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You know yourself. You’re emotionally intelligent, articulate, self-aware.You’ve read the books, done the work, named your patterns.But still… when the twinge hits, your body spirals.You overthink, over-explain, or shut down — even though you “know better.”That’s because emotional intelligence isn’t emotional resilience.And the difference between the two? It’s everything.In this final episode of Tending the Twinge, we’re redefining resilience in love — and showing you how it shifts not only how you feel inside yourself, but how deeply you get to connect with your partner.Tune in to uncover:* Why being emotionally intelligent isn’t enough to keep you steady when the twinge rises* How “managing yourself” or staying composed can secretly create distance in your relationship — even when you don’t mean to* The false definition of resilience that keeps you hyper-independent, guarded, or always trying to keep things “good”* What true emotional resilience looks like in real love — and how it makes space for deeper intimacy, safety, and connection* A grounded pathway for embodying resilience now — so you can be soft, rooted, and open even when it stingsThis isn’t about being “stronger”.It’s about getting steadier. Softer. More you.When you embody emotional resilience:* You stop managing love — and start living inside it.* You stop needing his calm to regulate yours.* You create intimacy that lasts — because you’re not holding him at arm’s length anymore.Tending the Twinge is your invitation into this version of love.A 9-day guided ceremony to help you stop spiraling, start softening, and stay anchored in who you are in the moments that matter most.Start Tending the Twinge hereBecause love doesn’t need you to be perfect.It needs you to be present.Curious what’s been pulling you out of presence?You may be playing out your Rootprint — your emotional pattern in love. Take the free Rootprint Quiz to name the story underneath the spiral.Follow on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionReach out: hello@ohflowco.comJoin Tending the Twinge: https://www.ohflowco.com/offers/QMwwoHF4/checkoutTake the Rootprint Quiz: https://www.ohflowco.com/rootprintAll Episodes in This SeriesTending the Twinge: What to Do When Love Feels Good… But Your Body Still SpiralsEp 1: How to Stop Spiraling — Before It Even StartsEp 2: You Feel It All — Here’s How to Stay Grounded in LoveEp 3: You’re in a Healthy Relationship… But Still Waiting for It to Go Wrong Ep 4: You Spoke Your Truth — Now You’re Waiting to Feel Okay Again Ep 5: What If You Didn’t Need Him to Make It Okay? Ep 6: What Emotional Resilience in Love Actually Looks Like (Current Episode) Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

There’s that subtle, aching moment in your relationship.The twinge hits.You were laughing just a minute ago, but now—His tone has shifted. The energy feels different.And your body knows it before your mind can name it.So you start scanning the last 10 minutes:→ Did I say something wrong?→ Is he upset?→ Is it me… again?And without realizing it—you reach for your default response: make it better.You lighten the mood. You shift the subject. You bring in humor.You smooth it over before he even says a word.Why?Because the tiniest gap in connection feels like a chasm.And your nervous system doesn’t want to fall in.But here’s the reframe:What if not fixing it was the most loving thing you could do?Tune in to uncover:* Why even healthy love can trigger your “waiting for it to go wrong” reflex* The difference between scanning for the drop “in the moment” vs. doubting the whole relationship* What emotional outsourcing looks like — both in your body and in the way you relate* The surprising truth: It’s not your partner’s job to make you feel safe* How to shift from bracing for loss to grounding in trust — without needing him to change a thingStop smoothing over what’s sacred?Tending the Twinge is a 9-day guided ceremony to help you hold yourself steady in the flicker — so you don’t abandon yourself in the process.Start Tending the Twinge here.Because the bond you’re craving isn’t rebuilt through performance.It’s reclaimed through presence.Want to know why this pattern runs so deep?You may be playing out your Rootprint — your emotional role in love. Take the free Rootprint Quiz to name the story underneath the spiral.Follow on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionReach out: hello@ohflowco.comJoin Tending the Twinge: https://www.ohflowco.com/offers/QMwwoHF4/checkoutTake the Rootprint Quiz: https://www.ohflowco.com/rootprintThe August Relationship Rewire Ritual (referenced in episode): All Episodes in This SeriesTending the Twinge: What to Do When Love Feels Good… But Your Body Still SpiralsEp 1: How to Stop Spiraling — Before It Even StartsEp 2: You Feel It All — Here’s How to Stay Grounded in LoveEp 3: You’re in a Healthy Relationship… But Still Waiting for It to Go Wrong Ep 4: You Spoke Your Truth — Now You’re Waiting to Feel Okay Again Ep 5: What If You Didn’t Need Him to Make It Okay? (Current Episode)Ep 6: What Emotional Resilience in Love Actually Looks Like Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

