Gaps in Carnal Knowledge

This month, Nat covers the ever elusive topic of BOUNDARIES in all their surprisingly messy glory. What are boundaries? Why are they important? Isn’t that just setting rules? Nat explores what a boundary is and how to use them, but also goes into how boundaries are not the ultimate solver of relationship problems and sometimes getting a little messy and directly asking for what you need is the only way to grow. Tune in to hear her ramble!You can also check out her latest affiliate link! How to Heal a Broken Heart: The Guided Transformation Series offers a step-by-step path through breakup grief, guided by therapists, coaches, and educators.🌀 Evergreen access🧠 Trauma-informed content💸 Affordable + life-changingShare this with someone who needs it.#HealFromHeartbreakSubscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan!Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Nat and her good friend Koshka catch up and attempt to talk sex education. After many many rabbit trail stories, they eventually talk about AI and intimacy, and how norms differ wildly between groups and over time. Subscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Nat tackles the very heartfelt conversation about the impact of Conversion Therapy on Queer Youth. This topic has been pushed to the forefront of her mind due to some recent events, and it's a particularly difficult one. You can revisit the episode on Abortion Access to supplement this episode, or check out any of the sources Nat sites through this episode at the links below:Southern Poverty Law Center on Focus on the FamilyU.N. Independent Expert report on Conversion TherapyStanford Report on Conversion adn negative outcomes The Trevor Project on Associated Harms of Conversion TherapyAdditional sources: CornellUniversity of WashingtonColumbiaSubscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Morgan Gallo is an actress, stand-up comedian, and lifelong dancer. She’s toured nationally as a comedian, known for her sharp wit and relatable storytelling that dives into themes like body image, identity, and recovery. She hosts the podcast My Body, My Jokes, where comedy meets vulnerability. As a budding actress, Morgan is excited to expand her artistic range through character work and collaborative storytelling. Whether she’s behind a mic, in front of a camera, or center stage, she aims to entertain, empower, and remind people they’re not alone.Follow her work on Substack, Instagram, and Linktree. You can listen to the episode where she interviewed Nat's alter ego here: Show Me How You Burlesque w/ AlabasterSubscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

No guest this month on Gaps in Carnal Knowledge, but Nat thinks it's about time to actually ask the question... what IS sex ed? Not gonna lie, she rambles a lot in this one. We hope it comes across. Don't give her any more caffeine. Also, she has some amazing news! Tune in to find out more!Subscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit nathiggins.substack.comNat Higgins, M.Ed. and Aaron Flores, RDN delve into the complexities of sex education, body image, and masculinity. They discuss the often-overlooked struggles men face with eating disorders and the importance of vulnerability in male conversations. The dialogue highlights the need for safe spaces where men can openly discuss their experiences and challenges, as well as the impact of media representations on societal norms surrounding masculinity.Aaron Flores is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist with a private practice in Calabasas, CA. He uses Intuitive Eating and Health at Every Size® and other weight-inclusive approaches in his work to help individuals learn how to make peace with food and their bodies. He is a Certified Body Trust® provider, the host of the Men Unscripted podcast, and the co-host of the podcast Dietitians Unplugged.During the episode, we talk about a few creators, podcast, and books that we could not remember off the top of our heads (or we did mention outright). Here they are: Maintenance Phase Podcast, Reclaiming Body Trust, Your Korean Dad, Steve From Blues Clues, Pop Pop Buce Johnson, The Creative Act: A Way of Being, & Manhood: A Bare Reality. Subscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠

For this episode, Nat is joined by Reverend Evan Amo to talk about the intersections of faith, sexuality, shame, and repairing damage caused by harmful rhetoric in the name of the church. From the topic of Original Sin and the different pressures places on spirit and body, to the alienating and shame driven aspects of sexuality within the typical conservative Christian teachings, Evan brings both personal and pastoral insight to the table, and together we explore how those religious frameworks have shaped (and often distorted) our understanding of sexuality.Rev. Evan Amo is the founding pastor of Waypoint Spiritual Community and the musician behind Bruised Reeds, a soul-searching music project that blends lament with liberation. BE sure to follow Waypoint Spiritual on Instagram to see their community work!Subscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan!Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Dan Roberts was born in eastern Ontario, Canada and grew up in a nice, small, homogenous town. Over time and with changing geography he met a diversity of people and was exposed to different ways of life. Each new person or destination was a chance to experience new things, and to learn.He’s lived in small towns and big cities, played sports, and been a successful art photographer (@HackTheLight). He studied applied physics before choosing a career in software engineering, and his current business is an event ticketing and membership platform called Multipass.With a late discovery of likely neurodivergence (neurospicy?), change can be both thrilling and difficult for him. Change is also inevitable, and embracing personal growth is a core principle of Dan’s life. Sometimes this means uprooting deep mental roots, trying something new, and this book is evidence of that. After four decades of life and relationships, largely based in emotional monogamy, polyamory thrust the door of change wide open. His journey into this new life has been exciting, extremely costly and painful, and ultimately successful. Non-attachment brings peace, and granting freedom to those around us brings respect. You can get your hands on his book on Amazon and keep up with his latest project at everythingismadeup.comSubscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit nathiggins.substack.comJoin Nat as she has a chat with Leah Spasova, a psychologist, sex and relationships expert, and the founder of lifesexplicit, a groundbreaking censorship-free platform for sexual wellness. With a background in psychology and years of experience supporting clients in navigating intimacy, relationships, and personal growth, Leah empowers individuals and professionals alike. Through lifesexplicit, she champions inclusive, sex-positive resources and education, helping break down taboos and provide a safe space for expert-led support. Leah’s mission is to create accessible, stigma-free pathways to sexual and relational well-being.Find Leah and Many other Sex & Relationships Experts at lifesexplicit! Don’t rely on random algorithms, don’t get your email box clogged, just follow lifesexplicit’s Telegram Channel and get all the cool updates.Get Leah’s FREE eBook: The Big 3 Secrets for a Pleasure-Filled Intimate LifeConnect with Leah on LinkedIn and on her Website.***Subscribe to Gaps in Carnal Knowledge for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠

This is part 2 of Nat's discussion with Kassandra Lament! This time we will dive into some of the executive orders that have come out, and some tips on how to stay sane while staying informed.Find out more about Kassandra on her website: https://campsite.bio/kassandralament. You can ask her open and honest questions about Trans people at AskATranssexual@gmail.com . And you can find out more about Satanic Colorado and their upcoming events and such at www.Satanic-Colorado.orgSubscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan!Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

