Get Out of Your Own Damn Way Podcast

Last week I talked about how to deal with those rude, obnoxious people you've undoubtedly been encountering in spades this holiday season. Bad drivers, selfish shoppers, lazy, incompetent customer service people...and the list goes on.   We joked a little, tongue in cheek, about 5 ways to handle these Grinchy Grinch Grinches without loosing it completely and hauling off and punching anyone in the face. We can all agree how tempting that sometimes is. And I suspect we can all agree that it's never a good idea to actually follow through. My hope is that my suggestions snapped you out of that festering frustration and neutralized any lingering visions of a smackdown.   But what if they didn't? What if - bear with me here - what if that anger caused your heart to shrink a little? Maybe one, maybe two, possibly even three sizes too small!   That's right. What if YOU have become the very Grinch you so dread and despise?   Here are some simple questions designed to determine if the unthinkable has indeed occurred:  Do you have a case of the bah-humbugs? Feeling the urge to kick an elf? Any desire to knock over a few glittery trees? Does the thought of stealing gingerbread men out of the mouths of cheery little children produce a deep sense of satisfaction? Does this song sound romantic to you? https://youtu.be/tWFaP1tkGgM If you can answer yes - or even maybe - to one or more of these questions, you may be suffering from a classic case of Grinchitus. Left untreated, you could actually kill Christmas.  That's right; I said you could potentially murder the most wonderful time of the year!   Do I have your attention? Are you ready to nip this thing in the bud and return to your formerly holly jolly self?   Good. Sit back, hit play, and lighten up, buttercup...'cause I'ma tell you exactly what to do. With not 1, not 2, but 3 surefire tips to grow your heart 3 sizes - back to its original warm and fuzzy Christmasy-ness - STAT!

The woman who cuts in front of you at Starbucks and proceeds to place an order for a small village - and keeps revising it for at least 52 minutes. - The old man who zooms in front of you to steal the parking space you've been waiting patiently for, blocks you from driving around him, and then expects you and the line of vehicles behind you to back up so that he can let the parked car out. - The lady with two entire shopping carts full of stuff - and a nappy little dog - in front of you in the express checkout. - The cashier who expects you to do a price check when he rings your items up incorrectly. - That mother behind you in line blissfully ignoring her kids screaming, throwing stuff, and ramming their cart into the back of your knees. - The bad toupee wearing a sports car that road rages you for several miles after you won't let him cut across five lanes of traffic to turn right in front of you...in a lane that's designated for through traffic. - The driver of the ginormous SUV that pulls into the compact space to your left, gets out and walks up to your passenger side window and asks you to move over so that she can take up two compact spaces. ...And I'm sure you have at least a couple of your own tales to rival or top these harrowing, true-life horror stories. Let's face it, while this time of year brings with it tidings of comfort and joy and hopes of peace on earth, it also unearths a lot of impatient, rude lunatics behind the wheels of cars and shopping carts. Be honest: Don't you sometimes just want to punch them in the face? But don't. Nobody likes spending Christmas Eve in the pokey. Instead I'm offering up 5 hilarious and slightly less problematic - but possibly far more satisfying- things you can do instead. Spoiler alert: Here's a sneak-peak of my possible favorite one: https://youtu.be/nBmNcy4zZNU

Hey Buttercup I got your number: You are superwoman. Not only can you bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan...you bought the land, built the farm, selected the pig - after breeding, delivering, raising, and grooming it - cured and smoked the meat, and now your creating dozens of recipes and preparing dishes to serve at the party of the century which you will single-handedly pull off.   Why? Because you can.   My sister had a friend who told her one of the single wisest things she'd ever heard. And she in turn passed it on to me. Just because you're good at cleaning toilets doesn't mean you have to do it for a living.   Think about that. Really think about it. Just because you can do everything doesn't mean you have to do everything.   So let me ask you this: Why do you?   I know, I know...You're superwoman. Of course you have to! And as we head full force into the holiday season, you may believe that you're absolutely indispensable. There's a ton to do and you've got it all covered. But let's face it, this is often exactly when life decides to throw you a curveball.   In fact, let me throw one at you right now: You cannot do everything all the time all by yourself. Yes, you. I'm talking to you!   But you already know that. You already know that you need help and assistance and support. You already know it but you don't always act like you do. Just like I don't. Just like most kick-ass, highly motivated, superwomen don't.   So let's take a few minutes for a hilarious reality check and poke some fun at ourselves with my 5 Foolproof Signs that you could use some extra support this holiday season...and all year 'round!