Sharing your truth isn’t the hardest part.You’ve done the work. You’re articulate. You can name your feelings and speak up when it matters.The hardest part?What happens after.That wobbly feeling in your chest.The overthinking spiral that makes you want to smooth it over or take it back.The way you second-guess if it was too much, too messy, or the wrong time.This is where the twinge hides: not in the speaking, but in the staying.Click here to join Tending the Twinge — the 9-day ceremony to anchor emotional resilience in love.Because it’s not about saying it perfectly.It’s about learning how to hold yourself once you do.Tune in to uncover:* Why speaking your truth isn’t your struggle — but staying rooted after is* The hidden ways you’ve learned to communicate “just right” to avoid feeling wobbly later* The piece you’ve been missing between speaking and self-trust — and how to practice it now* How your Rootprint patterns show up in this exact moment (and why you feel the twinge strongest here)* What emotional sovereignty in love actually looks like — and how to embody it without hardening or hidingReady to stop second-guessing your truth?Tending the Twinge is a 9-day guided ceremony to help you meet yourself in the moments after the words leave your lips — so you can anchor into sovereignty instead of spiraling back into smoothing.Start Tending the Twinge here.Want to know why this pattern keeps showing up?You may be playing out your Rootprint — your emotional role in love. Take the free Rootprint Quiz to uncover the story beneath the spiral.Follow on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionReach out: hello@ohflowco.comJoin Tending the Twinge: https://www.ohflowco.com/offers/QMwwoHF4/checkoutTake the Rootprint Quiz: https://www.ohflowco.com/rootprintAll Episodes in This SeriesTending the Twinge: What to Do When Love Feels Good… But Your Body Still SpiralsEp 1: How to Stop Spiraling — Before It Even StartsEp 2: You Feel It All — Here’s How to Stay Grounded in LoveEp 3: You’re in a Healthy Relationship… But Still Waiting for It to Go Wrong Ep 4: You Spoke Your Truth — But Now You’re Second-Guessing It (Current Episode)Ep 5: What If You Didn’t Need Him to Make It Okay? (Coming September 4th)Ep 6: What Emotional Resilience in Love Actually Looks Like (Coming September 11th) Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

Things are good. Really good.He’s consistent. He shows up. You feel loved.So why does a part of you still scan for signs that something’s wrong?Why do you keep bracing for the shift — like the good can’t possibly last?This isn’t about being negative or paranoid. It’s about what your nervous system learned to expect in love… and the habit of outsourcing your safety that keeps you from fully exhaling.This episode is your permission to stop treating peace like it’s temporary — and start learning how to stand steady in it.Click here to join Tending the Twinge — the 9-day ceremony to anchor emotional resilience in love. Because it’s not about erasing the feeling. It’s about finally knowing what to do with it.Tune in to uncover:* Why even healthy love can trigger your “waiting for it to go wrong” reflex* The difference between scanning for the drop “in the moment” vs. doubting the whole relationship* What emotional outsourcing looks like — both in your body and in the way you relate* The surprising truth: It’s not your partner’s job to make you feel safe* How to shift from bracing for loss to grounding in trust — without needing him to change a thingReady to stop waiting for the drop?Tending the Twinge is a 9-day guided ceremony to help you meet the flicker before the spiral—so you can soften into self-trust instead of grasping for reassurance.Start Tending the Twinge here.Want to know why this pattern keeps showing up?You may be playing out your Rootprint—your emotional pattern in love. Take the free Rootprint Quiz to name the story underneath the spiral.Follow on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionReach out: hello@ohflowco.comJoin Tending the Twinge: https://www.ohflowco.com/offers/QMwwoHF4/checkoutTake the Rootprint Quiz: https://www.ohflowco.com/rootprintAll Episodes in This SeriesTending the Twinge: What to Do When Love Feels Good… But Your Body Still SpiralsEp 1: How to Stop Spiraling — Before It Even StartsEp 2: You Feel It All — Here’s How to Stay Grounded in LoveEp 3: You’re in a Healthy Relationship… But Still Waiting for It to Go Wrong (Current Episode)Ep 4: You Spoke Your Truth — Now You’re Waiting to Feel Okay Again Ep 5: What If You Didn’t Need Him to Make It Okay? Ep 6: What Emotional Resilience in Love Actually Looks Like Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

You’ve always been sensitive. Deep-feeling. Attuned.It’s a gift… until it starts to feel like a burden.One shift in his tone and you can’t think about anything else.One heavy mood and your chest feels like it’s carrying both your hearts.It’s not that you want to absorb it all — it’s that you don’t know how not to.This is where the twinge begins for you: the instant you feel something shift, and your body starts bracing.This episode is your invitation to learn how to stay with yourself in those moments, without hardening or disconnecting.Click here to join Tending the Twinge — the 9-day ceremony to anchor emotional resilience in love.Because being sensitive isn’t the problem.Never being taught how to feel safe in it… is.Tune in to this week’s episode to uncover:* How being deeply sensitive or empathic shapes the way you experience love — and why it can leave you feeling overwhelmed* A simple way to separate what’s yours from what’s his — so you’re no longer absorbing and holding his emotions as your own* The real reason you feel responsible for his emotional state — and how to let that go without feeling selfish* How overthinking and over-feeling feed each other — and how to stop the mental spiral before it starts* A 3-step pathway for holding yourself through deep feelings — so your sensitivity becomes a gift in your relationship, not a source of distanceReady to meet the moment before the spiral begins?Tending the Twinge is a 9-day guided ceremony to help you anchor in emotional resilience — so you can soften into self-trust, instead of outsourcing your safety.Click here to start Tending the Twinge.Want to know why this spiral keeps showing up?Take the free Rootprint Quiz to name the story underneath the spiral.Follow on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionReach out: hello@ohflowco.comJoin Tending the Twinge: https://www.ohflowco.com/offers/QMwwoHF4/checkoutTake the Rootprint Quiz: https://www.ohflowco.com/rootprintAll Episodes in This SeriesTending the Twinge: What to Do When Love Feels Good… But Your Body Still SpiralsEp 1: How to Stop Spiraling — Before It Even StartsEp 2: You Feel It All — Here’s How to Stay Grounded in Love (Current Episode)Ep 3: You’re in a Healthy Relationship… But Still Waiting for It to Go Wrong Ep 4: You Spoke Your Truth — Now You’re Waiting to Feel Okay Again Ep 5: What If You Didn’t Need Him to Make It Okay? Ep 6: What Emotional Resilience in Love Actually Looks Like Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

You finally feel safe in love. Or you should.He’s consistent. Things are good.But then… something shifts. A text lands flat. His energy feels off. He’s quiet.Your heart flutters. Your chest tightens. And before you even realize it, you’re spiraling.This episode opens the Tending the Twinge series:What to Do When Love Feels Good… But Your Body Still Spirals.For the woman who knows her patterns—but still gets hijacked in the moment. This series is your invitation to meet yourself before the spiral begins.🔗 Click here to join Tending the Twinge — the 9-day ceremony to anchor emotional resilience in love.Because it’s not about erasing the feeling.It’s about finally knowing what to do with it.Tune in to uncover:* Why your deepest spirals often show up after you finally feel safe—and why that doesn’t mean something’s wrong* The difference between a trigger and a spiral — and why knowing that difference matters* What the twinge actually is (emotionally + somatically) and how to recognize it in real time* The nervous system cascade that happens inside you in microseconds—and the exact moment where your power lives* A gentle, three-step return to self—designed for the woman who wants to stay rooted when the flicker hits* The true shift: Why you don’t need to dig through your past to stop spiraling—you just need to meet yourself in the momentReady to meet the moment before the spiral begins?Tending the Twinge is a 9-day guided ceremony to help you anchor in emotional resilience—so you can soften into self-trust, instead of outsourcing your safety.Start Tending the Twinge here. Want to know why this spiral keeps showing up?You may be playing out your Rootprint—your emotional pattern in love.Take the free Rootprint Quiz to name the story underneath the spiral.Follow on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionReach out: hello@ohflowco.comJoin Tending the Twinge: https://www.ohflowco.com/offers/QMwwoHF4/checkout Take the Rootprint Quiz: https://www.ohflowco.com/rootprint All Episodes in This SeriesTending the Twinge: What to Do When Love Feels Good… But Your Body Still SpiralsEp 1: How to Stop Spiraling — Before It Even Starts (Current Episode) Ep 2: You Feel It All — Here’s How to Stay Grounded in LoveEp 3: You’re in a Healthy Relationship… But Still Waiting for It to Go Wrong Ep 4: You Spoke Your Truth — Now You’re Waiting to Feel Okay Again Ep 5: What If You Didn’t Need Him to Make It Okay? Ep 6: What Emotional Resilience in Love Actually Looks Like Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

You finally feel held. Loved. Safe.And then—almost without realizing it—you start poking.A sharp comment. A cold shoulder. A quiet withdrawal.Not to hurt him. Not to create chaos.But because a deeper part of you is whispering: “Is this real? Will it last? Can I trust it?”In this episode, we’re naming a subtle but powerful pattern:Testing the relationship—not because you want to end it, but because you’re trying to prove it’s safe enough to stay in it.Inside this conversation, we’ll explore:✨ Why even healthy love can trigger panic—and why you feel more distant when things get calm✨ The hidden ways you “test” without realizing it (not just fights—sometimes it’s overthinking or scanning for icks)✨ The emotional roots of this behavior, and why it shows up strongest in the relationships that feel safest✨ How love without drama can feel unfamiliar—and what your nervous system is actually craving✨ A soft reframe: you’re not broken, you’re patterned—and that pattern is trying to protect you from disappearing againYou don’t need to prove it’s safe anymore.You just need to learn how to stay when love feels steady.🧠 Ready to Reveal your Rootprint?Want to understand the emotional role you’re still unconsciously playing?The Rootprint Quiz will help you name the story underneath your spirals—so you can begin shifting the way you show up in love.🌿 Ready to meet the moment before the spiral begins?Tending the Twinge is a 9-day ceremony to guide you into rooted self-holding—so you can stay with yourself in the flicker, not the fallout.Comment ROOTPRINT or TENDING on Instagram to receive your link.Follow me on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionReach out: hello@ohflowco.comListen, subscribe, and explore the other episodes in this series — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Substack.All Episodes in this SeriesWhen Healthy Love Triggers YouUnderstanding the emotional blueprint behind your spiralsEpisode 1: Why You're Spiraling in a Healthy Relationship Episode 2: Is It a Red Flag… or Just Your Pattern?Episode 3: When You Can’t Tell If It’s Intuition or Anxiety Episode 4: You’re Not Controlling—You’re Craving Certainty Episode 5: You’re Expressing Everything—Except What You Really Feel | (current episode)Episode 6: The Real Reason You Keep Testing the Relationship | Coming July 3rd Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

You’re articulate. Emotionally intelligent. Self-aware.You’ve done the work. Had the hard conversations. Named the patterns.And yet—there’s still something unsaid.You express yourself, but it’s filtered. Controlled. Safe.You speak… but not always from the raw center of truth.You say what’s clear—but not always what’s real.And you’re not alone.If you’ve ever softened your truth, intellectualized your pain, or added a disclaimer to your needs—this conversation is for you.Inside this episode, we’ll explore:✨ How your emotional intelligence might be masking emotional self-protection✨ Why being “good at communication” doesn’t always mean you’re being vulnerable✨ The subtle ways you edit your truth to preserve connection or avoid being “too much”✨ Real examples of how this shows up in your dynamic—even when love feels healthy✨ A powerful question to ask yourself to uncover what you’re really holding back✨ How your Rootprint reveals the deeper emotional role that keeps you from saying what you mean without apologyThis isn’t about sharing more. It’s about sharing what’s true—before it’s been softened for someone else’s comfort.If this hits home, it’s not because you’re doing it wrong.You’re just still protecting the part of you that never felt safe to speak before the edit.🧠 Ready to Reveal your Rootprint?Want to uncover the emotional role you're still playing in love?Take the Rootprint Quiz here to discover what’s guiding your patterns—and how to soften into your truth.🌿 Ready to meet yourself in the exact moment your pattern rises?Join the waitlist for Tending the Twinge here — a 9-day ceremony to shift how you meet your triggers—so you stop spiraling into panic, overthinking, or control and start staying rooted in the moment.Comment ROOTPRINT or TENDING on Instagram to receive your link.Follow me on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionReach out: hello@ohflowco.comCheck out the other episodes in this series — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Substack.All Episodes in this SeriesWhen Healthy Love Triggers YouUnderstanding the emotional blueprint behind your spiralsEpisode 1: Why You're Spiraling in a Healthy Relationship Episode 2: Is It a Red Flag… or Just Your Pattern?Episode 3: When You Can’t Tell If It’s Intuition or Anxiety Episode 4: You’re Not Controlling—You’re Craving Certainty Episode 5: You’re Expressing Everything—Except What You Really Feel | (current episode)Episode 6: The Real Reason You Keep Testing the Relationship | Coming July 3rd Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we’re exploring a quiet pattern that shows up even in healthy love: You don’t feel controlling—but you still scan for shifts, soften your tone, and pre-process your emotions before you speak.You don’t feel controlling. You feel careful. Considerate.But under the surface… something’s bracing.If you’ve ever found yourself managing the emotional tone of your relationship—not because it’s toxic, but because you’re scared of what might happen if you don’t—this episode is for you.Inside this conversation, we’ll gently explore:✨ The difference between caring deeply and trying to control✨ Why your nervous system learned to scan for clues long before you knew to call it control✨ How perfectionism shows up as fixing, smoothing, or pre‑empting connection—when what you really crave is safety✨ The hidden fear behind managing everything: “If I don’t, it might fall apart”✨ A tender shift from performing for love to receiving it fully… What actually happens when you loosen your grip—and how real intimacy begins to unfold💗 Ready to stay with yourself in the moment the doubt rises?Join the waitlist for Tending the Twinge — a 9-day mini-ceremony for the woman ready to meet herself in the flicker, not the fallout.🧠 Want to uncover your own Rootprint?If you're craving to stop managing the relationship and start inhabiting deeper intimacy, the Rootprint quiz will guide you to discover the emotional role you’ve been playing in love, and the healing path that unfolds beyond it.Comment ROOTPRINT on Instagram or head to this link to take the free quiz and reveal your emotional blueprint in love.Follow me on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionContact: hello@ohflowco.comCheck out the other episodes in this series — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Substack.All Episodes in this SeriesWhen Healthy Love Triggers YouUnderstanding the emotional blueprint behind your spiralsEpisode 1: Why You're Spiraling in a Healthy Relationship Episode 2: Is It a Red Flag… or Just Your Pattern?Episode 3: When You Can’t Tell If It’s Intuition or Anxiety Episode 4: You’re Not Controlling—You’re Craving Certainty | (Current episode)Episode 5: You’re Expressing Everything—Except What You Really Feel | Coming June 26thEpisode 6: The Real Reason You Keep Testing the Relationship | Coming July 3rd Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we’re exploring one of the hardest things to name when you're healing in love: How do you know if the “off” feeling you’re sensing is your intuition, or just your old patterns trying to protect you?You’ll hear:✨ How to tell the difference between real intuition and fear-based patterning✨ Why anxiety can mimic instinct when your body is wired for self-protection✨ The signs your internal dialogue is trying to keep you safe, not clear✨ How to reconnect with your intuition when past experiences have taught you not to trust it✨ The one gentle shift that helps you move from hyper-vigilance into emotional sovereigntyWe’ll walk through how calm, consistent love can still feel emotionally risky — and why learning to trust yourself again is the bridge between the spiral and your truth.💗 Ready to stay with yourself in the moment the doubt rises?Join the waitlist for Tending the Twinge — a 9-day mini-ceremony for the woman ready to meet herself in the flicker, not the fallout.🧠 Want to uncover your own Rootprint?Comment ROOTPRINT on Instagram or head to this link to take the free quiz and reveal your emotional blueprint in love.Follow me on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionContact: hello@ohflowco.comCheck out the other episodes in this series — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Substack.All Episodes in this SeriesWhen Healthy Love Triggers YouUnderstanding the emotional blueprint behind your spiralsEpisode 1: Why You're Spiraling in a Healthy Relationship Episode 2: Is It a Red Flag… or Just Your Pattern?Episode 3: When You Can’t Tell If It’s Intuition or Anxiety | (Current episode)Episode 4: You’re Not Controlling—You’re Craving Certainty | Coming June 19thEpisode 5: You’re Expressing Everything—Except What You Really Feel | Coming June 26thEpisode 6: The Real Reason You Keep Testing the Relationship | Coming July 3rd Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the biggest questions in modern love:How do you know if something is a red flag — or just your old patterns reacting?You’ll hear:✨ How to tell the difference between real red flags and emotional triggers rooted in past wounds✨ Why “Red Flag Culture” can make you question even healthy love✨ The one powerful question to ask when you’re unsure if you’re ignoring something important✨ What feels like a red flag but is actually your Rootprint (your emotional blueprint in love) at work✨ How to bring this awareness into your relationship without falling into self-blameWe’ll explore how calm, stable love can feel suspicious when your nervous system is still wired to prepare for pain — and why it’s not about ignoring your gut, but learning the language of your own safety system.🧠 Want to uncover your own Rootprint?Comment ROOTPRINT on Instagram or head to this link to take the free quiz and reveal your emotional blueprint in love.Follow me on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionContact: hello@ohflowco.com💗 Check out the other episodes in this series — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Substack.All Episodes in this Series When Healthy Love Triggers YouUnderstanding the emotional blueprint behind your spirals Episode 1: Why You're Spiraling in a Healthy RelationshipEpisode 2: Is It a Red Flag… or Just Your Pattern? | (Current episode)Episode 3: When You Can’t Tell If It’s Intuition or Anxiety | Coming June 12th Episode 4: You’re Not Controlling—You’re Craving Certainty | Coming June 19th Episode 5: You’re Expressing Everything—Except What You Really Feel | Coming June 26th Episode 6: The Real Reason You Keep Testing the Relationship | Coming July 3rd Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

