It's our final episode of the holiday mini-season. Fear not, pals, we have some fun stuff planned for between the seasons! This week, we're ending the season with an episode on change. It's New Year Resolution season, and in this episode, you'll hear about the key to sustainable growth. Looking for the perfect gift for your favorite single pal--or for a holiday treat for yourself? We just launched a line of cheeky, empowering merch for those walking a non-traditional path. We have beanies, ...
It's almost Christmas, which means we are almost at the end of our holiday mini-season! Today, you'll hear about why I hate using the word "waiting" when talking about singleness, how to reframe the narrative around "waiting," and why our big feelings actually make us primed to celebrate Christmas. Here’s a thing about me—I hate using the word “waiting” in conjunction with singleness. Add in “season,” and it’s barf city for me. And yet here we are in Advent—the season of waiting. ...
This week, we will depart from our usual format and dabble in the world of storytelling. Because, let's be real, sometimes escapism is actually a great way to reset when feeling overwhelmed. It's Christmas time, so it's the time of year for Hallmark movies. I am a woman living in the big city who travels to my family's small-town farm every year, and thus I've decided to use those details to create my own riff on this storytelling style. Though I'll be writing in first person and using detail...
Today, we'll be covering awkward questions. Thanksgiving and Christmas can mean interacting with humans who don't get us, which leads them to say derpy things. In today's episode, I'll break down my tried and true communication tips for these kinds of scenarios. Looking for the perfect gift for your favorite single pal--or for a holiday treat for yourself? We just launched a line of cheeky, empowering merch for those walking a non-traditional path. We have beanies, sweatshirts, mugs, and mo...
Welcome to the first episode of our holiday mini-season! You won't be seeing any guest appearances by David Tennent or Katherine Tate, but you will be getting practical tips to help you have a healthy and meaningful holiday season as you are, where you are. First up we are talking about everyone's favorite topic... money! Don't worry. I won't be giving any high-level financial advice about High Yield Savings Accounts. That's not my wheelhouse. We will, however, be covering practical gift idea...
Season 11 officially launches next week. It’s that time of year. Things are ramping up as we barrel toward the end of 2023. The holidays, with all they entail, are upon us. The family centricity of our culture dials up to 11. Commercials for the perfect gift for that special someone run 24/7. Regardless of our exact situation, there isn’t a lot of messaging that says, “Isn’t it great to be single right now?” So here I am, your friendly neighborhood singleness podcaster and writer, chimi...
In this episode, Lyvonee and I talk about The link between body positivity and sex positivity—and the path towards both The power of knowing yourself and loving yourselfThe orgasm gapAnd reinterpreting scripture—aka Ruth, Tamar, and the Song of SolomonLyvonne Briggs, MDiv, ThM, an Emmy Award winner, is a body- and sex-positive womanist preacher and speaker. She is the host of Sensual Faith Podcast and the author of Sensual Faith: The Art of Coming Home to Your Body (Convergent/Peng...
In this episode, Carole and I discuss The link between grief and hospitality The secret behind our 3 am come to Jesus moments The spiritual dimensions of food Grief, food, and other distractions: how to navigate healthy coping mechanismsSocial reentry through food: connecting with others in our grief Who our “stretcher people” are—and how to find them A divorce survivor and late-in-life thriver, Carole welcomed a new adventure as an "Accidental Author" with her debut ...
In this episode, you'll hear Katie and I talk about The God moment / Carrie Bradshaw moment that turned Katie towards her calling How to invest in and bet on yourself—even on a budget (read: student loans!)All things creative entrepreneurship: how to take your ideas seriously, create a plan, and build sustainably And so much more!Katie Ellis is the Ceramicist & Founder of Dear Gloria. Katie has worked in ceramics for the last 20 years in various capacities from teaching, t...
In this episode, you'll hear Kaitlyn and I talk about: How spiritual formation impacts political engagement—and why this is gets more human, accessible, and impactful on the local level. Why self-sufficiency is a myth--for individuals and families and all people. The ways collective engagement beats isolation, even within family units. And why reciprocity is crucial within church communities, especially across diverse backgrounds and life stages. Before we dive in, ...
In this episode, Beth and I talk about: Identifying the pain points of exclusion—and how to get serious about including and being led by singles in the church. Barriers to single leadership—unpacking the biases, assumptions, and misunderstandings about singles. The lonely church: why we need to deliberately create an atmosphere of kindness, connecting people, saying hello and then some. Beth is a passionate advocate for inclusion within the church community. As the Commun...
In today's episode, you'll hear Anna and I talk about: Expanding coming-of-age rituals beyond graduation and marriage. Marking a moment and remembering God's faithfulness. How to celebrate the moments that might feel small. And cultivating your own practice of celebrating. Anna has written for The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, TheAtlantic.com, Christianity Today and other publications. She is the author of the forthcoming book Solo Pla...
In this episode, you'll hear Moriah talk about The importance of finding spaces where you don't need to explain your identity to peopleWhy everyone should be doing identity development workThe ‘second puberty’ of coming out as an adult How to find *your* people within the queer communityAll things self compassion, grace, and time when it comes to coming out later in lifeMoriah is a therapist-in-training who specializes in working with the LGBTQIA+ community, especially in the areas...
In this episode, you'll hear Mel and I discuss How to cultivate a growth mindset in datingThe ingredients of a fun mixer for single ChristiansThe secrets for maintaining hopefulness in datingAnd how to use dating apps (yep, we think Christians should use them).Mel is the founder and owner of IYKYK Dating, a Christian dating coach, and runs a singles community with over 5000 members across the USA. Her own dating struggles led her to develop a strong understanding of the dynamics of healthy da...
In today's episode, you'll hear Vernique and I talk about The hard, beautiful work of learning to show up authenticallyLetting go of "ideal" and/or fake versions of ourselvesWhy emotions are indicators, not dictators How our relationships are impacted by emotional healthVernique is an Atlanta-based therapist and coach who specializes in Relational Trauma and Healthy Relationships. She is the Author of When Seasons Change: A Divorce Recovery Interactive Devotional, Speaker, and founder of...
In today's episode, you'll hear Jason and I talk about Strange blessings for life's impossible momentsWhat the Beatitudes have to say to single folksThe power of finding joy in our right-now livesAnd finding belonging when the church doesn't know what to do with you. Jason is the founder and lead pastor of South Bend City Church, an eclectic Christian community known for its thoughtful teaching, inclusive vision, and commitment to its city context. An advocate for artists and peace...
In this episode, you'll hear Nate and I talk about How to get the most out of therapyWhat happens when we use therapy as a dress rehearsal for our lifeHow to practice addressing conflict with your therapist The key ingredients for therapy and growthNathaniel is a licensed marriage and family therapist, group facilitator, writer & wellness advocate based in New York City. He has five years of combined clinical training and experience working with individuals, couples and familie...
In today's episode, Audre and I are talking about Inviting vulnerability in a safe way in singleness.How to combat cultural expectations of instant gratification when it comes to our spiritual interior How to hold space for spiritual exploration And questions to ask yourself when exploring a feeling, experience, or something new. Audre is a trauma-informed certified spiritual director. She has been a soul companion for over 20 years. Her certification is through the Comp...
In today's episode, we're getting into it on all things solo travel with Rachael K. Rachael is a teacher, and Christian lifestyle blogger and content creator. She is currently based in Kenya with the organization Africa Inland Mission. Outside of teaching, she enjoys hosting friends and students at her home, reading, working out, and playing with puppies. Today you'll hear Rachael and I talk about Finding creative freedom and empowerment through solo travelHow to budget and priori...
Season 10 is here! Next week, aka July 11, we are officially launching season 10 of the Unsuitable podcast! We are stoked to be in the double digits and even more stoked to share what we've been cooking up for ya. For our tenth season, we've decided to get super practical. In each episode, we'll interview an expert who happens to be single and Christian about one nitty gritty facet of single life. To name just a few, you'll hear about solo traveling, spiritual direction, getting the ...