School of Self-Image

Illuminating Your Path: The Decision Switch in Action Making decisions is essential for moving forward in life and creating change. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of making decisions to break free from feeling stuck and to propel oneself towards desired outcomes. She discusses how indecision can keep individuals in a state of paralysis, preventing them from progressing in life. She also highlights that decisions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in shaping the trajectory of one's life and influencing the overall experience. This episode underscores the transformative power of making decisions and highlights how each choice, no matter how small, can have a significant impact on one's life journey. By embracing the decision-making process and being willing to step into the unknown, individuals can break free from stagnation, create positive change, and ultimately shape a more fulfilling and purposeful life. Talking Points: 00:42 - The Decision Switch Concept 02:22 - Reasons for Decision Paralysis 04:38 - Overthinking and Perfectionism in Decisions 05:45 - External Pressures Impacting Decisions 07:53 - Worry and Business 08:15 - Breaking Connections with Old Self 09:41 - Team Dynamics and Decision Confidence 11:59 - Stop Self-Criticism 14:38 - Personal Decision to Build a House 17:50 - Clarity After Making Decisions 18:12 - Relationship Decisions: Stay or Go 19:05 - Comfort in Indecision 19:37 - Removing Right or Wrong from Decisions 23:00 - Investing in Personal Growth Quotes: "People fear losing things more than they get excited about gaining things." "I literally said out loud, I am no longer available to worry about my business. It is not even an option." "What is the decision switch that you need to make in your life right now?" "It was like, oh, now I am a homeowner. Now I am adulting officially. And it was the best feeling." "Either way, just switch the light on. That's what decisions do. They turn the light on so you can see what your next steps are." "There is no right or wrong decisions that we will make from a place of wanting the best for ourselves." "It is done. Now, can you learn something from it? 100%." Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

From Stuck to Unstoppable: Strategies for Personal Breakthroughs To overcome feeling stuck, it is crucial to provide your brain with clarity and direction. In this podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of giving clear instructions and goals to your brain. She shares that when she felt stuck while recording the episode, it was because she lacked the direction and clarity needed to move forward. Tonya also stresses the significance of setting extraordinary goals to combat feeling stuck. Many individuals struggle with this because they have not determined what they truly want. By establishing clear and specific goals, individuals can give their brains a sense of purpose and direction, enabling them to progress and break free from feeling stuck.  Tonya highlights how perfectionism can hinder progress and steal time. By letting go of the need to be perfect and focusing on taking action, individuals can overcome the fear of imperfection, make decisions, and move forward in their personal and professional lives. Join Tonya as she delves into why we get stuck and how to move forward with purpose and intention. Talking Points: 01:24 - Clarity and Direction for Getting Unstuck 02:18 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 03:42 - Discomfort of Change  07:21 - Acceptance and Authenticity 08:03 - The Trap of Perfectionism 09:07 - Embracing Where You Are 10:00 - The Analogy of Water Skiing 11:46 - Letting Go of the Rope 13:22 - Creating Desired Feelings 14:48 - Moving Towards Desired Emotions Quotes: "You don't know what you're trying to create. And the reason why the majority of you don't know is because you're afraid of the answer." "Perfectionism will not only steal your time, it will steal your life." "But if I've learned anything, the world doesn't want the perfect version of you. They want the real you." "The way to get unstuck is to let go of the rope. Let go for a minute and just relax." "Done is better than perfect" Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

How Your Environment Shapes Your Self-Image Let's delve into the psychology of space and how our environments can shape our self-image. Tonya shares personal experiences of how different homes she has lived in reflect her inner world and how she uses her spaces to evolve her own self-image. She discusses the importance of using our spaces intentionally to change how we feel and see ourselves. By making small changes in our homes, we can align our spaces with who we want to become. She also emphasizes the power of using our spaces as tools for personal growth and transformation. Overall, the episode highlights the significance of our environments in influencing our self-image and provides practical tips for using our spaces to support our personal development journey. Talking Points: 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Psychology of Space 00:05:30 - Reflecting on the Story of Different Homes 00:10:38 - Personal Style and Home Decor Preferences 00:15:04 - Using Spaces to Change Self-Image 00:18:39 - Bridging the Gap Between Current Space and Desired Self-Image 00:22:17 - Blooming in Your Current Space Quotes: "Our environments are shaping us and we shape our environments." "Our homes are more than just physical spaces. They are literally mirrors that reflect our inner world." "Red is very fiery, very passionate. And let me tell you, that was me. And not in a good way." "If you want to see yourself as a woman who is fit and healthy, imagine what her kitchen looks like. Imagine what her pantry looks like." "I'm going to clean this up and I'm going to organize it. And I'm going to keep it that way to send the message to my brain of this is who I am." Useful Resources: Join The School of Self-Image Now:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial    

