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Divorce etc... hosted by the exEXPERTS (T.H. and Jessica)

Author: T.H. Irwin and Jessica Herzberg

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T.H. and Jess are best friends who lived parallel lives - engaged a month apart, married a month apart, and after 13 yrs found out their husbands were cheating and traveling with their girlfriends as couples...for years!

Divorce etc... is a funny, uplifting, no-BS conversation with best friends who know how important friendship is during hard times. We've lived it, so we get it!

We ask the hard questions to lawyers, financial advisors, therapists, dating experts and anyone who can help you get through divorce. You don't know what you don't know, but we do!

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30 Years Later...

30 Years Later...

2025-10-0535:41

30 years ago we married the men we divorced. Clearly that wasn't the plan, but we have been through a LOT, and we sure have learned a lot. Whether you're thinking about it, going through it or coming out of being divorced, we have lessons we've learned and want to share, so you have an easier time than we did. Plus, we have so much good going on, that it'll give you a bright light to see at the end of your tunnel!Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our newsletter at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok, Facebook and Instagram
Are you often doing things where you're influenced by the judgments and decisions of other people? We know what that's like - especially when it comes to everything you're going through and navigating when you're getting divorced. Everyone seems to have an opinion on what you should do. In this episode, T.H. and Jess talk about Mel Robbins' new book "The Let Them Theory," and ways to keep going on your own path, while letting everyone else stay in their own lane.Giving up control in your divorce and from your ex is the only way to move forward. Of course, we talk about how incredibly hard that is! We always want to be loved more, cared for more and seen as the best parent - but that's the problem!Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok, Facebook and Instagram
We're starting 2025 by giving ourselves - and you! - what we're calling permission to pivot. Things change, life, kids, relationships, jobs, what makes us happy...and it's important to always listen to yourself and be true to what your guts is saying. What once worked may change, and that's ok! In this episode, T.H. talks to one of our OG exEXPERT faves, Susan Guthrie, about permission to pivot and how we're making some changes and focusing on things that bring us joy (and money!) in a different way. It's a reminder that you don't always have to stay in the same place, because life moves quickly and you have every right to take advantage of every opportunity. (Guest: Susan Guthrie, host "Turns Out" podcast, Family Law attorney & mediator). Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
There is definitely a lot of change and transition when it comes to divorce, and it's never easy. but there are things you can do to make dealing with the transition days better for everyone, and in this episode we speak to an amazing guest who is a divorce coach, a mediator and a coparenting specialist! She goes through some amazing advice that we wish we had when we got divorced years ago! This one is for everyone who's divorced with kids! (Guest: Karen McNenny, Founder, The Good Divorce Coach) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Saving yourself stress, time and money will make a big difference in your divorce process, and believe it or not, there are ways to simplify it all. In this episode, we hear all about the mission of the company Your Divorce made Simple, where they can guide you (and your ex) to a workable agreement in as little as six weeks! (Guest: Amy Colton, Founder Your Divorce made Simple and CFDA/Mediator/Wealth Advisor) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
There's a lot to consider when going through a divorce and the more prepared you are, the better. It's important to have a strategy so you can weigh all of your options with a clear head, and not get caught up in the emotional turmoil. In this episode, Amy Polacko explains how to build a divorce strategy so you can avoid mistakes and claim your independence to move forward. (Guest: Amy Polacko, Certified Coach and Divorce Specialist) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
How many women do you know that pay alimony to their husbands? Suffice it to say, it takes a strong, badass women to be in that situation, and this interview with Hello Mamas founder, Erika Hanafin, is beyond inspiring and uplifting. She is a successful entrepreneur who understands that building community and "girl-gang" support is life changing. Every woman needs to hear this episode! Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Getting through the holidays whether you're going through or have gone through divorce is something that is always evolving. The first year is very different than years down the road, but there are ways to ensure you aren't lonely (even if you're alone) and steps you can take to keep yourself happy and healthy through it all. In this episode, we talk about the things we did personally to stay on track and manage the last 15 years of holidays with and without our kids. Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
We parents are in a never-ending cycle of tackling "mom problems" and constantly trying to figure out new ways of solving them. But what better way to do it than including a little humor? Even when going through divorce, being able to lighten the mood is essential in your survival, and you'll hear the best ways to do that with a true expert. (Guest: Tara Clark, Modern Mom Probs) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Knowing you are going to court to litigate your divorce is a very scary prospect, but there are ways you can prepare yourself to mitigate the fear and to have a better chance in getting the results you're hoping for, and this episode goes through it all. (Guest: Courtney Gilmartin, NJ Protective Moms) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
After being in a relationship where your spouse has put you down and made you feel "less than", it can be difficult to reclaim your self-worth. In this episode, we speak to the incomparable Amanda Hanson of Midlife Muse, who has amazing insight and advice on how to get back to you. (Guest: Amanda Hanson, Midlife Muse) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Not having a partner, a plus one, a significant other to travel with makes planning trips challenging for many after divorce - especially when you have kids to wrangle. Not everyone is bold enough to do it alone, but small group travel with like-minded people who are in similar situations could be a great new choice. And now there's a way to plan trips that are catered to you, alongside other single parents. In this episode we talk all about Copilots for Coparents and their Single Parents Travel Lounge, to bring you a brand new option to continue enjoying travel with your kids while making new friends at the same time. (Guest: Nicole Cunningham, Copilots for Coparents) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Just because you separate or divorce an abuser, does not mean that the abuse stops. Whether it's emotional, mental, financial, physical or any other kind of toxic treatment, it doesn't always end when you physically separate. This can be extremely difficult and challenging to deal with, but this episode will help break down how you can navigate through it while still keeping your sanity. (Guest: Anne Wintemute, A Garden Grows) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
You may think you're going to fight for a specific amount of custody or money, but you really have to know the myths of divorce, because it can be hard to pick the right battles. In this interview you'll hear how to manage your expectations around the cost, how long it'll take, alimony, custody and more. (Guest: Kara Chroback, Family Law Attorney) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Divorce is a big change, and it can be a hard adjustment for everyone. But what if you could master how to deal with change by adopting 5 simple mindset hacks? In this episode, we talk to Divorce Coach Jenny Stevens and learn exactly how to accomplish this with tips you can apply right now. (Guest: Jenny Stevens, Divorce Coach) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Everyone always asks what to do with their money to prepare for a divorce, as well as how to protect it when it's over. In this episode, you'll hear from a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst how to deal with those things, as well as how to leverage your resources to make your divorce less expensive and less hostile. (Guest: Nikki Tucker, CFDA) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠⁠www.exexperts.com⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Red flags can be different for different people, but there are some universal red flags that we should all be wary of. How is it that we allow ourselves to overlook and ignore red flags, and even continue staying in a relationship when we're feeling unsettled? In this episode, Brianna McCabe spills it all about the red flags we all need to watch out for, how to determine what are red flags to you, and why she wrote all about it in The Red Flags I've (Repeatedly) Ignored. (Guest: Brianna McCabe, Author) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at ⁠www.exexperts.com⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Getting divorced means splitting up all your stuff, and then having to buy a lot of new things for your new household - kitchenware, bedding and more. All at a time when money is tight and you are probably trying to live on a budget. in this episode, hear why Olivia Howell created the Divorce Registry and how it works. (Guest: Olivia Howell, Founder, Divorce Registry) Get access to our private divorce life hacks and personal notes by signing up for our weekly newsletter at www.exexperts.com. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram
Coercive control is not something we knew much about, but it turns out it occurs is many marriages - and does not stop after a divorce. It can be scary and mentally and emotionally draining, but there are ways to strategize and make sure that you are able to protect yourself and your children. This is an eye-opening episode. (Guest: Courtney Gilmartin, Founder, NJ Protective Moms) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram.
Aren't you shocked sometimes at the crazy and stupid things people say to you after hearing you're getting divorced? It happens all the time, and it leaves us feeling defensive when it should be the other way around. This episode, with the amazing author of the book "Don't Fucking Say That" will give you the words you need to get around those situations, and help you think about it all in a way you never have before. (Guest: Mellissa Librach, Coach, Trainer & Author) Sign up for the exEXPERTS' ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Divorce Rulebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.exEXPERTS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow @exEXPERTS on TikTok and Instagram.
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