In this opening episode of the series “When Healthy Love Triggers You,” we’re diving into why even the most loving, healthy relationship can stir up your oldest patterns — and why that doesn’t mean the love is wrong.You’ll hear:✨ What it means to “spiral” in a healthy relationship✨ Where the spiral comes from and why it still shows up (even after all your healing)✨ Why you need a healthy relationship to actually heal your root triggers — no matter how much solo work you’ve done✨ What “prepared protection” is and how it shapes your reactions✨ 5 real-life examples of what spiraling in healthy love can look likeWe’ll reframe the trigger, dissolve the shame, and introduce the idea of your Rootprint — the emotional blueprint beneath it all, so you can stop wondering if you’re broken and start understanding why your nervous system reacts the way it does.🧠 Want to uncover your own Rootprint?Comment ROOTPRINT on Instagram or head to this link to take the free quiz and reveal your emotional blueprint in love.Follow me on Instagram: @ohflow_connectionContact: hello@ohflowco.com💗 Check out the other episodes in this series — available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Substack.All Episodes in this Series When Healthy Love Triggers YouUnderstanding the emotional blueprint behind your spirals Episode 1: Why You're Spiraling in a Healthy Relationship | (Current episode)Episode 2: Is It a Red Flag… or Just Your Pattern? Episode 3: When You Can’t Tell If It’s Intuition or Anxiety Episode 4: You’re Not Controlling—You’re Craving Certainty Episode 5: You’re Expressing Everything—Except What You Really Feel | Coming June 26th Episode 6: The Real Reason You Keep Testing the Relationship | Coming July 3rd Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

