Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Why do the smallest disagreements with loved ones sometimes feel like the fiercest battles? Conflict in relationships often spirals into unproductive cycles of attack and defense, leaving us stuck, misunderstood, and further apart from the connection we crave. We rush to defend, strategize, and fix—yet rarely pause long enough to truly understand what matters beneath the surface. In this episode, listeners are invited to explore powerful strategies for breaking the cycle of reactivity and shifting attention toward curiosity, clarity, and genuine understanding. Through personal stories, actionable principles, and practical guidance, the conversation uncovers how paying attention to our underlying needs, emotions, interests, and habitual responses can foster a more constructive, compassionate, and collaborative approach to navigating conflict. By learning to differentiate between strategies and the needs they serve, listeners gain the tools to create meaningful change, deepen intimacy, and transform even the stickiest conflicts into opportunities for growth. Dana Caspersen is a conflict engagement specialist, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and award-winning performing artist. She works with individuals, organizations, and communities worldwide as a trainer, coach, consultant, and dialogue designer. Drawing on the knowledge and insight gained from her experience as a mediator and conflict analyst and her 40-year career as a performing arts innovator, Dana empowers people and organizations to navigate complex and challenging situations. Conflict Is an Opportunity is her newest book.   Episode Highlights 04:22 How our bodies react and impact communication. 09:25 Moving from attack-defense to understanding in conflict. 13:22 The impact of unmet needs in relationship conflict. 14:22 Distinguishing needs, emotions, interests, and strategies. 18:16 Creating a supportive relationship culture for navigating conflict. 23:15 The importance of internal clarification before addressing issues. 24:50 Practicing curiosity and validation during difficult interactions. 28:35 Managing communication triggers and acknowledging emotions. 33:32 Intentional connection and embodied curiosity in conflict resolution. 36:07 Safety, attachment, and speaking from interests instead of vulnerabilities. 38:06 Conscious decision-making and the role of requests in conflict. 42:46 Applying conflict skills across all relationships and areas of life.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Before addressing conflict, take a moment to breathe, relax, and bring your attention inward so you can respond rather than react. Pay attention to your body's stress signals—like a tight neck or jaw—and consciously shift to a more open, relaxed posture to support curiosity and connection. Redirect your attention away from attack and defense; instead, get genuinely curious about what your partner is feeling and what matters to them. Start conversations by acknowledging your partner's feelings and concerns to disarm defensiveness and open up constructive dialogue. Recognize that requests or strategies (like asking your partner to be home by 8) often mask deeper needs (such as intimacy or security), and talk about those underlying needs instead. Approach your partner with open-ended requests rather than demands, creating space for true dialogue and collaboration. Use your emotions as a clue to uncover your real needs and interests, then express those clearly and kindly to your partner. Expect that conflict will arise and discuss with your partner how you'll address it—having a shared mindset helps you get back on track when things get heated.   Mentioned Conflict Is an Opportunity (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Changing the Conversation: The 17 Principles of Conflict Resolution (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Conflict is a place of possibility (TedX Talks) (YouTube link) (video) Your Body Language May Shape Who You Are (TED) (YouTube link) (video) Gottman Institute Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (*Psychology Today) (link) 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)   Connect with Dana Caspersen Website: danacaspersen.com Facebook: facebook.com/DanaCaspersen Instagram: instagram.com/dcaspersen LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dana-caspersen  

Ever feel like your to-do list is running your life and you barely have any energy left for what matters most—like connecting with loved ones or just enjoying the moment? In our fast-paced world, we often believe productivity comes from pushing ourselves harder, burning the candle at both ends, and tackling more tasks. But what if the key to a happier, healthier life starts before you even get to your goals and conversations—right in the foundation of your daily rhythms and body awareness? In this episode, you'll discover why tuning into your body's core needs is the missing link for emotional safety, deeper relationships, and true productivity. The conversation unveils science-backed strategies and ancient wisdom to help you manage your energy, regulate your nervous system, and build habits that become second nature. You'll also explore personalized approaches to self-care—so you can stop the cycle of burnout and perfectionism, cultivate more resilience, and create space for meaningful connections every day. Hadlee Garrison, MPH, is a holistic Health Counselor, behavior change expert, podcaster, and speaker. She's the creator of the Happy Healthy Habits coaching program, where she helps women optimize their energy levels, regulate their nervous systems, and heal their relationship with their bodies and themselves. With degrees in Biopsychology and Health Education from the University of Michigan, as well as training in Ayurveda, Hadlee blends evidence-based science with holistic modalities to help her clients thrive.   Episode Highlights 04:43 Struggling with body image, emotional eating, and disconnection in early life. 08:40 Discovering Ayurveda and mind-body practices for emotional safety. 12:32 The link between nervous system capacity and relationship conflict. 13:52 Building foundational health habits: Circadian rhythms, sleep, and energy management. 19:27 Prioritizing consistent bedtime for optimal health. 20:35 How personal health habits impact relationship dynamics. 26:22 Energy archetypes: Understanding personal stress patterns. 34:49 Taking small steps and automating self-care habits. 41:39 Oil massage and physical self-love practices for nervous system regulation. 44:13 Resources for discovering your energy archetype and connecting with Hadlee.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Prioritize consistent sleep: Go to bed at the same time every night to support healthy circadian rhythms and overall well-being. Establish a simple morning routine: Create morning habits that energize you—this doesn't mean a lengthy ritual, but something that helps you feel awake and grounded. Identify your energy drains and boosters: Pay attention to which tasks or activities drain your energy and which ones replenish it, adjusting your schedule accordingly. Automate foundational habits: Focus on making your basic self-care and wellness routines so automatic that they require little mental energy to maintain. Start small with new habits: If you're building a new habit, begin with manageable baby steps to ensure consistency and avoid burnout or overwhelm. Incorporate nervous system regulation: After foundational habits are in place, introduce practices like breathwork or somatic exercises, but only as needed—not all day, every day. Ask for support from your partner: Communicate with your partner about what helps you regulate—this might be a gentle touch, a walk together, or another soothing gesture during conflict. Customize your self-care: Recognize your personal energy archetype and tailor your wellness strategies—whether you need more grounding, invigoration, or soothing—based on your unique tendencies.   Mentioned Energy Archetype Quiz (link) (quiz) 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)   Connect with Hadlee Garrison Websites: happyhealthyhadlee.com YouTube: youtube.com/@happyhealthyhadlee Instagram: instagram.com/happyhealthyhadlee TikTok: tiktok.com/@happyhealthyhadlee Podcast: Spotify: https://bit.ly/4iGbHZN | Apple Podcast: https://bit.ly/4iHvBDG   

When was the last time you felt a sinking feeling just thinking about money? For many, money is far more than just numbers in a bank account—it's tangled up with our emotions, childhood experiences, and even our closest relationships. All too often, conversations around money get swept under the rug, leaving us to battle our financial stress and shame alone. But what if unraveling these hidden money wounds is the key to building stronger connections—with ourselves and with others? In this episode, listeners are invited to reimagine their relationship with money and begin addressing the emotional baggage attached to it. Through relatable stories and practical examples, this conversation explores how early money memories shape our beliefs and behaviors, and impact how we communicate with partners, friends, and even our kids. You'll learn actionable steps to identify your own "money story," bridge differences in financial perspectives, and move from feelings of shame or avoidance to a place of security and mutual understanding. If you're ready to make money a tool for connection rather than conflict, this episode offers a roadmap for transforming anxiety into empowerment. Shari Rash is a nationally recognized financial advisor, money mindset expert, and the host of Everyone's Talkin' Money—named a Top 4 money podcast by The New York Times, with over 24 million downloads. Shari breaks down complex financial topics into real-life conversations that empower women to own their worth and build lasting wealth. She's been named a 2024 Best Wealth Manager and Advisor Under 40 by InvestmentNews.   Episode Highlights 04:40 How sharing money struggles brings us closer. 07:59 Understanding money personalities in romantic relationships. 10:08 Unpacking money conflicts: Addressing deeper needs in couples. 13:58 Creating compromises and shared financial goals in partnership. 17:20 Exploring childhood money memories and their lasting impact. 22:36 Real couple example: Money stories shaping habits and choices. 24:51 Turning financial difficulties into relationship growth. 26:57 The healing power of monthly money conversations. 31:28 Moving from money shame to practical, empowered choices. 38:26 Making spending intentional and aligning with values. 41:47 Reflection questions to deepen your money relationships.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Reflect on your earliest money memory to uncover potential beliefs and wounds about finances. Initiate regular, open conversations about money with your partner or friends without sharing private details. Identify your and your partner's "money personality" (saver, spender, hoarder, YOLO) to better understand differences in financial habits. Practice vulnerability by sharing concerns or challenges related to money to strengthen intimacy and support. Set a realistic number that feels comfortable for your checking account and use it as your "zero" baseline. Build an emergency fund by calculating three to six months of expenses and agreeing on the right amount for your household. Align spending habits with your core values and make intentional choices that reflect what matters most to you. Create structured, positive money check-ins with your partner, starting each meeting with wins or appreciations to foster connection.   Mentioned 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)   Connect with Shari Rash Websites: everyonestalkinmoneypodcast.com | gwawealth.com X: x.com/MoneyChicShari YouTube: youtube.com/@EveryonesTalkinMoney Instagram: instagram.com/everyonestalkinmoney LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shari-rash  

Navigating the complexities of family dynamics can sometimes feel like walking a tightrope—especially when relationships between parents and adult children become strained or even break down completely. Family estrangement is an increasingly common challenge that can leave everyone involved feeling isolated, misunderstood, and in deep pain. When communication falters and generational differences collide, how do we find a path toward empathy, healing, and growth? In this episode, listeners are invited into a heartfelt exploration of adult child-parent estrangement, its underlying causes, and the impact it has on both individuals and entire families. The conversation offers practical insights on healing old wounds, understanding the spiritual and psychological dynamics at play, and tools for fostering compassion—even when distance or conflict seems insurmountable. With stories, expert reflections, and actionable guidance, this discussion aims to support anyone facing the difficult terrain of family disconnection, offering hope and concrete steps toward greater understanding and unity. Dr. Rachel Glik is a licensed professional counselor with 30+ years as a couples, individual and family therapist in private practice. Since 2014, she has been a regular feature on the Fox 2 AM show in St. Louis as a relationship and mental health expert. Rachel appeared on NBC News Daily at the launch of her book, A Soulful Marriage: Healing Your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose. She is a writer for The Wall Street Journal, CNBC Make It, Psychology Today, and MindBodyGreen. Rachel teaches and gives seminars for organizations such as The Kabbalah Centre and Young Presidents Organization (YPO). She lives in St. Louis with her husband and large extended family.   Episode Highlights 03:40 Exploring why parent–child estrangement is becoming more common. 09:04 Considering how distance can sometimes support healing and growth. 12:35 The power of early repair before patterns set in. 15:03 Understanding the emotional complexity of parenting adult children. 16:31 Shifting into a new parental role as boundaries and autonomy evolve. 21:35 Recognizing the grief and self-validation needed as relationships change. 24:26 Reflecting on how to hold a compassionate space for an adult child's experience. 26:09 Learning to move beyond defensiveness and listen with openness. 29:38 Embracing generational differences with curiosity rather than fear. 32:56 Navigating how estrangement affects couples and their parenting alignment. 37:56 Prioritizing self-compassion in the midst of relational hardship. 40:43 Practicing accountability and authentic repair within the family and partnership.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Take a moment to ground yourself with a deep breath before engaging in challenging family conversations to increase presence and calm. When tension arises, reflect honestly on how your actions may contribute, and express accountability to foster trust and safety. Aim to respond with supportive, non-judgmental language, empowering your adult child to make their own decisions. Listen deeply to your child's experiences and feelings, holding space for their emotions without jumping into explanations or defense. Find the balance between support and over-giving, maintain your wellbeing, and be mindful of your energy. Ask permission before sharing concerns or advice, acknowledging you're entering your adult child's "lane." Recognize the pain and complexity of estrangement, and give yourself grace throughout the healing process. Reach out for therapy, coaching, or resources to receive guidance in navigating family estrangement and building new communication strategies.   Mentioned A Soulful Marriage (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Family Constellations (*Wikipedia link) Passionate Marriage (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Kabbalah (*Wikipedia link) ERP 473: How to Experience More Embodied Pleasure Sexually – An Interview with Susan Taylor 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)   Connect with Dr. Rachel Glik Websites: drrachelglik.com Facebook: facebook.com/p/Dr-Rachel-Glik-EdD-LPC-100027702446361 Instagram: instagram.com/drrachelglik LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-glik-edd-lpc-a7047ab Pinterest: pinterest.com/drrachelglik

Many of us move through life repeating the same painful relationship patterns—feeling unsafe, unseen, or disconnected, even when we're trying our hardest to "do everything right." Invisible wounds from early experiences quietly shape the ways we love, cope, and relate as adults. Instead of recognizing these patterns as natural adaptations, we often turn the blame inward, not realizing that our attachment styles and protective behaviors are rooted in the body and nervous system as much as the mind. Real healing isn't about forcing change or consuming endless self-help advice—it's about reshaping your internal sense of safety on a deeply felt, embodied level. In this episode, we explore how secure, nourishing relationships begin with understanding the implicit memories, sensations, and patterns that live inside us. Learn how to meet old wounds with compassion, honor the protective parts that once kept you safe, and gently build new internal anchors of stability and trust. Using tools like the Wheel of Attachment and the practice of "finding your anchors," this episode offers both a clear roadmap and grounded encouragement for anyone ready to move beyond survival mode and experience connection that feels authentic, spacious, and truly supportive. Jessica Baum is a licensed psychotherapist, certified addiction specialist, and Imago couples therapist with advanced training in EMDR, CBT, DBT, and experiential therapy. She founded the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and leads a global coaching company supporting clients worldwide. Passionate about trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology, Jessica helps individuals and couples heal and reconnect. Her bestselling book, Anxiously Attached, has made her a respected voice in nurturing secure, fulfilling relationships.   Episode Highlights 05:55 How early experiences shape our sense of safety. 07:48 Implicit memories and relationship patterns. 11:09 The importance of somatic (body-based) memory. 13:14 Reconnecting with the body for healing. 18:42 Understanding and honoring protective behaviors. 21:40 Building trust in healthier relationship dynamics. 25:00 The essential role of anchors in healing. 26:06 Why healing requires relationships, not willpower. 31:43 Finding and cultivating emotional anchors. 35:05 The Wheel of Attachment: A nuanced approach. 37:45 Earning security through supportive experiences. 40:31 Moving toward fulfillment: Real connection and support.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Slow down and take mindful pauses to help connect with your body and increase present-moment awareness. Notice physical sensations during interactions, especially in moments of emotional intensity, to access implicit memories and attachment wounds. Practice developing interoception—your ability to sense internal bodily states—to better understand your emotional responses in relationships. Identify and honor your protective patterns ("protectors") rather than judging them; acknowledge they were there to support you. Seek out safe "anchors" or individuals who can offer emotional co-regulation and support your healing process. Use the "Wheel of Attachment" framework to explore how your early relational dynamics show up in current relationships. If you lack supportive anchors, resource from memories of secure figures (e.g., a teacher, grandparent) or pursue professional support. Engage in relationships and healing spaces where vulnerability, witnessing, and somatic attunement are encouraged, facilitating earned secure attachment over time.   Mentioned Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love SAFE (Interview and freebies link) Nurturing the Heart (Dr. Bonnie Badenoch's website) Conscious Relationship Group (Facebook group) (link) Relationship Institute of Palm Beach ERP 342: How Love Transforms Our Nervous System — An Interview With Jessica Baum ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An interview With Deb Dana ERP 261: How To Strengthen Your Relationship From A Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)   Connect with Jessica Baum Websites: beselffull.com Facebook: facebook.com/consciousrelationshipgroup YouTube: youtube.com/@jessicabaumlmhc Instagram: instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc  

Are you letting anxiety and the need to play it safe hold you hostage in your relationships and personal growth? Too often, fear—of rejection, failure, or the unknown—becomes the invisible fence shaping our actions. Perfectionism, procrastination, overthinking, and the constant urge to avoid discomfort can shrink our lives, leaving us disconnected from our true selves and the people we care about most. In this episode, we explore how fear influences perfectionism, anxiety, and avoidance in our relationships and daily lives. Discover compassionate approaches to working with anxiety—learning why fighting it doesn't work, and how, instead, our willingness to acknowledge, understand, and even befriend discomfort can become a gateway to deeper connection and greater freedom. Through practical tools and real-world strategies like "uncertainty workouts," values-based action, and self-compassion, this episode aims to help you navigate the messy, beautiful process of showing up more authentically for yourself and those you care about. Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona is on a mission to help people break free from ineffective, play-it-safe patterns so they can begin living rich, purposeful, and meaningful lives. A trained psychologist, she is the author of seven books and co-author of two more. Her expertise has led her to present workshops at both national and international conferences. She also runs a boutique therapy and coaching practice that specializes in the application of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for anxiety. Passionate about her work, she delights in creating personalized resources for every client she serves.   Episode Highlights 06:03 The interconnectedness of anxiety and its impact on life. 09:07 The importance of accepting anxiety instead of fighting it. 10:02 Using values to guide responses and reduce anxiety's control. 13:50 The need to tolerate discomfort in relationships. 18:53 Navigating fear of commitment and embracing uncertainty. 22:49 Building tolerance for ambiguity and uncertainty. 24:32 How avoiding uncomfortable emotions can increase suffering and relates to trauma and emotional regulation. 29:52 Values-based exposure and compassionate approaches to fear. 33:41 Developing micro skills for managing difficult conversations. 35:41 Integrating self-compassion and Wise Moves for anxiety management. 38:01 Practical resources, parenting insights, and closing reflections.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Take a moment to pause with a deep inhale and exhale, noticing sensations in your body before engaging in difficult conversations or when feeling anxious. Instead of fighting anxiety, recognize it as a protective part of your humanity and make room for it. When anxiety arises, ask yourself what truly matters to you in that moment to guide your response. Embrace uncomfortable feelings in relationships without avoidance, viewing them as essential for growth and authenticity. Intentionally expose yourself to uncertainty in small, manageable ways (like trying a new restaurant or activity) to build tolerance. When fear surfaces, actively choose actions that align with your core values—even if they feel difficult. Treat yourself with gentleness during moments of avoidance, procrastination, or anxiety, recognizing your effort and courage. When facing a fearful situation, pause and check in with your body and thoughts, then proceed with intentionality rather than rushing through.   Mentioned The ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Living Beyond OCD Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Escaping the Emotional Roller Coaster (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Parenting a Troubled Teen (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Acceptance and Commitment Skills for Perfectionism and High-Achieving Behaviors (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The ACT Workbook for the Anxious Procrastinator (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Dr. Z's Online Classes (link) ERP 461: How to Increase Psychological Flexibility for Healthy Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Steven Hayes ERP 238: How To Find Your Emotional Balance In Relationship 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free relationship guide) (pdf)   Connect with Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona Websites: thisisdoctorz.com | eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com Facebook: facebook.com/EastBayBehaviorTherapyCenter | facebook.com/Dr-Z-102029237841421 X: twitter.com/DrZ_behaviorist YouTube: linkedin.com/in/patricia-e-zurita-ona-psy-d-949b5a15 Instagram: instagram.com/dr.z.passionatebehaviorist  

Feeling unseen and misunderstood in your closest relationship can be one of the loneliest experiences, even when surrounded by family and friends. It's not uncommon for couples to fall into patterns of projection, reactivity, and defensiveness, leaving genuine intimacy and deep connection feeling just out of reach. How do we move from these cycles of blame and distance towards the kind of secure, transformative partnership that brings true accompaniment, dignity, and joy? In this episode, you are invited to slow down and explore new pathways to presence and connection. Through practical tools, guided reflection, and insights rooted in transformative couples therapy, you'll discover ways to move beyond automatic reactivity and habitual defense, and instead cultivate curiosity, somatic awareness, and genuine intimacy. Whether you're looking to strengthen trust, improve communication, or rekindle the spark in a long-term bond, this conversation offers powerful guidance for anyone seeking more clarity, care, and lasting growth in their relationships. Since 2008 Dr. David Mars has been the developer of Transformative Couples Therapy® (TCT). He leads seminars and training programs internationally on TCT. Affective neuroscience and attachment research are central to this experiential, somatically attuned and positivity-based method. Currently Dr. Mars also is the leader of a three-year project to quantify the results of TCT in preparation to offer published research on outcomes of the method. He is the Director of the Transformative Couples Therapy® Institute.   Episode Highlights 03:39 The impact of curiosity and projections in long-term relationships. 08:32 How attachment styles form early in life and opportunities for change. 10:05 The importance of somatic awareness, attunement, and slowing down in relationships. 15:42 Gender, stress, and the emotional costs of disconnection. 17:48 Strategies for setting boundaries and cultivating safe communication. 23:14 Transformation and growth through the I-Thou relationship. 24:43 Daily practices and the seven channels of experience in couples therapy. 29:49 Awareness of energetic imprints and somatic patterns from early life. 31:15 Navigating and embracing partner differences in relationships. 34:43 The role of journaling, self-regulation, and reverence in relational health. 40:57 Somatic-based modalities, resources, and generativity in relationships.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Begin your conversations or sessions with your partner by sharing something you appreciate about each other to set a positive tone. Take a deep inhale and exhale together to ground yourselves and invite presence before important discussions. Communicate your feelings and needs using "I" statements to promote vulnerability and reduce defensiveness. Speak directly to your partner, not just about them or through a third party, to foster genuine connection. Notice and share your body sensations (like a tight chest or warm hands) during emotional exchanges to heighten self-awareness and attunement. Approach your partner with genuine curiosity and try to witness their experience, rather than making assumptions or projecting your own perspective. If either partner feels overwhelmed or unresourced, honor the need to pause and agree on a time to revisit the conversation. Tune into the seven channels—sensation, emotion, energy, movement, auditory, visual, and imaginal—to enrich both your self-awareness and your communication with your partner.   Mentioned Martin Buber (Britannica link) (biography) I-Thou (*Britannica link) The I-Thou Relationship and Unconditional Positive Regard (*Psychology Today) Carl Rogers (*Wikipedia link) (article) The 1957 Martin Buber-Carl Rogers Dialogue, as Dialogue (*Sage Journals) (study) Beatrice Beebe (*Wikipedia link) (article) *John Bowlby (*Wikipedia link) (article) *John Beebe (*Wikipedia link) (article) 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free relationship guide) (pdf) Connect with David Mars Websites: tctinstitute.org Facebook: facebook.com/p/Center-for-Transformative-Therapy-100087943999843 Instagram: instagram.com/transformativecouplestherapy/ LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/transformative-couples-therapy  

This episode marks an incredible milestone—the 500th episode of the Empowered Relationship Podcast. To celebrate, Dr. Jessica Higgins and her husband, Reid Peterson, sit down for a heartfelt and revealing conversation about what it really takes to cultivate a truly empowered partnership. If you've ever wondered why, despite your best intentions, emotional honesty and vulnerability can feel so risky—or why differences and conflict so often create distance instead of closeness—you're not alone. The path to authentic connection is filled with challenges that test even the strongest relationships. In this special episode, Jessica and Reid open up about the principles and practices that have helped them build a foundation of trust, love, and growth throughout their years together. They share personal stories, practical strategies, and honest reflections on navigating tough conversations, supporting each other's emotional needs, and finding clarity in uncertain times. Whether you're learning to handle conflict, embrace vulnerability, or co-create a meaningful vision for your life together, you'll discover insights and tools to transform relationship challenges into opportunities for deeper connection and lasting love.   Episode Highlights 04:58 Building safety and trust through honesty in partnership. 09:15 Jessica shares how vulnerability early in dating deepened their intimacy. 11:47 How honest conversations help reduce shame and strengthen connection. 14:11 How different personalities shape communication in relationships. 19:52 Strategies to navigate conflict with calm and empathy. 35:51 Building clarity, connection, and purpose through joint visioning. 44:08 Strengthening relationships through further exploration and resources.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Practice speaking honestly about your core feelings, emotions, and needs—even when it feels risky or uncomfortable. Pause during moments of tension to take a few deep breaths, center yourself, and check in with what you're feeling before responding. When conflict arises, communicate the need for space calmly and agree on a time to revisit the discussion to avoid sweeping issues under the rug. Seek reassurance or a quick check-in from your partner during periods of disconnection to help reduce anxiety and foster trust. Cultivate attuned listening—focus on truly understanding what your partner is expressing beyond the words, and ask clarifying questions when needed. Name whether you're seeking comfort or solutions in conversations, so your partner knows how best to support you. Regularly engage in shared visioning exercises together to clarify mutual values and dreams, and support each other in the process—even when values differ. Download and use the "12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love" guide to gain clarity and practical strategies for your relationship.   Mentioned 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free relationship guide) (pdf) Relational Health Assessment (quiz)  

Ever feel like you know all the "right" things to do in a relationship, but when the moment comes, your body is flooded with stress, your voice tightens, or you just shut down? Many of us long for deep connection and trust, but when life gets real, our nervous system can hijack our best intentions. The invisible forces of old wounds, protective patterns, and the lightning-fast reactions of our bodies can make true safety in love feel just out of reach. In this episode, you'll discover practical ways to bridge the gap between knowing and feeling safe and connected with your partner. Drawing on insights from attachment and polyvagal theory, somatic psychology, and real-world relationship experiences, the conversation sheds light on what "embodied safety" truly means—and why it's the foundation for intimacy, trust, and even passion. Listeners will come away with tools to notice their body's cues, co-regulate with a partner, and develop relational intelligence that supports lasting, resilient love—even when challenges arise. Aubrey Aust is a writer and master's candidate at NYU studying relational psychology and philosophy. Her work explores how emotional safety, embodiment, and relational intelligence shape intimacy and trust. Drawing from attachment theory, polyvagal theory, and somatic psychology, Aubrey helps individuals and couples understand how to build safety in relationships through both the mind and the body. She is passionate about making complex psychological insights practical, soulful, and deeply human.   Episode Highlights 08:38 How our bodies subconsciously sense safety or danger in relationships. 10:32 The importance of nonverbal cues and body sensations in emotional communication. 16:50 Identifying and changing self-protective behaviors that block intimacy. 19:10 Accessing vulnerability for co-regulation. 21:54 How consistency shapes true relational growth. 26:32 Navigating the tension between meeting others' needs and self-care in daily life. 28:08 How curiosity about intense emotions can help heal shame and estrangement. 32:04 How understanding core needs brings freedom and new options in relationships. 35:17 Rewiring your reactions: How noticing your nervous system transforms relationships. 38:39 How small shifts in attention can instantly calm your nervous system. 41:30 Unlocking the power to heal and evolve through relationship challenges.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Take conscious pauses to slow down and deepen your breath, helping you regulate stress and become more present in relationships. Practice tuning into your bodily sensations during interactions—notice tension, breath patterns, or relaxation—to better understand your felt sense of safety. Build somatic awareness by gently observing your physical reactions when you feel unsafe or activated, such as tightness, speeding up, or shutting down. Create check-in rituals with your partner to attune to each other's nervous system cues, like noticing changes in body language, tone, or energy. Normalize and expect moments of rupture or conflict, and view them as opportunities to build relational trust through repair and open communication. Get curious about your protective patterns (such as people-pleasing, avoidance, or hyper-independence) and consider when they may no longer serve intimacy. Use subtle self-regulation techniques in social situations, like grounding your feet, gently pressing your fingers together, or scanning the room to calm your nervous system. When you feel dysregulated in a conversation, ask clarifying questions or take a brief pause to gather yourself instead of reacting from a place of activation.   Mentioned It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Social Baseline Theory (National Library of Medicine article) Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (Psychology Today) Polyvegal Theory (Polyvagal Institute) ERP 261: How To Strengthen Your Relationship From A Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An interview With Deb Dana Evolve in Love (program) Evolve In Love Discovery Session with Dr. Jessica Higgins (Acuity booking link)   Connect with Aubrey Aust Websites: aubreyaust.com YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCozW2k08GkMQbjs1vyN_Fkw Instagram: www.instagram.com/aubrey__aust LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/aubrey-aust-8b7744174  Newsletter: aubreyaust.com/newsletter  

Why is it that talking about desire and intimacy with your partner can feel more intimidating than any other conversation in a relationship, even when you've shared years—or decades—together? So many couples silently struggle with mismatched libido, lost spark, or simply the discomfort of broaching sensitive topics about sex and pleasure. When left unspoken, these issues have the power to erode connection and joy in long-term relationships. If you've ever wondered why desire seems to fade, or why candid discussions about passion feel off-limits, you're not alone. In this episode, listeners are invited to explore how couples can move beyond just talking about desire and actually grow it together. Through stories, scientific insights, and actionable strategies, the conversation unpacks the barriers to open communication about sexuality—from shame and defensiveness to the physical and emotional roots of low libido. Along the way, listeners will learn how to build safety, cultivate presence, and consciously turn toward intimacy, laying the foundation for a relationship that's vibrant, resilient, and full of authentic connection. Whether you're seeking new energy with your partner or looking for tools to nurture your own sexual self-awareness, this episode is packed with practical guidance to help you rediscover your spark—together. Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a board certified sexologist with dual doctorates in Naturopathic as well as Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine. She is the founder of the sex education center: MyLibidoDoc.com and hosts 'The Libido Lounge' podcast, where she helps monogamous couples create more passion, desire, hotter sex and better communication.   Episode Highlights 06:23 Dr. Diane Mueller's journey from healing vulvar pain to embracing sexual wellness. 07:48 Navigating relationship styles and lessons learned from open relationships in the pursuit of lasting passion. 10:34 The importance of open sexual communication and overcoming shame in relationships. 16:27 Building a foundation of safety and how positive feedback strengthens sexual communication. 25:24 Presence and pleasure, and the mindfulness connection for enhancing sexual experience. 30:13 Embracing emotions in sexuality, including the role of anger and emotional expression in intimacy. 36:12 Identifying dissociation and cultivating presence to deepen sexual experience. 37:47 Harnessing sex for healing by using altered states and partner practices for growth. 41:36 Personal growth and relationship success with reflections on healing, compatibility, and lasting love.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Start open and honest conversations about sex and desire with your partner to reduce shame and taboo. Give specific, positive feedback after intimacy to build safety and connection. Clearly discuss and define your relationship agreements and boundaries together. Practice being present during intimate moments through mindful breathing or grounding exercises. Try a sensual touch practice, like giving each other foot massages, while focusing on sensation and awareness. Reflect on any personal beliefs or shame around sexuality and seek ways to address or release them. Take time to identify your own turn-ons and communicate these clearly to your partner. Use physical intimacy as an opportunity to process emotions, such as through movement, sound, or affirmations.   Mentioned Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Revive Your Love Life: 5 Easy Steps for MindBlowing Orgasms and Romance (link) (Free ebook) The Libido Quiz (quiz) YourUnique Sex Language (quiz) Libido Lounge (podcast) ERP 489: Flow State and Sexual Connection: A New Dimension of Intimacy — An Interview with Emily Jamea ERP 362: Understanding & Increasing Sexual Desire — An Interview with Dr. Lori Brotto Evolve in Love (program) Evolve In Love Discovery Session with Dr. Jessica Higgins (Acuity booking link)   Connect with Dr. Diane Mueller Websites: mylibidodoc.com Facebook: facebook.com/groups/1678228482662878 YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCfWNwoCl4f4WMHpagB2KQsw Instagram: instagram.com/mylibidodoc  

Have you ever faced a family crisis only to realize that financial instability adds an overwhelming weight to an already heavy moment? Or maybe you've felt isolated as the "first" in your family to reach new professional heights, only to discover no one handed you a playbook for building true generational wealth. Financial challenges don't just shake our wallets—they can ripple through our relationships, legacies, and even our sense of security and belonging. In this episode, listeners are invited to think beyond individual wealth and step into a bold new perspective: managing your family like a thriving enterprise. You'll discover why taking the role of "Family CEO" is not only possible but essential if you want to break cycles of financial insecurity and create a blueprint for lasting abundance. Through candid conversation and practical examples, this episode explores how intentional leadership, open communication, and collaborative vision-setting can empower you and those you love to build a family legacy that lasts. LaVaisha Davis is a wealth manager and advisor at Ell Wess Advisors, a firm offering family office solutions to founders, executives, and investors. She specializes in wealth-building, legacy planning, and asset protection—empowering clients to build financial independence and generational wealth. With a no-nonsense yet engaging style, she breaks down complex strategies like becoming your own bank. Her mission: to show people their family is their first enterprise—and should be managed like a business to build lasting wealth.   Episode Highlights 05:42 Lavisha Davis recalls how family tragedy became a turning point for financial awareness. 08:53 How pain and loss inspired leadership and deeper financial responsibility. 12:03 What it means to be the family CEO: Mindset and misconceptions. 14:49 The challenges and opportunities of being the first financial trailblazer. 17:24 Crafting a shared family vision and values around wealth. 20:57 Running the family like a corporation: Structure, roles, and the family bank. 29:42 Understanding the risks and the need for transparency. 31:33 The cost of poor planning including inheritance, probate, and lost wealth. 37:13 Turning family strengths and structure into lasting wealth. 42:30 How to get started: Practical support and CEO training resources.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Clarify your wealth vision by choosing whether to focus on personal financial security or building generational wealth. Adopt the Family CEO mindset and lead your household with intentional financial goals and strategies. Establish a family bank to manage shared resources as if you were running a business account. Have open money conversations to build trust, clarify roles, and reinforce shared commitments. Identify and leverage family strengths by assigning financial roles that align with each person's skills. Provide financial education for yourself and your family to make informed decisions and prepare future generations. Create a governance system with clear values, rules, and processes for collective decision-making. Take consistent action by turning plans into progress through small but steady financial steps.   Mentioned Income to Wealth Masterclass (webinar registration link)   Connect with Lavaisha Davis Websites: lavaishadavis.com Facebook: facebook.com/lavaisha.davis Instagram: instagram.com/lavaishadavis LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lavaisha-davis-27094b208  

Ever felt like you're stuck in old relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to break free? Or perhaps you find yourself repeating the same old arguments, feeling misunderstood, or cycling through self-doubt and disconnection from your partner. The truth is, long-term intimacy often brings hidden challenges to the surface, and many of us wrestle with how to unravel deeply ingrained habits that hold us back from experiencing truly authentic, safe, and thriving partnerships. In this episode, listeners discover how making tiny, targeted external shifts—rather than endlessly searching for answers within—can pave the way for new relational experiences and stronger partnerships. By exploring actionable strategies rooted in intuition, personal development, and a unique system for understanding your "ego centers," you'll learn how even the smallest changes can disrupt well-worn habits, unlock growth, and attract more authentic, secure connections in your life. Whether struggling with undervaluing yourself, longing for healthier dynamics, or navigating the challenge of healing old wounds in love, this conversation offers fresh perspectives and practical tools to help you build the partnership you truly want. New York Times best-selling author and intuitive Laura Day has spent nearly four decades helping individuals, organizations, and companies harness and develop their innate intuitive abilities to create profound change. Newsweek magazine calls her "The $10,000-a-Month Psychic," adding "When business people need a crystal ball, they turn to consultant Laura Day, the 'intuitionist.'" The Independent dubbed her "The Psychic of Wall Street." Laura's work has helped demystify intuition and bring it into the mainstream for everyday folk and A-Listers. In her workshops and presentations, she demonstrates the practical, verifiable, and sometimes astonishing uses of intuition in the fields of business, science, medicine, and personal growth. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.   Episode Highlights 04:49 How Laura Day's trauma shaped her path as an intuitive. 08:11 Bringing structure and credibility to intuitive and psychic work.  11:57 Discovering the "Prism" and redefining the role of ego. 14:25 How small external shifts can disrupt ingrained patterns. 19:19 How our bodies and patterns shape reality. 21:02 What your heartbeat says about your relationships. 25:35 How self-talk influences the energy you bring to relationships. 29:10 How new habits around value impact every area of life. 31:12 Simple practices to reinforce self-worth and openness. 34:01 Setting goals and finding a community to support relational growth.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Write down three meaningful goals that give your life and relationships purpose. Pick one small, new habit to try today—something simple that disrupts old patterns. When you catch self-criticism, replace it with a gentle affirmation (e.g., "I forgive myself for being imperfect"). Practice responding to opportunities and compliments with openness and gratitude to change how you engage with the world. Pause to notice what emotion you're giving off before you act or speak. Invite new experiences, people, or communities into your life that challenge your habits or expand your perspective, rather than only looking inward. Do one thing outside your comfort zone or in a new environment. Join or engage with a community that encourages your growth.   Mentioned The Prism: Seven Steps to Heal Your Past and Transform Your Future (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Practical Intuition: How to Harness the Power of Your Instinct and Make It Work for You (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Practical Intuition in Love: Let Your Intuition Guide You to the Love of Your Life (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Laura Day Websites: lauraday.com Facebook: facebook.com/lauradaycircle YouTube: youtube.com/user/LauraDayCircle Instagram: instagram.com/lauradayintuit LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/laura-day-023b1713  

Money may not buy happiness, but the tension between enjoying life today and securing a stable future can leave many couples feeling stuck, anxious, or even at odds with each other. Are you and your partner finding it difficult to strike a balance between living for the moment and building a financially secure tomorrow? Navigating finances together can bring up deep-seated fears, old money stories, and conflicting priorities—making it a journey that's as emotional as it is practical. In this episode, you'll discover how couples can open up the conversation about money in a way that's thoughtful, honest, and constructive. Through real-life examples and expert strategies, you'll learn how to identify and communicate your financial values, create a flexible plan that adapts to life's twists and turns, and build habits that support both today's joy and tomorrow's security. Whether you're saving every penny out of fear or struggling to rein in your spending, this conversation offers actionable tools to help you play the right "money game" together—and come out stronger as a couple. Eric Roberge, CFP, is the CEO and lead advisor at Beyond Your Hammock, a financial planning firm based in Boston that serves professional couples in their 30s and 40s with young families. His business partner and wife, Kali Roberge, serves as COO of BYH. Eric & Kali understand the challenges of financial planning around families and children because, as parents of a three-year-old, they're in the trenches and well-versed in what it takes to build a financial plan that serves every member of the family. Eric and Kali live with their daughter and two cats in Cambridge, Mass.   Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.   Episode Highlights 04:12 How Eric & Kali  built a marriage and business partnership. 08:54 The struggles of balancing love, work, and parenthood with the same partner. 11:22 How to start honest money conversations with your partner. 13:08 What money arguments reveal about communication styles. 18:11 How childhood shapes our money mindset. 21:18 Redefining "enough" and moving beyond scarcity. 24:38 Simple saving targets without guilt or judgment. 26:02 Planning with flexibility so life's surprises don't derail you. 29:56 Why your financial map should keep evolving. 33:51 Systems over stress: Using money rules and systems to create freedom, not restriction. 36:37 Defining the money game you want to play. 40:33 How to nurture your plan, find the right guides, and stay the course.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Take a moment to pause, breathe, and check in with your body and emotions before starting any money conversation with your partner. Together, review your current finances—assets, liabilities, cash flow—without judgment, to see where you stand right now. Have open conversations about what matters most to each of you, both in daily life and in the future, to uncover shared values and goals. Reflect on and share your individual "money scripts" or early financial beliefs, and notice how these influence your current behaviors and stressors. Clearly specify what "enough" looks like for your family, so you have a concrete target for saving and spending. Create simple guidelines (like saving 25% of your income) to automate good habits and reduce emotional spending decisions. Revisit your financial plan regularly to adjust for life changes, ensuring your approach evolves with your circumstances and goals. Intentionally set times to have financial discussions as a couple, even when life gets busy, so things don't build up or get avoided.   Mentioned Money for Life with Eric Roberge, CFP (Apple Podcast) (podcast) One page financial plan (link) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication   Connect with Kali & Eric Roberge Websites: beyondyourhammock.com Facebook: facebook.com/beyondyourhammock X: x.com/beyondfinances Instagram: instagram.com/beyondyourhammock LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ericroberge TikTok: tiktok.com/@beyondfinances

About this Episode What if everything you know about love is a myth—built on luck, chance, and hope? The truth is, many of us walk into relationships with big dreams of "happily ever after," only to find that real connection can feel overwhelming, elusive, or even impossible to sustain. We use words like "respect," "trust," and "compassion," but rarely stop to define what they truly mean for ourselves and our partners. Without a roadmap, couples often end up lost in confusion, miscommunication, and heartbreak. In this episode, you'll discover a fresh, research-backed framework for designing love that actually lasts. You'll learn about the six key ingredients necessary for truly thriving relationships and uncover why love can't survive on feelings alone. By diving into practical strategies, real-world examples, and self-reflection tools, this conversation offers a powerful guide to recognizing what really matters in your connection and how to nurture it, every single day. Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph.D., is a renowned author, speaker, and thought leader in relationship dynamics. With experience in 41 countries, she has advised hundreds of couples, governments, UN agencies, and corporations. Her book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love, explores six key principles for thriving relationships. Dr. Nasserzadeh's work has been featured in leading media outlets, including NPR, The New York Times, BBC, CNN, and more. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  05:45 Dr. Sara's unique approach to relationship dynamics and global work. 09:43 Unpacking the emergent love research model and its origins. 10:58 Grounded theory research: Analyzing couples and identifying relationship patterns. 15:52 Defining core relationship concepts and the search for universal ingredients. 19:19 Emergent model findings: Moving beyond "love comes first". 21:01 Three phases of research and development of a relationship assessment tool. 24:42 The six key ingredients for lasting love. 29:11 The power of loving behaviors and nonverbal communication in relationships. 32:20 Cultural and physical factors that influence emotional connection. 34:32 The importance of everyday gestures and their impact on intimacy. 38:07 Small actions and social etiquette: Nurturing connection in daily life. 44:49 Understanding your "love blueprint" and core sensitivities. 45:56 Knowing yourself: Quirks, pet peeves, and vulnerabilities in relationships. 49:24 Dr. Sara's resources, final thoughts, and where to connect. Mentioned Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh Websites: sara-nasserzadeh.com Facebook: facebook.com/Dr.SaraNasserzadeh YouTube: youtube.com/user/DrSaraNasserzadeh Instagram: instagram.com/dr.saranasserzadeh Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode What happened to our sex life? It's a question that so many couples and individuals ask themselves in silence, often with a mix of confusion, frustration, and vulnerability. Desire seems to disappear overnight. Intimacy becomes awkward or routine. Shame and self-doubt creep in, making it all the harder to talk about what's really going on—let alone figure out how to reconnect. The problem isn't just about mismatched libido or busy schedules. It's about navigating the invisible scripts, societal expectations, stress, and even past wounds that shape our most intimate experiences. In this episode, we dive deep into understanding the roots of sexual disconnection and desire discrepancies–from personal identity and past experiences to relational habits and cultural messaging. Through empathetic discussion and expert insights, the conversation invites listeners to explore both individual and relational factors that impact their sex lives, offering practical strategies for reclaiming intimacy, self-awareness, and genuine pleasure. Whether you're looking to rekindle passion, start new conversations, or simply better understand your own needs, this episode delivers compassionate tools and supportive perspectives to help you navigate the complex terrain of modern sexual relationships. Dr. Kate Balestrieri is the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? and a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist focused on helping people heal from trauma and addiction, improve relationships, and have better sex lives. She is the founder of Modern Intimacy, a counseling practice that operates in Los Angeles, Miami, and Chicago, and a passionate advocate for mental health, relational and sexual health, and wellness. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  03:08 Kate's personal and clinical journey exploring lost desire. 08:46 How identity and culture influence sexual expression. 11:32 Confronting fear and questioning sexual norms. 15:12 Creating safety to discuss and explore new desires. 18:39 Building safety and self-awareness around intimacy. 20:56 Unpacking shame, fantasies, and compulsive sexual behavior. 26:17 Understanding that fluctuating desire is normal. 29:04 The impact of stress and lifestyle on libido. 31:22 Prioritizing self-care and space for intimacy. 35:04 Practicing rolling consent and daily connection. 37:51 Rethinking gender roles in intimacy. 40:03 Addressing resentment and rebuilding honesty. 44:04 Healing, self-compassion, and claiming pleasure. Mentioned What Happened to My Sex Life?: A Sex Therapist's Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and Pleasure (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Get Naked with Dr. Kate (*Apple Podcast) (podcast) Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Dr. Kate Balestrieri Websites: modernintimacy.com Facebook: facebook.com/themodernintimacy YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UClA2nKs0kZyeInZctBNCUqw Instagram: instagram.com/themodernintimacy Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Are you stuck in the cycle of trying to control everything in your relationship, only to find yourself drifting further away from the connection and harmony you truly crave? Sometimes, the harder we try to make things "right," the more we lose sight of what makes love resilient, joyful, and honest. The truth is, love isn't about micromanaging or enforcing your idea of perfection—it's about learning to ride life's unpredictable waves with trust, acceptance, and a willingness to let go. In this episode, listeners are invited to explore how letting go of control and embracing the natural flow of love can transform the way they relate to their partners. Through personal stories, reflective questions, and practical guidance, this conversation offers insight into why acceptance and trust are essential for deepening intimacy and resilience in your relationship. You'll discover tools to break free from the criticism-defensiveness loop, foster genuine communication, and understand how even small shifts in mindset can create lasting change in your love life. Daniel A. Miller is a best-selling author who explores how acceptance, letting go of control, and trust can transform relationships and personal well-being. His newest book, The Way of the Wave: Nature's Model for Navigating Life's Currents, offers practical guidance for embracing life's unpredictability with greater ease, resilience, and inner peace. Daniel's work draws on decades of experience, blending personal stories, research, and wisdom to help others live more empowered, connected lives. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  04:49 Lessons in listening and humility from Daniel's early controlling behaviors. 06:51 How nature and acceptance transformed Daniel's approach to relationships. 13:25 Letting go of control: The key to real intimacy and gratitude. 19:44 How Daniel learned quick repair to break cycles of withdrawal. 21:12 Attunement and emotional safety as the root of true intimacy. 26:08 Life's crises exposed control's dangers and the power of acceptance. 31:12 Trading fear for acceptance unlocked deeper possibilities for Daniel. 37:22 Humility and vulnerability as foundations for lasting 41:29 How acceptance and engagement create richer, more intimate relationships. 45:19 Letting go enables trust, imperfection, and true flow in life. Mentioned The Way of the Wave: Nature's Model for Navigating Life's Currents (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing People And Things as They Are (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us And How to Let It Go (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Daniel Miller Websites: danielamiller.com Facebook: facebook.com/people/Losing-Control-Finding-Serenity Instagram: instagram.com/danielamillerauthor Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Grief can strike when we least expect it, turning our world upside down and reshaping the very foundation of our relationships. When couples encounter loss—whether through miscarriage, infertility, or unexpected life changes—the path to healing can feel lonely, uncharted, and overwhelming. Even the closest partnerships can struggle to find the words, understanding, or comfort needed to move forward together. How do we navigate personal pain while remaining present for each other? Can couples truly heal side by side, even when their experiences of grief are so different? In this episode, listeners are invited into a heartfelt conversation exploring the realities of grief and healing within intimate relationships. Through personal storytelling and expert insight, the discussion dives deep into the complexity of navigating loss as a couple—highlighting the differences in individual grief experiences, the power of mutual support, and the importance of holding both sorrow and hope. Practical wisdom and lived experiences shed light on how couples can create space for each other's emotions, foster resilience, and slowly rebuild a sense of connection and possibility. Whether you have faced loss yourself or support someone who has, this episode offers guidance and reassurance that, together, healing is possible. Madeleine Garner is a New York-based writer. Her play, I Ragazzi, cowritten with her father, Broadway writer David Goldsmith, was published in 2023 by the Dramatists Play Service and is now available for licensing. She is the Head of Creative Services Operations, Americas at Sotheby's Auction House, and she received her B.A. in Art History and Italian Studies from Wheaton College in Massachusetts. She resides in Queens with her husband, daughter, and cat. Recently, published "Your Baby Will Find You: A Story About Grief, Loss, and Healing." Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  05:17 Madeleine recounts the shock and heartbreak of her miscarriage, revealing the profound emotional and physical challenges she faced in its aftermath. 09:52 The clinical steps following miscarriage, unhelpful care, and the early stages of coming to terms with profound grief. 12:01 From shared struggles to connection—turning grief into creativity. 23:16 The value of surrendering to the unpredictable process of grief, healing, and hope. 29:16 Madeleine reflects on "Your Baby" as a symbol of destiny, fulfillment, or creativity for anyone navigating loss or uncertainty. 31:10 The balance between striving and surrendering. 36:10 Grieving as a couple: Different paces, shared support. 40:02 How returning to one another after rupture and repair builds a secure partnership and deepens intimacy after loss. 43:58 Resources and ways to connect with Madeleine. Mentioned Your Baby Will Find You: A Story About Grief, Loss, and Healing (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) This is Me and Only Me (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Missing Piece (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 453: How To Navigate Grief In Long Term Relationship – An Interview With Christina Rasmussen Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love Connect with Madeleine Garner Websites: maddydaragarner.com Instagram: instagram.com/maddydaragarner Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Are you and your partner living your best shared life, or just navigating the daily grind side-by-side? Many couples get caught up in routines, letting old patterns and outside pressures shape their relationships by default. The possibility of building something inspired by both partners' deepest dreams and values can feel elusive, especially when life's challenges, stresses, or feelings of being stuck appear insurmountable. In this episode, listeners are guided through a transformative approach to co-creating a shared future with their significant other. The conversation explores the concept and practice of dream building as a couple, providing actionable steps to create a clear, compelling vision together. You'll discover how to honor and support each other's aspirations (even if they differ), learn practical tools to sidestep habitual negativity, and understand the science behind emotional connection and growth. Whether your relationship feels stagnant or you're looking to deepen your intimacy, this episode offers a roadmap for moving from conflict and limitation to collaboration, curiosity, and mutual empowerment. Mary Morrissey is the founder of the Brave Thinking Institute, the world's premier provider of transformational training and coaching. Through life-changing books, events and programs, Mary has helped millions of people tap into the power within them to achieve new levels of success and experience a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  07:57 How having a shared vision as a couple can deepen your connection and help you navigate even the toughest challenges together. 10:20 Why moving from simply imagining your dreams to clearly blueprinting them is essential for bringing your vision to life. 16:28 The importance of getting specific with your dreams and honoring both partners' aspirations. 25:46 Practicing daily gratitude and shifting your mindset to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. 28:56 Setting intentions for your day and visualizing the outcomes you want. 33:12 Simple three-phase process of blueprinting, bridging, and building your dreams. 38:26 How to overcome perceived limitations. 42:36 What to do when your partner is not on board. 44:48 Transform moments of tension and discover additional resources to keep growing together. Mentioned Brave Thinking (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Building The Vision of Your Dreams Meditation (free guided meditation)(link) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Mary Morrissey Websites: bravethinkinginstitute.com Facebook: facebook.com/bravethinkinginstitute X: x.com/BraveInstitute YouTube: youtube.com/@bravethinkinginstitute Instagram: instagram.com/bravethinkinginstitute LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/brave-thinking-institute Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Passion and intimacy are at the heart of every thriving relationship—yet even the healthiest couples can find these sparks fading over time, or wonder if their desires are truly "normal." For so many couples, sexual connection can become routine, tangled up in old beliefs, busy schedules, and silent worries about whether you're truly satisfied or doing it right. The search for authentic sexual fulfillment often brings up more questions than answers, leaving many people longing for deeper, more meaningful connection but uncertain about how to find it. In this episode, you'll discover a fresh perspective on intimacy, focusing on how to move beyond comparison, shame, and routine to create a vibrant, personalized sexual connection. Guided by expert insights and the latest research, you'll learn practical strategies for accessing flow state during intimacy, embracing your unique sexuality, and rekindling sensuality throughout all stages of your relationship. From breaking free of social norms to simple rituals for everyday connection, this conversation is packed with actionable steps and empowering ideas designed to help you cultivate lasting passion and deeper joy with your partner. Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and the USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion. Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  06:09 How Emily Jamia's unique upbringing in a sex-positive home within a conservative town sparked her early interest in sexuality. 10:41 Defining "Normal" in sexuality. 14:07 The emotional and psychological dimensions of sex. 20:38 Building sensuality through everyday moments. 23:14 The science and benefits of affectionate touch. 27:02 Going beyond just resolving disconnects to proactively cultivating passionate connections. 28:01 The role of flow state in sexual satisfaction. 34:05 The five keys to deep sexual connection. 36:18 Simple practices for returning to presence and embodiment. 40:33 How small changes and novelty spark lasting desire. Mentioned Transcendent Sex Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 362: Understanding & Increasing Sexual Desire — An Interview with Dr. Lori Brotto Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Emily Jamea Websites: emilyjamea.com Facebook: facebook.com/dremilyjamea Instagram: instagram.com/dremilyjamea LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dremilyjamea Podcast: emilyjamea.com/love-libido-podcast | podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-and-libido/id1572696112 Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Is achieving a secure attachment really the ultimate marker of relationship success or could this mindset be doing more harm than good? In the quest for intimacy and connection, many of us fall into the trap of labeling ourselves and our partners, clinging to the idea that "secure" is the only way to be. But what happens when relationships don't fit neatly into these categories, or when past experiences have shaped us in ways that make security seem out of reach? The pressure to be "securely attached" can sometimes backfire, leading to shame, blame, and a sense of hopelessness. In this episode, you'll discover why secure attachment doesn't have to be the ultimate destination, and why striving for secure functioning—those daily choices and mindful practices that build safety and trust—can be a far more compassionate and realistic goal. Drawing on insights from trauma work, attachment research, and couples therapy, this conversation unpacks the pitfalls of categorizing relationships as "good" or "bad," explores the nuances of healing within partnership, and offers actionable ways to build resilience, understanding, and growth—no matter where you are on the attachment spectrum. Hanna Basel is a seasoned couples therapist and certified sex therapist. With expertise in attachment, trauma, and emotionally focused therapy (EFT), she helps people untangle their most complicated relationship patterns. As a former addictions counselor, Hanna brings both clinical expertise and lived experience to her work. She has been featured on CNN, Kare 11, MSN, and numerous podcasts where she talked about her ultimate and simple goal: to help people build relationships that help us heal and thrive. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  04:23 Hannah's path to couples therapy: From personal struggles to professional passion. 12:25 Understanding secure attachment and relationship dynamics. 15:26 Embracing relationship growth as a lifelong practice. 19:03 Debunking the myth that you must heal yourself before getting into a relationship. 22:00 Balancing guidance and judgment. 25:37 Neuroplasticity: How relationships shape and reshape attachment. 27:59 Understanding trauma's role in relationship dynamics. 33:38 Compassion with boundaries. 34:59 Balancing love and constructive criticism. 39:07 Pacing, timing, and emotional safety in relationship repair. 42:10 Understanding pain and betrayal. 46:36 Slowing down for better attunement. 47:57 Breaking the cycle. Mentioned Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication Connect with Hanna Basel Websites: hzbtherapy.com Facebook: facebook.com/watch/TherapywithhannaB Instagram: instagram.com/therapywithhannab Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.