Breaking News: Grown-assed woman found dancing in the streets in a pointy hat holding fistfuls of cake and chanting, "WooHoo, it's my birthday!" between bites.   Remember when YOU got that excited when your birthday rolled around? How long has it been?   As you get older and wiser, more seasoned and experienced, you probably also experience a corresponding decline in enthusiasm for your birthday. Let's face it: Once you hit a certain age, another trip around the sun can be a bit hard to take.   So many women dread getting older. They live in fear of the signs of aging. They focus on grey hairs, laugh lines, bumps and bulges, regrets, missed opportunities, unreached goals, and so on. Sound familiar?   Why do we do that to ourselves? And more importantly, how can we knock it off?   In this episode I share my 3 show stopping, cake eating, street dancing ways to get your birthday party started and celebrate yourself. On your birthday, on Saturday, on any day and every day!   Yesterday was my birthday. I may be too old to party like a rockstar but I'll never be too old celebrate ME. And neither are you. Maybe it's time to get back in touch with your inner birthday girl!   https://youtu.be/6t1vaF50Ks0

Have you ever gotten super excited about doing something new...only to be immediately derailed by a well meaning friend or loved one? Of course you have! We all have. And sometimes the warnings, criticisms, and devil's advocate act can truly come from a place of good intentions. Sometimes you need a reality check. But what about when you really don't?   Almost 20 years ago, my sister was about to get married. She'd put on a lot of weight over the years and she really wanted to slim down. For her health. For her vanity. And for her wedding photos.   Roughly two and a half months before the wedding, she saw an infomercial that sparked her motivation. It was for a diet plan that seemed to suit her but it would have taken 7-14 business days to be delivered. She did some research and discovered that the product was shipped from our town. So she grabbed me, drove to the warehouse and convinced the employees that she had to buy the product right then and there. It went against all the rules but she's very persuasive when she wants to be. And she was lucky to find some people who didn't want to re-route her hopes and dreams. They even threw in a bonus product as a "wedding gift".   And against all odds, my sister exceeded even her own expectations and got married 60 pounds lighter and 4-5 dresses sizes down!   Imagine if they'd told her no. Imagine if I had talked her down. Imagine if the people close to her had insisted that it was impossible or unrealistic or unhealthy.   Chances are that you have that one person in your life that lies down in front of you on the tracks every time you board the change train. It's hard enough to deal with your own doubts and fears but what do you do when you also have to carry someone else's baggage?  In this episode, I talk about why people feel the need to hop into the driver's seat of your rail car and attempt to slam on your brakes. And I provide 3 turbo-charged tips that'll give you the power to look 'em straight in the eyes and say, "Don't mess with my toot toot!"  Mentioned in this Episode:  Episode #90: Boundary Setting for Dummies  Episode #100: Beat Your Inner Bully  Episode #124: 4 Easy Ways to Say, "I Don't Got Your Back!"   Episode #125: Support for Dummies

