Good Moms Bad Choices

This week, Good Moms are resurfacing an episode we know you probably need right now. As the holidays creep in with family drama, emotional burnout, pressure to “be on,” and zero time for yourself, we wanted to bring back a conversation that helps you slow down and remember your power before the season sweeps you up. We’re revisiting our episode with the magical Lizzy Jeff because it’s grounding, soothing, and low-key a whole self-care ritual in audio form. If you’re already feeling overwhelmed, disconnected from yourself, or like you need a little feminine reset…this is the one. You’ll hear: What “toxic goddess culture” looks like in real life (and why you don’t have to be perfect to be in your goddess bag) How to reconnect with your feminine energy on the days you don’t feel divine at all Simple rituals, herbs, roses, and sensory practices that help you get back into your body How to deal with emotional sensitivity without spiraling Why your perception of yourself matters more now than ever How to actually use your “goddess toolbox” when life gets chaotic We brought this episode back because it genuinely brings you back to you, your softness, your intuition, your pleasure, your peace. And with everything this season demands, you deserve a reminder that you’re allowed to slow down and honor yourself too. ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! ------------------------ Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------ Jamaica, Ganja Goddess Retreat - April 17th- April 22nd Whether you're seeking relaxation, adventure, or simply a sexy fun time, the Ganja Goddess Retreat promises an unforgettable experience of empowerment and sisterhood. Join us as we celebrate femininity, wellness, and the magic of Jamaica's natural splendor at the Ganja Goddess Retreat.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Good Moms resurface an important conversation with international best-selling author and wellness thought leader, Mel Robbins. The ladies talk about why saying "i'm sorry" is annoying, weakens your power, invalidates your needs, and denies the support that you deserve. Mel leaves us with some science based tips/tools to soothe the nervous system, and gain our power back. You can expect to hear: How replacing “I’m sorry” with “thank you” shifts responsibility and restores confidence Anxiety in the body: how it starts, how it travels, and what actually helps calm it The story behind Mel’s “High 5 Habit” and the science that makes it work Why taking up space feels uncomfortable for so many women The moment Mel gathered us about “disrespecting our business” and leveling up systems Childhood patterns, internal voices, and how they follow us into adulthood What it looks like to build something out of passion before realizing it’s a real business How saying no can be a power move in negotiations and life Navigating self-doubt, self-rejection, and why affirmations sometimes fall flat The connection between trauma, survival mode, and daily overwhelm Tools like high-fiving your heart to soothe the nervous system Why celebrating yourself, even for the small things, matters more than you think Parenting, identity, and watching our children grapple with the same insecurities we once had ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! ------------------------ Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------ Jamaica, Ganja Goddess Retreat - April 17th- April 22nd Whether you're seeking relaxation, adventure, or simply a sexy fun time, the Ganja Goddess Retreat promises an unforgettable experience of empowerment and sisterhood. Join us as we celebrate femininity, wellness, and the magic of Jamaica's natural splendor at the Ganja Goddess Retreat.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Erica & Milah sit down with Parker McKenna Posey AKA Katie from My Wife and Kids about growing up in Hollywood, motherhood at 25, body confidence, birth trauma, and why Parker’s mantra is “I',m a Good Mom first, and a bad btch immediately after.”   You can expect to hear: The truth about being a child star turned mom + artist Body image after fame & motherhood Speaking your truth even when it makes people uncomfortable Sex, weed & wellness confessions Patriarchy, pleasure, and the power of women who refuse to shrink ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! ------------------------ Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------ Jamaica, Ganja Goddess Retreat - April 17th- April 22nd Whether you're seeking relaxation, adventure, or simply a sexy fun time, the Ganja Goddess Retreat promises an unforgettable experience of empowerment and sisterhood. Join us as we celebrate femininity, wellness, and the magic of Jamaica's natural splendor at the Ganja Goddess Retreat.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Good Moms are joined by founder of Haus of Hoodoo Jessyka Winston to chat what it really means to be a modern day "witch" and why maybe, just maybe, it’s not as scary (or sinful) as they told us in Sunday school!   The three unpack how you're the architect of your reality, what it means to “jump timelines,” and why your vibration might be the only protection spell you actually need. Listen, even the baddest witches still need a reminder to believe in themselves!!   