Divorced Christian Woman

Episode 42 is a different kind of episode. No topic, no script. Just Diana and me sitting down for a conversation about what's happening in our lives right now and what's coming next for this podcast.Life changes fast, even for the women who help other women navigate life's hardest changes.Key Takeaways:Why two coaches who help women through chaos are currently living inside some chaos of their ownThe surprising way an unexpected life upheaval can still honor the word you chose for your yearWhat it looks like when a home finds you instead of you finding itThe question every podcast host eventually has to ask herself: what is this actually for?What's still available to you while the podcast takes a breathRelated Resources:Flying Higher is our live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month. Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind! Do you have a question for the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Send me an email! [email protected] 

Last week was the why. This week is the what now. In Part 2 of this conversation, Natalie Hoffman and Diana Swillinger get practical about what it actually takes to move your nervous system from a state of constant threat management into something that feels like real life. And they go somewhere unexpected: the resistance to joy itself.This is not a list of lofty advice. These are specific, doable practices that teach your body moment by moment that it is safe to let its guard down. There is also a deeper question: is "survival mode" even still the right story for where you are now?🔑 Key Takeaways:Why does joy sometimes feel more like a warning than a gift, and what does Brené Brown call this experience that is shockingly common among women who left destructive marriages?There is a stage beyond "survivor" that most women never realize they are allowed to reach. What does it actually look like to get there?An MRI study reveals something surprising about the fastest way to make a painful emotion pass. It takes about five minutes and you can do it anywhere.Natalie and Diana share the language reframes that change not just how you think about your healing, but how your nervous system responds to your own story.Why doing something with absolutely no practical purpose might be one of the most powerful things you can do for your healing right now.Related Resources:Flying Higher is our live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month. Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind! Do you have a question for the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Send me an email! [email protected] 

Three years since the divorce was finalized, and you're still grinding your teeth at night and apologizing for things that aren't your fault. What is going on? In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, Natalie Hoffman and Diana Swillinger tackle one of the most common and confusing questions from women who have finally gotten out: why doesn't leaving make it stop?Your brain knows the marriage is over. But your body hasn't gotten that memo yet. And even when it does, it's not flipping a switch for anybody. This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation on survival mode after divorce, and it begins with understanding why you're still in it and what it's doing to your daily life.🔑 Key Takeaways:What did Natalie's nervous system do while she was sitting in a Sicilian villa on a dream trip, and what does it reveal about why you can't just "move on"?There is a specific type of trauma that forms inside long, destructive marriages, and once you understand what it is, everything about your body's behavior starts to make sense.Six survival patterns that might be showing up in your daily life right now without you even recognizing them as trauma responses.Why the self-judgment you feel for not being "over it" isn't a character flaw. It's something that was handed to you, and tracing it back to the source changes everything.Diana froze completely for two days after a single casual sentence in a conversation. What she chose to do about it is worth hearing.Related Resources:Flying Higher is our live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month. Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind! Do you have a question for the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Send me an email! [email protected] 

Today we get honest about the grief that shows up even when you know you made the right decision. In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, we’ll answer a real question from a Flying Higher member who's been circling back to her grief and wondering why she can't just move on.What we uncover might surprise you. It's not just about missing him. And it's definitely not something you can solve by scattering unity sand in a river.🔑 Key Takeaways:What you're actually grieving might not be what you think: Is it really him you miss, or is it something else entirely that you haven't let yourself name yet?There's a hidden layer of grief that most divorced women never even look for, and it might be the most important one.Dissonance is real: Can you grieve something you didn't even want? We have something important to say about this.Is there a timeline for grieving a marriage? My answer might feel controversial, but also like the biggest exhale you've had in a long time.Crying in the bathtub, journaling at midnight, lying face-down on the floor: what do these things actually do for your grief, and why do they work?Related Resources:Flying Higher is our live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month. Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind! Do you have a question for the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Send me an email! [email protected] 

You finally have a Saturday to yourself. The kids are gone. The house is quiet. And somehow... you end up on your phone for three hours feeling guilty. Sound familiar? There is something happening in your brain that's worth understanding.In this episode, Natalie and Diana Swillinger dig into the science behind why divorced Christian women struggle to enjoy their own free time, and why the solution isn't a better to-do list. If you've ever felt frozen when you finally had space to breathe, this conversation was made for you.🔑 Key Takeaways:Why does your brain freeze when you finally have free time? There's a specific psychological phenomenon that explains the paralysis, and it has nothing to do with laziness.Could the real reason you can't relax be hiding in a belief you don't even know you're carrying?What's the difference between the women who learn to enjoy their free time and the ones who stay stuck, and which side of that line are you on?There's a simple three-part framework that bypasses your brain's resistance entirely. Could this be the missing piece?Diana and Natalie each share the personal practice they use to reconnect with what they actually want. Is one of them exactly what you need?Related Resources:Flying Higher is our live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence in their relationships, emotional management, decision making, and self-development. Join us for live classes, coaching, Bible study, and book studies every month. Plus access to a huge library of education and coaching resources. Only $59/month. Be sure to check out Diana’s podcast, Renew Your Mind! Do you have a question for the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast? Send me an email! [email protected]