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It is a New Year! How can we renew our habits with a recommitment to ourselves? We talk through a listener question about just this! Let's find motivation together. Related Episodes Discovering YOUR Life Essentials EP 111 POWER TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF USING GRETCHIN RUBIN'S FOUR TENDENCIES Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big Results (Atomic Habits by James Clear) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Belonging is a deep instinctual need we have as a societal based species, so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that many of us as children (and adults) choose approval of other humans over authenticity and self trust inside of ourselves. Once we are aware of this instinct, analysis of our behavior choices become incredible interesting. We have now brought subconscious motives to the surface and can make decisions from a place of intention and consciousness, and this can prove to create beautiful moments of unconditional love and empowerment. Related Episodes: Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Have you ever had the experience of when your toddler begins to say “no” to your request? It can be a puzzling experience, if not downright annoying. In this episode we share tips and tools for how to handle these situations in an unruffled way.  Related Episodes EP 45 WHEN KIDS ARE SICK AND TODDLERS FEEL UNBEARABLE EP 53 TOP 10 PARENTING TIPS OF THE YEAR --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

This episode Felica unpacks the tale of the too sweet mother and how we can learn to avoid extremes in our parenting from apathy to over parenting. We hope you enjoy! Remember to sign up ⁠here⁠ for our weekly newsletter where we send our favorite books, resources & parenting tips each week!  To leave a review ⁠⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Self-care seems to be a buzzword that gets swept up in consumerism and consequently the real meaning and purpose of self-care gets blurry. In today’s episode, we talk about what self-care really is and how intentionality, mindfulness, and boundaries can help us connect better to ourselves and others. Related episodes 257 // How to Handle Parent Guilt, Reinventing Ourselves, and Bossy Kids ⁠⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠⁠ Sponsor: Freddie’s Laundry Sheets Taralyn, Felica, and I all are very big on using products that contain ingredients that are not only good for your body and the environment, but also do the job well. I’ve been on the hunt for a good laundry detergent to meet the criteria and Freddie’s Laundry Sheets check all of the boxes! They are are non-toxic, eco-friendly, plastic free, mess-free, and actually clean your clothes! I love them so much that I want to share them with you! You can save an additional 5% when you use discount code findthemagic at check out. Let me know how you like them! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It seems there is an epidemic of disrespect, whining, tantrums, talking back and in general, less respect than we saw in previous generations of kids. We are burned out as parents and we don't see a way out. This ends in being ultra strict or ultra passive because we just feel burnt out. In this episode Felica talks with Joe Newman about mutual recognition. This is the practice of back and forth respect that we should see to establish in our homes for a peaceful environment. Oftentimes the balance is shifted in favor of respecting our children but is not returned. There is a place in the middle where we can create a mutually respectful relationship with our kids. Related Episodes When Other People Disagree With Your Parenting The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting  Raising Lions: The Art of Compassionate Discipline with Joe Newman Remember to sign up here for our weekly newsletter where we send our favorite books, resources & parenting tips each week!  ⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

272 // Magic Moment: When Life’s Waves Tumble you Does it ever feel like you are just being thrashed by the waves of life? Most of us have felt that way. In this episode, Taralyn describes some things she learned about facing waves in the ocean in Costa Rica. Sometimes it is helpful to face them with peaceful warrior strength; sometimes, its easier to duck under and let the wave roll over us, and sometimes we can surrender to it and allow ourselves to rest as we roll through them. Also, let’s not forget the joy of riding the waves! Sometimes life is a joyful ride, and thats important to enjoy also. Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Before we can add in NEW yummy desires and goals for 2024 we have to clear out the old. Our psyche can be full of unwanted triggers and patterns and this can be the very thing blocking us from becoming who we would like to be. Feel bogged down? Tune in for a quick retune before you embark on your 2024 goal setting. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Connection may just be the cure all to childhood misbehavior and troubles but it is harder to foster than any of us would want! In this episode we dive into one of our favorite books "Hold Onto Your Kids" by ⁠Gordon Neufeld⁠ and ⁠Gabor Maté MD⁠ and pull our favorite tips for maintaining a strong relationship with our children as well as signs and symptoms that may point to a connection issue! We also discuss how and why kids become "peer oriented" and why it is happening more and more. We hope this episode leaves you empowered to create strong family bonds and connections that will heal past hurts and forge new relationship paths for future success!  Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style 230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Discovering YOUR Life Essentials Solitude Through Digital Minimalism Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Related Episodes Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Reiki is known as the divine movement of life force energy and is used as a healing technique to guide stuck energy from our chakras into alignment with our true purpose and intention. This week Felica interview Reiki Master Kristen Morris of MotherTree Reiki about her journey guiding people to know themselves better and she shares her experience having a healing session with Kristen! They talk about how our energy can prevent us from knowing ourselves fully and how reiki can move us into alignment. You can learn more about Kristen at @mothertreereiki Related Episodes How to Enhance Your Ability to Be Present 227 // Magic Moment: Recommitting to Your Phone Detox 204 // Daily Life As a Spiritual PracticeSolitude Through Digital Minimalism Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Stress is a fact of life, getting stuck in it isn't! When we are stuck in chronic stress or our stressors push us past our ability to cope we find ourselves in overwhelm. This episode we unpack Atlas of The Heart, the work of Brene Brown, as a guide to moving through stress and out of overwhelm. We touch on ways that we can identify the feeling in our body before it becomes overwhelmed and our favorite tips and tools for increasing our ability to cope with these often uncomfortable feelings. 9:00- Definition of Stress vs. Overwhelm 15:26 - Where do we feel stress/overwhelm in our bodies? 18:30 - Your body keeps the score 22:52 - Move through the tunnel 23:50 - Completion of the stress cycle 25:50 - Fight, flight, or freeze 28:30 - Using RAIN from Tara Brach as a tool 31:45 - Grounding 36:11 - Having a positive social interaction 40:06 - Creative expression --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It sometimes feels like we are being pulled in many directions, and it is hard to feel settled and aligned when that is happening. In this episode, Taralyn describes a few things she has learned lately in her wrestle for alignment.  The steps she has used to help her are: 1-Identify what parts of you are misaligned and intentionally give them all a seat in your council. 2-Set aside time daily to imagine what it would feel like to have that settled feeling of being aligned in your heart, mind, body, and spirit. Use that powerful brain of yours to try on the feeling of having all of the parts be in harmony. Tapping into this vibration helps you pull it towards you. Grounding is also a really helpful tool during this step. The shower is a great place to try this habit because its daily and the water is so conductive. 4-Think bigger. Zoom out your perspective and observe that YOU are not your body, your emotions, or your mind. Once you FEEL that, aligning all of them becomes easier--like a magnet rearranging metal shavings. If you try this, Taralyn would LOVE to know how it goes for you. Just DM her on instagram @taralyngriffin Our Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit. Breathwork Exercises for Daily Habit Building with Taralyn  203 // Meditation: Letting Fear Go Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour Make Your Morning Routine Happen! Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Related EpisodesThank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠Scroll to the bottom of the page --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

"No one listens to me!" "I feel like the train engine running our whole home." "I am exhausted, will it always be this hard?" Finding the right parenting style for your family is hard. Information flies at us from all direction challenging us to "listen more", "be more strict." etc ... ultimately what we want is a dynamic, respectful and loving relationship with our children. In this episode Felica interviews Joe Newman, author of Raising Lions, about his work for his new book. They discuss how respectful parenting can be taken too far when we are respecting our children but they are showing no respect back and why this happens. Related Episodes ⁠⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠⁠ Books and Links We Mentioned ⁠⁠Fairplay⁠⁠ // Eve Rodsky ⁠⁠Raising Lions⁠⁠ // Joe Newman ⁠⁠No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame⁠⁠  // Janet Lansbury Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: ⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

​​This episode is a balm to stress and overwhelm. If you are feeling trapped in the storm of life this episode is for you. Felica shares her favorite quick tips for regulating her nervous system when things are just too much! If you liked this episode don't forget to share it and leave a review! We appreciate you so much. Review of the week *nicole0304h*, 10/03/2023 Can I be friends with them?I LOVE this podcast. As a mom, and a former therapist—they speak to my heart from such a real, empowering and practical perspective. I glean so many tips and tidbits from what they share and appreciate their honesty and ability to respect different points of views on topics. They truly do their research and have conversations that make me think, laugh and secretly want to be friends with them! Related Episodes  Tips for Overcoming Distraction --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Our favorite sex therapist is back and this time we are challenging the assumption that sexual desire dies with long term relationships. Felica interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and they dive into the challenges we face to "keep the fire alive".Esther Perel said " Eroticism is the antithesis to everything a healthy family life needs, ritual, routine and knowing. Safety and security. Eroticism is adventure" , in this episode we tease out the nuance in this and discover what eroticism TRULY means. Hint ** it isn't all about sex/ desire.We also touch on the fact that families are more child centered than ever with higher expectations for couples. All responsibility often falls on parents, not community, institutions or society. We set up play dates and take pictures of and talk about and invest in our kids yet our personal and couple relationships are left to shrivel up. How can we do better?We tackle all this and more! Don't miss this chance to bring more erotic energy into your life.  Links We Mentioned  https://www.goodinside.com/podcast/4759/sex-after-kids-tell-me-more-esther-perel/ Related Episodes How to Own Your Own Desires with Dr.Finlayson Fife  Discovering Self within Our Sexuality & Overcoming Betrayal  Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much! Each week we choose a winner to receive a FREE JOURNAL for leaving a review! Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In this mini episode Felica helps us think about how we take on our role as mother. It is a blessing for all the women we have been and a challenge to shed our over identification with our labels. ENJOY! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Research indicates that preschoolers, on average, make three demands/requests per minute! Wow. It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed. “Watch me!” “Get that!” “Where’s my dinosaur?!”  In this episode we talk about practical ideas and tools that have helped us navigate the barrage of daily requests, questions, and demands in a way that allows you to maintain calm and respect for your kids and yourself.  Books & Links we mention Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting // John Gottman with Joan DeClaire Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff  Mom Watch Compilation by Johnson Files Related Episodes 230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) How To: Create Pockets of Peace Time Stamps 10:00 How many requests our kids make per minute 13:15 Why we future focus and how inputs from our kids overwhelm us  14:15 Are our kids self centered? 23:18 Using body language and social cues 25:55 Mom watch this watch this!! 29:00 Do you have a hard time tuning out noise/ kids? 32:18 Good parenting does not mean responding to everything request  40:01 Ask, is my child seeking connection? Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Having a secure relationship with our partner is the foundation for a long, happy life. Building on this relationship we create meaningful and lasting lives that support our psychological development as well as provide a strong foundation for our children, careers and physical health. We loved reading Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin and we had to distill this one for you! In this episode we discuss how knowing your attachment style can guide you to a self awareness that enhances your ability to connect, repair and forgive. We also share our favorite tactics from the book for putting your relationship first, healing past wounds and supporting each other in parenting.  Related Episodes  Putting Connection With Our Spouse First How to own your desires with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife Time Stamps 12:00 - Attachment styles 14:05 - Anchors 16:30 - Waves 20:01 - Islands 32:33 - The relationship as an entity should be the highest priority 35:35 - Conflicts within a relationship 44:30 - Am I putting my role as a parent, or my hobby over my primary attachment? 46:17 - Supporting your spouse in parenting 51:40 - Secret password for stressful parenting moments 57:50 - Bring issues up preventatively Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Fall is the perfect time to reset our rituals, intentions and systems. In this magic moment Felica shares 2 rituals that are resetting her emotional wellness. The first centers on grieving our losses; the small day to day things we try to push past. The second is a ritual for visualizing our intentions and future goals around parenting and reframing our day to day tasks. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Centering our minds and finding a place of peace in our days is crucial in modern parenting. Our phones are filled with demands that pull us away from ourselves, our desires and our families. On top of that the demands of our lives from appointments to chores call us away from creating connection and relationships.  In this episode we refresh our determination to keep saying yes to connection and no to superficial distraction. We share why and our favorite tips and tricks for cultivating a present life.  Related Episodes How to Enhance Your Ability to Be Present 227 // Magic Moment: Recommitting to Your Phone Detox ⁠204 // Daily Life As a Spiritual Practice⁠⁠Solitude Through Digital Minimalism Time Stamps 11:04 - How can we curb distraction? 12:15 - Delete your apps 15:00 - Set aside time for phone time 16:30 - Turn off notifications 17:33 - A box for your phone 19:23 - A key to having self control - change your environment 22:46 - How to be present when our minds are preoccupied 24:41 - Maybe lower your standards for what needs to be done 27:20 - Magical mind will serve a magical body 29:00 - Practice being still Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) REVIEW OF THE WEEK: Kimberly Br0ssi I’ve enjoyed this podcast since 2019 and it helped me get through several hard moments. The mini magics are always awesome. All 3 hosts are so great and share how we can care of ourselves so we can better take care of others. Each are at different points in life and motherhood so there’s something for everyone. There are so many episodes that I re-listen to when I need the reminders! Great for any woman, young or old, new mom or veteran. Thank you!real and refreshing --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support