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Author: Mordechai Wiener: Life-changing Conversations about Weight Loss and Self Love

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Want to stop dieting forever? Listen to Feeling Full to challenge your deepest beliefs around food, your body, and what you’re capable of. Together, we’ll uncover the raw truth about WHY and WHAT you eat — so you can finally make lasting positive change. I’m Mordechai Wiener: entrepreneur, coach, and host of Feeling Full. Over eight years ago, I lost 130 pounds. Now I’m talking with health experts, thought leaders, and everyday heroes to show you how you could achieve permanent weight loss… without quick fixes, miracle cures, intermittent fasting, or diets.
45 Episodes
Episode SummaryIn this episode, Ravi talks about his experience growing up as a heavy kid and how he started his relationship with food. He discusses losing the weight and gaining it back multiple times and the actions that he has taken to help maintain the loss this time. He has several tips and some inspirational words about changing and building habits.HighlightsRavi noticed he was bigger than other kids.Ravi lost weight and then gained it back but then decided to try again.This time he has kept the weight off for over a year and a half.Ravi grew up in a household with two deaf parents that were also immigrants. When he was young, he had communication hurdles to overcome.Ravi believes that when he was younger, he used food to help cope with some of his communication issues and that is where his journey of loving food began.He was frequently a victim of bullies for his weight and his parent's lack of hearing.He had to start standing up for himself and his parents and got into frequent fights. He was once jumped by five kids and after the fight, he just wanted to eat.Food was one of his only sources of feeling good.Using food as a therapeutic resource makes it difficult to control.Finding something to replace food is one of the hardest parts of the journey.For Ravi, the gym was his replacement for food.Trying to do exercise that is too tough can be a problem. You have to be able to do something that you can commit to.If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk, crawl. Start somewhere that you can sustain.It took him 2 months of going to the gym to stop hating it. It can take time.Many big people try to start by doing intense workouts. They do not realize how much more work it is to do those at a large size.Lifting weights helps build mental toughness and understanding how to push past resistance.Body positivity didn’t work for Ravi. His negativity drives him to stay focused. But he does give himself positive talk in the gym.The internet has changed everything. The power to find information from credible people is easier than ever. Ravi believes that without the internet he wouldn’t have lost weight.Thoughts control your emotions. Try and understand what the thoughts are that are driving the emotion.Reframing your thoughts change the way you feel and that directly determines the decisions that you make.New things are difficult and it's easy to lack confidence. But like tying shoes, over time, you can do anything proficiently and confidently. You just have to give it time.Relevant Links past episodes of the podcast:
Episode SummaryIn this episode, Rebecca talks about her transition from cardio-based fitness and a lower carb eating mindset to strength training and focusing on properly fueling with macronutrients. She shares her “First Three” things to do to start improving your macronutrients. She also discusses mindset and gives several tips on how to stay focused on the journey.HighlightsPeople focus too much on the end goal instead of enjoying the journey.You have to be able to enjoy the small improvements along the way.Carbs help your body recover. Without them, your body attacks lean muscle.It’s about making better choices and choosing more nutrient-dense carbs when you can.Your fitness choice and type of movement can require different levels of carb intake.Most women believe that cardio is the best choice. Hiring a nutritionist was one of the greatest investments that Rebecca ever made.Try to drink at least 100 ounces of water a day. Drink a full glass of water each morning. If you drink coffee, drink it before the coffee.Eat more vegetables.Eat more protein. Try to come close to your body weight in protein. Journal your time spent. Decide where you want to spend your time and look at what you can stop doing to find that time.Everybody can find 30 minutes in their day.You need to distance yourself from negative energy. It can be tough but that negative energy can harm your progress.People that expend negative energy can consume your time.Eat more good food and you’ll be so full that you won’t want be things.Relevant Links past episodes of the podcast:
Episode SummaryIn this episode, Marc talks about the psychology of eating, the reasons so many people struggle with weight loss, and how stress affects our relationship with food. He discusses some common traps that people fall into along with some strategies to manage those traps so that you can reduce stress and become a better version of yourself both mentally and physically.HighlightsAt 5 years old Marc asked his mother to change his diet because he didn’t feel well.He began to feel better and that started his relationship with nutritious food.Marc realized that he could tell people what to do but without understanding how they thought, he couldn’t help them understand how to do it.He then started looking for research on eating psychology and couldn’t find anything. He then started doing the research himself.People often look to nutrition to lose weight. But nutrition can’t help with many of the reasons that people make the wrong choices.People think of themselves as a single person or mindset when the reality is that we have multiple archetypes. Recognizing who you are when you are choosing what you eat is critical.Be sure that the “adult” mind is making mealtime decisions. Don’t let some version of the inner child manage food choices.Every eating challenge that you face has a brilliant reason that is rooted inside our psychology, biology, or both.Food has been associated with comfort since we were infants. We have all been trained to think, feel bad, get food, feel better.Try to use the triggering moment to better understand what you really need. If you do make a choice that you regret, you need to give yourself some grace and not be critical or attack yourself.Learning to not self-abandon is a powerful lesson.Many people think that they need to train their bodies not to eat or to eat less. Most people need to train themselves to learn how to eat in a way that works.Long and slow deep breathing is the easiest stress reduction tool. Five to ten long and slow breaths before eating will help regulate stress and create a relaxation response.Eating too fast causes a stress response which releases cortisol. Cortisol makes it more difficult for the body to feel satiated since it blocks pleasure.Early childhood diets are making it more difficult to manage and lose weight.The body has the best chance to become what it’s meant to be when you become the person that you think you will be when you lose the weight. Most people get this backward.Meet MarcMarc David, M.A., is the Founder and Primary Teacher of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating, an internationally renowned organization reaching millions of people each year. He’s a leading visionary, teacher, and consultant in the novel field of Eating Psychology, and the author of the ground-breaking and bestselling books, Nourishing Wisdom and The Slow Down Diet.Relevant Links past episodes of the podcast:
In this episode, Mordechai talks about having compassion for yourself along the journey to reach your goals. He discusses the idea that nobody is perfect and we have to give ourselves some grace and compassion to work through the messiness of the journey so that we can feel content. HighlightsFor the past few weeks, Mordechai has been eating more than he typically would because of Jewish holidays which are full of big meals and family gatherings.Mordechai operates best when he has control over his routine so events like these can throw him off balance.It is easy to see setbacks in a negative light and feel like you are not good enough.It can lead to judgemental and negative internal dialogues.Constantly creating new goals can prevent you from feeling content about what you have accomplished.Humans, by nature, are flawed and the idea of perfection for yourself is too high a standard to live to. You must find some compassion for yourself.Society projects the idea that there is a way to perfection and if you are not perfect then you are not worthy of grace and compassion.Do not suppress the emotion. Allow yourself to feel the messiness so that you can move past it.Self-acceptance is the entry point to compassion.We often think of the word compassion as something that we feel toward others. Compassion starts with yourself and the way we treat ourselves can often be how we treat others.Being committed to something isn’t the same as trying to be perfect.All past episodes of the podcast:
In this episode, Charlene talks about the moment that she no longer recognized herself and began the process of losing weight and becoming fit. She reveals some of her strategies, philosophies, and tips for being successful and losing nearly 100 pounds, and keeping it off for many years."You're no busier than a fit person" Charleen BazarianHighlightsCharlene has lost nearly 100lbsYou’re no busier than a fit person.Taking time for fitness can give you more energy to do other things more effectively in your life.Kids emulate parents. If they see you eat healthily and practice good fitness, then they will want to as well.Charlene weighs frequently and she gives herself 3 pounds of wiggle room. That helps her decide when to eat something that she would normally pass on.To avoid a binge, Charlene will brush her teeth.Most “cheat” meals make you feel physically poor afterward.Avoid “jump-starting” a weight loss program. You need to start something that is consistent and sustainable.Luna bars are one of Charlene’s favorite for breakfast and travel.Women seem to gravitate to cardio, but weight training is critical. Relevant Links & Instagram @fbjfitFacebook past episodes of the podcast:
Do you struggle with sugar cravings? Feel like sugar controls you? In this episode, Julie talks about the damaging effects that sugar, and other highly processed foods, have on the body and brain. She talks about the different types of sugars to avoid and also recommends alternatives to substitute. HighlightsJulie struggled with ADHD as a child.Her mother recognized that Julie had an issue with sugar and started to remove and replace sugar and other highly processed foods in her diet. Julie quickly felt much better.Balancing your neurochemistry can relieve self-loathing and anxiety.Refined sugar causes gut issues and inflammation.Redness, heat, swelling, pain, and loss of function are the 5 symptoms of inflammation.Inflammation affects the brain and can drive ADHD, anxiety, memory, etc.Some people are more sensitive to the effects of sugar.For kids, you need to find something good to bring into the house before removing the bad things. They need some options for treats.Most people see a reduction in symptoms when removing gluten, dairy, and sugar.There are many items to substitute in place of sugar. It’s much easier today than it was in the past.Sugar drives 8 out of the top 10 diseases.You have to learn to read labels correctly.There has never been a time that was easier to find sugar-free options.Sugar ages almost every part of your body.Relevant LinksEmail me at m@feelingfull.comAll Feeling Full Podcast episodes at on Instagram @juliedaniluk https://www.juliedaniluk.comBecoming sugar-free book: names for sugar
I met Leon a few weeks ago while enjoying farm life upstate New York. I was searching for a place to work out and immediately resonated with him when I walked into his gym. Leon enjoyed wrestling while in college. Then enrolled in the military to join the Coast Guard. When we met, he shared how he had lost 50+ pounds and how accountability played such a big role in his success to maintain his weight. Leon opened a CrossFit gym 3 years ago and began training others. In our conversation today, we discuss overcoming the mental hurdles and why so many people struggle with reaching their fitness goals, plus much more.HighlightsIf we can get 1% better each day, then we can be 100% better in 100 daysLeon started Crossfit in 2011 and it changed his life.Wrestling in high school helped shape his habits for improving every day.Leon loves Crossfit for the sport of it. One of the things that makes Crossfit strong is that it’s a community.One of Leon’s goals as a coach is to be less of a hard ass and to be compassionate and meet people where they are.If you can’t lead by example, then you shouldn’t be leading.Aim small miss small. Always start with fitness goals that are digestible. Don’t jump straight to a marathon. Start with a 5k. Then move to 10k. Find something that you enjoy as fitness. Don’t just do something to lose weight.Many people do not understand the power of consistency.Consistency over perfection.There is no money in healthy people.People hesitate to buy healthy versions of food because of cost but it is more cost-effective to eat healthy than it is to watch your health deteriorate.It’s critical to learn what quality food is and how to select it.Managing stress is critical to managing health and weight.Heart disease is still the number one cause of death in the USA. Nutrition, stress, and lack of sleep are key contributors.Only 12% of the population are healthy and exhibit no underlying health issues.Don’t give up on yourself. Pay attention and get rid of the excuses.Recourses:Study: 12% of American Adults Metabolically Healthy. on Instagram
Mark Krassner is one of my closest friends and one of the most committed coaches I know. He works with people on living their truth and pursuing their dreams. In this episode, I love what he shares about the importance of not overriding your emotions with intellect. We also talked about the importance of accepting and processing emotions that are driving your decisions to live a life of more ease and much more.HighlightsMark loves to help people find ways to step into their greatness.Have a plan for when you fail so that you can minimize the impact.Look for one thing that you can do consistently.Realize that when you fail today it is probably to a lesser extent than when you previously failed. Don’t forget the progress that you have made. Your low points are probably much higher than your previous low points.Pay attention to your feelings and try and understand what is happening in your life that is causing those feelings.Try to name the emotion that you are experiencing. Usually binging is caused by sadness, anger, or fear.Try to focus on the emotion and understand where it is residing in your body. Then try to understand how the emotion wants to move you. What is the physical reaction that the emotion is causing?Give yourself permission to feel and experience the emotion.Try not to override your emotions. Try to actually feel. You can’t focus on anything until you can focus on how you feel.Research shows that 20 minutes of human connection can reduce or remove cravings.Relevant LinksEpisode 9 - with Geneen Roth - Mark’s email - https://expectful.comAll Feeling Full episodes at
Lee Syatt has just reached a personal milestone of losing 115 pounds. I’m honored to bring you my conversation with him. Lee is an inspiring guy, who shares his weight loss journey with courageous authenticity and humor. As a self-described “fat kid”, he was often made fun of and put down because of his weight. In today's conversion, he shares how public accountability plays a big role in his ability to stay on track, how he’s overcoming many obstacles, and how he plans to keep the weight off, for good, this time.HighlightsLee got to a point where he wouldn’t put himself on camera for his podcasts.He works out online with a Zoom group and finds that it keeps him accountable.He also believes that the accountability from sharing his progress each week on his podcast has kept him focused and committed.Lee feels like he lacked self-control in his youth and survived on fast food.Lee started making better food choices and tried to remove items that were just too many calories.He has lost 115lbs in less than a year.During the show, Lee committed to running a 5k in 90 days.Lee is a comedian, and he is finding that some of his older jokes about his weight no longer work well after losing weight.He found that when he stays too sedentary or isolated, he becomes negative.More Episodes are available at Relevant LinksLee’s Instagram’s website Waistline Podcast’s Youtube’s’s Fiverr Gig for Launching a Podcast
Today, I’m speaking with my friend, Light Watkins. He's a meditation teacher, author and advocate for meditation practice. Formerly a model, he one day decided to take a leap and trust the softer voice in his head. One thing led to another, and Light was on a journey to become a yoga and meditation teacher. He eventually went on to write 3 books. His latest, Knowing Where to Look, is a fun read, with 108 short stories that will inspire you to live “on purpose” more courageously.Highlights:The book “Conversations with God” got Light thinking more about spirituality.Light decided that following your heart was the most prudent way to find happiness.Your heart will challenge you with difficult changes and it will take courage to follow your heart and evolve.A breakup was the catalyst for Light leaving New York and moving to California.It was in California where Light began teaching Yoga and eventually met a meditation teacher that inspired him to learn and teach meditation.Most people that call themselves meditation teachers are really guides and are not teaching mechanics.Meditation means different things to different people. There are multiple styles of meditation.The biggest benefit that Light has experienced through meditation is being more connected with his intuition.Your heart voice will never tell you what not to do. It only tells you what to do.Resources:Knowing Where to LookBliss MoreThe Inner Gymhttps://www.lightwatkins.comhttps://www.feelingfull.comBook mentioned:  Conversations With GodSocial links
Stephen Ritz is widely known as “America’s Favorite Teacher.” After losing over 100 pounds and changing his life. Stephen created the first edible classroom in the world. He and his students have grown more than 100,000 pounds of vegetables in the South Bronx, and in the process, Stephen has moved school attendance from 40% to 93% daily, and helped to provide 2,200 youths with jobs in the Bronx. In our conversation, we discuss the many challenges faced by children growing up in the South Bronx, and his journey to provide health and hope to over 3 decades of children.“Its easier to get a handgun in this community than it is to get a fresh head of lettuce”  ~Stephen Ritz HighlightsAt one point Stephen was over 300 pounds. Food was a big part of Stephen’s identity.He realized that he was overweight while advocating for healthy food in his school system, so he started to eat healthier.A child can’t be well-read if they aren’t well-fed.The Bronx has one of the highest fast food growth rates in the nation.Stephen believes that food justice is racial justice. Access to healthy and fresh foods should be a basic human right.At one point, Stephen’s class of 17 troubled students, planted over 15,000 plant bulbs around the city. That was the beginning of their movement for urban remediation.At that point, he realized the importance of engaging kids.The Green Bronx Machine has partnered for 2200 living wage jobs.When you teach children about nature you teach them about nurture.They decided to grow food and were allowed to sell some of their produce in Whole Foods.Stephen’s students later won the National Indoor Gardening Championship. They built one of the largest commercial farms in the South Bronx and annexed it next to a culinary kitchen.The group discovered tower gardens and began to use them as an integral part of learning.During the pandemic, they delivered over 100,000 pounds of food to 2300 families.Children are disconnected from food. Connecting kids to what their food is and where it comes from, helps them become part of the ecosystem.Show Resources: Stephen Ritz's Ted Talk: Power of A Plant: on Instagram: on Facebook: Bronx Machine Swag:
James Clear has a gift for breaking down complex human behaviors into simple, small ideas. In our conversation, James shares habits that can help you lose weight without using willpower. He shares simple approaches and mindset shifts that make developing good habits easy and breaking bad habits even easier. James’ book, Atomic Habits, has sold over 4 million copies, and it’s one of my favorite books to gift to someone who wants to create habits intentionally.  “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become." James Clear Highlights All humans are building habits at all times.We seem to inherit habits instead of designing them.Most people focus on the outcome of the habit or change and develop a plan for that.They believe that the identity will come as a side effect of achieving that plan.James believes that it’s more effective to decide on the identity and let the outcome come naturally.The goal is not “to write a book.” The goal is to “become a writer.”Every action that you take is a vote for the kind of person that you want to become.Scaling a goal down to something that you can do in 2 minutes or less is a great place to start focusing.Mastering the art of showing up is a key factor in building better habits.Habits are not a finish line to be crossed. They are a lifestyle to be lived.Pick just one habit to focus on.You’ll find that even a single habit has multiple smaller decisions and habits within it in order to facilitate the primary habit.Try to schedule your actions at times when you have the most control and energy over the time slot.Try to find someplace that you are surrounded by people that support your habits rather than conflict with it.James believes that working out 4 days a week has been one of his most productive habits.Convenience is often a primary driver for many of our habits.Relevant Linkshttps://jamesclear.com
My conversation with Charles Eisenstein really lit me up. Motivated by his own struggles with his body, including feelings of not being good enough and unworthiness, he took a deep dive into where these feelings came from. Then he wrote a book about it… The Yoga of Eating,Charles’ book discusses one of the biggest gaps with food: trusting ourselves. If we use willpower and diets to override our bodies’ intelligence, it’s a recipe for struggle.  If you're curious about what life could be like if you trusted your own cravings and body, I think you’re really going to love this conversation. “The more honest with yourself you are, the more trustworthy you become”  Charles Eisenstein   HighlightsWe are programmed to not accept ourselves.Almost everything that we judge ourselves for is the result of an unmet need.When Charles was a kid, he was bullied because he reached puberty later than others.It’s important to distinguish between cravings and authentic appetite.Eating food that is bad for you temporarily and falsely satisfies an unmet need without actually meeting the need.When you authentically satisfy needs then cravings will go away.You need to learn to understand how food makes your body feel after you’ve eaten it. The first step is finding that moment where you can see that you love yourself; that self-love is already there.Once you recognize that it’s there then you can return to that when you choose.The more honest with yourself you are, the more trustworthy you become.Relevant LinksWebsite: https://charleseisenstein.orgBooks: course: on Twitter: on Instagram: on Youtube:
In this episode, I speak with Liz about her experience working for Weight Watchers and eventually writing her book, called Target 100.  Liz has helped thousands of people lose weight sustainably with her six weight loss targets. HighlightsFor Liz, the power of Weight Watchers was sharing the experience with others and recognizing that she was not the only one that felt the way she did.Liz decided to work for Weight Watcher as an accountability measure since you had to weigh monthly and maintain your goal weight or risk losing your job.Liz eventually helped the CEO of Weight Watcher lose 40 pounds and was doing personal visits to his office. He realized that shoe would be a great fit for helping high-profile clients and she began to work 1 on 1 with celebrities.Liz believes that you must find what works for you and not focusing on what works for others.To Liz, the scale is a wonderful tool to help manage and learn about the science project that is the body.You should use a scale regularly enough to become inherently aware of what your body weight is.Staying in a 5-to-7-pound range is weight maintenance.6 pillars of weight loss: food, exercise, hydration, movement patterns, sleep, and stress.Feeling guilt and shame activates the reward center in the brain. So you do more of what it was that gave you the guilt and shame.Gratitude shuts down the reward system. Start with hydration and the water pillar to get a simple start.Relevant Links Scale  - www.myshapa.comThe Power Of Habit - BookBridge Across Forever - Book
