Every Moment is a Choice

In this episode, Erika Behl talks with Dr. Damini Chawla, a board-certified dentist turned speaker.Damini shares her journey from clinical practice to the stage, emphasizing the importance of effective communication and inclusivity.They discuss the challenges of cross-cultural communication, the role of empathy, and the significance of meeting people where they are.Damini also shares personal stories from her life, including her experiences growing up in multiple countries and her career transition. This episode is filled with insights on personal growth, understanding cultural differences, and finding one's voice.CONNECT✩ everymomentpodcast.com✩ Instagram - @every_moment_is_a_choice_✩ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behl✩ YouTube - @every_moment_is_a_choice_SCENARIO CARDS✩ scenariocards.org/ERIKACode: ERIKA10TIMESTAMPSThe Story of Auntie Karen (00:00:00) Damini shares a humorous story about a skeptical patient, illustrating the importance of meeting people where they are.Career Transition (00:03:12) Damini discusses her shift from dentistry to speaking and the creative passion that drove this change.First Steps on Stage (00:06:15) Damini recounts her initial experiences in public speaking and how she discovered her love for the stage.Developing a Message (00:08:36) The conversation explores the evolution of Damini's message and her focus on effective communication.Meeting People Where They Are (00:11:25) Damini elaborates on the concept of meeting people where they are and its significance in communication.Hundred Conversations Project (00:13:45) Damini shares insights from her project of meeting a hundred different people to understand their communication challenges.Personal Journey and Cultural Adaptation(00:19:00) Damini reflects on her childhood, cultural transitions, and how these experiences shaped her views on communication.Challenges in Hong Kong (00:33:41) A deep dive into Damini's time in Hong Kong and the personal and professional challenges she faced.Lessons on Communication (00:42:43) Erika and Damini discuss the role of listening and understanding in effective communication and personal growth.Future Goals and Aspirations (00:53:28) Damini shares her aspirations, including writing a book, starting a podcast, and her dream of delivering a TED Talk.#EveryMomentisaChoice

In this episode of "Every Moment is a Choice," I'm joined by Shiao-Yin Kuik, a cultural change strategist and founder of Common Ground Consultancy and Civic Centre. Shiao-Yin thoughtfully shares her non-linear journey from studying architecture to becoming a nominated member of parliament in Singapore, and now as a leader in organizational development.Shiao-Yin's insights into her spiritual motivation and how she incorporates them into her secular work in culture and societal change provide a refreshing perspective on leadership.She now creates safe spaces for leaders to explore their internal challenges to build better, more thoughtful leadership in both the business world and society.https://ourcommonground.com.sgCONNECT✩ everymomentpodcast.com✩ Instagram - @every_moment_is_a_choice_✩ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behl✩ YouTube - @every_moment_is_a_choice_SCENARIO CARDS✩ scenariocards.org/ERIKACode: ERIKA10TIMESTAMPSCulture Change as a Career(00:02:32) From studying architecture to starting a tuition centre as a way to reach students to teach them the thinking skills they were missing, Shiao-Yin shares her non-linear path to a career in social good.Serving in Singapore's Parliament(00:15:57) Shiao-Yin served two terms as a Nominated Member of Singapore's Parliament--she shares what she learned about change at the societal level and herself when there was no instruction manual.Leadership and Finding One's Voice(00:21:21) How important it is for leaders to understand their identity to lead change, based on Shiao-Yin's work with leaders across the spectrum.Transitioning Her Business Model(00:46:46) Shiao-Yin talks about the dissolution of her business partnership and the evolution of her current consultancy approach.Integrating Spiritual and Organizational Development(00:50:58) Addressing deep-seated personal issues in organizational leadership and the concept of 'The Soul at Work.'Personal Spiritual Awakening(00:59:12) Shiao-Yin describes her spiritual awakening during university, how it influenced her life choices, and its impact on her professional and personal growth.Future Vision and Personal Growth(01:01:15) Shiao-Yin shares her future aspirations, including her interest in spiritual direction and leading retreats for leaders.#EveryMomentisaChoice

In this episode of "Every Moment is a Choice," host Erika Behl explores Jin Shaun Ang's transition from a diverse corporate career in tech, government, and education to founding "Stranger Conversations."Motivated by a desire to make an impact outside traditional corporate structures, Jin Shaun shares why he decided to leave his stable career to create a community focused on genuine connections—even amongst strangers. This bold move was driven by his passion for innovation and facilitating interactions beyond conventional boundaries.Jin Shaun reveals what people seek within the "Stranger Conversations" community; a place that attracts individuals eager to step outside their comfort zones, engage in deep, meaningful interactions, and find inspiration and support among like-minded people.Jin Shaun's story exemplifies the transformative power of following one's curiosity and the impact of creating a space for intentional community engagement.@strangerconvosCONNECT✩ everymomentpodcast.com✩ Instagram - @every_moment_is_a_choice_✩ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behl✩ YouTube - @every_moment_is_a_choice_SCENARIO CARDS✩ scenariocards.org/ERIKACode: ERIKA10TIMESTAMPSThe Genesis of Stranger Conversations(00:01:59) Jin Shaun discusses the origins of his project, beginning during the COVID-19 pandemic, and his motivations behind creating a community for meaningful dialogues.Career Journey and Inspiration(00:02:15) Jin Shaun shares insights from his diverse career path and the consistent theme of seeking innovative solutions across various industries.The First Community Event(00:08:01) What happened during the first "Stranger Conversations" event on Clubhouse, including guest interactions and the initial audience response.Building a Supportive Community(00:17:06) Insights into the growth of the community, emphasizing the importance of serendipitous encounters and mutual support among members.Realizing the Impact and Potential of the Community(00:25:09) Jin Shaun reflects on moments that underscored the potential of "Stranger Conversations" to foster a genuine community.Challenges and Rewards of Community Building(00:26:20) Discussion on the occasional challenges faced and the unexpected rewards from hosting community events.The Role of Intentional Space in Community Building(00:41:30) Jin Shaun explores the concept of creating physical and metaphorical spaces that facilitate community interactions and personal growth.Looking Forward(00:49:24) Future aspirations for "Stranger Conversations," including the potential expansion of community activities and maintaining the ethos of meaningful engagement.#EveryMomentisaChoice

Join me as I speak with Rae Fung, a dynamic young entrepreneur who transformed her lack of self-esteem into a powerful platform for helping others 'Own Their Voice'.From a self-conscious student to a confident speaker, educator, and business owner by her mid-20s, Rae shares the secret of embracing one's true self.Her mission to create safe spaces for everyone to speak up and share their unique gifts offers a fresh and energetic perspective on personal development and community building.From the nuances of building a personal brand to empowering individuals to speak up in their personal and professional lives, Rae and Erika explore what it means to truly own one's voice.https://raefung.comCONNECT✩ everymomentpodcast.com✩ Instagram - @every_moment_is_a_choice_✩ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behl✩ YouTube - @every_moment_is_a_choice_SCENARIO CARDS✩ scenariocards.org/ERIKACode: ERIKA10TIMESTAMPSDiscovering One’s Voice(00:02:04) Rae shares her transformative journey from low self-esteem to becoming a voice for others, underscoring the importance of owning one's narrative.The Impact of Authenticity(00:09:22) Rae discusses how authenticity in personal branding can dramatically affect one's professional and personal growth.Embracing Social Media(00:17:08) Rae shares how to leverage social media effectively for personal and professional branding.Challenges of Cultural and Generational Differences(00:25:34) The challenges and opportunities presented by cultural and generational diversity in the workplace.The Power of Vulnerability(00:34:10) We discuss how vulnerability can transform leadership and foster deeper connections within teams.Overcoming Imposter Syndrome(00:42:15) They explore strategies to combat imposter syndrome, emphasizing the importance of self-belief.Personal Branding Insights(00:50:42) Rae provides practical advice on building a personal brand that genuinely reflects one’s values and strengths.Leadership and Empathy(00:58:55) The discussion highlights how empathy and understanding are crucial for effective leadership in today’s intergenerational work environments.The Future of Personal Development(01:07:29) Rae shares her vision for the future of personal development focused on voice and authenticity.Rae’s Vision for Global Impact(01:16:04) Rae expresses her ambitious goal of helping people worldwide find and use their unique voices for a better, more connected world.#EveryMomentisaChoice

Join Natalia Rachel and I as we unravel the complexities of trauma, healing, and the journey towards reclaiming our power. Natalia, a therapist, speaker, and author renowned for her groundbreaking work in trauma recovery, shares her personal odyssey from the depths of misdiagnosis and physical ailment to a life radiating with peace and power. We discuss the nuanced dimensions of trauma, the importance of trauma-informed environments, and the transformative power of human connection in healing. https://www.nataliarachel.comCONNECT✩ everymomentpodcast.com✩ Instagram - @every_moment_is_a_choice_✩ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behl✩ YouTube - @every_moment_is_a_choice_SCENARIO CARDS✩ scenariocards.org/ERIKACode: ERIKA10TIMESTAMPSHealing is a Complex Journey(00:00:00) Opening discussion on the healing journey's challenges, followed by Natalia Rachel's introduction, highlighting her personal and professional background in trauma recovery.Defining Trauma(00:03:20) A deep dive into the widespread misconceptions around trauma, and Natalia's clear, comprehensive definition and understanding of its nuanced nature.Origins of Trauma(00:07:34) We explore trauma's occurrence at different life stages, including the collective trauma experienced globally due to the COVID-19 pandemic.Physical and Psychological Manifestations(00:10:48) Rich provides a counterintuitive take on the impact of AI on jobs, emphasizing AI's role in enhancing human work rather than replacing it.Human Catalysts(00:15:02) The significance of human catalysts in the healing process, underscored by Natalia’s own story of recovery and the pivotal role of supportive relationships.Self-Care and Forgiveness(00:26:04) Insights into self-care strategies, the nuanced role of forgiveness in healing, and the importance of choosing to move beyond one’s trauma.Navigating Trauma in the Presence of Perpetrators(00:32:19) On the complexities of healing while maintaining contact with those who may have contributed to one's trauma, emphasizing the need for boundaries and self-protection.Trauma-Informed Leadership(00:36:39) Natalia’s insights into becoming a human catalyst for others and the critical role of trauma-informed leadership in fostering societal change.Breaking the Cycle(00:42:39) The impact of conscious parenting on breaking cycles of trauma, including the need for parents to embark on their healing journeys for the benefit of future generations.Healing and Societal Transformation(00:48:15) The power of individual healing to effect global change, the importance of reclaiming one's agency, and the optimistic perspective on societal transformation through personal growth.#EveryMomentisaChoice

Sit down with Rich Wilson, co-founder and CEO of Gigged.ai, as we explore the intertwining paths of personal growth, the evolution of the workforce, and the transformative power of facing our limitations.From Rich's harrowing journey through acute stress and burnout to the innovative approaches of Gigged.ai in navigating the tech talent shortage, this episode is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the changing landscape of work in the digital age.CONNECT✩ everymomentpodcast.com✩ Instagram - @every_moment_is_a_choice_✩ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behl✩ YouTube - @every_moment_is_a_choice_SCENARIO CARDS✩ scenariocards.org/ERIKACode: ERIKA10TIMESTAMPSA Wake-Up Call(00:00:00) Rich Wilson opens up about his personal health crisis, stemming from chronic stress and a demanding lifestyle, leading to a pivotal moment with his doctor that would change his trajectory forever.From Glasgow to Gigged.ai(00:02:36) Rich shares his journey from his roots in Glasgow to becoming the CEO of a company revolutionizing the way FTSE 100 companies approach the tech talent shortage.The Future of Work and Freelancing(00:16:11) A deep dive into how COVID-19 has shifted perceptions towards freelance work and the emerging culture of side hustles, signaling a dramatic transformation in the workforce.AI and Human Talent(00:20:06) Rich provides a counterintuitive take on the impact of AI on jobs, emphasizing AI's role in enhancing human work rather than replacing it.Building Community in a Fractional World(00:31:22) Exploring the importance of community and social connection in an era where more people are choosing fractional or remote work over traditional office settings.Personal Battle with Burnout(00:42:52) Rich recounts his personal experience with burnout, offering insights into the physical and mental toll it took on him, and the steps he took towards recovery.A New Beginning(00:57:00) Rich discusses the lessons learned from his battle with burnout, leading to the creation of Gigged.ai and his commitment to a healthier, more balanced approach to work and life.Avoiding Burnout in Startup Culture(01:08:45) How Rich is applying his personal experiences to foster a supportive, burnout-aware culture within his own company.#EveryMomentisaChoice

Erika sits down with dominatrix, entrepreneur, model, advocate and performance artist Eva Oh, aka Mistress Eva, to discuss her unique lifestyle and views on sex work, human connection, and knowing your worth, plus much more.www.eva-oh.comCONNECT✩ everymomentpodcast.com✩ Instagram - @every_moment_is_a_choice_✩ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behl✩ YouTube - @every_moment_is_a_choice_SCENARIO CARDS✩ scenariocards.org/ERIKACode: ERIKA10TIMESTAMPSIntroduction to the Episode(00:00:00) Host Erika Behl introduces the podcast and welcomes Eva Oh, providing an overview of Eva's diverse background as a dominatrix, entrepreneur, advocate, and more.Defining Domination(00:02:17) Eva Oh breaks down common misconceptions about domination, explaining its psychological aspects and the importance of creativity and observation in her profession.Sexuality and Emotional Connections(00:05:30) Discussion on the complexity of sexuality, the emotional depth of BDSM, and how Eva facilitates connections that go beyond physical gratification.Journey to Becoming Mistress Eva(00:08:15) Eva shares her transition from strategy consulting to becoming a dominatrix, highlighting her initial motivations and the learning curve involved.Clientele and Dynamics of Submission(00:14:06) Insight into the types of clients Eva encounters, the impact of societal roles on submission, and how power dynamics play out in sessions.Societal Impacts and Personal Desires(00:17:20) Exploring the societal pressures that shape submissive desires, the cultural aspects of dominance, and how personal fulfillment is pursued within BDSM.Eva's Approach to Domination(00:21:06) A look into Eva's personal style of domination, including her focus on mental engagement and creativity in her sessions.Balancing Professional and Personal Life(00:25:00) Eva discusses the intersection of her professional dominatrix identity with her personal life, including family reactions and societal judgments.Expanding Beyond In-Person Sessions(00:29:02) Eva talks about extending her influence through online platforms, mentoring, and how she uses her position to advocate for sex workers' rights.Reflections and Looking Forward(00:33:43) Concluding thoughts on Eva's journey, the importance of self-awareness, and her continuous effort to empower and educate others about BDSM and sexuality.#EveryMomentisaChoice

150,000 first dates set up. Goal: one million happy marriages.Violet Lim, CEO and Chief Cupid at Lunch Actually, is the unassuming force behind Asia's largest dating and matchmaking serviceWith 19 years in the business, Violet's philosophy of curated, blind first dates has withstood the rise of dating apps and "swipe" culture.An unlikely cupid, Violet shares how her personal history led to her calling to help people find and create better relationships.Listen in to hear Violet's antidote to the curse of superficiality and the "commoditization" of dating. She emphasizes the importance of not just finding the "right one" but understanding ourselves first so that we can BE the "right one" as well.With the data to back up her insights, Violet shares how we should approach dating and relationships to find more fulfillment and what the future of dating could look like.Finding a partner is one of the most important choices that we make! Settle in and enjoy Violet's stories of life in the business of love--no strings attached :)Timestamps(00:01:22) Meet Violet Lim: CEO and Chief Cupid(00:02:24) The birth of Lunch Actually(00:07:23) Big Hairy Audacious Goals(00:11:01) Blind dates in an age of swiping: why Violet's philosophy hasn't changed in 19 years(00:15:30) The role of technology in human matchmaking(00:21:46) We're like nutritionists, not waitresses...the role of the matchmaker(00:24:25) Number 1 Pitfall: Dating Mindset(00:27:20) Challenges of modern dating(00:28:54) The art of choosing the "right one"(00:34:22) Changing attitudes toward marriage(00:40:13) How Violet stays motivated(00:44:44) The future of dating and finding happiness in relationshipsFind out more about Lunch Actually, and Violet's story here:www.lunchactually.comAnd to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

"When we tell stories, we build bridges instead of walls".On this episode I'm joined by the captivating Anna Ong, ex-banker turned storyteller and host of the curated storytelling competition What's Your Story Slam, held in Singapore and Manila.As a storytelling coach, keynote speaker, and guru for corporate leaders who seek to use storytelling as a leadership tool, Anna delves into the power we can unleash by crafting our personal narratives to create connections with other people. Whether it's on stage or in the boardroom, Anna unveils the gifts we all possess in our experiences when they are crafted into stories we can share with the world. Anna's own life story is inspirational as she shares how she left behind the security of a banking job to venture out and create her narrative by following her passion for storytelling into a new career.Prepare to get inspired to tell your own story once you listen to this episode! Timestamps(00:01:05) Meet Anna Ong(00:04:20) The importance of sensory elements in storytelling(00:12:30) The motivation to tell stories(00:15:19) Empowering people through storytelling(00:19:41) Storytelling in leadership(00:30:04) The Power of Personal Narratives(00:31:01) The birth of "What's Your Story Slam?"(00:36:36) Expanding Beyond Storytelling(00:46:12) The importance of observation and continuous adventures(00:47:28) Living a life as a story(00:49:07) Empowering women to speak upFind out more about Anna and her storytelling work and show here:https://www.anna-ong.comInstagramYoutubeAnd to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

Do you think that meditation is only for yogis or monks? Think again.If you consider yourself a highly rational, logical, "thinking" person, please listen to this conversation with Danielle Van de Velde: meditation teacher, healer, transformative leader, author, and coach to multinational organisations as well as individuals.Danielle works with people who identify a need for spiritual healing, but also with corporate teams and leaders who want to work better together. She shares her insights on intentionality and how important it is to learn to tap into our spiritual intelligence. She discusses the importance of breathwork in increasing self-awareness and enhancing our physical and mental health.In addition, Danielle highlights the power of choice in achieving greatness and overcoming obstacles, and the direct impact of our choices on the energy patterns and events in our lives.We both transitioned from the corporate world, so this is a great conversation for those who are new to meditation or exploring their spiritual selves--including new ways of looking at stress and how we can work with the external environment, rather than control it.Timestamps:(01:50) Exploring Meditation and Spirituality(02:34) Understanding the Role of Meditation in Modern Life(03:46) The Healing Power of Energy and Spirituality(05:43) Growing Interest in Heart Intelligence and Energy Fields in Business(09:59) Meditation Goes Mainstream Post-COVID(12:24) Approaching Spirituality from a Corporate Background(13:53) Accessing Spiritual Intelligence after Burnout and Illness(19:19) Exploring Stress as Attachment and Judgment(24:43) The Power of Choice in Creating Personal Reality(35:19) Interplay of Inner and Outer Vibrational Reality(37:27) Understanding External Reality: It Comes From Us(39:01) Introduction to Pranayama Breathwork(43:42) The Spirited Living Community: A Journey Together(53:23) Living Intentionally is Serving Others(58:10) The Search for Purpose: A Personal Journey(01:02:37) Closing Thoughts: The Power of Baby StepsFind out more about Danielle here:www.daniellevandevelde.comResources:The Spirited Living CommunityDanielle's book, SpiritedPodcast: The Modern CroneHer free guided meditation tracks: Insight Timer.And to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

It started with a walk around a Singapore reservoir with a colleague, instead of going to a bar to discuss business over a beer.Hundreds of loops later, Tom Platts is on track to complete a journey of 4,400 km (equivalent to walking from Singapore to India) within one year, to raise awareness and funds for dementia.The "Macritchie Challenge" has grown into a journey of discovery--for Tom, for the hundreds of people from over 30 countries who have joined him for a loop, and for Dementia Singapore, the organisation he is supporting through this effort.Along the way, Tom's deeper path has revealed itself--the power of connection, an appreciation of wildlife, and an understanding that everyone you meet is dealing with things you cannot see.Hear Tom's story as we walk Loop #276 of the challenge in this episode (with wildlife sightings along the way!).As the challenge will end in January, Tom invites more people to join him to support Dementia Singapore, and to experience this path to connecting with a cause, and to yourself.Timestamps:(01:30) The Challenge: Walking for Dementia Awareness(01:53) First Steps and Initial Challenges(04:01) The Personal Impact: Reflections and Insights(15:21) The MacRitchie Challenge: Rules and Achievements(23:15) The Impact: Raising Funds and Awareness for Dementia(30:23) Encounters with Wildlife(41:14) Looking Ahead and Reflecting on the Journey(51:51) The Path Reveals ItselfConnect with Tom here to join him for a loop (before January 13th 2024), and to learn more about him:https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-platts-18924475The Macritchie Challenge aims to raise $100,000 for Dementia Singapore:https://www.giving.sg/donate/campaign/campaigns_macritchie_challenge_2023And to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

Loneliness is an epidemic.But amongst executives and leaders, it can be even more devastating, because it's a silent epidemic.Combine a high-pressure environment, professional stigma, and lack of support: it's a recipe for loneliness that can lead to depression, addiction, and even suicide.But there is hope.Nick Jonsson opens up with his raw personal journey through loneliness, addiction, and recovery to where he is today--a mental wellness advocate for executives, a successful Ironman triathlete, and the Co-Founder and MD of Asia's largest confidential executive peer network.Listen in to hear his five steps for executives and leaders to regain their lives if they are suffering from loneliness.Vulnerability may be hard, but dealing with isolation and depression is harder. Nick chooses his new path every day. Listen in to hear how you can too.Timestamps:(00:00) Vulnerability is essential for leadership(09:44) Nick's story of overcoming addiction and sharing vulnerability(11:02) Seeking help is essential(19:07) Exercise for mental and physical health(22:51) Clean up past, make amends(25:27) Recovery is finding purpose beyond oneself(32:33) Break the silence(35:29) Invest in executive mental health(40:48) The power of vulnerabilityYou can connect with Nick here:https://www.linkedin.com/in/nick-jonssonAnd Executives Global Network (Asia)::https://www.egnpeernetwork.comNick's book, Executive Loneliness: The 5 Pathways to Overcoming Isolation, Stress, Anxiety & Depression in the Modern Business World, is available everywhere.And to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

In the face of loss, individuals navigate their grief in unique ways. Bessie Yang Lewis, confronted with the profound loss of her husband to an ultra-rare cancer, discovered an unforeseen outlet—she turned to blogging.In this episode, she shares her journey through grief, the shift from caregiver and advocate to widow, the tender remembrances that live on, and how she is now making meaning of her new life.Bessie is charting her own path, finding joy and beauty in the world, as well as a desire to advocate for rare disease support and those impacted by it.For our listeners, Bessie articulates helpful tips about how to support those who are grieving, what you need to know as a caregiver for those with rare diseases, and what life lessons she learned along the way to help all of us.This episode is also a tribute to Scott Lewis, a high school friend of mine, a loving and devoted partner to Bessie, and a dedicated teacher to numerous students. An all-around funny, smart, and caring guy whose big bear hugs warmed our hearts.Timestamps:(02:14) Battling a Rare Cancer(05:24) A Caregiver's Journey(12:20) Remembering Scott: A Remarkable Friend(18:50) A Teacher Who Touched Hearts(24:01) Navigating Loss: A Journey of Love, Grief, and Resilience(34:47) Every Moment is a Choice: Finding Meaning in Presence(41:41) The Power of Gratitude and Rediscovering Joy(49:24) Climbing Without You(54:22) Leaving a Legacy(01:02:25) Advocating for Rare Diseases: A Personal Journey(01:05:07) Finding Hope and Healing After LossYou can find Bessie's blog about her journey here:https://scottandbessie.blogspot.com/And the Pheo Para Alliance:https://pheopara.org/And to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

"It's just a f***ing play."--James Thoo, award-winning screenwriter, playwright, author, and one-time pro boxer, after he'd dedicated four months of his life to writing, directing, and producing what became a sold-out show.For someone with an exacting precision with words (he gently corrects actors' lines because he can hear that the number of syllables is off) and a creative writing talent that he's honed since childhood, James argues that mental health (his own, and that of his family and colleagues) is paramount.Join the conversation as James and I explore the intersection of creative ambition and responsibility, the tendency to romanticise "suffering for art", and the choices we make when bringing our visions to life.Listen to learn more about the choices you have in how you use your talent and its impact on the world, and how to establish your own voice when everyone is trying to capture attention.(00:02:46) It's just a f***ing play.(00:04:06) Romanticizing the importance of art.(00:07:43) Encouraging open-mindedness about mental health.(00:11:21) Bringing creative control to life.(00:14:09) The importance of rhythm.(00:17:27) Envy and social media.(00:22:04) Marginalized communities and creative expression.(00:24:19) Supporting underdogs in the arts.(00:28:04) Finding my strengths in childhood.(00:32:08) Sarcastic writing and feuds.(00:34:29) Being unique in a crowded world.(00:38:11) Personal subject matter and humor.(00:42:27) About boxing (and not giving up).(00:44:55) Briefly, you were a pro boxer...(00:49:38) The changing nature of writing.(00:51:07) Personal values and creative control.(00:56:30) What next? Singaporean stories that travel.(01:00:01) What the world would look like...You can find out more about James here:@jamesthooycjamesthoo.comHis book, Palooka: 12 Rounds to FatherhoodAnd to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

Hi everyone, this is my 10th episode and I wanted to share why I started this podcast.Sometimes something happens that shakes your life up; and creates a new canvas on which the rest of your life is written. For me, it was a cancer diagnosis.I sought to control most things in my life until I realised that we really don't control much. Change, especially abrupt change, shatters that illusion. Seeking meaning, I read Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" after my diagnosis, and within that book, I found the most empowering concept I've ever come across:What we can control is our response to whatever life throws at us, and in that response is our growth and our freedom.Understanding that the only thing we can control is the decisions we make in each moment, I wanted to create a space to share the stories of people I know who live their lives with purpose, making courageous choices--big or small--whatever their circumstances.Sharing their stories, I hope that you, the listeners, are able to find ideas or feelings that resonate and inspire you to seize the power of your choices to make an impact in the world.Resources:Man's Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl:https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=ZKC6bhGhot&rank=1Tim Urban's "Life in Weeks" post:https://waitbutwhy.com/2014/05/life-weeks.htmlTim Urban's "The Tail End" post, about the time you have with loved ones:https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/12/the-tail-end.htmlAnd to learn more about me:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

In this episode, I have the pleasure of hosting Joyce Nazario, a pioneer in Patient Experience (PX) in Asia, particularly in the Philippines. Joyce is the first person in Asia to earn the prestigious Certified Patient Experience Professional (CPXP) accreditation, and she is currently Patient Experience Excellence Head at Metro Pacific Hospital Holdings, the largest private hospital network in the Philippines.Joyce's unique perspective is a result of her deep understanding of the cultural context within which healthcare operates. Her expertise extends beyond theory, as she is a sought-after speaker with insight into the intersection of cultural nuances of patient experience, emphasizing the crucial role of family in healthcare decision-making in Asia.She champions the concept of "culturally competent care," emphasizing the significance of local preferences, traditions, and needs in achieving better patient outcomes across diverse environments.With a mission to enhance healthcare quality in the Philippines through improved patient experience, Joyce shares her personal journey as well as her expertise in this engaging episode.Timestamps(00:53) Introducing Joyce Nazario, CPXP(02:08) Defining and explaining patient experience(03:01) Cultural and family context in Asia(05:40) Patient vs customer service(06:34) Partnering with family(08:33) Factors in culturally competent care(11:58) The benefits of diversity in staff(17:07) Patient experience as go-between(19:43) Top skills: communication, empathy, critical thinking(22:04) Qualifications and Training(23:17) Rewards and Recognition(24:05) Being the voice of the patient, service recovery(25:04) Patient perceptions post-covid and burnout(26:09) Nursing in the Philippines(30:57) AI in healthcare(36:43) Joyce’s Journey(41:42) Dealing with heavy emotions(45:33) Switching off(47:53) Advice to young nurses or patient experience professionals(50:22) Future of patient experience, at-home healthcare(52:27) C-Suite buy-in(53:51) LegacyYou can connect with Joyce here:https://www.linkedin.com/in/joycenazariocpxpAnd to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

Embark on a journey into the realm of fringe diplomacy, where hidden negotiations and human connections help to secure the release of American political prisoners and detainees across the globe.Mickey Bergman is the Vice President and Executive Director at the Richardson Center for Global Engagement. This nonprofit and NGO has orchestrated the return of more American detainees than any other private organisation, spanning from North Korea and Cuba to Myanmar, Russia, the Middle East, Venezuela, and Africa.Mickey's efforts have garnered him and his colleagues two Nobel Peace Prize nominations (in 2019 and 2023), alongside a host of other notable distinctions.In this candid and wide-ranging conversation, Mickey recounts the intricacies of negotiations, shedding light on the years of dedicated engagement preceding each successful release.He shares the secrets behind his ability to forge connections, from his personal relationships with the families of detainees to establishing trust with Burmese generals, Russian diplomats, and North Korean officials.Mickey's personal journey from paratrooper to diplomatic pioneer is recounted with stories of his own moral development and the influences that shaped his worldview.I invite you to join us as we explore the power of emotional intelligence and its impact on the world with the remarkable Mickey Bergman.Timestamps(0:53) Introducing Mickey Bergman(03:45) Georgetown connection(05:27) Defining fringe diplomacy(15:28) The long game of engagement(21:41) 'Proliferating' vs scaling(29:08) Emotional intelligence in action--North Korea and Myanmar(40:22) Quid Pro Quo--Russia(44:00) Finding humanity in everyone...even those on the other side(48:00) Negotiating authentically. knowing yourself(51:30) Relationships with the families..and Mickey's hardest moment(59:30) Military experience...and choosing non-violence(1:05:00) Finding your moral compass and developing empathy(1:11:35) Intentions and 'doing the right thing'--Iran and Russia(1:24:00) How to expand your horizons and what children already know(1:30:59) Upcoming book(1:35:29) There's more to be done...You can connect with Mickey and learn more about his work here:https://www.linkedin.com/in/mickeybergman/https://www.richardsondiplomacy.orgMickey's book, IN THE SHADOWS; True Stories of High-Stakes Negotiations to Free Americans Captured Abroad, is expected in June 2024.And to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

In this inspiring episode, I'm joined by the exceptional Kamil Haque, founder and Artistic Director of the Haque Centre of Acting & Creativity (HCAC) and Method Productions.Kamil's journey from Singapore to Los Angeles, where he became the youngest and first Asian teacher at the prestigious Lee Strasberg Theatre & Film Institute, sets the stage for an enlightening conversation. Having graduated top of his class at the American Musical and Dramatic Academy, Kamil's passion for acting and his commitment to his craft shines through.We discover the heart of The Haque Method, which starts with the workshop "Know Thyself." Delving into the profound connection between self-awareness and acting, Kamil sheds light on the importance of personal storytelling and why many people struggle to share their own narratives.Throughout the episode, Kamil imparts his wisdom, emphasizing that there are no right or wrong choices, only boring ones. This philosophy applies not only to acting but to all aspects of life, urging us to embrace creativity and make meaningful decisions.Kamil's breakthroughs in Hollywood and his unique approach to method acting, alongside teaching over 10,000 students at HCAC, unveils a diverse array of individuals pursuing their creative dreams. From corporate employees with a passion for improv to TEDx speakers and startup founders, Kamil highlights that everyone has a story to tell, and empowering them to do so is his mission.The discussion transcends acting, as we explore the profound significance of telling our own stories in life. Kamil's insights on Lee Strasberg's method and the power of hard work demonstrate that greatness is attainable in any field through dedication.Join us as Kamil shares the impact of his "firsts" in Hollywood and why he made the pivotal decision to become an acting teacher, dedicating himself to nurturing creative talent.This captivating conversation with Kamil Haque will leave you inspired to unleash your creative voice and embrace the power of storytelling in every aspect of life. Don't miss this opportunity to delve into the world of acting, creativity, and self-discovery. Let's dive in together and unleash our potential!Timestamps:(0:53) A 4-7-8 breathing exercise to centre ourselves(2:14) Introducing Kamil Haque(4:24) “Knowing thyself”: why it’s important(8:05) 4 types of transactions(10:05) Why do people struggle to tell their own stories? Creating safe spaces.(17:27) Setting boundaries as self-care(20:32) Why is method acting misunderstood?(22:08) From Singapore to LA(30:00) Breaking barriers(33:32) The call to teach acting(35:00) Returning to Singapore to start HCAC(42:12) There are no right or wrong choices....only boring onesYou can connect with Kamil and learn more about HCAC here:https://methodactingasia.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/kamilhaqueAnd if you’d like to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Laurie Charlés, a renowned expert in systemic family therapy and mental health in conflict zones and violence-affected communities.With extensive experience working in over a dozen countries, Laurie has dedicated her career to scaling up local family therapy programs for those impacted by war and violence. From supporting survivors of gender and sexual violence to assisting the World Health Organization during the Ebola outbreak, Laurie's work has taken her all over the globe.In our conversation, we explore the state of global mental health today and delve into the significance of trauma in extreme conditions. Laurie shares invaluable insights she has gained from her extensive work, emphasizing the importance of understanding and prioritizing our own mental well-being. We also discuss the evolving definition of "family" and the elements that contribute to supporting mental health within familial relationships.Drawing from her personal journey, including her time in the Peace Corps and her decision to pursue an International Relations degree, Laurie reflects on the critical moments that shaped her career and reaffirmed her purpose. Despite the persisting challenges of war and conflict, she discusses her unwavering motivation to continue this crucial work and highlights the evolving approach to mental health, particularly for vulnerable populations.We then delve into self-care practices and the necessity of maintaining mental resilience when working in challenging environments. Laurie shares her perspective on the ever-changing definitions of "family" across cultures and cultivating supportive family environments for the benefit of our own mental health.Join us for this thought-provoking and insightful conversation as we explore the vital intersection of mental health and global well-being with Dr. Laurie Charlés.Timestamps:(0:00:53) Introducing Dr Laurie Charlés(0:02:57) Mental health post-COVID(0:07:56) Defining Family, and its importance in therapy(0:11:33) What is systemic family therapy(0:15:33) Was COVID a global trauma?(0:21:31) Local impact—development work and Peace Corps discussion(0:28:48) Laurie’s career trajectory(0:49:14) What keeps Laurie motivated(0:54:13) What’s next for Laurie?(1:00:40) Scaling your impact through teaching people to help each otherYou can connect with Dr. Charlés here:https://www.mhinnovation.net/profile/laurie-l-charléshttps://www.linkedin.com/in/laurielcharlesphdlmftAnd if you’d like to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_

Will Skinner is the CEO of UFIT Health, Fitness, and Sports, Singapore’s leading integrated health and fitness company.Driven by a belief that everyone has greatness within them, Will has transformed UFIT into a holistic health enterprise that focuses on helping individual clients achieve THEIR goals.But Will’s career has not always been in the fitness industry. His professional rugby career started at the tender age of 18; he represented England in Under-18 and Under-21 sides and later played for the Leicester Tigers and Harlequins. At 24, he was named the youngest captain in the Premiership.However, a severe injury cut short Will's career on the pitch. This life-changing event forced him to rethink and pivot his career.Listen in to Will's fascinating story of overcoming obstacles, and learn about:Leading a client-centric business, and the unexpected benefits beyond client loyaltyThe keys to igniting greatness in clients...and yourselfEmbracing the 'uncontrollable' and bouncing back from an unexpected changeTimestamps(01:00) Introducing Will Skinner and UFIT(02:59) Shift toward holistic health(05:34) How can regular people ‘ignite greatness’?(8:40) UFIT’s evolution and verticals explained(13:22) Health / Wellness and client experience(18:45) UFIT strategy rethink after COVID(30:39) Will’s professional rugby career and leadership philosophy(40:49) How Will dealt with a career-ending injury(51:08) Career transitions: controlling the controllable(55:34) Finding your ‘one thing’ that motivates you(59:08) The future of UFIT(01:02:14) Will’s legacy and hopes for the futureYou can connect with Will here:https://www.ufit.com.sghttps://www.linkedin.com/in/will-skinner-15655932And if you’d like to learn more about Erika:LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-behlInstagram@every_moment_is_a_choice_