delightinparentingfreeStep #4- Follow me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/delightinparenting/https://www.facebook.com/delightinparentingcoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@DelightinParentinghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/delightinparenting/https://www.pinterest.com/delightinparenting/https://medium.com/@delightinparenting This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit delightinparenting.substack.com/subscribe