Dyking Out - a Lesbian and LGBTQIA Podcast for Everyone!

The bird's the word on this episode with author and blogger Grace Bonney. Grace's love of watching birds is queer and contagious. So what's the big deal about birding anyway? How can it positively affect your mental health? What's the community like? Why does it feel so queer? Which birds seem most sapphic? Are all pigeons elder queers? We answer all these questions and nerd out about so much more. Plus, we also talk about Grace's latest book, Collective Wisdom, and what they learned in the process of writing it. Also, find out if the omicron variant hindered Carolyn and Melody's gayness this week. Finally, we strap in for a listener question about strap-on etiquette. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Might as well face it you're addicted to (things that actually aren't but can sometimes trick you into thinking it's) love! Actor/Musician/Comedian/Writer/Reader Rivkah Reyes joins us to dyke out about their recovery and journey to being spiritually healthy. Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. When it comes to making meaningful connections with people in the LGBTQ community, it can be brutal out there. But does it have to be? Love's a Pitch is a show about love, dating, desire, and ultimately, putting yourself out there. Each week, a new guest will pitch themselves to listeners, making their case for why they're a catch and joining the host in a conversation about all things love and dating. If you like what you hear, you can follow up and shoot your shot, or play matchmaker for a friend, or go do something nice for your partner so that they never leave you and you'll never have to put yourself out there like this. Hosted by comedian Carolyn Bergier from the popular Dyking Out and A League of Their Own Recap podcasts, Love's a Pitch is full of laughs, sincerity, and queer longing. Think you're a catch? Apply here for a chance to be on the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

First, another update from Carolyn! Then, another favorite ep of ours! Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Breasts, boobs, boobies, knockers, tits, titters, titties, honkers, hooters, melons, jugs, tatas - whatever you call them, we're dyking out about them with the crazy talented and boobacious Michelle Badillo (One Day At A Time, Vida, The Bold Type). Michelle and Melody bond over the trauma and triumphs of having large breasts, while Carolyn struggles to relate to their shared nipple experiences. Whether they're big, small, or in between, are we all doomed to feel like we can't win with them? Or even without them? Plus, we geek out over Michelle's amazing career that's just getting started. And, we reflect on this Jenny Schecter of a year. You'll also find out if your hosts survived the holidays, are how much PDA they forced on their family members. Finally, we wrap it up with the perfect chaotic question to end this chaotic year. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. We are THRILLED to be joined by the astute and prolific Valerie Complex to talk about all things Portrait of a Lady On -- Er...Female Gaze. We definitely do not spend half of this episode talking about how much we love a certain sapphic film and instead talk about why it makes a huge difference to treat women as subjects, not objects, on screen. Valerie is a film critic and freelance writer, and also a member of Portrait nation. Oh no, we did it again. We swear that's not all we talk about. There's also much discussion about negative experiences we've had in France, like when Valerie went to Cannes and saw - you guessed it - Portrait of a Lady On Fire. After nerding out about or favorite femme-heavy flicks, we answer an interesting question from a listener who is hung up on a past fling! As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Let's talk about hand sex, baby! Ro White is the new sex and dating editor at Autostraddle, and they're here to get fist-deep into our topic. Though as we learn, fisting is about fullness, not depth. We dyke out about the benefits of digital stimulation, and the role it plays in queer sex. Period sex? Squirting? Fisting? Masturbation? We're rounding all the bases. Plus, Ro talks about how Autostraddle is truly doing the gay lord's work by bringing the queerest, inclusive content to help you navigate your love life. But first, Carolyn and Melody recap their first L Word watch parties as Henrietta Hudson. And, see if they can top those events for their gayest thing! Plus, we end with a different type of listener question that required a little extra prep. Enjoy, and stay sexy! As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some more updates from Carolyn, and a re-release of a time-relevant episode: We've got a delightful mix of queer joy and cannibalism on the agenda with actors Liv Hewson and Jasmin Savoy (Yellowjackets on Showtime). First, we get all of our fangirling out of the way by asking about our favorite new show, as well as Scream, Santa Clarita Diet, and other projects these two talents have under their very gay belts. Then, we talk about their new podcast (Most Presents: The Homo Schedule) and what it means to spread queer joy. Also, we feel inspired to take a cue from our guests and bring a game into the ep, so get ready to play Gay Or Straight Agenda along with us! Finally, we end with a question from a listener who feels like they're out of love luck. Just in time for Valentine's Day. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Happy New Year! We've got a couple of updates and announcements from Carolyn, plus, we're sharing an episode that many of you will be interested in from friend of the pod Jess Rothschild. On this episode of Hot Takes and Deep Dives, Jess is joined by THE L WORD creator and show-runner Ilene Chaiken! Ilene discusses running Aaron Spelling's production company, her real-life version of The Planet, the head of Showtime wanting to cast Leisha Hailey as Shane, Jennifer Beals choosing Laurel Holloman as Tina, and Mia Kirshner's brilliant improv as Jenny. Also discussed: Ilene's original plan for Bette & Tina, contributions to Gen Q, is Gen Q canon, Sepideh Moafi as Gigi, the mistreatment of Daniel Sea (Max) on set, Holland Taylor as Peggy Peabody and a LOT more! Subscribe to her pod here. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. The super hilarious Sabrina Jalees (Carol's Second Act) is letting us get all up in her jizzness as we dyke out about her queer family. Sabrina gives us all the deets into how Wolfie came to be, and why she's the daddy. We talk about how queer families are still sometimes othered, but we're also freaking out every time we see one in the wild. Plus, why are straight people always telling us who will steal our baby? And if that's not enough, we crack the code on how to signal to others that you're queer. We've got a whole lineup of gayest things to talk through this week as we are truly living our best lives. Finally, we end on a question from a listener who isn't really feeling her sweet pandemic boyfriend. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Madras shorts, Kangol hats, 'Menswear,' vests, bold blazers, purposefully bad dye jobs...the spectrum of style in our community is wide and varied. So what is the lesbian aesthetic? Writer and comedian Joanna Bradley (SNL, The Break with Michelle Wolf) reflects on her own style, and that of other queer women she's encountered over the years. Can you tell if someone is a lez just by looking at them? What's that thing that makes you see someone and think "they're on my team?" Are style choices just holdovers from previous decades, or are we just admiring the trends that came before us? Has our fashion always influenced the straights, or is TikTok making us mainstream? But first, Melody breaks down why Demi dodged a bullet, and Carolyn confesses her questionable lesbian fashion choice. Then again, isn't a utilitarian fashion choice the most lesbian of all? Finally, we end with a listener question that coincidently ties nicely into our banter about Demi's ex-fiance. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian/Writer/Actor and all-around queer darling Mae Martin joins us to dyke out about fluidity this week. You all know Mae from their show Feel Good (stream it on Netflix, Channel 4) and hilarious comedy. They often talk about gender and sexuality on stage, so we loved having the chance to dive in deeper into that conversation. We talk about the value of labels and how things are changing over time. Please stream Feel Good and check out Mae's book Can Everyone Please Calm Down. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices