Famous at Home

Let’s be honest, parenting is the most guilt-ridden, shaming role on the planet. Which is why a nagging question seems to live under the surface of our very full lives, “Am I doing a good job with my kids?” In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about what really matters when it comes to getting the outcomes we most desire in our kids. They also define emotional safety, talk about why parenting is the wrong term, and get honest about what our kids really need from us. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:15 Behavior versus character 3:53 Why emotional safety in parenting was the heart of how Famous at Home began
 9:00 You’re child is not the only one
 10:55 How to show up with your kids in their BIG feelings 13:10 The single greatest conclusion of parenting research
 17:21 Parenting styles and the Holy Spirit
 20:00 Marital satisfaction and parenting
 20:52 How do you act as a child? Why we have to play the long game. 22:10 Research on emotion coaching kids 23:45 Navigating judgment and your own healing as a parent 28:45 The two filters Josh is using to parent his kids
 31:17 The single greatest parenting strategy for raising kids Show Notes: Sign up for the January 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here. https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, interested in The Field Experience? Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage. Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Order a copy of Safe House: Why Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well https://amzn.to/3Zpeui5 Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/

"What's going on within your spouse's heart matters more than what's going on between the two of you." The gateway to finding your way home to your spouse is through his / her heart. But that can be easier said than done with there's already so much hurt built up through the years. In this episode, Josh and Christi lay out practical ways to fight for your spouse's heart while also prioritizing the healing of your own. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:12 New 2025 offerings for Tender & Fierce now live 7:15 The launch and introduction to The Field Experience 12:50 Marriage as a gift and responsibility  19:45 What are you fighting for?22:37 Judging intentions versus behaviors 25:58 Self-protection versus self-promotion27:58 One way to increase marital satisfaction 29:36 The inner child and marriage 34:36 Fighting for the marital heartShow Notes:Sign up for the January 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here. https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceMen, interested in The Field Experience? Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformTo learn more about Tender & Fierce, click here to listen: Living Tender & Fierce: https://tinyurl.com/3xtu6rfsFrom Broken to Wholehearted Living: https://tinyurl.com/3443hrpzDownload NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhomeThe Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/

In this episode, we talk about how to find your true self and the freedom it brings to live from it. We also talk about the destructive ways our false self can influence our closest relationships. Want to know if you're truly showing up with others in your true self? We reveal the ONE question we use to filter how well we're walking in our true self and talk about what's keeping us stuck in our false self. Want to be comfortable in your own skin, joyful in who you are, and not swayed by others? This episode is for you. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction1:43 Upcoming coaching programs6:13 How we heal and show up in marriage10:55 How you know when you’re operating out of false self13:15 Deep dive into what it means to live in your true self19:58 How you identify someone living from their true self24:01 Learning to listen to God about who you are28:42 How healthy friends help you live from your true self34:50 The beautiful overflow of your true self in relationships37:48 Dealing with tricky relationships Show Notes: Men, interested in The Field Experience? Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Interested in the next Tender + Fierce cohort? Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceinterest Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome Order a copy of Abba's Child from Brennan Manning:Click here: https://amzn.to/40xEs3C The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/

Do you feel stuck in your marriage? Do you wish you could sometimes show up differently in how you parent your children? Do you desire a slower pace of life for your family?  We all run into problems in our closest relationships, especially with those we love the most. But what if the problems we face are intensified, or perhaps even created, because of our own internal insecurities or lack of feeling loved? In episode 4 of season 1, Finding Your Way Home, we talk about the foundational solution to many of our relational concerns: Finding your way home to the Father's love. Unfortunately, like any other relationship, this takes time and practice, especially if we already don't feel lovable. In this episode, we discuss how we and our relationships change when we feel “delighted in,” we share our own stories of experiencing the Father’s love, and we offer insights on how we can move from intellectually understanding the Father’s love for us, to genuinely experiencing it. Time Stamps: 1:02 Introduction: The definition of joy 3:08 Why we start with the Father’s love 3:37 Relational problems in light of the matrix we find ourselves in5:45 The relational experience of love, particularly from the Father 9:30 How life looks when we know someone is delighted to be with us 11:01 The effects of not being delighted with yourself 13:38 How we love others is an overflow of how we feel loved 15:38 Right brain versus left brain experiences of love 19:19 The journey to “experiencing” the Father’s love 25:22 When the Father doesn’t feel safe to come home to 26:50 Why the thing that gives us the most life is often the thing we most resist 28:38 The way the Father speaks to each of His kids 30:03 How the Father sees and chooses us 33:36 The feeling of “home” and Christi’s 30-day challenge for you Show Notes: Download NONAH's brand new single: Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome Interested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?! Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformInterested in the next Tender + Fierce cohort? Join the interest list!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceinterest Order a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage. Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/

We want to introduce you to one of the most joyful collaborations ever. We asked our friends, Wes and Callie Strunk, from NONAH, to create a bumper for the Famous at Home podcast. It was so good that they turned it into a full-on song and inspirational message. In this episode, we interview Wes and Callie on their own journey to being famous at home and take you behind-the-scenes on how Find My Way Home came about. This song embodies everything about what it means to be famous at home, but so do Wes and Callie.We can’t wait for you to meet them and hear their hearts. We talk with Wes and Callie about what the song means, how it applies to your journey, and what influences each of us in finding our own way home.Time Stamps: 1:03 Introduction to our friendship and desire for new theme song 2:48 Wes & Callie introduce themselves 4:35 Josh’s two benchmarks for how he views how he’s doing as a parent 5:18 The behind-the-scenes story for how the new theme song Find My Way Home came about 11:42 How the original bumper became a full song 14:24 NONAH’s goal for the song 17:24 Reflections on the various meanings of the song
 22:05 The scriptural inspiration for the lyrics
 27:25 The inspirational story of where the name NONAH came from
 35:54 The heart posture of giving up the chase
 39:50 Wes and Callie’s journey of being famous at home
 46:25 The role of community in being famous at home
 54:06 Where to begin if you’re new to NONAH
 58:00 Wes and Callie’s comical story of writing their first song together Show Notes: Download NONAH's brand new single: Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome To sign up for our weekly devotional, click here: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter The Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/

Finding our way home is easier when we stop chasing the things leading us away from it. Which leads to a question you must answer if you want to be famous at home, "What is my 'chase' costing me?"In episode 2 of season 1, Finding Your Way Home, we talk about what it means to chase, share our own stories of “chasing,” and offer insights on giving up the chase. Time Stamps:1:33 Introduction and overview of new season 3:15 What we mean by “chasing” 8:12 Christi’s “chase” as a wife + mom 15:03 What it requires to give up “the chase” 21:12 What this means for your family 23:15 Josh’s “chase” as a husband + dad 26:12 Coaching options for “the chase” 29:30 Where to go from here Show Notes:  Download NONAH's brand new single: Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhomeInterested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?! Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformInterested in the next Tender + Fierce cohort? Join the interest lists! https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceinterestOrder a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage. Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFzThe Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/

The Famous at Home podcast has a new beginning! Though we have over 400 previous episodes out in the world, this is the start of a new vision for Famous at Home, what we call “red carpet to revival.”Welcome to Season 1! Each new season will consist of seven episodes and be built around specific topics to help bring revival to your family. Season 1 is called “Find Your Way Home,” where we talk about the meaning behind this new phrase and why it sets the foundation for the emotional connection and spiritual growth you desire in your own home.In today’s episode, we talk about the reckoning that happened in our marriage and why nearly quitting Famous at Home was toiling the soil for the dead seeds to give birth to life all over again. As we talk about moving from “red carpet to revival,” our hope is that you see how it applies to your family in this cultural moment you find yourself in.Time Stamps0:00 Brand new intro and song 1:10 Welcome to a new season! 3:27 How the new season was birthed  6:06 The reckoning that led to revival 12:19 How culture shapes today’s families and what revival looks like for your family 16:53 Awakening the heart of a parent and the fight for your family 19:22 The household as a foundation for revival 21:30 What it means to find your way home 28:10 Who is this for? 31:30 New initiatives from FAH designed for revival in your family 34:30 Story behind the new FAH song from NONAH + Outro Show Notes:  Pre-save NONAH's brand new single: Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhomeOrder a copy of the Famous at Home book to put your family center stage. Click here: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFzThe Famous at Home podcast is made possible by listeners like you. We'd be honored to have you partner with us in helping bring revival to today's family. Click here to donate. https://newhorizonsfoundation.com/project/single-project/2504/

Will the decisions you're making today get you to where you want to be ten years from now?Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.In this episode, we talk about your "why" and the gift of involving your kids in a purpose greater than themselves.Here are some highlights:What it means for the household to partner with Jesus for the restoration of all thingsThe generational influence of our kid's purposeMaking those under your roof feel seenLiving with a "there you are" confidenceSetting values today that impact your family ten years from nowTime Stamps: 0:50 Introduction  3:31 Are the decisions you’re making today getting you to where you want to be in the future?6:10 Survival versus vision7:30 Filtering our future through the senses tied to the past9:02 Developing vision for your family11:50 Your household as a vehicle to build for the Kingdom of God20:35 The importance of leading your household well 23:20 Where to begin finding the “why” for your family27:43 The 10-year exercise for your family32:46 The 10-year exercise in perspective35:06 Revisiting “why you’re doing what you’re doing” on a regular basis 36:08 Biblical community as a healing agent for families Show Notes: Interested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?! Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformDownload the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignupOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Order a copy of The Household and The War for the Cosmos by C.R. Wiley: https://amzn.to/3Z3mFyz Order a copy of The Gospel Comes with a House Key by Rosaria Butterfield: https://amzn.to/3PhspBn Leave us a review to help others find out about the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/famous-at-home/id1185660348?see-all=reviews

Parenting struggles are real. Screentime. Discipline. Anxiety.But what if we’re focused on the wrong things? Instead of trying to fix and manage the problems, what if we lived out the solution? What if the environment we cultivate is the very thing our children need?Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.In this episode, Josh talks about their current parenting journey, the two competing worldviews that influence how kids experience joy, and how we can give our kids permission to experience joy!Here are some highlights:How two competing worldviews influence the amount of joy in our homeWhy we need permission to experience joyWhy resourcefulness is a cheat code for helping kids live joyful livesThe one way to step into joy this week as a family, no matter how difficult the season you find yourself in right nowThis series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes:Interested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?! Join the interest list! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformDownload the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignupFocus on the Family Broadcast: Click here to listen to Encouraging Your Kids to Discuss Their Feelings https://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/encouraging-your-kids-to-discuss-their-feelings/ Listen to Jamie Winship talk about abundance versus scarcity worldviews.Click here.https://youtu.be/2s3KWZFCH0A?si=YNR6bAF7ZW8xsZq_ The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt. Click here.https://amzn.to/3vWdgieTime Stamps: 1:04 Introduction3:30 Coming out of survival seasons of parenting6:30 Why “becoming” is a better than “parenting” for how our kids turn out8:42 How kids experience joy11:15 How the scarcity and abundance mindset influences joy16:34 How the fruit of joy is cultivated in our lives23:00 Giving our kids permission to experience joy23:55 Resourcefulness as a cheat code for joy26:55 Screen time and joy28:00 Discipling our kids’ to find their strengths and gifts

Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.There are many misconceptions about what practicing the Sabbath, or ceasing from work, really entails. People often view Sabbath as a day for lounging around the house, binging a show on Netflix, or just doing nothing. Those things can be fine, but do they really bring about "soul rest?"In this episode, Josh and Christi go in-depth about the purpose and meaning of Sabbath, and the unique ways they have learned to cultivate it in their home. Josh and Christi talk about:Shabbat dinner as a fun, family-centric rhythm for your weekly SabbathWhy Sabbath rest is a gift from God and how you can make it work to fit your family dynamicHow to fight against the pull of Western culture away from the biblical gift of SabbathThis series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes:Download the Shabbat Meal Guide:https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series: https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignupInterested in the most joyful men's discipleship coaching journey?!Join the interest list!https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformOrder a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christihttps://amzn.to/4dvenpLWatch this episode on YouTube:https://youtu.be/uLsl2qlOuS8Time Stamps:0:45 Introduction4:00 What’s coming up for the podcast8:15 The one rhythm we wish we’d have started sooner11:55 The reason for Sabbath13:45 "Remember" and "observe" the Sabbath15:59 What Sabbath is17:30 Description of our Friday night Shabbat dinner20:30 What brings you soul rest?22:46 What Sabbath day specifically looks like for us29:24 Kid’s sports, work, and other barriers to Sabbath37:55 Friday night dinner 43:28 What does it mean to live in a biblical household?

Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.One of the most frequent questions we're asked is how we maintain a spirit of peace as a family of five and all we have going on. "How do you carry such calm in your interactions with each other?" wrote one long-time listener. To begin, peace doesn't come without a fight.In this episode, we talk about practical ways you can war for and cultivate peace in your home. We talk about: Why our bodies feel safer in chaos than peaceSpecific ways to consecrate your home and use prayer as your greatest weapon in the war for peaceHow to take dominion over what God has given youKeeping short accounts of sin in our livesPlaying the long game when seeing the day-to-day overwhelmThis series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes:Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignupOrder a copy of the Famous at Home book:https://amzn.to/3y1jJFzJohn Eldredge's Daily Prayer (Head of Household)https://wildatheart.org/praySign up for the Famous at Home Starter Bundlehttps://www.famousathome.com/newsletterWatch this episode on YouTube:https://youtu.be/MyzmAb20XrgTime Stamps: 0:52 Introduction 3:10 Why we use the words fighting and peace together7:15 Defining peace10:05 Peace according to Philippians 414:20 Why we feel safer in chaos than we do in peace17:54 The spiritual and real life implications of not warring for peace in the here-and-now21:05 How it looks practically to war for peace23:10 How to make decisions for peace and walk in Jesus’ authority27:05 Prayers to pray to war for peace in your home30:36 Practical ways to pray and war for peace in your home 42:30 Keep short accounts of sin in your life43:20 Playing the long game for your soul

Welcome to episode 1 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating a Spiritual Growth Environment in Your Home.This series comes with a pdf workbook / discussion guide to go along with all five episodes (found in show notes below). You can use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Have you ever given thought to how your "household" is being defined? Or put another way, how often do you consider the direction your family is heading? Or the connectedness you feel with each other? What if our struggles as a family and the longings we have are tied to the post Industrial Revolution individualistic culture we find ourselves immersed in? Could there be a different way? In this episode, we talk about the meaning of the word "household" and how it applies to your family.We talk about:Why it's important to be curious, not intimidated by the dissonance we feel.How to let go of "the chase" and refocus on prioritizing your family cohesion.How to discover and step into your family's uniqueness.Why it's beneficial train your kids to be creators, not consumers.Show Notes:Download the free workbook / discussion guide for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignupOrder Famous at Home: 7 Decisions to Put Your Family Center Stage in a World Competing for YourTime, Attention, and Identityhttps://amzn.to/3y1jJFzThe Household and the War for the Cosmos by C.R. Wileyhttps://amzn.to/3DCMoDwWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/J-ntnToREuETime Stamps: 0:58 Introduction4:28 Paying attention to your family environment6:28 What is the state of your family right now? 10:35 The state of the American family15:12 The paradigm shift for our family19:38 A higher purpose as a family24:40 Finding your family’s unique identity for the Kingdom of God31:36 What are we chasing? 37:12 How family mottos define who we are48:00 Teaching kids to be creators, not consumers 51:40 Fighting for your marriage in building for the Kingdom of God

Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.Would you describe your spouse as your greatest teammate? It probably depends on the day, right? We all have opponents that war against the connection in our marriage and cause conflict. But how do we fight? Do we see the opponent for what it is, or do we make our spouse out to be the opponent?  In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to name the opponent, talk about your dance, and take responsibility for how to engage with your spouse.  They talk about:  The importance of finding out what's going on in your spouse's heart rather than what's going on between the two of youProtective mechanisms and how they hold us back from communicating the truth of what we want from our spouseWhy taking 100% responsibility for your role in the conflict disarms your spousePractical ways to show up differently for your spouse We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/bi8pi4motfYTime stamps: (0:30) Introduction(5:40) How to name your opponent(8:55) How our opponents become elephants(11:19) Feeling safety in the relationship(13:45) The one phrase that matters more than any other to becoming teammates(16:57) The role you play in conflict and how to identify your dance(20:25) When one spouse isn’t willing to change(22:25) Entering into and being repentant of your own actions(23:55) Addressing the very thing holding you back from drawing closer to your spouse(26:20) The most sanctifying verses for a healthy marriage(27:00) Our single greatest reason for how we’ve grown in our marriage

Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage. Joining us for a conversation about sex is our dear friend, a licensed marriage and family therapist whose specialization in graduate school was sex therapy, Laura Dugger.In this episode, Laura talks about how sex makes everything better. Wait until you hear the research! With honesty, vulnerability, and a solid dose of fun, Josh and Christi's interview with Laura includes:The hidden benefits of sexHow to talk to your spouse about sexReasons for, and how to, schedule sexIndividual differences when it comes to sexThe God-given purpose of sex in marriage We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformListen to this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/NzgcDR013P0RESOURCES MENTIONED BY LAURA DUGGER: Listen to the Savvy Sauce Podcast! hosted by Laura Duggerhttps://thesavvysauce.com/Dr. Jennifer Konzen podcast episode: Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life with your Spouse with Dr. Jennifer Konzenhttps://shorturl.at/mPQvW Visit The Art of Intimate Marriage Website: Access to Dr. Konzen's book, podcast, sex therapist training, and a marriage video series.https://www.theartofintimatemarriage.com/Listen to Dr. Douglas Rosenau podcast episode: Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenauhttps://shorturl.at/EfLZ8Read A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau: A guide to enjoying God's gift of sexual intimacyhttps://amzn.to/4cMWVfk Listen to Dr. Michael Sytsma podcast episode: Enjoying a God-Honoring, Healthy Sex Life with Your Spouse with Certified Sex Therapist and Ordained Minister, Dr. Michael Sytsmahttps://shorturl.at/A2pHOListen to Francie Winslow podcast episodes: Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1https://shorturl.at/Mx9Iw Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2https://tinyurl.com/bddr6b58 Listen to Drs. Clifford and Joyce Penner podcast episode: Easy Changes to Enhance Your Sexual Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Clifford and Joyce Pennerhttps://tinyurl.com/5n897dpn Time stamps:(0:38) Introduction(3:31) An introduction to Laura Dugger(6:00) Laura’s journey into becoming a sex therapist(8:15) Disclaimer about the sex conversation(9:33) Specific ways sex makes everything in your life better(11:28) Biblical foundation for sex(15:45) Addressing body image(21:11) Healthy ways to have conversation about sex(27:30) Common differences in couples(31:08) Purity culture, pornography, and rewiring our brains for healthy connection(33:35) Talking about desire discrepancy and scheduling sex(38:27) Testosterone in women and best time of day for sex(40:40) One piece of advice for husbands(42:44) One piece of advice for wives(44:54) How to know when to reach out for outside support(49:00) The last word

Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.Difficult conversations in marriage are inevitable. Whether it's parenting, sex, holidays, work schedules, or in-laws, all couples deal with "an elephant in the room." How can we best show up in these conversations? In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about how to talk about hard things in marriage.  Here are some highlights: How to identify your motive when starting a hard conversation and why it’s important.How to set the tone in your conversations.      How to respond to your spouse without flipping your lid.Ways to lead with a team approach and an "us against the world" attitude with your spouse.We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/WQjPuCAACfkTime stamps:(0:15) Introduction(5:21) Hard topics we have in our marriage(6:25) Hard topics: In-laws, holidays, kids, sex, insecurity, habits, schedules, money, faith(9:50) The dance of being offended and flipping into defensive mode(14:56) Defending our idols at the expense of the relationship(18:12) Picking a fight when you need attention(20:03) 1. Start with connection(21:30) 2. Set the tone(23:35) 3. Lead with a team approach(23:24) 4. Own your part(25:00) 5. Come with the solution, not the problem(25:30) How to pray and bring the authority of heaven into the conversation(29:00) We, therefore, I…are you in?(31:15) Subduing division and praying goodness into conversation

Welcome to episode 2 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.What is emotional safety? And how do you cultivate an emotionally safe marriage? In this episode, Josh and Christi define and describe emotional safety, talk about what an elephant is in marriage, and how to be your true self in hard conversations with your spouse.They talk about:Approaching conversations in love rather than fearHaving an "us against the world" mindsetHow to talk to your spouse about feeling emotionally safeWe hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/PWqMTfAmFWQMarriage Coaching with Josh and Christi:https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Time stamps:(0:55) Introduction(3:42) What is emotional safety?(6:48) Evaluating emotional safety in your marriage(11:45) How emotional safety plays itself out in marriage(13:40) Addressing elephants in marriage(14:30) Why we numb and avoid each other(15:48) Introducing safety back into the system(21:18) Emotional safety and relationship with God(21:48) Practical ways to reset nervous system even if your spouse is not on board(24:30) Disclaimer on physical safety(24:58) Continued ways to reset nervous system and introduce safety(27:24) Talking about sex in marriage(31:05) The hope and practical ways of introducing safety back into the marriage(35:25) Taking fear out of a marriage conversation, no matter the topic

Welcome to episode 1 of 5 in our Summer Series called, Cultivating an Emotionally Healthy Marriage.  Have you and your spouse ever looked at each other and wondered, "Who did we marry?" Lewis Smedes once said, "My wife has lived with at least five different men since we were wed—and each of the five has been me." It's amazing how much we change: sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better.  In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about the various "seasons" we go through as individuals and how those "seasons" influence our marriage. They also talk about practical ways to enter into your spouse's world in the good, bad, and ugly.  They talk about:  How to prioritize what's going on within your spouse's heart more than what's going on between the two of youWays to empathetically step into your spouse's worldPractical ways to dream with your spouse and offer affirmation  We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. Show Notes: How Marriage is Saving Me: Sign up for weekly devotionalhttps://shorturl.at/NtnCq Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/MtMd2VDX9eI  Time stamps:(0:43) Introduction(4:10) The versions of Josh that Christi has been married to(7:57) The single most important decision we make in this life(8:50) How we regulate each other in marriage to get healthy(11:35) The only way you’re going to help your spouse grow(14:30) An example of how to honor your spouse and change yourself(18:40) How our faith influences how we treat our spouse(20:32) Another example of honoring your spouse(22:41) How to affirm and receive affirmations from your spouse(24:29) Embracing curiosity, mystery, and dreaming together(28:24) Navigating the seasons of marriage(31:15) Subscribe to weekly devotional(32:00) Practical exercise for moving forward together(34:55) Getting to the “why” of the interest in the other person

Welcome to episode 5 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. As a parent, what are we truly aiming for? What really is the goal of all this stuff we put into a bucket called “parenting?” And, at a deeper level, have I thought about how my own spiritual journey influences how my children live out their faith and find purpose for how they live their lives? Does this matter to me as I think about how I’m engaging the task of “parenting?”In this episode, Josh talks about what he's learning from his own spiritual journey right now and proposes a developmental spiritual growth model for fathers and mothers that moves us from a journey of being self-focused (fear) to others-focused (joy). They are:Becoming (internal healing and growth).Present (external presence where others feel seen).In community (inviting others into our journey).Show Notes: Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home:https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/wMDPVC6BDsc Time stamps:   (0:50) Introduction of topic  (3:28) What really matters when it comes to raising our kids?(6:15) What’s warring against us in raising our children?  (7:08) Josh tells story of a revelation he got and how it’s shifting how he fathers(10:30) Fear, gratitude, and the neurobiology of our experiences based on Philippians 4(14:25) How are we experiencing Jesus in the here-and-now?(15:55) What happens when we pay attention to every detail and person we encounter(18:20) How the study of heaven influences how we parent and interact with others(19:50) Brennan Manning’s insight on true-self versus false-self  (23:40) Introduction of the three stages of spiritual development of a parent(24:14) Stage 1: “Becoming”(28:30) What is the will of God for our lives?  (30:45) Stage 2: “Present”(32:55) Stage 3: “In Community”  (34:30) The types of people we surround ourselves with

Welcome to episode 4 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content. In this episode, Christi talks to Josh about honor, our identity as parents, and how the tension of letting our yes be yes and our no be no. This conversation was unscripted and heartfelt, as Christi got to the heart of how Josh sees his role as a father.  Josh and Christi talk about: What it means to honor up and cast vision down through the generations  How to level up what you've been given from your parents without living in denial about the holes that were left from your upbringingLetting your yes be yes and no be no and how to show up for our kids in a way they feel seen  Show Notes: Download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series. https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignup Ladies, register now for Tender & Fierce!https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Men, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestform Order a copy of Famous at Home: https://amzn.to/3VYPKLP Order a copy of Jon Tyson's book, The Intentional Father: https://amzn.to/3KUyrVQ Watch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/HAK-G8a5VTg Time stamps:(1:02) Introduction(4:30) Fruitfulness comes with a cost  (6:30) What Josh's dad gave him(9:24) Fatherhood and identity(11:02) The lack of regret when we say yes to our kids (12:12) Honoring our parents  (14:50) Honor doesn’t live in denial (15:00) Why it's important to return blessing to our kids  (18:18) The lesson Josh learned about generational blessing from his grandfather and what each of us can take from it(22:45) Josh talks the greatest lessons he's learned from mentors through the years(24:45) Honor up; cast vision down  (26:56) Josh talks about the vision he has for his family and how to view identity as a parent(30:08) Jesus addressed idols of the day  (32:20) What is your most difficult hurdle as a father right now? On showing up well for our kids  (35:23) As a father, I’m aiming for this one thing...

Welcome to episode 3 of 5 in our first Summer Series called, On Becoming Great Parents. We hope you download the pdf files that go along with these episodes (found in show notes below) and use them in your small groups, with your spouse, or as a companion guide to the content.In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about the single greatest thing to being a better parent. Part of it may have to do with how we greet one another coming in the door, a conversation you don’t want to miss! Through the lens of Christi’s own healing journey, she shares in-depth about what makes her a better mom and what she now sees as the goal of parenting.  Some highlights include: The single greatest thing that’s made Christi a better momWhat the primary goal of parenting really is (and it’s not what you think)Why less is more when it comes to parentingHere are timestamps for each of the topics:  (3:38) What we can learn (and not learn) by how our dogs greet us as we come through the door(10:45) Why teachability matters, especially when looking for a spouse(13:28) The art of giving an appropriate apology  (16:17) Christi discusses what she found to be the single greatest thing to be a better mom(20:18) Christi discusses how she views time with the Lord when it's all hands-on deck with the kids(21:30) Fighting the religious spirit(22:35) Practical ways to get time with God in the mundane moments of the day (28:41) Conversation related to therapy, coaching, and spiritual direction  (30:03) Why does it feel like everyone else talks about Jesus but I don't feel like He's with me?(31:53) What Christi knows now that she wishes she knew when she first became a momShow Notes: Click here to download the free discussion guide pdf for the Summer Series.https://www.famousathome.com/summerseriessignupLadies, register now for Tender & Fierce! Special pricing ends June 28.http://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierceMen, join the interest list for our exciting, upcoming men's discipleship journey! Click here.https://www.famousathome.com/mensinterestformWatch this episode on Youtube by clicking here.https://youtu.be/Ui9fJqr1QbI