Ever said yes to a party you didn’t feel up for—then drove home glowing because it was totally worth it? In this episode, we've invited fellow Get Your Marriage On Program coach, Tammy Camp, to use this metaphor to talk all about creating an intimate relationship both spouses want to show up for! In this episode you'll learn about . . . Spontaneous and responsive desire How to send irresistible invitations (without pressure) How to RSVP with freedom instead of obligation When a thoughtful “no” is actually wise And how to become co-planners so the bedroom feels like a party you both want to attend We cover warm-up rituals, initiation scripts, de-pressurizing the “main event,” and Tammy’s black-belt party-planning tips. If you’re tired of duty sex or mixed signals, this is your invite to craft a party worth wanting—together. And speaking of parties, we're inviting you to one you won't want to miss! Our Anatomy of Arousal Virtual Getaway is coming up in one week--September 26-27. Take sexual intimacy in your marriage to the next level by mastering the three keys to high arousal in your marriage! Join us virtually for a refreshing, sexy, and inspiring 2-day getaway, where we do a deep dive into the anatomy of arousal in your marriage. (And if you can't make it that weekend, you will get the recordings to use on another weekendof your choosing.)
Do you know what arouses you? Knowing that could completely change the way you show up in the bedroom. In this episode, we dive into the difference between desire and arousal, and why understanding your own arousal triggers is the missing link to greater confidence, deeper intimacy, and more passionate sex in marriage. We cover the history of our scientific understanding of arousal and the sexual experience, including our most recent insights on how context, trust, and emotional closeness play a huge role in arousal—especially for women. We’ll also explore how positive sexual experiences build on each other, creating momentum for more intimacy and joy in your relationship. By the end, you’ll not only understand the science of arousal better, but you’ll also walk away with ideas you can use to strengthen your connection, boost your sexual confidence, and build a marriage that feels more alive and passionate than ever! Don't miss . . . Our Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples, plus so many bonuses! Our Private Facebook Group: Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy
What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn’t desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins me to show how small shifts in thinking can create big changes in intimacy. We cover: Why “keeping your spouse happy” quietly destroys connection The surprising reason lower-desire partners stay stuck Common mindsets that sabotage sexual arousal Clean pain vs. dirty pain in marriage And don't miss Jody’s black-belt sex tip! Sextember is on! Make September your 30-day intimacy reset inside the Intimately Us app. Plus: Virtual Getaway – The Anatomy of Arousal (Sept 26–27): a spicy, nourishing, live, at-home retreat for couples Coming next week: Sex Seminar with 25 experts—join our email list for details Ready to think differently and feel closer? Hit play—and let’s get your marriage on.
Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going to tell you what to believe, but we will offer a new perspective and framework for thinking about it. Here’s what you’ll discover: The surprising cultural history that shaped Christian attitudes toward masturbation Why shame and secrecy often do more harm than the act itself How sexuality and spirituality can be integrated instead of at odds A simple framework for evaluating any sexual behavior Real stories from couples who moved past guilt and found deeper intimacy Whether you ultimately say yes or no to masturbation in your marriage, this episode will help you replace shame with honest conversation and build safety for true intimacy. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in September with our "Sextember" challenge, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program
What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That’s the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember—a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage. In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, including a 30-day experiment that transformed not only one woman’s marriage but also her happiness and even her appearance. You’ll hear how this idea grew into a challenge for couples everywhere, why September is the perfect time to reset patterns, and how you and your spouse can join in this year. Plus, I’ll tell you about our upcoming Virtual Getaway: The Anatomy of Arousal—a spicy, nourishing, two-day experience you can enjoy together from home or a hotel. If you’re ready to have fun, grow closer, and see the before-and-after difference in your marriage, this episode will show you how to make Sextember your best month yet!
What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful “sexual standoff” can leave both partners feeling stuck, rejected, and disconnected. In this episode, I’ll explain exactly why this pattern happens, share a real couple’s story, and give you four practical steps to break out of the cycle. You’ll learn how to shift focus off of blame, calm the reactivity that kills intimacy, and start rebuilding connection layer by layer. If you’ve been caught in this cycle—or fear you might end up there—this episode will show you how to untangle the knot and spark intimacy again in your marriage. 👉 Want to go further? Download the Intimately Us app to reset your intimacy in Sextember, and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program
In this episode, I’ll walk you through a complete how-to guide for female ejaculation: What it is and how it works Why it can be such an incredible and bonding experience A step-by-step process to help you and your spouse experience it together Common challenges and how to troubleshoot them We'll also dive into the relationship side—why novelty can be so powerful in marriage, how to avoid performance pressure, and how deeper intimacy is always the foundation of great sexual experiences. Along the way, you’ll hear real stories from couples who discovered squirting later in marriage and how it transformed their intimacy. Whether you’re curious, skeptical, or eager to try, you’ll leave this episode with practical tools, encouragement, and a fresh vision for playfulness in your marriage. 👉 Want to go deeper? Check out the Intimately Us app for illustrated, step-by-step guides and join our upcoming events and coaching programs to take your intimacy to the next level: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Get Your Marriage On Program
Want to make intercourse in your marriage more exciting, connected, and deeply satisfying? In this episode, we share 10 game-changing tips—from building anticipation with the 9 to 1 pattern, to eye contact magic, to positions and angles that hit just right. These aren’t beginner basics—they’re for couples who already enjoy intimacy but want fresh inspiration to make it even better. You’ll also learn the 4 biggest mistakes to avoid and why “good enough” sex might be the secret to long-term happiness. Resources & Events: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group Get Your Marriage On Program
Hey friends, let me be honest with you - as a man speaking for many men, oral sex is a big deal to us. We love it. It's incredibly pleasurable. But here's what makes today's episode so powerful: I'm sharing a conversation from a wife's perspective about how she finds giving oral sex deeply pleasurable and meaningful. Now, the beautiful thing about oral sex is that it's inherently intimate. You're giving your complete attention and focus to your spouse. There's something vulnerable and connecting about the very act itself. So learning how to genuinely enjoy it - not just on the receiving end, but actually on the giving end - can be an incredible gift to your marriage. I'm excited to bring this topic to you today because this is actually a conversation I recorded a few years ago that's been sitting in the archives. I don't think many of you have heard it, and honestly, the underlying principle is too powerful not to share again. Here's the thing - this isn't just about technique tips for better oral sex, though we'll cover some of that. It's so much deeper. It's about a complete attitude shift and reframe that can transform this part of your intimate life together. If you're ready to think differently about giving and receiving in the bedroom, you won't want to miss this conversation. Resources & Events: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group
What’s the difference between having sex and truly making love? In this episode, we’re talking about how to bring your whole self—your body, mind, heart, and soul—into your intimate moments with your spouse. You’ll hear powerful stories of real couples who felt disconnected in their sex lives, even with consistent physical intimacy. Together, we’ll explore what it means to move from mechanical, eyes-closed sex to something deeper and richer: emotional presence, vulnerability, and connection. If you’ve ever felt alone after sex… if your body is there but your heart feels miles away… this episode is for you. You’ll learn what “eyes open sex” looks like in real life, why we sometimes hide from true intimacy, and how small, intentional shifts can lead to transformational closeness in your marriage. Whether you're looking to reignite connection or take your intimacy to the next level, this episode is packed with practical tools, encouragement, and hope. Resources & Events: Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2 Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27 Free Masterclass Join the Private Facebook Group
If you’re a woman who’s never had an orgasm, struggles to orgasm consistently, or wonders if what you’ve experienced really counts—this episode is for you. I want you to know this: you are not broken, and there is absolutely hope. In this episode, I share seven key truths about female orgasm, why it matters, and how you can move forward—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. We’ll talk about: Why orgasm is a skill you can learn (you’re not defective!) The importance of creating the right environment How psychological, relational, or spiritual blocks might be getting in the way Why self-exploration and vibrators are powerful, shame-free tools What supportive husbands can do to truly help (and what not to do) I’ve worked with many women who felt hopeless and stuck, and I’ve seen time and time again that healing, pleasure, and confidence are possible. You don’t have to figure this out on your own. You have permission to want this. You have permission to grow. And you are so worth the effort. 🎉 Exciting news! 👉 Our next round of Women's and Men's Only Small Coaching Groups kicks off September 2. 👉 Our brand-new Virtual Intimacy Getaway is happening September 26–27. 👉 You can also watch my free masterclass to learn how hundreds of couples are overcoming their barriers and finding joy in their sexual relationship. Head to GetYourMarriageOn.com for all these and more. Other Related Resources 252: Cunnlingus Mastery: 12 Tips Every Husband Should Know Before Going Down on His Wife 239: Sharing the Mental Load for Great Sex, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip 121: How I Learned to Orgasm: A Sextimony with Ashley
What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely changed how I understand what pornography does to our relationships. I'll also share a more compassionate, Christ-centered approach to overcoming pornography habits that doesn't rely on shame or willpower alone. Here's what we'll cover together: • The surprising history of rice and what happens when you strip away the "bran" - and how this perfectly illustrates what pornography does to sexuality • Why shame, hiding, and secrecy actually prevent us from growing and healing • How to embrace your full sexual nature alongside your spouse instead of in isolation • A more nuanced view on sexual imagery, arousal, and discernment that might surprise you If you've been struggling with pornography or if it's affected your marriage, this episode will offer you hope and a more loving way forward. Because here's what I've learned: building a marriage that's deeply nourishing - body, heart, and soul - requires us to understand the difference between empty calories and real intimacy. Let's dive in. 👉 Let us know what you think of this episode in our Free Facebook Group. And don't forget to download the Intimately Us app for more tips, and check out the Get Your Marriage On program for personalized help.
Did you know that two-thirds of heterosexual couples in the United States use lubricant during sex? That number might not surprise you when you consider all the benefits of using quality lube for enhanced pleasure and intimacy. While there are many different kinds to choose from, in this episode I'm excited to introduce you to a new and innovative lubricant that I've been personally using and loving - and I want to share it with you! I'm bringing on Justin and Natalie, the inventors of Evree, for what I'm calling a "quickie episode." This is just for fun because I genuinely believe in their product and want you to learn about it too. Check it out at https://evreesensation.com/ and use code INTIMATELY for 10% off! You might discover a thing or two about quality lubricant and intimate massage cream that can take your marriage to new heights of pleasure and connection! Whether you're new to using lube or looking to upgrade your current routine, this conversation will give you practical insights into choosing products that truly enhance intimacy in your marriage. If you're looking for other ways to enhance intimacy in your marriage, check out the Intimately Us app for fun bedroom games or our FREE CLASS if you're trying to figure out how to overcome differences in desire.
Oral sex is one of the most powerful ways to bring your wife pleasure—and deepen your intimacy. In this episode, we share 12 practical, respectful, and fun tips to help husbands confidently and lovingly master cunnilingus. You'll learn what works, what to avoid, and how to create unforgettable, connected experiences in the bedroom. Whether you're new to this or want to up your game, this episode is for you. 👉 Let us know what you think of this episode in our Free Facebook Group. And don't forget to download the Intimately Us app for more tips, and check out the Get Your Marriage On program for personalized help.
We’re diving into a topic that’s often overlooked—but full of potential for deeper connection and pleasure: the frenulum orgasm. In this episode, we'll cover the following: The anatomy and sensitivity of the frenulum How this kind of orgasm compares to the female clitoral orgasm Positions and techniques to try together Why it helps build patience, mindfulness, and emotional closeness And how to make this a fun, low-pressure experience that builds trust Whether this is totally new to you or you're just curious, this episode offers a gentle, practical guide to trying something new with your spouse that just might unlock a whole new level of intimacy. ✨ Plus: If you're struggling with mismatched sex drives or want help growing your sexual connection, check out our free class!
Let’s face it—if you're married, disagreements are inevitable. And sometimes, those disagreements feel like gridlock. That’s when it seems like there’s no win-win—only one of you can get what you want, and the other has to give in. It can feel like it’s either his way or her way, with no middle ground in sight. In this episode, you'll discover 10 practical steps for having meaningful conversations about the tough stuff—so you can move forward together and build a deeper, more connected relationship. And if one of the challenges you're facing is a mismatch in sex drives, be sure to check out our FREE class. You’ll walk away with real solutions you can start using today—no therapy required.
Have you ever wondered why your spouse dodges your attempts at affection or how quickly he or she shuts down any of your affection attempts? Or how a simple kiss gets treated like you're asking for something much bigger? Well, in this episode I'm going to explain exactly why one partner who craves affection has a partner that avoids it. And by the end, you'll know this simple mindset shift that can transform your relationship from a frustrating game of chase into one of genuine connection and intimacy. A quick note: I want to try something a little different this summer. We are still publishing episodes every Friday, but once in a while I might drop an extra episode in the middle of the week and sometimes they will be a little shorter. (We'll call them quickie episodes! How fitting, right?!) They're intended to be short, easy, and fun to listen to and teach a principle that you can apply right away in your own intimate relationship to make it better. And this episode you're listening to is one of our quickie episodes. I hope you enjoy it! Check out Intimately Us or the Get Your Marriage On Program to help transform your relationship!
Male sexuality is just as complex and rich as female sexuality. I was recently invited to talk about what I wish women knew and understood about male sexuality on Tanya Hale's podcast, she's given me permission to share that with you here on my podcast. So on this episode, we debunk a lot myths we have around understanding male sexuality and paint a more optimistic and uplifting view of what male sexuality is and the blessing it can be to a marriage. We explore how men express love through sex, why emotional connection and sexual desire are so intertwined for them, and how reframing men's sexuality can help us show up more equally in intimate relationships (Don't miss out on part 2 where we talk about how sometimes validation drives sexual desire, obligation sex, penis vulnerability, and what it means to create a truly equal and safe sexual space in marriage. ) Next steps . . . Check out the Intimately Us app , our Free Masterclass, or our FREE facebook group. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
Welcome to Part 2 of my conversation with Tanya Hale! We talk about the pressure men feel around performance, why their penis can be such a vulnerable topic, and how couples can build a sexual relationship that's validating fun and deeply connecting, especially as bodies and marriages evolve over time. (If you missed part 1, we explored how men express love through sex, why emotional connection and sexual desire are so intertwined for them, and how reframing men's sexuality can help us show up more equally in intimate relationships.) Next steps . . . Check out the Intimately Us app , our Free Masterclass, or our FREE facebook group. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
Welcome to part two of my conversation with Dr. Steven Snyder! In part one, we explored why sex is more than just physical--it's deeply emotional, even regressive (meaning you kind of get a little dumber and a lot happier when you're aroused). And we discuss why the best sex often begins with an awareness and emotional presence. In part two, we'll be diving back into this conversation. You'll get to hear about how to put all these pieces in real life, specifically about his two-step framework and, simmering, which we'll talk about. You'll hear stories from couples, who have put these actions into practice and we'll unpack how to deal with desire discrepancies in your marriage. Lastly, we'll figure out how to break free from performance pressure and how to make love worth having in what Dr. Steven Snyder calls lazy sex or simmering. And of course, don't forget to check out Part 1! *** If you'd like some more support in your marriage, and would like some coaching from our coaches, check out our program. And don't forget about our FREE facebook group. Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
Michelle Leathers
great podcast. the sound seems off. One person speaking is lower in volume than the other, just fyi. TY!
J T
Exactly.