Gender Reveal

For our season finale, Tuck catches up with historian Jules Gill-Peterson (she/her). Topics include: Why Jules might be writing a trilogy of books against ~transgender~ Why liberal trans inclusion is the “kissing cousin of fascism” A list of fun hot reasons why people have transitioned throughout history Is transphobia always rooted in misogyny? Plus: Fighting your publisher over derogatory italics; learning the secrets of the most trans dinosaur; and once again asking whether a certain trans clothing company is a psy-op… Today’s Theymail message was from Thirst Pebble. Find Jules @gpjulesss. A Short History of Trans Misogyny is out now. Come see us at the Bell House on June 20!  Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Mischief Making” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10)

Tuck and Ozzy chat with director Jane Schoenbrun (they/them). Topics include: Working through gender feelings onscreen with Brigette Lundy-Paine How did Limp Bizkit’s Fred Durst end up in I Saw the TV Glow? What happened to that film adaption of Nevada? Why the third movie in Jane’s Screen Trilogy is actually three novels Plus: The most sapphic Spielberg film; A Trip to the Moon (1902); custom Jane’s Bar Mitzvah CD booklets; and getting warped by Nickelodeon  This Week in Gender: None, but may I instead introduce you to Mr. Celery, Otey, Muddona, and Ballapeño? Submit a piece of Theymail: Today’s messages were from Go Press Girl and CN Lester. Come see us at the Bell House on June 20!  ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Isn’t It Always” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck tackles more advice questions with BFF of the show Mckenzee Griffler (she/her). Topics include: What if my partner doesn’t want me to come out to their parents? Are we sure that cis people don’t think about gender this much? Can my gender be “boy” if I’m in my thirties?  Should I live the plot of Boys Weekend by Mattie Lubchansky? Plus: wedding photos, astrology, nonprofits, FFS soup, King of Falafel, and securely attached Super Smash Bros characters? This Week in Gender: Kai Jacobsen bravely attempts the segment that Tuck refused. Find Mckenzee at mckenzeegriffler.com and @mckenzeeisshortforzee. Submit a piece of Theymail: Today’s message was from Succulent. Come see us at the Bell House on June 20!  ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Young Buck” & “Tin Tile Shuffle” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck catches up with organizer Jerika Che (they/them). Topics include: Creating an abolitionism-inspired trans summer camp What’s up with all the gender-segregated trans picnics? Advice for creating your own trans community events  Learning to successfully collaborate with co-organizers Plus: Xenogenders, Transoween, and Warrior Cats? This Week in Gender: The Girls & Gays Movie Corner (lol) Find Jerika’s events at seattletransjoy.com and @seattletransjoy. Submit a piece of Theymail: Today’s messages were from Joce Ryder/Gentlethem and the podcast Cruising. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Ozzy and Tuck chat with with Yin Q (they/them). Topics include: How parenting changed Yin’s relationship to gender and kink What queer people still need to learn about kink and consent  How the Red Canary Song documentary honors its subjects’ privacy and agency Decriminalizing sex work — and then taking the “work” part out of it Plus: Spiritual sexuality, the kink-o-meter, and parent-child top surgery? This Week in Gender: A Trans Day of Snack update!  Find Yin @redcanarysong @kinkoutevents and @yinq13ritual. Yin also recommends the book Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina as a resource. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from the podcast Cruising. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Jadie Grange” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Queer Candle Co (promo code: GENDER10) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with with writer Jamie Lauren Keiles (he/him). Topics include: Writing a nonbinary history book that eschews common trans identity rhetoric  Reporting on phallo and blowjob jokes for the New York Times Magazine  Why Jamie will never run another Most Transgender Name Competition  Why everyone in the trans community is annoying in different beautiful ways :) :) :) Plus: “Fake bi to real bi,” best novelty license plates, and Chaz Bono shopping in Miami? This Week in Gender: There’s new work by Andrea Long Chu, Beans Velocci, Paisley Currah and Judith Butler… but we instead quote Sawyer Kemp, Lola Pellegrino and Foz Meadows.  Find Jamie at jamielaurenkeiles.com and on Instagram and Twitter. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Southpaw Cafe. We’ve got limited-edition Trans Day of Snack 2024 merch on sale this month, with proceeds benefiting our mutual aid fund. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Syriah” & “The Odd About It” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck and Ozzy chat with Liz Fong-Jones (she/her). Topics include: Creating a Coworker Solidarity Fund to support worker organizing and potential strikes Organizing your Google colleagues so hard that you crash Google Docs Being realistic about your security threats (e.g., is it safe to organize in Google Docs?) Ways that (trans & cis) tech workers can support trans people  Plus: How the Joy Luck Club (not that one) saved her life This Week in Gender: Listen to Hang Up. Find Liz at lizthegrey.com and on cohost. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Wren Dove Lark. We’ve got limited-edition Trans Day of Snack 2024 merch on sale this month, with proceeds benefiting our mutual aid fund. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Hrse Hrse” & “Gamboler” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck shares last year’s conversation with Nigerian fashion designer and activist Fola Francis (she/her/they). Topics include: Dodging a blacklist to walk in Lagos Fashion Week Advice for other people living under anti-LGBTQ laws  “Queerness has always been very African”  Hosting several of Lagos’s first balls Plus: Nigerian healthcare, Dolls Activities, and And Just Like That…  This Week in Gender: Remembering Fola.  A full episode transcript is available at genderpodcast.com/listen. You can find archives of Fola’s life at @folafrancis and @thefolafrancis.  We've got Trans Day of Snack merch for a limited time over at bit.ly/gendermerch. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Taoudella” by Blue Dot Sessions

Tuck chats with linguist Ariana Steele (they/them). Topics include:  Studying ways that Black nonbinary people degender themselves via language Developing a “chill vs loud” nonbinary fashion taxonomy  How Ariana’s autism and gender relate to each other… …and how all this ties into their mixed identity and Aquarius-Pisces cusp Plus: Britney Spears, the “gay lisp,” and doing ethnographies in the club This Week in Gender: Get ready for Trans Day of Snack 2024! Find Ariana at arianasteele.com. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from MappingTransJoy.org. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Beignet” & “Capering” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: ShopEnby.com (code: GenderReveal) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with artist and experience designer Shing Yin Khor (they/them). Topics include:  The memoirist’s dilemma: narcissism vs turning other people into Content™  “The long human tradition of grabbing some clay and making a little guy” Shifting your approach to activism in order to (hopefully!) avoid burnout Transitioning out of gender entirely? Plus: Burning Man hot takes, Paul Bunyan’s BDE and the Muffler Man renaissance  This Week in Gender: Krys Malcolm Belc reviews Caitlyn Jenner’s memoir. Find Shing at shingkhor.com, on Patreon, and @sawdustbear. Read “I Do Not Want to Write Today” on Catapult. Suggested Gaza support: @fundsforgaza & MECA Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Alex Nolos. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Slimheart” “Our Only Lark” & “The Poplar Grove” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Aphrodisia Boutique (code: GENDERREVEAL) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with writer Lucy Sante (she/her). Topics include:  Why Lucy finally transitioned after avoiding it for nearly 60 years Why the worst trans memoirs are like pre-cooked bacon What does it mean to identify as a bohemian? Reading about the Street Transvestite Action Revolutionaries in the newspaper as a high school student Plus: Trans lit recs; vibe shifts at the Strand; and how Harry Potter ruined a visit to a Portuguese bookstore This Week in Gender: Cecilia at St. Patrick’s. (Full video on YouTube. Read more in Vogue. More photos via Time. Here’s a recap of the aftermath. Most importantly, donate to the Legacy Fund!) Find Lucy at lucysante.com. I Heard Her Call My Name is available now. Other texts referenced: Low Life by Lucy Sante  Nevada by Imogen Binnie Andrea Long Chu (generally) Can the Monster Speak? by Paul Preciado I Want What I Want by Geoff Brown April Ashley’s Odyssey by Duncan Fallowell & April Ashley  Apologia Pro Vita Sua by John Henry Newman Confessions by Jean-Jacques Rousseau An Anecdoted Topography of Chance by Daniel Spoerri A Sorrow Beyond Dreams by Peter Handke Maybe the People Would Be the Times by Lucy Sante “Commerce” by Lucy Sante (link) Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Tiny Parade Coaching. Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Vulcan Street” & “Douglass Stairs” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Popwink (code: GENDER20) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck chats with Shuli Branson (she/they), author of Practical Anarchism: A Guide for Daily Life. Topics include:  Transition as a form of anarchist refusal (and why transition itself isn’t liberatory) Breakup theory: letting go of the expectation that everything needs to last forever  How raising kids can help you catch your authoritarian impulses Is it actually more responsible to give away your savings right now?? Plus: Palestine solidarity, abolishing work, and signing up for your shift at the depression factory This Week in Gender: Conflict with Lantern and Moss?? Find Shuli at sjbranson.com and @shulibranson. Practical Anarchism is available from Pluto Press. Support The Breakup Theory on Patreon and subscribe wherever you’re reading this. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Queer Thrival. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “On the Hour” & “Lean Dream” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Popwink (code: GENDER20) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck finally chats with academic and occasional Gender Reveal producer Cassius Adair (he/him). Topics include:  His role in the Twin Flames cult documentary Getting mpreg (lol) 12 years after being told that HRT would sterilize him Joining trans studies because he got on the wrong flight in 2011 Writing about whiteness, tech history, and hot trans social contagion  Plus: Lexification of t4t and putting ur relationship through academic peer review This Week in Gender: Jesse Lawson & Lou Sullivan on “How to Look 30 When You Are 30” (listen here). Find Cassius at cassiusadair.com, and find us both at sylveon.co. We’ve got three Palestinian solidarity designs (plus trains flag restocks) in the merch shop this month. Get 10% off everything with code TRAINS. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from FLIES FLIES FLIES. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Lost Shoe” & “Lakkalia” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Popwink (code: GENDER20) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

Tuck catches up with multidisciplinary artist Salimatu Amabebe (he/they). Topics include:  Barracuda, an it/its drag monster and perverse people-pleaser Should you retcon your dead dad into someone more convenient? Demanding better (and more creative) gender-affirming surgeries The pros and cons of making earnest, vulnerable art  Plus: Envisioning yourself as a house for many different / differently-gendered beings (“and they’re all employed!”) This Week in Gender: We remix a 4-year-old TSA segment.  Find Salimatu on Instagram @salimatuamabebe and @black.feast. We’ve got three Palestinian solidarity designs (plus trains flag restocks) in the merch shop this month. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Max Burns UX. ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “CoulisCoulis” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Aphrodisia Boutique (code: GENDERREVEAL) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)

We’re back, baby! Tuck chats with Lamya H (she/they), author of Hijab Butch Blues. Topics include:  Discovering queer themes (and dykes!) in the Quran  How having a baby helped Lamya assert their own gender identity  TFW someone suggests you read your own pseudonymous memoir  Finding gender euphoria in religious practice Plus: Pinkwashing, Dadaism, and subway speed challenges This Week in Gender: Dakota Hommes reports on union bargaining for trans healthcare.  Find Lamya at lamyah.com and @lamyaisangry. Paperbacks are available for preorder.  We’ve got three Palestinian solidarity designs (plus trains flag restocks) in the merch shop this month. Submit a piece of Theymail: a small message or ad that we’ll read on the show. Today’s message was from Luke Dani Blue.  ~~ Join our Patreon (patreon.com/gender) to get access to our bonus podcasts, weekly newsletter, and other perks. Find our FAQ page, starter packs and episode transcripts at genderpodcast.com. We’re also on Instagram @gendereveal. Senior Producer: Ozzy Llinas Goodman Logo: Ira M. LeighMusic: Breakmaster CylinderAdditional Music: “Away Game” “Faithless Constellation” “Passages Interlude” & “Copper Halls” by Blue Dot Sessions Sponsors: Aphrodisia Boutique (code: GENDERREVEAL) and DeleteMe (code: TUCK20)