Divine by Design

I just read I Who Have Never Known Men by Jacqueline Harpman and I don’t even know where to begin…This episode is not a “book review.” It’s a soul-spill. A reflection on what it cracked open in me about being a woman. About surviving in a world that doesn’t make sense. About living without mirrors, without answers, without a map, and still becoming.I’m diving into the 5 core truths this story awakened in me:✨Curiosity as a survival instinct✨Femininity beyond performance✨Authority as a spell we can break✨Time measured in love & loss✨Death as something sacred, not fearedIf you’ve ever felt like your softness was your strength, or your questions were your compass… this one’s for you. Let your curiosity be holy. Let your ache to understand be enough. Let your becoming be art.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

This one’s for the girlies building their dream life without sacrificing their peace.In this episode, I’m sharing the real-life rituals, mindset shifts, and energetic tools I’m using to design my 23rd year around alignment, abundance, and rest!We’re talking:✨Releasing hustle culture✨Using Human Design + my 28-day cycle to plan my life✨Calling in soul-level connections✨Reprogramming scarcity with fridge-door affirmations✨And showing up from overflow, not obligationSo, if you’re craving a softer, richer, more you-shaped way to live, this episode is your permission slip!Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

Gentle TW: In this episode, I talk about moments in my past where I didn’t feel fully in control of my body or safe to say no. Nothing graphic is shared, but I do open up about experiences that involve coercion, shame, and the healing process that followed. If you’re tender right now, feel free to pause or come back when it feels right. Your safety and softness come first.This episode is for the girls who froze. The ones who didn’t say no, but didn’t say yes either. The ones who blamed themselves, replayed the moment over and over, and convinced themselves it wasn’t “bad enough” to count. The ones who’ve carried silent shame for years.Today, I’m opening up about the moments I lost my voice. The times I didn’t know I had the right to leave, to say no, to protect my body. I’m sharing the truth I used to hide (even from myself) and what it’s looked like to reclaim my body, my voice, and my sovereignty.This isn’t just a story of grief. It’s a story of power. Of unlearning silence. Of honoring your nervous system, your boundaries, and your worth.If you’ve ever questioned your experience, if you’ve ever felt like your trauma didn’t “count,” if you’re on the path of coming back home to your body… this one’s for you.You are not broken. You are not to blame. And you are not alone.DM me “READY” if you’re done shrinking, people-pleasing, or blaming yourself for the ways you’ve had to survive. If you’re ready to reclaim your voice, your body, and your damn power, I’ve got you! Or visit returntoselfprogram.com to schedule a 1:1 session with me! Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

I just quit my job to go all in on my dream life, and I’m bringing you behind the scenes of the mindset shifts, fears, and full-body YES moments that come with expansion.In this episode, I’m getting real about what it actually feels like to step into your Expansion Era (spoiler: it’s not always vision boards & morning matcha). We’re talking growing pains, letting go of what no longer fits, imposter syndrome, discomfort, and what happens when the people around you stop aligning with your next level.If you’re on the edge of something bigger… this is your sign to jump. We’re done playing small. Your Expansion Era starts now.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

Let’s be real... healing isn’t all sage sticks & sunrise meditations. It’s messy. It’s raw. It’s unlearning all the BS that kept us small in the first place. And if you’ve ever felt like you’re trapped in a loop of self-doubt, people-pleasing, or “Who even am I without my trauma?”—this one’s for you baby!This week, I’m sitting down with the beautiful & brilliant Lizzie Arduino, host of Patience to Prosperity. We’re diving deep into shedding limiting beliefs, stepping into your best self (without guilt), and rewriting the damn script society handed you. Expect soul-shaking truths, laughs, and some ‘OMG, that’s me’ moments.If you’ve ever felt like you’re healing in circles or waiting for permission to take up space—this episode is your wake-up call. No more hiding. No more waiting. It’s time to step into the main character energy you were BORN for.Hit play, grab your iced matcha, and let’s get into it.If you love this conversation and want more of Lizzie’s wisdom, connect with her on Instagram and TikTok at @patiencetoprosperity and @lizziearduino! And don’t forget to tune into the Patience to Prosperity Podcast on all streaming platforms for even more mindset shifts, inspiration, and real-talk!Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

Karyssa Michellé is on a mission to help women reconnect with their intuition, heal with intention, and step into their full power—and in today’s episode, she’s doing just that! We’re diving into self-worth, dating while healing, and how to break free from cycles that are no longer in alignment.If you’ve ever felt stuck in your circumstances, if you’re ready to step into your power but don’t know where to start, or if you need a reminder that you get to write your own story—this episode is for you. Karyssa is sharing how to move from fear to faith, break free from limiting beliefs, and take your power back—not just in dating, but in every area of life.Ready to start living in alignment with your worth? Let’s dive in.Connect with Karyssa Michellé on IG, Facebook, and Tik Tok: @karyssamichelle and visit her website karyssa michelle.com to work with her!Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

Alright, babes, buckle up—because this episode is all about breaking the rules, trusting yourself, and taking back your power. Caila Barone, powerhouse mom, entrepreneur, and all-around badass, is here to talk about her journey of free birthing & lotus birthing, and it’s not just about birth—it’s about reclaiming the divine feminine, rejecting the fear and control that society tries to impose on us, and choosing to trust our bodies and instincts, no matter what the world says.From her personal birth story that had everyone side-eyeing her choices to building multiple businesses while being a mom, Caila is a living testament to what happens when you stop listening to the noise and start listening to yourself. This episode is your permission slip to step into your power, trust your intuition, and remember that the only voice you need to listen to is your own.Connect with Caila on IG: @notyourgrandmas_bakedgoods @lil.chai.t @serene.body.flow @the.pawhouse.airbnbFollow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into some real talk about beauty standards... how they’ve been designed to distract us, keep us small, and leave us forever chasing perfection. And guess what? We’re breaking up with ALL of it.Inspired by Florence Given’s Women Living Deliciously, we’re diving into the messy, unfiltered reality of how beauty standards impact our self-worth—and, spoiler alert, it’s not just personal insecurities, it’s a WHOLE SYSTEM set up to keep us distracted.Ready to stop living for everyone else and start actually enjoying your life? Tune in!Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

Winter is the season of softening, and in this episode, we’re releasing the heaviness that’s been keeping us in survival mode.I’m sharing how I’ve been letting go of the need to defend myself, control everything, overwork, and prove my worth. Because honestly? It’s exhausting. And it’s not protecting me, it’s disconnecting me from my peace.This episode is a love letter to your nervous system, your inner child, and the part of you that’s so ready to stop performing & start receiving.Let’s talk about how to trust again, soften again, and finally do things because they light us up, not because we think we have to.DM “READY” if you’re choosing peace, softness & self-trust this season.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

2024 cracked me open.There were endings I didn’t expect, breakthroughs I couldn’t have planned, and magic that only showed up once I surrendered.In this episode, I’m reflecting on the trust it took to walk away from what no longer aligned, and the transformation that followed. From heartbreak to healing to holy sh*t moments, this isn’t just my story… it’s yours too.If you’re entering a new year feeling unsure, in-between, or wildly hopeful… this one’s for you.DM “READY” if 2024 stretched you & you’re ready to step into what’s next.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

The holidays aren’t always holly jolly! If this time of year brings up overwhelm, overstimulation, or emotional chaos… you’re not alone.In this episode, I’m sharing gentle rituals, mindset shifts, and practical tools to help you stay grounded, soft, and connected to joy through the holiday season. Whether you’re navigating family dynamics, scarcity spirals, or just trying to protect your peace, this is for you.Let’s reframe the holidays into something intentional, magical & rooted in presence, not perfection.DM “READY” if you’re setting boundaries & choosing softness this season.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

My glow-up wasn’t just about makeup, outfits, or vision boards...It was about coming home to myself, and finally owning my power.In this episode, I’m sharing the full story: how I went from feeling lost & disconnected in my body to becoming the most confident, radiant, and magnetic version of me I’ve ever known. This isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about real, embodied self-love that changes how you feel, and yes, how you look, too.You’ll hear the inner work, the emotional healing, and the practices that helped me glow up from the inside out. Plus, I’ll walk you through how to begin your own transformation journey… starting now.DM “READY” if you’re done waiting & ready to become HER.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