Today I am joined by Mick Cornett, who was the Mayor of Oklahoma City for 4 terms. One of the things about Mick that inspires me the most is how he takes big risks and embraces failure. Thanks to his mindset and leadership, Oklahoma City turned from one of the “fattest cities in the country” to one of the healthiest, and so much more.This conversation will inspire you to think bigger, take more chances, and cultivate a belief that anything is possible. HighlightsMick saw that the city was always near the bottom of the health rankings.He wanted to do something to address it and also put a positive light on the city as well as the process of losing weight and becoming fit.Mick was a huge sports fan and wanted to be a sportscaster.He was assigned to cover a city council story and fell in love with what he saw while reporting.He was inspired and eventually ran for city council.Mick realized that the entire infrastructure of Oklahoma City was built for driving. There was almost no place to be active. No walkways, no bike paths, etc.They were also one of the largest drive-thru restaurant cities in the world per capita.Oklahoma City ranked high on the list of most obese cities in the United States.Mick had gained weight while being the mayor and realized that he was an example of that obesity ranking. As he started to take control of his weight and fitness some of the problematic issues with the city’s infrastructure became clear to him.Mick believes that at some point if you want to get to the next level, you have to make a conscious decision to “step up” and make changes.Relevant LinksMicks Book - The Next American City Ted Talk -  How an obese town lost one million pounds Book recommendation - Dynasty by Jeff Benedict
In this episode, Eliza and Mordechai discuss ways to help kids that are struggling with their weight. They discuss strategies to help them learn healthy internal dialogues and how to manage their belief systems so that they can have a solid foundation for managing their weight and self-image. HighlightsWhen someone is struggling with their weight it means that they probably are not living the happiest, healthiest, and biggest life that they were meant to live.Eliza was told that she could not embrace the body positive movement if she was also talking about how to lose weight.She believed that it was not only possible but necessary to be happy with your current body while working to change habits on the path to transform and lose weight.When Eliza was younger, she had a poor relationship with her body image and after a long struggle with it, she finally decided that she would no longer have that relationship with her body and she began to investigate why and how to fix it.It wasn’t until after seeing kids go home from camp after having success only to see them slip backward, did Eliza realize that the critical component was the approach to image and mindset around their current state.Believing that you can do something is the most important part of any endeavor.Kids need to be taught early to become aware of their language and how to observe their language and thoughts.It is important to help our kids understand the modern food environment. You have to help them regulate processed food intake.  Processed food is muting the body’s ability to send correct hunger and fullness cues.You must help kids understand that foods affect how the body feels throughout the day.“A belief system is your operating system” Eliza KingsfordRelevant Links
Jeff and Mordechai discuss Jeff’s journey with managing his weight. They touch on how they met, what Jeff’s childhood was like as a heavy kid, and Jeff talks about his initial resistance and how his mindset has changed to help him be successful. HighlightsWhen Jeff first met Mordechai, he was not ready to make changes.After Jeff’s mother’s passing, he began to eat more and gained weight.His brother had a baby and he wanted to be involved in his niece’s life and then a good friend who was living a similar lifestyle had a heart attack and nearly died.Around that same time, Mordechai called Jeff and wanted to get him involved with a new session.Jeff committed to calling Mordechai the next Monday but did not make the call. Then when he did call, Mordechai said that he did not think Jeff was ready since he skipped the call.Jeff did not want to restrict himself fully from the foods that he loved and wanted to try. So, he planned to be able to have one bit of anything at the table.He has lost over 80lbs.He realized that you could eat plenty of food that is good for you and never feel like you are hungry. He also realized that sometimes the simplest and healthiest cooking tastes the best.You can look at any menu and find the thing that works for you. When you are eating healthy vegetables and protein, your digestive system functions properly and you feel better.Jeff grew up in a typical 90’s home where everything was low-fat or light versions of food.His parents had him go to Weight Watchers at 13 and it was uncomfortable to be there.Jeff rebelled by eating food that he was not supposed to eat.The goal is not perfection. The goal is consistency.Preparing food to take with you is critical.Relevant LinksJeffslosingit - Instagram blackcrystalwolfkids.comJon Gabriel's nighttime visualization 