From Negative to Neiman: Upgrading Your Thought Wardrobe To enhance your life and mindset, it is essential to intentionally select and upgrade your thoughts to higher quality ones. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of being mindful of the thoughts we entertain daily. She classifies thoughts into different levels, ranging from "Goodwill thoughts" inherited from past experiences to "Neiman Marcus thoughts" that are of superior quality and more empowering. Tonya urges the audience to evaluate their current thought patterns and beliefs, highlighting that negative or outdated thoughts can hinder individuals and impact their overall well-being. By deliberately choosing thoughts that align with their values, dreams, and desires, individuals can cultivate a more positive and empowering mindset. Join Tonya as she takes you thorugh her thought clloset and inspire listeners to consciously select empowering beliefs and shed outdated or limiting ones to cultivate a more positive, resilient, and fulfilling mindset. Talking Points: 03:02 Personal style transformation. 05:04 Choosing thoughts intentionally. 10:35 Upgrading your thoughts. 16:15 Couture thoughts. 20:45 Thoughts about myself. 22:11 Embracing Your Uniqueness. 29:44 Thoughts about money. 32:56 Money mindset transformation. 38:51 Life as a game. 42:59 Feeling bad cannot stop magic. 45:09 Thoughts on love and relationships. 48:46 The Royal Treatment. Quotes: "Girl, I am feeling like yesterday's fries." "I'm going to bloom where I'm planted. I'm going to really show up in this position, in this role, and I'm going to give it my all because it matters." "Money is fun, which is in my thought closet. And money doesn't solve the problems that people are trying to use money to solve the problem for." "I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon." "It was a thought that I decided to return, and I upgraded for a better thought." Useful Resources: The Royal Treatment Workshop: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL Join the membership: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Unveiling Your Inner Queen: The Power of Self-Respect and Self-Care Giving yourself a royal treatment involves creating a personalized plan for self-care and self-respect. In this School of Self-Image episode, host, and master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of treating oneself like royalty and prioritizing self-care. She shares the story of a client named Sarah who transformed her life by implementing a royal treatment plan tailored to her needs. This plan included setting boundaries at work, taking lunch breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies she enjoyed. The concept of a royal treatment goes beyond superficial indulgences like spa days and manicures. It is about connecting with one's true nature, listening to internal cues, and establishing a strong inner kingdom. By tuning into one's body and soul, individuals can determine what they need to feel their best and align with their natural rhythm. This process involves building a strong relationship with oneself based on love, respect, and self-worth. Tune in to learn why every woman needs to prioritize herself and treat herself like royalty. Talking Points: 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Royal Treatment 00:05:30 - The Consequences of Self-Neglect 00:10:16 - Overcoming Excuses for Self-Care 00:13:05 - Increased Confidence through Self-Care 00:17:32 - Attractiveness and Energy 00:21:31 - Unveiling Your True Nature 00:24:34 - Building a Strong Inner Kingdom 00:26:19 - Invitation to the Royal Treatment Workshop Quotes: "When are you going to start treating yourself like a queen?" "Confidence is something that you create with your thoughts, with your mind. It is a belief in your abilities." "I've done those things, and it creates this deep trust in myself. This feeling of like, girl, I've got you." "Would you rather attract rusty old nails or shiny gold coins? I'm guessing your answer is shiny gold coins." "It is going to have the most beautiful cascading effect into every area of your life." Useful Resources:     The Royal Treatment Workshop:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/ROYAL     Join Now!  https://schoolofselfimage.com/join     FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/     Sign up for the  Weekly  Edit!  http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh:     Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com     Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh       Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial     TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TonyaLeighOfficial  

Embracing 'No': The Key to Living a Life Aligned with Your Values Saying no is a powerful tool for setting boundaries and taking back control of your life. In the podcast episode, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh emphasizes the importance of establishing boundaries to prioritize your well-being and align with your values and goals. Here are some key points to consider when it comes to setting boundaries through saying no: Prioritizing Your Well-being: By saying no to commitments or requests that do not serve you, you are prioritizing your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Empowering Yourself: Saying no is a way of empowering yourself and demonstrating self-respect.  Taking Control of Your Life: Without boundaries, you may feel like you are being run over by the demands and expectations of others.  Living in Alignment: Setting boundaries through saying no allows you to live in alignment with your decisions, goals, and values.  Building Self-Image: Saying no can positively impact your self-image and self-esteem.  Saying no is not just about declining requests; it is a powerful act of self-care and self-empowerment. By setting boundaries through saying no, you can take control of your life, prioritize your well-being, and live in alignment with your values and goals. Join Tonya as she delves into the power of saying no, inspired by quotes from Steve Jobs and Paulo Coelho, and explores the importance of listening to our gut feelings and setting boundaries by saying no when necessary to avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained.   ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:01:25 - Embracing Joyful Yeses 00:01:57 - Mastering the Art of Saying No 00:03:11 - Free Guide to Saying No 00:04:14 - Societal Pressures and FOMO 00:05:08 - The Consequences of Yes 00:06:33 - The Jar Metaphor 00:08:10 - Identity and Priorities 00:12:36 - The Upside of Saying No 00:15:16 - The Clarity of Prioritizing Yes 00:18:30 - Elegance and Quality Over Quantity 00:23:53 - The Pleasure of Saying No 00:25:28 - The Invitation to Say No   Quotes: "Innovation is saying no to a thousand things." "No is my new favorite word." "When you say yes to everything, you live someone else's life." "I prioritize my wellbeing to demonstrate that I am worthy and I am confident in who I am." "The power of no lies in saying no to the junk, to the low quality." "I lived a large part of my life lying to everybody. Not on purpose, but to me, when you say yes to something that you don't really want to do, it's like you're lying." "The power of no after years of being afraid of it, I can tell you it's one of the best two-letter words in my vocabulary." Useful Resources: The Guide to Saying No:  https://schoolofselfimage.com/power Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

The Power of Self-Appreciation: 5 Steps to Delight in You Inspired by a quote from Anais Nin, Tonya Leigh reflects on the concept she has adopted that is centered on delighting in oneself.  Tonya shares her experience of a delightful day spent alone and discusses the importance of analyzing and journaling about such days to create more moments of joy. She offers five ways to delight in oneself, encouraging listeners to take pleasure and satisfaction in who they are. By prioritizing self-care, nurturing self-relationship, and appreciating one's own value, individuals can cultivate a deeper sense of joy, fulfillment, and self-love. These practices not only benefit personal well-being but also have a positive impact on external relationships, work, and overall quality of life. Embracing these aspects can lead to a more fulfilling and delightful existence, where individuals can truly thrive and experience the fullness of life. ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:49 Delighting in yourself 06:52 Prioritize self-care 09:35 Making time for joyful activities 15:31 Being your own best friend 20:14 Quality alone time 21:51 Cultivating a deeper relationship with yourself Quotes:  "My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace." “A joyful woman is a magnet for her desires. Energy is always looking for its equal match. Delighting is an energy. It is a vibration that you put out into the world.” "You are the longest commitment you will ever have in your life. Make the choice to lovingly commit to yourself."  "What if you just decided you're never going to beat yourself up again? Instead, you're going to be your own best friend, your greatest cheerleader." "You are worth that time. You are valuable enough to delight in yourself." "There's nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. But your approach probably is." Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

Ditching Apologies: Cultivating Self-Love and Confidence Over-apologizing can become such a habit we don't even realize we are repeating the behavior.  School of Self-Image host Tonya Leigh discusses the tendency for women to over-apologize and the impact it can have on their self-esteem and confidence. She explores why women tend to over-apologize, including societal expectations and the desire to please others. Tonya emphasizes the importance of recognizing when apologies are unnecessary and offers strategies for breaking the habit, such as replacing "I'm sorry" with "thank you" and focusing on solutions instead of apologies. She encourages women to take ownership of their space, needs, and voice without feeling the need to apologize constantly. Tune in to discover how over-apologizing can impact your daily life and learn how to break free from this ingrained behavior. Episode Details: 00:51 Over-apologizing in daily life 05:32 Apologizing for things beyond control 10:41 Recognizing over-apologizing habits 13:44 Swapping "sorry" for "thank you" 17:52 Refusing to apologize for being you Quotes: "I'm so sorry I'm crying. I'm like, why are you apologizing for feeling your human emotions? We should never apologize for having emotions." "When you apologize for things that aren't your fault, you're basically saying, I'm sorry for having needs. I'm sorry for taking up space. I'm sorry for needing support." "You have valuable thoughts and ideas to share. You are deserving of taking up space. You are worthy of support and love." "I am all for taking responsibility when it's my responsibility. But I was taking on the world's responsibility when I was over-apologizing." "The last suggestion I can offer you is to begin to ask questions with confidence instead of apologizing because sometimes, sorry just becomes a crutch to get someone's attention." Useful resources: Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

Unlocking the Lessons of Aging: Embracing Your Journey with Gratitude Embracing your age with joy, purpose, and gratitude at every stage of life is a powerful mindset shift that can lead to a more fulfilling and enriching experience. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of loving your age, regardless of where you are in life. She emphasizes the need to appreciate the present moment and find beauty in every stage of life. One key point highlighted is the significance of reframing aging from being seen as a burden to being viewed as a blessing. Aging is not a disease but a privilege, offering opportunities for growth, learning, and new experiences. By shifting our perspective on aging, we can approach each stage of life with a sense of gratitude and excitement for what it has to offer. Join  Tonya as she dives into breaking free from societal aging expectations and embracing your unique identity at every age, so  you can cultivate a sense of empowerment and self-expression. ____________________________________________________________________________ Episode Details: 00:39 Loving Your Age 08:27 Reframing aging as a blessing. 12:26 Intergenerational friendships. 15:18 Creating age loving environments. 19:10 Dressing for desired energy. 25:38 Choosing Positive Aging Narratives. 27:25 Embracing new experiences. 31:37 Overcoming people pleasing and approval. Quotes: "You can't help getting older, but you don't have to get old." "I'm not going to waste time wishing I was 20 again, because I'll never be 20 again." "Aging is not a disease. It is a privilege, a privilege truly of a lifetime." "Push against what you've been told older folks can supposedly do or can't do. I mean, who decided that?" "I love what Iris Eiffel says. She's like, style has no age. It's an attitude, not age." "I want to chase less and enjoy more." "I used to think happiness was a fairy tale, forever just out of reach."   Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/ FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

Raising the Bar: How to Set Higher Standards for Self-Love What is your self-love standard? This week Tonya Leigh discusses the importance of self-love standards and how they can impact our lives. Self-love is not just about fluffy feelings, but about setting expectations for how we treat ourselves. So, how do we raise our self-love standards? By examining how we talk to ourselves, how we treat our bodies, and how we expect to be treated by others. Tonya shares personal experiences and examples to illustrate the power of self-love standards and how this manifests in our self-image. Tonya encourages listeners to align their standards with their future self-image and create a life that reflects their highest potential. Episode Details: 03:24 The power of self-talk 07:32 Raise the standard of self-love 09:19 Self-love and body image 14:49 Alignment and synergy 17:09 Reevaluate current standards 21:35 Elevating your self-image Quotes: "I am so proud of you for trying. I am so proud of you for putting yourself out there. You are smart. You are kind. You are beautiful. You have what it takes. Go get it, girl." "As someone who used to be so mean to the reflection in the mirror, I just refused to do that anymore because nothing good came out of it. It just made me feel terrible, which then led me to take terrible actions that just kept me perpetuating terrible results, truly." "You will always prove to yourself how you see yourself." "If you're constantly comparing. to either past versions of yourself or other people, you will not see your own." "If you don't love yourself, madly, ridiculously, unapologetically, this world will run all over you." "It is time for you to create your own 'powerfully ever after'." Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE training: https://schoolofselfimage.com/powerfully-ever-after/  FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

