Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity

Love addiction can be a cruel experience for both the addicted person and their spouse.  It may be why your partner hasn't stopped the affair. How terrible it is when you can't get the love object out of your mind and every time you see them you can't stop obsessing over them.  Now not everyone experiences this and not every affair is like this necessarily...but we've all likely experienced limerence in our lives at one point or another. As young people many of us experience the elements of infatuation as we develop shallow feelings for someone.   Make sure to listen to episode 1 where we talk about the stages of recovery.  We will also have an episode specifically on the types of affairs.  There are actually 10 different types of affairs.  Not all are created equally. Each type of affair will take you down its own unique winding road and each has its own special challenges. Join us for this episode of Are They Addicted To Love?  What Is Limerence? Could this be how your spouse felt about the affair partner? If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Welcome to THE podcast that will teach you how to recover after infidelity has wrecked your relationship.   Brought to you by Brad & Morgan Robinson.  Brad is a national expert on affair recovery and has helped couples strengthen their relationship for nearly a decade.  Morgan creates content to help you recover.  You can find the resources at healingbrokentrust.com   We are so incredibly humbled that you decided to download and hopefully subscribe to our healing broken trust podcast.  We want to start by sharing with you what this healing broken trust podcast is all about and why we are doing it and a few other things.   First, welcome to episode 0 we are really excited for you to be here because it means that you’re considering healing the broken trust in your relationship.  Maybe you’re definitely sure you want to save your relationship, maybe one or both of you is not sure you want to save your marriage but you’re listening to this to see if it’s even possible to heal.  You may be considering what to do or how to move past this big stain on your relationship.  Before you make any definite decisions please listen to this podcast and if you can join our weekly group calls and ask questions.   Whatever your situation, whether you’ve been betrayed or you’re the betrayer and you’re wanting to figure out what to do from here, we can help you.  Even if there’s been multiple affairs or one person isn’t even convinced that there’s been an affair this podcast is for you.   Find additional resources at healingbrokentrust.com   So let’s talk about what we will be covering specifically in this podcast...   So we start with a birds eye view of the healing process with episode 1.  We talk about the stages of recovery.  This is important because you can see and understand the normal recovery process and understand where you might be getting stuck in healing.   We discuss the things that keep people from healing and how to get unstuck and make progress.  We talk about falling out of love with the affair partner and how to fall back in love with your spouse.  We reveal the secrets to healing and identify the one thing you need in order to heal after betrayal.   We talk about how to stop fighting and avoiding important topics.  We talk about how to cut off the affair partner and we establish ground rules for talking about the affair.   We also make sure to answer why affairs happen and how people become vulnerable to infidelity.   We give you the right questions to ask to understand why it happened to you, we talk about whether you should stay or go, and whether all affairs are created equal.   We talk about forgiveness, rekindling romantic love with your spouse, we challenge the myths and false beliefs keeping you down, and finally we talk about how to live the life you really want the life full of growth, love, and happiness.   So sit back and relax and unpack the Healing Broken Trust Podcast with Brad and Morgan Robinson.    If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com  

In this episode we explain a necessary and important step to healing after one or multiple affairs, cheating, betrayal, infidelity...whatever you feel it's best titled...honestly, they feel very similarly no matter the title. Whether one person made the mistake of cheating or both people were unfaithful. This will really help you understand where you are in the process of recovering and where you will be going as you work through the healing process.  Ultimately we are helping you to recover from the trauma of the affair We are helping the marriage get back on track.  NOTE: We're not just helping one individual get back on track. We are assuming you would like to heal personally and would like to see if the marriage has the potential for recovery. So we talk about how to heal the marriage as well as both individuals. And so that's what we are working for.  If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop:  https://healingbrokentrust.com/hbtworkshop You can do it in person or from home. We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com  Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. We can’t give you personal advice without knowing your individual situation so this program is not meant to diagnose in any way.

This episode is one of the most important episodes we will do.  It is crucial for you to understand negative cycles and negative patterns of communicating in order to completely transform your relationship after infidelity.   Do you find yourselves fighting or avoiding the important details of the affair?  This episode will help you! Do not miss this episode!!  Find more resources at healingbrokentrust.com

In this episode Brad & Morgan talk about the difficulties of turning off feelings for the affair partner.  Moving past the affair and getting rid of the feelings that you have for the affair partner can be a challenge many don't consider throughout the affair recovery process. If you know someone who has gone through an affair or they are currently struggling with an affair, I would encourage you to tell them to listen to this show. We're diving into how to pull out of limerence and infatuation and we lay the foundation to fall back in love with your spouse.   If you are interested in saving your marriage or you're just not sure what to do this podcast will be helpful to you.  This is an episode you won't want to miss! If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

If you've just found out that your spouse has been cheated on you, this is what you really need to do. Unfortunately, you are not alone in affair recovery.  But fortunately you have choices.  You don't have to remain broken and lost.   There is a step by step process to healing after betrayal that we give you in this podcast.  The choices you make right now wherever you are in the process are crucial to your longterm happiness.  Be sure to listen and follow our advice!  We could save you a lot of headache! If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

We explain a necessary and important step to healing from an affair. We take a balanced approach to affair recovery because your relationship depends on it.  We are dealing with trauma and we are helping the marriage get back on track. We're not just helping one individual get back on track. And so that's what we are working for. We talk about how we can have the betrayer become a supporter and nurturer and how that helps the betrayed or injured spouse heal. And there's a lot of things on the internet, there's a lot of services, there's a lot of different people who say after you have an affair, you lose your voice, you lose your opinions, you no longer have a right to have needs and you got to be a doormat for this person right here. That's very short-sighted and very unhealthy because it's not taking into consideration the factors that led up to the affair.  We are rebuilding more than just one person who has been broken, we are also rebuilding a marriage..... Download, rate, and subscribe! If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

How to understand the best strategies for communication and connecting with your spouse after discovering infidelity in your marriage. Often times we try to heal after betrayal with the old patterns of communication that actually contributed to the affair happening in the first place.  We were caught in a negative cycle before the affair happened and before it was discovered.  Then after the affair is discovered our negative cycle (or old patterns of communicating) don't improve...they simply get worse and cause us to loose control and can cost us our marriage). So in order to completely heal after betrayal we must identify where we get stuck and learn new ways to communicate and connect with each other so you can begin to heal from the infidelity. Until we identify our negative cycle we can't completely heal.  Be sure to check out Episode 3 because it's the first part of this 2 part series.

So many people think they can just stop going around the affair partner and it's magically over.  Some even talk to the affair partner and tell them it's over and it's not REALLY over for many reasons.   Betrayed spouses want to believe their partner when their partner tells them it's over but there is still a lingering desire and a lingering problem that the affair partner may not believe it's over.   The affair partner may not want it to be over and if you don't cut them off correctly they can pop their ugly little head up when you least expect it and cause a mountain of hurt for you.   You don't want to relive the pain of betrayal over AGAIN and AGAIN because of a simple solution that was ignored.   Listen to this week's podcast to learn more about how to cut off the affair partner once and for real this time! If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

We lay out 6 ground rules for making your conversations productive when discussing the infidelity.   Does Talking About The Affair Help or Hurt? Why We Loose Control When We Talk About The Affair(s)? How Much Is Too Much? Do I Want To Know The Details? Does Honesty Really Help? We also talk about a crazy brain fact that explains why you loose control when talking about the affair and what you can do to keep your cool even when you just want to scream!   We also talk about what to expect when you talk about the affair and how to not waste your time. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/

One of the big goals of this program, along with helping your relationship heal from betrayal is to help you create secure attachments with each other.  If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

After the affair(s) life can feel like it's ending. Sometimes you just have no idea how to get back to normal. You still have to go to work and take care of children and you can't just stay in bed and nurse your own wounds. You have to go about normal life even though you're wrecked. So this episode is all about ways to manage the crisis after infidelity. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

So many people struggle with feelings of ambiguity after discovering infidelity in their relationship. Many people want to know should I stay with my spouse or partner or should I leave? We talk about the pros and cons of both and give you sound advice on handling the feelings of should I stay or should I leave my marriage. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Almost every couple, there is a period of ambiguity, that uncertainty that they go through. Are we going to stay together or are we going to be done? If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

Brad & Morgan answer a few listener questions in this episode.  One question is "I have been married to my spouse for 20 years. I would like to know how to fall back into love with my spouse."  We also discuss ideas to increase romance without pushing your spouse away after infidelity. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

In this episode Brad & Morgan a listener question: "I learned about my wife's affair with her co-worker two months ago. She has since stop seeing this person and is trying to help me heal, but I still can't seem to stop thinking about her with him. I feel obsessed with knowing what happened. My wife is becoming tired of answering the same questions over and over and I feel worried that she will leave me just because of my obsession with knowing what's happened. I feel like I am going crazy, why do I feel this way?" They address the questions of am I crazy? What’s wrong with me? How come I can't get over this? And what to do in the first 90 days. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

We answer the questions of: How do we work through our anger and talk about the affair without pushing the betrayer away? What you're doing that is making the trauma worse. What is PTSD? Why does it matter when recovering from infidelity? What specifically makes PTSD so hard to recover from? If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

We answer the questions of: I have been struggling with my spouse’s affair for a year now. I just can't stop thinking about it and I have nightmares. I still feel like it happened yesterday. How do I know when I need to seek individual counseling? Is it possible to forget the affair and put it behind me? Is it important to deal with our past when we’re dealing with this present betrayal? How do I handle the intrusive thoughts? Symptoms of PTSD are further explained and triggers are better understood in this episode. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

We answer questions: I would really like to know, how do you know you are recovering and what is the process?  What steps can I take to recover from the trauma? Knowing what to expect through the healing process is really important to making sure you fully recover from infidelity.  In this case, trauma is a stage of the healing process.  Inside of the trauma stage there are micro steps that if you understand then you will have an easier time healing and taking back your life.  Don’t miss this episode. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com

The ABC model of thought renewal, the lies we tell ourselves, and how our thoughts make a difference in how we feel This episode talks about renewing our mind and how we can sometimes wrongly personalize, assume, and catastrophize our situation and other things you must stop right now. If you're ready to take the next step in healing your relationship check out our healing broken trust workshop: https://healingbrokentrustworkshop.com/ You can do it in person or from home.  We hope to see you soon! If you want to learn a little more about us visit our website: healingbrokentrust.com Read our blog at healingbrokentrustblog.com