Calling all peacekeepers, people pleasers, and women who feel deeply.You crave intimacy—the kind that feels safe, grounding, and deeply connected. But somewhere along the way, you learned that in order to keep love, you had to hold back, soften your edges, and become “easy to love.”Maybe you don’t even realize you’re doing it. Maybe you tell yourself, “It’s not worth bringing up” or “I don’t want to be difficult.” But what if avoiding conflict isn’t actually protecting your relationship—what if it’s creating distance?Peace isn’t the absence of conflict—it’s the presence of emotional safety.If you want real connection, you have to stop protecting the illusion of harmony and start creating true emotional safety—starting from within.Press play now to learn how to own your voice, release the fear of being “too much,” and finally feel free to take up space in love.Tune in to Uncover:* Are you still trying to be the “cool girl” in love? The belief that being low-maintenance makes you more lovable might be the very thing keeping you disconnected.* Even in a healthy relationship, do you still feel like you have to keep the peace? Let’s explore where that fear comes from and why it’s not actually about your partner at all.* Silencing yourself isn’t creating harmony—it’s creating distance. The real cost of holding back your emotions (and how it slowly erodes intimacy).* What if your partner isn’t actually making you feel “too much”… but you’re still finding proof that you are? How your own patterns might be keeping you stuck in this belief.* Emotional sovereignty is the real peace you’re looking for. Learn how to stop absorbing your partner’s emotions and basing your self-worth on their reactions.* You are not too much—you’ve just never felt safe to take up space. Let’s redefine what you need in love and shift into true emotional security.💫 Press play now to shift the way you show up in your relationships—starting from within.Episodes in this Series Conflict to Connection: Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your PartnerEp 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It OnEp 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship? Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or PushbackEp 6/6: (Current Episode) You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the PeaceWhat if love could feel secure, even in the hard conversations? If you’ve ever felt like you have to choose between speaking your truth and keeping the peace, I want you to know—you don’t. You can express yourself, set boundaries, and navigate conflict without fear of rejection or disconnection.🌿 Conflict to Connection is my 9-day mini-course designed to help you feel safe expressing your needs, holding your ground, and creating real emotional security in love. Inside, you’ll learn how to:✔️ Stop overthinking how to say what you need & start communicating with clarity✔️ Handle your partner’s reactions without shutting down or self-abandoning✔️ Break the cycle of conflict that leaves you feeling unheard or disconnectedYou don’t have to walk on eggshells to keep love intact. You get to feel safe, seen, and supported in your relationships.💫 Join Conflict to Connection today and start shifting the way you show up in love. Click here to learn more.Like, follow, subscribe, and share!If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.If you have questions about the topics covered in this series, please share them in the comments below. I’m here to answer your questions and keep the conversation going!Thank you for being here and for listening!x Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

If you’ve ever hesitated before speaking up in your relationship—overthinking how to phrase it, worrying about how he’ll react, or feeling guilty for even having needs—this episode is for you. We’re unpacking the hidden patterns that keep you stuck in fear of rejection or pushback, and how to start communicating your needs in a way that feels safe, confident, and deeply connecting.Maybe you’ve been here before—sitting with words caught in your throat, rehearsing how to say what you need, carefully choosing each word so it won’t come across the wrong way. You tell yourself, “It’s not a big deal, I’ll just let it go.” But deep down, a quiet voice is asking… “What about me?”This episode is for the woman who feels deeply, loves deeply, but struggles to trust that her needs are safe to be expressed. If you’ve ever held back from speaking up—because you didn’t want to feel like a burden, because you feared rejection, or because you didn’t want to “ruin the moment” in love—this is your invitation to shift that pattern.Love is not something you have to earn by being easygoing, agreeable, or selfless. You are worthy of deep emotional safety—just as you are. Press play, and let’s shift the way you show up in love.Tune in to uncover:* Do you hesitate to express what you need because you don’t want to seem needy or make things uncomfortable?* Why speaking up in relationships can feel so vulnerable—even when you know your needs are valid.* The hidden patterns that might be making you second-guess yourself before you even say a word.* How to express your needs in a way that feels natural, safe, and actually brings you closer to your partner.* The simple mindset shift that helps you stop over-explaining, minimizing, or waiting for the "perfect moment" to speak up.✨ If this episode is speaking to you… if you’re realizing how often you hold back in love—not because you don’t know what you need, but because you’re afraid of how it will be received—then I want to invite you into something special.Conflict to Connection is my mini-course designed to help you navigate difficult conversations in your relationship in a way that makes you feel closer, not more distant. Inside, you’ll learn how to:✔️ Express your needs without over-explaining, shutting down, or fearing rejection✔️ Handle your partner’s reactions without taking them personally✔️ Feel emotionally safe in love—even when the conversation feels hardThis isn’t about learning “better communication skills” in a surface-level way. It’s about breaking the cycles that make conflict feel unsafe, so you can stop tiptoeing around the things that truly matter.Right now, Conflict to Connection is available on pre-sale for just 27€ until February 17th—after that, the price will increase. If you know this is the next step in your journey, now is the time to join.💫 Click here to join Conflict to Connection now. 💫(If you’re listening to this later, the course is still available! Just check the link for current pricing and details.)Episodes in this series: Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your PartnerEp 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It OnEp 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship? Ep 5/6: (Current Episode) How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or PushbackEp 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the PeaceLike, follow, subscribe, and share!If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.If you have questions about the topics covered in this series, please share them in the comments below. I’m here to answer your questions and keep the conversation going!Thank you for being here and for listening!x Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

