Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

Content Warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide and suicide attempts. The trauma we experience as children stays with us and can manifest into mindset blocks, negative self-worth, and coping mechanisms that turn into addiction. Today’s guest Wendy Foster shares how, through recovery, she was able to overcome her addiction, take her power back, and help others do the same. This week’s episode 260 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about loving what is!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, my guest Wendy Foster shares the importance of taking your power back from trauma and addiction and her journey back to loving and honoring herself.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Traumatic experiences in childhood can have a lasting impact on one’s life and behaviors, holding space in the body long after the event(s) occurred. Finding a higher power and embracing spirituality can profoundly impact personal growth and well-being.A coach, sponsor, or mentor can help people discover their true identity, find their voice, and create healthy boundaries by acting as a mirror to reflect on.Recognizing and addressing underlying issues is essential for personal growth and healing.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH WENDY FOSTER:Contact Wendy at wendyfostermueller@gmail.com CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

I know in the core of my being that just because something looks bad or feels bad doesn’t mean it IS bad, at least not in the long run. This week’s episode 259 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about when unexpected blessings come from bad things- turning adversity into opportunities.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a story of how one terrible car accident led to a series of coincidences that changed the trajectory of my life. Like most things I share on my podcast, I share this story as both a reminder to my listeners and myself of what can happen when we put our faith into the hands of our higher power.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Celestine Prophecy by James RedfieldConversations with God by Neale Donald WalschCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

When I started this series, I only envisioned having two parts. But as I started recording, I realized that between working at Yale and now running my own business, I had so much more to share. After all, so much of our time and energy is spent at our place of work making this a huge area of our lives where boundaries are extremely important. This week’s episode 258 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to transform work-life balance with boundaries!If you haven’t listened to parts 1 and 2, I recommend you go back and listen for more helpful advice. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing boundaries you can implement around meetings that are respectful of everyone’s time and energy. I also share boundaries for self-containment and time management in the workplace.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

Last week on the podcast, I shared some scenarios in which I helped some of my clients set boundaries in the workplace, helping them achieve the work-life balance they have been longing for. This week’s episode is a continuation of that as I continue to share my advice for creating balance in your workplace through boundaries. This week’s episode 257 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to transform work-life balance with boundaries!If you haven’t listened to part 1, I recommend you go back and listen for more helpful advice. You can listen to that here. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing more examples of where you may want to set boundaries in the workplace and actionable tips and language you can use when setting those boundaries.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Enter to win!Everyone who enters gets “Feelings Decoded: A Toolkit for Understanding and Managing Your Emotions” (a $397 value).One lucky winner will get a free one-hour coaching session with me ($275 value). To enter, you must email me a screenshot of one of the options below to Barb@higherpowercc.comOPTION 1: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts mentioning your favorite episode and why it’s your favorite (google it if you don’t know how to leave an Apple review). OR…OPTION 2: Leave a 5-star review on Goodpods mentioning your favorite episode and why it’s your favorite. OR…OPTION 3: Screenshot your favorite episode and share it on social media saying why it’s your favorite and tag me @higherpowercoaching. Don’t forget to email me your screenshot at Barb@higherpowercc.comCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaTestimonials from my clientsLINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEEp. 254: 10 Steps for How to Prepare for and Have Difficult Conversations

Many of my group and private clients come to me specifically for issues in the workplace. Interestingly enough, even when they come to me for help in other areas of their lives, they often have massive shifts in the workplace, realizing they can have the work-life balance they never thought was possible. This week’s episode 256 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to transform work-life balance with boundaries!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing specific scenarios from myself and my clients illustrating what it looks like to implement boundaries in the workplace and how these boundaries lead to more work-life balance. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Enter to win!Everyone who enters gets “Feelings Decoded: A Toolkit for Understanding and Managing Your Emotions” (a $397 value).One lucky winner will get a free one-hour coaching session with me ($275 value). To enter, you must email me a screenshot of one of the options below to Barb@higherpowercc.comOPTION 1: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts mentioning your favorite episode and why it’s your favorite (google it if you don’t know how to leave an Apple review). OR…OPTION 2: Leave a 5-star review on Goodpods mentioning your favorite episode and why it’s your favorite. OR…OPTION 3: Screenshot your favorite episode and share it on social media saying why it’s your favorite and tag me @higherpowercoaching. Don’t forget to email me your screenshot at Barb@higherpowercc.comCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaTestimonials from my clients

It will be impossible for you to walk through life with any kind of confidence and compassion if you don’t stop beating yourself up. That’s why the thought work I do every single day is hands down the most important work I do. This week’s episode 255 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to move through life with confidence, self-love, and compassion!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The motives that drive the negative thought patterns we have towards ourselves. Actionable steps to recognize when you’re beating yourself up and replace those negative thoughts with positive ones. A metaphor I use with my clients that proves to be effective. How I came to love and trust myself and my life through setting healthy boundaries. When you beat yourself up, you just end up battered and bruised and that is no place from which to grow and change.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Enter to win!Everyone who enters gets “Feelings Decoded: A Toolkit for Understanding and Managing Your Emotions” (a $397 value).One lucky winner will get a free one-hour coaching session with me ($275 value). To enter, you must email me a screenshot of one of the options below to Barb@higherpowercc.comOPTION 1: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts mentioning your favorite episode and why it’s your favorite (google it if you don’t know how to leave an Apple review). OR…OPTION 2: Leave a 5-star review on Goodpods mentioning your favorite episode and why it’s your favorite. OR…OPTION 3: Screenshot your favorite episode and share it on social media saying why it’s your favorite and tag me @higherpowercoaching. Don’t forget to email me your screenshot at Barb@higherpowercc.comCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a teaTestimonials from my Clients 

One of the most important things I’ve learned to do in recovery is how to have difficult conversations. My inability and unwillingness to have difficult conversations perpetuated my codependence, leading me to suffer in situations just because I was not willing to have the conversations that would resolve them. This week on episode 254 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast I’m sharing 10 steps for how to prepare for and have difficult conversations! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the tips I use when coaching clients through difficult conversations and examples of language you can use (based on real scenarios) during these conversations.  The steps I cover in this episode include: Bookend your conversation by checking in with someone beforehand and afterward. Know your values and stand firm in them. Be honest about your truth. Remind yourself that you can do hard things. Ground yourself in preparation for the conversation. Practice standing in the Wonder Woman pose to build your confidence. Get permission to have the conversation, don’t blindside them. Stick to one topic only during your conversation. Put a boundary around the conversation. Start by owning your shit. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Amy Cuddy TED Talk “Your Body Language May Shape Who You Are”Testimonials from my Clients CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

Traditionally, step 5 in 12-step recovery is where we admit to God, to ourselves, and to another person the exact nature of our own wrongs. The idea is that we get to take a look at the things we’ve been doing in our lives that are creating chaos, dysfunction and wreckage and acknowledge them. In the ACA version of the 12 steps, we instead inventory our family system, acknowledging that we are a product of our environment. This week’s episode 253 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about healing through step 5- unveiling family secrets and finding freedom!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how looking at the nature of my abandonment as well as my own wrongs allowed me to have a different perspective on the defects (or defenses) of my character. This process helped me recognize the dysfunction I grew up with, grieve what happened to me, and let go of the shame I was carrying around it. Go back and listen to episodes 251 and 252 where I “spill the tea” on my family secrets to show how family dysfunction gets passed down. I share all of these vulnerable stories on the podcast not just so that I can heal but so that I can help others heal from their pain. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:ACA - Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families 12-Step FellowshipCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

Through recovery, I have radically changed my ways, healed my trauma, and changed my deeply entrenched patterns of behavior. By sharing my and my family’s secrets, I hope to show that dysfunction doesn’t always look the way you might think so that you might recognize patterns of your own dysfunction and begin to heal in the ways that I have healed. This week on episode 252 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am spillin’ more tea on my family secrets, sharing how family dysfunction gets passed down.If you haven’t listened to part 1, I recommend you go back and listen. You’ll get way more context on why I’m sharing these secrets. You can listen to that here.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m spilling more of my family’s secrets. More specifically, I share how I came to the understanding that aiding in the secrecy of my mom’s smoking led me to hide my own smoking habits over the years. As I mentioned last week, I share all of this to shine light on the darkness of our past. As we say in recovery, “we are as sick as our secrets” and I want to be well.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 67:  Why we say, “The Truth Shall Set You Free” CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

We often say in recovery, “You’re as sick as your secrets.” That being said, I've decided to share my family’s secrets (as well as some of my own) as part of my journey to heal and to identify with other people so they know they’re not alone. This week on episode 251 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am spillin’ the tea on my family secrets, sharing how family dysfunction gets passed down.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a big family secret that I have been holding onto that has permeated my entire life, causing me to repeat these behaviors. In bringing these secrets to the light of day, I hope to release the weight they hold and continue to heal in the process. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

There is more to addiction than the need to get drunk or high. And when Arlina Allen realized this and began to uncover the root causes of her addiction, it was then that she was able to shed the layers of her trauma and begin to heal. This week’s episode 250 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about healing the root causes of addiction!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, my guest Arlina Allen shares how she turned to substances as a way to self-soothe and how coming to terms with this and seeking help led her on a path to self-compassion and peace.Some of the talking points Arlina and I go over in this episode include:Reflecting on Arlina’s first sip of alcohol at a young age and realizing that something outside of herself could soothe her on the inside.  The turning point that led Arlina to dig deeper into her addiction and eventually seek support in overcoming it. How the 12-step program taught her self-compassion and healthier coping skills. Using practices like hypnotherapy to identify and reframe negative beliefs and behaviors. When you’re in the thick of it, just remember, the easy choices lead to a hard life but the hard choices will lead to an easy life. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH Sober Life SchoolThe One Day at a Time PodcastArlina on InstagramOne Day at a Time Podcast on InstagramOne Day at a Time Private Facebook group for women (you must request access)CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

Whenever I hear clients say something along the lines of “I have to…” I like to reframe their sentence to instead say, ‘I get to…” or “I could do…”. The language change is so small, and yet the conceptual change is HUGE. This week’s episode 249 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about choosing freedom: how a simple shift in language can change your life!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about how building healthy boundaries helped me to understand that I have choices in everything that I do and sharing some examples of how a simple shift in your language can reframe your entire perspective of your life.The biggest way to stop thinking that you don’t have choices in your life is to stop using phrases like ‘I have to’ or ‘I need to’ and start using the phrase, ‘I GET to’. You’ll be amazed at how freeing those little vocabulary changes are.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

The reparenting journey that I’ve been on for the last year has been nothing short of miraculous. I cannot tell you the level of healing I’ve achieved through my reparenting work. I hope that by sharing my journey and process on the podcast, other people can also find some healing. This week’s episode 248 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how I heal my inner teenager: unveiling the magic of reparenting! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Recent examples in the past week where I have recognized how far I have come in my reparenting journey.How the feelings from my inner child and inner teenager come out in my life.Using my inner loving family to reparent my younger self when big feelings and emotions arise.The nicknames, habits, and general knowledge that come forward in my reparenting sessions. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:ep. 114. Here’s What Recovery Looks Like in Real Life - My Day at the Beachep 181. 5 Methods for Reparenting Myself: What That Looks Like for Meep 212. Nine New Methods I've Learned for Reparenting and How They've Affected Meep. 218. My Vulnerable Share about Family Dysfunction and How It Results In Traumaep. 221. The Evolution of My Reparenting Journey: Reshaping the Past to Heal the Future - Part 1ep. 222. The Evolution of My Reparenting Journey: Reshaping the Past to Heal the Future - Part 2CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

Last week, I shared the first half of the steps I take all of my boundary clients through to build their personalized boundary system. Today, I’ll be sharing the final half of the steps so that you can create a boundary system that works for you! This week’s episode 247 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 2 of the steps to build your own personalized boundary system! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! If you missed part 1 of these steps, refer back to episode 246 where I cover steps 1-5. The steps I go over in this episode include:6. Learn how to let good things in as well as keep bad things out.7. Set boundaries of self-protection.8. Set boundaries of self-containment. 9. Hold onto your property. You’re the one responsible for it. 10. Align with your values. 11. Stay connected to healthy, safe, and loving people as you build healthy boundaries.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 9. My Tools of Recovery Part II: Reaching OutEp. 12. Stop Gossiping CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

