Having It A.L.L.

Ever feel like your life should feel amazing, but inside... you’re just stuck? You’ve got the job, the family, the “success”—but confidence is shaky, motivation is MIA, and the truth is you’re scared you’re wasting your potential. In this episode, I respond to a listener email from “Jim,” a man with a beautiful life on the outside and a gnawing feeling of being lost on the inside. If you’ve ever said: “I don’t know where to start,” or “I feel like I’m this close to something real but can’t seem to move”—this one is for you. I walk you through the six principles I’ve personally used (and coached others through) to reconnect with clarity, rebuild trust with yourself, and actually start living the life you know you’re meant for. No fluff. No hacks. Just truth, ownership, and a roadmap back to your power. WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who are you unconsciously giving permission to quit on themselves? In this episode, I share a powerful story from a recent Play Camp where one small decision to avoid discomfort triggered a ripple effect of playing small. We unpack what it means to be a watcher—and how your fear (or your courage) directly impacts the greatness of others. I also reflect on a personal moment where I bailed on a commitment—and how that moment shaped my relationship with leadership, alignment, and integrity. If you've ever wondered why you shrink when you say you want to expand—or if you sense that people around you are following your lead even when you’re not proud of the example—you need to hear this one. Because someone is always watching. WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if your next workout could help you stay calm in a fight, show up powerfully at work, or stop spiraling when life hits hard? In this episode, I break down how to use exercise as a training ground for transforming your relationship with stress. I’m not talking about just getting abs or hitting a new PR, I’m talking about emotional mastery, breath control, and learning to flow when everything in you wants to force. If stress runs your life… this is your call to flip the script. You’ll learn how to tap into your breath, shift your energy, and create new patterns that ripple into every area of your life. Your body doesn’t lie. And it’s telling you it’s time to train differently. WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? The Having It A.L.L. Blueprint gives you the exact tools I use with clients to create real, lasting change—in a simple, flexible format that fits your life. No fluff. No long video modules. Just powerful shifts you can apply right now, on your time. Click below to learn more and purchase. https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling like life’s got the upper hand? When everything around you feels unpredictable—your relationships, your career, your body—it’s easy to spiral into anxiety, frustration, or helplessness. But here’s the truth: you’re never truly powerless. In this episode, I take you into a personal season of chaos—infertility struggles, business breakdowns, and emotional overwhelm—and show you how two deceptively simple commitments helped me take my power back. If you’re craving stability and self-trust in the middle of uncertainty, this one’s for you. You’ll walk away with tangible steps to shift from reactive to proactive, and a reminder that your integrity, not your mood, dictates your reality. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When was the last time you stood at the edge of something, heart pounding and stomach knotted, knowing you could either stay safe… or jump? In this episode, I share the story of an early morning hike with a friend that turned into one of those rare and real "f**k it!" moments. This story is more than a thrill-seeking stunt — it was a masterclass in recognizing the exact moment life invites you to grow. If you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop hesitating, this is it. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever found yourself staring at a situation thinking, “This isn’t what I wanted”? What if it’s exactly what you needed? In this episode, I share a powerful and unexpected conversation with a stranger that turned into a divine download—and cracked open a deeper truth about fatherhood, faith, and surrendering control. Whether it’s relationships, parenting, or just navigating life when things don’t go your way, this one is about learning to trust what’s being handed to you… even when it wasn’t part of your plan. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens to your body when your thoughts turn on you? In today’s episode, I walk you through two real-life moments from the gym that illustrate just how powerful your inner dialogue truly is. One man dropped the weight the moment fear crept in. One woman nearly fainted from the emotional weight she carried into her workout. Both were physically capable—but their thoughts hijacked their performance. Your mindset is a multiplier—or a limiter. And the stress you feel in the gym? It mirrors the stress you’re carrying at work, in your relationships, with your kids, in your own head. This episode is a challenge to be more mindful of what you’re thinking… because what you think is what you train. And what you train becomes who you are. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What game are you playing so well… it’s keeping you stuck? If you feel like life isn’t working, pause before you call it failure. You’re winning. You’ve just been unconsciously training for the wrong game. This episode isn’t here to fluff you up or give you a participation ribbon. It’s here to hold up the mirror and show you exactly where your energy, time, and identity are going—and what it's actually producing. Because whether it’s the Game of Burnout, the Game of Victimhood, the Game of Playing Small, or the Game of “I Can’t”—you’re clocking W’s every day. You're just not enjoying the spoils. I’ve played all of those games. I’ve collected those trophies. And I made a new choice. Tune in if you’re ready to flip the board, shift your scoreboard, and start playing for power, peace, and principle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all say we want change—more peace, better health, deeper connection, stronger boundaries. But the results we crave only show up when our effort matches our expectations. In this episode, I explore the invisible gap between what we say we want and what we’re actually doing to create it. Inspired by those powerful before-and-after transformation stories, I draw the connection between physical weight loss and the emotional, mental, and relational baggage we claim we’re ready to release. But here’s the truth: losing 100 pounds of emotional weight takes just as much grit, discipline, and full-bodied commitment as dropping 100 pounds of body fat. You can’t shortcut the reps. And you can’t fake the intention. So the question becomes—are you going all in? This episode is a mirror. If you’ve been frustrated by stalled progress or unmet expectations, this is your chance to check in honestly, recalibrate, and decide if you’re truly ready to put in what the outcome demands. Let’s talk about where your walk needs to catch up to your talk—and how to finally align both. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when your values get tested—and the cost of staying true is real? This episode is about the moments that reveal who you actually are—not who you say you are. Not the version that shows up in your journal, on your vision board, or in your next coaching session. But the version that steps forward when life applies pressure. Because the truth is, your growth isn’t proven by how many books you’ve read or breakthroughs you’ve had. It’s proven by how you respond when staying in alignment comes with consequences. When your principles aren't popular. When the easy path tempts you with comfort, validation, and old habits. In this conversation, I share a personal story that challenged me to walk my talk in a deeply uncomfortable way. It involved family, identity, and a decision that didn’t earn me applause—but did bring me closer to integrity. If you’ve ever felt the pull between being who you’ve always been and becoming who you say you want to be—this one is for you. Especially if you're the one people look to for answers, strength, or leadership. Because the pressure you’re under? That’s not a problem. That’s the invitation. Let’s talk about what it really means to stand on your principles when no one else is standing with you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever find yourself stuck in the same kind of relationship drama—even when you swore it’d be different this time? In this episode, I’m breaking down seven relationship must-haves that go way deeper than communication skills or love languages. These are the tools I wish someone had handed me years ago—before I got tangled up in relationships that looked good on paper but left me feeling lost, drained, or straight-up stuck. We’re talking about the internal work most people skip: knowing your mission, owning your values, getting clear on your standards, and having the guts to hold them. Because here’s the truth—if you’re not grounded in who you are and what you stand for, you’ll always be at the mercy of someone else’s wave. This isn’t theory. I lived it. And it wasn’t until I did the work—with my wife Sarah, and on my own—that I understood what truly fuels a thriving partnership. Whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or gearing up for the next, these seven tools will help you stop defaulting to old patterns and start building something real—something powerful—something that lasts. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why? In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards. Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself. This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while heading to the movies solo). I started reflecting on how treating myself to a film was more than just a fun outing... it was a personal standard. And that’s when it hit me: most of us confuse self love with self care, but the real game-changer is honoring the bar you’ve set for your life. If you’ve ever lowered your standards to stay comfortable, keep the peace, or avoid being alone—this conversation is for you. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you filtering out the very thing that could break your patterns? You say you want to grow. You say you’re ready for the next level. But when feedback hits—do you lean in, or get defensive? In this episode, we break down the three essential types of feedback that shape your evolution. I’m pulling back the curtain on why you're seeing the same results in your life—over and over—and how these feedback loops are your invitation to change, if you’re willing to receive them. This isn’t about criticism. It’s about awareness, accountability, and growth. It’s time to check your scoreboard. Let’s go! STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still not getting what you want? That’s where the Be-Do-Have paradigm comes in. Most people have it backwards. They think once they have the success, time, love, or clarity—they’ll do the right things and finally be who they want to be. But that’s not how it works. If you want lasting results, alignment, and peace that doesn’t crack under pressure—you’ve got to flip the script. In this episode, I break down the Be-Do-Have framework through a powerful lens—drawing from the book Beyond Body Beyond Mind by Dr. Sukhi Muker. I walk you through how to live it out, how to spot where you're off, and how to train the habit of BEing in real-time—especially when life feels chaotic. This isn't theory. It’s the difference between temporary change and transformation that sticks. Let’s get into it. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you really living... or just reacting? In this episode, I’m handing you a tool for deep, no-BS introspection: the 5 W’s of Radical Self Awareness. This isn’t some surface-level journaling prompt. This is a mirror. A spotlight. A call-out and a call-forward—all in one. You'll explore: Who is influencing your thoughts, energy, and identity What you’re truly committed to (and what you say you're committed to) When you tend to abandon yourself Where your environments are either draining or fueling you Why you haven’t leapt yet—even though you know it’s time This episode was sparked by an email from a listener, Benjamin Foley. We connected over our shared approach to fear—leaning into it. Not running from it. Benjamin’s article, “Advice On Anxiety No One Tells You”, lit a fire under me, and now I’m passing that torch to you. You don’t need another checklist. You need a pattern interrupt. You need to sit with these questions like your life depends on it—because in a way, it does. Radical self awareness is the first step to radical self leadership. And the only person who can give you that… is you. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the reason life feels so off... is because your wheels are out of balance? In this episode, I introduce you to a powerful framework called The Body Vehicle—a tool I learned through the YourDay Balance Game that completely shifted how I understand (and live) life balance. Here’s the idea: If your life is a car, you’ve got five essential wheels—Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Social, and Physical. When those wheels are under-inflated, over-inflated, or straight up missing... your ride through life gets bumpy. Uneven. Chaotic. This isn't just metaphor—it’s feedback. And in this episode, I break it all down: What each of the 5 wheels represents How to tell when you're out of alignment Simple ways to get back in balance without adding more to your plate If you’ve been grinding through life, wondering why it feels so damn hard despite doing “all the right things,” this episode is your mirror. Time to check your tires. Let’s smooth out the ride—together. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you showing up like the person you say you want to be? Or are you still stuck in habits that keep you in survival mode—burnt out, resentful, and playing small? In this episode, I’m joined by my powerhouse wife Sarah—Balance Lifestyle Coach, Personal Trainer, and walking embodiment of what I call a Humble Badass. Together, we break down the 8 habits she uses (and teaches) to help high-performing women reclaim their power without losing their softness. This isn’t about hustle. It’s about alignment. It’s about embodiment. It’s about walking your talk—in the gym, in your marriage, with your kids, and in your own mirror. We unpack her Unleash Your Humble Badass framework—a no-fluff process for cultivating self-trust, energetic presence, and a grounded confidence that doesn’t need to prove itself. These tools aren’t magic. They’re principles in motion. You can use them—or not. But if you’ve been craving a more honest, empowered, and sustainable way to show up in your life... this episode is your invitation. Let’s go. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is a father to three daughters, a husband to a beautiful wife, friend to myself and so many others, and an economist by profession. His name is Robert Monroe, and if you met him in person, the first thing you’d probably notice is his smile. He’s got one of those ear to ear smiles that tends to come with a hearty laugh and come from a place of joy. But behind the smile is a man who has been some incredibly trying times in his life. At a young age Robert was orphaned and learned some brutal lessons about life. But his smile never faded. I’m incredibly honored to bring you this conversation with Robert, where we talk about life, family, parenthood, and much more. What you’ll learn in this episode: A powerful metaphor for viewing your life as a masterpiece How to create momentum and velocity in your life An inspiring definition of "family" STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When’s the last time you stopped to actually see your growth? Not the goal you're chasing. Not the next version of you that you think you should be. I'm talking about a real, honest pause—to look back and say, “Wow, I’ve come a long way.” In this episode, I unpack a few powerful moments where I caught myself in the act of growth—one with my wife, one with myself—and what it taught me about self-mastery, presence, and how easily we overlook our own evolution. If you're someone who's been "doing the work," you probably have a high bar. But here's the truth: constantly chasing better without stopping to acknowledge the wins is a fast-track to burnout and self-judgment. In this episode I talk about: Why high achievers struggle to recognize their own healing The cost of skipping acknowledgment What real growth looks like in relationships and in the mirror How to build in reflection without losing momentum This isn’t about staying stuck in the past. It’s about using your progress as proof—you’re not who you used to be. And that matters. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the real reason you’re stuck isn’t a lack of time or willpower—but a lack of trust in yourself? Every broken promise to yourself chips away at your confidence—and you don’t even realize it’s happening. From missed workouts to late-night scrolling instead of journaling, it’s not about discipline—it’s about self-trust. In this episode, I break down why the seemingly small commitments you flake on matter more than you think. Because if you can’t count on YOU…who can? We talk about: How broken promises create quiet chaos in your life Why you’re stuck in the same patterns (even though you “know better”) The ripple effect of self-integrity—and how to raise your personal standard Plus, I share five battle-tested ways to follow through, even when life throws you curveballs. If you want to lead your life with intention and actually feel good doing it, this one's for you. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 FEELING THE IMPACT OF CODEPENDENCY? Watch the free #1 obstacle video and learn what derails all successful people and keeps them from moving from codependent to independent https://theydbg.com/obstacle-video/ WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint CHECK OUT SOME OFFERS FROM OUR AWESOME PARTNERS Needed: https://bit.ly/3IKmWzL - use code HIA20 to get 20% off your order or HIA100 for $100 off a Complete Plan LEAVE THE PODCAST A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HAVING IT A.L.L. PODCAST CATALOG https://www.matthewbivens.com/ GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices