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Heather MacFadyen, mother of four boys, connects you the listener with people and resources to help you feel less alone. Consider it an invitation to "withness". With mentors. With friends. With God in you! Over at DontMomAlone.com she helps join y'all to the 'Not Alone Community'.
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Toni Collier’s short childhood ended in third grade when her mother had a stroke. Toni carried many heavy emotional burdens in her childhood and felt deeply that she had to protect herself because the world was not a safe place. Fast forward several years and Toni’s strength of will to avoid the emotional trauma she experienced as a child finally ran out. Now a mom and reeling from an emotionally abusive first marriage, Toni sought counseling and therapy for the healing she so desperately needed. I was so blind to how unhealthy my life actually was. And the unveiling, the unwrapping of this emotional onion made me worse. But there was a healed Toni that I had to get to. Not just for me, but for my daughter and my new marriage. The only thing that brought me through was the hope that there is a God who said he could trade my weakness for his power.Toni opens up about the “treacherous” process of facing intense emotional trauma, the shame and stigma that surrounds therapy and what it’s like to parent in the midst of facing your own brokenness.Now as a powerful communicator and host with North Point Ministries, Toni has learned that God can take our broken, painful pasts and use them to minister to others. I hopped on stage at North Point and my entire life changed in weeks. It was the first time in a long time that I had been in a ministry that's celebrated my gifts, wasn't intimidated by them, and also welcomed my brokenness. It is as if I had experienced a new Jesus.What we chat about: Toni’s difficult childhood and how she had to grow up quickly to take care of her mom and herselfWhat led her to get help through counseling and trauma therapyThe challenge of therapy after years of emotional traumaParenting while going through intense therapy and healing The process of identifying her daughter’s mental and emotional strugglesHow she is working through school and behavior with her daughterHer new marriage and how she met her husbandConnect with Toni: Website: https://tonijcollier.com  Facebook: facebook.com/tonijcollier and facebook.com/brkncrayonsInstagram: @tonijcollier and @brkncrayonsLinks Mentioned:  So Long, Insecurity: You've Been a Bad Friend to Us ** [BOOK]Broken Crayons Still Color [WEBSITE]North Point Ministries [WEBSITE]Featured Sponsor : Phonics MuseumWhen your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum. Taking a “tools of learning” approach, the app helps establish a strong foundation of reading for children through a complete commitment to a phonics approach. Join Wendy, William, Percival and Miss Biddle, the museum curator on a reading adventure as they explore the Phonics Museum, sing songs, and play games with the living artwork in the museum. It’s an experience you’ll never forget!You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)Featured Sponsor: Kids Faith KrateKids Faith Krate is a monthly craft subscription box to help cultivate your child’s faith! Every month your family will receive a new box (or Krate as they call them) filled with weekly family Bible lessons and coordinating crafts. Kids Faith Krate provides convenience, fun, and gives direction in family discipleship. Their Krates target ages 4-10, and there’s an option to include craft supplies for up to 3 children. Go to www.kidsfaithkrate.com (“krate” is spelled with a K) and use the code mentioned in the middle of the podcast to get $10 off any subscription!
Melissa d’Arabian is a winner of “The Next Food Network Star,” a celebrity chef, author, and mom of four girls. She’s an expert on affordable and healthy family home cooking who has inspired people with her shows on the Food Network. A few years ago, God inspired Melissa to do a deep dive into scripture and prayer to evaluate the meaning of food in her life. What she discovered is our relationship with food reflects our understanding of God and his creation. In her new book, Tasting Grace, she invites readers to appreciate food as not only a gift from God but also as a deeper invitation into his love.Every meal we have can be an invitation into creativity, community, and patience. The fact that I could sit there and even for a moment and marvel and at least to honor everything that's gone into my food connected me more to God and it made me enjoy the food more.We talk about how meals can bring us closer to God and how he created a food system to nourish us and delight our palates. Melissa is passionate about separating food and body image and saying no to the negative perspective often put on food. I want my children when they are young women going out there in the world to have the joy of a great relationship with food. And so if I talk about myself in a way that is unkind, not only are my kids hearing it, but God is hearing it. Speaking in terms of body image and all of that, I think it must make God feel sad when I reject the body he has given me. What we chat about: How Melissa studied food and what God was saying about foodThe wonder of food and gratitude we can feel toward it if we consider all that went into making itMeals can bring us closer to God with every bite we takeGod created a food system for humans that nourishes us and delights our palatesFood and body image and how they need to be separated How we relate to food greatly affects how our kids relate to foodGrowing food in a garden gives us another level of gratitude“Food is God’s love made delicious.”Saying no to the idea that exercise is punishment for foodThe spiritual winter Melissa walked through after her mother committed suicideConnect with Melissa: Website: www.melissadarabian.netFacebook: facebook.com/darabianmelissaInstagram: @melissadarabianTwitter: @melissadarabianLinks Mentioned: YouVersion AppIt’s Not About the Food :: Carrie and Angie [Ep 173]  [PODCAST]Food and Faith: A Theology of Eating [BOOK]**Videos and Recipes from Melissa on FoodNetwork.comFeatured Sponsor : Phonics MuseumWhen your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum. Taking a “tools of learning” approach, the app helps establish a strong foundation of reading for children through a complete commitment to a phonics approach. Join Wendy, William, Percival and Miss Biddle, the museum curator on a reading adventure as they explore the Phonics Museum, sing songs, and play games with the living artwork in the museum. It’s an experience you’ll never forget!You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)Featured Sponsor :: Kids Faith KrateKids Faith Krate is a monthly craft subscription box to help cultivate your child’s faith! Every month your family will receive a new box (or Krate as they call them) filled with weekly family Bible lessons and coordinating crafts. Kids Faith Krate provides convenience, fun, and gives direction in family discipleship. Their Krates target ages 4-10, and there’s an option to include craft supplies for up to 3 children. Go to www.kidsfaithkrate.com (“krate” is spelled with a K) and use the code mentioned in the middle of the podcast to get $10 off any subscription!
Wow! Six years into podcasting and the 265 episodes of this show have been downloaded 8.7 million times across 204 different countries. Today we are celebrating our podcast-iversary with a “best-of” show featuring clips from your favorite episodes. We’re also featuring testimonials from listeners who share how the podcast has helped them not mom alone. Like these quotes from moms:This podcast has really become my one-stop show for all things parenting. I love how you cover such a wide range of topics and how all of your guests are filled with grace and grounded in God’s word and his truth.It has totally changed my perspective on motherhood. I’ve gone from feeling quite frustrated and alone to knowing that other moms are dealing with the same things. I don’t feel quite so lonely. All the encouragement is really changing my life.Thanks so much for listening to the Don’t Mom Alone podcast. I’m thankful it’s made an impact in your lives. When I started this six years ago, I couldn’t imagine where it would take me. As for the future? Well, we’ll just have to see where God takes us!Special shout-out thanks to my production team--Sarah-Jane Menefee and Rachael Jamison. Could NOT produce this show each week without their help! Special Production Help from Airr: Ever wanted to share a specific quote or clip from your favorite podcast with a friend, but didn’t know how? This week’s sponsor, Airr, solves that problem by making it simple to share clips from specific episodes. Here's an example: I’m going to start featuring listeners “airr quotes” in my Monday email. Make sure you go to https://www.airr.io/dontmomalone to sign up and start listening and quoting. Episodes Mentioned:Announcing the God Centered Mom Podcast ::  Leslie Johnson [Ep 1] The Enneagram and Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [Ep 