Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Money and intimacy have more in common than most couples realize. In this episode, we sit down with financial coach Dan Ockey to talk about financial intimacy — how the way you manage money together reflects the way you handle trust, communication, and teamwork in every other area of your marriage (yes, even the bedroom). You'll hear Dan Ockey's incredible story of turning debt, secrecy, and shame into a story of honesty, unity, and freedom — and how money challenges can actually strengthen your relationship if you face them together. In this episode: How financial habits mirror sexual habits in marriage Why secrecy and pride around money create the same distance as sexual disconnection Simple mindset shifts that restore trust and teamwork If you've ever argued about money, felt shame around spending, or struggled to get on the same page with your spouse — this episode will help you see finances not as a source of stress, but as a powerful tool for connection and intimacy. 👉 Learn more about Dan Oakey and Sensei Financial at www.centseifinance.com 👉 Apply for the Get Your Marriage On! coaching program at getyourmarriageon.com/program   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Welcome to Part 2 of this special series on keeping your penis — and your marriage — healthy and happy. In this follow-up episode, we the practical side of sexual health: testosterone, nutrition, porn use, sleep, and yes… penis size. (Spoiler: your wife does care about your size, but it might not be in the area that you think.) You'll learn: The truth about testosterone and how to boost it naturally The best foods for stronger erections How porn impacts sexual performance and confidence What's actually normal when it comes to size What your penis does while you sleep We hope you benefit as we throw a little humor in with the science and practical wisdom to help you stay healthy, confident, and connected for years to come. 💡 Want help creating a more fulfilling sex life with your spouse? Check out our coaching program: getyourmarriageon.com/program

Let's talk about one of God's most incredible and misunderstood designs — the penis. In this episode (part one of two) we dive into the fascinating science behind erections — what makes them work, what shuts them down, and what you can do to keep things running at full power. From brain chemistry to heart health, this episode will change how you think about arousal, masculinity, and pleasure in marriage. It's science, humor, and hope — all rolled into one episode that'll help you appreciate just how wonderfully (and hilariously) you're made. And don't miss part two where we tackle testosterone, penis size, and porn. This episode was inspired in part by The Penis Book by Dr. Aaron Spitz 💡 Want to improve connection and sexual confidence in your marriage? Visit getyourmarriageon.com/program

What happens when your marriage feels impossible to sustain—but you believe God still has a plan? In this powerful episode, we sit down with author and speaker Laurie Krieg, who shares her story of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage, wrestling with faith, desire, trauma, and the transformation that followed. In this episode, we cover: Laurie's honest story of same-sex attraction and her decision to marry a man What it means to trust God when your marriage feels "impossible" Trauma, Jesus, and the healing process Practical ways to love your spouse through pain What Christians can do better to love and support LGBTQ+ individuals and families This episode will stretch your compassion, deepen your faith, and remind you that every marriage—no matter the struggle—can be a place of redemption and growth.   Resources: 👉 Get our free training about how to get your marriage unstuck. 👉 Apply for our amazing couples retreat coming up in the spring! 👉 And join our free private facebook group, Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

In this special Q&A episode, we answer five anonymous listener questions about the most common struggles couples face in their intimate lives. Topics we cover:  Healthy, uplifting alternatives to pornography for erotic inspiration Why some men struggle to orgasm from oral sex — and what helps Balancing strong sexual desire with your relationship with God How to get on the same page when you and your spouse want sex differently What to do when your own sexual desire feels low or disappears If you'd like to submit your questions for a future episode, submit your anonymous question on our website or in our private Facebook gorup. Mentioned in the episode: Episode #34: Horizontal vs Vertical Novelty Spring Couples Retreat Get Your Marriage On Program  

For so many Christian couples, sexuality and spirituality can feel like they're at odds. We've been taught that to be holy means to suppress desire—but what if our sexuality is actually one of the most powerful ways to love? In this deeply insightful episode, we talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about how to integrate faith, desire, and embodiment. We explore how repressing our sexuality keeps us disconnected, how true intimacy begins with self-honesty, and why learning to love through our sexuality is a profoundly spiritual act. You'll hear about: Why sexual integration, not suppression, leads to spiritual strength How ego, fear, and control distort connection—and what it means to love from the soul The difference between sex as validation vs. sex as communion How couples can cultivate that eros energy—aliveness, joy, and freedom—in their marriage Whether you've wrestled with shame around sexuality or you just want a richer, more connected relationship, this conversation will inspire you to see your body and your marriage in a whole new light. 👉 Check out Jennifer's brand new book, That We Might Have Joy.  👉 Get our free training about how to get your marriage unstuck. 👉 Apply for our amazing couples retreat coming up in the spring! 👉 And join our free private facebook group, Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy

Have you every received bad marriage advice? We sure have! In today's episode, I'm joined by my friend and returning guest, Monica Tanner. She recently released her book Bad Marriage Advice, and together we unpack some of the most common (and harmful) myths about marriage and sex and what the real advice should be. If you've ever wondered whether the "wisdom" you heard before your wedding day was worth following—or if you're trying to sort through conflicting advice about sex and intimacy—this episode is for you. 👉 Plus, Monica is giving away a copy of her new book in our private Facebook group, Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy.  And if you're ready to take your own intimacy to the next level, applications are now open for our in-person couples retreat. Four days at a private resort, with gourmet meals, expert coaching, outdoor adventures, and life-changing breakthroughs in your sex life. Details are at getyourmarriageon.com.

In this episode of Get Your Marriage On!, we're diving into gridlock—the moments in marriage where no matter what you choose, it feels like you lose. These conflicts can leave you wondering if you married the right person or why your spouse can't see things your way. But conflict itself isn't the problem—how you handle it is. And since sex is often the biggest source of gridlock, it can also be the greatest opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy. We'll explore a real-life example of what happens when one spouse pressures the other with their sexual fantasies, and how that cycle of placating, resentment, and withdrawal can be transformed into honest intimacy instead. By the end, you'll see how even sexual disagreements can become invitations to stretch, grow, and build a more passionate, connected marriage. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app for more bedroom fun, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Free Training Get Your Marriage On Program Free Facebook group: Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy

Ever said yes to a party you didn't feel up for—then drove home glowing because it was totally worth it? In this episode, we've invited fellow Get Your Marriage On Program coach, Tammy Camp, to use this metaphor to talk all about creating an intimate relationship both spouses want to show up for! In this episode you'll learn about . . . Spontaneous and responsive desire How to send irresistible invitations (without pressure) How to RSVP with freedom instead of obligation When a thoughtful "no" is actually wise And how to become co-planners so the bedroom feels like a party you both want to attend We cover warm-up rituals, initiation scripts, de-pressurizing the "main event," and Tammy's black-belt party-planning tips. If you're tired of duty sex or mixed signals, this is your invite to craft a party worth wanting—together. And speaking of parties, we're inviting you to one you won't want to miss! Our Anatomy of Arousal Virtual Getaway is coming up in one week--September 26-27.  Take sexual intimacy in your marriage to the next level by mastering the three keys to high arousal in your marriage! Join us virtually for a refreshing, sexy, and inspiring 2-day getaway, where we do a deep dive into the anatomy of arousal in your marriage. (And if you can't make it that weekend, you will get the recordings to use on another weekendof your choosing.) 

Do you know what arouses you? Knowing that could completely change the way you show up in the bedroom. In this episode, we dive into the difference between desire and arousal, and why understanding your own arousal triggers is the missing link to greater confidence, deeper intimacy, and more passionate sex in marriage. We cover the history of our scientific understanding of arousal and the sexual experience, including our most recent insights on how context, trust, and emotional closeness play a huge role in arousal—especially for women. We'll also explore how positive sexual experiences build on each other, creating momentum for more intimacy and joy in your relationship. By the end, you'll not only understand the science of arousal better, but you'll also walk away with ideas you can use to strengthen your connection, boost your sexual confidence, and build a marriage that feels more alive and passionate than ever! Don't miss . . .  Our Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples, plus so many bonuses! Our Private Facebook Group: Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy

What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn't desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins me to show how small shifts in thinking can create big changes in intimacy. We cover: Why "keeping your spouse happy" quietly destroys connection The surprising reason lower-desire partners stay stuck Common mindsets that sabotage sexual arousal  Clean pain vs. dirty pain in marriage And don't miss Jody's black-belt sex tip! Sextember is on! Make September your 30-day intimacy reset inside the Intimately Us app. Plus: Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples Coming next week: Sex Seminar with 25 experts—join our email list for details Ready to think differently and feel closer? Hit play—and let's get your marriage on.

Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going to tell you what to believe, but we will offer a new perspective and framework for thinking about it. Here's what you'll discover: The surprising cultural history that shaped Christian attitudes toward masturbation Why shame and secrecy often do more harm than the act itself How sexuality and spirituality can be integrated instead of at odds A simple framework for evaluating any sexual behavior Real stories from couples who moved past guilt and found deeper intimacy Whether you ultimately say yes or no to masturbation in your marriage, this episode will help you replace shame with honest conversation and build safety for true intimacy. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in September with our "Sextember" challenge, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That's the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember—a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage. In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, including a 30-day experiment that transformed not only one woman's marriage but also her happiness and even her appearance. You'll hear how this idea grew into a challenge for couples everywhere, why September is the perfect time to reset patterns, and how you and your spouse can join in this year. Plus, I'll tell you about our upcoming Virtual Getaway: The Anatomy of Arousal—a spicy, nourishing, two-day experience you can enjoy together from home or a hotel. If you're ready to have fun, grow closer, and see the before-and-after difference in your marriage, this episode will show you how to make Sextember your best month yet!

What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful "sexual standoff" can leave both partners feeling stuck, rejected, and disconnected. In this episode, I'll explain exactly why this pattern happens, share a real couple's story, and give you four practical steps to break out of the cycle. You'll learn how to shift focus off of blame, calm the reactivity that kills intimacy, and start rebuilding connection layer by layer. If you've been caught in this cycle—or fear you might end up there—this episode will show you how to untangle the knot and spark intimacy again in your marriage. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in Sextember, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

In this episode, I'll walk you through a complete how-to guide for female ejaculation: What it is and how it works Why it can be such an incredible and bonding experience A step-by-step process to help you and your spouse experience it together Common challenges and how to troubleshoot them We'll also dive into the relationship side—why novelty can be so powerful in marriage, how to avoid performance pressure, and how deeper intimacy is always the foundation of great sexual experiences. Along the way, you'll hear real stories from couples who discovered squirting later in marriage and how it transformed their intimacy. Whether you're curious, skeptical, or eager to try, you'll leave this episode with practical tools, encouragement, and a fresh vision for playfulness in your marriage. 👉 Want to go deeper? Check out the Intimately Us app for illustrated, step-by-step guides and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program

Want to make intercourse in your marriage more exciting, connected, and deeply satisfying? In this episode, we share 10 game-changing tips—from building anticipation with the 9 to 1 pattern, to eye contact magic, to positions and angles that hit just right. These aren't beginner basics—they're for couples who already enjoy intimacy but want fresh inspiration to make it even better. You'll also learn the 4 biggest mistakes to avoid and why "good enough" sex might be the secret to long-term happiness. Resources & Events: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group Get Your Marriage On Program

Hey friends, let me be honest with you - as a man speaking for many men, oral sex is a big deal to us. We love it. It's incredibly pleasurable. But here's what makes today's episode so powerful: I'm sharing a conversation from a wife's perspective about how she finds giving oral sex deeply pleasurable and meaningful. Now, the beautiful thing about oral sex is that it's inherently intimate. You're giving your complete attention and focus to your spouse. There's something vulnerable and connecting about the very act itself. So learning how to genuinely enjoy it - not just on the receiving end, but actually on the giving end - can be an incredible gift to your marriage. I'm excited to bring this topic to you today because this is actually a conversation I recorded a few years ago that's been sitting in the archives. I don't think many of you have heard it, and honestly, the underlying principle is too powerful not to share again. Here's the thing - this isn't just about technique tips for better oral sex, though we'll cover some of that. It's so much deeper. It's about a complete attitude shift and reframe that can transform this part of your intimate life together. If you're ready to think differently about giving and receiving in the bedroom, you won't want to miss this conversation. Resources & Events: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group

What's the difference between having sex and truly making love? In this episode, we're talking about how to bring your whole self—your body, mind, heart, and soul—into your intimate moments with your spouse. You'll hear powerful stories of real couples who felt disconnected in their sex lives, even with consistent physical intimacy. Together, we'll explore what it means to move from mechanical, eyes-closed sex to something deeper and richer: emotional presence, vulnerability, and connection. If you've ever felt alone after sex… if your body is there but your heart feels miles away… this episode is for you. You'll learn what "eyes open sex" looks like in real life, why we sometimes hide from true intimacy, and how small, intentional shifts can lead to transformational closeness in your marriage. Whether you're looking to reignite connection or take your intimacy to the next level, this episode is packed with practical tools, encouragement, and hope. Resources & Events: Men's & Women's Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group

If you're a woman who's never had an orgasm, struggles to orgasm consistently, or wonders if what you've experienced really counts—this episode is for you. I want you to know this: you are not broken, and there is absolutely hope. In this episode, I share seven key truths about female orgasm, why it matters, and how you can move forward—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. We'll talk about: Why orgasm is a skill you can learn (you're not defective!) The importance of creating the right environment How psychological, relational, or spiritual blocks might be getting in the way Why self-exploration and vibrators are powerful, shame-free tools What supportive husbands can do to truly help (and what not to do) I've worked with many women who felt hopeless and stuck, and I've seen time and time again that healing, pleasure, and confidence are possible. You don't have to figure this out on your own. You have permission to want this. You have permission to grow. And you are so worth the effort.   🎉 Exciting news! 👉 Our next round of Women's and Men's Only Small Coaching Groups kicks off September 2. 👉 Our brand-new Virtual Intimacy Getaway is happening September 26–27. 👉 You can also watch my free masterclass to learn how hundreds of couples are overcoming their barriers and finding joy in their sexual relationship. Head to GetYourMarriageOn.com for all these and more.   Other Related Resources 252: Cunnlingus Mastery: 12 Tips Every Husband Should Know Before Going Down on His Wife 239: Sharing the Mental Load for Great Sex, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip 121: How I Learned to Orgasm: A Sextimony with Ashley      

What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely changed how I understand what pornography does to our relationships. I'll also share a more compassionate, Christ-centered approach to overcoming pornography habits that doesn't rely on shame or willpower alone. Here's what we'll cover together: • The surprising history of rice and what happens when you strip away the "bran" - and how this perfectly illustrates what pornography does to sexuality • Why shame, hiding, and secrecy actually prevent us from growing and healing • How to embrace your full sexual nature alongside your spouse instead of in isolation • A more nuanced view on sexual imagery, arousal, and discernment that might surprise you If you've been struggling with pornography or if it's affected your marriage, this episode will offer you hope and a more loving way forward. Because here's what I've learned: building a marriage that's deeply nourishing - body, heart, and soul - requires us to understand the difference between empty calories and real intimacy. Let's dive in.   👉 Let us know what you think of this episode in our Free Facebook Group. And don't forget to download the Intimately Us app for more tips, and check out the Get Your Marriage On program for personalized help.