You can expect to hear: What the hell is a “fixed candle”? The truth about ancestral veneration (and nosy spirits lol) Mommy guilt & mystic grace Why healing isn’t cute but it’s necessary How to stop letting “belief” block your blessings Affirmation: “I am the architect of my own reality.”   Light your incense, grab your drink, and remember sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do… is make a “bad” choice.  ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! ------------------------ Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------ Jamaica, Ganja Goddess Retreat - April 17th- April 22nd Whether you're seeking relaxation, adventure, or simply a sexy fun time, the Ganja Goddess Retreat promises an unforgettable experience of empowerment and sisterhood. Join us as we celebrate femininity, wellness, and the magic of Jamaica's natural splendor at the Ganja Goddess Retreat.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy 7th Halloween with Good Moms!!! This year Erica and Milah talk about how Christianity scared them out of celebrating Halloween as a kid, discovering that the church has its own "rituals" but condemns "witchcraft" , and respond to some listener horror stories. (The real horror is... people aren't having s*x anymore)  You can expect to hear: Halloween & witchy protection Bad choices & divine intervention Christians can be witches too Why men can own their Whoredom and women need a "co-signer" Netflix should add a new category called "Whites That Want To Do Better" Listener horror stories: ghosts, stalkers & threesomes Tarot Segment: Eight of Pentacles Affirmation: “It’s Scorpio season B*tch"  ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! ------------------------ Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------ Jamaica, Ganja Goddess Retreat - April 17th- April 22nd Whether you're seeking relaxation, adventure, or simply a sexy fun time, the Ganja Goddess Retreat promises an unforgettable experience of empowerment and sisterhood. Join us as we celebrate femininity, wellness, and the magic of Jamaica's natural splendor at the Ganja Goddess Retreat.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Good Moms, are joined with Flyana Boss, the pink-haired, elf-eared duo who met on Hollywood Boulevard, dropped out of music school, and built a non-traditional sisterhood and a career together. From following Swedish boys to opening for Janelle Monáe; Join the ladies as they talk about fentanyl birth balloons, fake Karens, buffet religions, and share some of their bad choices.  ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! ------------------------ Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------ Jamaica, Ganja Goddess Retreat - April 17th- April 22nd Whether you're seeking relaxation, adventure, or simply a sexy fun time, the Ganja Goddess Retreat promises an unforgettable experience of empowerment and sisterhood. Join us as we celebrate femininity, wellness, and the magic of Jamaica's natural splendor at the Ganja Goddess Retreat.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Erica and Milah link up with their Black Effect Network cousins, AJ and TamBam from We Talk Back Podcast, for a conversation about dating YNs, ghost sex stories, living with your partner, and how to stop settling for bullshit. ------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! ------------------------ Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------ Jamaica, Ganja Goddess Retreat - April 17th- April 22nd Whether you're seeking relaxation, adventure, or simply a sexy fun time, the Ganja Goddess Retreat promises an unforgettable experience of empowerment and sisterhood. Join us as we celebrate femininity, wellness, and the magic of Jamaica's natural splendor at the Ganja Goddess Retreat.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Good Moms sit down with Tabria Majors and Mindy from The Thick Podcast and talk  about evolving through different seasons of life.  Mindy opens up about overcoming religious and cultural guilt to embrace her sexuality, while Tabria shares what motherhood has taught her about balance, body image, and letting go of perfection. Timestamps: (08:20) Mindy on coming out and shedding Christian and Caribbean guilt (9:00) Dating soft men and the double standard around sexuality (18:22) Making out with your friends (24:00) Tabria on postpartum, motherhood, and identity after modeling (30:34) Bad Choice of the week, setting emotional boundaries with friends (40:00) Navigating conflict within friendships (45:00) White grandma gets 3 monkeys tattooed on herself to represent her mixed-race grand children (55:23) Whorie Segment (58:00) Tarot Segment: Six of Wands (1:02:12) Affirmation: Don't stress over the things you can't control Scrub A Dub, Double Scrub, leave me the fuck alone Everything I desire, desires me ------------ Watch this episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! ------------------------ Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_MappSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Black Effect Presents... Good Moms Bad Choices! Motherhood doesn’t mean losing your identity, your sensuality, or your freedom. This week, Erica and Milah confront the outdated “perfect mom” stereotype and challenge the idea that motherhood means: dressing conservatively, hiding your sex life, or being ashamed of smoking weed. This episode is a reminder that you can be a loving, responsible parent and still show skin, smoke a blunt, and have good sex. It’s not about being reckless, it’s about being real. You can expect to hear: The biggest lies society tells about “wild moms” Why it’s perfectly fine to smoke weed How to survive your hoe phase after motherhood The importance of showing kids how to properly clean themselves, even if you need to include props and Nutella Why Banana Republic and kitten heels might be a crime against moms everywhere The line between freedom and “put some damn clothes on, mom!” ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions   Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group!   Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------------------------------ 🏝️🧘🏾‍♀️ Good Vibe Retreat 🏝️🧘🏾‍♀️ Our summer retreats in Costa Rica are almost here! Book now, pay later because healing should fit your budget too!! Option 1: July 31st- August 5th Option 2: August 8th- August 13th Use promo code ESCAPE at checkout for a deal you don’t want to miss. ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM   Kiiro Toys: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Good Moms explore when it's worth working through challenges in a relationship vs. leaving, why we could all use a bit more discernment, and why you should reframe your natural gifts whenever you feel "stuck". Timestamps (04:00) Women oversharing, friendship advice, and relationship “discernment”. Sometimes, you just need to listen and shut up. (10:00) Why we've normalized complaining in an effort to not sound braggadocios (35:00) Cardi B’s Guinness World Record & Celebrity vampires (27:30) Bad Choice of the Week (29:00) Getting scammed by "Chelsea Handler” // Costa Rica (35:40) Would you be mad if your partner gave another girl $1,800  (46:00) Jimmy Kimmel is back but it’s still F**K Disney (50:10) Whorie Segment: threesome + rock-paper-scissors condom battle (54:00) Tarot Segment: Two of Wands is a reminder to embrace new opportunities and trust your intuition. This phase will require planning, clarity, and stepping out of comfort zones if you’re making a career or life pivot. Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_MappSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Good Moms unpack the mix of gratitude and outrage that comes with living in the U.S. right now. The ladies debate male + female friendships, confess childhood traumas that resulted in jealousy triggers, the thin line between pretty privilege and “pretty punishment”, and how new moms can still get that BAG!  Timestamps: (02:15) Collective breath & why America feels like “four years in ten months” (11:40) Jimmy Kimmel (21:05) Passport fears, censorship, and prepping for worst-case scenarios (28:30) Gun laws, self-protection, and Milah’s “everyone should carry” take (34:50) Male best friends, fake “sis” energy, and testing relationship trust (52:23) Bad Choice of the Week: secret Cash App confessions (1:05:12) Cardi B’s pregnancy reveal + the grind mindset inspired by grandmothers (1:21:48) Pretty privilege vs. pretty punishment, colorism, and ageism in dating and entertainment (1:44:10) Non-toxic nail care: press-ons, glue hacks, and the $20 manicure debate Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices@TheGoodVibeRetreat@Good.GoodMedia@WatchErica@Milah_MappSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does partnership actually look like when you’re not trying to lose yourself in the process? This week, Good Moms chat about  the pressure of “wife duties,” keeping intimacy alive, the lifelong classroom of mother–daughter relationships, and how to balance it all. You can expect to hear: (04:30) Victoria’s Secret lies, and why pregnancy boobs are both the best and worst. (12:15) Pregnancy brain and "deleting" o r “missing years” of early motherhood (18:40) The weird things no one tells you (26:00) Talking to your mom as an adult, and realizing you’ll always be her “child” no matter your age. (42:15) Moving in with a partner: why Mila suddenly feels like a housewife now that Orlando’s back in the workforce. (56:20) Erica’s story of caring for a sick partner and questioning how ready she really is for “in sickness and in health.” (01:05:00) ChatGPT defines “wife duties” (and the ladies call BS, while making it way funnier). (01:15:00) How to keep sex and passion alive in long-term relationships and why Milah refuses to accept the relationship park dimming/dying. (01:33:00) Tarot time ----------------------------------------- Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_MappSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Shout out to all the elderly bad b*tches!  This week, Good Moms explore what it means to revisit old passions with fresh eyes, the importance of community support when stepping into new (and old) chapters of your life, and the reality of balancing dreams with everyday responsibilities.  