Some people always suck the air out of the room. They make everything about themselves. They are masters of manipulation...able to belittle you so stealthily that you may find yourself thanking them for the deed. They can make you smaller with just a quick glance. And my guess is that you can spot them a mile away. Like most people, you're probably pretty good at avoiding them or at least defending yourself from their calculated attacks.   These people are not good for you. They're not supportive. And it's usually obvious.   But what about the friends and family members who aren't evil incarnate but who somehow still miss the mark when it comes to support? Do you know how to spot them? Do you have adequate defenses and strategies in place to protect yourself?   And here's the BIG, difficult, in-your-face question that needs to be asked: Are you actually one of them?   You probably think you're super supportive. And maybe you are. But if you feel like you're not getting the support you truly need, it may mean that you're not clear about what support really looks like. And therefore, you may not be giving it to others in your life either.   The first step to towards real support is truly understanding it. And as a professional healer for nearly two decades, I'm often stunned at how many people just don't get it.   So I'ma break it down for you right now with Support for Dummies!   There are 4 main ways that support shows up. Some may surprise you. In fact, a lot of people confuse support with something far less...well...supportive! In this episode I reveal all of this to you - and more. Not only do I explore the 4 Signs of True Support, but I give you a spot-on litmus test to immediately gage and determine if you're receiving the support you need. Extra points if you're brave enough to share it with your loved ones so that they can also discover just how supportive you are showing up in their lives!   The good news is that it's never to late to teach the people in your life just how you need to be supported. And it's never to late to learn a few new skills yourself.   Mentioned in this Episode:  Episode #124: 4 Easy Ways to Say, "I Don't Got Your Back!"

Ever wondered how you can let someone know that you just don't support them? Looking for ways to show someone you really don't care? We've all been there. So I'm here to show you 4 ways to say, "I don't got your back!" Or...you know...identify which of your own loved ones aren't truly there to support you. Support. It's that make or break ingredient that can often be the difference between success and failure. Think of it like salt: You don't always detect when it's there. When administered correctly, it's subtle. It makes everything work better. It can bring out flavor, textures, even colors. It's responsible for the chemical success of so many things. So while it's presence can be easily taken for granted, its absence is glaringly obvious. You literally cannot live without salt. And if you're completely honest with yourself, you know that the same thing is true of support. How many heart-warming stories have you heard about an underdog who went from rags to riches or who, against all odds, achieved something that transformed the world? And how many times have you succeeded at something without any help, guidance, or support? But what about those people in your life who are supposed to have your best interests at heart? Your friends, your family, even your coworkers and bosses? Are they truly supporting you? Chances are, you know the answer. And you probably have at least one person in your life who means well, who appears to have your back. But when push comes to shove, they're not only not offering you support, they may actually be actively sabotaging you. So how can you identify if there's one of these unsalty characters messing up your recipe for success? I share 4 simple ways in this week's podcast. And I also give you 3 easy tips to restore the support that you need to succeed.

Remember all of that fuss in Romeo and Juliet about a rose? You know, if it was called anything other than a rose, it'd still be a rose. It would look the same, feel the same. Smell the same. That's some deep stuff, right? Basically, Shakespeare was saying it didn't matter how you framed it; a rose is a rose is a rose.   But what if you called a rose a banana? Could that be confusing? Could it drastically alter perceptions and possibly really mess up a good pie? Or let's say you called a rose a thorn delivery system? Suddenly it might not be so appealing.   There's an art form to marketing and spin. A masterful finesse to renaming, rearranging, and reforming how we see things. It can change what we believe, what we want, even how we behave. And sometimes that's refreshing. But sometimes it can be harmful.   You might have designer clothes and handbags, artisan cupcakes or cheese, reimagined, recycled, and upcycled tchotchkes. But did you know that you're probably also walking around with something else that's been rebranded and reframed? I'm talking about FEAR. That's right: there's a whole lotta buzz around repackaging this old feeling. But let's face it: fear by any other name...is still just fear!   And if you want to deal with fear, move through it, overcome its hold on you, you have to get really real and face it head on.   In this episode, I reveal 4 surprising ways you may be disguising this emotion and enabling yourself to detour around it. I also tell you 2 signs that may indicate that you're unknowingly living in a state of perpetual fear. And finally, I share 3 Balancing Tips designed to help you bust through your fears and cope like a unicorn! Just kidding. You'll be coping like a boss. But you can call yourself a unicorn, or a banana, or even a rose. Because a boss by any other name...still takes charge and gets things done!   //

When I was growing up, I was cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. I was also looney for Lucky Charms, crazy for Captain Crunch, and fanatical over Fruity Pebbles. Weekly grocery shopping with my family was stressful. I had to choose one and commit to it for an entire week. Or worse, they'd let me have a couple, which would make every morning an agonizing dilemma. And then there was the bickering and bargaining with my sister over who would get the last bowl of whatever was in the box. It didn't really matter what it was...I wanted it because she did, and visa versa. Sounds silly, right? But at the time, these felt like life altering decisions. Huge amounts of energy were spent on ruminating over the choices...and then often regretting the sacrifices I'd made. Don't even get me started on the Eggos! Today I face the same sorts of conundrums. I could get all up on my high horse and talk about how much more serious and important they are but here's the truth: it's all relative. All of it. Not just the decisions but how I perceive and approach them. How I frame them. And how I choose to let them affect my sanity and well being. So let me ask you this: Do you find yourself second guessing your choices? Do you always want what the other girls have? Do you sometimes find yourself doing nothing because you're afraid you'll miss out on one thing if you choose the other? In my professional opinion, you may be loco for FOMO. What the heck am I talking about? I'm so glad you asked...! This week I'll show you just how easy it can be to not get all caught up agonizing over decisions with 3 Decisive Tips. And for those of you who don't know, I'll reveal the meaning of FOMO. And then I'll blow your minds with a little JOMO. Mentioned in this Episode: Episode #49: Interview with Philip Dhingra Episode #96: You Decide…Even When You Don’t Episode #97: Guess Again…or better Yet Don’t Episode #118: Decide Already //

See that woman over there? She's got a way better job than me! And that one? Man I want her car! And check out the brains on the one with all those diplomas on her wall! Grrrrrrrraaaaargh!!! Woah! Clearly I need to get a grip on my green eyed monster. Sound familiar? Jealousy can come on like a freight train and mow down your confidence. I call it the Jealy Roll. Worst. Pastry. Ever. Recently I had to get over myself and acknowledge my own jealy roll. Yes, that's right; I'm just as susceptible to the pitfalls of toxic comparison-itis and stuck-itude as you. We all are. In fact, those super together women with great jobs and cars that may have tripped me up... Guess what? They're busy jealy rolling over someone else from time to time. So what to do, what to do... Well, how about a little motivational dessert? This episode is the perfect cherry to plop atop the motivation sundae I just spent a couple of months serving up to you. Let's face it: nothing but NOTHING kills your momentum like a good old fashioned case of comparison-itis. It's a stone cold change stopper if ever there was one. So c'mon, who doesn't need a decadent pallet cleanser every once in awhile? I'm offering up 5 generous scoops of jealousy busting tips, topped with 3 luscious questions you can ask yourself right now. You'll detect notes of clarity, followed by not-so-subtle hints of renewed confidence. I'm even going to add an extra bonus topping. It's my own special house blend of "who-are-you-really-jealy-of-anyway?" - rolled in a freshly created aha! moment. So grab a mental spoon, sit back, and let me teach you how to slow your jealy roll! Mentioned in this Episode: #83: Keep Your Eyes on Your Own Prize #88: Change is Hard…and Other Lies Your Mother Told You #114: The Perfect Recipe for Change //

// I once joined the YMCA. I did it because I wanted to work out regularly and spend time participating in activities with my son. I was going to get in shape so I could be healthy, happy, and, I'll be perfectly honest here...HOT. I made the decision. I was committed. And by taking the very concrete action of signing that contract allowing them to debit money from my account every single month, I had thoroughly covered all the steps of my very own motivation model. I was unstoppable. I was on fire! Remember when you were feeling just as motivated? Remember feeling unstoppable and on fire? You may even remember it like it was yesterday. Because it might actually have been just yesterday! So what happened? Well let me speak for myself; I lost my motivation. Or more accurately, I abandoned it. In fact, a couple of years later, I was still being debited every month for my membership...and I'd not been there since the first month or two. One day my sister asked me why I didn't just cancel the membership. And I replied with the half joking quip, "Because then they'll know I'm not going!" Can you relate? Think about your false starts. Craft supplies unopened. Running shoes still in the original box. Expired exotic ingredients in the cupboard. Dusty boxes in a corner containing the brochures for that business you were absolutely going to launch... What's your story? And is it truly over? I just spent 5 episodes chatting you up on motivation. You know why you want what you want. You've clarified exactly what that is. You've committed to your decision. And you've taken action. Isn't that enough? The short answer is: No. You've lathered. You've rinsed. But if you truly want to succeed in creating those life altering changes, you must learn how to repeat. Not just that nice. Not even twice. You must repeat relentlessly until you've accomplished your goals. Sound hard? Exhausting? Maybe even a little scary? Only if you let it be... Never fear, Krylyn's here! So let me teach you how to keep it up, buttercup! Mentioned in this Episode: #114: The Perfect Recipe for Change #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?  #116: Whyyyyyy? #117: What You Want?  #118: Decide Already!  //

// So you think you're motivated. You've defined what you want. You've figured out why. You've tapped into your desire. But there's still one more thing you gotta do. And it all comes down to this. What is it? Are you sure you're ready? Okay, here we go... Quiet on set... Lights; camera; ACTION! I've spent the last month breaking down motivation for you piece by piece. No sugar coating. Gloves off. Down to business. And we are finally at the homestretch. I've helped you identify your WHYs. I've taught you how to cut through all the noise and discover your true desires. And I've clarified the importance of decision - and how you are always making decisions either proactively and consciously or passively and irresponsibly. Today I'm giving you the final - and indisputably most crucial - piece of the motivation puzzle. You have to take action. You know that. I'm not telling you anything new. I'd love to be the inventor of the Insta-Motivate Change supplement. Just add water and live your dreams! But if I told you that I'd done that, would you believe me? Would you buy what I was selling? No! Of course not! You're a smart, powerful, capable woman. You know the score. And you don't need a magic bullet. You just need a little push in the right direction. A reminder. Some support. So let's get real. What I'm offering you in this week's podcast is a no-nonsense, 3 Ingredient Formula to provide an easier journey down that necessary path of action. You can't put it in the blender. It doesn't mix easily with your morning latte. It won't wash down with your multivitamin. But when prepared and administered properly, it will give you that added boost you need to make those amazing changes you know you need to make in your life. You cannot defy the laws of physics. As Einstein himself said: "Nothing happens until something moves." Ready to create some serious changes? Click to listen NOW. And...GO! Mentioned in this Episode: #114: The Perfect Recipe for Change #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?  #116: Whyyyyyy? #117: What You Want?  #118: Decide Already!  //

// In the space between desire and action, there lurks a shadowy nemesis to all wishy washy scaredy cats and procrastinators. A powerful force to be reckoned with. A master of movement. A champion of change.  What is it?  Guess.  Don't daly or hesitate.  Guess.  Need a hint?  Decide already!!! That's right, I'm talking about...  Decision! Why is decision a part of the change process, you might ask. Isn't it enough to identify the things you desire to change...and then take action to change them? That's a really excellent question. To answer you, I need to ask you a few questions:  1. Have you ever dilly dallied, refusing to make a decision, only to discover that the decision went ahead and made itself without you?  2. Can you relate to that old saying, "Be careful what you wish for!"?  3. And more pointedly, have you ever made a decision that you regretted and invoked that old saying with the force of 1,000 suns?  If you can't answer "YES!" to all three of those questions, congratulations; you're my hero! However, the rest of us mere mortals have experienced all of the above scenarios. Repeatedly. Yes, even me.  I actually happen to be in the middle of weighing a major, life altering change. And even though this is what I do - and what I help others to do - for a living, I need a little help and support from time to time as well.  So to give us all that extra boost we need to not only make decisions, but to actually do so with certainty, clarity, and satisfaction, I've created 3 powerful questions you should ask yourself every time you're faced with a decision. I also reveal a shocking truth about decisions that may be keeping you from following through with the changes you know you need to make in your life.  Ready to discover how to instantly make better decisions? Decide to listen. Now!  Mentioned in this Episode: #96: You Decide…Even When You Don’t #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?  #116: Whyyyyyy? #117: What You Want?  //

What you want? baby, YOU got it!  Or do you?  Before you can get what you want, you have to not only know what it is, you gots to burn for it, deep down, in your soul! What am I talking about?  This is the stuff that moves mountains. It forges paths. Dams rivers. Launches ships and dreams and entire careers. It even drives some to drop houses on their sisters and others to terrorize little girls over a pair of shoes.  Maybe you already know what I'm talking about...But I'm not ready to reveal it just yet.  First let me congratulate you on making it this far in my epic series on change. Clearly you want to make some changes in your life or you wouldn't still be here. Wanting something is a good first step towards getting it. But it's not enough. If it were, you'd already be living the dream, right?  What I'm talking about here today is essentially want on steroids. Want to the infinite degree. Want after guzzling a six pack of Monster*. Are you with me yet?  History is littered with people who wanted things but never quite got it together to make their dreams happen. Their want turned to longing. Maybe even despair and bitterness. And eventually regret. You don't want to be one of those people. I don't want you to be one of those people!  So what in the world am I referring to? What is it that your want needs to grow up to be in order to get you from wanting to having?  Let's go back in time... Think of something you wanted so badly that it became a singular obsession. Something you set your sites on and from which you refused to back down. Something you obtained or achieved. You visualized it. You worked tirelessly towards it. And you eventually manifested it. This was more that mere want, wasn't it. What did you feel? What driving force catapulted you to that goal? What seductive flame was this? DESIRE - appetency, appetite, craving, drive, hankering, hunger, itch, jones, letch, longing, lust, passion, pining, thirst, thirstiness, urge, yearning, yen! Need a little help re-sparking your flame? This podcast will help you rekindle that fire within. I'm giving you a surefire - pun intended - 3-step process to reclaim your heat right NOW! Ready?   Let's do this!  *Disclamer: Please don't guzzle a six pack of Monster; I WANT you to live!  Mentioned in this Episode: #97: Guess Again…Or Better Yet, Don’t! #107: Ch-ch-ch-change it!  #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?  #116: Whyyyyyy? //

// WHY? Because I said so. Because you have to. Because that's the way it works. Because it's always been that way.  Feeling motivated?  Of course you're not! Those answers never work. They didn't work when you were a kid. They don't work on you now. But let me ask you this: Can you easily and readily provide exciting, empowering, satisfying answers to the WHYs in your life? Because if you can't, you're probably not going to truly find the motivation to get from this side of WHY to the other. In fact, it gets worse; you may actually become demotivated. And let's face it, if you were from content on this side, you wouldn't be asking WHY. (117) The less in touch with your WHYs you are, the more loaded and offensive that question can start to feel. The more frustrated you can become. The more you may avoid looking for the answers. I mean seriously...WHY would you want to stress yourself out? WHY??? But here's the thing: WHY isn't going anywhere. WHY is in your face. Every day. And remember those flippant answers to WHY that I opened with? They become insidious. They are knee-jerk defenses to WHY that have only one purpose: To kill your motivation. (92) So are you ready to use your superpower to master WHY once and for all? The first step to unleashing your motivation is finding YOUR WHY. Not anyone else's. not some pat answers. But YOUR unique, amazing WHYs that will turbocharge YOUR unique and amazing journey. You're here because you don't want a cookie-cutter life; so don't settle for no cookie-cutter WHYs.  Need a little help? In this podcast I walk you through my 4 surefire questions designed to cut through all the bull and right to the heart of your WHYs to find the true answers that will motivate you.  So listen now. WHY? Because I got YOU!  Mentioned in this Episode: #115: Are You Ready for the Superpower of Change?