Heal from Infidelity

Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internalized shame takes root, how it quietly shapes our thoughts, and how it keeps us locked in cycles of pain and disconnection. Whether you were the one betrayed or the one who did the betraying, shame shows up in powerful, sneaky ways that can make us believe we are the problem instead of simply experiencing something painful. I walk through how shame forms, what the "shame loop" looks like in real life, and how to recognize the moment it begins hijacking your nervous system. More importantly, I share the practical steps you can take to meet shame with awareness, compassion, and truth—so you can begin to dissolve its power and reconnect with yourself and others. Key Takeaways: Shame often disguises itself as truth, but it's a lie. Recognizing the "shame loop" is the first step out of it. Self-compassion, context, and connection dissolve shame's grip. Healing begins when we stop proving shame right. If you're ready to learn how to break free from internalized shame and build real self-trust, I invite you to apply for my program at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/. Mentioned in this episode: Men's group waitlist opt-in: https://portal.andreagiles.com/mens-group-waitlist Couples coaching waitlist opt-in: https://portal.andreagiles.com/couples-coaching-waitlist More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm talking about something that so many of us struggle with: uncertainty. When answers haven't arrived yet, or when we know what's true but acting on it feels terrifying, our nervous systems crave safety and control. But the in-between isn't a punishment — it's a teacher. I open up about my own discomfort with waiting and how I've learned to anchor into safety inside myself instead of rushing for external clarity. You'll learn why slowing your timeline, grounding into your body, and naming what's true right now can shift the way you experience uncertainty. The in-between may feel shaky, but it's also where growth and truth emerge. You're not behind. You're exactly where you need to be. In this episode, I share: How to stop making uncertainty mean something's wrong with you Simple tools to ground yourself in the present moment Why waiting doesn't mean nothing is happening A compassionate perspective on in-between seasons If you're tired of spinning in "not knowing," I'd love to help you walk through it with strength and support. Apply to work with me and let's do this together. https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

After betrayal, every instinct tells you to armor up—to stay guarded and in control. But what if the true path to healing lies in doing the opposite? In this episode, I explore the power of vulnerability and surrender—two qualities that may feel impossible after infidelity, yet are essential for real transformation. I share how surrender isn't submission—it's the courageous act of dropping the fight with reality so you can finally see things clearly and choose from strength. Vulnerability, meanwhile, is about daring to show up fully, to feel your feelings, and to trust yourself again—even when there are no guarantees. You'll learn how to recognize your armor, soften it, and reconnect with your heart so you can reclaim your authority over your healing and your future. Takeaways: The difference between surrender and submission Why vulnerability is strength, not weakness How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal Practical steps to release resistance and lean into healing Ready to go deeper? Apply to join my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program and start your healing today at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Sleep struggles are one of the most common and painful side effects after betrayal. I know firsthand how exhausting it can feel to lie awake night after night—your mind racing, your body restless, and your heart heavy with unanswered questions. In this episode, I sit down with certified sleep coach Yana Vriesinga, who not only brings professional expertise in cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia but also personal experience of navigating sleepless nights after infidelity. Yana shares her journey of turning her own struggle into a calling to help others, and she gives us practical, compassionate tools to reclaim restful nights. Together, we talk about why sleep matters so deeply in the healing process, the three "dials" you can adjust to improve your sleep, and how to shift from anxious, perfectionistic thinking into gentle, supportive habits that allow your body to rest. If you've been battling insomnia after betrayal, this episode is for you. Healing is possible—and peaceful sleep can return. Takeaways: Why insomnia is so common after infidelity The three dials that influence healthy sleep How to calm nighttime anxiety and surrender to rest Practical habits to gently reset your sleep rhythm If you're ready to find hope, rest, and resilience, reach out—I'd love to support you on your journey. YANA'S INFORMATION: Yana Vriesinga is a journalist turned certified sleep coach, specializing in helping people reclaim their nights after the shock of infidelity. She knows firsthand how betrayal can hijack the nervous system, leaving even the strongest sleepers among us wide awake at 3 a.m. Drawing on her own story, her background in health reporting, and certification in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), Yana has developed a clear, compassionate approach to what she calls post-infidelity insomnia. Through her coaching and her free email course, 'Sleep More, Heal Stronger', she equips betrayed partners with practical tools to calm their bodies, quiet their thoughts, and finally get the restorative sleep they need to stay resilient.  Join her free course at ResilientDays.com (https://www.resilientdays.com) and start sleeping better tonight.  