Divorce ReDefined with Cindy Stibbard

When you hear the word "codependent," you might think of the traditional enabler framework involving a hapless victim and their selfless rescuer. Psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole certainly did. However after years in her therapy practice, she realized that many of her clients were presenting codependent behaviours that fell outside of the classic model. Terri calls this new paradigm "high-functioning codependency" (HFC). The ironic truth with high-functioning codependency is that the more capable you are, the more your behaviour doesn't seem codependent. "As HFCs, our desire to feel at peace often drives us to chronic over-functioning and overinvestment with the loved ones in our lives," says Terri. "Even with those we don't love… or sometimes with folks we barely know." Here, Terri breaks down the characteristics of high-functioning co-dependency?including how to identify one's "HFC blueprint"?so you can get more clarity around what's going on under the surface of your behaviour and take steps toward better boundaries, self-care, and integrity. You'll walk away with a clear understanding of how you relate to others and the world… with a newfound inner peace. With the teachings and tools in Too Much, now you can break the cycle of overdoing and over-giving and start living a more authentic and joyful life. PRE-ORDER THE BOOK HERE: https://hfcbook.com JOIN TERRI'S FREE RELATIONSHIP SUMMIT: https://epicrelationshipssummit.com BOOK A FREE MINI-COACHING CALL WITH ME: https://cindystibbard.as.me/freeminicoachingcall

Dr. Nicole's philosophy is consistent with a nationally general movement called 'Sex Positivity'. We're so used to hearing about the risks and dangers associated with sex yet there are so many diverse and wonderful things to celebrate! Sex positivity encourages safety but also highlights sexual pleasure. It embraces LGBTQI+ identities and issues. It rejects shame and stigma and it acknowledges that our sexuality feeds into the very essence of our self-identity and happiness. Beyond this, however, I have found that to be truly sex-positive, sex education must be empowering. It has to be collaborative, NOT authoritative to promote trust and a free exchange of ideas. WEBSITE: https://nicolethesexprofessor.com/about-nicole/ INSTAGRAM: @nicole_thesexprofessor Looking to join my online circle, 'Should I Stay or Should I Go? Ongoing enrolment. Join anytime. Cancel anytime. JOIN HERE: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/should-I-stay-or-should-I-go-registration

Doctor Tari is a clinical psychologist and relationship expert. Her passion is helping people elevate themselves internally so they can access elevated relationships and partners. She is passionate about this work because of her own rocky journey to love and self-love. For years she did her best in relationships but always ended up exhausted, heartbroken, and confused. It wasn't until she discovered the secrets to personal alignment and healing that everything changed. She found that before we have self-awareness and the tools to shift our beliefs, self-view and old templates and roles, we continue to be attracted to people who can't love us and spend our time trying to get or keep love that is unattainable. Dr. Tari knows that complete and total transformation is possible because of her own personal transformation as well as witnessing thousands of these transformations in her clients in her role as a psychologist. She is committed to helping others with their own transformation so they can access and keep healthy, joyful loving relationships. www.drtarimack.com Instagram: @drtarimack

Max Trombly is not your typical love guru or traditional therapist who reaffirms comforting stories of victimhood that keep you stuck. He is a radical life changer, an awakener for deep-rooted healing. He believes in the transformative power of being fearlessly authentic and direct about what he sees happening. He knows you crave that liberated life, that deep loving connection that's authentic and free from past baggage. You deserve relationships that nourish your very being and support your personal growth. You deserve a life you are excited to wake up to every single day. His mission is to liberate men and women toward living lives of exceptional love and depth within a relationship, as well as living a life from a place of authentic expression and deep fulfilling purpose. Instagram: @maxtrombly More About Max: https://www.ashiftinbeing.com

Hailey Magee is a certified coach who helps people around the world break the people-pleasing pattern and master the art of self-advocacy. Her debut book, Stop People Pleasing and Find Your Power, will be released by Simon & Schuster in May 2024. Hailey's refreshingly nuanced perspectives on boundary-setting and self-advocacy have captured the attention of millions on social media. Certified by Erickson International, she has worked one-on-one with hundreds of clients, and her public talks and workshops have welcomed tens of thousands of participants worldwide. She has written for Newsweek and The Gottman Institute, and has facilitated corporate workshops in partnership with WeWork, Women In Music, and a variety of other companies and organizations. Hailey is dedicated to offering clear, research-supported strategies for change, helping recovering people-pleasers rediscover not only their power and agency, but their pleasure, joy, and sense of wonder. GET HER NEW BOOK HERE: https://www.haileymagee.com/book

Katre is a mentor and coach empowering women through mindset and fitness. She is a survivor of narcissistic abuse and is rebuilding herself and her life as a solo parent. She started @untamedhero page on Instagram a couple of years ago which has organically grown into a large and safe community. Paying it forward has been a mission of hers since she knows how isolating and lonely this journey can feel. She is the host of a new podcast @untamedheroespodcast where she has raw and real conversations with other survivors and experts to offer support to the community, especially knowing how to move on and how to be able to live a life of peace and joy. VISIT: www.cindystibbard.com New Clients receive $100 Off a Single Strength Session using code: NEWCLIENT

Are you a woman over 35 and struggling to lose weight, balance your hormones and feel like a human? Emily Sadri is a Nurse Practitioner & Hormone Expert who helps women feel better in their bodies so they can thrive through peri-menopause and beyond! Visit: www.emilysadri.com

Just in time for Valentine's Day let's get onto one of my favourite topics - SEX! I am joined by Clinical Sexologist and Relationship Coach, author of Erotic Integrity and TEDx Speaker Claudia Six. We discuss the importance of sex in a relationship, the difference between sex and the true meaning of intimacy, and how we can initiate more sex and sex as a 'being and not as a doing. You can reach Claudia or find out more about her book at: www.drsix.net Is your relationship on the edge or needing some refreshing? Book a free discovery call with me and let's talk about how you know if you should stay or you should go. Book a Free Call with Cindy here: https://divorceredefined.as.me/discovery-call

In this episode we are going to look at the power of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) as an empowering and effective way to help clients recover from trauma and PTSD. We can't out-think trauma and EMDR has been proven in treating anxiety, depression, OCD, chronic pain, addictions and other distressing life experiences. Want to learn more about how to work with me? Book a Free Strength Call Here: https://divorceredefined.as.me/discovery-call

The affair that results from being married to a covert narcissist is most often the affair of self-liberation and an act of self-restoration since the spouse has to be a shadow of their truer or fuller self in their marriage. Marriage to any kind of narcissist has an abusive effect, How can you spot a covert narcissist even if it's almost impossible to identify on the outside? Is your partner someone you can grow with? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d Book a Free Discovery Call with Cindy? https://divorceredefined.as.me/schedule/934a37cf/appointment/36048123/calendar/7123164?appointmentTypeIds%5B%5D=36048123

Co-parenting isn't impossible. Jay and I sit down and talk about how parents can let go of fear, set healthy boundaries, communicate more effectively and create thriving lives, no matter what their EX do! For Co-Parenting Courses, follow Jay on Instagram @jayskibbens FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

In this episode, I have the privilege of sitting with world-renowned love and relationship expert Jillian Turecki. Jillian is on a mission to teach people how to transform their love life completely, and where you start is by addressing the relationship you have with yourself.  Whether you're looking to strengthen your relationship, heal your heartbreak and choose better partners, develop a stronger sense of self, or move away from dysfunctional patterns into highly functioning ones, this episode is for you. FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

I am deeply honoured to have the privilege to get vulnerable and humanly emotional with @ronniestevenson, former star of Real Housewives of Vancouver @realhousewivesofvancouver this week as she shares openly and candidly about her very personal, devastating and heart wrenching story of the sudden loss of her son, @thehoustonstevensonlegacy to suicide 15 months ago. In this episode, Ronnie and I get emotional with each other as we open up, share and connect over our profound losses and how both of our worlds have been irrevocably shattered and rocked to the core. Ronnie's beautiful courage to find the strength to keep going in the face of this inconceivable tragedy for herself, her surviving children, her husband, her siblings and Houston's legacy is nothing short of a story of strength, grit, resilience and the realness of raw grief. Have your Kleenex handy for this one.

In this episode, we talk about how to get over your past and move on to live a more fulfilled and meaningful life without the past continuing to loom over you. Jason is launching his new book; Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. In this book, Jason invites you to own your past, hold onto hope, and live a connected life. FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

Like most men, you've felt alone for a long time – even when surrounded by people. No matter how much money you make, how healthy your body is, whether you're single or have the family of your dreams, your mental stress and (secret) inner struggles persist. You endlessly search for what you never seem to find: FREEDOM. Freedom from what? Stress. Stagnation. Self-doubt. Self-sabotage. Feeling isolated and alone. A consistently nourishing, thriving intimacy may elude you. You may feel disconnected from your deepest purpose. Even when you get your way, it never fully satisfies. According to Bryan and his extensive work in this field, men tend to be ruled over by five primary distractions: work, ass, addiction (alcohol/drugs/porn, etc.), sports, and war/politics. Thus, our joy and vitality are inevitably drained by the daily whims of external forces we have little control. We fail to be present for what really matters and don't know how to use our power in ways we otherwise would have real agency. So even when we outwardly succeed, we feel internally dissatisfied and endlessly disoriented. For more guided support for men (women & couples, too) please visit: bryanreeves.com For further support, and guidance and to access my coaching programs, please follow me on Instagram @divorceredefined or pop me an email to cindystibbardcoaching@gmail.com FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

At the heart of an affair, you will often find yourself longing and yearning for an emotional connection, for novelty, for freedom, for autonomy, for sexual intensity, a wish to recapture lost parts of yourself or an attempt to bring back vitality - Esther Perel. You have found yourself in an extramarital affair for reasons unique to you. Some reasons you are aware of and others you may be unclear about. In this episode, we dive into these reasons. I sit down with Lauren LaRusso, a trauma-informed psychotherapist who has helped countless individuals and couples process extramarital affairs impacting their lives.  Infidelity has affected her life, my life, and countless others we love and care about. It became a clear path for her to make it her mission to help others through, heal, and grow from an affair. For more support and individual coaching programs and expert guidance for your own unique situation, visit me on Instagram @divorceredefined or send me an email at cindystibbardcoaching@gmail.com FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

In successful relationships, three essential ingredients must be carefully considered and nurtured. Think of these as the pillars upon which a thriving partnership stands. Are you wondering if your partner is someone you can grow with? Get a copy of my FREE 18-questions to assess if your partner is someone you can grow with: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d Are you looking for a Support Group? I Think I Want a Support Group, but Ho Do I Know? runs every Thursday until December 21. Click the link here to join: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/ithinkiwantadivorcesupportgroup

While there is no hierarchy of loss, the death of a partner is among the most profound losses. The death of the adult you love the most is an especially cruel experience. I know this now: I have been widowed at 47. Mike's death was sudden and unforeseen, and the psychological impact is taking a while for me to understand – and I imagine I haven't even scratched the surface–It was something I could never have fathomed being prepared for. While grief is not a mental health issue in the same way as depression or anxiety, it is a profound psychological wound; one of the most bleakly transformative events a human being can experience and one we need to understand better. Grief education should be part of our national curriculum, but it isn't. The loss of your partner is one you cannot hide from psychologically or practically. Humans are programmed to be in couples. They are all around you – and you are single. Your status suddenly changes from two to one – in the most mundane ways, which are hard to articulate. I feel existentially alone despite being loving family and friends. For those of us fortunate enough to afford therapy, it becomes possible to share this feeling. But even with my multiple therapists and therapist friends and mentors, I have a lot of fear around boring friends, my family, my listeners, and my followers as the grief forges ahead, dragging everyone along in its wake as I share my experience openly about losing the love of my life. To join my community: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/forms/2148151111 To follow my content on Instagram and TikTok: @divorceredefined To book a FREE Discovery Call: https://divorceredefined.as.me/discovery-call

Ongoing relationship distress is harmful to each romantic partner's mental and physical wellbeing, and in addition, can negatively impact the kids. We all know this. Difficult conflict can lead to things being said that hurt us at our core. The growing emotional distance can leave us feeling like we are stranded on a boat in the middle of an ocean—desperate for connection, safety, and security. The lack of commitment and trust perpetuates toxic interactions that push us farther away from each other rather than building a bridge back to one another. Fortunately, empirically-based couples therapy has demonstrated that couples therapy can create a positive change for 70% of couples. And these changes actually last. But when is it too late for a couple to save their marriage? FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d

Sarah's new book: LIVE, LAUGH, TRUE LOVE: A Step-By-Step Guide to Dating and Finding a Meaningful Relationship from a Divorce Attorney, is written from the perspective of a divorce attorney, essentially working backwards. Delineating all of the things she routinely watches go wrong in relationships. Sarah shows the reader the pitfalls to avoid and termed the 6 main reasons relationships fall apart the Fail Factors or F-Words. They are: 1) Fundamental Values, 2) Fear, 3) Foundation, 4) Fairy Tale, 5) Family and 6) Fixing. Raised by a mother who has practiced Family Law for almost thirty years, and still practices, Sarah feels as though she has been exposed to the issues Family Law practitioners encounter on a daily basis, her entire life. Sarah has also been a yoga instructor since 2000, and a spin instructor since 2004. She continues to teach. Sarah incorporates her experience as an instructor into her lawyering style. Teaching has enabled Sarah to maintain calm even under the most rigorous of pressures. It has provided her with the invaluable opportunity to command the respect and attention of any group of individuals she addresses, and it is her nurturing nature that gravitated her, both, to teaching and to the practice of, specifically, Family Law. FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d