Graying Rainbows Coming Out LGBT+ Later in Life

Graying Rainbows launched in November 2018. It's been an eventful three years, so this episode is a little different. It contains some advice for new listeners, reflections on lessons learned, and a brief look toward the future. Now that there are over 50 episodes I have done some re-organizing to make it easier to find certain content. The About page at grayingrainbows.com contains a partial list of episodes based on the following categories: (B) Book reviews (F) Faith related stories (POC) People of Color (T) Transgender (V) Veterans   I have also placed a complete list of all the episodes on my personal website.   Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our private group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows is a review of Billie Jean King's new autobiography "All In." I highly recommend the audio version because it is read by King and her emotions come through. King's story includes "coming out later in life." She describes the toll that the delay took on her health and happiness, as well as the new sense of freedom she discovered when she was finally out to herself and the world. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows features Gender Transition Coach Rae McDaniel. She shares her own story and her passion for helping clients of all ages. Rae's Websites: Practical Audacity Genderfck: The Club Other References: Transgender History by Susan Stryker (GR 12) Unbound: Transgender Men and the Remaking of Identity by Arlene Stiene (GR 27) Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Buy Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscioius Origins of Certainty Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows Army veteran Andre Barnhardt shares his struggle to embrace his identity as a gay man. He reminds us that despite the new more "open" policies it remains difficult to come out in a military culture.  Learn more about Andre: esinnej.com/blog/Transition Americanwoodpics.com Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode is an interview with Julie Sondra Decker, author of "The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality." Most people acknowledge that sexual orientations includes homosexuals, bisexuals, and heterosexuals, but there is actually a fourth possibility. A person who identifies as asexual does not feel sexual attraction to anyone. Unfortunately, many assume that this represents a disease when actually it is part of normal human diversity. We discuss what asexuality IS as well as what it is NOT. Asexuality is about attraction NOT behavior. Our goal is to embrace human diversity and acknowledge that each person's identity should be respected as equally valid. If the idea of asexuality is new to you, I hope you will listen to this informative interview. Links and Resources: The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker Understanding Asexuality by by Anthony F. Bogaert The Asexuality Education and Visibility Network (AVEN) at https://www.asexuality.org Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

Dr. Larry Millhoffer is a retired physician who is grateful to have been with his husband for 45 years. Over that time the meaning of "coming out" has evolved, but a pivotal time in his life was caring for the first patients with AIDS as a young physician in the early 80's. During our conversation he reflects on the challenges of caring for patients in a time of fear and uncertainty, and on how the AIDS crisis changed the LGBT community. Because our community lost so many people during this period I think it is extremely valuable to hear from those who lived through that time. As a gay physician Dr. Millhoffer brings a perspective that we don't usually get to hear. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

Retired Air Force Brig. General David Cotton shares his story of coming out LGBT+ after leaving his military career. He struggled with depression and with ending his marriage, but he shares how he learned how to embrace vulnerability and discovered new ways to connect with others. Links and Resources: Don't miss Dr. Ginger Campbell's Zoom presentation to the First Friday Breakfast Club:  https://www.ffbciowa.org/speakers/ Books: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN by Tara Brach State of Pride on YouTube Psychology Today First Friday Breakfast Club The Mankind Project Previous Guests Lauren Olson: GR 2 and GR 7 Rick Clemons: GR 4 Eric Marcus: GR 17 Deb Fowler: GR 22 Mark David Gibson: GR 23 Modern Military Association of America-- helping those who were unjustly discharged from service More links from David Cotton Announcements: Contact me at grayingrainbows@gmail.com if you would like to help others by sharing your story. Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows features Quinn Cromm who shares their experience of being non-binary in a world of rapidly changing ideas. If you downloaded this episode before July 7, 2021 please download this corrected version. My apologies to Quinn for mis-gendering them in the original version. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows we talk with writer Carren Strock about the 3rd edition of "Married Women Who Love Women, and More." Despite changing attitudes women continue to discover their attraction to other women after marriage and there are many ways to cope with the unique challenges of this dilemma. Links and References: Carren Strock's website: carrenstrock.com Twitter: @CarrenStrock Facebook Married Women Who Love Women by Carren Strock The Fifth Sacred Thing by Starhawk Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com  You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

In this episode of Graying Rainbows former minister Nathan Hall shares what happened when he was outed without warning. It is an inspiring story of strength and resilience. Recommended Reading: God and the Gay Christian: The Biblical Case in Support of Same-Sex Relationships by Matthew Vines UnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality by Colby Martin What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality by Daniel A. Helminiak, PhD Announcements: Mark your calendar for June 16, 2020: That's when the 2nd edition of Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty goes on sale everywhere. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Jane Fleishman, author of "The Stonewall Generation: LGBTQ Elders on Sex, Activism, and Aging." Links and References: The Stonewall Generation: LGBTQ Elders on Sex, Activism, and Aging by Jane Fleishman Jane Fleishman's website: janefleishman.com Jane's TED talk on YouTube Miss Major Griffin-Gracey movie: Miss Major David Bermudez Stonewall Veterans Association National LGBTQ Task Force: Creating Change Susan Stryker (featured in episode 12) Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com  You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Nick McKenney from the Gay Coaches Alliance. Nick came out 10 years ago when he was 63 years old and his first words for those of you who are struggling is that "it will get better." Email Dr. Campbell at grayingrainbows@gmail.com if you want to learn more about Nick's coaching. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Buy Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty from your favorite online bookseller Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features retired UK physician Tony Kaye. He shares his journey including some of the new challenges created by the COVID 19 pandemic. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty is now available both as paperback and ebook. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows features Angela Williams who shares her story of breaking free from toxic religious teachings. Her story also reminds us that coming out LGBT+ later in life is about much more than sex. Links and References: Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free by Linda Kay Klein Announcements: Mark your calendar for November 17, 2020: I will be hosting a webinar entitled Embracing Uncertainty: How to Thrive in Uncertain Times. Email me to learn more. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows listener Lou Poulain shares his story of coming out in his sixties. Books and Episodes Mentioned: GR 31 with Kristin Kalbli of the Straight Spouses Network The Gay Revolution: The Story of the Struggle  by Lillian Faderman (2016). Faderman was interviewed in GR 1. Right Side of History: 100 Years of LGBTQI Activism by Adrian Brooks  (2015). The Stonewall Reader by the New York Public Library (2019). When We Rise: My Life in the Movement  by Cleve Jones (2016). Harvey Milk: His Lives and Death by Lillian Faderman (2019). Discussed with Faderman in GR 14. Additional Links: Dan Savage's Podcast OK 2 Be LGBT-- check your podcasting app Milk  starring Sean Penn (2009). The Life and Times of Harvey Milk (documentary) 1984. Announcements: On October 17, 2020 Dr. Campbell will be speaking at the online event Centering the Margins 2020: A Summit for LGBTQ Nontheists sponsored by the LGBTQ Humanist Alliance. Click here to register. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This episode of Graying Rainbows features my friend and fellow physician Lorena de Idiáquez Bakula. Lorena shares her story of growing up as a boy in Puru, where she attended university and medical school before moving to the United States to complete her training. It was not until she had been a successful physician for several years that she was able to transition and embrace her identity as a woman. She explains that despite the challenges she feels her life has changed for the better. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Please check out my book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty. It is intended for readers of all backgrounds and it available for many online sellers. Click here to buy an autographed copy. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Reverend Michael Crumpler who is the Director for LGBTQ and Multicultural Programs for the Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA). He shares the story of how he was able to realize his dream of being a Christian minister AFTER coming out as LGBT+. We also discuss some of the unique challenges he faced as a black man, who happens to be Gay. Links and References: Michael Crumpler Michael's UUA Blog  Moonlight: a movie about a young African American male coming of age Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty by Virginia "Ginger" Campbell, MD Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Or text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This extra episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with author and entrepreneur Jenn T Grace. Jenn is the founder of Publish Your Purpose Press and her latest book is called "House on Fire: Finding Resilience, Hope, and Purpose in the Ashes." If you have ever wanted to write a book, you won't want to miss this episode. Links and References: Jenn T Grace: https://jenntgrace.com Publish Your Purpose Press: many free resources House on Fire: Finding Resilience, Hope, and Purpose in the Ashes by Jenn T. Grace Cracked Open - Never Broken: A Memoir by Iman Gatti Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty by Virginia "Ginger" Campbell Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Newsletter Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. Please support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

GR 38 features educator Tress Ahles who courageously shares her ongoing coming out journey, including the tension between the joys of embracing her true identity and guilt about the impact on those she loves. Links and References: To get the free Graying Rainbows Newsletter click here or text grayingrainbows to 33777. Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty by Virginia "Ginger" Campbell, MD Dr. Campbell's interview on The Out Entrepreneur with Rhodes Perry (GR 9) Look for upcoming interview on Life Un-closeted with Rick Clemons (GR 4) Announcements: Please buy the 2nd edition of Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty goes on sale everywhere. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.

This month's guest William Smith founded the long-running website gaylifeafter40.com and several related groups on Facebook. We go beyond his personal coming out story as he shares the lessons he has learned from helping other gay men come out "later in life." Although his work focuses on gay men,  these lessons can remind us all of the power of helping others.  Links and References: Gay Life After 40: http://www.gaylifeafter40.com/  The Gay Life After 40 Mastermind Summit Loren Olson: GR2 and GR 7 Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight by Loren A. Olson, MD AARP: a surprising resource for LGBT elders SAGE: supporting LGBT Elders Announcements: Mark your calendar for June 16, 2020: That's when the 2nd edition of Dr. Campbell's book Are You Sure? The Unconscious Origins of Certainty goes on sale everywhere. Get show notes automatically when you sign up for the Graying Rainbows Newsletter. Send email to grayingrainbows@gmail.com or post voice feedback at http://speakpipe.com/docartemis. You can now support Graying Rainbows via Patreon at http://patreon.com/grayingrainbows Connect on Social Media: Twitter: @GrayingR Facebook page: https://fb.me/grayingrainbows Public MeWe page: https://mewe.com/p/grayingrainbowscomingoutlgbtlaterinlife Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe.