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Here To Make Friends - A Bachelor Recap Show

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A HuffPost Podcast about The Bachelor, where hosts Emma Gray and Claire Fallon lovingly snark and recap the latest episodes from The Bachelor, The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise. Whether you love The Bachelor, or love to hate it, you will enjoy their witty discussion about this reality show and what it reveals about the world of dating.

212 Episodes
This week on The Bachelor: The Greatest Seasons -- Ever!, ABC is keeping us in the purgatory of 2016 with JoJo’s brutal season of The Bachelorette (aka the Trumpiest season of “The Bachelorette” ever.) We covered some highlights -- and lowlights -- from JoJo’s season during Monday night’s special, but we wanted to continue digging deeper into the stories of contestants who didn’t get as much screen time. This week we chatted with Grant Kemp, who appeared on JoJo’s season of The Bachelorette and season three of Bachelor in Paradise. Our call to action this week: Black Trans Travel fund, “a grassroots, mutual aid based organization developed for the purpose of providing Black transgender women with the financial resources necessary for them to be able to self-determine and access their safest travel options.”  See for privacy and opt-out information.
This week, we took a trip back to 2016 to revisit the last pre-Trump season of “The Bachelor.” Though we got to relive some of the good, bad and cringeworthy times of Ben’s season on Monday’s Bachelor special, we wanted to continue speaking to contestants whose stories haven’t been in the spotlight.  We had the pleasure of chatting with Amber James, who was on both Chris Soules’ and Ben Higgins’ seasons of The Bachelor, AND the second season of Bachelor In Paradise, as well as Jami Letain, who was on Ben’s season of The Bachelor and BIP 3.  Our call to action this week: go to to email the Kentucky Attorney General & Governor demanding that the officers who killed Breonna Taylor all be fired and charged.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
A lot has happened in the weeks since then-police officer Derek Chauvin killed George Floyd. This horrifying event sparked mass protests against racism and police brutality, around the country and around the globe.  Since then, arrests have been made, public schools have cut ties with police departments, white CEOs and Editors In Chief have been forced to step down, and famous reality TV stars have been fired. And it seems – maybe – that space has finally been opened up for anti-racist fans of The Bachelor franchise to not just demand real change, but actually get it.  Bachelor alumni who often avoid politics on their feeds in favor of shilling products, were suddenly put in a position where they had to speak up or signal complicity. Their comments sections became spaces for full-blown debate. Rachel Lindsay and Becca Kufrin had a candid, raw, difficult conversation about race on the official Bachelor podcast feed.  Just days after a grassroots campaign for Bachelor diversity was launched and Rachel threatened to sever ties with the franchise altogether, “The Bachelor” named Matt James – the founder of nonprofit ABC Food Tours who was supposed to be a contestant on Clare Crawley’s season – as the first Black Bachelor.  Because so much has been going on, we wanted to dedicate a whole podcast episode to diving a bit deeper into this current moment of Black Lives Matter activism, and how it is playing out in Bachelor Nation. First, we spoke to two of the Bachelor Diversity Campaign's co-creators, Ria Ali and friend of the pod Brett Vergara about the grassroots campaign that now has more than 100,000 signatures. Then we caught up with Rachel Lindsay, the morning that the news about Matt James becoming the franchise’s first Black Bachelor broke. Finally, Taylor Nolan, who has been an outspoken voice for change within The Bachelor franchise, shared some very practical advice for white people who want to be actively anti-racist.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
This week, we go back to where it all started – for this podcast that is. Kaitlyn’s season was the first one that Here to Make Friends recapped, all the way back in 2015. By then, The Bachelor was more consistently casting people of color on the show – but they didn’t often get far or have very positive portrayals on the show. Of Kaitlyn’s contestants of color, only Ian Thomson – who had a very rough exit – got any real screen time during Monday’s recap. Once again, the supercut approach made the show even whiter. But Ian wasn’t the only Black man to have a very unflattering storyline on the show. Kupah James left at the beginning of episode four, after a painful conversation with Kaitlyn about their lack of connection and a dramatic exit interview. Jonathan Holloway, a soft-spoken single dad, made it a bit further despite being #TeamBritt. To find out more about that messy exit and what it was like in Kaitlyn’s Bachelorette mansion, we talked to Kupah and Jonathan about their time on the show.  It may seem like the protests are simmering down, or at least like they’re out of the news cycle or your Twitter feed. But people are still in the streets, fighting for a better world, and it’s incumbent on us to stay tuned in and to keep doing what we can. As promised, we are going to give our community calls to action each week: (1) The Okra Project – “The Okra Project is a collective that seeks to address the global crisis faced by Black Trans people by bringing home cooked, healthy, and culturally specific meals and resources to Black Trans People wherever we can reach them.” - (2) Native Women’s Association of Canada – Canada is having its own difficult conversations about racism and police brutality, and many of these dialogues center around police violence against First Nations peoples  - (3) Subscribe to 2 Black Girls 1, support their Patreon  -  See for privacy and opt-out information.
We are coming back in the midst of a global pandemic and a series of nationwide (and global!) protests against racism and specifically police brutality. We always want the podcast to feel like it’s adding something to the world, not taking up space. So the context of the world has changed how we will be approaching this season.  On this episode, we have a short discussion about Sean Lowe’s season, which was the first Bachelor season after a class-action lawsuit was filed against the show by two men, Nathaniel Claybrooks and Christopher Johnson, alleging that “the deliberate exclusion of people of color from the roles of the Bachelor and Bachelorette” violated their civil rights.  One of the results of trimming the season down to spotlights on its final six or so contestants – and fan fave Sarah Herron – was that the only woman of color spotlighted was Catherine. None of the black contestants really got any screen time. But two black women actually had notable arcs on the season – Leslie Hughes, who made it to week four, and Robyn Howard, who made it to week five. Leslie garnered a glam one-on-one, the annual Pretty Woman shopping spree date, and Robyn, when she wasn’t getting mixed up in Tierra drama, had a pretty frank conversation with Sean about race.  To look back at that season, the first for several years that even had any black contestants, we talked to Leslie and Robyn about their time on the show.  Links: National Bail Fund - Bachelor Diversity Campaign - Follow @bachdiversity on Instagram and Twitter   See for privacy and opt-out information.
In an alternate reality, in a 2020 not derailed by the COVID-19 pandemic, Clare Crawley might already have been engaged -- and we would be getting ready to tear into her cast’s bios and rate limo exits. Instead, Clare is -- presumably -- single and waiting to mingle, and we’re gearing up for a much different Bachelor summer: no Bachelorette, no Paradise.  But, to fill the void, ABC will be airing a journey into the show’s archives called “The Bachelor: The Greatest Seasons -- Ever!” which premieres Monday, June 8. Each episode will recap, at dizzying speed, the highs and lows of a single classic season, kicking off with the most successful Bachelor ever: Sean Lowe.  Last week, we spoke with Senior Vice President of Alternative Programming for ABC Rob Mills about plans for Clare’s season, what to expect from the upcoming greatest hits series, and the future of the franchise as a whole.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
After vowing on this very podcast to never watch 'The Bachelor Presents: Listen to Your Heart', we have to eat our words and admit, we really loved it! The spin-off wrapped up its first season this past Monday with Chris Watson and Bri Stauss being named the winners. We talked to the couple over Zoom about what drew them to each other, what we didn’t see on the show, and the process of recording a whole album in quarantine.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
Can you believe it's been four long years since we recorded our episode on Peter's finale? Ok, it's only been four weeks, but while being in quarantine, it feels like a lifetime ago. We won't be doing the podcast again until May, but in the meantime, we'll be doing a new video series on Wednesdays on Instagram and Facebook called Here To Make Friends In Quarantine. We'll talk about the latest on Clare Crawley's season and all about how our Bachelor Nation faves are social distancing. Our first episode, premiering this Wednesday, April 15th, features an interview with Colton Underwood. Check out HTMF in Quarantine on Wednesdays on @heretomakefriendspod on Instagram and Here To Make Friends on Facebook  See for privacy and opt-out information.
We’re speechless. Hannah Ann left it all on the floor. Madison shared her truth. Barb was out for blood.  We’re joined by former contestant-turned recapper, Sharleen Joynt to break down the dramatic ending to Peter’s journey. We talk about Peter’s decision and his boundaries with his family before getting into a quick discussion about our first look at the men of Clare Crawley’s season Check out Sharleen's recaps and blog below:  See for privacy and opt-out information.
Look, bud. We gotta talk about this finale, bud. We didn’t feel much of anything for the women this season. But, let me tell you, bud, the most dramatic finale in Bachelor history had us feeling a whole lot of sympathy for Hannah Ann. That was a doozy, bud.   We have a little treat before we dive into the recap. We called up the one and only Claire Fallon to get her prediction for what will unfold during tonight’s conclusion, where she ranks Pete on a scale of other Bachelors, and her thoughts on Clare Crawley as our next Bachelorette.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
We are still not over our obsession with Netflix's 'Love Is Blind' and especially the couple at the center of it, Cameron Hamilton and Lauren Speed. Lucky us, we had the happy couple in studio to talk about their unconventional courtship, representation of interracial relationships on reality TV, and whether or not they're interested in hosting a possible season two.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
Dear Peter Weber, we boarded your flight. We ate our free snacks and beverages. We watched lots of drama unfold on our in-seat screens. But now, we need you to ace this landing and welcome us home, please? Because, like you, we’re drained… Joining us to talk about the chaotic Women Tell All special and our excitement over the news that Clare Crawley is our next Bachelorette is our dear friend of the pod, actress Allison Williams.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
A ’90s boy band star. A streaming service. LED-lighted personal pods. A deep well of underlying sadness. What do all of these things have in common? “Love Is Blind,” an addictive and slightly dystopian reality show on Netflix.  We’ve received soooooo many messages about this show, that we decided we owed it to you and ourselves to discuss it.  On this episode, we started out with a spoiler-free (other than light discussion of characters) conversation about the show and its structure, and then dove deeper -- including some spoilers about the finale -- with Guardian columnist and author Jessa Crispin.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
G’day, Sheilas! The Bachelor went to Gold Coast, Australia for Fantasy Suites and, just like Pete, we can’t help but speak in horrific Australian accents.  This week, we’re joined by Daryn Carp, host of PeopleTV’s Reality Check and Andy Cohen’s assistant, to talk about Pete’s time Down Under, the ladies’ new living situation, and Madi’s confusing ultimatum.  In case you need more Bachelor content, check out Reset - a tech podcast by Vox. Emma stopped by the show this week to talk about how influencer culture has infiltrated the world of The Bachelor. Check out the episode here:  See for privacy and opt-out information.
It’s already Hometowns! Joining us this week is actress and friend of the pod, Erin Darke. On this episode, we talk about Madison’s purity, Iowan wine, and the mysterious warning about Victoria F.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
We know that we have been spending a lot of time -- more time than usual -- talking about The Bachelor, but there is STILL MORE POD CONTENT.  One of our other obsessions as of late has been with Netflix’s “The Circle.” So we decided to take a break from woman-on-woman crime and focus instead on alerts, influencers, and sweet sweet Joey Sasso. We had HuffPost Trends Reporter Jenna Amatulli and The Circle cast member Sean Taylor in studio to talk all things The Circle. We hope you enjoy this bonus pod!  See for privacy and opt-out information.
We’ve really been praying and reflecting, and thinking about what’s on our hearts. And the thing that’s on our hearts tell us that we need to recap last night’s episode of The Bachelor. On this episode, we’re joined by attorney, Bachelorette alum and BFF of the pod, Michael Garofola to talk about Madison’s priorities, Kelley’s confidence, and whether or not the ladies of Peter’s season have seen Ghost.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
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Enough is enough. Really. Peter and the remaining women have had enough, and frankly, so have we.  We are recapping this week’s second episode guest-less. On this episode, we talk about Leigh’s interview with Peter and his disappointing response to Victoria F.’s White Lives Matter modeling past, Mykenna and Tammy’s telenovela-worthy fight, and Victoria P.’s goodbye.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
Well, we learned one thing last night: the only thing more incompetent than Pilot Pete is the Iowa Democratic Party. The most dramatic caucuses ever overlapped in spectacularly painful fashion with the most exhausting Bachelor episode ever.  We’re joined by GQ columnist, political reporter and former HuffPoster, Laura Bassett to recap the first three hours of The Bachelor we’re getting this week. We talked about our disappointment in Tammy, our love for Kelley, and Cosmo’s decision to cut their digital cover with Victoria F.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
We caught up with Ben Higgins and Becca Kufrin backstage at BUILD studios before they set off on tour with The Bachelor Live On Stage. They gave us their thoughts on how Peter’s season is going so far as well as the Bachelor to Influencer pipeline and how it’s changed since their time on the show. And, of course, they filled us in on what to expect from The Bachelor Live On Stage, which kicks off next month in Mesa, Arizona.  See for privacy and opt-out information.
Comments (9)