For the second month in a row, Nat interviews someone whose parent gave them lots of access to sex ed info! But it may have turned Kassandra into a bit of a sex ed snob... that's okay! She's a delight to talk to anyway! Find out more about Kassandra on her website: https://campsite.bio/kassandralamentYou can ask her open and honest questions about Trans people at AskATranssexual@gmail.comAnd you can find out more about Satanic Colorado and their upcoming events and such at www.Satanic-Colorado.orgSubscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Emerald, a local entreprenuer, joins Nat this month to talk about just how lucky she was with her upbringing due to the openmindedness of her parents. Did this solid foundation prepare her to be an adult? Tune in to find out. Emerald is the owner of HORRID Horror Shop and co-owner of Creepatorium, an independent venue and event space made by weirdos, for weirdos. The building (lovingly known as the Haus of Horrors) also houses Scr3am&Sugar, a horror coffee shop with classics and specialty seasonal drinks! Emerald is also an accomplished photographer! Sponsors for this episode: R.A.C.K. Room⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to episodes directly in your inbox, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month, or become a sponsor by signing up for the Founding Plan! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Pepper Kat and Nat team up for a special CROSSOVER episode of Gaps in Carnal Knowledge and Spicy Spectrum! Pepper Kat is nominated for Best Podcast at the 2025 Australian Adult Industry Awards and Favorite Adult Podcast at the 2025 AVN Awards on Showtime. She's also the founder of Design Your Dreamgirl, an exclusive fantasy fulfillment and personal connection experience, nominated for Best New Product at the 2025 Australian Adult Industry Awards. From the newsroom to the bedroom, she has transitioned her passion for storytelling into exploring the adult industry, offering honest, boundary-pushing conversations every week. To stay up to date with Pepper Kat, listen to Spicy Spectrum, visit Design Your Dreamgirl, or on her website!Sponsors for this episode: R.A.C.K. Room⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Subscribe for free on Substack to get episodes directly into your inbox! To throw money at the podcast and get early access to ad-free episodes directly in your inbox (not that many of these have ads anymore), ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠you can upgrade to be a paid subscriber starting at just $5/per month!Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Nat is joinged by Ren Q. Dawe, a trans comedian and activist! He uses his sharp wit and humor to challenge norms and advocate for LGBTQ+ rights. A nationally touring comedian, published playwright, and bonafide silly goose, Ren blends clean and raunchy comedy to spark laughter and social changeYou can find all things Ren at renqcomedy.comStay up to date by following him on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and even Linkedin! (how profesh)Be sure to get tickets to the Here to Pee 2025 tour and Tits&Giggles!Sponsors for this episode:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠R.A.C.K. Room⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To throw money at the podcast and get early access to ad-free episodes (not that many of these have ads anymore), ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠join on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starting at just $5/per month! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Suki Suxen joins Nat this month to talk about getting sex ed from sources outside of school! This is the 3rd and final part of a 3 part series so stay tuned for more!You can follow Suki on ⁠Instagram⁠!Listen to her podcast, ⁠GASP!⁠ and give it ⁠a follow⁠ as well!Sponsors for this episode:⁠⁠⁠⁠R.A.C.K. Room⁠⁠⁠⁠ To throw money at the podcast and get early access to ad-free episodes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠join on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starting at just $5/per month! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Suki Suxen joins Nat this month to talk about getting sex ed from sources outside of school! This is Part 2 of a 3 part series so stay tuned for more!You can follow Suki on ⁠Instagram⁠!Listen to her podcast, ⁠GASP!⁠ and give it ⁠a follow⁠ as well!Sponsors for this episode:⁠⁠⁠⁠R.A.C.K. Room⁠⁠⁠⁠ To throw money at the podcast and get early access to ad-free episodes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠join on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starting at just $5/per month! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Suki Suxen joins Nat this month to talk about getting sex ed from sources outside of school! This is Part 1 of a 3 part series so stay tuned for more!You can follow Suki on Instagram!Listen to her podcast, GASP! and give it a follow as well!Sponsors for this episode:⁠⁠⁠R.A.C.K. Room⁠⁠⁠ To throw money at the podcast and get early access to ad-free episodes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠join on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starting at just $5/per month! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Alexa Cortez joins Nat this month to shoot the shit about their old program, and talk about how even sex educators don't know it all!Sponsors for this episode:⁠⁠R.A.C.K. Room⁠⁠ To throw money at the podcast and get early access to ad-free episodes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠join on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ starting at just $5/per month! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

Chris Wellman is back with yet another bonus story for us all. And this one is so good, it's made it's way as a staple in Chris's comedy bits. Sponsors for this episode:⁠R.A.C.K. Room⁠To throw money at the podcast and get early access to ad-free episodes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠join on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ starting at just $5/per month! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe

We got a sweet treat this month! Our sponsor is our guest! Mike Charming from ⁠⁠R.A.C.K. Room⁠⁠ joins me for some talk about the bible belt to military to kink pipeline. But with more words. Sponsors for this episode:⁠R.A.C.K. Room⁠ To throw money at the podcast and get early access to ad-free episodes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠join on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ starting at just $5/per month! Jingle by ⁠⁠⁠⁠Dave Hansen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nathiggins.substack.com/subscribe