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Do The Hard Thing

Author: Jason Archer

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Learn the power of doing... the art of action. Determine why these things may be lacking in your life and what you can do now to advance yourself and expand your life.

Have you ever started a project or created and idea that you felt held a great deal of meaning for you, and then for whatever reason you could not move toward the outcome you wanted to create? Whether it was a Mental, Physical, or Spiritual target you sought, it didn't matter... there was some part of you who refused to move. This podcast is born out of that specific idea.

The Do The Hard Thing podcast is an exploration in human movement. Do The Hard Thing is designed to illustrate where you may be leaking power by taking a hard look at your actions and resistance to your desired actions and outcomes via story and introspection.

The podcast is put out by Jason Archer and published by inventiveWebs. This podcast is part of the HardWodder One family of sites and services.
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Episode 22 – Gain Clarity, Gain Power
Podcast Opening:Welcome to Do The Hard Thing Episode 22. I am Jason Archer… creator, freedom seeker, leader of self | full time student and part time teacher of self mastery, and today is all about Values.The goal, as always, is to dive deeper into how we humans can more effectively move toward the outcomes we want. Usually, this means getting uncomfortable and doing hard things. So, turn up the volume, put down the distractions and let’s kick this off…[NOTE: Insert some intro music here | Insert brief description here]Summary Description:If you’ve ever started down a path to create something meaningful in your life, and for whatever reason found yourself not moving toward the outcome you claim to want… like there’s a part of you that simply refuses to move, Then this podcast is for you. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE… MEANINGFUL WORDS: “It’s a lack of clarity that creates chaos and frustration. Those emotions are poison to any living goal.” ― Steve Maraboli//KEYNOTES ★ Clarity May Take A While. I have an idea! It has been developing over 5 years. I’m only now seeing what it will be.★ Chaos Thinking Robs You. Not knowing your direction is frustrating. The work has to be done, but why? Where there is no direction there can be no power.★ Clarity Creates Power. What if you were so clear in your vision you seldom fell away from it. Momentum and speed build. Then, power… literally the speed of work. //THE HARD TRUTHAnytime I come from a place of confusion or unfocused action, I can only create confusion and bleed energy.//ASK AND APPLYThe question today is this: Where in your life do you lack clarity around the things you want to have or enjoy? Know that if you stay the course in only one direction, your pace of achievement would increase over time. The body of work you’re building would be broader and deeper, more supportive of your targets. Talk a look at your work, fitness, relationships… where do you see an opportunity to apply a change to your benefit?Once you have your answer, you must honor the work and practice the change you want to make… otherwise, what is the point?Apply the concept: Thing of just one way you can use what you just learned to step into a place of clarity and ultimately power…From this place even the the hard things slow you down less, not because they are less hard… but because you are harder to stop. Podcast Closing:That’s it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you want to invest in on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | Until then, this is Jason signing off | Now go… and DO THE HARD THING.Listen at dothehardthing.net
Episode 21 - Saying No Is A Super Power
Podcast Opening:Welcome to Do The Hard Thing Episode 21. I am Jason Archer… creator, freedom seeker, leader of self | full time student and part time teacher of self mastery, and today is all about Values.The goal, as always, is to dive deeper into how we humans can more effectively move toward the outcomes we want. Usually, this means getting uncomfortable and doing hard things. So, turn up the volume, put down the distractions and let’s kick this off…[NOTE: Insert some intro music here | Insert brief description here]Summary Description:If you’ve ever started down a path to create something meaningful in your life, and for whatever reason found yourself not moving toward the outcome you claim to want… like there’s a part of you that simply refuses to move, Then this podcast is for you. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE… MEANINGFUL WORDS: “Just saying yes because you can’t bear the short-term pain of saying no is not going to help you do the work.” – Seth Godin//KEYNOTES ★ Why Is It Hard To Say No? I am realizing I am more of a people pleaser than I thought. No one likes disagreeable people. There is a fear of ostracism, a fear of being alone.★ What Saying No Looks Like. The Boat Example. The Blowback. Why my saying no was better for everyone.★ What Saying No Gives You Initially, it gives you fear. Then, experience of the consequences of your actions. And, ultimately… more confidence. //THE HARD TRUTHThe act of saying “No” is a rebellion. It sets you apart… not always in a good way in the eyes of others, yet it always gives you the ability to be in your own power.//ASK AND APPLYThe question today is this: Where in your life are you saying yes, when you really want to say no? Not maybe, not I’ll think about it, but hell no. Work, fitness, relationships… where do you see an opportunity to apply a change to your benefit?Once you have your answer, you must honor the work and practice the change you want to make… otherwise, what is the point?Apply the concept: Thing of just one way you can use what you just learned to step into a place that demands you take ownership of your decisions and direction…Do not allow yourself to remain a slave to fear or habit. Stand up for you and the vision you want to make of your life… Start by saying no to all the distractions and maybes. Podcast Closing:That’s it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you want to invest in on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | Until then, this is Jason signing off | Now go… and DO THE HARD THING.Listen at dothehardthing.net
Episode 20 – Values… They Can Not Be Hidden
Podcast Opening:Welcome to Do The Hard Thing Episode 20. I am Jason Archer… creator, freedom seeker, leader of self | full time student and part time teacher of self mastery, and today is all about Values.The goal, as always, is to dive deeper into how we humans can more effectively move toward the outcomes we want. Usually, this means getting uncomfortable and doing hard things. So, turn up the volume, put down the distractions and let’s kick this off…[NOTE: Insert some intro music here | Insert brief description here]Summary Description:If you’ve ever started down a path to create something meaningful in your life, and for whatever reason found yourself not moving toward the outcome you claim to want… like there’s a part of you that simply refuses to move, Then this podcast is for you. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE… MEANINGFUL WORDS: “Values are the deep-seated beliefs that motivate behaviors and determine people’s compatabilities with each other. People will fight for their values, and they are likely to fight with people who don’t share them.” – Ray Dalio, Founder of Bridgewater.//KEYNOTES ★ What Are Values? What makes a value a value. Values vs. Abilities vs. Skills. Values and hierarchy.★ Why Do Values Matter? The importance of alignment. The wife story. What we are building out.★ When Values Collide. Values are difficult to change. Opposing values. Moving smoothly //THE HARD TRUTHThe values we hold are difficult to change and are not very fluid. The process of getting to know oneself and aligning values with those you intend to work closely with//ASK AND APPLYThe question today is this: Where in your life are your values not aligned with people or processes that are close to you? Work, fitness, relationships… where do you see an opportunity to apply a change to your benefit?Once you have your answer, you must honor the work and practice.Apply the concept: Come up with at least one way you can use what you just learned to step into a place that requires you to step toward your new more favorable identity in any role you take on.As Rumi said, “As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.” Podcast Closing:That’s it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you want to invest in on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | Until then, this is Jason Archer signing off | Now go… and DO THE HARD THING.Listen at dothehardthing.net
Episode 19 – Self Signal Who You Are
Podcast Opening:Welcome to Do The Hard Thing Episode 19. I am Jason Archer… creator, freedom seeker, leader of self | full time student and part time teacher of self mastery, and today is all about Self Signaling.The goal, as always, is to dive deeper into how we humans can more effectively move toward the outcomes we want. Usually, this means getting uncomfortable and doing hard things. So, turn up the volume, put down the distractions and let’s kick this off…[NOTE: Insert some intro music here | Insert brief description here]Summary Description:Have you ever started down a path to create something meaningful in your life, and for whatever reason found yourself not moving toward the outcome you claim to want… And no matter the situation, part of you simply refused to move. This podcast is born from idea. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE… MEANINGFUL WORDS: “We generally believe that we have a privileged view of our own preferences and character, but in reality we don’t know ourselves that well (and definitely not as well as we think we do). Instead, we observe ourselves in the same way we observe and judge the actions of other people — inferring who we are and what we like from our actions.” – Dan Ariely, Ph.D.//KEYNOTES ★ How Do We See Ourselves? Who you are at your core. Where does your behavior and personality come from? Programs and beliefs. Examine yourself and gain an awareness.