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Join hosts Elisa Goodkind and Lily Mandelbaum, the mother-daughter duo renowned for their groundbreaking YouTube channel StyleLikeU and 'What's Underneath' series, as they delve deep into the heart of radical self-love in an intimate filmed podcast. From cultural icons to lesser-known gems, each episode features a guest working to proudly embrace their identity through the lens of unapologetic personal style, challenging societal norms and owning their differences as superpowers.

Through candid conversations exploring themes of redefining beauty, dress as self-expression, and shedding shame, Elisa and Lily not only spotlight those who defy conformity but also unravel the complexities of their own evolving relationship in the name of self-acceptance.


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In this episode of Don't Change a Thing, a solo Elisa goes deep with Jeffrey Marsh, the non-binary author and life coach—not to mention viral TikTok star—who wasn’t always the ray of sunshine you see today. Growing up, Jeffrey’s visible queerness made them a target, and their isolation and pain led them to a place of despair where they were forced to denounce everything about themselves that was supposedly ‘too’ much. But, they did realize their otherness held great power; anytime they entered a room, they had the ability to make time churn to a halt as adults couldn’t help but notice their authenticity.Fast-forward many years, and Jeffrey is all about leaning into that ‘too’: too’ queer, ‘too’ non-binary, ‘too’ fabulous, ‘too’ self-accepting. Zen Buddhism has helped quiet their hate-filled inner voices that had been drowning them for far too long, and now Jeffrey is devoted to spreading unconditional love while helping us all hate ourselves a little less.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW JEFFREY MARSH: @thejeffreymarshSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Welcome to this new episode of our video podcast, “Don’t Change a Thing”!In this episode, Elisa and Lily sit down with Pamela Madsen, the vivacious sexuality educator, author, and advocate who is all about helping women connect to their most erotic selves to live their best lives. Married from a young age and long affected by an eating disorder, Pamela underwent a metamorphosis in her 40s, learning about the power of touch through gay men as she started to feel safe in her body and discover her sexual sovereignty.Now in her 60s and fully enamored with her own body, Pamela has cast aside notions about how women should behave during menopause. She is spreading her healing gospel, giving women the keys to their own castle by inviting them to access their sexuality and thus their life force.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW PAMELA MADSEN: @thepamelamadsenSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this NEW episode of our video podcast, "Don't Change a Thing," Elisa and Lily invite comedian and Rap Sh!t on Max star Jonica “Blu” Booth to get vulnerable about one of the most challenging times of her life. The moment Jonica got the dream opportunity she’d been working towards was the moment her brother lost his life.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @StyleLikeU SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW JONICA BOOTH: @jonicabluboothSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Welcome to this new episode of our video podcast, “Don’t Change a Thing”, now published the second and fourth Thursdays of the month! This episode finds Elisa and Lily interviewing Robin Schorr as they dive deep into what it means to experience a total rebirth long after society’s told you it’s not possible. At age 58, Robin—a prestigious Hollywood film exec and producer— had an epiphany: why was she so hardcore about a career that wasn’t her life’s purpose?Never quite fitting in as she climbed the Hollywood ladder, Robin suppressed her love of music until she was hit by the realization that it was her true calling. Enter: Blond in Car, her dream pop moniker, through which she surrounds herself with positivity while proving that lived experience is valuable in an industry that idolizes youth. Now in her 60s, Robin—a self-proclaimed pro-aging goodwill ambassador—is happier than ever, and her renaissance has finally liberated her from the self-loathing that came with being old.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW BLOND IN CAR: @blondincarSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Welcome to the fifth episode of our new podcast, Don’t Change a Thing, sponsored by BetterHelp, the online, accessible therapy site. Visit Betterhelp.com/dontchange and use promo code: dontchange to try BetterHelp today. In this NEW episode of our podcast, "Don't Change a Thing," Elisa and Lily reconnect with actress Victoria Pedretti who previously sat down with them for an episode of “What’s Underneath.” Victoria—star of Netflix’s “The Haunting of Hill House,” “The Haunting of Bly Manor” and “You”—has recently been making waves on Broadway in “An Enemy of the People.” She dives into her experience of facing an audience on stage where—unlike in the TV world—you don’t receive constant validation, and discusses both the vulnerability and the sense of sturdiness she’s had to draw upon within herself.Returning to theater has reignited Victoria’s ferocious passion for her work—she views acting as a powerful role, with her duty to tell the audience the story as best she can. There’s no space for her to be blasé or insecure, and she’s simultaneously quit weed to help her be even more present to life. Victoria has been advocating for her dreams while refusing to fall into the trappings of fame—in fact, she was at her most miserable when her life appeared the most glamorous—and her commitment to storytelling above all is what drives her forward.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW VICTORIA PEDRETTI: @then0t0ri0usvipSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Welcome to the fourth episode of our new podcast, Don’t Change a Thing, sponsored by BetterHelp, the online, accessible therapy site. Visit Betterhelp.com/dontchange and use promo code: dontchange to try BetterHelp today. In this NEW episode of our podcast, "Don't Change a Thing," Elisa and Lily sit down with Mara Hoffman, the groundbreaking sustainable fashion designer who recently made the tough decision to shutter her eponymous label of 24 years. Mara, who worships women, reflects on the joy she’s received over the years celebrating all bodies with her inclusive clothes as she grappled with being a cog in the wheel of a highly harmful industry that is reluctant to change—even though she proved sustainability is possible—and doesn’t prioritize our planet. In this episode, Mara discusses how reconnecting with nature and using psychedelics gave her permission to unplug from the system and use her innate artistry in other ways that won’t add more stuff to the earth. We also dive into how courageous it is to let go of what's defined you as a person—your whole identity—while seeking freedom, growth, and beauty in the unknown. Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW MARA HOFFMAN: @marahoffmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Welcome to the third episode of our new podcast, Don’t Change a Thing, sponsored by BetterHelp, the online, accessible therapy site. Visit Betterhelp.com/dontchange and use promo code: dontchange to try BetterHelp today.In this NEW episode of our podcast, "Don't Change a Thing," Elisa and Lily sit down with Jordan Underwood, a queer, trans, non-binary activist, model, and dancer who shares their experience being an active, healthy fat person who developed Lipodema, a disorder that led them to gain 150 pounds and become immobile. Jordan reflects on the mistreatment they’ve faced in the healthcare system due to their fatness and reveals how dangerous it is when doctor’s don’t believe their fat patients.In this episode, we discuss the pervasive fatphobia in society within this ‘post body positive world’, the cultural obsession with thinness and recent rise in diet culture, and the vital importance of creating an inclusive society that honors and listens to the experiences of people of all bodies.Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW JORDAN UNDERWOOD: @jordallenhallSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Welcome to the 2nd episode of our new video podcast, ‘Don’t Change a Thing’!In this episode, Elisa and Lily sit down with Sonya Renee Taylor, author of seven books including the best-selling The Body is Not an Apology, on her journey from life collapsing around her in 2020 to finding the ultimate home in herself through the power of radical self-love.In this transformative conversation, Sonya shares her journey from surviving to thriving by tending to herself and her grief. Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW SONYA RENEE TAYLOR: @sonyareneetaylor BUY SONYA’S BOOKS: SonyaReneeTaylor.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Welcome to the relaunch of our podcast, with a new name, ‘Don’t Change a Thing’, sponsored by BetterHelp, the online, accessible therapy site. Visit Betterhelp.com/dontchange and use promo code: dontchange to try BetterHelp today.In our premiere episode, we sat down with the legendary B. Akerlund who has styled Madonna, Lady Gaga, Beyonce and more. We first featured her 10 years ago in our Closet series and caught up with her today to talk about aging, motherhood, her career, rejecting the pressures of productivity and more! Plus, we unpack key takeaways from B’s interview and explore additional insights you won't want to miss.Catch B’s extravagant looks in the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeUFOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @stylelikeu Subscribe to our Newsletter: StyleLikeU.comFOLLOW B. AKERLUND: @bcompleted and www.bootzycouture.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this week’s episode of our podcast, former Fashion Stylist turned Radical Dance Teacher, Kate Shela, wants to be seen for exactly who she is, no matter the “risk.” She exchanged her career in fashion and the dream of being a professional dancer (both paths that relied on achieving unattainable ideals of external perfection) for the rewards of healing herself and others as a teacher of the legendary 5 Rhythms dynamic movement practice, a method of dance that allows people to embody their whole, messy, imperfect selves. In keeping with her courage to tear off masks, Kate dared herself to see herself when she chopped off her hair on both sides and let it go grey, a turning point that had her feeling truly beautiful for the first time. Today, at 48, Kate feels as though she is just beginning, as she steps into the vulnerability of launching her own form of dance classes and immersions called The 360 Emergence: “The work is about how to help people come out of their own closet, their own spaces of shame, into a space of sharing and thriving.” From Fashion Stylist to Radical Dance Teacher, the topics covered in this episode include: Working in London’s fashion industry during the creatively expansive 1980’s Making the change from telling stories through clothes to telling stories through dance Overcoming negative self-talk Dance and creative outlets as saviors and overcoming shame How shaving your hair changes people’s perception of you Empowered at 48 years old and embracing gray hair Stepping into your calling by taking a risk The “problem” of being “too much” and not fitting into a box Being of service in your profession Starting your own business Stepping into courage and fear We’d like to extend a special thank you to sponsor, Mad Hippie, for supporting our movement and helping to bring this episode to life. Cruelty-free and committed to reducing the world’s carbon imprint, Mad Hippie believes that high-quality ingredients should be affordable and that taking care of your skin should be protective, nourishing and restorative. Like StyleLikeU, Mad Hippie was born with a “buck the establishment” manifesto and a belief that we must treat ourselves and our fellow beings with love and respect, regardless of gender, race, orientation, age, location...or even species. For one month following the release of this episode, Mad Hippie is offering StyleLikeU viewers 20% off of their orders by using the coupon code STYLE at checkout. https://www.madhippie.com/ If these stories are transformative on your own journey towards acceptance, please consider becoming a member of StyleLikeU on Patreon so that we can build a world where everyone feels comfortable and safe in their skin. To join the movement, head over to https://www.patreon.com/stylelikeu And if you know anyone who would be empowered by this story, please share and be a part of spreading the message that true style is the result of radical self-acceptance.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Elisa and Lily sit down with inspirational stylist, fashion consultant, author, magazine editor, and former co-host of What Not To Wear, Stacy London. Style by fire, Stacy’s trademark “Morticia” gray streak grew in when she was eleven and she has been refusing to hide it ever since. But it isn’t until turning 50 that she is actually having a midlife Renaissance in her Princess dresses and finally feeling a deep comfort in her skin. She is coming into her own having done life her way; not married, without kids and never having had a conventional job. This after a lifetime of eating disorders under fashions unforgiving lens as a Fashion Editor at magazines like Vogue and as a superstar TV host of “What Not To Wear.” “Beauty is about love and contentment,” is Stacy’s new mantra. This week’s topics include: reconnecting to personal style after What Not To Wear combatting the invisibility of women over 40 lost in your 20’s finding yourself at 50 feeling like you have to say yes when you should say no grieving a parent eating disorders and body dysmorphia menopause and self-acceptance through aging the humiliating pain of psoriasis Vogue and the fashion industry the brutally rigorous life of being a reality TV star This episode is brought to you by Chantelle Lingerie. Our listeners can take advantage of free shipping by going to chantelle.com and using the coupon code STYLE.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Their own hero, Janaya’s all-black uniform can be packed in 7 minutes flat in case they are called to the front lines as an activist and organizer, where they have the responsibility of redirecting rage and rallying community around politically and socially charged moments. You will also find them wearing black in the boxing ring, where they have learned to punch without apology and where they have found refuge as a black, queer, non-binary person in an inclusive space. Janaya’s heroic qualities are also pronounced by their title of Futurist, which was given to them by members of the Black Lives Matter chapter in Toronto (which they co-created). Janaya speaks to communities around the world about the need to communicate and listen to one another despite the insidious Racism, Bigotry, Transphobia, and Islamophobia that runs rampant in our society. Without communication, they believe we will stay in the same cycles of separation and segregation. Despite a traumatic childhood, or perhaps because of it, living to bridge differences and create more understanding between people of all walks of life is perhaps what most makes Janaya the superhero that they are. This episode is brought to you by Chantelle Lingerie. Our listeners can take advantage of free shipping by going to chantelle.com and using the coupon code STYLE.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Relinquishing shame and stepping into her fullest self is what impersonating others did for Chloe Fineman once she discovered comedy. But her journey to this comfort within only came after lots of zigs and zags. For years, Chloe struggled to fit into a traditional acting career that demanded she shrink herself both literally and figuratively to fit into a waify ingenue “hot girl box.” But a bout with anorexia followed by a chapter of overeating ice cream and blowing out her thyroid led to a dramatic weight gain that became the turning point in Chloe’s path towards fully owning her inner-clown. Today, with an arsenal of wigs, Chloe prides herself on the contribution to society that she makes by embodying the tragic flaws of problematic white women, like Ivanka Trump and Elizabeth Holmes. Feeling the most beautiful when she’s doing her work, Chloe is a tour de force of comic relief, healing pain with lots of laughs. “When I'm doing something where I feel like I'm talented when I'm doing the thing that I love to do and I know that I have a skill at...I'll usually feel really beautiful. I think that's a good way to navigate your relationships; who sees you as beautiful in that or who sees you in a selfie?” This episode is brought to you by Chantelle Lingerie. Our listeners can take advantage of free shipping by going to chantelle.com and using the coupon code STYLE.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Born in Kenya of Maasai and Kikuyu roots, Neema Githere has faced the harsh realities of growing up in racist America and, at 21 is proudly living the life of her choosing. With her crown of Bantu hair knots and rainbow braids, she had the smarts to get into almost every ivy league school from a small town in Colorado, where she was feared and fetishized for her difference. She later had the bravery to drop out of Yale in favor of a life outside the systems that oppress her, upon realizing that she was unhappy in an elitist academia that is the very bastion of colonialism. Already living the happy ending, Neema is learning about radical love and transcendence from the ancient philosopher Rumi as a means of dealing with the pervasive triggers of systemic racism, traveling to every corner of the world, and is a curator at The Africa Center in NY, where she curates the portal program, ’an internet you can walk through’ that allow us to connect to people everywhere, free from digital algorithms. “Not only is yale on stolen land but it is upheld by the labor of black people and by separating itself as an elite institution against the masses of people who lack access to these institutions. It became a lot for me to weigh in my head; how can I have this revolutionary heart and spirit and intention and still be so deeply entrenched in this institution that's trying to assimilate me into a place of "upwards class mobility" at the expense of my psychological health and cultural health.” This episode is brought to you by Chantelle Lingerie. Our listeners can take advantage of free shipping by going to chantelle.com and using the coupon code STYLE.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
The objectification of women, as represented by the sexualization and thus censorship of their breasts, is such a profound form of systemic oppression that Sister Leona sees no other route to liberation than to rip off her shirt, tap into her inner superhero and take to the streets in protest. Her goal is to get the Equal Rights Amendment into the Constitution and showing up topless outside of the Kavanaugh Supreme Court hearings and getting arrested is not Leona’s only rebel cry. A mustache and goatee that she draws onto her face exaggerate the extreme hypocrisy of what is acceptable for a man to do as opposed to a woman. And her flamboyant hats and swashbuckling trousers make it loud and clear (in the name of all women) that Leona will not be shamed for anything that makes her power and expression as a woman shine as bright as possible. “To sexualize means to make sexual. It's something you do to somebody else. And that's a choice. Guys are like, ‘Okay, well, what if I think that she's sexy?’ And I'm like, ‘It's okay what you think, but she doesn't need to know what you think. And also what you need to know is that she's a multitude of other things. Her sexuality is just one aspect of her being.’ Also, women's breasts have nothing to do with sex. All human breasts are categorized the same in medical science, which is as a secondary sex characteristic. That same categorization on men's breasts does not mean that they have to cover their breasts. So you can see it's just a means of oppression.’’ This episode is brought to you by Olie Biologique. Olie delivers the nutrients your skin craves fast. Save 20% with the code STYLELIKEU20.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Founder of The Wu Tang Clan, Rapper, Producer, Musician, Actor, Filmmaker, Author, Writer and soon-to-be creator of a TV show about his life, RZA (aka Robert Fitzgerald Diggs) is all grown up. From wearing army fatigues in the 90s, which represented the militant mindset that initially brought RZA to superstardom, the icon has emerged in 2019 as a Renaissance man who appreciates the reverence that comes with the occasional suit and tie. Among the many insights that RZA lets us in is on how he has remained comfortable in himself amidst the bright lights of Hollywood. Further, he shares how the passing of his mother brought him from the spiritual audacity of being lost in a God complex in his 20s, to the spiritually awake place he exists within now. “I think ‘comfortable’ is more like ‘at ease’ and when you’re ‘confident,’ you actually are not at ease. You are putting on a strength that you have to pump up for. ‘Comfortable’ is when could just fall asleep on a roller coaster… At the end of the day, I could care two cents less if you ever take a picture of me. I'm in this for the expression that was built in me. After everything that I've done in my life, and the moments of pride that I felt from my mom, being able to provide for my family economically, now it’s more for me to know that what I'm doing, each footprint that I'm putting down, is leaving a footprint for someone else to walk that path.” This episode is brought to you by Olie Biologique. Olie delivers the nutrients your skin craves fast. Save 20% with the code STYLELIKEU20 at https://www.amazon.com/oliebiologique.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Co-creator, writer and director of HBO’s High Maintenance, Katja Blichfeld shares the agony and ecstasy of what has been a lifetime of coming to terms with her queerness. After going to an Evangelical Christian school as a child, Katja deeply struggled to honor the natural impulses of her sexuality. In her mid-thirties, during her marriage to High Maintenance Co-Creator Ben Sinclair, a full-on depression (amidst the height of her career success and her dream job) propelled Katja to claim the truth of who she was. Now, with a skip in her step and in love with a woman, the baker-turned-casting director-turned-TV empresario vouches for the beauty of following your heart, twists and turns included. “It took me almost 40 years before I could be comfortable with the fact I'm a queer person...and because of my religious indoctrination, I think I was unable to be truthful with myself about who I really was and what kind of a life I wanted to live. That's the biggest way that rules and the binary and this whole notion of right and wrong have harmed me.” This episode is brought to you by Olie Biologique. Olie delivers the nutrients your skin craves fast. Save 20% with the code STYLELIKEU20 at https://www.amazon.com/oliebiologique.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In a world that is quick to judge and fear the other, Lebanese filmmaker Pam Nasr doesn’t want to overlook the many ways we can communicate and seek bonds without words, whether it be through the food we share or how we dress. When she walks down the street in bold colors or flaunting her strong legs, Pam’s style screams, “I love life” and “I want to connect.” Growing up in Dubai with a dad who gave her the space to push boundaries and wear mini-skirts in a country that is more conservative due to its tradition has given Pam the grit needed to take risks. After her initial soiree studying fashion in London, Pam followed her gut and moved without barely a moment of hesitance into filmmaking in New York to produce her first feature short, Clams Casino. Addressing the complexities of finding connection and expressing love, whether on social media or in real life, Clams Casino explores the tensions between a mother and daughter (mirroring her own personal story with her mom) through the lens of Mukbang, a phenomenon in South Korea where people seek intimacy though eating on the internet. “I love to be loud in the clothes I wear. I love that if I'm wearing a jacket you could see it across the room or across the street because, hopefully, it creates an interaction with someone...when you're not pushing people away you are in this world together that automatically means that you love the world, you love your life if you love people, because we don't live alone in this world.” This episode is brought to you by Olie Biologique. Olie delivers the nutrients your skin craves fast. Save 20% with the code STYLELIKEU20 at https://www.amazon.com/oliebiologique. stylelikeu + instagram + youtubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
“When is it enough?” Amy Yeung has been asking herself this since becoming a mom 18 years ago. Now 55, Amy feels like she is a “naked baby chasing butterflies…every day is so much fun.” Amy already knew how to build success the consumerist way, with a big-brand career designing fast fashion destined for landfills. But following a breakthrough moment in the Moroccan desert, she turned her back on being a designer of disposable fashion in favor of creating success with a conscience. Her company, Orenda Tribe, upcycles old textiles and reimagines vintage. Creating her own smaller, sustainable business has given Amy the wings needed to pursue her greatest calling, using any excess funds made from her sales to give back to the grave and underexposed inequities of her Navajo community. And by way of her giving back, re-integrating with her indigenous origins and family has set Amy onto a path of possibly her greatest healing, one of decolonizing herself and re-connecting to her roots that were once lost when she was adopted as a baby. “Part of my brain operates on success and trying to push ahead and make things bigger. I meditate every day on how to keep it small because enough is enough. We don't need to have these huge houses and these huge lives. If anything, I'm trying to make my life smaller and smaller and more meaningful as I get towards the end and think if I have less stuff I can give more of myself.”See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
From her grade-school role of “goth weirdo” among a sea of blond hair and floral dresses to playing a myriad of stereotypical Asian-best-friend parts in Hollywood, Korean-American actress and performance artist Vivien Bang has struggled to be seen and heard for who she is. It wasn’t until Vivien began to listen to her inner voice, which included a deep dive into her roots, that she came to realize that she could be the hero of her own story. This super power has guided her to release traditional binds of security and redefine success on her own terms. Now secure in the insecure, Vivian has had the courage to make the choices that scare her the most, walking away from the man she loved because she didn’t want children, instead manifesting White Rabbit, the movie she made about her life, which debuted at Sundance in 2018. “For so long I've been trying to take up space and to be heard, you know? I mean, it's funny because like, I think in the beginning my struggle was like, to figure out what I wanted to be, like what I wanted to say. And then so much of my time was like, "How can I be heard? How can I be seen?" And right now I'm in this like, weird phase of, I just want to kind of listen, you know, like, have a deeper sort of listening of what, I don't know, the universe wants to tell me what I'm trying to tell myself.”See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Alice Haughton

This podcast was so beautiful, wise and thought provoking. I'm going to re listen and make notes! Thank you 💓

Jan 27th
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Christina Womacks

I have struggled with severe BDD since childhood. I turned 40 and I am really having to face this illness once again. I relate to you Stacy so much. thank you thank you. very helpful.

Dec 22nd
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Steve Harrison

a bunch of self absorbed humans..who get wasted on champas to escape reality..thank you.

Oct 30th
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Bojana Đorđević

Girls, this was a very emotional episode, congrats on picking the guest! I just wanted to comment on the way you were asking questions: sometimes it seemed like you weren't really listening to her and respecting some of the deep emotions she was expressing. It seemed like you were asking preprepared questions rather than going with the flow of the conversation and that to me was disturbing at times. Other than that, great episode!

Jun 17th
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Sheila Flecha

Respect to her! im glad she find her true self, and got liberated! 😊😍

Oct 1st
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Marteen Jackson

loved this so much. Lorri is so private, it makes her so interesting. I just love her soft voice, and love what she did for Damien. thank goodness for her

Sep 11th
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Masha Druzhinina

yet another perfect story of an ultimate inspiration <3

Aug 13th
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Emma Belsham

this was beautiful. thank you

Jul 30th
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Azadeh Ghavamrad

That I love you Jacob (and want to meet you and be your friend), is an understatement. The things you say, the way you say them, the way you see what you say, is the most honest, important and heartly (healthy/heartfelt) way I have ever been exposed too ever! I almost cant (but I try to) express how much you, and what you say, and the human being you have become and still becoming, mean to me. And that Lilly and Elisa are who they are and bring forth this conversation, and all the other conversations, the importance off this cant be stressed enough. I would love too be in this room with you and a part off this conversation with you, Lilly and Elisa ❤️ free yourself and heal.

Jul 17th
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Jessica Xu

yes!!!!!!!! i agree w this so muchhhhhh!!!! <3 nothing is boring!!!

Jul 5th
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Teri J. Bond

"We are not going to become visible in all our power as older women until we stop doing it (coloring our hair, botox, face lifts, etc.)." Excellent episode. So many important points made. Thanks! Brava!

Jul 4th
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FWFRANCHISE

sounds awful who cares

Jun 29th
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Marta Kozielczyk

Great content. I truly love your work. Every time I'm watching your videos or listening your podcasts I feel more than ever grounded and in touch with myself. You really make a change in the world.

Jun 23rd
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Valentina Pavlovic

This was so relatable and so powerful! Its really revolutionary! Also, this guy was straight up telling you LITERALLY the things I’m trying to figure out the last couple of years and we have the same perspective, I was creeped out with how similar his thoughts process was to mine but blown away at the same time.. loved it!!!!

Jun 15th
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Chioma U.

❤️ This was AMAZING made me cry a little I kinda feel lost within myself, but I am liking this podcast!!

Jun 11th
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Chioma U.

This was sooooooo inspiring I agree with what you said Ms. Elisa I do enjoy vintage clothing 70's, 80's 90's as a 20 something year old woman. I wonder what we can do to change or realistically what I can do to stay innovative and standout from a society that values money and conformity. I am really glad I decided to listen to this it has been a while.

Jun 7th
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Azadeh Ghavamrad

Thank you for this 👩🏽‍🎤

Jun 3rd
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Leilani Lanuza

amazing

May 31st
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Masha Druzhinina

I thought your videos and podcasts just couldn't be more sincere and profound, but they actually can :) I am so grateful I stay connected to you on Instagram ,and YouTube and now here. I do want to tribute and thank you for the work you have done and continue to do, so the least I can do is to buy your book. You make my day every day you release something. Please, flourish and bloom, you are amazing people.

May 25th
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Masha Druzhinina

Hello, girls. I follow you everywhere possible and enjoy starting my week with your ideas and inspiring speeches. Utterly greatful here!

May 14th
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