I take all of my boundaries clients through a series of steps to build their personalized boundary system and I wanted to share these steps with you today. This week’s episode 246 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 1 of the steps to build your own personalized boundary system!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of determining your top 5 values BEFORE starting any boundary work and actionable steps you can take right now to create a boundary setting system that feels good to you!The steps I go over in this episode include:Alter your mindset.Develop empowered communication.Shed your masks.Deal with the pushback that inevitably comes.Recognize who owns what.Tune into next week’s episode as I cover steps 6-11.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 156. Info, Not AmmoEp. 9. My Tools of Recovery Part II: Reaching OutCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

Sometimes people refer to self-sabotage as things like shooting themselves in the foot, not showing up for themselves, or not following through for themselves. This is incredibly common for those of us in recovery. ACA has taught me that another way to refer to self-sabotage is to call it self-abandonment. And this makes sense because as adult children, we were brought up on abandonment so of course we would only learn to abandon ourselves. This week’s episode 245 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop the self-sabotage and get over your fear of abandonment.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why it is so common for adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families to self-sabotage or self-abandon themselves. Some of the ways we might abandon ourselves. 2 important reasons it is helpful to connect this abandonment behavior to our status as adult children. When you start calling self-sabotage, self-abandonment there is s solution to that. And that solution is becoming your own inner-loving parent.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The ACA SolutionCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

When someone says something like ‘You don’t care about me’ to you and you defend it, you’re the one declaring war against them. How you respond in these scenarios determines whether you’re entering into a conflict or a conversation. This week’s episode 244 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to effectively communicate when someone says, ‘you don’t care about me’.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what to do to show someone you care about them and get to the root of the problem instead of getting defensive and listing the reasons you DO care about them. I also share the specific language you can use to communicate effectively in any scenario.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

A couple of instances have come up in my life recently where I realized how far I have come since recovery. Scenarios that used to trigger an emotional trauma response are replaced with clarity and calmness. And in times like this, I become super appreciative of my recovery. This week’s episode 243 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how I went from trauma response to miraculous recovery- a story of driving and toenails.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing experiences in my life that triggered a dramatic trauma response before getting into recovery and how recovery has allowed me to change physiologically to live a more peaceful life. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families 12 Step Recovery Fellowship (aka ACA or ACOA)Episode 17: GUILT AND SHAME Episode 179:  Freedom from the Lie of Shame - You're Not Inherently FlawedCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

One of the many revelations I had while in recovery is that I had been trusting untrustworthy people my entire life. These people had proven to me time and time again that they were not to be trusted and when they broke my trust I would inevitably get upset over it. When I eventually learned to find my part in things, I realized I was the one at fault- for continuing to trust untrustworthy people! This week’s episode 242 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop trusting untrustworthy people and start trusting yourself!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing examples from my life where I got burned for continuing to trust people who had already shown me that they were untrustworthy and how building self-trust was the foundation that helped me come out of this harmful behavior pattern. I also share the amazing benefits that self-trust has given me.Trust is something that can only be built over time. We can only determine if someone is trustworthy by seeing their continued patterns of behavior.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea

It’s occurred to me recently that a huge part of 12-step recovery is changing our perceptions or the ways in which we perceive certain concepts. And when we can make these mental shifts, the way we view our circumstances or situations we find ourselves in changes drastically. This week’s episode 241 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about 3 conceptual shifts learned in recovery and how they’ll change your life!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing 3 (of the many) shifts that have come up for me personally, with a client or with someone in recovery, and sharing how these shifts might come up in your life and what to do about them when they do. The 3 conceptual shifts I go over in this episode include:Making the distinction between submitting to something and surrendering to something.Understanding that something may be reasonable and at the same time, unrealistic.Drawing the line between acceptance and setting boundaries.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea