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In this episode of Foreplay Replay, we revisit our discussion on kissing. Kissing often falls off in a long-term relationship. As the eyes are the window to the soul, kissing is the window to the heart. Join the conversation with Laurie and Tony! If you have topics that you'd like to hear about, email us at info@foreplayrst.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Laurie and George are joined by Casey and Meygan Caston, founders of Marriage 365. Marriage 365 provides a comprehensive approach to help couples improve connection in their daily lives through books, coaching and courses. Motivated by the near destruction and repair of their own marriage, Casey and Meygan made it their mission to share the tools that helped them far and wide. You won't want to miss this engaging conversation between these relationship experts! Listen how they moved from a marriage full of assumptions to creating a framework for connection. Visit www.marriage365.com to learn more about Casey and Meygan and make sure to rate and review this episode wherever you stream our pod. Keep it hot y'all! Please check out this week's sponsors: Cookunity.com/foreplay -- Award-winning meals for every diet! As low as $11 per meal! 50% off your first week! Uberlube.com -- Laurie's favorite sex lubricant! Use the code 'foreplay' for 10% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode Laurie and George sit down with fellow Sex and Relationship Expert, Dr. Emily Jamea for a conversation on sex in the flow state and the secrets to great sex found in her book, 'Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion.' Dr. Jamea is also the host of the podcast 'Love and Libido' and is eager to share her knowledge with our Foreplay audience. You will be fascinated to hear all that is happening to the brain and body during sex and how couples can use this information to get unstuck from the monotony and into a state of flow. Our hosts and Dr. Jamea discuss the five secrets every couple needs to know to improve their sex lives. Sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability and attunement are the pillars that create and cultivate intimacy, passion and a truly transformative sexual relationship. Want more from Dr. Jamea? You can purchase her book on her website www.emilyjamea.com Keep it hot y'all! PLEASE support this episode's sponsors: Leesa.com -- GREAT foam matresses -- free delivery plus 2 free pillows! 25% off your first order! Foriawellness.com/foreplay -- Get 20% off your first order -- fantastic massage oils to enhance your feeling! Rocketmoney.com/foreplay -- easily cancel those unused subscriptions! Save some money for date night! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome Foreplayers to another great episode in the 'School of Love.' We are staying with the emotional pursuer in this episode and asking them to reach deep. All to get the Hollywood ending you've dreamed about as the pursuer...getting your emotional needs met. The pursuer has discovered the unmet need below the protective move which is often anger or criticism and now it's their turn to share it with their re-engaged withdrawer. Our hosts provide a great role play where they not only identify the need but ask their partner for help here. This may sound like, "I feel unimportant here and I want to feel really important to you. Can you help me here?" These are the conversations that create secure relationships. If the negative cycle is the clashing of unmet needs then the positive cycle is unmet needs met. As you work towards this you will find that this space is much more organic, fulfilling and natural than the previous negative cycle. As Laurie says, "the molecules just all come together!" Therapists, if you're wanting to help your clients gain more security in their sexual relationship make sure you join us in Nashville in January for our next training. Check out this episode's sponsors (and help the pod!): BetterHelp.com/Foreplay for 10% off your first month! Cookunity.com/foreplay for 50% off your first work of delicious easy to prepare dinners. Or use the code 'foreplay' at checkout! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome Foreplay listeners! Today's episode is another in our 'School of Love' series that we are close to completing. We are talking today about how to stay and keep focused on the pursuing partner as they express their vulnerability. Listen in as George and Laurie breakdown the steps a couple needs to have completed before getting to this point and how both partners can stay focused on the pursuer's pain. This is a place where withdrawers are now able to give their pursuing partner love that they never received before. This can be scary territory for both but this is also the place where a new, positive and secure cycle is created. The key here is responsiveness. Focus on ways to respond to your partner's pain that helps them feel seen, heard and understood. These are key attachment needs that are important to us ALL.  Check out this episode's sponsors: Leesa.com Foriawellness.com/foreplay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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"I'm always the one to bring up issues. I want our relationship to be better so I work to address the discomfort between us. Somehow this is a problem and I am now seen as THE problem, a nag, someone that can be tuned out. I've worked so hard here. Help!!!" If this sounds familiar, then this episode on the pursuer's position in the relationship is for you! Join our experts today as they focus on the inside world of the emotional pursuer and help them with the change event that leads to healing in the relationship. George and Laurie work to get underneath the layers of the pursuer's protest to help them and the emotional withdrawer in their life understand the pain, anguish and desperation of the pursuer. This softening event is the gamechanger for pursuers and our recovering emotional withdrawers are pivotal in this change! Learn how to manage rejection and communicate the underlying need with safety and vulnerability. Our hosts' roleplay highlights for listeners exactly what this conversation can sound like. Make sure to come back for our follow up show on the sexual pursuer next time. As always, keep it hot y'all! Check out this episode's sponsor: Cook Unity! Go to cookunity.com/foreplay or use the code foreplay at checkout to get 50% off your first week of dinners! Great for those busy days when you don't have the time to prep and cook a meal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Will sex ever happen between us? If this has been a sticking point in your relationship then this episode is for you! Join our hosts today as we talk through what it looks like when the sexual withdrawer is re-engaged. The negative cycle is de-escalated, a new positive cycle has been created and there is enough safety to uncover the wants and needs of the sexual relationship. Give this show a listen to hear what the conversation between a de-escalated and more secure couple sounds like and how to make this happen. Our hosts remind you that pressure serves no purpose in the bedroom and a truly de-escalated couple will keep pressure around sex low and slow. It's important to remember that sometimes we have to go slow, to go fast. Make sure to give us a rate and review and keep it hot, y'all! Check out this episodes sponsors! BetterHelp.com/foreplay -- Easy, convenient therapy! Get 10% off your first month! Uberlube.com -- Laurie's long-time favorite lubricant! Use the code 'foreplay' at checkout to receive 10% off your order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, join hosts Laurie and George as they uncover the ultimate move that creates lasting change in couples. The changemaker for a negative cycle is when the withdrawing partner is able to stay in their fear and uncover their unmet need. In the negative cycle the old move to sense the discomfort and move away immediately begins to be replaced with a new ability to tolerate and remain present. Staying in the fear, with your partner close at hand allows you to ask, "What do I need here? Can you help me with it?" This new experience sends a message through the body and brain that this is now safe and we are rewarded with closeness and comfort where there was once isolation. We are not meant to be alone! George reminds withdrawers that you must risk if you want the reward. Our hosts role play, guides listeners in this meaningful conversation and reminds them, this is possible in your relationship! Therapists--Join us in Nashville January 25-27th for our Sex and EFT training to help your couples with their negative sexual cycle. Check out this episode's sponsor and help support the podcast! ForiaWellness.com/foreplay -- great products to enhance your sex life! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, Laurie and George answer a listener's mailbag question. We love getting these write-ins and acknowledge the courage it takes to ask for help! Our listener is a burned out or almost burned out sexual pursuer that is frustrated and saddened by their sexless marriage. Covid, menopause, adult children at home are circumstances this couple is facing and blocks for intimate connection. George and Laurie give expert advice on how to navigate this situation, some of the physiological challenges impacting this couple and how to craft a thoughtful, caring and loving conversation to bridge the gap. Both pursuers and withdrawers will gain insight into the lives of their partners and we remember to blame the cycle to de-escalate the tension and encourage vulnerable conversation. Need help in your relationship? Send us a question on our website www.foreplayrst.com Check out this episode's sponsors: RocketMoney.com/foreplay -- Save money by getting rid of those subscriptions that you don't use that continue to auto renew! Uberlube.com/foreplay -- Laurie's favorite lubricant for the past 25 years! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You've probably waited years for your partner to hear you and make the changes you've needed. So why does that change now make you feel pissed off? The answer: mistrust is part of the change process. Learning how to manage this mistrust is imperative for couples when they are changing their negative cycle. In today's episode join our hosts Laurie and George in a fantastic conversation on what happens to us when our partners start to make the changes we've been asking for, for years and why that can cause mistrust. You'll learn what's happening in your brain when there is a red light, yellow light or green light in connection and strategies to promote regulation and connection. Remember, our brains are wired to protect and they want to hold on to the negative information for safety. Leaning into the mistrust and planning for this with your partner as you're changing together will help you navigate this new territory and be more successful. Therapists looking to get more training on the sexual cycle make sure to head over to our website www.foreplayrst.com to learn more about our training in Nashville this January! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Run, don't walk to listen to today's episode! Laurie and George lay out a transformational conversation between partners: when the sexual withdrawer begins to reenage. Re-engagement means, the sexual withdrawer is aware that something is not working, sees the negative cycle and their part in it and begins to open up to their partner about their underlying needs. This is a pivotal conversation and can be a gamechanger for couples that have been trapped in a negative sexual cycle. Both withdrawing and pursuing partners will find value in the expert commentary laid out by our hosts. Did you know that knowing what you need and sending clearer signals to your partner is a sign of secure attachment? For so many of us, being direct with what we want, need, like and desire has been off limits but it is a major component to secure and successful love. Join us today and drop a review of this episode so we know how we're doing! Check out our great sponsors for this episode: Uberlube.com - Laurie's favorite sexual lubricant! RocketMoney.com/foreplay - Get rid of those pesky recurring subscriptions that you don't use and gain control of your spending! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we're sounding the school bell and bringing listeners back into our 'School of Love.' This show focuses on motivating emotional withdrawers to be more open. If you're the pursuing partner you may find yourself screaming with excitement right now, withdrawers...not so much. Which is completely okay! Join our experts George and Laurie today as we make space for the withdrawing partner to: identify your protective move, understand why you do what you do, honor that protection and try something new. We get it, taking the risk to share emotion and let your partner in is tough stuff but we also know first hand the amazing change that can take place in relationships when the withdrawing partner is able to take this step. Make sure you grab your notebooks and pencils, our hosts drop great insight that you won't want to miss. Need a little more support? There is still time to sign up for our virtual couples retreat on October 4th. Head to www.foreplayrst.com for more details.  Check out this episodes sponsor and Help the Pod! foriawellness.com/foreplay -- Sensual oils to help you get in the mood! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In adult partnered relationships we ask each other hundreds of questions on a regular basis. Most often, the questions we ask surround logistical needs, who's doing what and what time do we need to be there? So many of us underuse curiosity and open-ended meaningful questions. We get it! Life is busy and in efforts to get it all done, getting solid on the plans is a necessity. But as purveyors of bettering relationships and sex lives across the world, we are challenging our listeners to start asking each other about...SEX! Make sure to head to our website to check out the article from The Knot which inspired our show today, listing '12 Sex Questions for Couples'. Do you know what puts your partner in the mood? Do they like it gentle or rough? Anything new they want to try in bed? We know that if you don't ask you'll never know! Any other questions you would add to this list? Head over to our Instagram @foreplay_sextherapypodcast and drop them in our comments. We can't wait to hear what you come up with! Please check out our great sponsor for this episode: Uberlube.com/foreplay -- Laurie's long-time favorite sexual lubricant! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's said that one of the biggest problems in communication is that we listen to respond rather than truly hearing what someone is saying. Sometimes, an even bigger issue is that we can't get a full sentence out before we are interrupted! Join our hosts today as they lead listeners through a conversation on interruptions and how to stop. George reminds us that information you want to interrupt with is probably valuable but the timing is off. Timing is key to creating more success in your communication with your love. When it comes to vulnerability, interruptions can flood the mind and they stop one of the most valuable communication tools...curiosity. Curiosity, as Dr. Laurie remarks, helps drain the poison from the partner that is feeling and working to express emotion. If interruptions cause problems in your communication with your spouse, make sure to listen to this show and take notes!  