232]Become Fully Alive–Mind, Body, and Spirit :: Susie Larson [Ep 218]Shame, Perfectionism and Smiling Depression :: Misty Persefield and Stephanie Coker [Ep 154]Motherhood, Career, and Identity :: Kat Armstrong [Ep 171]Women Can Be All-In for Jesus :: Kat Armstrong [Ep 253]Overcoming Barriers to Sexual Intimacy :: Nancy Houston [Ep 206]Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 234]What’s Your “Wifestyle” ? :: Jen Weaver [Ep 155]All of Kirk Martin's Podcasts Episodes10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns and Arguments :: Kirk Martin [Ep 139]Grace-Based Discipline :: Karis Kimmel Murray [Ep 150]All of Paul David Tripp’s Podcast EpisodesFeatured Sponsor: Phonics Museum When your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum. Taking a “tools of learning” approach, the app helps establish a strong foundation of reading for children through a complete commitment to a phonics approach. Join Wendy, William, Percival and Miss Biddle, the museum curator on a reading adventure as they explore the Phonics Museum, sing songs, and play games with the living artwork in the museum. It’s an experience you’ll never forget!You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)Featured Sponsor: Kids Faith KrateKids Faith Krate is a monthly craft subscription box to help cultivate your child’s faith! Every month your family will receive a new box (or Krate as they call them) filled with weekly family Bible lessons and coordinating crafts. Kids Faith Krate provides convenience, fun, and gives direction in family discipleship. Their Krates target ages 4-10, and there’s an option to include craft supplies for up to 3 children. Go to www.kidsfaithkrate.com (“krate” is spelled with a K) and use the code mentioned in the middle of the podcast to get $10 off any subscription!
Jonathan Almonte’s story shows how sponsoring a child through Compassion International (or other similar programs) can change the course of a child’s life. However, it is the compassion of the people in his story who loved him when he fought back and wrote him letters calling out his identity and inherent worth as a child of God that may have made the biggest difference.That letter changed my life. I was believing that I was a mistake. I was believing that God was not good for me. This letter helped me to understand that God provided a woman called Jamie thousands of kilometers away in a place called Michigan celebrating Thanksgiving. This woman wrote a letter to say, I am thankful for you. You are special, you're not a mistake.As a child of a single mom in the Dominican Republic, Jonathan’s prospects were greatly limited. From a young age, he worked to earn enough money for each day’s food. The cost of getting into a school, a uniform as supplies, was nowhere near his grasp. His mother applied for him to join the Compassion program and (after a wait) he was accepted. For the first time in his life, all of his educational, nutritional, medical, and physical needs were taken care of, and Jonathan felt believed in like he never had before. I was selling juice on the streets. I was diving in a garbage area without hope. So this ministry for me meant my life. My life is before and after the ministry of Compassion in partnership with the local church in my community. If after listening you feel led to sponsor a child through Compassion International, I'd love to make it super easy for you. Simply text the word: "Heather" to 83393 and a child's picture will be sent to your phone. Please let me know if you do! What we chat about: Jonathan’s childhood in the Dominican Republic and the extreme poverty he experiencedHow his life changed when he was accepted into the Compassion International’s programThe people who loved Jonathan and shared Christ with himThe sponsors Jonathan had in Compassion and the importance of their lettersHis hard relationship with his father and the powerful moment when he forgave himImmigration of people from poverty-stricken nations vs empowerment of those people to stay and fight for their communitiesConnect with Compassion International: Website: www.compassion.com/dontmomaloneFacebook: facebook.com/compassionintl Instagram: @compassionLinks Mentioned:  Learn more about sponsoring a child with Compassion: www.compassion.com/dontmomaloneFeatured Sponsor: Phonics MuseumWhen your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum. Taking a “tools of learning” approach, the app helps establish a strong foundation of reading for children through a complete commitment to a phonics approach. Join Wendy, William, Percival and Miss Biddle, the museum curator on a reading adventure as they explore the Phonics Museum, sing songs, and play games with the living artwork in the museum. It’s an experience you’ll never forget!You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)Featured Sponsor: Laugh and Learn Bible for KidsWritten by VeggieTales creator Phil Vischer, this family Bible is more than a children’s Bible storybook . . . it’s a deep, engaging, laugh-out-loud gospel experience.The Laugh and Learn Bible for Kids will guide readers from Genesis to Revelation, retelling beloved Bible stories AND tackling tricky questions like “What is sin?” and “What is the Trinity?”Each story is vividly illustrated, takes just five minutes to read, and includes a family connection to encourage family Bible study and help readers learn, talk, and pray together! PLUS,
On the surface, Victoria (Tori) Petersen’s story doesn’t sound full of hope. Her growing up years were filled with abuse, a mom who struggled with drugs, and more than 10 foster homes with no hope of adoption.But God’s heart for Tori wasn’t death; it was life. Through a series of relationships and her own study, Tori learned about God. She experienced sacrificial love and community in the church and through her foster parents. It changed her whole future.“The encouragement, the support, and the ability to see that through their words, through God's speaking through these people and acting through these people in love showed me that I did have a future, that God did have a plan for me and that if I trusted in him, that plan would blossom into something.”After emancipating from the foster care system, Tori’s life has had more ups and downs. But, she is confident in her identity in Christ and learning more every day. Now as a mom and wife, God is redeeming her story and using it to encourage others who are a part of the foster system.“I think foster parents remembering that they are image-bearers and in those hard times to be able to humble themselves and say,’ I am weak and I'm going to call on God's strength to love this child.’ Also communicating to the child that they're made in God's image. They are loved despite any kind of behavior or any saddening event that they have been through. Identity in Christ is crucial to the relationship between foster youth and foster parents.”What we chat about:Tori’s experience in and out of foster care and how she found hopeHer faith journey and the people who were examples of Jesus in her lifeThe hope she found in Jesus and learning about God as her heavenly fatherWhy she chose to emancipate from the foster system at 18How she handled unexpectedly becoming a motherGetting to the root of sin in her and her new husband’s life and why the needed the churchThe paradox of the church and why we need each other even though we often wound one anotherEncouragement for parents who are considering fosteringWhy understanding our identity in Christ (outside of our performance and abilities) is the most important thingConnect with Tori: Website:  https://torisstoris.wordpress.comInstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/torihopepetersen/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/torihopepetersen/Links Mentioned:  7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey**"Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, 'So shall your offspring be.'" Romans 4:18**Amazon Affiliate LinkFeatured Sponsor: Phonics MuseumWhen your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum. Taking a “tools of learning” approach, the app helps establish a strong foundation of reading for children through a complete commitment to a phonics approach. Join Wendy, William, Percival and Miss Biddle, the museum curator on a reading adventure as they explore the Phonics Museum, sing songs, and play games with the living artwork in the museum. It’s an experience you’ll never forget!You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)Featured Sponsor: Laugh and Learn BibleWritten by VeggieTales creator Phil Vischer, this family Bible is more than a children’s Bible storybook . . . it’s a deep, engaging, laugh-out-loud gospel experience.The Laugh and Learn Bible for Kids will guide readers from Genesis to Revelation, retelling beloved Bible stories AND tackling tricky questions like “What is sin?” and “What is the Trinity?”Each story is vividly illustrated, takes just five minutes to read,
Susie Davis is a mentor of mentors. She’s the author of several books and host of the Dear Daughters podcast. I’m so excited to share our conversation with you as she answers your questions about mentorship, marriage and meeting with God. I think you deserve a mentor. I think it's God's will for your life to have an older woman that you can talk to who has wisdom for you and your specific situation.In her book and podcast, Dear Daughters, Susie seeks to bring together younger women and spiritual moms. Each of us has valuable insight for one other, but getting started with mentoring can be a hurdle. Whether you have a mentor, are a mentor or want to start, Susie shares encouragement and insight into establishing and maintaining a healthy mentor relationship. (including what not to say!)We also talk about marriage and how to love your man without losing your mind about the little things that can drive us crazy. I think marriage is the greatest opportunity for sanctification, which is just becoming more like God. It is the one relationship that is never supposed to end. You're ‘trapped’ in it and you have to work it out with them.Talking with Susie is such a gift. She shares a wealth of wisdom from the perspective of someone who has experienced a lot of growth in her own life and marriage over the years. Grab a cup of coffee and listen in as Susie mentors us all!What we chat about: How to find a mentor and why we need them.Mentors are not perfect people. They are people who are just a bit ahead of you who can encourage you not to make the same mistakes they did.What to say (and what not to say) to a potential mentor.The difference between an evangelist, discipler and mentor.Establishing a rhythm of mentorship and talking through expectations with your mentor.It’s normal to be irritated by the differences in a marriage.Marriage is the greatest opportunity for sanctification.Working through parenting and discipline differences in marriageGet together with a counselor. An outside person can really help your marriage.Finding joy in day-to-day life and in the everyday tasks before us.What to do when you are struggling to hear GodConnect with Susie: Website: https://susiedavis.org Podcast: Dear DaughtersFacebook: facebook.com/davis.susieInstagram:  @susiedavisLinks Mentioned: Dear Daughters: Love Letters to the Next Generation ** [BOOK]Loving Your Man Without Losing Your Mind ** [BOOK]Uncovered: Revealing the Secrets of a Sexy Marriage ** [BOOK]**Amazon affiliate link. Featured Sponsor: Phonics MuseumWhen your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum. Taking a “tools of learning” approach, the app helps establish a strong foundation of reading for children through a complete commitment to a phonics approach. Join Wendy, William, Percival and Miss Biddle, the museum curator on a reading adventure as they explore the Phonics Museum, sing songs, and play games with the living artwork in the museum. It’s an experience you'll never forget!You can try the Phonics Museum today for free by signing up for the 2 Week Free Trial. Just download the app in the iOS App store (currently not available in Android)Featured Sponsor: Kids Faith KrateKids Faith Krate is a monthly craft subscription box to help cultivate your child’s faith! Every month your family will receive a new box (or Krate as they call them) filled with weekly family Bible lessons and coordinating crafts. Kids Faith Krate provides convenience, fun, and gives direction in family discipleship. Their Krates target ages 4-10, and there’s an option to include craft supplies for up to 3 children. Go to www.kidsfaithkrate.com ("krate" is spelled with a K) and use the code mentioned in the middle of the podcast to get $10 off any subscrip...
Racial tensions in America are as high within the church as outside of it. My guest Latasha (aka Tasha) Morrison believes Jesus followers must become the leaders in the conversation. That we must, “build a bridge” to bring justice, healing and transformation.It starts with awareness and then acknowledging the pain and brokenness. We didn't create it, but it is all of our responsibility to be a part of the solution. And no one gets an ‘out’ here.Tasha founded the organization Be the Bridge in 2016 'to encourage racial reconciliation among all ethnicities, to promote racial unity in America, and to equip others to do the same.' Now she’s written a book of the same name that comes out this week. We talk in depth about racial healing, biblical justice and the diversity of God’s kingdom. It’s not an easy conversation, but it’s a necessary one. I pray you will listen with an open mind and heart for all God wants to do to bring unity to the body of Christ. Every culture is an expression of who God is and not one ethnicity can represent the totality of who God is. We serve a diverse God. If you’re thinking that God looks just like you and talks just like you, remember, Jesus didn't speak English. Sometimes we need a reality check on that. Just because something is different doesn't make it wrong.What we chat about: How Tasha became an advocate for racial reconciliationThe inherent racial lines and segregation of cities that persist from Jim Crow lawsWe serve a diverse God and no one race or expression on humanity is the “right” way to beHow lamenting and crying out to God about injustice can cause God to move Social justice vs biblical justiceDefining privilege from a historical perspective and why we can’t ask others to ignore past injustice and just “move on”The history of racism in America pre-dates independence. The first slaves arrived 400 years agoBe aware of the many facets of history and who is writing the history booksDon’t insulate your kids from people who are different from themTasha invites us to: listen, learn, lament and leverage.  Connect with Tasha: Website: latashamorrison.comFacebook: facebook.com/latashamorrison Instagram: @latashamorrison and @beabridgebuilderLinks mentioned: Be the Bridge organization [WEBSITE]The 1619 Project [WEBSITE]Be the Bridge by Latasha Morrison [BOOK]EP 216: Help Your Children Embrace Differences [PODCAST]ColorFull by Dorena Williamson [BOOK]Book List from Tasha's WebsiteKid President Returns -- Part Two in Selma, ALFeatured Sponsor: Phonics MuseumWhen your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum. Taking a “tools of learning” approach, the app helps establish a strong foundation of reading for children through a complete commitment to a phonics approach. Join Wendy, William, Percival and Miss Biddle, the museum curator on a reading adventure as they explore the Phonics Museum, sing songs, and play games with the living artwork in the museum. It’s an experience you’ll never forget! Get a FREE two week trial when you download the app at your ios app store.
As parents, we are keenly aware of the peaks and valleys of our kids’ emotions. Anger, sadness, excitement, and all the other feelings can make us feel like our child is on a roller coaster we’re just trying to slow down. It’s true that we all feel highs and lows throughout our day, but we rarely talk about what it feel like when we’re “in the zone” and feeling calm and ready to go. My guest today is sharing about the window of tolerance and how to regulate ourselves and our kids to help stay in that window. If I am dysregulated, I cannot regulate my child. So if I'm in fight or flight and I'm yelling. There's no amount of yelling that brings my child back into the window. And sometimes parents think the yelling is working, but what you're doing isn’t getting your child in the window. They're going into collapse and into a place of fear.Charissa Fry is a Licensed Professional Counselor and believer. Her passion is to come alongside those who are hurting and struggling to help them find truth, hope, healing, connection, and growth. She shares some eye-opening information and statistics to get us on the path to helping our kids build resilience and stay in that window of tolerance. Charissa shares from a faith-perspective that we as believers are not alone. She reminds us that we can lean on God to regulate our emotions as we love on our kids and go through the hardships of life. God himself through Jesus is the ultimate attachment figure. He is always reaching for us. He never fails to respond to our needs. He always loves us. He's never judging us and never shaming us. So to know that when we need to be co-regulated, that when I am feeling like I'm going to leave the window, I can remember the truth of who God is and I can reach out to him in prayer.What we chat about: The window of tolerance is when our brains function well and effectively process input to make rational decisions calmly without feeling either overwhelmed or withdrawnWhen we’re out of the window of tolerance, our thinking brain is not in control and we don’t register consequences Many of us don’t live in the window of tolerance, but we’re too busy and stressed to stop and assess how we’re feeling at any given momentHyper-arousal, otherwise known as the fight/flight response, is often characterized by hypervigilance, feelings of anxiety and/or panic, and racing thoughts.Hypo-arousal, or a freeze response, may cause feelings of emotional numbness, emptiness, or paralysis.Learning how to stay in your window of tolerance builds resilience, both for us and our kidsWhen our kids live outside the window, they become “masters of survival” and often turn to negative coping strategiesWhat our children's emotions look like when we are co-regulating Philippians 2:13 “For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.” We can lean on God to bring us to that window of tolerance and into the fruits of the spiritConnect with Charissa: Website:  charissafry.comFacebook: facebook.com/CharissaFryCounselingLinks Mentioned:  Window of Tolerance Infographic -- FREE resource [WEBSITE] Regulation Pack -- FREE resource [WEBSITE]Rosie’s Brain [BOOK]Featured Sponsor: Phonics MuseumWhen your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum. Taking a “tools of learning” approach, the app helps establish a strong foundation of reading for children through a complete commitment to a phonics approach. Join Wendy, William, Percival and Miss Biddle, the museum curator on a reading adventure as they explore the Phonics Museum, sing songs, and play games with the living artwork in the museum. It’s an experience you'll never forget!Featured Sponsor: Gabb WirelessFinally, a phone that’s smart for kids!
It’s a popular (and sometimes controversial) typology system that can help you understand yourself and others better, but how can we use the Enneagram in light of the gospel to help our marriages thrive? Beth McCord of Your Enneagram Coach is here to walk us how to look at our marriages and close relationships through the lens of the Enneagram and the Gospel. With the Enneagram, you can see that we all struggle. We all need Jesus. It's just we need it in different ways. And he makes us more like him in different ways as well. It's called the body of Christ and we reflect Christ differently. We all need to bring our uniqueness to glorify him and bless each other.We talk about how using the Enneagram can improve communication and compassion in our marriages and what to do if your spouse has no interest in learning his type. (hint: the answer isn’t to bug him about it) Beth shares that no one pairing out of the 45 possible Enneagram matches in marriage is better than any other, but it’s our surrender to Christ that makes all the difference. I can guarantee you there is not a combination that is better or worse. Any two types that are surrendering and depending on the grace of God through Christ’s work on the cross on our behalf will be a blessing to one another.What we chat about: The origins of the Enneagram as a personality tool and why it matters how we use itLearning where we need to depend on Christ more as you understand more about your Enneagram typeUsing the Enneagram to help relate better in your marriageWhat to do when your spouse is resistant to learning about the Enneagram Learning about all nine types can help you have more compassion for your close relationshipsEmbracing the unique ways Christ made each person can help put an end to comparisonThe resources Beth has for using the Enneagram within marriageConnect with Beth: Website:  www.yourenneagramcoach.comFacebook:  facebook.com/YourEnneagramCoach Instagram:  @yourenneagramcoach Links Mentioned: Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage [BOOK]**Ep. 232: The Enneagram and Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [PODCAST]Enneagram Type Summaries from Your Enneagram Coach [WEBSITE]FREE Marriage Assessment from Beth [WEBSITE]Becoming Us Marriage Course [WEBSITE]Featured Sponsor: PrepDishPrep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS!Imagine…all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 1 MONTH of meal plans for $4! Go to Prepdish.com/dma.Featured Sponsor: FabFitFunWho else has tried FABFITFUN? If you don’t already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-­size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products. The box I received is truly fabulous.Each season’s box features a variety of amazing, quality brands like Tarte, Kate Somerville, Anthropologie, Free People, Dr. Brandt and that’s just the beginning of it.Don’t miss out, because they sell out fast. Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code mentioned in the middle of this episode so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99!
When a child processes sensory information just a little differently than his or her peers it can mean BIG emotions, meltdowns and a huge struggle for us as parents. Often these kids are labeled as “sensitive” or “intense” and they might cause us to avoid playdates and public places because we’re never sure what seemingly small issue will cause the next explosion. Lynne Jackson of Connected Families joins me to uncover the mysteries behind our kids with sensory struggles and how we can help them thrive. We talk about Sensory Processing Disorder and the wide range of sensory processing symptoms.  As a mom who had two kids with sensory processing needs and as a licensed occupational therapist, Lynne encourages us to become a student of our kids and try to understand their point of view.Imagine if the volume on all your sounds and the sensations in your body was turned up and you were to trying to fall asleep, that would be really hard. Car rides and meals are often torturous. So then what are the kids doing? They're trying to cope. They're jumping down. They're complaining about the food and squirming in their seats. They're trying to do something so they feel in control.We talk about what to do if you suspect a sensory processing problem in one of your kids and where to seek help. I share my story of working through this with one of my boys and why I wish we’d gone to see a therapist sooner. What we chat about:Sensory processing disorders and what they look like in younger kids20% of kids have nervous systems that process information differently than their peersThe differences between over-sensitive and under-sensitive sensory processing Some indicators that your child may struggle with sensory processingLearning what helps calm down the sensory overwhelm and staying connected with them to help them regulate during stressful situationsHow to learn more about sensory processing and when to seek professional helpConnect with Lynne: Website: connectedfamilies.orgPodcast: Connected Families PodcastFacebook: facebook.com/ConnectedFamiliesInstagram:  @connectedfamsLinks Mentioned:  Solve that After-School Crabbiness [BLOG]Viewing your child through a different lens [BLOG]Equipping Kids to Calm [BLOG]Sensory Processing Questionnaire [Child] [PDF]Sensory Processing Questionnaire [Ages 12 –18] [PDF]Sensational Kids by Lucy Jane Miller [BOOK]**Out-of-Sync Child by Carol Stock Kranowitz [BOOK]**STAR Institute for Sensory Processing Disorder [WEBSITE]Similar pyramid to the one I reference in the show: https://kids-first.com.au/how-your-childs-sensory-system-sets-them-up-for-life/ [ARTICLE]Discipline that Connects Course -- Use DMA15 to save 15%Featured Sponsor: FabFitFunWho else has tried FABFITFUN? If you don’t already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-­size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products. The box I received is truly fabulous.Each season’s box features a variety of amazing, quality brands like Tarte, Kate Somerville, Anthropologie, Free People, Dr. Brandt and that’s just the beginning of it.Don’t miss out, because they sell out fast. Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code mentioned in the middle of this episode so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99!Featured Sponsor : PrepDishPrep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS!Imagine…all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss!
Author, blogger and podcast host Sarah Mae joins me to share her story of working through the generational bondage of alcoholism and the verbal and emotional abuse she suffered from her mother. I remember yelling out, 'I'm going to kill myself,' and her saying, 'Go ahead, I dare you.' And that was it for me. I just bawled because I felt so unloved and so confused.In her new book The Complicated Heart, Sarah takes us into her painful past and all she experienced with her mom. She also shares the hope and victory of how God wooed her heart and changed the direction of her family forever. Dysfunction does not have to be your legacy. It does not have to be your identity. And you do not have to pass it on to your kids. It doesn't matter if you were born into it, married into it or you created it yourself. There is always victory on the table. We just have to be willing to pick it up.Throughout our chat, Sarah is candid and encouraging. She shares openly about the abortion she had at 16 and the healing she’s experienced from bravely speaking out against the shame of past sin and accepting God’s grace as all-sufficient. What we chat about:How Sarah learned to love and forgive her alcoholic motherPractical advice for daughters who are hurting from parental woundings and hope for parents who have failedThe verbal and mental abuse that Sarah endured as a teenagerHonoring Sarah’s mom’s story by including her journal entries in the bookSarah’s path to healing and the many ways God wooed her heart The story behind Sarah’s abortion at 16-years-oldCreating a new legacy for your family by bravely working through the places of sin and shame in your lifeWounds from your parents are valid things to grieveConnect with Sarah Mae: Website: www.sarahmae.comPodcast: The Complicated Heart PodcastFacebook: facebook.com/sarahmaewritesInstagram: @sarahmaewritesLinks Mentioned:  The Complicated Heart: Loving Even When It Hurts [BOOK]EP 93: I Am Restored :: Stacy Reaves [PODCAST]Forgiven and Set Free: A Post-Abortion Bible Study for Women [BOOK]Featured Sponsor: PrepDishPrep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS!Imagine…all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 1 MONTH of meal plans for $4! Go to Prepdish.com/dma.Featured Sponsor: FabFitFunWho else has tried FABFITFUN? If you don’t already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-­size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products. The box I received is truly fabulous.Each season’s box features a variety of amazing, quality brands like Tarte, Kate Somerville, Anthropologie, Free People, Dr. Brandt and that’s just the beginning of it.Don’t miss out, because they sell out fast. Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code mentioned in the middle of this episode so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99!
Access to the internet is everywhere in our modern world. And that means access to pornography and sexual imagery is everywhere too. Rather than bury our heads in the sand or cross our fingers that our kids won’t see porn, we can choose to be proactive and to give them a plan for how to react. Kristen Jenson, the best-selling author of "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures", joins me to share some simple ways to talk with our kids about porn and protect their minds. Pornography makes a child more vulnerable to sexual abuse. So if you porn-proof your child by starting these conversations early, you are actually helping your child to be more protected from child sexual abuse. When you start these discussions it's not as hard as you think. And once you do, you've begun this journey with your child to trust you for answers. You tell them, ‘Don't go on Google to ask these questions. Come and talk to me.’This may feel like a super heavy topic, but I promise it’s worth taking the proactive approach now vs waiting till you have teenagers. Kristen shares a lot of resources and makes it easy to get started. What we chat about: What led her to write Good Pictures Bad Pictures**, a book that helps porn-proof young kids, and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.**How pornography is a public health crisis and the negative effects it has on children and adultsTaking the proactive parenting approach helps kids be more resilient when they see pornWhen a child has any exposure or access to the internet you need to warn them about the dangers of the internet in simple, age-appropriate waysThese conversations are the same as talking to your kids about why we don’t eat or drink poisonous chemicals-- it’s all about safety. Helping kids learn about their “thinking brain” and their “feeling brain” and how to use them appropriatelyTeaching your kids a simple plan for how to respond when they see pornCAN DO: Close your eyes, Always tell a trusted adult, Name it when you see it, Distract yourself, Order my thinking brain to be the boss.Connect with Kristen: Website: protectyoungminds.orgFacebook: facebook.com/ProtectYM Instagram: @protectyoungminds Links Mentioned:  Episodes with Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson from Birds and Bees [PODCAST]Birds and Bees Curriculum [RESOURCE]Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids [BOOK]Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds [BOOK]Resources and a Quick-Start Guide for Proactive Parents [WEBSITE]Featured Sponsor: PrepDishPrep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS!Imagine…all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 1 MONTH of meal plans for $4! Go to Prepdish.com/dma.Featured Sponsor: FabFitFunWho else has tried FABFITFUN? If you don’t already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-­size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products. The box I received is truly fabulous.Each season’s box features a variety of amazing, quality brands like Tarte, Kate Somerville, Anthropologie, Free People, Dr. Brandt and that’s just the beginning of it.Don’t miss out, because they sell out fast. Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code mentioned in the middle of this episode so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99!
My guest today is Ruth Chou Simons. She’s a mom of six boys and an author and entrepreneur. You may know her best from the beautiful watercolor prints and products she creates for her business on Gracelaced.com. In her newest book, Beholding and Becoming: The Art of Everyday Worship**, Ruth shares about how every day is an opportunity to be shaped and formed by what moves our hearts and captures our gaze. We dive into what that looks like in Ruth’s life and how choosing to focus on Christ changes everything from our perspective on our parenting and work to how we look at others. The most unhappy I get is if I get preoccupied with somebody else's story. And I don't give thanks and I don't jot down reminders of how he's provided for the ultimate story of redemption in my life. And also how he's working that out day by day and writing my story anew.We talk about how our fast-paced, hustle culture steals the joy and the beauty away from the everyday faithfulness of growing in God. My favorite reminder she shared is, “You don’t have to be blooming to be growing.”So true. How often do we start something and expect instant gratification and quick wins? We want easy-to-share glossy images of success. But God looks at our hearts. At the slow growing happening under the surface. We are all in process with God until we see him in heaven. Let’s celebrate the small wins and focus on turning our eyes toward God and away from the distractions and hollow gratification of social media. As Ruth reminds us, we become what we behold. Those small, unseen decisions really add up to who we are. Because at the end of the day, every action we have is really stemming out of our belief in our worship. And so how you think, and how you believe, and what you believe is the most beautiful and worthy of gazing at in your life will actually translate into what you do next. What your little moments every day are accumulating to be for a lifetime.What we chat about:Focusing on the beauty of what God has created vs comparing our lives to someone else’s on social mediaAt the root of dissatisfaction in our lives is an underlying struggle with identity. Is our identity found in Christ or is it found in everything going our way?Growing our appetite for the things of God by choosing to fill our time with his Word.The struggles women have with wanting to do something perfectly or not at all Celebrating the process of growing vs seeing immediate fruit in our livesWhat you believe is the most beautiful and worthy of gazing at in your life will actually translate into what you do nextThe goal isn’t just to experience God’s provision, but to trust that his presence in our lives is enough“Nearness to God brings likeness to God. The more you see God, the more of God will be seen in you.” - C.H SpurgeonConnect with Ruth: Website: gracelaced.comFacebook: facebook.com/gracelacedInstagram: @ruthchousimons and @gracelacedLinks Mentioned:  GCM Ep 23: Beauty creator. Unity builder. Mom. –Ruth Simons [PODCAST]Beholding and Becoming: The Art of Everyday Worship** [BOOK] Releases September 1012 Ways Your Phone Is Changing You** [BOOK]**As an Amazon affiliate I earn from qualifying purchases. Featured Sponsor: PrepDishPrep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS!Imagine…all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 1 MONTH of meal plans for $4! Go to Prepdish.com/dma.
For a variety of reasons, childhood anxiety rates are soaring, especially among girls. My guest Sissy Goff is here to share some of her insights on how to recognize worry and anxiety in your daughter and empower her to overcome.We talk about tools we can use to help us understand why our brains are often working against us in times of anxiety and grounding techniques to slow and stop the emotional spiral that often ensues. We always want her to know she's stronger than her worries and that she has a voice to talk back to the worry. A lot of people who work with kids call it the worry monster because that separates it out from her voice. We don't want her to think it's the truth, which is what kids are going to think when they have voices in their heads telling them things.This is a short, hope-filled bonus episode that just scratches the surface on all that we can learn about equipping our kids to work through anxiety. For more encouragement, follow Sissy and her team at https://www.raisingboysandgirls.com and watch for her book Raising Worry-Free Girls coming out September 17. What we chat about:1 in 4 kids are dealing with anxiety of some kind and girls are twice as likely to feel itAnxiety is hard to recognize in kids. Sometimes it comes out as anger or meltdowns and other times it’s deeply buriedPeople whose personalities lean toward Type A tend to have baseline anxiety at all times. If your child’s personality leans that direction, it’s important to give them tools to deal with itAnxiety is always an overestimation of the problem and an underestimation of ourselvesTechniques to help a child with anxiety calm down and redirect blood flow to their prefrontal cortexIntegrating our faith as we teach our kids to fight back against fear and worryConnect with Sissy: Website: raisingboysandgirls.comPodcast: raisingboysandgirls.com/listen Facebook: facebook.com/raisingboysandgirls Instagram: @raisingboysandgirlsLinks Mentioned:  Raising Worry-Free Girls [BOOK] Releases September 17, 2019[Ep 160] Emotional Milestones:: Sissy Goff and David Thomas [PODCAST][Ep 141] Raising Girls:: Sissy Goff [PODCAST]Featured Sponsor: Treasured StudyThe “tween” years are a critical transition period in the life of a young girl. Girls this age are changing in profound ways, which makes it a little more complicated to know how to connect with them. My friend Courtney DeFeo felt this tension as a mom of tween girls and has created an incredible resource designed for moms and daughters to help them have meaningful conversations during these critical years.   Loaded with fun activities and engaging content, the Treasured Study and the Treasured Journal will help moms and daughters talk about things they both care about. Things like: Identity, body, emotions, friendships, technology, and faith. You can get the Treasured journal and go through it alone with your daughter, or you can invite a group of moms and daughters to go through the same amazing content using the Treasured Study.  Go to Treasuredstudy.com to find out more about the interactive experience that both moms and daughters are raving about.
Fellow boy moms, this episode is for you! This chat with Monica Swanson another mom of four boys and author of the new book Boy Mom dives into a lot of your questions about how to raise your boys to be godly men. We talk about encouraging strong friendships between brothers, teaching boys to be strong AND gentle, and about the importance of giving our sons ways to experience excitement and adventure while getting some of their natural aggression out in safe physical activities.I am a big believer that boys were made for adventure that they need to have some excitement in their lives I think is just how God wired them. They're little warriors who need to experience some thrills. A lot of the trouble boys can get into is related to when they're lacking authentic adventure, when they're not facing challenges and overcoming obstacles.Monica has two boys out of high school and two still in the nest, so she offers a lot of hope for those of us in the trenches of parenting to keep pressing into relationship with our sons and to make the practicals of faith an anchor in all that we do. God is so big and so powerful and he can move mountains on behalf of your son. He wants your son's heart more than you even know. We get our boys plugged in everywhere we can. We want them to have so many positive spiritual models in their life that there's no denying that God is the best way to go. It about coming alongside them and saying, ‘This is for your best. God is for you. Let's walk this life with him.’What we chat about:Monica’s four boys and working with very different personalities Building healthy brother relationships and dealing with kids who hitBoys need to let out their energy with exercise and physical activitySetting healthy boundaries for your kids with manners and learning to laugh with them about it tooTeaching boys how to balance strength and kindness by pointing them to the stories of godly menThe power of shoulder to shoulder conversations with boys and why to keep pressing into conversation with themMotivating boys to get excited about school and finding hobbies and interestsIdeas for how to foster adventure for your boys and learning not to parent from a place of fearFostering faith in your sons through time in the Word, prayer and modelingConnect with Monica: Website: monicaswanson.comPodcast: monicaswanson.com/podcastFacebook: facebook.com/TheGrommomInstagram: @monicaswanson_Twitter: @thegrommomLinks Mentioned:  Boy Mom: What Your Son Needs Most from You ** [BOOK]What Your Kids, Marriage and Ministry Need :: Monica Swanson [Ep 82] PODCASTStrong: How God Equipped 11 Ordinary Men with Extraordinary Power **[BOOK]Knights in Training: Ten Principles for Raising Honorable, Courageous, and Compassionate Boy **[BOOK]20 Ways to Make Your Son Feel Loved [PRINTABLE]** As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. Featured Sponsor: Technology and Teens SummitOne of the biggest pain points we consistently hear about from parents is the question of the role of smartphones and technology with Gen Z. They seem to have overwhelming consequences we can’t always see until it happens. Parents and faith leaders want to know how to restrict, discuss, and use these devices that are overtaking the next generation. Join me plus 11 other experts on the Technology and Teens Summit starting September 17th! It is a FREE 4-day summit to learn from 12 Christian experts who's everyday job is to research and teach about this specific topic from a Christian worldview. Mark your calendar for September 17 and sign up to reserve your free spot today at axis.org/dontmomalone! Along with me and people like Kirk Cameron, Dr. Kathy Koch, Andy Crouch, and Chris McKenna plus more will bring relevant information concerning Gen Z and their technology. We will share the "How To" on starting conversations about the role technology has in your home and child’s life.
Small is the new huge.With the ability to connect with anyone, anywhere in the world, feels like we’re more isolated and ineffective than ever. But what if we worried less about making a big impact.  And focused more on doing the things in front of us with quality and depth?I’m a big fan of today’s guest, Shontell Brewer. She’s a wise mom to five kiddos (some she's launched out into the world). And she has an excellent sense of humor. More than that, she has discipled her children to love and serve others around them.Discipleship can be organic. Keeping your ministry small enough. To be present wherever God has placed you.In this episode, which originally aired in October of 2016 (Ep 140), Shontell and I talk about discipleship during dinner conversations. She shares her method of asking really specific questions. And giving her kiddos a challenge for the day to love others in tangible ways (e.g., encouraging a 4 year old to compliment his preschool teacher).My most favorite thing we talk about is Taco Tuesday. The last Tuesday of the month, the Brewer family serves up meat & tortillas. They invite coaches, teachers, friends, neighbors (any one who interacts regularly with their kids) into their home. We love on our community one taco at a time.I shared the idea with my boys and they wanted to do it the next night (“Taco Tuesday, but on a Monday”). I’ll let you know how that goes. We may go the Pizza Friday route (love our community one slice at a time).Shontell also inspired me to help open my boys’ spiritual eyes. And to encourage them to fight over who is going to put the other one first.What we chat about:How women apologize for their carpetKeeping your ministry smallSpecific questions to ask during dinner time conversationsHow Shontell helped her daughter minister to her Starbucks’ managerSending your kids to school with a basic challenge to bless someoneSetting the habit of conversation and other family “norms”Learning to not be offended when our kids aren’t performingParenting small with intimate corrective conversationsThe BEST idea to invite people into your home monthly–> Taco Tuesdays!Connect with Shontell:WebsiteFacebookTwitterInstagramFeatured Sponsor: Cultivate What MattersEver felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust.You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too!The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to CultivateWhatMatters.com to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE.
Being a mom reveals your most broken places.I often think motherhood would be easy if my boys behaved better. Or maybe if I read one more parenting book. Or if I finally caught the magical contentment unicorn just beyond my grasp.Of course, none of those options really pan out (especially the unicorn). It’s my own junk. Every day the yuck in my heart rises to the surface. But with the pace of life and needs of my people, it’s hard to stop and examine the “yuck” more closely.A few years ago our small group attended a recovery program at our church. Through some honest self-examination and community, God showed me where I’ve held wrong beliefs. And how they impacted my relationships.Today’s podcast guest, Lynn Hoffman, helped start our church’s recovery program 15 years ago. And God also led her to write “Steps into God’s Grace”, a bible study based on the 12 steps of recovery.In this episode, Lynn shares her own struggle with performance, people pleasing and codependency. She gives insight into why recovery isn’t just for addicts. And she encourages us to identify our own emotions so we can teach our children to do the same.Recovery became a safe place where I could go and be with other people who were willing to be honest. Stop pretending and start talking about the reality of the problems in their life. And lean on God to change and discover new realities in their life.Connect with Lynn:Website: StepsintoGodsGrace.comWhat we chat about:Lynn’s divorce/remarriage and struggle with wanting to do everything right.How she got her significance from her work and struggled to lean on God.The discovery of recovery and God’s call for her to write a 12-step based Bible study.Learning the lies Lynn believed and how they controlled how she behaved.The lies that go along with “working hard”.Why should anyone consider going through a 12-step recovery program.The spiritual/Biblical roots of recovery.The value of identifying your emotions in the moment.The difference between shame and guiltWhen we feel like a “mom failure” and how our worth is tied to our kids’ behavior and performance.Getting in touch with our own emotions to help our kids with their own emotions.Links Mentioned:“Steps into God’s Grace” by Lynn Hoffman **Jim & Lynne Jackson “You are Safe. You are Loved” (Ep 80)Feelings chart:Celebrate RecoveryRecovery for Life at Northwest Bible**As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What Matters Ever felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust.You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too!The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to CultivateWhatMatters.com to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE.Don’t Mom Alone LIVE EVENT 2019This year Kate Duff and her MomComm groups (DMA podcast clubs) are hosting our Live Event in Dallas. AND my featured guest is my good friend Chrystal Evans Hurst.We’d love to see you there. Get tickets here: TICKETS
Ever want to hear from the woman behind literal rock star kids?In this episode, Helen Smallbone, mother of 7 grown children including Christian music stars Joel and Luke Smallbone (For King and Country) and Rebecca St. James, shares stories of motherhood and practical advice she’s learned along the way. She and her husband moved their family from Australia to America more than 25 years ago. It was a faith-building journey that changed their family forever.   Sometimes when you face life crises what God’s doing is setting a new foundation. In this time, he took everything away from us. We had no money, no resources, no family and no friends.  But in that refining process, he gave everything back to us, but with a new foundation where he was the provider. He showed himself to be faithful for providing all our needs.This episode originally aired in May of 2017 as episode 166. What we talk about:Stories of living by faith and God providing for the Smallbone family when they moved from Australia to AmericaHomeschooling a large family and fostering responsibility and work skills in your kidsTeaching family values while dealing with bad attitudes and behaviors in your kidsTaking a “time out” as a mom to pray for your children and waiting on the Lord for breakthrough for specific ways to resolve behavior problemsFocusing on the eternal value of building relationships with our kids versus the temporary focus on everyday tasksSpending time with children who may be acting out because they need more attentionHow quantity time often becomes quality time with our familiesTaking a traditional nap time or quiet time after lunch with fill yourself up to finish the day strong as a momKeeping the communication line open with your children no matter their age.Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What MattersEver felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust.You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too!The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to CultivateWhatMatters.com to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE.Don't Mom Alone LIVE EVENT 2019This year Kate Duff and her MomComm groups (DMA podcast clubs) are hosting our Live Event in Dallas. AND my featured guest is my good friend Chrystal Evans Hurst. We'd love to see you there. Get tickets here: TICKETS
As a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, Kim Fredrickson counseled and taught others about self-compassion for years. When she received an unexpected terminal diagnosis of pulmonary fibrosis, a rare side-effect of the treatment she had received for breast cancer, she wrote a book to leave for her children on giving that same compassion to the grandchildren she will never meet.On June 3rd, 2019, Kim passed on to be in the presence of her Savior. We want to honor her legacy by re-releasing this fantastic mentoring which originally aired in January of 2018. When people feel ashamed, they blame other people because they feel like if I really look at my shame then I’m going to collapse inside. That’s why self-compassion is desperately important because kids feel shame a lot. They fail at everything at the start. What we chat about:Kim’s story of receiving a devastating diagnosis after completing treatment for breast cancerHow she’s chosen to spend the years she has left with her family The new book she wrote for when her children have kids called “Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children”How it’s a process to develop a compassionate inner voiceApplying grace and truth to every situation in our livesVariety of temperaments--some that are harder on themselves than others.The difference between self-compassion and self-pityEncouraging your children to practice self-compassion and reinforcing it by showing ourselves that sameGiving our kids the language to identify their failings and separate them from their self- worthMoms have a really hard job. It’s ok to acknowledge that.The importance of taking care of ourselves as momsHow to talk to your kids after you’ve been hard on yourself and reframing it with self-compassionConnect with Kim's Legacy:Links Mentioned: Kristi Clover -- Simply Joyful PodcastGive Your Kids a Break : Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children **Give Yourself a Break ** Compassionate Self-Statements and Self-Soothing Exercises (CD and download)Kind and Compassionate Words to Soothe Your Soul  (Download)**Amazon affiliate link, with no additional cost to you, the podcast receives a portion of your purchase.Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What MattersEver felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust.You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too!The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to CultivateWhatMatters.com to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE.Don't Mom Alone LIVE EVENT 2019This year Kate Duff and her MomComm groups (DMA podcast clubs) are hosting our Live Event in Dallas. AND my featured guest is my good friend Chrystal Evans Hurst. We'd love to see you there. Get tickets here: TICKETS
Oh friendship! A gift that can bring incredible joy and cause great pain. If female relationships weren't tricky enough, our wounded selves bump into each other causing even deeper hurts.But what are we to do? How do we heal, move forward and develop lasting friendships?Thankfully, my friend, Lisa-Jo Baker came on the show back in April of 2017 to help. With content from her book, "Never Unfriended", on episode 159 we talked about friendship wounds. And Lisa-Jo pointed us to Jesus, the only One who promises to heal and never leave us.Jesus is never tired of me always needing Him. Instead, He is delighted by how desperately I need His validation and He never, ever withholds it from me. Or from you. - excerpt from "Never Unfriended" by Lisa-JoWhat we chat about:What do we fear most in friendshipHow to include the new girl and ignore the "cool kid" liesHow to heal past friendship wounds.Turning to Jesus for meat and potatoes soul-filling.Not blaming social media for our heart issues.How do you survive a friendship break-up.The hope of reconciliation and knowing when to let go.Connect with Lisa-Jo Baker:Website Facebook TwitterInstagramLinks Mentioned:"Surprised by Motherhood" book**  by Lisa-Jo BakerShaping of a Mother: Episode 21Incourage CommunityCarey Bailey--Life CoachHallowed Places by Tim Keller"Never Unfriended" by Lisa-Jo Baker"The Middle Matters"** by Lisa-Jo Baker --available now**Don't Mom Alone is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to amazon.com.Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What MattersEver felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children's heart but you don't know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust. You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. On July 17th, they are launching their brand new Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too!The Cultivate team is offering Don't Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to CultivateWhatMatters.com to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE. Don't Mom Alone Live Hosted by MomCommGet your tickets now! Click Here
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Harley