More from me: October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend and mentor, Molly Claire, to talk about courage, resilience, and what it really means to rise from life's hardest moments. Molly has been a guiding light in my own journey—teaching me how to honor desire, trust myself, and step into a life I intentionally create. Today, she shares her story of transformation, from navigating divorce and single motherhood to building a thriving coaching practice, and how she now empowers other coaches to master themselves so they can better serve others. Together, we dive into themes of self-trust, resilience, and inner authority, exploring how we can stop minimizing our feelings and start believing in our worth. Molly also introduces her new book, She Rises, a powerful anthology of stories from master coaches who've walked through some of life's deepest challenges. This conversation is an invitation to choose yourself again and again, to lean into your truth, and to believe in what's possible—even when you can't yet see it. Takeaways: Why honoring desire is essential for healing and growth How to rebuild self-trust after betrayal and loss The power of resilience through shared stories   GET MOLLY CLAIRE'S BOOK! Be sure to get on Molly's early access list here https://www.mollyclaire.com/book-waitlist so you can get a copy of She Rises - Insights and Wisdom from the Women of the Masterful Coach Collective as soon as it's released! More from me: October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I'm diving into a common but hidden struggle: the ways we reach for power when we feel powerless—and how those very actions often push love away. Whether it's making demands, spending recklessly, or holding back truth, these "power grabs" may feel satisfying in the moment but ultimately create more distance in our relationships. I share both my own story and my clients' experiences of trying to reclaim control after betrayal, and why these strategies rarely bring the connection we truly crave. Real power looks very different—it's about honesty, integrity, vulnerability, and staying present with ourselves and our partners. If you've ever felt caught between longing for closeness and pushing it away, this episode will help you recognize where false power shows up and how to move toward grounded intimacy instead. Takeaways: Why "power grabs" sabotage the connection we want How false power erodes trust and safety The difference between control and real power Steps to cultivate intimacy through vulnerability If this resonates, join me inside my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group to experience deeper transformation. More from me: A free Masterclass to help calm your mind, wrangle even the most difficult triggers, and finally feel steady again in 3 Simple Steps. September 24th at 10 am MT / 12 pm ET - Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace: https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass-september October Virtual Retreat: Coming Home to Yourself - on October 7th - register at: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/jL7m4zzd/checkout Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the Get Your Life Back After Infidelity group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to find peace when facing tough decisions. Recently, I was torn between attending my sister's milestone birthday celebration and staying home to comfort my daughter who needed me. Both were "good" choices, but ultimately, I chose alignment with my values—being present where I was most needed. Difficult decisions often force us to choose between equally meaningful paths. Whether it's deciding to stay or leave a marriage, how much truth to share with children, or when to seek therapy, peace often comes from aligning with what matters most—not from finding the "perfect" answer. Grief and peace can coexist, and learning to hold both allows us to move forward with confidence and compassion for ourselves. Takeaways: Peace often comes from alignment, not perfection. Hard decisions can hold both grief and relief. Listening to your values helps anchor your choices. True confidence grows when you honor your own inner knowing. If you're ready to create peace even in difficult decisions, I'd love to help you. Reach out and let's walk this journey together. More from me: A free Masterclass to help calm your mind, wrangle even the most difficult triggers, and finally feel steady again in 3 Simple Steps. September 24th at 10 am MT / 12 pm ET - Register here for Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace: https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass-september Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I open up about one of the most frustrating parts of the healing process—when the results don't seem to match the effort you're putting in. Whether it's journaling, therapy, coaching, or trying to rebuild trust, it's easy to wonder if all your hard work is even making a difference. I've been there too, and I know how discouraging it can feel. I share why this "lag phase" is actually part of growth, how seeds take time to take root, and why redefining success in small, everyday shifts can help you keep moving forward. You'll hear personal stories from my own journey and learn how to stay grounded in your "why" even when outcomes aren't immediate. If you've ever felt stuck or questioned your worth because change wasn't happening fast enough, this episode is for you. Takeaways: Why progress often happens "underground" before you see it. How to recalibrate your expectations during healing. Why consistency matters more than quick results. Simple ways to redefine success and stay encouraged. You don't have to go through this alone. If you're ready for real support, I invite you to apply to my Get Your Life Back After Infidelity program today. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode of Heal From Infidelity, I dive into one of the most powerful analogies I've used with clients: asking the question, What team are you on? When betrayal shakes your world, it's easy to question your worth and wonder why your partner seems to show up differently elsewhere. But often, the truth isn't about your value—it's about which "team" each person chooses to play on. I share insights from my own experiences and client conversations about what it means to hold yourself to a higher standard, to face pain instead of avoiding it, and to recognize when someone is willing—or unwilling—to meet you on the same field. Sometimes your partner may actually be on the same team but playing a different role. Other times, they may simply not be willing to put in the effort required to compete at that level. This episode is a call to stand firmly in your truth, choose your team intentionally, and stop making someone else's choices mean less about you. Takeaways: Why your partner's actions don't define your worth How to recognize if you're truly on the same "team" The role of resilience and facing pain in real healing Choosing higher standards without making yourself wrong If you're ready to find clarity and strength after betrayal, I'd love to walk alongside you. Reach out to me today for support. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I open up about the hidden cost of unspoken truths and what happens when we hold back from sharing how we really feel. I talk about why silence can feel safe in the moment, but ultimately keeps us stuck in patterns that don't serve us. Through personal stories and practical tools, I share how learning to speak up and honor your true feelings can change not only your relationships but also your confidence in yourself. This is about finding the courage to be authentic and vulnerable—because that's where real transformation begins. If you've ever struggled with staying quiet when you know you need to speak your truth, this episode will guide you toward breaking free from that silence and stepping into a more empowered version of you. Key Takeaways: The Cost of Silence: How staying quiet hurts emotional health and relationships. Embracing Imperfection: Speak your truth without waiting for the "right" moment. Courage to Speak Up: Build confidence to express feelings and strengthen connections. Self-awareness & Responsibility: Take ownership without losing your voice. Empowerment Through Vulnerability: Use authenticity to create deeper, more fulfilling relationships. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I open up about how avoiding uncomfortable truths in relationships can create even deeper pain over time. I talk about the emotional toll of denial, the importance of addressing challenges quickly, and the role a supportive community can play in the healing process. This conversation is an invitation to face what's really going on so you can prevent unnecessary heartache and move forward with clarity, strength, and peace. Key Takeaways: Avoidance can lead to greater problems in relationships. Facing uncomfortable truths is essential for healing. Delaying action can cause emotional and relational tolls. Quickly addressing issues can prevent deeper damage. Community support is vital in facing difficult truths. Self-respect is eroded when we ignore our own feelings. Decisive action is necessary to reclaim peace. Recognizing signs of trouble early can save future pain. Therapists can help, but personal accountability is crucial. Building the muscle to face truths gets easier with practice. More from me: Free class on August 19, 2025 at 10 am MT - "Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace" https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I explore how storytelling can be a powerful tool for healing after betrayal. I explain the difference between revisiting a story to gain clarity and retelling it in a way that keeps the pain alive. You'll hear how to recognize when it's time to release an old, harmful narrative and replace it with an empowering one that supports growth, self-discovery, and emotional healing after infidelity. Key Takeaways: We tell stories to make sense of our experiences. Some stories can create more pain than they resolve. Exploring a story can lead to deeper understanding and healing. Repeating stories can keep us stuck in a painful loop. Letting go of a story doesn't mean it didn't matter. Identifying when a story no longer serves us is crucial. New narratives can empower us to move forward. Healing is a layered process, much like peeling an onion. We can hold both love and pain in our narratives. Our past does not have to define our future. More from me: Free class on August 19, 2025 (NOTE A DATE CHANGE) at 10 am MT - "Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace" https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we're going to talk about the complexities of conversations about infidelity. I know that sometimes it's important to revisit painful topics, so let's discuss some effective communication strategies, and the importance of setting boundaries to foster healing. We have to own responsibility while moving forward and practice conscious communication while rebuilding trust and intimacy post-betrayal. Key Takeaways: It's common for partners to want to revisit the topic of infidelity. Conversations about infidelity can either help or hinder healing. Bringing up past pain does not mean one hasn't forgiven. Effective communication is key to moving forward. Setting boundaries is essential for both partners. Healing is a non-linear process that requires ongoing effort. Both partners have a role in creating a safe space for discussions. Pain can resurface unexpectedly, and it's important to address it. Conscious communication can strengthen relationships after betrayal. It's crucial to advocate for healthy communication in relationships. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

It's the 200th episode of Heal from Infidelity! I'm going to share a personal story about planting flowers - and the importance of continuing to care for yourself and your relationships, even when faced with challenges after betrayal. Key Takeaways: Healing after betrayal requires patience and nurturing. Just like flowers, relationships need care to thrive. It's important to keep watering even when results aren't visible. Your roots are still alive, even if it feels hopeless. Nurturing yourself is essential for growth. You can make decisions from a place of wisdom and care. It's okay to remove what no longer serves you. Every time you nurture, you will see regrowth. You are not defined by your current situation. Support from others can help you in your healing journey. More from me: Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Let's talk about the challenges of navigating disapproval and emotional reactions in relationships. You'll learn about differentiation — maintaining one's identity while being in a relationship — and hear about ways to manage emotional responses. We'll look at the significance of self-respect, personal growth, and keeping the courage to stand firm in your truth, even when faced with someone else's discontent. Key Takeaways: Healing from infidelity involves becoming your truest self. Disapproval can trigger deep-seated fears of rejection. Differentiation means staying true to yourself in relationships. Emotional reactions should be managed before responding. It's okay to feel sad when others are upset with you. Self-awareness is crucial for personal growth. Supporting yourself is not selfish; it's courageous. You can hold space for others' feelings without losing yourself. Grief for the current situation is different from guilt. Trusting yourself leads to healthier relationships. Reference: Episode #69 - Differentiation More from me: Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