Stepping into the Spotlight: Embracing Your Superpower of Visibility What is fear of being seen? Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh gives valuable insights on the fear of being seen and the impact it can have on women. She shares personal experiences and highlights the societal pressure for women to blend in and not rock the boat. Tonya emphasizes the importance of embracing authenticity and stepping into the spotlight of our lives. She offers tools and strategies for overcoming the fear of being seen, including acknowledging the fear, starting small, building a support network, shifting the narrative, challenging the inner critic, taking action, finding inspiration, and remembering one's why. She also encourages women to celebrate their milestones and to be willing to be judged and fail in order to reclaim their stories and voices. She concludes by reminding listeners that they are worthy, powerful, and meant to be seen. ____________________________________________________________________________   Episode Details: 01:01 Fear of being seen 04:54 Blending In 09:45 Harnessing the superpower of visibility 13:22 Imposter syndrome  19:16 Celebrating small milestones and progress. 23:54 Fear of being judged.   Quotes: "When I think about going after extraordinary goals, one of the things that is required is that you're seen on some level." “I got over my fear of being seen. I was willing to be judged. I was willing to be ridiculed." "Remember, and this is really important, visibility isn't about validation." "What I have known to be true is the more imperfect I am, the more vulnerable I am, the more I share the ins and outs of my life, the more people can connect to that." "Fear has no control over you in this part of your life. When you're willing to be judged, when you're willing to get it wrong, when you're willing to be imperfect, when you're willing to look stupid, when you're willing to fail, all of a sudden the fear is gone."   Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh    

Comfort vs. Strength: Creating a Life of Fulfillment The importance of finding a balance between comfort and strength in order to live a fulfilling and adventurous life is the focus on  this  episode of School of Self-Image with host Tonya Leigh. She emphasizes that while comfort can be enjoyable, too much of it can prevent us from pursuing our dreams. On the other hand, strength is necessary for personal growth and achieving our goals. Leigh encourages listeners to embrace discomfort and take small brave steps outside of their comfort zones. She also highlights the importance of mindfulness and self-compassion in navigating the balance between comfort and strength. Ultimately, she suggests that true fulfillment comes from embracing both comfort and strength in our lives. ____________________________________________________________________________   Episode Details: 00:22 Finding balance between comfort and adventure 07:25 There's low risk with comfort 09:43 Leisurely hustling 12:47 Setting extraordinary goals 17:04 A beautiful waltz of comfort and strength   Quotes: "Find a balance between rest and restlessness. Find a balance between the life you dream of and the life you live." "Strength is that inner knowing that you've got your own back, that you are going to do what you say you're going to do, that you're going to handle the obstacles that come your way, that you're going to have courage."  "True pleasure is the absence of pain." "There's something beautiful about seeing what you're made of" "A life that's built from both comfort and strength, because ultimately true fulfillment lies not in choosing one over the other, but in mastering the art of embracing both."   Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh    

Learning from the Past and Creating Your Future   Have you ever considered how amazing it would be if you chose to learn from the past intentionally?  How this might create a better future? Welcome to this week's episode of School of Self-Image podcast with host, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh.  Tonya is all in on the concept of a monthly reset and shares her personal experience of starting a new morning routine. She encourages listeners to tune in to their future selves and take action towards their goals, even if they feel off track. She reassures them that it's never too late to make a change and improve their lives.   Hitting that monthly reset goal is such a part of self-image work and in shaping experiences and outcomes. By changing how individuals perceive themselves, they can create new evidence and transform various areas of their lives, including relationships, finances, and personal growth. This is the power of the monthly reset.   Episode Details: 00:02:46 Never too late to reset 00:06:33 How you see yourself 00:10:15 Monthly reset and review 00:14:08 Celebrating wins and dissecting failures 00:19:07 Creating new evidence of success 00:22:06 The power of self-reflection Quotes: "Every moment is a chance for a U-turn." "I'm a woman who creates her life on purpose." "Every moment is truly a blank slate, yet we bring all of our old baggage into this moment." "I already know that the obstacle that I am going to encounter is my own brain." "Without a mind that is intentional, that is focused, that is disciplined, you're going to struggle in life." Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

Finding Fulfillment Through Trusting Your Intuition Do you struggles with not trusting intuition? Tonya Leigh knows exactly what that feels like and how it has impacted her  life. Throughout this episode, she emphasizes the benefits of following intuition. Listening to intuition can lead to a more fulfilling life and make decision-making easier. Intuition is described as an inner compass connected to one's true self and higher purpose. Tonya encourages listeners to pay attention to their bodies and not ignore the signals they receive. Ignoring intuition can lead to suffering and keep individuals in a state of scarcity. Being overly cognitive and overthinking things can override gut feelings and lead to decisions that are not in true service of oneself. To reconnect with intuition, Tonya suggests asking oneself questions and tuning into the inner voice. "If my highest self could speak, what would she say?" and then imagining the wisest self advising. By removing outside opinions, societal expectations, and the influence of others, individuals can tap into their own inner knowing. Tune in to discover how you can make decisions that align with your values and priorities and experience a greater sense of flow and fulfillment in life.     Episode Breakdown: 01:09 Overriding that gut knowing 06:32 When intuition is nudging you 09:35 Getting off track 14:09 Listen to your body 19:29 The power of intuition 23:21 Following your inner compass 26:36 Intuition versus fear 33:32 What do I know deep down? 36:04 Elevating the quality of mindset Quotes: "Albert Einstein said, the intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the reflective, rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." "Showing up and sharing and helping and serving and offering value is the greatest way to sell anything." "They can be saying all of the right things, they can be smiling in your face, on paper they can look like the perfect person for you, but your gut is saying run." "Learning to listen and decode your intuition is going to lead to a greater, more fulfilling life." "Sometimes it's pursuing a career path, even though you feel it does not genuinely align with your interests, your soul, or your strengths." "Intuition usually isn't panicked. It's just this very calm, gentle, subtle voice." "But what I do know is that you know, and that answer is found within your body, not your mind, but within your body." "Listening to your intuition requires space. It requires time to just be with yourself."   Useful Resources: Join the membership now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh    

Creating New Habits for a Transformed Life Habits are the actions we engage in daily, often without conscious thought. They serve as the foundation of our lives and have a profound impact on our self-perception. Our habits reinforce how we view ourselves and shape our identity.  As host, Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh, reflects on the power of habits and how they shape our lives, she shares her personal journey of examining her habits.   This episode details the five habits that she wants to create in 2024. These habits include unplugging more from her cell phone and other devices, reading more books, journaling daily, drinking less alcohol, and committing to getting fit. Tonya discusses the importance of aligning our habits with our self-image and how changing our habits can lead to significant changes in our lives. She invites listeners to consider the habits they want to cultivate in order to create the life they truly desire. Tune in to learn how small actions can have a big impact on your life in 2024 and beyond.     Episode Breakdown: 01:22 Any moment is a chance to start again 02:41 Write a letter to 18-year-old you 05:09 Self-image habits 09:08 5 habits I want to be on autopilot 13:14 Habits that get you back in alignment 20:53 Unplugging and staying connected 24:47 The act of reading 27:20 The habit of journaling 31:40 Drinking less  as a habit 37:44 Aging powerfully   Quotes: “If you want to see your life change, take a look at your habits." “Think about all of it, and you get to make up this amazing story about 18-year-old you. But it's not just enough to use our imagination. Our imaginations need evidence to really root in that self-image.”  “The things that we do day in and day out are literally the building blocks of our lives.” “It's almost like I've gotten into this pattern of just enjoying, which is a beautiful thing, and riding the wave. But I miss that aliveness, that, oh my god, I just cannot wait to saunter into this day.” “If I want to see myself as a royal being, which I think we all are, what do I want to say to myself? How do I want to treat myself? And so with those two questions, I came up with five habits that I am committed to creating this year and making them habits, making them just autopilot, just what I do.” “I've noticed over the last month since I got that report, because I don't know why I haven't really been paying attention to the report, but we all need to look at that report and think about the number of hours a day you're spending on your phone and what else you could be doing with that time.” “I want to be more active on Instagram this year. And that's the crux. That's the hard part is when you have a business that requires that you share your work and you put yourself out there, you have to find the balance between unplugging and plugging back in.”  “Maybe we should try reading more. I want to get back into books. There is a world that exists within books that opens you up to new ideas, new perspectives, new artists, new lands, new stories.”  "The work that needs to be done is around your self-image. When you change how you see yourself, you change what you do." Useful Resources: Join now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