there *aren't* innate differences. Girls and boys are just people. what many conservatives (especially complementarians) confuse for biology is socialization. Society teaches boys it's bad to show softness and teaches girls they're not allowed to not be soft (yet it is still shameful to be, just less so than boys). Rigid gender roles were not part of God's plan- we see in the curses of Adam and Eve that they were just the opposite.

Nov 22nd
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Emily Mihocko-Bowling

is "how to develop empathy in kids" a book? anyone send me a link? not able to find on Amazon

Dec 11th
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Timmy Beasley

I'm learning and growing so much listening to this podcast!

Oct 17th
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Brittany Schultz

Love the new logo thingy!! super cute!

Oct 3rd
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Brittany Schultz

I am already crying and it is only the intro...oh my goodness. this might mean I have a 5 day old newborn a 1 1/2 year old and a fresh 4 year old. and it might mean sleep has been rare the last 5 nights...

Jun 26th
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Emma Mann

awesome podcast. great ideas. loved it!

Jun 15th
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Heather Terrell

So good!! I needed the reminder that resting is also a gift for my family. (8 days into summer break with 4 kiddos here! Pray for me! :) )

Jun 4th
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Willie Fountainjr

let hear more

Mar 4th
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Ivelisse Pierce

what books do you recommend that can break the bible down little better

Feb 13th
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Elisabeth C

Hey Heather I'm not sure how to comment on your latest episode, but the book (affiliate!) links aren't actually linked! Can you change them into links so if we buy the book you get the credit? :)

Jan 29th
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MCA DWB

love to hear more plzzzz

Jan 15th
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Danielle A

Love that I found this app that has this podcast!

Nov 29th
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Erneshia Scott

So helpful

Oct 28th
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Kellie Curry

would love to hear more

Oct 10th
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