Send us a text A woodpecker at dawn, a frog at dusk, and a landlord who thinks reflective tape can fix everything—sometimes life turns your window into a drum. I walk through the real costs of chronic noise on sleep, mood, and autoimmune health, and how persistence, documentation, and clear requests shift the conversation from band-aids to root-cause solutions like pest inspections and proper repairs. Along the way, I share how I rebuilt a nightly routine with eye mask, white noise, and calme...
Send us a text When holiday plans fall apart the day before the big meal, the question becomes simple: react or respond? We open up about a canceled Friendsgiving, the sting of last-minute changes, and the choice to pivot with intention. Instead of chasing perfection, we rebuild the day around a calm, proactive mindset and a steady practice of gratitude that anchors the heart when everything else feels uncertain. We walk through a clear, practical framework for adapting under pressure: pause...
Send us a text A pair of boots can say a lot about a season. We start with a sparkly temptation at the Discovery Shop—where every purchase supports the American Cancer Society—and a choice between glossy gold drama and everyday practicality. That fun fork in the road opens into a bigger reflection on how we navigate the holidays: balancing what dazzles with what truly serves us, honoring traditions, and making space for gratitude when the calendar is full. I walk you through a day that looks...
Send us a text We revisit the theme of choosing yourself first with a quick, candid check-in and answer listener questions about mixed signals, busy schedules, and mismatched communication styles. We share simple scripts for asking directly, setting boundaries, and finding alignment without drama. • recap of choosing yourself first and self-assurance in relationships • generational differences in communication preferences • how to respond to slow replies and ghosting • practical scripts to c...
Send us a text What if the simplest way to improve your relationship is to stop disappearing inside it? We dive into the heart of self-assurance—how to hold your values, routines, and voice—while building a love that actually fits both people. With guest Mr. J bringing a candid Gen X perspective and lived experience, we unpack the tension between compromise and conformity and show how small, daily choices redefine respect. We get practical fast. Think morning person meets night owl: music do...
Send us a text A woodpecker moved in under the neighbor’s sill and turned our nights into chaos—and that’s where the real story starts. Between disrupted sleep, apartment runaround, and a stubborn respiratory bug that triggered asthma, we found a sharper voice and a clearer path to protecting our peace. No drama, no yelling—just steady self-advocacy anchored in rights, boundaries, and calm follow-through. We walk through the exact pivot from “sorry to bother you” to “please address this per ...
Send us a text A moment of gratitude turns into a real, lived-in story about resilience, community, and the messy beauty of everyday life. We open with a heartfelt salute to veterans—friends and family who chose service, carried the weight of duty, and brought discipline and courage back home. From memories of time near Alameda’s Navy community to the small but meaningful perks offered on Veterans Day, we explore what appreciation looks like beyond a simple “thank you” and why listening to re...
Send us a text Some weeks demand more honesty than polish. I share the heaviness of caring for Chanel as Cushing’s disease reshapes our days, and I open up about recognizing narcissistic patterns that have touched my life and the lives of people I love. Not the hashtag kind—the kind that leaves you doubting your memory, apologizing for your feelings, and starving for accountability that never seems to come. We walk through the telltale signs: gaslighting, minimizing, blame-shifting, public c...
Send us a text Two longtime friends compare notes on how travel exposes hidden habits, unspoken needs and the pressure points that surface when comfort, money and pace collide. We talk about boundaries, blowups, and how honest check-ins can save both the trip and the friendship. • sharing a room reveals hidden quirks • AC, noise sensitivity and sleep needs clash • getting ready stress and timing mismatches • wine, bills and the awkward money dance • the breaking point and naming boundaries •...
Send us a text Ever walked away from a conversation feeling smaller, confused, or guilty without knowing why? We put words to that fog. This Mindful Monday dives into emotional manipulation—the subtle tactics that chip away at self-trust—and offers practical, calm ways to respond without losing yourself in the process. We start by naming what’s really happening: gaslighting that twists facts, guilt trips that weaponize kindness, love bombing that rushes intimacy, and the silent treatment tha...
Send us a text Have you ever wondered why certain challenges keep appearing in your life? What if these obstacles aren't random roadblocks but carefully orchestrated opportunities guiding you toward your next evolution? The comfort zone might feel safe, but as we explore in this episode, nothing truly grows there. When life throws curveballs—whether it's workplace frustrations, relationship challenges, or personal setbacks—our instinct is to resist and ask "Why me?" But what happens when we ...
Send us a text Ever walked in the door after a long workday, completely drained, knowing you should exercise but feeling the magnetic pull of the couch? That's exactly where today's conversation begins. After losing 35 pounds over summer, I've learned that discipline trumps motivation every time. The secret? I never give myself the option to negotiate. Walk the dog, immediately change into gym clothes, and head straight to the nearby gym—because once I sit down, I become "like a cow to the b...
Send us a text Earthquakes, heat waves, and an unexpected September summer - California is showing off its wild side this month! After a brief absence due to a power outage and an autoimmune flare-up, I'm back to share what's been shaking in our Golden State. Have you felt those recent tremors? The 3.5 magnitude quake in Clayton today follows another one just last week. Meanwhile, this bizarre September heat wave couldn't have worse timing - striking during the workweek instead of weekends w...
Send us a text Have you ever felt the powerful energy shift during eclipse season? The September Blood Moon just passed through our skies, bringing transformation, emotional clarity, and new beginnings—even for those of us who couldn't see it directly. Eclipse seasons amplify everything by tenfold, creating corridors where significant events begin and carry long-term lessons. This cosmic timing perfectly mirrors my personal journey through relationship challenges and growth that I've been sh...
Send us a text Today's episode delves into the challenging reality of navigating a marriage when the relationship dynamic has dramatically changed after the wedding, featuring personal reflections on communication breakdowns and unmatched efforts toward improvement. • Host shares her experience discovering her husband is on the spectrum after marriage • Discussion about masking behaviors that hide true compatibility issues until after commitment • Exploration of what to do when only one part...
Send us a text Relationships start with excitement and butterflies, but what happens when the shine wears off and one person seems to be carrying the weight of maintaining the connection? In this raw, vulnerable episode, I step away from my usual advice-giving role to share my own relationship struggles and ask for your wisdom. I'm facing a crossroads many of us encounter in long-term relationships: what do you do when you've tried everything—therapy, books, prayer, communication techniques—...
Send us a text Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of behavior you desperately want to break? This raw and personal episode explores the challenging journey of breaking free from unhealthy patterns that hold us back from living our fullest lives. The conversation takes an unexpected turn as I share vulnerable details about my childhood experiences with abuse and the profound impact they've had on my development. Drawing from my own healing journey through therapy and self-help re...
Send us a text Have you ever wondered how some people maintain their calm when everything around them seems chaotic? In this heartfelt conversation with mindfulness practitioner Jeff Parra, we dive deep into practical strategies for staying grounded when life gets overwhelming. Jeff shares his powerful approach to negative thoughts and situations, explaining how our perception shapes our reality. "Thoughts dictate everything," he notes, revealing how he transforms challenging moments into op...
Send us a text What if finding your perfect match was less about luck and more about strategy? That's the question at the heart of our multi-generational conversation about modern dating featuring my daughter Brooklyn (Gen Z) and returning guest Sarah (Millennial). The dating landscape has transformed dramatically, with technology creating both new opportunities and challenges. We dive into women-focused safety resources like the Tea app—essentially a "Yelp for men" where women anonymously r...
Send us a text Change can feel overwhelming, but what if we viewed it as an adventure instead of an obstacle? That's the central question explored in this heartfelt Mindful Monday episode that dives deep into the art of positive reframing. As I share my own back-to-school transition experiences, I reveal the mindset shifts that help me navigate new challenges with students, teachers, and schedules. Rather than succumbing to anxiety about the unknown, I've discovered that reframing these chan...