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Shades of Strong ™ | Rewriting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Author: Shirley Hubbard & Natalyn Bradshaw, Advocates for the Strong Black Woman

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Shades of Strong™ is about the everyday experiences that shape, make and often break the Strong Black Woman. On it you’ll hear conversations that explore how Strong Black Women live with and respond to the stereotypical myths, inequitable social norms, unjust cultural biases, and unreasonable expectations that show up in their everyday lives. You should listen in if you’re a Black Woman who’s ready to take back these three words and redefine what it means to be Strong, Black and Woman because of, and in spite of what others have defined those words to mean.
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It's been a few weeks since we've released an episode because you know.......LIFE! Let me just tell ya, homeschooling/virtual learning with elementary age children is NO EASY FEAT! Chile!!! I'm struggling over here. In this short bonus episode I share the struggle with y'all and invite you help Natty and I level up by answering a few questions to help us better support you. It only takes about two minutes to complete our short questionnaire about what you want Shades of Strong to look like for you.  What do you want and need from us to be of better service.  Here's the LINK to make it happen>>>> bit.ly/helpshirlandnatty.
In this week's minisode of Black from the Past™ we're shining a light on the breathtakingly beautiful and amazingly talented Phyllis Hyman.  Phyliss Hyman was a Philadelphia native best known for her contributions to the music world during the late 1970s through the early 1990s.  She had this sultry, velvety and smokey gorgeous voice that absolutely could not be mistaken. In her own words, she liked songs that talked about the the emotional side of people, which is evident in her album, Living All Alone. There was this sparkling presence about her that was simply unforgettable. But she also had this dark struggle with depression that wasn't common knowledge into later on in her career.   Click HERE for a few Phyllis Hyman facts and  HERE for some Phyllis Hyman Favs. A few things to ponder while listening: The many ways Phyllis Hyman's music helps us to tap into our vulnerabilities How often what we're feeling and experiencing doesn't mirror how others see us The importance of being aware of our mental and emotional well-being and seeking support when we need it And be sure to check out her interview with Ebony/Jet where she talks about her insecurities and what it was really like working in the music industry and grab her biography, Strength of a Woman: The Phyliss Hyman Story written by Jason A. Michael available in paperback and Kindle versions. Phyllis Hyman has not only made a significant contribution to the music industry, but also to the Black female experience as a whole and today we celebrate her legacy, her vulnerability, her humanness.   Do you have a family member or know of someone you would like to see us shine a light on?  Send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com with the subject line Black from the Past suggestion or hop over to our website at shadesofstrong.com and leave us a voice message and we’ll do our best to make it happen. PREVIOUS BLACK FROM THE PAST™ FEATURES Margaret Garner
"      Colorism  "You're pretty for a dark skinned girl."  "I don't usually date dark skinned girls." Has anyone ever had the audacity to utter those words to you? I certainly hope not. But let's be real, if those words had never been uttered, we wouldn't be having the colorism conversation, right? Dating back to the days of slavery, the chains of colorism were woven into our psyche and are deep within the fabric of our brains, but does mean that we have to succumb to the ridiculous belief one shade of skin is better than another?ABSOLUTELY NOT! Colorism, originally used by slave owners to cause separation and divisiveness within the enslaved community, is still being used today both interracially and intraracially  to pit darker-skinned people against lighter skinned people and we're here to help you break the chains.  Yup! We're pouring out ALL the colorism tea.  So, come on in and get you some of this healing. Here a few things we talked about: The origination of colorism What it looks like inside and outside the Black community Observing colorism for males vs females The paper bag test and its possible use within Black sororities The mental and emotional effects of colorism How Black women can begin to heal from the residual effects of colorism How you can start the colorism conversation with the young girls in your life As you can see, we talked about ALL THE THINGS! We would love to hear your thoughts on the topic as well.  So, head over to shadesofstrong.com and leave us a voice message with your thoughts or shoot us a quick email at hi@shadesofstrong.com.   OR get in touch with us on your favorite social media platform. We're Shades of Strong EVERYWHERE! AND if you need help starting the colorism conversation with the girls in your life, Genesis Begins Again is just what you need.  Available in paperback, Kindle and audio Genesis Begins Again tells  the story of a thirteen-year-old  who's fighting to over come internalized racism and a verbally abusive family so that she can learn to love herself. There are ninety-six things Genesis hates about herself and the color of her skin just happens to be one of them.    Links Mentioned: Instagram Website Facebook Natty's Instagram "Healing Processes Creative Practices" Workshop Other Episodes You Might Like: Mental Health Treatment is for Black Women Too When the Emotional Wall Come Tumbling Down Moving on When Life Gets You Down SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
Welcome to the very first minisode in our  Black from the Past™ series.  Black from the Past™ is our contribution to preserving and normalizing Black history. Here's where we shine a light on Black women who are often forgotten,  but have most certainly made an impact on the Black female culture. Today's spotlight is shinning bright on Margaret Garner, who in one heart wrenching moment slit the throat of her 2-year-old daughter rather than return her to slavery. Tune in to hear an account of Margaret Garner's desperate act of love. Here are few things to ponder while listening: How far back the dehumanization of Black people date The depths that a parent will go to ensure her child is out of harm’s way The Psychological and emotional effects that Slavery had on Black people Slavery being a worse fate than death Not only have artists and poets honored Margaret Garner with their paintbrushes and proses, her story was the inspiration behind Toni Morrison’s novel Beloved, (also available as an audio book) paper back the movie Beloved  starring Oprah Winfrey, Kimberly Elise, and Thandie  Newton, and it later inspired the 2005 opera, Margaret Garner composed by Richard Danielpour. Although indirectly,  Margaret Garner has made significant contributions to the Black female experience. So today we shine a light on her, we celebrate her and we honor her.   Below are a few links where you can read more about her story. https://www.blackpast.org/african-american-history/margaret-garner-incident-1856/ https://www.npr.org/2010/11/17/131395936/a-mother-s-desperate-act-margaret-garner https://www.waymarking.com/waymarks/WM2F7K_Stampede_of_Slaves_The_Margaret_Garner_Family_Tragedy_Near_Covington_KY https://mrroukisela.files.wordpress.com/2019/01/commonlit_margaret-garner-defying-the-fugitive-slave-act_student.pdf Do you have a family member or know of someone you would like to see us shine a light on?  Send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com with the subject line Black from the Past suggestion or hop over to our website at shadesofstrong.com and leave us a voice message and we'll do our best to make it happen.
The sexualization of Black women and girls has its roots in slavery and racism and heavily contributes to rape culture internally and externally.  And  to add insult to injury, mainstream media has been oversexualizing the Black female body for years, for CENTURIES. Well, y’all know Natty and I are ALWAYS down for a good session of disrupting the madness because... We are of the belief that Black women should be able to wear whatever they want with all the curves they have without being objectified.  We are also of the belief taht Black women should be able to post picture on social media honoring their bodies, their curves, and their beautiful black skin without that photo being shared as a distasteful sexually objectifying meme. Come on, people!  Be better than the slave owners! Join us in this week's episode as we chat it up about ALL THE THINGS relating to the sexualization of Black women and girls.  Grab your cup, come on in and let us pour you this good ol tea; and when you're finished sipping it all up, head over to shadesofstrong.com and leave us voice message with your thoughts about the topic or shoot us a quick email at hi@shadesofstrong.com Here a few things we chatted about:  The objectification and sexualization of Black women and girls having its roots in slavery and racism Black women being the least protected in America The sexualization of Black women contributing to rape culture Unlearning and retraining the Black culture and American culture The mental and emotional effects of sexualization  Mainstream media contributing to the sexualization of Black women The sexualization of Black men and what that could look like     SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
Hey y'all!  What is up!  What is happening!  We are back and we are ready to get back to dropping the dopeness and realness that is Shades of Strong episodes.  We appreciate your patience AND loyalty as we took some time to rest, regroup, and strategize for the remainder of the season. In this episode Natty and I tell you what we've been up during the hiatus and recap what we have planned for the Shades of Strong movement moving forward. Here a few things we chatted about:  Natty's new journaling class, Healing Processes, Creative Practices  New Black from the Past mini episodes featuring and honoring the history of the Black women who came before us. If you have someone you would like to see featured, please send us an email, hi@shadesofstrong.com with the subject line Black from the Past.  Why Millennial and Gen Z'ers are rejecting being called strong    What the remainder of season three will look like     SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
Black people are still our here fighting for the right to JUST BE -- you know ALIVE.   And I'm here for ALL OF IT!   I'm happy to see so many Black People on the front lines fighting against racism even while we're in the middle of a global pandemic. A number of changes have already taken place because Black People are refusing to be silent.  We are demanding to be seen and heard.  But, here's the deal. Although I recognize that PAUSING FOR THE CAUSE is essential for change to happen, I also recognize that it is essential to pause FROM the cause. In this episode, I'm offering a few suggestions for taking a momentary break from fighting to just be... ...because if Black People are going to continue the fight for justice and equality we absolutely must take care of ourselves.   SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
People-pleasing is a habit that we’ve all fallen prey to at some point in our lives.  It is the act of pleasing other people instead of doing the things that we know will make us happy or the things that will bring us peace.    People pleasing wears many faces, but the one we’re undoubtedly most familiar with is saying yes when we REALLY want to say no, even when we know we’re already stretched beyond capacity.  But did you know that people pleasing comes out of a perfectionist mindset, AND that the perfectionist mindset that gives birth to people pleasing is born out of white supremacy? I know, right?  CRAZY!! Listen, I was taking aback too when Natty said it, but then code-switching and shape-shifting immediately came to mind. I see you clutching your pearls again, sis!  I did the same thing. Anyway… I can’t give you all this tea now.  You gotta tune in to hear us POUR IT ALL OUT! Here a few PEOPLE PLEASING points we touched in this episode:   How this behavior is connected to perfectionism, self-sabotage and white supremacy The many faces of this behavior and how each face is rooted in the lack of self-awareness How to break the cycle while still being there for and supporting those you love SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
Knowing exactly when slavery started may be something we will never know, but research has shown that enslaved Africans arrived in North America as early as the fifteen hundreds However, history books have taught us that 1619 was the year slavery started in America. This was the year when approximately twenty Africans arrived on a ship to Jamestown and thus began the horrific reality of four hundred years of slavery. On July 2nd 1776, the Declaration of Independence was signed declaring the thirteen American colonies free from British rule. For years and years black people have blindly celebrated July 4th as if it were our independence day. But unfortunately we didn’t all become kinda free until 1865. The Emancipation Proclamation was signed by President Abraham Lincoln on January 1st, 1863, which established that all enslaved people in confederate states were free. But still everyone was not free. In Texas, slavery continued as usual. It wasn’t until June 19th 1865, when federal troops went to Galveston, TX to ensure that all of those enslaved be made free. That meant freedom for 250,000 slaves. Of course, the former slaves celebrated, which gave birth to what we now call Juneteenth. In 1979, TX became the 1st state to make Juneteenth an official holiday and today 47 states recognize Juneteenth as a state holiday. In 2020, as we continue to break chains and fight for our freedom and equality and right to breathe, we take this day to celebrate not just our freedom, but those who came before us as well as those who are on the front lines now.  Although we are still breaking chains, Black people across the nation now PROUDLY celebrate Juneteenth. Happy Juneteenth, sistahs and brothas! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
It’s been nearly three months since  the brutal murder of Breonna Taylor & all we have is a total disregard for Black life & an incident report filled with lies. Is it not enough that Breonna Taylor was shot EIGHT times while sleeping in what was supposed to be the safety of her OWN HOME? Is it not enough that the city of Louisville has been and STILL is extremely elusive and downright dishonest about the circumstances surrounding the death of Breonna Taylor? Is it not enough that the life of a 26 year old Black women was TAKEN due to NO FAULT of her own? Is it not enough that the family of Breonna Taylor  is left grieving her untimely death?   IS ANY OF THAT NOT ENOUGH?!?!?!   Now, the LMPD has the CAUCASITY to release an incident report that is--------------let’s just call it what it is, a BLANK piece of paper! So, even after all of this………. Black women are still expected to sit in silence.  We’re not supposed to push back and when we do, we’re deemed, domineering, aggressive, too confrontational, ANGRY!!! You know what I say to that?? It’s time for ANGRY BLACK WOMEN to RISE THE FUCK UP!  ...Because we have a got damn right to be angry.    The family of Breonna Taylor has a right to be angry!   Now, let's be clear! We don’t mean the trope – the myth of the Angry Black Woman--------- We're referring to the Angela Bassett, “This is me being resolute and standing firmly in my truth” Angry Black Woman! Black women in America have long been dragged, have been dogged out by negative stereotypes – stereotypes that are rooted and grounded in racism and slavery. And today  we're saying NO MORE!! Today, we're saying, enough is enough because we're in this space to help heal a BLACK FEMALE NATION! And HEALING DOES NOT HAPPEN IN SILENCE.  Malcolm X was unequivocally correct when he said, The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. The most unprotected person in America is the black woman. The most neglected person in America is the black woman. WE DESERVE BETTER!  BREONNA TAYLOR DESERVES BETTER!   In this episode, Shirl and Natty share their feelings about the incident report of Breonna Taylor released by the Louisville Metro Police Department and how we can each use our voices to positively affect change in the Black community while standing up against anti-blackness and systemic racism.   We would LOVE to hear your thoughts on today’s conversation, so if this episode had you screaming, Yes, sis!  Yes, please take a screenshot and tag us on Instagram or on your favorite social media platform.     Enjoyed this episode?  SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
Thanks to social media and the news that seems to be broadcasting 24/7, we’re constantly inundated with horrific headlines painting vivid pictures of  one tragedy after another, making it is super easy for us to fall into a space of hopelessness. I get it!  Natty and I were there too.  But, thanks to  our good friend, Ife Madzimoyo who came through with some words of encouragement, we are reminded that hope is ever present and change is happening right before eyes.   In other words, THE REVOLUTION IS BEING TELEVISED ... and we love to see it! Listen, it's no secret that George Floyd was murdered at the hands of a police officer for the whole world to see and we are all grieving the dehumanization of yet another Black man.  But, we are so very grateful for the change that is unfolding right before our eyes. And we're shining a light on ALL OF IT  today's episode.   Ife is an emotional wellness coach making her mark on the world by helping Black Women heal from the shit they're often ashamed to talk about.  You can find her on Facebook and Instagram doing her thing and once again, WE LOVE TO SEE IT!!! And if you need soothing messages of hope and love in your life, be sure to check out Natty's AMAZING poems and artwork HERE and the soulful sounds of Sweet Honey in the Rock HERE!      SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
With so much happening in the world, it’s super easy to feel helpless, and maybe even hopeless, especially if you’re not out protesting. As podcasters, we have platforms where we can speak out against racism and police brutality. In this PSA, Natty and I encourage you to be educated, engaged, and to take action. Support the work of activists on the front lines of change, who risk themselves daily to create a better world for us all. Get involved by donating to any of the following: George Floyd Memorial Fund Minnesota Freedom Fund Black Visions Collective Campaign Zero Black Lives Matter Sign a petition: Text “Floyd” to 55156 to sign a petition to demand justice for George Floyd. Text "ENOUGH" to 55156 to sign a petition demanding justice for Breonna Taylor.  Sign-up at Color of Change to be notified of more opportunities to take action. Reclaim the Block lobbies for cutting police spending, and re-routing some police funds to affordable housing, health, violence prevention, civil right and renter protections.     SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
After years of emotional abuse, someone has finally convinced that you need to forgive your offender, let go and move on with your life. And you've committed to doing that because forgiveness is for you – not your offender, right? But something is still missing. You’re still not able to get back to that happy place that you once knew because you’re blaming yourself for letting this thing go on for so long. Forgiveness requires a level of specificity that's often missing on the journey to forgiveness.   SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
If you enjoyed the previous episode on how we as parents unknowingly pass trauma down to our children, you'll also enjoy part 2 of the conversation as Shirl and Natty  offer tips and strategies on how you keep from passing down trauma and leaving a legacy of pain.   SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
As  Black Women we have a tendency to bury our pain not realizing that it manifests  itself in every area of our lives -- in romantic relationships, through our relationships with our parents, our children, our siblings, on our jobs, and yes even how we parent our children. Generational curses (generational trauma) are nothing more than unresolved issues and wounds that we pass on to our children and family members. In other words, hurt mothers hurt their children through the transference of toxic emotions. And the vicious cycle continues, hurt children hurt others too. When we don't deal with our pain, our children learn not to deal with theirs, then they pass that down to their children and that's how generational trauma is born. In this episode, the ladies get candid about how they have unknowingly passed down generational trauma to their children and how they're each working diligently to deal with their own sh*t so that they can break the curse of generational trauma. Shirl and Natty both recognize they are work in progress, bu the important thing is they are each willing to do the work.  They are both willing to heal the pain of their trauma so that don't continue to pass that trauma down to their children. SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
To be Strong, Black and Woman Struggling with Mental Health Issues... We can't pray it away, we can't sleep it away, we can't choose it away. We need support too.   Tarij P Henson, Michelle Williams, Alicia Keys, Jennifer Lewis, Lisa Nicole Carson, Fantasia, Audra McDonad, Halley Berry, Serena Williams, Macy Gray... What do these African American women have in common?  They've all been very open with there struggle with mental health issues.  You know what else they have in common?  We all celebrated and uplifted them when they announced their struggles with depression, bi-polar disorder, etc... So why is when "regular, everyday" women like Natalyn, Jasmin, Diathe and myself are open with our struggles, we're told to pray it away? Exxxactly!   That was just one of the things we covered in this episode, and boy was it powerful!! This episode features guest co-hosts Diathe Garne and Jasmin Pierre, both strong advocates and professionals for mental health in the African American community.  They joined us behind the mic as we worked to bring clarity to:   The difference in being a black woman who is strong and a STRONG BLACK WOMAN The pros and cons of each – mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally The societal and religious pressure of being a strong black woman Suggestions on how we can shift the strong black woman narrative while protecting and prioritize our mental health   Everybody in the room was more than happy share their personal experiences on how being a Strong Black Woman has often put her in a place of brokenness, how the church has directly or indirectly contributed to that brokenness and what it took for each of us to get our healing in world that often frowns on therapy and dismisses mental health issues in the African American community.  Needless to say, it got really heavy and raw. Seriously, no stone was left un-turned in this episode. Do yourself a favor and don't sleep on this conversation.  Tune in  NOW and then hop over to  and Shades of Strong and leave us message telling us what you thought about the episode. OR Head on over to FACEBOOK or TWITTER, or INSTAGRAM @shadesofstrong and join the conversation.  If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening!!  AND Be sure to check out The Safe Place App available in the app store for IPhone and Android.  The Safe Place is a minority mental health app created by Jasmin Pierre to raise mental health awareness in the black community and serves as a great resource for African American individuals considering therapy, but don't know where to start. SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
TRIGGER WARNING. This episode details one woman's story of religious trauma and emotional abuse and may be triggering for some.  Please proceed with caution. Religious trauma is a condition experienced by those who are struggling with leaving an authoritarian religion and coping with the mental and emotional damage of indoctrination.  Janine Maryland is included in that number.  She stopped by the virtual studio to share her story with the SOS and fam, and it is by far one of the most most real and raw journeys I've heard to date.  She bore her soul with the hopes that her story would encourage and inspire others who may be or have been on a similar journey. Janine gets super real about how she's been excommunicated from the religion she grew up in, as well has how she's being involuntarily forced to distance herself (physically, verbally and socially) from her family, including her mom. She also shares details of suicide ideations, her struggle with mental illness, how she's now rebuilding her life piece by piece and learning to live in between the tears.   Tune in now. Janine Danielle Maryland is a Nashville, Tennessee native, with a creative soul.  Her love for poetry was implanted in her DNA.  Janine’s grandmother and mother both wrote poetry their entire lives.  This love was further reinforced when her mother took it upon herself to write a poem for each stage of her life.  However, surprisingly, Janine didn’t embrace this hidden talent until her young adulthood.  Each tragic event in her life moved her to express her emotions through poetry.  It gave her a sense of closure from various situations. Although in Janine’s mid-twenties, she took a detour to pursue the field of Graphic Design, poetry constantly tugged at her heart.  She incorporated personal poems in every graduation and wedding invitation she designed, yet she still was not filling her inner desire to help others. Granny’s Conversations,® LLC, Greeting Cards for the Soul, was born after Janine spent ten years in the field of Graphic Design.  She decided it was time to embark on a journey that combined her first passion—poetry—with her love for design; this time to save lives.  In a world where we are constantly weighed down with depressing news stories, family issues, health issues and economic woes, just to name a few, we have an urgent need for encouragement, which is the mission of Granny’s Conversations,® LLC. Although technology has allowed mankind to achieve the impossible, along the way it has caused us to loose sight of the simplicity and comfort received through the written word.  A personal note from a loved one has a way of slowing us down to remember what our hearts truly need, to make it just one more day! You can find Janine in the following online spaces: Facebook: : https://www.facebook.com/grannysconversations/ Instagram: @grannyconvo Twitter:  @grannysconvo     If you need support as you start to peel back the layers of your own emotional trauma, head over to  Shades of Strong and leave us a voice message and we’ll reach out to set up a time to chat. Be sure to head  over to FACEBOOK, TWITTER, or INSTAGRAM @shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet on this week’s episode.  If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening, sis!     SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? That's what the world would have you believe, but the reality is ...what doesn't kill you makes you build a wall. Tearing down those walls is what makes you stronger. You gotta tune into this week's episode as we show you how to tear them down brick by brick. But, we don't just stop there, we're giving you a secret hack on how NOT to build the wall.         If you need support as you start to peel back the layers, head over to  Shades of Strong and leave us a voice message and we’ll reach out to set up a time to chat. Be sure to head  over to FACEBOOK, TWITTER, or INSTAGRAM @shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet on this week’s episode.  If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening, sis!     SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
I really wish I had ended it sooner. I wish we could have made it wok. How could I have been so stupid? Why didn't I see the signs? Did I even try? Any of this sound familiar? Breakups suck BIG TIME, right? Whether you're the breakup -er  or the breakup -ee,  it stings a little... ...nah -- Scratch that! It stings A LOT. And you just want the pain to go away, right? But, here's the good news, sis, there is life after the breakup. It may not feel like it while you're still in the thick of it, but you'll get past the guilt. You'll get past the shame. You'll smile again, you'll love again, you'll be loved again. Things end all the time -- your favorite show, your favorite sports season, your favorite holiday and yes, relationships end too. And you don't need to feel guilty or ashamed because of that. Check out this week's episode as Natty and I get down to the nitty gritty about healing from a broken relationship.  Happy listening SOS Fam!  We love you and  there's nothing we want more than for you to be healed, whole, happy!!       If you need support as you start to peel back the layers, head over to  Shades of Strong and leave us a voice message and we’ll reach out to set up a time to chat. Be sure to head  over to FACEBOOK, TWITTER, or INSTAGRAM @shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet on this week’s episode.  If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening, sis!     SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
Dear single black mom, you DO NOT have to cook and clean and wash everything ... ...  be everything ... do everything! Mama, gotta have a life too, right? Before we dive into the cooking and cleaning of it all,  how bout we talk about the guilt that often comes with being a single black mom who has little to no help from the child's dad.  Single black moms often find themselves paralyzed with  guilt because they don't have the support of the dad, but today we're disrupting the madness.   If you're going to put energy into feeling guilty, check out this week's episode and get some tips on how you can use that guilt in a more constructive manner.   Shirl and Natty spill the beans on their struggles around guilt and being a single black mom show you how to ditch the guilt that often comes with being a single black mom. They’re giving you a bird’s eye view of what overcompensating looks like, why it’s a complete waste of time and how we’re often projecting what WE want on our children. And then they brought it on home with how we need stop beating ourselves up for choosing someone who stopped choosing us. Sis, you do not want to miss this one. It is SO GOOD! Press play and get this goodness in your life.     If you need support as you start to peel back the layers, head over to  Shades of Strong and leave us a voice message and we’ll reach out to set up a time to chat. We also have a visualization meditation that we would love to gift to you as you work your way through healing from the things you’re often ashamed to talk about .  You can grab it HERE. Be sure to head  over to FACEBOOK, TWITTER, or INSTAGRAM @shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet on this week’s episode.  If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening, sis!     SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW   If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to Apple Podcasts and SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.  Not sure how to do that?  Click HERE for a quick how to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: Click here to subscribe via Google Podcasts Click here to subscribe via Stitcher   Click here to subscribe via Tunein Click here to subscribe via Spotify Click here to subscribe via e-mail Click here to subscribe via RSS
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Veronica Harrell

completely agree that we think we need to have a man to validate us as women. I've even had family to tell me, when I was in past relationships, to keep up with him if he's losing weight. if he's getting fit then I need to do the same because if not he's going to pick someone else "sexier". so I think I was taught not only to get picked by the guy but keep up with him or he won't want u anymore. so a cycle of inadequacy.

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