If social media feels fake, draining, or like you’re constantly performing… you’re not alone.In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional reality of showing up online in a world that rewards curation over connection. I’m unpacking how I went from posting for validation to sharing from a place of purpose, and why it changed everything.We’ll explore:• What it actually means to show up authentically• The fear of being seen (especially by people from your past)• How to stop over-curating & start sharing with meaning• How to use social media to build real connections, not just follower countsThis one’s for the girlies rethinking the way they engage online, and craving something realer.DM “READY” if you’re done performing & ready to share your truth.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

Friendship gets weird when you’re healing. When you’re evolving. When you’re no longer available for performative closeness, messy boundaries, or “FWB” energy.In this episode, we’re getting real about what it means to outgrow, redefine & rebirth friendship in your next era of growth.We’ll talk:• Friends you’ve slept with• Childhood friendships that no longer click• Long-distance soul ties• Men + women trying to stay platonic• And what it means to attract aligned, grown connections nowWhether you’re grieving what was or calling in what’s next—this is for the soft, self-aware girlies learning to choose connection consciously.DM “READY” if you’re ready to call in aligned friendship.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

Can men and women actually be friends without weird energy? Can we be soft, sexual, sacred… and still hold boundaries?In this episode, I’m getting real about what it means to navigate relationships with men as a sensitive, self-aware woman. We’re talking intimacy beyond sex, emotional safety, friendship dynamics, and how to stop over-giving or performing for male validation.Whether you’re untangling a confusing friendship, healing from hookup culture, or just want more clarity & connection… this is the girl talk you didn’t know you needed.DM “READY” if you’re ready to navigate love, intimacy, and friendship from a place of power.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

If you’ve been feeling blah, disconnected, or just… off lately, you’re not broken, you’re just in a rut! And this episode is your reset button.I’m sharing the simple rituals, energy shifts, and mindset reframes that helped me move through stuckness & back into aliveness. No toxic positivity, no pressure, just real tools to help you reconnect with your body, your joy, and your why.This episode is your permission to soften, reset, and start again, with intention.DM “READY” if you’re ready to come back to yourself & shift the energy.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

If you’ve ever struggled to say what you mean, trust your intuition, or feel truly connected to your higher self… this is the episode you’ve been waiting for.In Part 2 of the Chakra Series, we’re moving up—into the heart, throat, third eye, and crown chakras—to explore how your energy impacts your ability to love, express, see clearly, and receive guidance from something bigger.You don’t have to be “woo-woo” to work with this energy. You just have to be willing to listen to yourself again.This episode will help you:• Release blocks in your self-expression• Strengthen your intuition• Feel more spiritually supported (without needing all the answers)DM “READY” if you’re ready to align with your voice, vision & highest self.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

This is the episode for the girlies who want to feel grounded in their body, confident in their power, and creative in their life again.In Part 1 of this chakra series, we’re starting from the bottom up… exploring your root, sacral & solar plexus chakras. I’m breaking it down in real, actionable steps so you can actually use this info to heal, activate, and step into your glow-up era.If you’ve been feeling disconnected, uninspired, or straight-up unstable lately… your lower chakras might be calling for your attention.DM “READY” if you’re ready to rebalance your energy & feel at home in your body again.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

You can have sex… and still feel disconnected.You can look sexy… and still feel unseen.You can go through the motions… and still crave something more.In this episode, I’m getting real about why sex isn’t always fulfilling, and how deeper connection, emotional intimacy & self-love hold the key to the kind of sex that actually nourishes you.We’ll talk about how repression, porn culture & internalized shame disconnect us from our bodies, and how you can come back home to yourself.This isn’t just about sex. It’s about intimacy, healing, and reclaiming your pleasure on your own terms!!!DM “READY” if you’re done settling & ready to connect more deeply (with yourself and others.)Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷

For years, I joked that my life was a series of unfortunate events. Until I realized…I was scripting the whole thing.In this episode, I’m taking you deep into the intention that’s shaped my life:✨ To do the most good, every day ✨It’s not just a mantra, it’s a mindset shift, a soul assignment & a compass for how I move through the world.I’ll share how I went from reacting to life to co-creating it.We’ll talk intention-setting, energy, mindset, manifestation, and how to actually live your values in a world that constantly pulls you away from them.If you’ve been feeling unaligned, like life is just happening to you, this episode is your permission slip to take your power back.DM “READY” if you’re ready to start living on purpose & doing the most good, in your own beautiful way.Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