Episode SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Sadrian and Mordechai discuss cosmetic surgery, how to make a good decision, and how to prepare for the process. HighlightsThe ideal patient is one that takes their time and does their homework so that they are well armed with questions and basic knowledge. Some patients have misaligned or unreasonable expectations of what surgery can accomplish.There is nothing textbook about trauma surgery.  Cosmetic surgery is a combination of science and art together.First thing is to find out what the patient wants. What are the things that are bothering them and what are their goals?The results are a partnership. If a patient works hard before and after the surgery, then there could be better results.There needs to be some time between the weight loss and the cosmetic surgery. Dr. Sadrian thinks that 6 months is the minimum wait time.Sometimes the surgery is done in stages. It generally takes 6 weeks for the majority of healing to happen after surgery. That is still not 100% recovery.Since people are using Zoom more frequently and seeing themselves, facial surgeries have increased.When you cut something there is going to be a scar.The tricky part is placing the scar in a place where it is less visible.Always ask “why?”.  What do you want and what is your goal?Relevant
Episode SummaryIn this episode, Eli talks about his life battling with self-worth, loneliness, and weight. He discusses some key moments along his journey and offers some experiences that may be helpful to others. He talks about the importance of music to him and what it is like to let go of control when on stage performing.HighlightsEli remembers when he became addicted to sugar at 7 years old.He started getting picked on and bullied in elementary school.Eli maintains a weight loss between 100 to 120 lbs.When you are on stage you let go of control and you just are.In the Orthodox community, nobody talks about feeling hurt or lonely.Admitting that you have insecurities is powerful.Part of Eli’s comfort is the music that he has released that reveals his struggles.Eli talks to himself in positive ways and believes that it’s healthy and helps remove negative thoughts.Manage your home environment. Create a space that is safe and supports your goals.Come up with staple foods that you can create as a ritual. Focus on what you are doing and do not obsess about what you are not doing.Relevant Linkswww.elischwebel.comWhole with you song 
Episode SummaryIn this episode, Mordechai talks about the decision to have plastic surgery and the journey from his initial consideration to his post-surgery life.HighlightsAbout 5 years ago was the first time Mordechai decided that he wanted to have surgery. He visited 10 surgeons and decided something did not feel right. It felt like he was hiding something.He decided not to have the surgery.A year and a half ago he considered it for a second time and had the surgery.At a retreat in Costa Rica, he was hot but didn’t want to remove his shirt in front of people at the event.As a kid, Mordechai was bullied and picked on because of his weight.Mordechai shared with the group at the retreat that he had wanted to lose weight most of his life and now that he had, he still felt bad about himself.He wanted to build something and be financially successful. He achieved both of those things but realized that it was more about the acceptance of others. He learned that he needed to accept himself.He removed his shirt in front of the entire group while telling his story and sharing how he felt. It was a pivotal moment.He finally realized how great it felt to be unapologetically himself.He made it a point to remove his shirt after that and it was still hard, but it began to feel more comfortable.Have you ever had a moment where you stopped worrying about measuring up to society and you were your authentic self?He came across other men who were reluctant to remove their shirts.A few years later he decided it was time to have the surgery. He didn't feel he was running away from the skin but towards his true self. After interviewing a number of doctors, he realized that many of the doctors were not aligned with his needs.Mordechai struggled with scheduling the surgery.  He worried about what it meant about him as a man and how he would be perceived.Letting his friends in and telling them about his surgery was a big part of the healing process.Now that he has shared about the surgeries, he has more people speaking with him about it.If you do it for the right reasons then you will probably have a great result.
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