★ What Is Self Signaling? Self Signaling is the idea that you can act your way in to thinking of yourself differently. Your actions will ultimately define your identity. Remember the stolen wallet example. People self signal failure and don’t realize it makes their journey harder. Diet example.★ Don’t Cheat Yourself. Knowing this means you can act yourself into a new identity. You can become different internally by external action. Good news: You can use this to your advantage. Form new habits, or new thought processes that will serve you in completing your task. By contrast, once you cheat or lie… you become more likely to do so. //THE HARD TRUTHActions can literally change who we are. Once we start violating our own standards (say, with cheating on diets or for monetary incentives), we are much more likely to abandon further attempts to control our behavior.//ASK AND APPLYAsk yourself this: Where in your life are you self signaling negativity? Work, fitness, relationships… where do you see an opportunity to apply this concept to your benefit?Once you have your answer, you must honor the work and practice.Apply the concept: Come up with at least one way you can use what you just learned to step into a place that requires you to step toward your new more favorable identity in any role you take on.Like Rumi said, “As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.” Podcast Closing:That's it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you know need to hear it on social | And I'll see you back here in the next episode | This is Jason Archer signing off | Now… go, and DO THE HARD THING.Listen at dothehardthing.net.
Episode 18 - No, You Aren't Living In Integrity
Summary Description:Have you ever started down a path to create something meaningful in your life, and for whatever reason found yourself not moving toward the outcome you claim to want… And no matter the situation, part of you simply refused to move. This podcast is born from idea. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE… MEANINGFUL WORDS: “Integrity means having a conscience and honoring this conscience even when doing so may involve considerable personal sacrifice. It means placing the dictates of the soul and God above those of the ego..” – Dr. Andy Drymalski, Ed.D.//KEYNOTES ★ Integrity Is Rare And Rarely Used Turns out when asked what integrity is… few people can answer the question. Wifey and I have been discussing this recently because of our contract. Some call it honesty. Some call it character. Some say it is keeping your word. I think it goes much deeper than that.★ Integrity As Flow The word itself comes to us from the Latin meaning sound, complete, or whole It implies no division within oneself. If we take this deeper, we can see that integrity is alignment of our beliefs with our actions. See Dr. Andy’s definition above. It’s not enough to keep our word… The word we keep must align with the beliefs we hold. In this way, it flows from our essence from the inside out… bypassing ego.★ Why Is It So Hard To Do? Social situations can get in the way. Ego shows up. Small talk example. Wedding example. //THE HARD TRUTHWhen our actions have are based on ego, they generally pull us out of integrity. //ASK AND APPLYAsk yourself this: Where in your life are you out of integrity? Work, home life, relationships, where do you see action that doesn’t align with your beliefs or desires?Once you have your answer, it’s time to do the hard thing.Apply the concept: Come up with at least one way you can use what you just learned to step into a place that requires you to step toward the real you, your real beliefs… and without waiting, put it into action.Like Rumi said, “As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.” Podcast Closing:That's it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you know need to hear it on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | This is Jason Archer signing off | Now… go, and DO THE HARD THING.Listen at dothehardthing.net
Episode 17 – Fear Hits Hardest In The Gap
Podcast Opening:Welcome to Do The Hard Thing Episode 17. I am Jason Archer… creator, freedom seeker, leader of self | full time student and part time teacher of self mastery, and today is all about being Fearful In The Gap.The Do The Hard Thing podcast is an exploration in how we humans can more effectively move toward the outcomes we want. So, turn up the volume, put down the distractions and let’s kick this off…[NOTE: Insert some intro music here | Insert brief description here]Summary Description:Have you ever started down a path to create something meaningful in your life, and for whatever reason found yourself not moving toward the outcome you claim to want… And no matter the situation, part of you simply refused to move. This podcast is born from idea. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE… MEANINGFUL WORDS:“If you’re going through hell, keep going.”– Winston Churchill//KEYNOTES ★ The Queen Comes In CryingI was in just coming out of a deep meditative state.The Queen came in crying.She was experiencing the pull of her past and the fear of her future.Soon she will be leaving Calgary… the place she has known as home her entire life.She knows Calgary and what it holds well.She doesn’t know what her new life in Phoenix will look like.Job wise, socially, her roles as a partner and wife.★ Meet Your Demons In The GapSo she’s in the Gap.It is simply the place “between” who you are and who you want to become.The Gap is that place where fear hits hard and does it’s level best to kill your movement.In this place, we so often find ourselves with an opportunity to move forward… but, then we don’t.The demons that run our imagination start to show up with all the what if’s.And, we use our past experience or our imagined future to create fear and anxiety around what “Could” happen.These remembered or imagined demons go to war with our intentions to move.So… this feels uncertain and uncomfortable. NOTE: Imagination Inflation – Studies have been done showing that when people are told to imagine an event that never happened to them, and are later asked whether that event happened to them, they will increase their confidence scores for events which they have imagined, but not for those which they haven’t imagined.★ Your Future Is Determined By The Choice You MakeWe are in this place that demands we be courageous.And, unlike your favorite hero flick, real life courage does not feel good.It’s not fun to be at the edge of yourself, and have doubts about your ability to achieve in untested areas.it’s not fun to realize you are in a place that could end in failure or misery.You have to make a choice here that will determine your growth or stagnation.Who will win? You or the fear..What you want is on the other side of the Gap.The prize is the new you that you have become and new confidence.That is the place that feels good. //THE HARD TRUTHEverything you want… The relationship, the business, the money, the time; it’s all on the other side of the Gap. //ASK AND APPLYAsk yourself this: Where in your life are you stopping in the Gap? Where are you expecting confidence to come before your commitment to move and sitting stagnant?Once you have your answer, it’s time to do the hard thing.Apply the concept: Come up with at least one way you can use what you just learned to step into a place that requires you to jump into the Gap and trust that you have what it takes to figure out get to the other side… and without waiting, put it into action.Like Rumi said, “As you start to walk on the way, the way appears.” Podcast Closing:That’s it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe and leave a review on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you know need to hear it on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | This is Jason Archer signing off | Now… go, and DO THE HARD THING.Listen at dothehardthing.net
Episode 16 - Lessons From Adam Carolla
INSIDE TODAY’S EPISODE… MEANINGFUL WORDS: “Continuous effort, not strength or intelligence, is the key to unlocking our potential.” – Winston Churchill//KEYNOTES ★ Adam Tells His Story Thought his job was pretty insulated from economic conditions. He lost is million dollar radio contract with KLSX when the economy went bad back in 2007-2008 Needed to find a way to create a new income stream and decided to spend 8 or 9 grand a month on storage and bandwidth. Enter: podcasting before it was all the rage, before the endorsements, before monetization, before he knew he could even make a buck he was heavily investing in an unproven platform… with both his money and his time. The Adam Carolla Show becomes the most downloaded podcast in the world.★ The 3 Things That Continually Show Up In Success Stories Some trial or event takes place to cause one to HAVE to learn and grow or fend for one’s self Heavy investment of one’s time, money and energy to get the thing off the ground. Consistent work over time with an unshakeable belief in the outcome you want to create.★ Getting Paid Adam asked the question, what can you expect to earn from a job you show up to once a week? Too many people want to be paid for results that don’t exist. If you want to monetize what it is you do, you can not treat it like a hobby. Once a week is not enough… how about everyday you show up for the job you want to get paid for? None of this guarantees your success. You may do all these things and get nothing in return, but not doing these things guarantees your failure. //THE HARD TRUTHYou have to treat anything you want to monetize like a job that requires you to show up on a daily basis and create daily results. Once a week gets you once a week pay… little or nothing. //ASK AND APPLYAsk yourself this: Where in your life are you giving “one day a week effort” and expecting “overtime” results?Once you have your answer, it’s time to do the hard thing.Apply the concept: Come up with at least one way you can use what you just learned to create a larger more focused effort toward your outcome… and without waiting, put it into action. Podcast Closing:That’s it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe on iTunes, Google Play, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you know need to hear it on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | This is Jason Archer signing off | Now… go, and DO THE HARD THING.Listen at dothehardthing.net
Episode 14 – Want It… Like A Kid At Christmas!
Podcast Opening:Welcome to Do The Hard Thing Episode 14. I am Jason Archer… creator, freedom seeker, leader of self | full time student and part time teacher of self mastery, and today’s theme is “Want It… Like A Kid At Christmas”.So, turn up the volume, put down the distractions and let’s kick this off…[NOTE: Insert some intro music here | Insert brief description here]Summary Description:Have you ever started down a path that you felt held a great deal of meaning for you, and then for whatever reason you could not move toward the outcome you wanted to create? Whether it was a Mental, Physical, or Spiritual target you sought, it didn’t matter… there was some part of you that refused to move. This podcast is born out of that specific idea. Do The Hard Thing is an exploration in human movement.Podcast Content:When was the last time you really wanted something? I mean wanted something so hard you couldn’t rest until you had it?Aside from getting laid… my experience of most adults is they live on the surface of life in shallow conversations about nothing meaningful, living in repression… and never allowing themselves to REALLY want much of anything. Certainly not enough to go hard after it.In Walden… Thoreau wrote, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats”.Minks and muskrats are not very brave… And, Thoreau makes a good point when it comes to the ability of the average person to stand up for an idea, a want, or a set of principles they claim to believe in.They are afraid to speak their minds for fear of offending the wrong person.You’re a business owner who fears losing a customer, you’re an employee fears losing a job, you’re in a relationship and fear being ostracized… In this explosion of PC culture that has been reborn in American Colleges and Universities, I see repressed people doing their best to make their way in a world dying to be offended for even the smallest slight.What do you do… how do you live out loud in a world with sensitive ears?The short answer is: You Don’t. You sedate.You busy yourself with nonsense, material things, and distractions like the latest trash TV show, or the Constantly Negative News channel that only echos back your existing beliefs with no allowance for reasoning or deeper thought around any given topic.No wonder the US has the highest use of antidepressants in the world… People are living a lie. Living inauthentically. Living out of integrity with what they really want. And, they can’t figure out why their deepest desires will not be filled with another episode of Real Housewives or Game Of Thrones.There is hope… though. What if you could erase the fears you’ve created as you’ve grown, and create strategic ways of dealing with problems that allowed you let off steam in a way that puts you back on track?Think of your younger self… that kid you used to be?What if you could get in touch with him or her… especially the way you were around Christmas and the holidays. Remember how hard you would want a certain toy?I was a child of the 70’s and 80’s… and growing up each year at Christmas, all the department stores would mail catalogs out to every home they could knowing full well that this time of year money would be more apt to flow their way if they could plant seeds of desire going into the holiday season.I vividly remember spending hours flipping pages in the Sears Wishbook… It was like Amazon, but in print. They had every toy and bike you could want. It was like holiday crack for 8 year olds.My brother and I would pass it back and forth, and circle things we wanted, dog ear the pages, cut pictures out, and anything else we could do to make sure Mom and Dad knew which presents we really wanted. It was a big deal for us… This was the one time of the year where we could load up on stuff. We had to take advantage!We absolutely bombarded our parents with “I want this, I want that”, we’d show them the photos, we’d tell them how cool each thing was… We were so filled with energy and desire around what we wanted that they didn’t stand a chance. They’d tell us no… My brother and I would complain and cry and get mad, then once we processed that… You guessed it, we just kept on hammering home how cool it would be to have that new GI Joe with swivel arm battle grip, and that new intellivision video game, and that new dyno GT bike.We were relentless. They’d tell us no again… My brother and I would whine and moan and get mad until we processed it out of our system. Then we’d start the process of wanting all over again.And guess what, we almost always got everything we wanted and then some!But why.. What strategy did we unknowingly employ as kids to create such great results under the Christmas tree?Well, let’s see: First, we identified what we wanted under the tree. The Wishbook was a huge help in this endeavor… filling our heads with all kinds of ways to bankrupt our parents.Secondly, we got really excited about the possibilities… so much so that we attached emotion to the things we wanted and painted ourselves into the vision of how it would feel to have these things.Then, we took our desires to the people who could help us fulfill that vision: Mom, Dad, Aunts, Uncles, and Grandparents on both sides.After we presented our wants to the various people we knew who could help us, we went through the process of rejection… One by one, we collected no’s, we’ll see’s, and maybe’s.We then processed the negative emotions we felt fully… when we were told no. Meaning whether by pouting, or just acting like little assholes, we experienced the emotion fully so we could release it.Once we released the emotion… We could get back on task and start the process of wanting all over again, free of distraction and focused on our next angle of attack and influence so that Christmas morning looked like we wanted it to look.Now, I’m sure you noticed the parallel here. And, how it relates to what you want as an adult.The problem isn’t that as adults we stop wanting… hell, I want all the time. The problem is that when we meet disappointment or failure or embarrassment, the emotion that we feel we hold onto. Then, we use that emotion to create a story about the situation that justifies us staying exactly where we are now rather than pushing forward.When, what we really ought to do is process the emotion… experience the situation fully so we can write a new story that empowers us.Maybe for you that’s yelling, maybe that’s crying, maybe it’s solitude… whatever it is, the only way out is through. And, once you’re through you can see clearly and tell yourself a new story about what happened. See it for what it is and start the process again and again until you get the result you want.Your ability to persist will depend on the story you tell yourself. If my brother and I told ourselves no matter what we did, we weren’t going to get the Christmas we wanted, then we would’ve quit at the first no. But we didn’t and neither does any kid… they want it too hard. And, they will tell themselves whatever story they need to in order to make their vision a reality. The story I ran with as a kid was if I kept at it, I’d eventually get a maybe, and if I could get a maybe I could get a yes.So how about you… what are you not allowing yourself to want? What did you go for and get shot down so hard you got embarrassed or pissed off and decided that your story was one of victimhood. And, everytime you think about that time you still feel negative energy around it. You’ve got to do the hard thing and process that shit out of your system. Find a place where you can release, yell, scream, or whatever you need to do without scaring the neighbors so you can fully experience that thing and write a new story that fuels you to want again.Podcast Closing:That’s it for today! Thank you for listening, and if you found value in this message be sure to subscribe on iTunes, Google, Castbox, or Stitcher | Share this with those you know need to hear it on social | And I’ll see you back here in the next episode | This is Jason Archer signing off | Now… go, and DO THE HARD THING.Listen at dothehardthing.net
Episode 13 – Honestly Assess Yourself
I’m back after a short hiatus… As I mentioned in a previous podcast, the Queen and I hit a target of acquiring a new home and a new cash flow rental property coming into this last quarter and honestly the workload getting moved and reset was more than we both expected.Couple that with the fact that it took nearly two weeks just get internet access setup at the new pad, and another week or so to get my office setup, I missed about 4 weeks worth of episodes and now I’m in debt to myself and to you guys on this particular venture since my commitment was to have new content coming your way every Monday morning of each new week.Without fail.However, I did fail.That is my honest assessment of myself during this time period.Some will look at the situation… the move, the lack of internet, the lack of an office, and all the time that went into getting a useful space setup and say, “Well really, you can’t count this as a fail because, hey just look at the circumstances… they were less than ideal.”And, of course, you’re right. Circumstances were and largely still remain less than ideal. So does that let me off the hook? Does it give me a pass? Does it give me cause to break my commitment to myself and to you by your estimation of the facts?Now, most of you, being nice people, will most likely say yes… Shit happens and you weren’t able to get it done. No worries.However, I would have to disagree and say emphatically, “NO!”.So, in looking at the situation why might you say “Yes” and I say “No”?It comes down to how we each assess my performance. If you said yes, what you are really saying is that the story about why I didn’t get the last 4 episodes completed is just as valuable as the result I claimed to want to create.Yet, when I look at the story and the results I created by missing the last 4 weeks of episodes, I am valuing the results over the story about why it didn’t get done.Many people in our lives, relationships, businesses, and families have decided to believe if someone comes to us with a “really good reason” as to why they didn’t get something done… That they’ve earned a pass. They should get credit or at least partial credit based on the quality of the story they can tell us about why they didn’t perform.They focus on the bullshit story about failure and tell you it’s OK that you didn’t perform, because hey, you had good reason.Rather than looking at the results… which are black and white. When we start examining the thin grey line between and justifying failure we open ourselves up to an infinite number of ways to excuse our lack of achievement.However, if we are truly masters of ourselves… The way we show up in the world can not be based solely on circumstance.Will there be circumstances that impede you or cause you to miss deadlines or commitments?Yes. Of course… That’s just life.However, It seems that the vast majority of people who live in the land of excuses seldom have a good reason as to why their particular circumstance prevented the outcome they had committed themselves to hitting.So to be honest and forthright… I count myself among that group in this case. The reality is I have 3 or 4 cell phones. Two of which I use regularly for media and recording. So was it impossible for me to get the work done? Not really.It was just really, really inconvenient.I used inconvenience and worry over the tasks needing completion to take me off my game.I chose to act like a child who refuses to go to bed without his “blanky”…It’s a way of demanding that everything line up perfectly or else… And if it doesn’t I give myself a pass even though I had the means to make it happen.Like the child who’s bed is warm and waiting for him, but he refuses to go down because his circumstances look different. So he sabotages himself, depriving himself of sleep… with the his bed empty and waiting for him in his bedroom.How many times are commitments broken because circumstances change?But more importantly… how many times do we let people off the hook because they deliver up a good story. At least in their eyes.When we are dealing with people who are committed to their own growth and vision, we do not do them any favors to allow them to slide. It is not a kindness to allow someone to perform below their capabilities.You’ve heard of holding people accountable… how about holding people capable?Not only of accomplishing what they set out to accomplish, also for being able to weather the criticism earned when commitments are broken.,, and for creating a path for rectifying the miss.What is missed by most of us when we offer up a story… is that we are only serving ourselves.When I give a narrative instead of results, what I am really doing is seeking to protect my own “looking good” program. I want to save face.For you, maybe it’s about not being wrong, or about being right… It varies depending on how you show up in the world.I promise you this, though… I know now that when I show up with excuses or stories, rather than results. I lose face. I bleed power and influence. And you do too.Power comes from knowing that no matter which way I perform, I own my results. That I am an agent unto myself. Blaming circumstances kills any opportunity you have to have that experience… You don’t get the opportunity to look inside yourself and check in with what the real problem is.But that’s where you have to start: Inside yourself… introspection. All the answers as to why you do what you do lie there.The phrase, “Know Thyself” is one of the most underrated expressions, but one that you can use to your advantage if you are serious about your life.For example: I know a great deal about me. And, one of the things I know about me is that I am not “Johnny Follow-Thru”… Not that I don’t follow through, but it isn’t my forte. I live in the world of the creative and the world of vision. However, without execution creativity and vision doesn’t matter.It’s just fuzzy thought and pretty words.I need the freedom of systems to keep me on track… so here’s one you can try: In my gym business at CrossFit North Phoenix, I recently chose into a policy that states if a commitment is broken, it’ll cost you 100 bucks. For everyday it remains broken is another 25.You can play this game with anyone around any commitment or action, and you’ll learn real quick who’s serious… who makes up excuses not to pay up, and who outright quits because the stakes are too high and they are unwilling to be capable and accountable to something they chose into in the first place.So where do you fall with all this?What is one area of your life where you are failing to meet your commitments or obligations that you can identify and start the process of correcting?How much better would you feel about yourself, if you knew you could trust yourself to follow through… You trusting you, is the beginning of confidence.
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Cristina Archer

This is so true it is amazing how easy it is to fall out of integrity. Great message!

Jul 11th
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Jason Archer

Cristina Archer Thank you!

Jul 11th
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