Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Too often, societal pressures push women into roles where productivity and selflessness overshadow the importance of personal joy and connection. Instead of being encouraged to embrace their desires and fully experience their bodies, many women find themselves burdened by guilt, expectation, and a sense of duty to provide for others. This episode uncovers how these ingrained beliefs create barriers to genuine enjoyment in the bedroom, and lead women to feel a low desire for sex.Janna shares practical steps for rediscovering joy in life, helping women reconnect with their bodies and desires. By breaking free from the notion of how they "should" act in bed, listeners can learn to cultivate a fulfilling sexual experience rooted in authenticity and self-love.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

I have some very exciting news! After years of requests from thousands of women, I'm finally ready to launch a DIY video and journaling program specifically designed for women. This course is your first gentle step toward gaining clarity about your feelings toward sex.Wanting It More Foundations aims to empower women through reflection and observation. You'll experience freedom and relief as you discover your true self and understand your needs.You don’t need to involve your partner in this process. The course is designed for you to work at your own pace, featuring simple journaling prompts, exercises, and a moderated discussion forum where you can interact with other women if you choose.Since this is the inaugural round, I’m offering a very special bonus. This will be the only session of the WIM Foundations course I'll be teaching live in, giving you the opportunity to ask questions and participate in discussions with me. Plus, I’m offering a one-time-only price of $200 USD (the regular price is $300 USD).Visit jannadentonhowes.com/waitlist to be notified when this special round opens for registration.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna is joined by licensed professional counselor Dr. Jake Porter to explore the complex dynamics of shame and secrecy surrounding pornography and sex addiction in relationships. They discuss the role of denial and defense mechanisms while emphasizing the value of the therapeutic disclosure process. Listeners will receive advice on where to seek help and how to navigate the healing journey.Dr. Porter shares insights on the importance of being honest with your partner and the potential damage caused by withholding information. He explains why addressing the root causes of addiction—rather than simply stopping the behavior—is essential for the health of the relationship. Finally, he discusses the rewards of this transformative journey, highlighting how embracing vulnerability can lead to personal growth and enrich your relationship.Find all of Dr Jake Porter's resources here: https://drjakeporter.com/The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna has an eye-opening conversation with Dr. Ashley Southard, a licensed marriage and family therapist of 22 years, about her work helping overfunctioning women in love with underfunctioning partners. They discuss what this dynamic looks like for both women and men, why women tend to take on the emotional labour for both partners, and what women can do to self-restore inside or outside of the relationship. Find all of Dr. Ashley's resources here: http://drashleysouthard.com/resourcesThe waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

We are re-airing this episode in which Janna gathers with real couples who have completed the Doing It Together program and asks, “In what beneficial ways has the program impacted your life or marriage that you didn't expect?”. You'll hear from both men and women on what they learned and how they are applying this new knowledge to strengthen themselves, their marriages, and their intimate relationship with one another. This recording is from the last round before the name change, so that is why you’ll hear some people refer to the program with the old name- Wanting It More or WIM for short.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna answers the most common questions she's asked by both men and women about her Doing It Together program. If you're considering joining the next round, this is a great short episode to listen to.To hear the wrap-up call with husbands and wives from last round, listen to Ep. 62.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

With the next round of Doing It Together approaching, we’re excited to introduce Janna’s team and share their personal stories and insights. Melissa and Justin, both alumni of the program, discuss their experiences of taking the program, what participants can expect from the 8-week course, and their dedication to changing the narrative around low libido in women and the realities of sex in marriage.Melissa and Justin share how Janna’s approach to sex and intimacy has profoundly impacted their lives and marriages. They offer a glimpse into what participants can expect from the Doing It Together program and coaching calls, and explain their passion for helping couples create fulfilling intimate experiences.You can listen to Justin and Melissa's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes:Justin's Story in Episode 82Melissa's Story in Episode 4The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Sandra shares her incredible journey of transforming painful sexual experiences into a space of safety and pleasure. She recalls how, in the early days of her marriage, she and her husband were deeply connected and satisfied with their intimate life. However, after the traumatic birth of her fifth child, Sandra suffered a severe pelvic injury that left her in constant pain and made traditional intercourse nearly impossible. This created a fear of sex and a sense of rejection for her husband.But everything changed with Janna’s program. Sandra and her husband discovered a whole new world of intimacy they had never explored before. Sandra dives into the details of their transformed experiences, their new intentions for their time together, and how they've achieved a satisfying, pain-free, and mindful connection. Hear how they’ve turned their challenges into a fulfilling and therapeutic journey.Previous Episodes Mentioned: Justin in Episode 82Sandra in Episode 74Justin & Sandra in Episode 104The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna chats with Michael Kaufman, the author of The Time Has Come: Why Men Must Join the Gender Equality Revolution. Michael, a renowned advisor, activist, and keynote speaker, shares his insights on how traditional male roles in the bedroom and beyond often don’t benefit women. They dive into why it's crucial for men to confront their own privilege and engage in open dialogues about gender equality.Michael also discusses the rapid shifts in societal roles for both men and women. By listening to women's voices and addressing their own defensiveness, men can better contribute to a more equitable world. Tune in to hear Michael's innovative approaches for transforming men's lives and fostering positive change for a more equitable society.REFERENCES:Janna's Program: Doing It TogetherMichael Kaufman: https://michaelkaufman.com/the-time-has-come/The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna speaks with Ericka about the use of alcohol and how it can become a crutch in intimate situations. Ericka started drinking in high school, initially finding that alcohol eased her anxiety and helped her feel more relaxed before sexual encounters. However, this pattern led to risky situations and a troubling reliance on alcohol to numb out her fears and concerns about sexual performance. The result was a disconnection from her true feelings and intuition.Now four years sober, Ericka has created a valuable resource kit for women navigating intimacy and sobriety, available at sobrietycurious.com. She’s seen many women in online sobriety groups struggle with the question, "What do I do about sex now that I’m not drinking?" Listen as Ericka shares her journey to a healthier, more authentic way of rediscovering intimacy and self-worth without the haze of alcohol.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

We are rebroadcasting one of Janna's favorite episodes: her fascinating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist who specializes in sex and gender issues. Dr. Schermer Seller is the author of one of Janna's favorite and most recommended books, Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy.In this episode, Dr. Schermer Seller discusses her research on the Christian conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. Her findings reveal that this shift has had significant negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to form meaningful and healthy sexual relationships.Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can begin the healing process.Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

We are rebroadcasting our very popular episode with betrayal trauma expert Michelle Mays. Partner betrayal is SO complex compared to other forms of trauma. The lying, manipulation, scapegoating and gaslighting create a cycle of shame of wanting to simultaneously connect and disconnect from a cheating partner. Michelle shares her own betrayal story and outlines the rationalization, minimization and justification used by cheating partners to make their behaviour ok. She also speaks to the vital importance of restoring the relationship with oneself after experiencing partner betrayal.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

We're re-airing one of our most popular episodes (Ep. 27) with Mandy Röscher, a Pelvic Health Physiotherapist based in Brisbane, Australia who specializes in chronic pelvic pain conditions. Painful experiences in the bedroom are unfortunately extremely common for women. Mandy share her extensive knowledge and training with us to shed some light on this rarely-discussed issue.We tackle the common myths about pelvic pain, explaining how these misconceptions can make the experience even worse for those who suffer from it. Mandy stresses the importance of feeling safe both physically and emotionally while healing, pointing out that recovery is about more than just treating the body. She also breaks down the phrase "it's all in your head," clarifying that while pelvic pain has psychological aspects, it doesn't mean the pain isn't real. She shares her insights on the natural variety of female vulvas, based on her experience with hundreds of cases, to reassure everyone that there's no "normal" down there. Finally, Mandy dives into the different types of pelvic pain and what each one feels like, giving us a thorough understanding of this complex issue.RESOURCES MENTIONED:The Centers for Vulvovaginal Disorders: https://vulvodynia.com/publicationsBrisbane Pelvic Physiotherapy: https://www.brisbanepelvicphysio.com.au/The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

For 24 years, Jennie Delreeve has been a beacon of hope for women overcoming trauma and reversing pelvic organ prolapse naturally, helping them reclaim their active lifestyles. Jennie’s journey began with her own experience of prolapse, which plunged her into a cycle of shame and fear. She soon discovered that the mental tension she carried was significantly contributing to her condition. This realization led her to understand the necessity of healing both mind and body to achieve optimal health. Jennie shares real-life examples of how to genuinely navigate thoughts and emotions, truly feeling and believing in the process. She also reveals how this transformative approach can enhance sexual intimacy, offering a pathway to holistic healing and rejuvenation.Find out more about Jennie here: https://www.unshakeableyou.com/The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Stacey, a 42-year-old physical therapist, described her sex life as feeling like she was on autopilot. Her experiences were neither particularly good nor bad but rather monotonous and formulaic. She sensed there was something more to discover. To her shock and surprise, she had no idea how much she had to learn until she met Janna.Stacey shares what it was like to truly understand the intricate workings of her own body for the first time in her forties. She also reveals how developing a curiosity about herself has opened the door to more fulfilling intimacy and greater enjoyment in her life.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In this special episode, Janna reunites with Justin and Sandra, a couple who have each appeared on the podcast separately before (Justin in Episode 82 and Sandra in Episode 74). Together, they tackle some of the most frequently asked questions from Janna’s community, such as:How do you cultivate emotional safety and connection in your relationship?How do you bring up and phrase issues that have hurt you?How do you navigate defensiveness?Is it realistic for men to be satisfied with a sex life that differs from cultural norms?What does a husband learn from watching porn, and how does it affect his relationship with his wife?How can you tell if porn is truly gone from a partner’s life and not just hidden?Justin and Sandra share their wealth of knowledge gained from the intense work they’ve done to heal their relationship, offering valuable insights for other couples.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Amanda, 35, has always enjoyed sex. She explored with confidence from an early age and used the term "great sex" to describe her intimate life with her husband. But everything changed when they had kids. As a mother of four, Amanda found that sex transformed from fun and fulfilling into a vicious cycle of guilt, pressure, rejection, and shame.With Janna's help, Amanda and her husband rediscovered a mutually enjoyable experience. Listen as Amanda shares the lessons she learned, transforming their intimate relationship into a true place of pleasure.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Celeste truly felt like she found her soul mate when she married her husband. She loved him deeply and could be her authentic self in their marriage...except during sex. She couldn’t understand how she could love someone so much yet dislike the sexual experience so intensely. She could never find the right words to express her feelings and would often cry after sex because she felt confused, frustrated, and broken.Raised in a culture that discouraged asking for help, it took her years to finally talk to her husband about seeking guidance about low sex drive from Janna. Together, they took the leap into the Doing It Together program, which opened the gates to the communication they had both been searching for, leading to transformative change in their relationship.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

At 51, Heather is finally discovering what truly brings her pleasure in sexual experiences by asking herself, “What do I need?” Although she was once a curious and precocious sexual being, her desire diminished during marriage when sex became an expectation and duty. The traditional formula of what sex should be didn't work for her and depleted her natural libido, but she couldn’t articulate why. It wasn't until she and her husband participated in the Doing It Together program that she realized she had been missing the nuances of true intimacy and neglecting the acts that brought her real pleasure and enjoyment. Listen to how Heather learned to unfollow the "media sex formula" rules, give specific directions, set boundaries, and savor the wide range of possibilities in the buffet of the sexual experience.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

It's our 100th episode! To celebrate, I'm announcing a big change: a name change. As I've evolved over the years and learned from the couples I've served, so has my program. After adding an entire men's coaching and education program to Wanting It More, I realized the name needed to reflect a broader perspective. I was no longer exclusively speaking to women with low libido; I was teaching couples to work together to achieve fulfilling sex lives in their marriages.So, as of today, the Wanting It More program and this podcast will now be called Doing It Together. I will continue to share the stories of men and women to help you better understand your own journey and to ultimately know that you aren't broken, you never were, and there's a better way forward.The waitlist for Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations Program is open. Join here to be notified when this special inaugural round is open for registration.The next round of Doing It Together runs in Feb./Mar. 2025. Join the waitlist.Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.