Could conflict be a missing piece toward a deeper connection within your relationship?In the fourth episode of the Conflict to Connection Series, we answer the question: “Is conflict really as bad as we have been taught it to be?”Through our lives, experiences growing up, and conditioning (think movies, books, the media) to believe that “conflict” is the problem. Conflict is not the problem.The problem is how we approach conflict. This determines whether it creates dissonance or deepens intimacy. However, most of us aren’t sat down and taught how to navigate conflict or moments of tension. We see what our parents did or the people around us, and we mirror them. And suddenly, without evening realizing it, these cycles become our lives and influence the quality of the relationships we have. So let’s explore why this is, what the symptoms of unhealthy conflict are, and how you can begin shifting towards healthy conflict that allows moments of tension to act as friction that deepens your relationship. The Pre-Sale for my new Mini-Course “Conflict to Connection” is starting soon. Comment or DM me “CONNECTION” for more details on the pre-sale or keep your eyes peeled here.Until then… Upcoming Free Workshop: The 3-Step Framework to go from Conflict to ConnectionAre you ready to turn conflict into connection and feel CLOSER to your partner—without losing your voice in the process?Come hang out with me in this 20-minute workshop. Sign up for free below.In Episode 4 of the Conflict to Connection series, it’s time to talk about the importance of conflict.Tune in to uncover: * the concept of conflict and how you’ve been taught that conflict is bad* Why conflict is not the problem and what is actually the problem instead* Unpacking your experience around conflict growing up and how that informs how you deal with conflict in your relationship now* Symptoms of unhealthy conflict and how it’s showing up in your relationship (and what to do instead)* The two things you need to make conflict a powerful and positive thing within your relationship, and how to use it to create deeper connection with your partnerEpisodes in this series: Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your PartnerEp 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It OnEp 4/6: (Current Episode) Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship? Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or PushbackEp 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the PeaceLike, follow, subscribe, and share!If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.If you have questions about the topics covered in this series, please share them in the comments below. I’m here to answer your questions and keep the conversation going!Thank you for being here and for listening!x Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

This episode is for you if you recognize yourself having a tough time navigating when your partner is upset. This could be when they are upset in general, stressed out about work or life, or when navigating conflict between the two of you. For example, you were honest about something with them, and now you’re dealing with their emotional reaction… and since you feel like the “reason” they are now upset, you now also feel responsible for making it “better.” I get it - you want your people to feel good and be happy. But, it is also exhausting to be in a relationship or dynamic, where you are not only worrying about your own emotional well-being and regulating yourself but also needing to do that for the other person.What ends up happening, is you sacrifice your own needs in order to fix things for your partner or bring the situation back to “harmony” … even if it isn’t “honest harmony.”Now, I feel it’s important to add, that you may have an incredible partner and a generally healthy relationship. It is not your partner’s fault that you respond in this way. This comes down to a deeper cycle playing out, about how you believe relationships are meant to work and what your role is. Your partner is also allowed to have their feelings, and as mature adults, they can take responsibility to regulate their emotions. This episode is to help you address your part of this cycle and how you can release this need to “fix” or the overwhelm you feel in moments of tension because of this. Upcoming Free Workshop: The 3-Step Framework to go from Conflict to ConnectionAre you ready to turn conflict into connection and feel CLOSER to your partner—without losing your voice in the process?Come hang out with me in this 20-minute workshop. Sign up for free below.In Episode 3 of the Conflict to Connection series, it’s time to talk about emotional boundaries.Tune in to uncover: * How to navigate your relationship and your emotions when your partner is upset* Why you are feeling drained because you sacrifice your needs for the greater harmony of the relationship* How to not feel responsible for fixing your partner’s emotions and reactions* Symptoms of how this can show up in your relationship* How to regulate your emotions through difficult conversationsEpisodes in this series: Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your PartnerEp 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?Ep 3/6: (Current Episode) How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It OnEp 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship? Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or PushbackEp 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the PeaceLike, follow, subscribe, and share!If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.If you have questions about the topics covered in this series, please share them in the comments below. I’m here to answer your questions and keep the conversation going!Thank you for being here and for listening!x Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

You know when you want to share something but it doesn’t seem to come out right? You worry that you’ll be misunderstood or judged for what you are sharing. Perhaps, you are so worried about how it might hurt your partner, that you choose to sugarcoat your real feelings. Or you opt for saying nothing at all. Maybe you talk a LOT. But somehow, exactly WHAT you want to say isn’t being communicated or you choose to stick to lighter topics, wanting to avoid any tension.So whether you are the BEST talker in the world or you second guess everything before (and after) it comes out of your mouth, is communication really THE biggest key when it comes to relationships? Could it be, that there is something else that can make or break just how deeply connected your relationship can be?Press play for the second episode in this series Conflict to Connection, and let’s find out! Upcoming Free Workshop: The 3-Step Framework to go from Conflict to ConnectionAre you ready to turn conflict into connection and feel CLOSER to your partner—without losing your voice in the process?Come hang out with me in this 20-minute workshop. Sign up for free below.In Episode 2 of the Conflict to Connection series, it’s time to talk about communication. Tune in for: * Why it’s not “all” about communication (and what it’s actually about)* How most people communicate and what’s missing* Surface level vs. deep end communication* The main underlying fears and beliefs that are standing in your way of communicating your needs honestly and authentically* How to communicate both your emotional needs and your core wounds with your partnerEpisodes in this series: Ep 1/6: Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your PartnerEp 2/6: (Current Episode) Is It Really ALL About Communication?Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It OnEp 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship? Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or PushbackEp 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the PeaceLike, follow, subscribe, and share!If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.If you have questions about the topics covered in this series, please share them in the comments below. I’m here to answer your questions and keep the conversation going!Thank you for being here and for listening! x Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

Do you tend to downplay your needs or push things aside, thinking “It’s not such a big deal” or “It’s not worth getting into a disagreement about this right now and making it a bigger thing?”Are you not voicing a need or a feeling unless it feels relevant to a bigger issue?Are you taking care of everything for everyone else, ensuring everything remains harmonious and balanced?Your needs matter. To authentically and confidently share your needs so that your partner can show up for you the way you desire, the foundation for connected communication must be set. It’s easy to stay caught up in a cycle where you downplay your true needs (especially as empaths) because it’s “not that big of a deal,” simply because you want to avoid potential conflict. Long-term, this only leads to more disconnect and feelings of isolation. In this new series Conflict to Connection, we will be exploring how conflict can actually cultivate deeper intimacy in your relationship, and how to lean into it through deep and vulnerable communication.Tune in to this first episode in the series to find out:* Why you are not addressing your needs or downplaying them, and you don’t even know it* If you are actually sharing your needs or if you’re just really good at talking a lot* Why you feel disconnected in your relationship and that it’s not about your partner (*gasp*)* Why being an empathetic person who meets everyone else’s needs actually makes it harder to meet your own* How to have the (difficult) conversation with your partner - and the mistake that you’re making when you’re sharing your needsEpisodes in this series: Ep 1/6: (Current Episode) Confidently Communicate Your Needs with Your PartnerEp 2/6: Is It Really ALL About Communication?Ep 3/6: How to Navigate Your Partners’ Upset — Without Taking It OnEp 4/6: Can Conflict Strengthen Your Relationship? Ep 5/6: How to Say What You Need in Love — Without Fear of Rejection or PushbackEp 6/6: You're Not ‘Too Much’: Stop Silencing Yourself to Keep the PeaceLike, follow, subscribe, and share!If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.If you have questions about the topics covered in this series, please share them in the comments below. I’m here to answer your questions and keep the conversation going!Thank you for being here and for listening! x Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever noticed that you present a different version of yourself based on the social context? Similarly, do you notice that this also adjusts based on the group? It is natural to adjust ourselves to fit in. It is a primal part of ensuring your survival. However, when we dig a little deeper, there is a thin line between fitting into the social group and actually adjusting who you are.Through conditioning and socialization, your upbringing will have taught you not just what to do to fit in but WHO to BE.Now, as we dive into the final episode of this four-part Holiday Relationship Dynamics Series, we are addressing just that: the masks you wear, the personas you present, and how you might be (unknowingly) playing these out in your family environments this holiday season.Authenticity is an absolute “hype-word” as of late, however, it remains true, that the more fully you show up as yourself, the more aligned relationships you will cultivate.Let’s talk about how you can do that this holiday season with your partners, parents, family, and beyond!Tune into this final episode for: * Explore what it really means to “show up authentically” around family, friends, and loved ones, even in the most complex situations (and how your brain tries to stop you).* How to let go of social masks and “shoulds” to transform your holiday experience and create deeper connections.* Learn how to shift out of needing the situation around to be “good” for you to feel good internally.* Find out why you may very well be the BIGGEST trigger in your family, and how to navigate this by remaining true to yourself.* Discover how authenticity reduces stress and increases joy, making your time together feel meaningful and real.Like, follow, subscribe, and share!If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.If you have questions about the topics covered in this series, please share them in the comments below, or send me an email or DM.Thank you for being here and for listening!x Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe

In part three of the four-part “Holiday Relationship Series,” we are getting into navigating specific situations within your family this holiday season. Whether you have lovely family connections, but sometimes find yourself getting so annoyed by your mom’s need to ask you a million times if you want something else to eat, or you are returning to some more challenging dynamics, this episode will give you a framework for navigating whatever arises.Moreover, the dynamics at play might very well bleed into your own partnership, affecting or putting a strain on your relationship. Knowing how to communicate your needs and process your emotions, on your own and within your partnership, is going to be key to staying grounded and balanced.In the end, your peace during this time is your priority. Holding space for your needs and desires, making time for rest, and allowing yourself to withdraw healthily, are all ways to honour yourself. Let’s talk about how you can lean into this.In this episode, we’re diving into: * Discover why family gatherings can be challenging for relationships and bring out hidden insecurities or tension.* Learn how to set boundaries that protect you (and your relationship) from outside stressors, conflict or criticism.* Find out why some old family patterns still trigger you, even as an adult, and how to handle these moments with more compassion and emotional neutrality.* The reason why traditional boundary setting isn’t “enough” when it comes to successfully setting boundaries and standards (and why it feels hard AF to stick to them).* Two actionable strategies for Get strategies to feel supported and set boundaries that actually work, so you can navigate any situation that comes up, together. Like, follow, subscribe, and share!If you enjoyed this episode or you love the Essence podcast, please take a moment to comment, leave a rating and review, or share this podcast with someone in your life who you think would appreciate or benefit from it! This helps us reach more listeners and build out this beautiful community.If you have questions about the topics covered in this series, please share them in the comments below, or send me an email or DM.Thank you for being here and for listening!x Get full access to The Flow of Connection with Olivia Heine at oliviaheineohflow.substack.com/subscribe