Relationships are the most fulfilling part of the human experience. It’s clear that none of us were designed to be alone and that’s one of the reasons why marriage is so powerful and life-giving for those who do it right. For those who do it wrong, marriage and relationships can be stressful and traumatic. How do we know? Because we have had it both ways! We have experienced firsthand how handling conflict can make or break a relationship. Statistically, we could all tell a story about how a conflict either in our own relationships or in our parent's relationships affected us negatively and shaped our worldview. That’s why learning how to “fight well” and building a marriage and family culture that thrives and knows how to approach “healthy conflict” is a key focus in the Smith house! Welcome back to the Family Brand Podcast! Today we are joined by Jayson and Ellen Gaddis from The Relationship School. Chris first met Jayson in a Mastermind program they are both members of and they quickly hit it off as they discovered they had a shared purpose of serving marriages and families at a high level. When we first heard about their transformative and yet practical advice for couples at The Relationship School, we knew we had to introduce them to YOU! Hit play to hear the Gaddis’ life-changing advice on what to do when your relationship isn’t working, how to approach hard conversations better, the #1 thing anyone can do to improve their marriage, how to have a stronger relationship, what to do when you don’t know what to say and so much more! If you are a legacy-minded person, you probably spend your time thinking about the most important things you can teach your children or grandchildren and what valuable lessons you can pass on to them. After this episode, we are more convinced than ever that mastering communication in our marriage is one of the best things we can do for future generations. Someone has to stop unhealthy cycles in your family line, why can’t that person be you? Homework: Even if your marriage is going great right now, the wisdom Jayson and Ellen have on this topic is something we all can learn from. We left this conversation with two huge takeaways! Creating a conflict resolution plan The importance of addressing things sooner rather than later What’s your biggest takeaway? Your homework from this episode is to TAKE ACTION on one of the topics that stood out to you from today’s conversation! For more free resources and programs to help you build your marriage or your own Family Brand, follow the links below! More Of What’s Inside: It’s through conflict that we build strong relationships How to have a conflict resolution process that you’ve agreed upon. Our recent interview on The Relationship School Podcast A look into Jayson’s book on conflict resolution The danger of saying “we’re not good at communicating” Why timing really does matter Coming out of a divorce mentally A few things you should never say to your spouse Jayson and Ellen Gaddis's best advice for all couples How Jayson and Ellen healed their past relationship wounds And much more! Links For This Episode: The Relationship School Website: https://relationshipschool.com Book-'Getting to Zero' by Jayson Gaddis: https://www.gettingtozerobook.com Relationship Mastery Training: https://relationshipschool.com/relationshipmastery Ellen's Website: https://ellenboeder.com Jayson's Website: https://www.jaysongaddis.com 'The Relationship Upgrade Course' for Couples: http://relationshipschool.com/upgrade The Relationship School Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-school-podcast/id997215878 Website: familybrand.com Social: Facebook: www.facebook.com/FamilyBrandOfficial Instagram: www.instagram.com/ourfamilybrand YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCGu-7odB6gkPbyXpUIQLkrg Twitter: https://twitter.com/OurFamilyBrand Free course: familybrand.com/10steps Episode Minute By Minute: 0:02 What’s inside today’s episode 2:06 Get to know Jayson and Ellen 4:26 How Jayson and Ellen met 9:26 Conflict isn’t always a negative thing 16:21 Why conflict needs a few rules 18:57 Avoid using all incommoding language 22:29 The #1 thing you can do to improve your marriage 27:18 The sooner you can talk about an issue the better 31:21 Letting your “why” can't wait until later 35:11 How we are taking action about this episode 36:01 How to connect more with Jayson and Ellen Jayson Gaddis Bio:Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and “personal trainer for relationships”, is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and connection. He got tired of complaining that street-level relationship skills are not taught in school, so he founded The Relationship School®, an impact-based company dedicated to helping individuals, couples and teams work out their differences in order to have indestructible relationships. He is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching® and the Getting To Zero Method™. His new book Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was voted Editors Choice, Best non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business book in 2021 on Amazon. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2007 and has two beautiful kids. They live in Boulder, Colorado. When he doesn’t live and breathe this relationship stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him. Ellen Boeder's bioEllen Boeder, MA, LPC is a psychotherapist and coach for couples in Boulder, Colorado, who has been interested in how relationships actually work for as long as she can remember. Studying with innovative researchers and cutting edge practitioners in the field of psychology, relationships, and also yoga, for over 20 years has helped her integrate her approach to working with people in a sensitive, straightforward, deeply informed and embodied way. The most high level training she does is usually at home with her husband and two young children, as she finds her way through the real, raw, and beautiful experience of being deeply intertwined with others. Ellen is also a faculty member for The Relationship School®, is a long time yoga practitioner, and writes a blog that incorporates her studies in psychology with her life experience as a mother, called Rearranged by Motherhood.