Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abuse

Welcome to the "Dimming The Gaslight" podcast. I'm Mac - a male survivor of Narcissistic Abuse. Week by week, I share my journey of divorcing a female narcissist, fighting for my young children, and navigating the complexity of the U.S. family court system. But it's not just my story – I want to hear from you too! If you want to be a guest on the show, please email me at DimmingTheGaslight@gmail.com for a chance to be on the show.

Episode 167: Lured, Trapped and Erased: A Mother's Fight Through Injustice (Interview with Kaylyn Hakanson)

@kaylynhakansontheauthor is a new friend of the podcast that wrote a book called “You Can’t Break Me”. She joins us on this exciting episode to detail how her good intentioned journey to find her biological brother turned into a harrowing journey of narcissistic abuse, unmitigated danger, and ultimately, parental alienation by an absolutely broken court system!Click here to buy Kaylyn's book "You Can't Break Me"Click here for Kaylyn's new Podcast!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

09-28
01:29:15

Episode 166: A Story of the Red Headed Step Child Part II (Interview with Eddie)

Eddie is back from last week with part 2 of his story! From how he met his NEx, to the torment from her family, to realizing he was in a toxic relationship, Eddie’s story will continue to have you on the edge of your seat!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

09-21
01:31:17

Episode 165: A Story of the Red Headed Step Child Part I (Interview with Eddie)

Eddie is here with an insane story! With what starts with a road trip with his NEx that turns into a compete meltdown, Eddie takes us down memory lane with stories that will make the hair on your arms stand up!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

09-14
01:27:18

Episode 164: A Woman Talks Parental Alienation (Interview With Matilda)

Matilda joins us all the way from Ireland to tell us about her story of parental alienation! After a shocking turn from her NEx at the birth of her first child, he began systematically trying to alienate her from her children. Now, Matilda is in the fight of her life to reconnect with them!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 ⁠www.dimmingthegaslight.com⁠⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

09-07
01:26:10

Episode 163: Ethan's Newly Out of His Narc Relationship

Ethan is a new friend of mine, and his story is WILD. From his ex constantly accusing him of cheating… to attacking him in his sleep… to even trying to stop him from learning about narcissism—Ethan’s journey will have you gasping from start to finish.Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit 👉 www.dimmingthegaslight.com⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events—except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast… newsflash: you’re the narcissist.

08-24
01:26:24

Episode 162: A Lawyer Discusses Coercive Control Laws (Interview with Sandra Fava ESQ)

We all know the courts look for physical violence when ruling on family court cases, but what about coercive control? How does that fit in? Well, Sanda Fava ESQ is here to talk with us about some updated laws and rulings in NJ! We discuss what judges look for, the evidence we need to present, and what we can do to help our children!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit us at ⁠⁠⁠DimmingTheGaslight.com⁠⁠⁠!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

08-17
01:14:10

Episode 161: A Retired Detective Talks About How He Responds to DV Calls (Interview With Detective David Littman)

David Littman is a retired Detective that spent over 27 years on the force. He breaks down how he responded to a domestic violence call, what he looks for, what he thinks about the justice system, and shares some of his craziest stories from the force!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit us at ⁠⁠DimmingTheGaslight.com⁠⁠!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

07-27
01:31:02

Episode 160: A Lawyer Discusses Narcissism In The Court Room (Interview with Christopher Anderson from New Leaf Family Law)

Christopher Anderson is an attorney at New Leaf Family Law Firm (@newleaf.family), a full service law firm out of Colorado, USA. He's here to discuss what narcissism looks like in the court room. We discuss a range of topics such as how he allows a narcissist a long rope of lies before reeling them back in, how he manages cases in high conflict divorces, and whether or not the courts are equipt to handle the charade a narcissist loves to parade in the court room! Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!For all things DTG, visit us at ⁠DimmingTheGaslight.com⁠!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

07-13
01:18:26

Episode 159: Kelly Sutliff From HBO Max's "Toxic" Series Part II

Kelly is back to tell part 2 of her story - how the county prosecutor's office TOTALLY dropped the ball on her case! She goes in depth on the legal process, how she was wrongfully accused of a felony, and how her psychotic ex was stalking her - all under the prosecutor's nose!Kelly's links:Kelly's K9s: Tails of CourageThrive Therapy ServicesKelly's Therapeutic Counseling Services_________________________________Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!DimmingTheGaslight.comDISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

06-29
01:59:06

Episode 158: Kelly Sutliff From HBO Max's "Toxic" series Part I

Kelly Sutliff survived a brutal attack that was featured on HBO Max's series "Toxic". Her ex husband turned her home into a blood bath, trying to make it look like Kelly tried to kill HIM! She joins Phil and I to break down the early love bombing phase, red flags and lies she wishes she had caught in the beginning, and details the attack that will leave your heart beat pumping!Kelly's links:Kelly's K9s: Tails of CourageThrive Therapy ServicesKelly's Therapeutic Counseling Services_________________________________Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

06-22
01:46:41

Episode 157: Doug Buggle is Back with a HUGE Announcement!

@dougbuggle is one of my absolute favorite people I’ve ever connected with in the narcissistic abuse community! He’s back - with a friend @robbyseinschwartz - to be our first ever third time guest! Doug wrote a book called “Goodbye Tammy: Third Time Was Not A Charm”, and now has a HUGE announcement that he’s sharing exclusively on DTG! Listen to the episode to find out the big announcement!Click here to buy Doug’s book!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

06-08
01:29:57

Episode 156: Discussing a Toxic Step Parent with Derrick

Derrick is a long time listener and friend of the pod with a story to tell! He had an abusive step father that made his life hell. He went to the military just to get away, wrestled with his mental health, and his step father even triangulated his immediate family against him!Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

06-01
53:38

Episode 155: JP Discusses Her "Ex-Hole" Part II

JP is back to tell part 2 of her story! From violent outbursts towards her kids, to police calls, and court dates, JP’s story keeps getting crazier and crazier!Click ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

05-25
02:00:05

Episode 154: JP Discusses her "Ex-Hole" Part I

On this episode of the podcast, Phil’s sister’s best friend joins the show with a wild story! She has stories about her NEx weaponizing religion, dating her roommate, and even screwing up the labor process of having their first child!Click ⁠⁠here⁠⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

05-18
01:19:28

Episode 153: What's Wrong With The System? (Interview With Danny)

Danny is another fan of Phil’s old podcast that came over to DTG. Danny has been through the wringer, and is looking to fight back. We talk about coping techniques, how can we change the system to stop crippling parents fighting for more time with their kids, and our outlook for the future!Click ⁠here⁠ to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

05-11
01:29:50

Episode 152: Lynn Talks About Narcs Trapping You Through Sexual Coertion

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode of DTG is a gritty one, where Lynn joins us to talk about how her narc used sexual coertion to trap her into staying in the relationship. We have talk about abortion, stalking, abuse, and how Lynn came out a warrior through it all! Click here to join us on Patreon!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

04-27
01:10:03

Episode 151: Whitney Covers the Similarities and Differences Between the Genders of Narcissism

Whitney has a heralding story about overcoming narcissism. She details domestic violence, her bouts with brain fog, and the differences between men and women as it relates to narcissism.Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

04-20
01:07:59

Episode 150: Starting Over After Divorcing a Narcissist (Interview With Jennifer)

Jennifer is in the process of writing a book about her tumultuous divorce from a narcissist. From flipping out about getting engaged, to her friends pleading with her to get divorced, to her steps from healing, Jennifer shares her triumph over a crazy narc!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

03-30
01:12:47

Episode 149: Outsmarting Egomaniacs with Psychotherapist Carla Litto

@carlalittotherapy is a therapist that specializes in Narc Abuse recovery! She wrote a book called “Outsmarting Egomaniacs” and she’s here to talk to us about therapy with a narcissist and those affected. She tells us about therapy patterns she sees from the narc and victim, what signs she looks for during therapy, and when she says it’s time to rip the cord and set yourself free!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

03-23
01:01:28

Episode 148: How to Grey Rock Your Anxiety with Psychologist Dr. Joshua Smith

Dr. Joshua Smith, known on Instagram as @drj.smith, is a psychologist specializing in chronic illness, pain, relationships, boundaries, and communication.His Instagram content includes posts and reels addressing various psychological topics - from the tactics narcs use to how to break free! He's here to to break down their thought process, how you can break free, and have some laughs along the way! Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the DTG Merch Store!Click⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all things DTG!DISCLAIMER: Our lawyers say we need this disclaimer. So, Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the shit we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying characteristics have been altered. If you think we’re talking about you in this podcast, newsflash: you are the narcissist!

03-16
01:42:14

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