Check out this episode's sponsor: RocketMoney.com -- get rid of those pesky auto-renewing subscriptions! Use the code foreplay to let them know we sent you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You may find you and your partner fighting about the dishwasher, kids, money or sex. But what are you really fighting about? That's what experts answer on this episode as they highlight the emotional cycle, the sexual cycle and the impact of both. Couples are really set up to miss each other and argue. It's an unfair reality that so many of us know. Some of us need verbal communication and a strong emotional connection to feel close and others need physical touch to create safety and connection. And when these things conflict we experience misattunement. Join our hosts today as they talk through a role play conversation highlighting this dilemma and the best ways to repair it. The ability to repair is what makes couples great and able to handle whatever conflict is thrown their way. Next time you find yourself arguing over the dishes, maybe it's time to explore the cycles and if they are colliding. Check out this episode's sponsor: UBERLUBE! -- Laurie's favorite personal lubricant for the past 25 years! Use the code foreplay at checkout! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know the standard: missionary, doggystyle, woman on top but have you ever heard of these...the Stand and Deliver, the Pearly Gates, the Pretzel? Maybe you're scratching your head right now. We hope you're at least intrigued and ready to join us on this fun, playful episode where we are talking all things sex positions! Inspired by an article in a recent issue of Men's Health by Ian Kerner, sex therapist and author of "She Comes First," George and Laurie are introducing listeners to these positions and many more. Our sexpert, Dr. Laurie breaks down how these positions increase pleasure for both partners and can increase the quality of orgasm, lover connection and maybe even some laughter to the bedroom. This is a spicy episode that you'll definitely want to listen to with the lover in your life!  Check out this episode's sponsor and help support the pod! cozyearth.com -- the softest, sexiest lounge wear and sheets! Laurie won't buy any others! Use the code Foreplay at checkout and get 30% off your order!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Male orgasms--seems pretty straightforward right? Think again. Join our experts on today's show to learn all about the male orgasm and how to make it better! George and Laurie take you through some of the mechanics of the male orgasm and introduce listeners to several strategies to increase the time, duration and pleasure of the male 'O'. Did you know that eating more greens and reducing your overall stress will lead to increased sensation during sex? There is so much more going on for men and their bodies than meets the eye. Listen as we explore the erogenous zones to hit, incorporating kegels (yes, kegels) into your routine and how to focus less on performance and more on the overall experience. Open up this conversation about orgasms with your love and how you can help each other get that better, hotter 'O' the next time you hit the sheets. Keep it hot y'all! Check out this episode's special sponsors: RocketMoney.com/Foreplay -- get ahold of you finances! If you have online subscriptions that you're not using, Rocket Money can help find and eliminate those useless expenses! Uberlube.com/foreplay -- Laurie's long-time favorite personal lubricant! Help get your sexy on! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The 'School of Love' is still on summer break and we can't help but think of it as the Summer of Love! While we're on break we are trying to keep things light and fun before our September session begins. Join us today as we discuss all things orgasm! Hosts, Dr. Laurie Watson and George Faller invite listeners to a conversation on the art of the 'O' and strategies that will really get things going. This is a no pressure show! Just because we're talking about orgasms doesn't mean you should run from this podcast to the bedroom with these expectations in hand. Rather we encourage you to think about what sets you up for success and helps your body get to this pleasure point. You'll walk away with some tips and tricks from our experts and tools to promote a positive and confident mindset. We encourage you to keep things fun, playful and light here and keep the pressure low. Remember pressure kills pleasure! Make sure to leave us a rating a review and head over to our IG @foreplay_sextherapypodcast and tell us what you think. We love hearing from you all! Check out this episode's sponsor: ForiaWellness.com/foreplay -- Sensual oils to wake up your body to great sex! Get 20% off your first order with the link or with the code 'Foreplay' at checkout! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices