Embracing All of Me

As a thank you for supporting Embracing All of Me, I’m giving away a FREE digital copy of my upcoming eBook, Embracing All of Me: Identity-Focused Writing for Bisexual, Pansexual, and Fluid Men!To claim yours:✅ Rate, review, or leave a comment on the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts!✅ Screenshot your rating or review✅ Send the screenshot over to me via Instagram or email at embracingallofmee@gmail.comThis book is packed with insight, history, fun, stories, writing prompts, healing tools, and reflections to help you embrace your identity through the power of writing. Your review not only helps this podcast grow but also helps amplify the work we've been doing here.Listen now and grab your free copy!

In this bonus episode of Embracing All of Me, we go behind the scenes of a groundbreaking effort to bring digital visibility to millions of bisexual and bi+ individuals worldwide. Ross shares the journey of crafting a 29-page proposal to Unicode Technical Committee for a bisexual umbrella emoji, a culturally recognized and academically supported icon designed to close the digital representation gap. From uncovering why past proposals were rejected to navigating Unicode’s rigorous approval process, this episode dives deep into digital equity advocacy and the power of emoji as more than just cute icons.We’ll also explore:The surprising statistics behind bisexual visibility (54% of LGBTQ+ adults in the U.S.)How and why emojis matter in shaping online identity and inclusion on 27 billion devices worldwideThe historical erasure of Black and bisexual contributions in cultureWhat this emoji could mean for future generations seeking language and recognitionTune in to hear the vision, challenges, and hope behind this bold move to ensure every identity has its rightful place in our digital lives!Read the full proposal and access the media kit in the episode description.

In this episode, you’ll be gently invited into a space of stillness, self-compassion, and radical acceptance. This is not love you must chase or earn. It's not conditional or performative. This is boundless love—love that holds you exactly as you are.Let this meditation remind you:You are not late. You are not broken.You are not too much.You are here. And that is enough. This is a space to return to when you forget your own worth. Come as you are. Leave held.

Discover the remarkable journey of Steven Spencer, a bisexual bodybuilder, HIV advocate, and trailblazer for queer visibility. In this series finale, Steve opens up about growing up on an Australian cattle farm, coming out in a conservative environment, and championing self-acceptance in the face of biphobia and HIV stigma. From co-founding health initiatives to transforming his mental and physical wellness through lifting, Steve’s candid insights reveal how embracing your full identity can shatter prejudice and build authentic community. If you’ve ever felt alone on your path to self-discovery, tune in for an empowering deep dive into harnessing resilience, reclaiming your narrative, and building muscle of mind, spirit, and body! https://giveittomebi.com/https://qtopiasydney.com.au/our-team/steve-spencer/If you enjoy Embracing All of Me, please like, comment, and follow the podcast! We’d love to hear from you!

Ever wish you had a personal coach cheering you on when dating gets complicated? Meet Coach Danny Morales—a dynamic relationship mentor for gay and bisexual men. In this candid interview, Coach Danny unpacks everything from setting boundaries and navigating fear to surviving breakups and coming out on your own terms. Learn why “dating yourself first” isn’t just a cute slogan, but the key to building genuinely healthy relationships—both with partners and with yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck or misunderstood in your love life, Coach Danny’s fresh insights on communication, self-validation, and community can help you embrace your identity and own your worth. Tune in for a conversation that just might shift your entire approach to dating and relationships. Learn more about Coach Danny at https://www.thecoachdanny.com/Are you interested in using the art of writing for personal development? Fill out the ⁠Interest Form⁠ for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ Men, so you don't miss it. Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠

In a media landscape obsessed with spectacle, DL (down-low) men are often punchlines, predators, or shadows. But what if we stopped moralizing and started listening?In this episode, Ross peels back the layers of DL discourse to explore the survival strategies behind the silence. Through the story of Adam, a bisexual man from Ghana denied asylum in the UK, and his own reflections growing up bisexual in Los Angeles, Ross examines how fear, safety, and structural oppression shape disclosure. With sharp clarity and deep compassion, It exposes how bi+ men of color often become collateral damage in conversations not actually about them.We map out common concerns, especially from women, around intimacy and betrayal, and invite everyone into a more honest, informed dialogue.Whether you're DL, closeted, bi, pan, queer, questioning, or a witness to the growth and transformation of others navigating society, this episode honors your survival and your right to choose.Adam's Story referenced in the episodehttps://www.rainbowmigration.org.uk/stories/adams-story/

What happens when “I love you” is answered with a plate of perfectly sliced pears? In this tender, laugh‑out‑loud episode, Ross sits down with Chinese‑Canadian spoken‑word powerhouse Anto Chan to trace the messy alchemy that turns generational pain into punchlines.Together they unpack:​Ancestral wounds, intergenerational trauma, and the model‑minority cage​Queerness, masculinity, and why love languages can feel like different dialects​Art as a mentor—how Anto’s poems run five years ahead of his healed perspective​Transforming grief into stand‑up comedy without erasing the ache​The radical courage of saying “I love you” first (even if the reply is fruit)​This conversation is equal parts heart‑hug and gut‑check, a soft yet radical invitation to speak your truth, risk being seen, and dare to find comedy in the cracks of sorrow. If you’ve ever wondered how to reunite with your inner child, honor your ancestors, or laugh while the room shakes, press play!Anto Chan on IGInnergenerational Website

In this gentle guided meditation, listeners are invited to reconnect with yourself as a living archive, a breathing, evolving, record of memory, emotion, and becoming.Through a somatic journey of the body and a inner visualization, you’ll explore the stories stored in your chest, shoulders, stomach, throat, and beyond. You’ll step inside a quiet room within, a sacred inner archive, where a moment awaits: the opportunity to witness and embrace a forgotten version of yourself with curiosity and care.This meditation is for anyone navigating identity, healing, or transformation. No need to fix or perform, only to return to a truth already living inside you.Affirmation:“I am a living archive. Layered. Sacred. Whole.I honor every version of me and choose to continue living my story.”

What if your name was the gateway to the highest version of yourself? In this episode, host Ross Victory sits down with Zamokuhle Zulu, a South African scholar-activist, lecturer, artist, and writer whose work spans African feminism, decolonial psychology, and building Pan-African LGBTQ+ networks.Zamo shares how reclaiming his bisexual identity meant reconciling personal truth with collective cultural responsibilities, in a society where family and community remain central to survival. He speaks candidly about growing up in a township, moving to Cape Town, confronting generational trauma, and why “coming out” isn’t always the safest form of queer expression in the diaspora.Together, they unpack how African feminism became a liberating framework for Zamo to find his voice, and why some Black Americans believe queerness is a colonial import, despite rich pre-colonial histories of fluid identity across the continent.This episode is for anyone who has ever felt torn between tradition and truth, duty and desire. Zamo offers a path toward embracing oneself that resists erasure and reclaims belonging across borders by realizing you don't have to be anything. You get to sit down, be you, and do what you do!Marginalized Experiences of Black Bisexual Men in South Africa: Voices of Resilience: Centre for Human Rights University of PretoriaZamo on InstagramEmail Zamo: zamokuhle.zulu@outlook.com

What does it truly mean to belong, especially when your experiences and identity feel like an anomaly, fragmented and caught between worlds? In this solo episode, host Ross Victory unpacks the complexities of belonging beyond corporate slogans. Through reflections on history, culture, and ancestry, Ross challenges the notion that belonging is a fixed destination. Instead, he offers belonging and the sense of "home" as an active practice, a rhythm of returning to oneself over and over again. If you’ve ever felt not queer enough, not bisexual enough, not something enough, this episode offers insight, grounding, and prioritizes self-reunion over performance.For deeper discovery, download the Worksheet: Self-Inquiry on Belonging, Place, and RootednessAre you interested in using the art of writing for personal development? Fill out the ⁠Interest Form⁠ for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ & Pan Men," so you don't miss it. Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠.

In this moving episode, Pastor Xavier shares his journey from growing up in 1960s South Central Los Angeles to relocating to Altadena/Pasadena area, where he faced the devastating 2025 Eaton Fires that destroyed over 9,000 structures and claimed at least 18 lives. He discusses how spoken word poetry became a lifeline for processing trauma in the face of mass destruction and loss.Raised in conservative evangelical Christian churches, Pastor Xavier reflects on surviving abuse and the decades long struggle to understand his bisexual identity. He examines how rigid traditions within some Christian institutions can deter critical thinking and hinder personal growth.Drawing from over 30 years of ministry, he offers insights into identifying affirming Christian churches that uphold both biblical integrity and LGBTQ+ inclusion. With his mother as his biggest advocate and a renewed connection to scripture, Pastor Xavier reimagines his faith as a source of healing, justice, and service to youth at large.This conversation invites listeners to reflect: Who shaped our beliefs? Can faith and identity coexist? How does questioning authority lead to self-discovery?And above all, Pastor Xavier reminds us: who we are is God’s greatest gift.Resources from Pastor Xavier:​Kathy Baldock – Author of "Walking the Bridgeless Canyon," and former evangelical who explores how cultural and political forces shaped anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric and theology. Recommended for: unpacking myths, observing social, political, scientific, cultural timelines, and reclaiming inclusive faith.​Father Richard Rohr – Catholic priest and author. Quote: “Sin is being complicit in the suffering of the world.” Recommended for: reframing sin through compassion and justice. Suggested Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprahs-super-soul/id1264843400?i=1000415592929​The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron – A book on creative recovery through journaling and reflection. Recommended for: healing trauma, reclaiming joy, and nurturing inner creativity.​Queerfully and Wonderfully Made by Leigh Finke​The Gospel of Inclusion - Brandan J Robertson​Outside the Lines - Mihee Kim-Kort​Changing Our Mind - David P GusheeAffirming Faith Communities & Organizations◦The New Evangelicals – Jesus-centered, inclusive, and justice-focused◦The Reformation Project – Bible-based LGBTQ+ inclusion https://reformationproject.org/◦Q Christian Fellowship – Community for LGBTQ+ believers seeking truth and belonging - https://www.qchristian.org/◦Post-Evangelical Collective - https://www.postevangelicalcollective.org/◦https://www.gaychurch.org/Biblical References from Pastor Xavier:◦Matthew 22 – Misuse of scripture and Jesus’ correction of religious leaders◦1 Corinthians 13:4–8 – The nature of God’s love◦Jeremiah 1 :4-8– Affirmation of calling and worth◦Luke 10:25-37, Parable of the Good Samaritan – Radical inclusion◦Galatians 1:1-2:10 - Gospel of Uncircumcision = Inclusion for those excluded by the Law ◦Matthew 5-7 - Sermon on the Mount – Reinterpreting law through love

How do you reconcile family expectations, cultural traditions, and queer identity—especially when you’re growing up in rural China? Join host Ross Victory as he sits down with Dr. Chongzheng Wei, a Chinese clinical psychologist and bisexual activist whose extraordinary path spans rural southern China, Thailand, France, and the United States. Hear how Chongzheng navigated stigma, internalized shame, and family obligations to find empowerment through personal and professional advocacy. Discover how geography and cultural factors influence the mental health needs of bisexual individuals and why tailored support networks, online and in-person, are crucial for overcoming isolation. If you’ve ever struggled to honor your heritage without erasing who you are, or wondered how to find a community that embraces every facet of your identity, this deeply personal conversation offers keen insights and practical steps for claiming your full self. Holding onto our roots doesn’t mean letting go of our truths.Are you interested in using the art of writing for personal development? Fill out the Interest Form for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ & Pan Men," so you don't miss it. Follow us on Instagram.

In this guided meditation from Embracing All of Me, host Ross Victory invites you to release shame, silence, and the inherited weight of stigma. Through breath, visualization, and affirmations, you’ll reconnect with your inner light and remember that you are not broken, in-between, or too much—you are whole. This episode is designed for anyone navigating layered identities, especially those in the bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and queer communities who’ve been required to shrink, split, compartmentalize, cover or conceal to survive. Return to your body. Root yourself in your truth. Carry forward only what is yours.

Free worksheet download link included!In this episode, we explore the “paradox of visibility” within the LGBTQ+ community—especially for those of us who are bisexual/bi+/pan and feel misrepresented in the world at large. Visibility is be a powerful statement of existence and self-worth. Yet it also comes with risks: being seen can make you a target and a political scapegoat, while being erased and overlooked can lead to feels of despair and unworthiness.Drawing on personal reflections, Ross introduces a companion to visibility: embodiment. Rather than asking to be acknowledged, embodiment asks us to discover ourselves from the inside out to take inventory of what we need. He discusses how institutions and mainstream narratives weren’t built with our particular life experiences in mind, why external validation alone falls short, and how cultivating a sense of wholeness and "glow" can transform both our lives and the people around us. Tune in to learn practical questions for distinguishing whether you’re acting to “be seen” or to “feel more like yourself."For deeper discovery, download our worksheet "Visibility & Embodiment" here.If you are interested in using the power of writing for personal development and self inquiry - Fill out the Interest Form for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ Men, so you don't miss it. Follow us on Instagram.

Join me for an intimate conversation with bisexual English poet Nicholas Cairns, whose raw insights illuminate the intersections of grief, isolation, and the expansive possibilities of Bi joy. Discover how Nick turned to poetry to navigate personal loss—particularly the death of his father—and to process isolation. Learn how embracing his bi+ identity not only fueled his artistic journey but empowered others seeking representation and how he went from anonymous faceless writer to putting a name and face on his work. Nick reveals how creative expression can be a powerful tool for self-discovery. If you’re looking to explore the power of poetry through an identity-focused lens, the complexities of grief, and the possibilities of living authentically, this episode offers hope and inspiration. Tune in and celebrate the limitless potential of Bi joy and human connection.Check out Nick's work on InstagramBuy 100 Small PoemsDownload the free worksheet "Externalizing Through Lists" to make a worry list or memory list discussed in this episode.Are you interested in using the art of writing for personal development? Fill out the ⁠Interest Form⁠ for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ & Pan Men," so you don't miss it. Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠.

Dive deep into the mental health needs of bisexual and queer communities of color with Dr. Tangela Roberts, a psychologist and researcher at the University of Buffalo. In this illuminating interview, Dr. Roberts shares her insights on identity development, the dual tracks of representation and policy, funding gaps that disproportionately affect bi+ individuals, despite being the majority of the LGBTQ+ population, and reveals how systemic barriers shape both healthcare and educational experiences for queer youth. Discover how embracing all parts of one’s identity can foster resilience, counter feelings of isolation, and fuel personal growth. From debunking damaging myths to championing intersectional research, Dr. Roberts offers practical steps for accessing community for the first time, finding supportive care, and affirming your full, authentic self. Tune in for expert guidance and actionable strategies! Dr. Tangela reminds us that embracing ourselves can feel scary while we try to anchor ourselves in a world that systemically diminishes bi+ voices and people of color as agendas. https://www.instagram.com/talk2drtangi/Are you interested in using the art of writing for personal development? Fill out the Interest Form for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ Men, so you don't miss it. Follow us on Instagram.

Join host Ross Victory for an illuminating interview with bisexual Mexican American author Aaron H. Aceves, whose novel, This Is Why They Hate Us, boldly explores queerness, culture, and coming-of-age in East Los Angeles. In this inaugural episode, hear how Aaron channeled his personal experiences—straddling multiple identities and grappling with self-discovery—into a story that brings raw honesty and humor to themes often left unspoken. Discover how writing became Aaron’s path to embracing his own bisexuality, why he’s passionate about creating nuanced characters who challenge stereotypes, and how subverting tropes adds depth and authenticity to YA fiction. Whether you’re new to LGBTQ+ literature, an aspiring writer yearning to tell your truth, or simply curious about the magic of identity-focused storytelling, this episode offers an inspiring roadmap to owning your voice. Tune in for a candid look into Aaron’s writing process, insights on representation in publishing, and the surprising ways fictional characters can become our greatest teachers. Visit Aaron's site to learn more about his writing and future projects www.aaronhaceves.comLearn more about Embracing All of Me at https://rossvictory.com/embracingallofmeFollow us on Instagram!

In this special teaser for Embracing All of Me, author, artist, and entrepreneur Ross Victory reveals how a simple course listing sparked an entire creative enterprise. Learn why this podcast—anchored in bisexual mens’ experiences yet resonant to anyone with fluid or evolving identities—goes beyond traditional conversations about sexuality, identity, and community. Ross opens up about the fragmentation many face while juggling cultural, racial, and gender expectations, and how “identity-focused writing” can become a tool for empowerment. Hear about the upcoming book, real stories from dynamic guests, and the process of merging who you are with how you show up in the world. If you’ve ever felt torn between labels or craving deeper, heart-centered self-expression, this is your invitation!To pre-order the book visit: https://rossvictory.com/embracingallofme Contact us at embracingallofmee@gmail.com