Fit, Feminine, & Friendly

This episode touches on the controversial comments Tyler Perry made about black women and what we should accept, or much less, “settle” for within our community.

This episode takes a look into my current dating life, the struggles I face in my now, 30’s, and some funny and interesting excerpts from men who have approached me in order to “court” me. This episode is pretty light hearted and chill, with some laughs along the way, hopefully. Enjoy!

This episode I will be talking with my friend Donna, and she will detail a recent relationship that she was in. She discusses the intricacies of their time together, the ups and downs, positive times, red flags, knowing her worth, how she felt towards the end, where they stand now, and how she feels moving forward. This episode may resonate with you, or someone you may know. Enjoy!

This episode talks about how sometimes, if not oftentimes, most people want to be liked more than being honest. I struggled with this a lot growing up, and would always go along to get along no matter how it made me feel. as I have gotten older I have realized that I would rather live in my authentic truth, and be honest about my views and feelings rather than suffer in silence to make many around me happy, when in reality, they wouldn’t do the same for me. How many of you have endured this? How many are still going through this struggle?

(WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS HARD TRUTHS AND DIALOGUE THAT MAY BE VIEWED AS OFFENSIVE) In this episode I will discuss the “baby mother” epidemic that we have in the black community, and how we need to start holding ourselves accountable, along with these men that we are choosing to procreate with. While it is no surprise that the numbers of single black mothers continues to be on the rise, we need to stop and take a look at the reasons behind this, and unfortunately it starts with taking a look in the mirror. Enjoy!

This episode discusses the realities of toxic relationships, and the sad truths about many long term relationships. As a woman who is single, I often look around, and unfortunately don’t see many happy women in happy relationships these days. I have realized that the romanticized notion of marriage or a relationship is not all it’s cracked up to be. I discuss my personal views and experiences with my unhealthy and unhappy relationships, and why I’m actually happier single, even though it sucks to admit. Enjoy!

In this episode you will get to listen to my interview on the Kendra G Singles show where I talk about my experiences dating in the black community, why I primarily don’t date black men, and how I have not found black love. I definitely got a lot of push back which I expected because it is a touchy subject, but I also wanted to be honest about my experiences… which a lot of people don’t always like to hear. I enjoyed my dialogue with Kendra, and also the supportive messages I received even if everyone did not agree or experience my same experiences. I also talk about my opinions and views on the interview etc. and insert some opinions from my girlfriends as well. Enjoy!

(WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS EXPLICIT CONTENT) This episode discusses the role that labels play in “relationships”. How many times have you dated someone, and it’s been months, and you still don’t know where you stand with that person? How many of you have been left confused when your partner states they “don’t need a label to define what we are”? Have you found yourself wasting time with men who don’t want the same thing as you? Well, in this episode I will discuss past situations I have been in where I did not effectively communicate what I wanted before giving too much of myself to someone. This episode will also discusses why labels can be important, why communication about labels can help both parties in the dating process, and what happens when you do not discuss your intentions. Enjoy!

On one of my many car rides from work, I decided to record a little venting session, one of many that I have with myself quite often. I talk about what’s going on with my dating life, where I’m at career wise, how I have no idea wtf I’m doing, and… yea. Enjoy!

This episode discusses friendships in adulthood, how making friends can be difficult the older we get, and how every friendship may not, and is not meant to last, and how some friendships never should have been. How you learn and grow from each of your friendships, and how you have to sometimes let go of these relationships, no matter how hard it is. I discuss my personal experiences with friendships I have had to move on from, and what my inner circle looks like now. I also discuss how my friendships have affected my personal life, both professionally and privately.

(WARNING: THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES ABORTION) This episode talks about the recent incident taking place with Keke Palmer and the father of her child. It discusses dating down, having children before marriage, and keeping your relationships off of the internet.

(WARNING: This episode contains VULGAR language) This episode discusses a recent situation that I personally endured with a once close friend, turned FWB. I discuss why I can no longer take part in “situationships”, or “FWB” style relationships. This is something that I know a lot of women have gone through, and may currently be going through now. I also discuss how this experience has taught me how much I have grown, but also how I need to continue working on standing firm in my boundaries, standards, and to never again lower my standards and expectations for a relationship or romantic partner.

This episode discusses the mediocrity in the black community, and how black people as a whole are taught that average is good enough. This episode will also discuss how we as black people enable lazy and unmotivated men in our culture and make excuses for the lack of progress we as a people have made. I will discuss the differences between black women and black men, why the “strong black woman” came into play, and why black women also need to do better; stop overly sexualizing ourselves, have more self respect, know our worth, pour into ourselves, work on ourselves to create value, and place ourselves in a better position to have a better life, and to ultimately find a better partner.

This episode touches on my toxic relationship with my mother, and how I muddled my way through it. I talk about what I have learned from the relationship, how it affects me as a mother how, and moving forward, what my relationship with my mother looks like today.

(WARNING: THIS EPISODE CONTAINS GRAPHIC LANGUE, AND TRUTHS/OPINIONS THAT MAY BE HARD TO HEAR) This episode discusses how many black women are expected to accept the struggle, and the bare minimum from their black partners, while women of other races are taught to find partners who are able to provide both financially and emotionally. I will discuss views of black men that I have encountered, and give insight on why I will never choose the “struggle-ship” relationship.

This episode discusses the mistakes we as women make in relationships, the choices we make in life in general, and what we chose to do moving forward. I will discuss my shortcomings, as well as my accountability in past relationships and my dating life, as well as talk about what I could have done differently, what I do differently now, and what I plan to do moving forward in my next relationship…

This episode talks about having narcissistic parents, how being raised by a narcissist can affect you in your mental health, mood, and personality going into adulthood. This episode also discusses how you can set boundaries with that parent, and tools that I used to avoid becoming a narcissist myself.

(WARNING: THIS EPISODE DISCUSSES ABORTION, PTSD, DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, DEATH, AND SUICIDAL THOUGHTS) This episode discusses motherhood, the choice to have or not to have children, my decision to have no more children, how hard it was to finally make the decision, how freeing this journey towards making my decision, and how this whole process has made me feel.

This episode focuses on the term “good digger”, and how it seems to be thrown around freely these days by men. What makes a woman a gold digger? Is the term being used as an excuse to stop properly courting women? Why I have been called a gold digger, and more.