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Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we've got Head Noise - where I answer your questions!
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In this episode I give you 5 actionable steps to declutter your life and mind before the New Year.
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Do you find yourself obsessively replaying conversations, worrying about what you should’ve said, or overanalysing situations long after they’ve passed? You’re not alone, and your brain might be stuck in a loop it doesn’t know how to exit.
In this episode, I break down the psychology and neuroscience of rumination, why it happens, and how to stop the mental spiral before it drags you down. You'll learn the difference between productive reflection and toxic overthinking, and how to retrain your brain to let go.
Topics include:
Why the brain loves repeating negative thoughts
The role of your default mode network in overthinking
How to interrupt obsessive mental loops in real time
Cognitive strategies to move on and reclaim your peace
Simple tools to manage regret, self-blame, and “what if” thinking
If you’ve ever laid awake at night overanalysing a conversation or can’t seem to let go of something that already happened, this episode is MADE for you.
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1Brain Fact of the week: Munchausen Syndrome by proxy
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Are you holding on too tightly to outcomes and wondering why things keep slipping away? In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why desperation leads to delusion and how to shift out of it. You’ll learn 9 powerful steps to detach with intention, stop sabotaging your own success, and finally become magnetic to the things you want most. Whether it’s relationships, career goals, or clarity in your life, detachment isn’t about not caring, it’s about choosing peace over panic.
I'll unpack the psychology behind why chasing can push things further away, how to rewire your need for control, and how to recognise the signs of obsession disguised as ambition.
If you’re tired of the constant overthinking, anxiety, or low-key obsession with getting it "right," this one’s for you.
Included in this ep:
The psychology of detachment
Why desperation warps reality
How to get what you want by caring less
9 actionable mindset shifts you can start today
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Beans! I am doing a Sydney Live Show in February, tickets are on sale here. In this Head Noise Episode I answer all your Voice Message Questions! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com
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Brain Fact of the week: Water Intoxication.
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In today's episode, I discuss and explain the core beliefs of people with high self-esteem! I cover key traits of high and low self-esteem, how self-esteem impacts various aspects of life including relationships and resilience and tips to improve your self-worth.
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Beans! I am doing a Sydney Live Show in February, tickets are on sale here. In this Head Noise Episode I answer all your questions you emailed in! From how to deepen new adult friendships and navigating sibling conflicts. If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com
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Brain Fact of the week: Neurofibrillary Tangles
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This episode is brought to you by Bumble. Today's episode is all about The Psychology of Empowered Dating. Whether you're re-entering the dating scene or just looking for a fresh approach, this episode is for you. I talk about navigating dating apps, setting healthy boundaries and dating with confidence. I give you tips on how to avoid emotional traps and teach people how to treat you.
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Beans, I am so excited to announce I am going on tour in Sydney for, "Lost, But Make It Look Intentional." Tickets are available to purchase here
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Brain Fact of the week: Aphantasia
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Beautiful beans! In today's episode, I talk about the connection between our language and our desires. How our self-talk influences our ability to achieve our goals, the impact of clear communication and why it's important to align our language with what we truly want.
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It's Headnoise day, I answer your questions on handling locker room talk to understanding your partner's commitment issues to the neuroscience behind keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships and learning how to balance independence within a relationship.
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You’ve probably heard it before: “If you have a Plan B, you’re not committed to Plan A.”
Spoiler alert: that’s not confidence that’s delusion. In this episode, I’m flipping that mindset and showing you why having a backup plan is actually one of the most powerful things you can do for your goals.
Backups don’t mean giving up. They mean being strategic, resourceful, and unstoppable. We’ll dive into the neuroscience of decision making under pressure, how backup plans affect confidence and performance, and why clarity often comes after giving yourself more than one path forward.
What you’ll learn:
Why having a Plan B makes you more, not less likely to succeed at Plan A
How cognitive flexibility protects your mental health
The link between contingency planning and confidence
If you’ve ever feared that “hedging your bets” is weak this episode is your permission to be smart, not stubborn. Prepare to rewire how you chase your dreams.
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It is headnoise day and today I’m answering your voicemails on everything from career change crises, to compromising too much in relationships, to balancing parenthood with personal goals. If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com
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Brain Fact of the week: Morning light and it’s positive effects on mood disorders and ADHD
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In this episode, I talk about the neuroscience behind charisma, what makes someone magnetic, why it’s more about connection than confidence and how to build it (no matter your personality type). Whether you’re introverted, extroverted, or somewhere in between, charisma isn’t about being the loudest in the room. It’s about emotional attunement, presence and connection. I unpack the neuroscience behind why charismatic people light up our brains, the everyday habits that make you magnetic and how to lean into your own version of charisma.
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In this very special episode Alexis answers all your questions you sent in.
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Brain Fact of the week: Why smell is the strongest trigger for emotions and memories of all the senses.
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this one helps me get more collected
رابطه بین حس بویایی و مغز ،در این پادکست راجب حس عجیب بویایی و یاداوری صحبت میکنه . میکدولا و هیپوکامپ ،نزدیکی موقعیت این دوو بخش مغز چقد تاثیر گذاره .
oh my friggen good gid **god am I going through a mid life crisis but...... and then I jstvist it for formerly intellectual female. pretty good riddance sure. wtf like wtf!?!?!!?!? sorry sw÷Etienne but you seem strong and I was strong but holy shit. bags.
absolutely obsessed with this chick, she is the bomb!!!!
About the end story, I wanna tell her she is not the only one. Do not stop caring about yourself. You deserve the best.
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Thank you, I'm just about to move my business to another city.
Hello it’s about 1 week that I can’t play your podcasts any more! Is there any problem?
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Omg majdub means crazy in arabic :(
Thanks for this! I definitely have some elements of imposter syndrome and am driven by a fear of failure rather than a need to succeed, even at this stage in my career where I should know better! This was super helpful and articulated some things that I can work on. PS. This was my first time listening to your show, I have a playlist full of your content to work through now!
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Hi, beautiful legend! Can I have an address or a link to the guy who you said you are doing Botox with? Thanks for all of your helpful podcasts, You should know you are the one who makes me more confident in my hard lonely time. love love love
thank you.
omfg I really relate with my exphyco. the worst thing is she reaching out having one-sided conversation. then get text to say wow great conversation. to me total bullshit. get out of my space.
loving the podcast, can you slow down your speed talking a touch please.
zThanks girls!! happy new year!