Today we take a look at the complex relationship between forgiveness and forgetting, emphasizing that true forgiveness does not require the erasure of painful memories. I'll discuss the importance of recognizing and processing emotions through the body, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the ongoing journey of forgiveness as a continual practice. Key Takeaways: Forgiveness does not mean forgetting; it means letting go of emotional baggage. Our bodies hold wisdom about what needs to be processed and healed. Forgiveness is an internal process that requires self-awareness and honesty. Remembering can be protective and wise, helping us avoid harmful patterns. Setting boundaries is essential in the healing process after betrayal. Integration of past experiences is crucial for personal growth and resilience. Forgiveness is a continual practice, not a one-time event. Emotional regulation is key to having difficult conversations about past hurts. We must honor our feelings and allow ourselves to process them fully. Healing involves both the mind and body working together. More from me: Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we look at the hidden pain of betrayal, emphasizing that both the betrayed and the betrayer experience deep emotional turmoil. We explore the myths surrounding infidelity, the importance of facing one's pain, and the necessity of mutual understanding in the healing process. Key Takeaways: Betrayed partners often feel worse while the betrayer appears unscathed. Pain avoidance leads to deeper issues later on. Indicators of healing include facing pain honestly and openly. Mutual understanding of pain is crucial for healing. Compassion does not mean excusing harmful behavior. Healing requires acknowledging grief and loss. Both partners must confront their own pain for true healing. Real change involves recognizing the impact of one's actions. Healing is a choice that requires active participation. Understanding each other's pain can liberate both partners. More from me: Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode we discuss the pervasive issue of avoidance in relationships. We explore how avoidance manifests as a lack of communication and emotional engagement, leading to disconnection and mistrust. We look at the costs of avoidance, the importance of setting real boundaries, and the detrimental effects of cancel culture on personal growth and relationships. Key Takeaways: Avoidance is a habit that keeps us stuck. Hard conversations are essential for growth and intimacy. Real boundaries require clarity and courage. Cancel culture promotes disconnection instead of dialogue. Avoidance can lead to emotional numbness and self-abandonment. We must face our discomfort to heal effectively. Avoidance often masquerades as self-protection. Engaging in difficult conversations fosters trust and connection. Understanding triggers can lead to personal growth. We all have moments of avoidance; it's part of being human. More from me: Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this powerful episode, we welcome Alysha Lee, who shares her intense journey of leaving an abusive relationship. Alysha opens up about her experiences, the challenges she faced, and how she ultimately reclaimed her life. This episode is a beacon of hope for those who may find themselves in similar situations, offering insights into healing and the courage to seek a better future. Key Takeaways: Alysha's early experiences and the red flags she overlooked. The emotional and spiritual manipulation she endured. The pivotal moment when Alysha decided to break free. The healing process and the role of therapy in her recovery. Alysha's journey to writing her memoir and helping others. About Alysha  Alysha currently lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado, with her husband and three daughters. She hopes readers who have experienced domestic abuse or similar trauma will be inspired by her story to share their stories and find the support and healing they need. Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Everything-I-Might-Have-Missed/dp/B0DSTD4GWY/ Book on Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/everything-i-might-have-missed-alysha-tatiana-lee/1146710795 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/roses.and.reading/ More from me: Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I explore the concept of being 'all in' on a relationship and talk about the importance of commitment, understanding deal breakers, and establishing rules of engagement. I highlight the significance of truth-telling, emotional maturity, and personal accountability in fostering a healthy relationship. Key Takeaways: Being all in means commitment with your eyes wide open. It's important to know your deal breakers in a relationship. Rules of engagement help protect both partners during conflicts. Truth telling is an act of love and should be practiced. You are responsible for your own emotional maturity and growth. Being a lighthouse means guiding your partner without carrying their burdens. Repairing relationships involves recognizing the impact of your actions. Shared growth is essential for a thriving relationship. You cannot control your partner's actions, only your own. Choosing yourself is crucial in the journey of healing. More from me: June Virtual Retreat: All In with Andrea Giles: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/7u3FE2aL/checkout Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles