My wife and I recently had a very scary week where Doctors told her that she had breast cancer. I made the first part of this video about how we were handling it before we found out that fortunately, our prayers were answered and it turned out to be wrong.
Best friends aren't lovers, and lovers aren't best friends. Don't be your spouse's best friend - be their lover! You don't need to have things in common with your partner - my wife and I don't have anything in common. We don't like the same music or the same activities, and that's completely fine because we're lovers - not best friends, even though she's my favorite person in the world. Here's the difference!
When my wife told me she was done because of how toxic and disconnected our marriage had become, I was devastated.... But, even if it had not worked, I'm so glad that I didn't quit or give up - that I chose to FIGHT for my marriage instead. Because we have so much fun together, there's so much joy and connection in my home now, and the truth is - if I didn't learn these lessons with her, then any other relationship would have only ended the exact same way... The problem is rarely your partner. It's usually a lack of skills and understanding of how to build, maintain, and sustain a happy, healthy relationship...
The Break Up (2006) featuring Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston had many lessons we can learn (both good and bad) about how to handle a break up or request for divorce
If your spouse has told you they want a Divorce or they are done, you can (and maybe already have tried) these 3 steps to save your marriage, but I warn you - it's a terrible idea. So I'm also sharing what to do INSTEAD.
Emotional, deep, impactful. I did an exercise to write a letter to myself from the future as an 80 year old. I tried, really really tried not to cry, but the end just got me. Maybe it will get you too. Get your marriage right: www.happyhealthymarriagereset.com
Regret is what we feel when we focus on the past, instead of learning the lessons that the past has to teach us and focusing on what we can do with it now.
My wife was distant and disconnected, so I expressed my feelings in a useful way. It got her to be kind, affectionate, and loving, BUT... I didn't feel heard because she hadn't told me I was right to feel the way I did. Get the book here: www.happyhealthymarriagereset.com
Here's what's new & different in The Happy, Healthy Marriage Reset + why I wrote a separate book that just came out, The Happy Healthy Marriage Reset Christians' Guide. Available at: www.happyhealthymarriagereset.com
Feeling anxious with all the uncertainty in your marriage? There are three steps to permanently end anxiety. I remember having a panic attack thinking I was dying because my marriage was falling apart... Here's what I discovered - and yes, medication was part of it, but that didn't fix the underlying problem - it just helped me deal with the symptoms while I dealt with the ROOT. NOTE: I said the medication my Doctor prescribed was Adipex, but I was totally off - it was called Buspar. It's been years since I took it and had to check!
Is your sex life a good indicator of how healthy your marriage is? Sometimes... here's when it is and when it isn't... Plus, the REAL reason that so many marriages are suffering from a "dead bedroom".
Has your spouse had an affair, cheated, or broken your trust? Here's whether you should forgive them, and how to forgive them and move forward if you so choose.
Today, answering a question from our Thriving Relationships Group from a Mom who found her 8 year old daughter had taken an inappropriate picture on her iPod, what the appropriate punishment would be and how all these parenting lessons came from the understanding of The Happy, Healthy Marriage Reset. #parenting #parentingtips #punishments #momlife #familytime
"It Starts With You: The Secret to a Passionate Marriage & Peaceful Home" is now "The Happy, Healthy Marriage Reset: Using Sincerity to Erase Relationship Baggage & Restore the Love" - here's why I changed it, and would love your feedback on making the new SUBTITLE "It Starts With You"
Today I'm sharing the first Q&A from our new group, Thriving Relationships, from "L" whose wife is disconnected and has a "work husband". Here's the guidance I gave!
An update on Macy & John from The Happy, Healthy Marriage Reset - and how after Macy started standing up for herself and sincerely communicating her feelings, John stopped trying to guilt-trip and manipulate her, and what happened next... She stopped feeling controlled, which meant she didn't feel a need or reason to rebel against it, and ended up sharing John's perspective. In the end, they both got what they wanted!
You only need one thing to have hope that your marriage can be restored, and it's not your spouse's commitment - it's an open line of communication. As long as you have that, there is hope!
Divorce season for lawyers is January through early March, then again in summer. The slowest time is around the Holidays in November/December. In my opinion, “Deal Breakers” are the only good reason for Divorce. We all ignored red flags about our spouse before getting married. Get perspective and be empowered to change your marriage instead of thinking you made a mistake getting married!
Questions like “what if my spouse doesn’t think our marriage is worth fighting for?” Or “how do I feel good about myself?” or “how do I get my spouse to do X, Y, Z?” lead you down a path of misery. Here are some more empowering questions to ask yourself in order to get better results.
Here are 5 New Years Resolutions for a THRIVING MARRIAGE in 2023… 1) Sincerely acknowledge how you feel when you feel it in a way that doesn’t make your spouse feel attacked 2) Appreciate each other and choose to see the best in one another 3) Forgive your spouse’s flaws, mistakes, and shortcomings 4) To work on yourself and being your best self to your marriage 5) Come up with 1 or 2 big things to plan to do together in 2023 that you can look forward to