julie mckenna

I agree with some of the other more recent posts. I know you might have to review these shows for you career but it seems lately you watch more for all the ways to point out your platforms than for the entertainment. and there doesnt seem to be any enjoyment. sometimes it is ok to allow a show to be for heterosexual dating. especially since it seems to be pointing out just how off track it has become. maybe some good comes from these shows. and if even some people learn communication dos and don'ts from watching its could be slightly helpful. also, its ok for a heterosexual man or woman to want to find a realtionship and even marriage with another heterosexual. I believe that you both, as well as some of the people you have on your show, are in committed relationships. as a woman we should be free to make choices even if that is choosing to stay home with their children if it is an option and shouldnt be seen as less than.

Mar 1st

Ann Kavanagh

like your show but you spent sooo long talking about feminism...yes this season is horrible but....

Jan 25th
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Jaime Lester

I get what yall are trying to do, but yall take it too far sometimes. Saying someone's hair is great, who HAS AMAZING HAIR, isnt racist. Not every dang word that comes out of someone's mouth is racist. Chill on the racism, feminism before you scew too far, then lose the goodness of what you are trying to do

Dec 24th


OMG, please stop saying "like". You can't be taken seriously if you use that word in every sentence.

Aug 30th

Jess Javier

Nick is so annoying.

Sep 6th

Leslie Quinones

pretty sure he said wanker.

Jun 5th

Dani Kock

"The friendzone isn't a real thing." 😂👏👏👏

Jun 1st

Kickboxerhitstar Baam Baam Sedam

eease all media

May 18th
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