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Myths, Mating, & Mindset: Redesigning Relationships From the Inside Out

Author: Devon Evans, Relationship Coach

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Blending a mixture of erotic short stories, expert advice, and private conversations with real people, Devon encourages you to think outside the box and design your relationships from the ground up. For private coaching, visit devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
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Let's talk about erotic blocks, why sexual fantasies are healthy, and the benefits of porn. Tasha and I continue our conversation of summarizing the key takeaways from Esther Perel's Sessions Live 2019 on 'In Search of Eros: A multidisciplinary approach to love, lust, and commitment'. To find a list of Esther's 10 Sexual Conversation Starters, go to my website at devonevans.com. We also cover: - how to get over heartbreak & what questions to ask yourself to squeeze as much growth out of a breakup as you can - being naked versus being nude - how to open up a dialogue with yourself or your partner about what you like erotically & why sexual fantasies are healthy - what are the upsides to porn, why is it so appealing to men in particular, and how can we be responsible in our consumption of it CO-HOSTS: Devon Evans, Relationship Coach + Sex Coach in Training and Tasha Jackson, MA, MFT, Psychotherapist and Author of Master Dater. Find us at devonevans.com and tashajackson.com.
Looking for more eroticism, vitality, and aliveness? Today we take a deep dive into lust and living orgasmicly by summarizing the key takeaways from Esther Perel's Sessions Live 2019 on 'In Search of Eros: A multidisciplinary approach to love, lust, and commitment'. We talk about: - what living with erotic intelligence means - the complexities of porn, including validating our sexual interests & as a tool for self-exploration - recovering from trauma and integrating pleasure - the burden men usually face as the sexual director - where/how do we begin to learn about sensual pleasure   CO-HOSTS: Devon Evans, Relationship Coach + Sex Coach in Training and Tasha Jackson, MA, MFT, Psychotherapist and Author of Master Dater. Find us at www.devonevans.com and www.tashajackson.com.
Today is the final Mental & Emotional Release work that I completed with Tamara Smith, Master Neuro-Linguistics Programming Practitioner who specializes in trauma and grief coaching. In order to keep it short, I'm only sharing 2 of the 5 major emotions I released during this personal coaching session: sadness and anger, among the others being fear, guilt, and worry. Find Tamara at www.thegrievingmind.com.
Little did I know going into this coaching session how much my anger and unworthiness from my childhood was affecting my ability to accept prosperity. During my private session with Tamara Smith, Master NLP Practitioner, who specializes in grief and trauma, you get to hear how these limiting beliefs surfaced as a drinking problem in my 20s and had me in AA before I even turned the legal drinking age, how it affected my marriage in a damaging way, and why I'm so adamant to not pass on my shortcomings for my child's sake. Watch the video by going to my YouTube channel at devonevans.com. Find out more about Tamara Smith and the Neuro-Linguistics Programming & Mental and Emotional Release sessions she offers clients at thegrievingmind.com
If you could change one area of your life which would make an immediate improvement on all other areas of your life, what area would that be? What is one self-sabotaging behavior that is preventing you from flourishing in love & relationships? Today, I'm talking with Master NLP Practioner, Tamara Smith, about Neuro-Linguistics Programming and Mental and Emotional Release therapy, which is a neuro-scientific approach that allows people to release their emotional baggage and create major breakthroughs to their subconscious mind without going to years of therapy.
Here are 50 date ideas that will get you outside your comfort zone and off the couch. If you want to challenge yourself to do more with your romantic life and have some interactive adventures while doing it, you're going to want to hear this list! Also, the name of the game I mention in the episode is actually called Couplicious Sex Game (find it on Amazon here).  
On today's show, my partner and I are discussing at least 5 lessons we've learned so far in opening our relationship after our sexy trip to Desire Resorts Riviera Maya (you can listen to our experience there on Episode 32). We talk about privacy vs secrecy, autonomy & freedom, regulating our emotions, and differentiation from our partners. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. Become a Patreon member for just $2 per month at patreon.com/devonevans, allowing you access to 2 erotic short stories per month at $1 per episode!
Listen to this private conversation with a newly polyamorous couple about how they transitioned from traditional monogamy into polyamory, and what they've learned about this relationship style and love in general. We talk about the desire to cheat, how to establish boundaries, the uncertainty of relationship longevity, the importance of honesty, and the partner possessiveness a lot of us struggle with. They also give some tips for meeting and connecting with other like-minded individuals who are open to exploring polyamory and open relationships. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.  
Want to stop having painful sex, both anal and vaginal, and even use orgasms as pain relievers? Former vagina coach, Dr. Monika Stefanowicz, helps women and men who experience pelvic pain reclaim their sex lives. She teaches her patients how to improve bladder control (postpartum or otherwise), how to have tighter sex, and how to compassionately view ourselves in relation to chronic pain to enjoy sexual pleasure again. Dr. Monika is not your typical doctor who can often seem unapproachable and sterilized. Instead, she makes talking about sexual pain fun and lighthearted, adding in humor to the conversations about pee, poop, and sex! Visit her at liftlaughkegel.com. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
BDSM, Kink, and Fetishes are the topics I have the pleasure of exploring on today’s episode of Myths, Mating, & Mindset with Sex Therapist, Dr. Melvin Phillips. We unpack some common misconceptions about the psychology of kink, the roles of dominance and submission, how pleasure and pain relate, and how to play safely and consensually. Dr. Phillips offers advice and guidance on how to introduce BDSM and kink into your relationships and where to find like-minded people near you. Visit Dr. Phillips at www.drleephillips.com. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
Let’s talk opening up relationships! Today's podcast is about our sexy vacation to Desire Resort & Spa Riviera Maya. We're talking about how to navigate the conversation of opening up your relationship, how to communicate your wants & wishes inside and outside the bedroom, your wandering desire for others, and how to invite another couple/single to play with you while staying at a sexy resort like Desire. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
This is part 2 of our conversation on masculinity where we get real about the challenges men face with strict gender conformity and how it ties in with relationships. Today we’re focusing on sex - the myths, the misconceptions, and the reflections. We unpack some of the biases and challenges that men face in the bedroom. Here are a few of the ideas we discuss: Boys’ first experiences with porn and sexual excitement - who is teaching boys about sexual education? Exploring Erectile Dysfunction as a manifestation of a vulnerable internal state of mind: anxiety, self-esteem, body-image, depression, performance anxiety, etc. What are some ways that men would prefer to be treated in relationships? Keeping your partner current on what you want from the relationship sexually and emotionally The importance of sexual communication within relationships and during the heat of the moment The myth that men are “easy” and constantly “ready to go” sexually The patriarchal policing of men by using the term “gay” for a man who doesn’t follow the hetero-normative male code Sexual fluidity is not the same thing as sexual orientation, and the stereotypes of men who are more sexual fluid with the same sex For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
Today, I’m sitting down with a room full of diverse men to talk about the challenges of masculinity. The reason I wanted to facilitate this discussion is to bring to light some of the points and perspectives on what it means to be a man in modern day, told by men. Everyone, regardless of how they present or identify, should have a vested interest in loosening the tight grip of patriarchal masculinity because it not only hurts women and LGBTQ people, but it hurts men, too. Here are a few of the ideas we discuss: The overwhelming statistics of violence by men, not just to others, but to themselves (suicide), and the gaping void of close friends they can turn to in crisis within individualistic societies The myth of the “real man”... who is this mythical man?! The lack of vulnerability men are “allowed” to show, especially when it affects their physical and emotional wellbeing When the tough guise of manliness serves a purpose as an adaptive mechanism (combat zones, police force, etc) versus when it’s maladaptive (in family life, relationships, with our children, etc) The lack of healthy leadership for boys as they transition into adulthood, that directly impacts their ability to be good, present fathers and learn how to enjoy their sexuality in a healthy way The socialization of men into being autonomous and not asking for help, even when situations are dire For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
Today, I talk with trusted hot sex advisor to millions, the famous Susan Bratton, as she shares all the ways women can orgasm, how to initiate dirty talk, her favorite sex toys, and much more. Susan is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.  
If you've ever struggled with guilt or shame around your sexuality that has roots in your religion, listen to this couple share their embarrassing and raw struggles with managing sexual desire while conflicting with the shaming messages from their faith. This couple confesses to all the humiliating details surrounding the shame & guilt of their religious past. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
As the #MeToo movement progresses, men are feeling anxious about navigating the current climate with gender norms changing and masculinity being under scrutiny. Today, I’m discussing toxic masculinity, redefining gender roles, and how some of our sexual stereotypes about men directly impact their sex lives in a negative way. I'm not going to encourage sensitivity or discarding masculinity altogether, but the parts that continue to be toxic to men, women, and children have to go. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
My guest today shares a dark family secret ridden with shame - he was birthed out of INCEST. He opens up about his experiences with an alcoholic father and learning the shocking truth about where he came from. Lynn Everard is now an author, a life coach, and a speaker, hoping to share his heartfelt message with the world about how speaking your truth could save your life. You can find more information on my guest here: https://lynneverard.com/ and watch the video of our convo here: https://youtu.be/q8XBd9z3fx4 Specifically, we’re going to talk about: His childhood experiences with incest and how it shaped his life and his 34 year marriage The lack of physical touch for young boys His recent experience coaching a workshop for men called the Masculine Journey The balancing act of masculine and feminine within all of us Lynn's upcoming book, How Speaking Your Truth Can Save Your Life and How It Saved Mine and he’s the co-creator of the soon to be launched How To Speak Your Truth Workshop. By assisting his clients in writing their life stories, he helps them speak their own truth. Lynn believes in helping aspiring writers become powerful authors of their own lives. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
I'm exploring some psychological theories behind some of the most popular sexual fantasies. Here are a few of the ones I cover on this podcast:   1.Rape Fantasies 2.S&M 3.Master/Slave 4.Diapered & Babied 5.Asphyxiation 6.Golden/Brown Showers 7.Group Sex 8.Incest   Educate yourself on where your fantasies come from and what they might mean, but be cautious not to use sexual fantasy interpretations as a one-size-fits-all explanation, as it depends on the person and their unique circumstances. But theories can bring us generalizations that can be helpful at times to explain commonalities among large groups. There will always be exceptions and outliers of course, as a myriad of factors influence our fantasies. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
If you're the least bit curious to know where your biggest sexual fantasies probably come from, I promise you'll want to hear this one. On this two-part episode, I explain how and why we create our sexual fantasies by exploring the deeper, pathogenic beliefs that we develop about ourselves in relation to our primary caregivers in childhood, and how something you might least expect is the one necessary ingredient to becoming sexually aroused. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
My online dating connoisseur is back to tell about a couple of her more surprising encounters, namely a couple of suitors' preferences for coprophilia (a sexual affinity for defecation, ie poop) and homoeroticism (a same-sex erotic attraction, but not necessarily acted upon). We talk about some common sexual fears, fantasies, and cultural stigmas that deserve some examination and understanding. For relationship or life coaching, you can book a private session with me at devonevans.com. You can support the Myths, Mating, & Mindset podcast at patreon.com/devonevans.
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Hildas Shoulder

This is a very good topic.Its worse in Africa where dating people with physical disabilities was almost taboo.Things are changing slowly.Good job.

Feb 14th
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