What is Tonya’s WOTY?  She has been selecting a word of the year for the past decade, finding it to be a transformative process. She firmly believes that merely setting goals and taking action is insufficient for creating lasting change. Instead, Tonya emphasizes the significance of personal growth and transformation in order to consistently approach things differently and achieve different outcomes. Having a word of the year serves as a guiding principle, providing direction and support. However, Tonya faced difficulty in choosing a word of the year for 2024. Initially, she contemplated words like "power" and "integrity," but they didn't resonate with her. It was during a luncheon for the Good Friends organization that she witnessed a woman on stage who embodied qualities she deeply admired, such as power and integrity. The word "royal" encapsulates the host's desired qualities of integrity, generosity, and elevating self-care. She explains that embodying royalty means radiating an energy filled with integrity, grace, compassion, and empathy. It entails adhering to moral principles and a code of ethics in both behavior and leadership.  Tune in to discover how to aim toward treating yourself with the utmost care and refinement.        Episode Breakdown: 00:33 Choosing a word of the year 02:14 One of the biggest mistakes that we make 06:09 My word of the year for 2024 is royal 08:24 Seeing yourself as someone of status 09:28 Lead with integrity 13:12 What is ‘being royal’? 14:59 Being more generous in 2024 18:11 The Royal Treatment 19:39 My extraordinary goal   Quotes: “My extraordinary goal this year is around leadership and my business and my team. I want to be a really royal leader.” “I don't believe in giving when you're doing it to get rid of guilt or to, you know, impress other people. I think that is the energy in which a lot of people sometimes give and then they start to feel resentful and it doesn't feel good.” “One of the traits that the woman who was on stage that revealed my word of the year to me showed me that I want more of this year is generosity.” “We are going to make mistakes, we are going to get it wrong sometimes. But the biggest mistake is in pretending you didn't make one.” “Because so often we discount ourselves, we shrink ourselves, we put ourselves down, we place other people above us.”   Useful Resources: Join now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

Host Tonya Leigh kicks off the new year by asking listeners to reflect on the characters they are tired of playing and the ones they are ready to step into. The episode discusses the external factors that support a person's character, specifically focusing on style and environment. The host emphasizes the importance of these external factors in expressing and confirming one's character. Tonya also mentions an exercise called "Characters in Your Closet" where individuals can examine the clothes in their closet and identify the characters they have been playing based on their clothing choices. She suggests that by intentionally choosing their style, individuals can embody new characters that align with their desired self-image. Tune in to start the year off right with this thought-provoking episode.   Episode Breakdown: 01:17 What does it mean to create, not fix 03:21 Live Like an Editor Workshop 08:27 We can have fixed mindsets 10:55 The character of the abdicator 12:49 The cost of playing this character  17:40 Responding to the world around you 19:06 Your character determines your relationships 22:08 This was the year that it ended 25:01 Famous Rachel Zoe philosophy 27:25 The character of an energized woman   Quotes: “I want you to think about the difference in saying to yourself, I need to fix myself or I want to create myself.” “So many people, when I've talked to them about this concept of you can change who you are, they want to tell me, no, there's just an internal blueprint that you can't change.” “Last year, I found myself playing a character that I've been really good at playing. And in some ways, it has served me because that's the thing. If it didn't serve us, we wouldn't play it.” “ I feel like I have stepped in my power in so many ways, but there were a couple of things specifically that I looked at and I was like, Oh, I've been playing the character of abdicator.” “That's a key aspect of character. It's not just about how you act. It's also about how you interact and connect with others” “I'm going to speak up when I feel like someone is out of integrity. I'm going to speak up when there is something that needs to happen. And I'm going to be willing to have the hard conversations and make the hard decisions so that those things happen”   Useful Resources: Live Like an Editor Workshop: https://schoolofselfimage.com/workshop Join now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh

What are your big takeaways from 2023?  Heading into a new year always brings up moments of reflection.  In this episode, self-image coach Tonya Leigh reflects on her top five lessons from 2023.   Tonya's top five lessons include: 1) Health is your greatest wealth, 2) Don't delay what needs to be done, 3) Don't take anything for granted, 4) Trust your intuition, and 5) Focus on your own path. Tonya emphasizes the importance of seeing oneself as a masterpiece and approaching life from a place of love and joy. She also introduces her upcoming workshop, "Live Like an Editor," where participants can create their own magazine covers and set intentions for the new year. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own lessons from the year and carry them into the new year.  Join Tonya as she dives into these valuable lessons and provides insights for listeners. Episode Breakdown: 00:26 - Bird Poop Anecdote and Good Luck for 2024 01:50 - The Concept of Creating vs. Fixing in Personal Development 03:20 - Live Like an Editor Workshop  06:45 - Reflecting on the Past Year's Lessons 08:10 - Lesson One: Health as the Greatest Wealth 12:55 - Lesson Two: Don't Delay Necessary Actions 16:40 - Lesson Three: Don't Take Anything for Granted 20:10 - Lesson Four: Trusting Your Intuition 23:45 - Lesson Five: Focus on Your Own Path 27:30 - Encouragement to Reflect on Personal Lessons  29:50 - New Year Wishes Quotes: 'One of the biggest beliefs that keep us stuck in patterns and cycles that don't serve us is that we are broken." "When you come at yourself as if you are broken, you end up perpetuating brokenness." "I want you to see yourself as a masterpiece."  "I know that focusing on my health is my greatest love."  "If you need money to be free, then you're not really free because you are going to be a slave to money."    "We are responsible for our own vision and focusing on our own path."    Useful Resources: Live Like an Editor Workshop: https://schoolofselfimage.com/workshop Join now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh  

Unlocking Your Superpowers: Embracing Your Quirks Summary: Are you tired of trying to fit in and be like everyone else? It's time to love your quirks and embrace what makes you unique. Discover the secret to a more confident and joyful life: loving your quirks. Host Tonya Leigh takes listeners into just how powerful embracing one's quirks is and how it positively impacts self-confidence. When individuals accept and love their unique qualities, they send a message to their subconscious mind that they are deserving of love and acceptance. This, in turn, bolsters self-confidence as they no longer seek external validation or conform to societal norms. Instead, they embrace their authentic selves and allow their true essence to shine. Moreover, embracing one's quirks attracts individuals who appreciate and celebrate their own uniqueness. When individuals exude confidence in who they are and unapologetically embrace their quirks, they naturally attract like-minded individuals who appreciate and resonate with their authentic selves. These are the people who see the beauty in their quirks and celebrate them rather than passing judgment or criticism. By embracing their quirks, individuals also inspire others to do the same. When people witness someone confidently embracing their quirks and living life on their own terms, it grants them permission to do likewise. The willingness to be different and embrace one's uniqueness can inspire others, creating a ripple effect of self-acceptance and joy. Join Tonya as she dives into the power of celebrating our uniqueness.   Episode Details: 00:01 The power of loving your quirks. 01:04 Re-examining everything 03:18  Am  I too feminine? 05:22 You are  what you love 07:56 Bachelorette Hannah Brown’s quirkiness 09:30 Rejecting some part of yourself 14:03 The weakest tithing I could ever do 19:20  When I accept myself as I am 22:40 Care less about whatt other people think   Quotes:  "I believe the secret to the most amazing and magical and extraordinary life is, drumroll, accepting and hopefully loving every part of yourself." “We spend a lot of time changing and adapitng to please others.” “It’s like telling that little girl within you, ‘You  shouldn't be that’.” “So much  of our dis-ease with ourselves is because we havn’t accepted ourselves.” “If you hang around certain types of people and you’re in certain environments, there is a standard of behavior and sometimes your quirks don’t fit in.” “Society will always try to shape you into what it wants you to be. “ “What makes you, you? What are your little quirks? Whatt makes you different from everybody else? I think those are your superpowers.”   Useful Resources: Join now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh    

  Did you know that our brains are wired to default to worst-case scenarios?  When we allow a worst-case mindset to take hold,  this can hold us back from taking risks and making changes necessary for an extraordinary life to unfold.  Host Tonya Leigh challenges listeners to play the role of their angel's advocate by focusing on best-case scenarios. Tonya shares her personal experience of making big changes in her business and how focusing on best-case scenarios has helped her overcome fear and create a better life. She explains the pain-pleasure principle and how visualizing best-case scenarios and associating pain with staying in the current situation can motivate us to take action. Tonya emphasizes the importance of self-image and how our expectations shape our future. She encourages listeners to imagine and believe in best-case scenarios, take action to confirm their beliefs and create a self-fulfilling prophecy.   Episode Details: 02:09 Managing our minds 05:19 The pain-pleasure principle 09:06 Visualizing a magnificent future 15:47 All roads lead back to self-image 17:32 Believing in best-case scenarios 23:03 Being your angel's advocate   Quotes: "This is the role of looking for, finding and focusing on best-case scenarios." "Your expectations shape your future." "That is why it's so important, my friends, that we give time to our best-case scenarios." "Because of who I've become, I now can allow people into my life at this level." "It's within our daily journal practice, really thinking about how you want to think and show up on purpose." Useful Resources: Join now: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join FREE download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/ Sign up for the weekly Edit: http://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Connect with Master Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh: Website:  https://schoolofselfimage.com Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thetonyaleigh