Timestamps: (02:10) gray hair, and the quest for youthful vibes   (10:35) Erica’s return to acting: first in-person audition in six years   (18:45) Wrestling with rejection, pressure, and rediscovering joy in creativity   (26:09) Tabitha Brown is rightttttt, some of you need to keep that job, no shade!  (27:00)  How openly sharing fears and progress within supportive communities (like our "Girl Guess What?" Discord channel) helps sustain motivation and combats the loneliness inherent in creative work.   (34:20) Conversations with kids about dreams, affirmations, and fear   (35:48) Saying YES to delusion but also saying YES to reality!  (36:33) RIP BADDIE WINKLE , that baddest old lady on the net!  (42:15) Embracing imperfection: why the process beats perfection every time. 43:52- Why the ages 35-40 are critical for your geriatric bad bitch-dom!  (46:30) Milah is getting an age change (47:22) CLT + ALT + DEL Theory  (52:23) Bad choice of the week Segment (57:30) Tarot Segment Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Good Moms question if we're all raising tech-addicted children, why it might be worth ditching the nail salon and switching to press-on nails, and the importance of surrendering to the mess and simplifying your life. Timestamps:   (01:20) Back-to-school chaos + surrendering to the mess Co-parenting differences: Kids act more independent at dad’s houses, while moms sometimes overcompensate. (7:55)  Tech-addicted kids and why boredom is healthy Rethinking education and self-learning. Traditional schools are designed to make “worker bees” vs. “free-thinkers”   Good Moms want to implement tech-free hours but admit it’s hard to enforce.  (37:13) Beauty standards, gel nails, and DIY deodorant Gwyneth Paltrow and the "Goop" Empire   Europe bans nail polish chemical over health concerns, U.S. still allows ingredient Erica shares about the DIY deodorant she tried to make using natural ingredients  Non-toxic swaps that actually make sense (01:15:00)  (40:06) Love Island reunion, colorism, and reality TV brain drain Reality TV Stars and Their Long-Term Plans (45:50) Brittany Renner family drama (48:26)  (1:01:00) Good Vibes Retreat  (01:39:00) Affirmation + tarot: surrender to the mess, embrace abundance Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does it look like to heal your relationship with your mom while raising a daughter of your own? In this episode, Good Moms reflect on healing alongside their mothers, the challenges of letting go of old patterns, and the unexpected lessons that surface when you start to see your mom as “just a girl” too. They talk about caretaking, validation, breaking cycles of criticism, and the emotional labor of holding space for the women who once held it for you. Timestamps (07:45) The power of staring into your mothers eyes (19:20) Seeing your mom as “just a girl” and shifting the dynamic (28:10) Mommy-pleasing, validation, and unlearning criticism (40:30) How childhood patterns reappear in adult relationships (01:05:15) Paul Pierce comment showcases: How harmful it is to assume women’s value in relationships is tied to beauty or “submission. The flawed idea that dating a so-called “5 or 6” guarantees loyalty or effort. How men with this mentality often avoid women with opinions or standards because it forces accountability. Why choosing a partner should be like choosing teammates for a strong family — you’d want someone smart, capable, and supportive, not someone you can just control. (01:18:00) Submission, gender wars, and questions about partnership (01:28:45) Ciara's interview on The Breakfast Club and what "corny" really means- Russell Wilson, Future, and what it means to lead a family (01:43:20) Ciara's perspective on choosing a partner with integrity & remember... your mother is just a girl too! Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Erica and Milah are joined by artist, author, and one of the first guests on the show, Amina Buddafly. The ladies talk about why self-worth can’t be tied to a bank account, the truth about influencer finances, motherhood, and moving forward when life doesn’t go as planned. You can expect to hear: The reset moms don't talk about and not being ashamed about starting over  Amina talk about moving her kids after eviction and starting over Breaking the silence around financial stress and survival mode Clearing the air on the Peter Gunz Dallas drama Why she has no regrets about Love & Hip Hop Knowing when compromise becomes self-betrayal When you don’t have space, you can’t create. Share this episode with someone who may need to hear that financial struggle doesn’t define you and that sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is ask for help. Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM Kiiro Toys: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometime Brunch with your friends just ISN'T enough time.   This week on Good Moms, chat about the magic of adult sleepovers and why untimed, leisurely hangouts with friends are just as essential in adulthood as they were when we were kids.   What you can expect to hear: (02:13) Empowering your kids set up their own playdates: “Go get her number on a piece of paper.” (06:24) Camping stories & adult friend sleepovers (14:35) Erica’s short-term roommate experiment (24:00) High school reunions (30:25) PSA for white women dating Black men (48:00) Whorie ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions   Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group!   Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM   Kiiro Toys: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Good Moms are joined by attorney, media personality, author, and the first Black Bachelorette, Rachel Lindsay. From growing up in Texas with a federal judge for a dad to navigating heartbreak, law school, and the search for "love" on reality TV, they get into love, loss, legacy and what she wishes more reality stars knew. You can expect to hear:  (09:00) Growing up in a strict, achievement-focused Black family—and how being a judge’s daughter shaped her mindset (11:30) Going to law school, pledging Delta, and the moments that made her question everything she thought she knew (12:30) Her first heartbreak, losing her virginity at 20, and why she believes purity culture is dangerous (17:50) Her “athlete era,” chasing fun, and realizing what she didn’t want in a relationship (20:30) How she ended up on The Bachelor, and the gut feeling that told her she had to do it (23:50) The truth about being the first Black Bachelorette, respectability politics, and how she was chosen to be “palatable” for white audiences (25:00) Her master plan to stay quiet during filming and speak out after the season aired (27:00)The power of being seen: why Black women deserve the fairy tale, too ( and why she felt called to bring that to screen) (28:00) Her advice to future reality TV stars: be strategic and own your narrative (30:00) Why she’s not rushing into dating post-divorce and how she felt as a woman paying alimony to her EX-HUSBAND to maintain HIS lifestyle. (31:00) Why she refuses to watch Love Island, and how most dating shows still miss the mark on diversity ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM Kiiro Toys: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Erica and Milah continue their sit down with bestselling author Elizabeth Oveson (AKA Karrine Steffans) as she unpacks the emotional and physical labor of being a truth-teller in a culture addicted to fantasy.   Now two decades removed from the release of Confessions of a Video Vixen, Elizabeth reflects on the hollowness of fame, the cost of being first, and why men should marry the "slut".   The ladies chat about: Making trauma informed choices and hyper-sexualition Men lying about sleeping with Karrine to boost their SEO (not her SEO PUS*Y lol) They explore the question: Do you have a problem, or do you just have a baby daddy lol A special whorie from Milah & Karrine ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions   Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group!   Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------------------------------ 🏝️🧘🏾‍♀️ Good Vibe Retreat 🏝️🧘🏾‍♀️ Our summer retreats in Costa Rica are almost here! Book now, pay later because healing should fit your budget too!! Option 1: July 31st- August 5th Option 2: August 8th- August 13th Use promo code ESCAPE at checkout for a deal you don’t want to miss. ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM   Kiiro Toys: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is a 2 part episode. For early unedited access to Part 1 &  2 of this episode, sign up to Patreon now!  This week, Erica and Milah are joined by bestselling author Elizabeth Oveson (AKA Karrine Steffans) to reflect on the 20-year anniversary of her groundbreaking memoir, Confessions of a Video Vixen. Elizabeth was one of the first women in the public eye to live unapologetically in her truth refusing to censor her experiences, her sexuality, or her voice. Two decades later, she returns to Good Moms Bad Choices to chat about what it means to reclaim her body, her story, and her peace. In Part 1 of this two-part ep covers: The reaction to Confessions 20 years ago, and how telling her story reshaped the industry and even cost her safety Why she’s not interested in protecting men and upholding the wrong icons, and why you should stop also! What it means to “self-rescue” and why self care goes beyond massages and skin care & A fun game of Trigger!  For early unedited access to Part 2 of this episode, sign up to Patreon now! ------------------------ Watch This episode & more on YouTube!  Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions   Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group!   Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp ------------------------------------------------ 🏝️🧘🏾‍♀️ Good Vibe Retreat 🏝️🧘🏾‍♀️ Our summer retreats in Costa Rica are almost here! Book now, pay later because healing should fit your budget too!! Option 1: July 31st- August 5th Option 2: August 8th- August 13th Use promo code ESCAPE at checkout for a deal you don’t want to miss. ------------------------------------------------ 🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆: LEXUS: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM Kiiro Toys: Theres something here for everyone, trust us! ------------------------------------------------ 💊Take your Vitamins! 💊 In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.