Fix Your Chit

It's our last episode, but we'll meet again. (Promise.) Thanks for listening, friends! Love, Lynda & Lisa Saying Goodbye and Saying it Well (American Psychological Association) 5 Strange Things We Do When We Want To Avoid Saying Goodbye (Elite Daily) To stay in touch with Lisa visit lisadiers.com To stay in touch with Lynda visit lyndacrotty.com  

Have we told you lately that we love you? We do, and we have something else to tell you too.

Someone sucking the life out of you? We bring the guru garlic in this episode on energy vampires. How to spot (and deal with) an energy vampire - NBC News How to Recognize and Respond to Energy Vampires at Home, Work, and More - Healthline Russell Brand Kundalini Exercise - Feel Like LOSING YOUT SH*T? Try THIS First  

Learn from your yearn and integrity will follow. Promise. (Plus, Martha Beck says so.) Get this book! The Way of Integrity - Martha Beck Try this meditation: Are you satisfiable? - Amanda Yates Garcia

Dude! Get some solitude. It does a body (and mind) good. Why Do Introverts Love Being Alone? Here's The Science - Jenn Granneman 7 Science-Backed Reasons You Should Spend More Time Alone - Amy Morin

You've got some nerve. (Your vagas nerve.) And it's the boss of your bod. How to stimulate your vagus nerve for better mental health. By Jordan Fallis - University of Ottowa

Got dragons to slay? We got you. (With a little help from Joseph Campbell.) Joseph Campbell - Wikipedia  The Hero's Journey - Your Dictionary No more moon! - Super old blog post by Lynda Crotty

Stuck in the middle? We'll help you move. 7 Things To Do Immediately When You Feel 'Stuck' In Life - by Kelly Chisholm Living In Limbo - by Alecia Kennedy Staying Stuck or Moving Forward - by Dr. Lani Nelson Zlupko | TEDxWilmington  

There's gravity in letting that apple hit you on the head. Pick it instead, for a more positive mindset. 5 Simple & Scientific Steps to Detox Trauma and Toxic Thinking By Dr. Caroline Leaf

Shed the shackles of playing small and accept your divine assignment.   Why Playing Small Is Just Your Ego - Lissa Rankin Turning Pro Intro - Steven Pressfield How To Turn Pro, From The Warrior Artist, Steven Pressfield - Ryan Holiday- Forbes

Build the plane in mid-air? Kinda. Learn how to "wing it" well. The Science Of Winging It: Why Successful People Just Go With The Flow - BY JOHN HALTIWANGER (for Elite Daily) Afraid To Mess Up? Why You Often Just Need To Wing It! - BY MARGIE WARRELL (for Forbes)  

Hey, people pleasers, we're good. It's time to choose you. Why it doesn't pay to be a people pleaser. Christine Carter - PhD People Pleasing: How it can damage your mental health and how to stop. Caroline Leaf - Pathologist & Neuroscientist 11 experts tips to stop being a people pleaser and start doing you. Vanessa Van Edwards - Author & Speaker  

Shit's goin' down with or without you, so suffer or don't. (You get to pick!) DBT Skills: Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance - Video The Power of Acceptance: Stop Resisting and Find the Lesson Unconditional Self Acceptance - Kris Carr Unconditional Positive Regard  Crashing The Coronation - Bokara Legendre - The Moth

If you want to DO something. Don't think. Or blink. Just jump! Omar Apollo story from "How I Made It" (Latino USA) on NPR https://beta.prx.org/stories/356339 The Action Habit: 7 Proven Ways to Move from Deciding to Doing by Skip Richard https://www.skipprichard.com/the-action-habit-7-proven-ways-to-move-from-deciding-to-doing/ Choice Theory - by Pratibha A. Huff Post https://www.huffpost.com/entry/choice-theory_b_58ac99c6e4b0ead5f0d41ec7    

How do you hold space for someone you hurt? Make like a Care Bear and shut the Funshine up.   https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/your-adult-child-resents-way-you-parented-them-here-s-ncna1042081

Been hanging out on got-nobody-island? We're coming for ya', friend! https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2020/04/06/the-history-of-loneliness https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2020/04/06/the-history-of-loneliness https://news.uchicago.edu/story/loneliness-can-be-contagious-study-finds https://www.verywellmind.com/loneliness-causes-effects-and-treatments-2795749#:~:text=Loneliness%20is%20defined%20by%20researchers,form%20connections%20with%20other%20people.

Some feelings don't fight fair. Unhook the crooks. How To Stop A Negative Mental Feedback Loop - Kia Roman https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-to-stop-a-negative-mental-feedback-loop  Unplug Your Inner Critic - Kristen Neff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ayJ2q3bHc8o  Mary Oliver - The Journey http://www.phys.unm.edu/~tw/fas/yits/archive/oliver_thejourney.html Joe Dispenza - The School Of Greatness Podcast https://lewishowes.com/podcast/how-to-overcome-negative-emotions-let-go-of-your-identity-and-truly-love-yourself-with-dr-joe-dispenza-part-2/  

Been "ruthing"? We'll help you do less of that. Here's how. Unfriend Yourself - Blog post by Lynda  https://lyndacrotty.com/unfriend-yourself-2/ Jim Loehr - The Power of Story https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_0NnqkmVM4 Kristin Neff - Stop chasing self-esteem and start being self-compassionate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MEyJ_H1U5SQ Start Again - Instagram post by Lynda https://www.instagram.com/p/BdbWJYrF7vA/

6 ways uncommon sense will make 2021 the year of your come up.   1.) With great responsibility comes great power. (When you take charge, you gift yourself leverage.) 2.) Be unimpressive (do it shitty). Concern yourself with the process instead of the result. 3.) Celebrate the "no." (The more you get a “no”, the better the odds of “yes” are).  4.) Recycle the trash. (Turn what seems bad or unuseful into gold.) 5.) Lie to yourself. (Just like setting your clock ten minutes ahead, tiny fake-outs can produce honest progress.) 6.) Tell those you love how much they suck. (In your head, of course, feel how appalling it is, then realize you do it to yourself all the time.) Poem by Leslie Dwight - What If 2020 Isn't Canceled https://www.today.com/news/what-if-2020-isn-t-canceled-inspiring-poem-message-change-t183397

There's great strength in softness...if you armor up with amóre. Danielle Laporte: "Open, gentle heart. Big fucking fence." The advice I give on Love that took the longest time to learn. https://www.daniellelaporte.com/read/advice-on-love the inspo feather